How Do You Know Its Love
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00:00 [Music]
00:29 [Music]
00:38 I love you, Nora. Do you love me?
00:41 Oh, I don't know, Jack.
00:43 You're the only girl I've dated in two months.
00:46 We get along fine. You do love me, don't you?
00:50 I think so, but I'll have to think about it.
00:54 [Music]
01:05 Hello, dear.
01:06 Hello, Ma.
01:07 Have a nice time?
01:08 I'll say. Jack's awfully handsome and such a smooth dancer.
01:14 Mom, how can I tell if... I mean, how did you know when you were in love with Dad?
01:22 Oh, I'd been in love several times before. I got so I could recognize the symptoms.
01:29 Several times?
01:30 Mm-hmm. And each time I thought I'd found my prince charming.
01:35 Most people fall in love quite a few times in their lives.
01:39 Well, then, how can you tell when you're really in love?
01:44 Well, I'll have to think about that. Let's say tomorrow, shall we?
01:50 All right.
01:54 Good night.
01:55 Good night, dear.
02:00 Most people fall in love quite a few times.
02:05 I wonder if Jack knows that.
02:08 I tell you, Bob, I haven't dated any girl but Nora in two months.
02:12 We're really in love.
02:13 Uh-huh. And you were really in love with Betty and Mary and Dallas and I don't know who else.
02:19 And there'll be others, I suppose.
02:21 Oh, no. That's over with.
02:24 You know, Bob, Nora's the prettiest girl I've ever known. She's just as beautiful as...
02:29 Beautiful? And you think that's all that matters?
02:33 Oh, hurry up and get in bed, will you?
02:37 Bob, did you feel this way when you fell in love with Jean?
02:41 Oh, look. I've felt that way lots of times.
02:46 The trouble with you is you don't seem to understand what love is really about.
02:51 You young punks go to the movies a couple of times, do a little necking, and you think you're in love.
02:56 I've never seen anything like it.
02:58 All I wanted to do was ask. You don't have to get sore about it, do you?
03:02 Oh, I'm sorry, Jack, but look at it this way.
03:06 You just haven't been around enough to know what love really is.
03:10 Believe me, it's nothing like the slush they give you in the movies.
03:16 Well, I don't know, Bob.
03:19 That's right. You don't know.
03:22 Maybe you would understand better if...
03:25 Say, I've got an idea. How'd you like to double date with Jean and me tomorrow night?
03:30 Why, sure, Bob. That would be swell.
03:32 Sure you wouldn't mind?
03:33 Not if you let me get some sleep now.
03:35 Good night.
03:36 Good night.
03:40 Oh, Jack, that sounds like loads of fun.
03:44 See you tonight. Goodbye.
03:48 Guess what, Mother?
03:50 Jack and I are going on a double date with Jack's brother Bob and his girlfriend.
03:54 They're engaged and so much in love.
03:57 Jean has the most beautiful diamond.
03:59 Oh, that's fine, dear.
04:01 I've met Bob. I think he's awfully nice.
04:04 Oh, I do, too.
04:05 And speaking of love, weren't you and I going to talk about that today?
04:09 Yes, we were.
04:10 I've been thinking about your question and...
04:13 Well, suppose we look at these snapshots together, hmm?
04:16 Snapshots?
04:17 Mm-hmm.
04:18 Well, what do they have to do with love?
04:20 Oh, I was just thinking that they might help you to understand how your capacity for love grows and develops, just as you grow and develop.
04:29 Here. Look at this one.
04:32 Oh, Mother, did you have to keep that?
04:36 You know, in a way, you were in love even then.
04:40 Every baby loves its parents for their care and protection.
04:44 Of course, some people expect that care and protection all their lives.
04:49 They never grow up.
04:51 But it is a kind of love.
04:54 Now, compare that with this picture.
04:58 Oh, that's the boy who used to live next door.
05:02 My, how he did love his teddy bear.
05:06 Love?
05:07 That's right.
05:09 That's a kind of love, too.
05:11 Possessiveness.
05:13 A love for the things you own.
05:16 Some of us never get over being possessive when we're in love, do we?
05:21 You're beginning to understand.
05:24 Now, here's a snap that shows how we learn to return love, by doing things for others.
05:32 Well, what about love of our friends?
05:35 Isn't that a stage of love?
05:37 Yes, I think it is.
05:38 Here, look at this.
05:40 Why, that's Betty and Ellen.
05:42 And Ann.
05:43 I took that picture with my first camera.
05:45 Oh, I know.
05:47 There was a time when I wouldn't look at anyone but my special friends.
05:51 I guess that was a stage of love.
05:53 Yes.
05:54 And boys go through a similar stage, when they stick together in gangs and won't have anything to do with girls.
06:00 We soon changed that.
06:03 Now, let's see.
06:06 Oh, do you remember this picture?
06:09 The captain of the football team.
06:11 That was two or three years ago.
06:14 He never knew how much I loved him.
06:17 I guess he never knew I existed at all.
06:19 Well, we all go through crashes like that on teachers or sports stars or movie stars.
06:26 Then after a while, there's a stage that some people call puppy love.
06:33 Why, that's Morris.
06:35 I'd almost completely forgotten him.
06:37 Remember how important it seemed at the time?
06:39 I'll say.
06:41 And it really was important, as a part of learning how to love and be loved.
