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01:17 Lately, we see people around us with all the greed, wanting everything and everything.

01:23 We have to accept things that are not lucky.

01:29 With many stories told here, we can now completely agree that everyone has their own story.

01:37 This week is whose story and how the story is, now we will meet the character of this week.

01:44 Hello, Ms. Kim.

01:47 From the beginning of the show, you have a request that you don't want to show up.

01:52 So now I will call you with what name to make it easier for us to talk to each other.

01:57 Just call me Kim.

01:59 Kim, where do you live now? How old are you this year?

02:04 I am currently living in Ho Chi Minh City. I am 27 years old this year.

02:09 We are sitting here together in a show called "Everyone has their own story".

02:14 This means that there will be many stories.

02:16 Yes, that's right.

02:17 So I don't know that today when you agreed to participate in this conversation,

02:22 what will your story be and when do you want to start telling it?

02:28 I want to tell the story about the relationship between me and my mother and the relationship between me and my ex.

02:35 And this love just ended a month ago.

02:38 Just recently?

02:39 Yes, that's right.

02:40 I'm sure that I have to tell you again that this knowledge is very important to me.

02:47 I think it is very important for us to cover an event or to see the important things in that event

02:53 so that we can continue to go to the back of the road to make it better.

02:56 So now I will start with my mother.

02:58 I'm sure that the relationship between me and my mother will be more important than the story between me and my ex.

03:05 So the memory of my mother and the story between me and my mother,

03:09 I think that from the beginning, I realized that there was a problem.

03:14 Since I was 18 years old, I have had a lot of thoughts.

03:24 I started to think more.

03:26 But I want to tell you that from the moment my mother divorced her husband,

03:30 my mother divorced her husband when I was 3 years old,

03:33 do you still have any memories of the marriage between your father and your mother?

03:37 No, when I was 3 years old, I don't have any memories.

03:41 So when you grew up, you almost didn't remember what happened before.

03:45 Yes, that's right.

03:46 After the divorce, when I was 5 years old, my mother took me to Saigon.

03:50 I have another brother.

03:52 My brother lives separately.

03:54 And I live with my mother.

03:56 When I was 5 years old, I started to go to Saigon.

03:59 My mother had a big family back in the countryside.

04:03 But after the divorce, everything collapsed.

04:08 Everything was in vain.

04:10 At that time, my mother didn't have any job.

04:12 My parents were always in trouble.

04:15 They always had to pay the debt.

04:17 What did your mother do while she was with you in Ho Chi Minh City?

04:21 My mother had a beauty job.

04:23 Beauty is about skin care.

04:25 But it wasn't for the beauty salon.

04:27 It was just for the beauty salon.

04:29 I had to do it when I had a customer.

04:31 I could do it.

04:33 I had money.

04:35 I could support myself.

04:37 But my mother was in a financial crisis.

04:39 Now that I think about it,

04:41 the reason why your mother was in a financial crisis

04:45 was because she wanted something from the business.

04:47 She wanted to have a better life,

04:49 have more money,

04:51 and take care of me.

04:52 The only reason was to support me.

04:54 My brother had a stroke.

04:57 My mother didn't have any hope for my brother.

05:00 She only had hope for me.

05:01 She tried to take care of me by studying.

05:03 But the relationship between my mother and I

05:05 since we moved to Saigon

05:07 was not very good.

05:09 We couldn't talk to each other.

05:11 My mother always blamed me

05:13 and expected me to study well,

05:17 work well,

05:19 and be good at everything.

05:20 She expected a lot from me.

05:22 She wanted me to study well

05:24 to have a stable job.

05:26 Secondly, she wanted me to have a husband

05:28 who could take care of us.

05:30 A rich husband.

05:31 A rich husband.

05:32 I always thought that

05:34 my mother wanted me to be like that

05:36 to have a job

05:38 and invest in it

05:40 so that I could be good to my mother.

05:42 That's it.

