‘Sister Wives’ patriarch Kody Brown discusses the heartbreaking end of three of his relationships, if he’d ever consider another plural marriage, and his failures as a husband: "I could have done a lot better."
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00:00 For more than a decade, Sister Wives has captivated audiences and given them an inside look at plural marriage.
00:07 She's a sister from the same mister and he's a brother from another mother.
00:11 However, with only one of the relationships still going strong, the upcoming season finds the Brown family more fractured than ever.
00:18 I don't want to be married anymore.
00:20 I just wanted to let you know I'm not going to be around.
00:23 Now, Cody Brown is opening up about an emotional last few years.
00:27 The process of this entire experience has basically been sort of a up and down, you know, like just just to be fair, a total roller coaster ride.
00:38 The roller coaster was fun for a long time, even though it was a challenging.
00:44 We had a lot of challenges.
00:49 It's just moved to a place where there's been a lot of heartbreak.
00:53 And when you go through that entire thing, you know, you deal with all these different emotions.
00:58 Very. It's not clean.
01:00 But now I feel like I've hit the bottom in a deep, deep swimming pool and I pushed off the bottom and I'm headed to the surface.
01:09 That's the optimism of today.
01:12 Just hoping that we move forward with a lot of forgiveness and and finding that place where love and grace prevail again.
01:22 Cody doesn't shy away from taking responsibility for his role in the demise of the marriages.
01:27 I could have done a lot better.
01:29 I mean, I'm not going to sit and name them, but there's there's every day I think about a place where if I would have managed things differently, if I would have said something differently, we might have moved forward in a different way.
01:40 And it's it's hard to say that because you get to a place where there's been a breakup and you feel like, OK, is is my life still headed the direction that it's supposed to?
01:51 I mean, this breakup has happened. And if you just look at life with a lot of questions, you go, OK, this breakup has happened and this is part of my life.
01:59 And well, because it happened, I'm just going to say it happened.
02:03 It was meant to be. We're here. Deal with it. Move on.
02:07 And every day you just forgive, forgive yourself, forgive others, because we're not going back to where we were.
02:15 And I have to accept that with it. And I want to get to a place where I'm accepting that with ambitions for happiness.
02:25 And I want to get to a place where I'm accepting that with with a heart full of grace and love moving forward in my life.
02:33 Yes, we're all moving forward. We're all seeking happiness and we will all find it.
02:38 And he's open about whether he could see himself in another plural marriage one day.
02:43 I'm not not an advocate of plural marriage, but I've had my own experience in it and I've had my own failures in it.
02:49 And because of that, I'm like, just you've got to be really, really wise about who's doing it, how they're doing it.
02:56 And to be fair, if you know people very, very, very well, maybe it'll work.
03:01 But there's those marriages that have people who know each other very, very, very well and they still don't work.
03:08 I don't have the answers. When I was 25, I had no experience and all the answers.
03:15 And now I'm 55 and I have all the experience and zero answer.
03:20 Let's be fair. There are very successful plural families out there.
03:26 And there are a lot of families that either struggle through life with all the difficulty or break up.
03:36 And I think any time that you have religious philosophies, you you're going to struggle.
03:42 You're going to struggle with God. You're going to struggle with your spouse.
03:48 And that's an opportunity for people to grow.
03:52 So I believe plural marriage is about growth, about self-development, about finding that that goodness through difficulty.
04:00 And I think that plural marriage is extremely difficult.
04:06 As a result of that, I just have no interest in ever trying plural marriage again for many reasons.
04:14 Despite the challenges, Cody says he's trying to focus on forgiveness as he looks towards the future.
04:20 Really, I just look forward to a future of a lot of forgiving and a lot of just more understanding.
04:27 But it has it has been sad and challenging.
04:33 I've got to admit, there's something few things that have happened recently that have really, I guess you could say, built my confidence back.
04:41 Because it just it destroys your confidence when you go through a divorce or a family breakup.
04:47 But I feel like my confidence is coming back.
04:51 I've got to find that space of grace and love for myself as well.
04:55 Be it really forgiving of, you know, just simple things like just being angry about what has happened.
05:02 I want to forgive myself for that and sort of move on.
05:05 So it's a journey that goes inward and it's a journey that's outward.
05:10 You have to express forgiveness to the people you've been involved with.
05:14 You have to express understanding and hope that at the end of an era for us as a family,
05:21 we still have hope of a friendship and a loving or kind relationship with each other in the future,
05:29 because we're bound forever through our kids.
05:32 For more with the stars of Sista Wives, pick up this week's issue of People on Newsstands Friday.