06:45 I think I can tell puppy love.
06:48 Oh, look, there's the couple who met at camp last summer.
06:51 I certainly caught them.
06:53 Yes.
06:54 And that's another stage where the physical side of love dominates.
07:00 Sometimes this is mistaken for mature love, but there's a difference.
07:05 Mature love.
07:07 That's a new way of thinking about it.
07:10 How can you tell when love is mature?
07:12 Well, mature love is more settled.
07:18 Mature love has something of the other kind of love in it and something more.
07:25 It's tender, unselfish, cooperative.
07:30 When I get serious about somebody, Mom, I want to have that kind of love.
07:36 That's a good idea, dear.
07:38 And if you aren't sure, you can always ask yourself some questions.
07:43 Are we really interested in the same things?
07:48 Do we feel at ease together?
07:52 Are we proud of each other?
07:55 Do we agree on the basic things, such as religion, marriage, children, money, and so on?
08:02 Thanks, Mother.
08:03 I know that'll help.
08:04 I hope so, dear.
08:13 Are we really interested in the same things?
08:17 Do we feel at ease together?
08:21 Are we proud of each other?
08:23 Are we agreed on basic things?
08:27 I wonder.
08:29 I'm going to watch Bob and Jean, see if they have a mature love.
08:46 Would you like a drink?
08:48 Jack, how did you like your homecoming?
08:50 I've never seen a shocking storm in it before in my life.
08:53 Oh, you've been here for quite some time.
08:55 Thank you.
08:56 I'm having a wonderful time.
08:58 I've never been here before.
09:00 We're so glad you could come.
09:01 This is one of our favorite spots.
09:03 Yes, we sort of found it together, you might say.
09:06 We come here quite often.
09:08 The real Chinese dishes are over here.
09:10 Hey, Bob.
09:11 Oh, Bob, look what came today.
09:13 What?
09:14 Oh, the season tickets for our concert series.
09:17 And guess what?
09:18 You're going to have to sit through another concert by that young French pianist you didn't like.
09:24 You mean the same one we saw last season?
09:26 That's right.
09:27 Maybe this year you'll agree with me that he has real talent.
09:30 Oh, maybe.
09:31 But only if he's improved.
09:32 Oh, Bob.
09:33 Well, at least we'll have fun debating it.
09:38 Do Bob and Jean have a mature love?
09:41 Are they interested in the same thing?
09:45 I'll say they are.
09:47 They seem to have so many things to talk about and do together.
09:51 Say, Nora, talking about music, have you heard the new recording of the Browns Violin Concerto?
09:57 Well, no.
09:59 I guess I never really learned to appreciate classical music.
10:05 Are Jack and I interested in the same thing?
10:08 I wonder.
10:10 Another question Mom asked, do we feel at ease with each other?
10:15 You know, there's no telling what we'll get, but I'm willing to take a chance if you are.
10:19 Oh, that's the fun of it, Bob.
10:21 What about some of this watercress salad?
10:23 That's a fine idea.
10:25 Bob and Jean certainly are at ease with each other.
10:29 But what about us?
10:32 Well, I've made up my mind.
10:34 I'm going to have the leg of lamb.
10:36 Oh.
10:37 Well, I thought it would be fun to try a Chinese dish.
10:40 That's all right if you like that stuff.
10:42 Me, I'll stick to the lamb.
10:44 Oh, come on, Nora.
10:45 Take a chance with us on the lobster Cantonese.
10:48 Oh, I'd like that.
10:51 No, I don't always feel at ease with Jack.
10:54 He's so unpredictable.
10:56 I guess I am, too.
10:58 We don't really know each other.
11:00 And Mom talks about being proud of each other.
11:03 I wonder if I could ever be as proud of Jack as Jean is of Bob.
11:09 Not right here and now, maybe, but he does have his point.
11:13 When he gets out on that ball diamond, anybody would be proud of him.
11:17 But I wonder if we'd ever agree on basic things.
11:21 Jack, do you know who I saw today?
11:23 I saw Bill Johnson and his wife.
11:25 You know, they've got a fine pair of little kids.
11:27 They dress them up like cowboys.
11:29 Kids are such fun.
11:30 Don't you think so, Nora?
11:32 Well, I--
11:33 Oh, here's the waiter with our soup.
11:38 Children.
11:39 Oh, we've never talked about things like that.
11:42 Or religion, or marriage, or money.
11:45 Bob and Jean really understand each other.
11:48 They do have a mature love.
11:57 Nora, I--
11:58 Jean and I--
12:00 about our talk at the dance last night, in the garden, you know.
12:04 Well, I--I guess after seeing Bob and Jean,
12:10 I think that love, real, mature love, is more than I'd imagine.
12:16 I guess so.
12:18 On Bob and Jean, it looks all right, but--
12:21 We're not ready for that kind of attachment, are we?
12:26 But we can still have a lot of fun, can't we?
12:29 Sure we can.
12:31 Would you like--how about going roller skating next Friday night?
12:35 Oh, Jack, that's a wonderful idea.
12:37 That's the kind of fun I like.
12:39 What time?
12:40 About 8.15.
12:41 Oh, swell.
12:42 I'll see you then.
12:43 Thanks for this evening.
12:45 Good night.
12:46 Good night.
12:47 [music]