05:44 When you said that,

05:46 it means that the hope that she gave you

05:48 and what she told you

05:50 was very positive.

05:52 How did you feel at that time?

05:54 Did you want to fight or continue talking to her?

05:56 I couldn't talk to her

05:58 since before.

06:00 I only thought about her.

06:02 I couldn't say anything to her.

06:04 You didn't argue with her.

06:06 But you didn't have any hope.

06:08 Yes.

06:10 I stayed with her for 7 days

06:12 and she scolded me for 5 days.

06:14 She was a difficult mother.

06:16 How many sisters have you met?

06:18 When you stayed with her for 7 days

06:20 and she scolded you for 5 days,

06:22 how old were you?

06:24 How was your family's mood?

06:26 From when I was little to when I was 18.

06:28 Did it happen often in your family?

06:30 What did you do when she scolded you?

06:32 I just cried.

06:34 She didn't hit me but I cried when she scolded me.

06:36 Because she scolded me very hard

06:38 and I was so scared.

06:40 I cried when she scolded me.

06:42 Did you ever wish that

06:44 you had a lover

06:46 and a husband

06:48 and you could leave this house?

06:50 Yes.

06:52 I had a plan to leave my husband

06:54 2-3 times.

06:56 2-3 times?

06:58 Yes.

07:00 How old were you

07:02 when you decided to leave your husband?

07:04 I was only 16.

07:06 Oh my god.

07:08 My family was not happy

07:10 and I couldn't be happy with my mom.

07:12 I wanted someone to be with me

07:14 and I wanted to have a happy life

07:16 and I wanted someone to share my life with me.

07:18 I always thought about

07:20 finding a boyfriend to share my life with.

07:22 Why did you use the 18-year-old age

07:24 as a special milestone

07:26 in many events

07:28 and you always put your story

07:30 at that milestone?

07:32 In that 18-year-old year,

07:34 many things happened to me.

07:36 It was also the year I took the 12th grade.

07:38 That year,

07:40 I had a story about my mom's eyes.

07:42 She told me

07:44 I had to date a guy who was rich

07:46 and he could take care of me.

07:48 One time,

07:50 my mom told me

07:52 "Let me take you to sell eggs

07:54 to make money

07:56 more than giving eggs

07:58 to people who can't take care of you."

08:00 How did you feel when you heard that?

08:02 I was shocked

08:04 when I heard that.

08:06 I can't forget that.

08:08 How did you feel when you heard that?

08:10 I was shocked.

08:12 After that,

08:14 I had another problem.

08:16 I was seriously ill.

08:18 How did you get sick?

08:20 How did you get sick?

08:22 How did you get sick?

08:24 I was hospitalized for 2 years.

08:26 I was hospitalized and treated at home

08:28 for 2 years.

08:30 I didn't know why.

08:32 When I went to the hospital,

08:34 the doctor told me I had lung cancer.

08:36 The doctor told me

08:38 I had lung cancer.

08:40 I asked my mom

08:42 why she didn't find out

08:44 that I was sick

08:46 and took me to the hospital.

08:48 When I got to the hospital,

08:50 I didn't have lung cancer.

08:52 How did your mom react

08:54 when she got sick

08:56 and it was so serious?

08:58 I didn't see her emotion

09:00 I didn't see her emotion

09:02 but we didn't have money

09:04 to go to the hospital.

09:06 I had to run around

09:08 to get to the hospital.

09:10 When I was in the hospital,

09:12 I realized how much my mom loved me.

09:14 I realized how hard it was

09:16 to live without money.

09:18 I was late to the hospital

09:20 I was late to the hospital

09:22 so my lung cancer

09:24 couldn't get better.

09:26 It would be like that forever.

09:28 After 2 years in the hospital,

09:30 my mom's thoughts

09:32 changed completely.

09:34 My mom's thoughts changed completely.

09:36 My mom's thoughts changed completely.

09:38 She didn't blame me anymore.

09:40 She started to find a job

09:42 to be a worker.

09:44 to be a worker.

09:46 She was focused on

09:48 making money to take care of me.

09:50 She was more positive

09:52 and more hardworking.

09:54 She showed me the most.

09:56 When I was in the hospital,

09:58 I thought I couldn't get over it.

10:00 She hugged me and cried

10:02 and said words that

10:04 I loved her so much.

10:06 She said "How can I live without you?"

10:08 She said "How can I live without you?"

10:10 Words that you never imagined

10:12 that she would say.

10:14 I only listened to her

10:16 but not to other words.

10:18 What made you fight

10:20 against your cancer for 2 years?

10:22 Everything was because of my mom.

10:24 I lived with my mom for more than 10 years.

10:26 I lived with my mom for more than 10 years.

10:28 Now, when I'm gone,

10:30 I'm left with my mom.

10:32 A sentence that she said to you

10:34 when you were 18 years old

10:36 was a really hurtful and shocking

10:38 sentence to a girl.

10:40 When she said that to you,

10:42 you were shocked.

10:44 Did you feel any change

10:46 when you remembered

10:48 what she said to you?

10:50 I changed completely

10:52 from my feelings to my thoughts.

10:54 If you felt that

10:56 when you heard that sentence,

10:58 you were really hurt,

11:00 what else could you do?

11:02 I hated my mom.

11:04 I felt that

11:06 my mom changed her mind.

11:08 But I forgot about

11:10 anyone else

11:12 except my mom.

11:14 I was afraid that those words would repeat.

11:16 I was sure that

11:18 if she had a future with me,

11:20 I would still go to her.

11:22 But I thought that

11:24 my mom wanted to invest in me.

11:26 I thought that

11:28 maybe she changed her mind

11:30 and wanted me

11:32 to be happier.

11:34 That's what my parents taught me.

11:36 After 2 years,

11:38 you went through a life like that.

11:40 Many people can't change

11:42 their relationship with their parents.

11:44 I don't know

11:46 if it's a good thing or not.

11:48 But after that change,

11:50 you also gained something.

11:52 You found your love.

11:54 It's so unexpected.

11:56 It's so unexpected in the first 10 years.

11:58 But the best thing is

12:00 our relationship

12:02 is getting better and better.

12:04 We don't have to scold each other

12:06 like before.

12:08 We are happier every day.

12:10 When will you be sure

12:12 that you can take a man

12:14 to your mom's eyes?

12:16 Will that happen?

12:18 My wish is

12:20 to find a man

12:22 who can take care of my family

12:24 and my parents.

12:26 So you haven't found a man yet?

12:28 No.

12:30 Not yet?

12:32 Even your ex-boyfriend

12:34 who you said you had a relationship with

12:36 hasn't met your mom yet?

12:38 I'm preparing for it.

12:40 You're preparing for a breakup?

12:42 How did that relationship start?

12:44 You were trying to fix it

12:46 but you stopped.

12:48 He's my colleague.

12:50 I've been working with him for half a year

12:52 and he started to notice me.

12:54 I didn't agree at first.

12:56 Our relationship

12:58 was bound by our colleagues,

13:00 distance,

13:02 religion,

13:04 life, and personality.

13:06 Because of the distance,

13:08 I didn't agree.

13:10 Another important thing is

13:12 I asked everyone in the company

13:14 and everyone said I was a bit of a flirt.

13:16 There were many girls in the company

13:18 who said they knew me.

13:20 But I didn't believe them

13:24 because he looked so gentle.

13:26 He studied and worked

13:28 in the Department of Education.

13:30 I thought he wasn't a bad guy.

13:32 He convinced me.

13:34 He convinced me with simple words.

13:36 I had a feeling for him

13:38 so it was easy to convince me.

13:40 You believed everything he said?

13:42 Yes, I was happy with everything he said.

13:44 Although

13:46 he didn't take me anywhere

13:48 when we were dating.

13:50 We didn't talk about social issues

13:52 like lovers

13:54 who share happy moments.

13:56 But I was convinced.

13:58 He was a bit of a flirt

14:00 because he had so many jobs.

14:02 I had faith in him

14:04 that he would take care of me.

14:06 He worked here

14:08 but he had a job outside.

14:10 I thought if I dated him,

14:12 my life would be better.

14:14 He was the one

14:16 you were looking for.

14:18 Even his appearance,

14:20 the way he talked,

14:22 and the way he interacted

14:24 was suitable for you.

14:26 When you want to go far

14:28 between him and you,

14:30 choose him or your mom?

14:32 Be serious and think about it.

14:34 Which one makes you think more?

14:36 I used to choose him

14:38 but after I got sick,

14:40 I thought about my mom more.

14:42 I wanted to

14:44 be with him

14:46 and be able to

14:48 connect with him.

14:50 I didn't want

14:52 my mom to be upset about something.

14:54 I thought that

14:56 would make my life easier.

14:58 It's great to find someone like him.

15:00 But life

15:02 isn't perfect.

15:04 If you have to prioritize

15:06 being with him

15:08 and having a marriage

15:10 that suits you

15:12 but you still have some

15:14 issues with him,

15:16 what would you choose?

15:18 I would choose my mom.

15:20 I had a marriage

15:22 because of my mom.

15:24 I felt that

15:26 we couldn't get along.

15:28 But he was the only one

15:30 who didn't stop me.

15:32 He was very kind and nice.

15:34 Who said goodbye?

15:36 I was the one who took the initiative.

15:38 I felt that I couldn't meet

15:40 my most desired.

15:42 My mom.

15:44 He thought that

15:46 his mom would be satisfied.

15:48 How did that love happen?

15:50 After I rejected him,

15:52 he came back to me

15:54 half a year later.

15:56 I thought that he was very sincere to me.

15:58 Why didn't I give him a chance

16:00 to get to know me?

16:02 I gave him a chance.

16:04 We didn't hang out

16:06 or talk much.

16:08 But we went to

16:10 the company and met

16:12 regularly.

16:14 We dated for 3 months.

16:16 I found out that he had a girlfriend in the countryside.

16:18 How did you know?

16:20 I accidentally saw his

16:22 phone message.

16:24 I asked him directly.

16:26 He said that he had dated for a year.

16:28 He admitted that

16:30 he would choose me

16:32 if he kept me.

16:34 I couldn't go far away from him.

16:36 Because we didn't

16:38 get along well.

16:40 We couldn't accept each other.

16:42 So you broke up.

16:44 Yes.

16:46 I asked him.

16:48 He said that he felt sorry for me.

16:50 He wanted to share

16:52 with me for a while.

16:54 He would marry me, not her.

16:56 Did you believe him?

16:58 I didn't.

17:00 I had blocked all his messages.

17:02 I didn't want to get involved

17:04 in his affair.

17:06 But you met him

17:08 every day.

17:10 Yes.

17:12 He kept asking me

17:14 and I was so happy.

17:16 So I gave him a chance to come back.

17:18 How long did you

17:20 give him a chance?

17:22 A month.

17:24 After a month, he came back.

17:26 Did you prove that

17:28 he was taking

17:30 you seriously

17:32 to end the relationship?

17:34 No.

17:36 I still found out

17:38 and I still have a lot of people.

17:40 You have more people.

17:42 Yes.

17:44 I just didn't know

17:46 how the relationship was.

17:48 I just

17:50 knew he had a lover.

17:52 I didn't know

17:54 how it was.

17:56 How did you know?

17:58 Every time I found out,

18:00 I was so angry

18:02 and I was so angry.

18:04 But he was always silent.

18:06 He didn't say anything.

18:08 He was silent to admit

18:10 that he had a lover.

18:12 I just said yes and went home.

18:14 But every time that happened,

18:16 they were silent for 2-3 weeks

18:18 and then they appeared again.

18:20 He didn't explain anything.

18:22 But he tried to make up with me.

18:24 He kept persuading me

18:26 to come back.

18:28 It was like that for 2 years.

18:30 2 years.

18:32 What did he do

18:34 to make you believe

18:36 that you could go far?

18:38 You even calculated

18:40 that he took you to your mom

18:42 while it was one of the rare things

18:44 you could do.

18:46 I think the most important thing

18:48 is that I believe

18:50 he could take care of me.

18:52 But he didn't do anything

18:54 for me.

18:56 I think that if we were dating,

18:58 he might not take care of me.

19:00 But when we get married,

19:02 he will definitely take care of me.

19:04 Why do you think that he will take care of you?

19:06 What made you believe that?

19:08 Nothing.

19:10 I just thought so.

19:12 I think that

19:14 he is old enough.

19:16 He is old enough.

19:18 I think he can't live

19:20 badly with me.

19:22 But I think

19:24 that I'm not his wife

19:26 and I've asked him

19:28 to break up with me

19:30 many times.

19:32 I think he wants to

19:34 find more options for me.

19:36 I can't force him

19:38 to focus on me.

19:40 If he has a better choice,

19:42 he can go.

19:44 I think that's good for him.

19:46 If we get married,

19:48 he will focus on me

19:50 Why did you change

19:52 and call each other

19:54 ex-lover?

19:56 2 years.

19:58 I still remember that it was 3rd year.

20:00 I found out that he was having an affair with another woman.

20:02 I couldn't accept that.

20:06 If he wants to

20:08 have other choices,

20:10 he should choose a decent person

20:12 not a lover.

20:14 I always believed that he was...

20:16 Tell me the truth.

20:18 Why did you believe that?

20:20 He didn't do anything for you.

20:22 He didn't show anything.

20:24 Why did you believe that?

20:26 I think it's my feeling.

20:28 I didn't do anything.

20:30 You imagined it?

20:32 Did he say anything to you?

20:34 He said a lot.

20:36 Did he buy you a gift?

20:38 No.

20:40 Did he care about your financial situation

20:42 when you were in a tough situation?

20:44 No.

20:46 I believed him a lot.

20:48 After I found out

20:50 that he was having an affair with another woman,

20:52 I gave him another chance.

20:54 This is the 4th time.

20:58 Not the 5th time.

21:00 After the pandemic,

21:02 my job was down.

21:04 I didn't work anymore.

21:06 I was in debt.

21:08 After many times,

21:10 my love for him was down.

21:12 In the past,

21:14 I always helped him.

21:16 Now, I'm very calm.

21:18 I think more about

21:20 why he had to date so many people,

21:22 his job,

21:24 his financial situation,

21:26 his personality,

21:28 his religion,

21:30 his family.

21:32 Why did I choose him?

21:34 I decided to stop.

21:36 It's been a month.

21:38 I don't know if he still looks for me.

21:40 But we're not in a relationship anymore.

21:42 Let me ask you.

21:44 Are you sure you love him?

21:46 You've been in a relationship for a long time.

21:48 You always

21:50 cover up for the times

21:52 when he doesn't accept you.

21:54 If you look back,

21:56 do you think that

21:58 your bigger goal

22:00 in this relationship

22:02 is to have a physical face

22:04 and a person who can guarantee

22:06 your physical life?

22:08 So, let's just

22:10 live in this relationship

22:12 and wait for the future

22:14 to live in another position

22:16 and be accepted

22:18 by his physical condition.

22:20 Seriously, look back.

22:22 I feel very conflicted

22:24 between

22:26 not wanting to marry him

22:28 and wanting to marry him.

22:30 I feel very conflicted.

22:32 Every time I think about wanting to marry him,

22:34 what makes me feel like I want to marry him?

22:36 What do I get from marrying him?

22:38 I get a physical life

22:40 that I think is going to be fine.

22:42 I get my mom's head.

22:44 Yes.

22:46 And this is completely contradictory to my feelings.

22:48 So I have another thought

22:50 that I don't want to marry him

22:52 because I don't feel safe.

22:54 I'm not brave enough.

22:56 I also feel that I don't have much love for him.

22:58 If I had a lot of love,

23:00 I would overcome all obstacles

23:02 to make this relationship public.

23:04 So I don't want to make it public

23:06 until we get married.

23:08 No one knows

23:10 when I get married.

23:12 Of course, your mom doesn't know.

23:14 So we have to come back

23:16 to confirm again.

23:18 Although you said

23:20 you would choose a man

23:22 and you would prioritize

23:24 the one who can meet your mom's standards.

23:26 But what?

23:28 I think the closest relationship is

23:30 if we focus on that standard.

23:32 You are not positive to keep this relationship

23:34 because you don't have feelings

23:36 and you don't have enough love.

23:38 I don't dare to say

23:40 how you should change your standards.

23:42 But obviously, being a good son

23:44 doesn't mean

23:46 you should forget yourself.

23:48 Because when you forget yourself,

23:50 all your choices

23:52 don't have

23:54 the warmth.

23:56 If you are lucky enough to choose

23:58 the right one to go with you,

24:00 you will be tired

24:02 of that relationship

24:04 because you don't go with your wishes

24:06 but you choose him

24:08 because he meets your parents' expectations.

24:10 It's quite dangerous.

24:12 When you look back

24:14 and tell your story,

24:16 what do you get

24:18 from that relationship?

24:20 I can't look back.

24:24 I feel I lost a lot of things.

24:26 Until now,

24:28 I don't have the feeling

24:30 of wanting anything.

24:32 What is your wish?

24:34 I want to let go

24:36 of all my worries.

24:38 I don't have any wishes.

24:40 I just want to feel more comfortable.

24:42 Have you let go of all your worries?

24:44 I'm 80%

24:46 less worried about that.

24:48 What have you done in the past month

24:50 when we haven't met?

24:52 There is a surprise.

24:54 I don't do anything in the past month

24:56 because I live alone.

24:58 I'm alone in my room.

25:00 What is your daily schedule?

25:02 I go to work in the morning,

25:04 have lunch and sleep in the evening.

25:06 What helps me overcome that

25:08 is that I change my mind.

25:10 I don't get involved in games.

25:12 How do you change your mind?

25:14 I used to think

25:16 I would blame others

25:18 for treating me like that

25:20 and why I did that

25:22 and went to find another man.

25:24 Now I think differently

25:26 and blame myself more.

25:28 I think I'm stupid

25:30 so I should learn from my mistakes

25:32 to have more experience.

25:34 You should blame yourself first

25:36 and then blame others.

25:38 Are you really okay now?

25:40 I'm 80% okay now.

25:42 I still think about those things

25:44 but it doesn't hurt as much as before.

25:46 I used to cry when I thought about it

25:48 but now I don't cry anymore.

25:50 Today's story is still

25:52 a bit vague.

25:54 I don't know how I will arrange

25:56 everything in the future.

25:58 I hope that the peace

26:00 I have now is on the right path

26:02 that I will achieve later.

26:04 But it's too early to decide.

26:06 I hope that I will be able to

26:08 make a choice

26:10 that is important in my life

26:12 and I won't be confused

26:14 and I will feel satisfied.

26:16 But I believe that

26:18 today's story is valuable to me.

26:20 Although I have just passed

26:22 the last few days,

26:24 I want to tell you

26:26 about my life

26:28 so that you can

26:30 see everything

26:32 and see it more fully.

26:34 I hope that

26:36 I will receive good news

26:38 from you in the future.

26:40 I'm healthy, happy

26:42 and confident

26:44 in my choices.

26:46 Thank you.

26:48 Thank you for being here

26:50 every week.

26:52 I hope that you will be ready

26:54 to sit down

26:56 and listen to the stories

26:58 of someone

27:00 coming to the show.

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