Mula sa love life hanggang sa career, may say pa ba dapat ang mga magulang sa buhay ng kanilang mga adult na anak?
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00:00 But the question is, when we reach adulthood, should our parents still have a say in our affairs?
00:08 When it comes to our love life, our career, of course, finances.
00:13 Correct. Those big decisions in our lives.
00:16 So let's start with love life.
00:19 We will choose if we just go for it.
00:21 Here it is.
00:22 Go for it.
00:23 Where is it?
00:24 Go for it.
00:25 Just carry it.
00:26 Okay, just carry it.
00:27 Carry but very light.
00:28 Do you have Marspoline?
00:30 Yes, I have.
00:31 And of course, there's a big "I love it" for her.
00:35 She just made it.
00:36 Of course.
00:37 Nice one, Marspoline.
00:38 And we also have a big no-no that we really don't want others to decide for us.
00:45 So here's the first one, Mars.
00:47 What is it?
00:48 Love life.
00:49 Love life.
00:51 This is my say.
00:57 This is my say.
00:58 What's yours?
00:59 Carry but very light.
01:01 Okay.
01:02 What about you, Marspoline?
01:04 Carry but very light.
01:06 We have the same answer.
01:08 Okay, because of that, Mars and Poline, you will explain the answers.
01:15 You go first, Poline.
01:16 Why carry but very light when it comes to love life?
01:20 I think for me, when it comes to love life, of course, you still need to be guided by your parents.
01:29 Especially if you're young.
01:32 But I think when you reach the right age, when you're ready to settle and everything,
01:38 I think that's the time that it's okay.
01:41 But you still run to your family when it comes to advice, to guide you, to support you,
01:49 to tell you what's right, what are your limitations.
01:52 Because that's how my dad is to me, especially my dad, especially my mom.
01:57 They're really strict.
01:59 So now, they don't allow me to go out when I'm not with anyone.
02:05 So I'm not allowed to go out overnight.
02:08 So it's just a little.
02:10 So it's okay with you, that's okay with you, your parents being strict about it.
02:15 Nice.
02:16 Yeah, it's okay.
02:19 So for me, it's the same, carry but very light.
02:24 Of course, you can't leave as a parent, you have an opinion about who your child likes or dislikes.
02:33 So that's totally understandable.
02:35 But at the end of the day, we still get to decide who we choose to love, right Mars?
02:40 We're still the ones who can be with that person, we're the ones who can experience everything we want in that person.
02:49 And consideration of what our parents think of that person as well.
02:53 So yeah, carry but very light.
02:55 Carry but very light.
02:57 Alright, I agree with your answers, Mars.
03:00 Alright, next we have, career.
03:04 So what do you guys think?
03:09 Me!
03:10 I'll go with career.
03:13 Alright, this is still my answer.
03:16 Me too.
03:17 Carry but very light.
03:20 Same.
03:21 Okay, the answer here is Mars, you and Dave.
03:24 You go first, Mars.
03:25 Well, because Mars, of course, every time, normally when you start in some kind of work, you don't really know.
03:36 And I really feel that it's the parents that somewhat pave the way and give you these opportunities.
03:44 Because you don't really know how to get here, you don't really know anything.
03:50 It's really the parents that will bring you to some singing lessons where you will eventually discover singing recitals.
03:59 And eventually, you'll discover your love for singing and you'll want to make a living out of it.
04:04 That's why I really feel that parents will always somewhat lead the way.
04:09 But actually, for me, carry but very light to moderate.
04:19 Okay, let's extend this, Mars.
04:22 Very light to moderate because I allow it to be more than very light.
04:26 Yes.
04:27 It's a reminder of my career.
04:32 Okay, don't let them have control over it.
04:35 Yes, don't let them not listen to me.
04:37 What I feel is not valid, that I'm not happy anymore.
04:44 But you still force yourself to do it.
04:46 Yes, don't be like that.
04:47 But I really respect and I really believe that my parents also want what's best for me.
04:55 Agree.
04:56 So I will listen to what they have to say.
04:59 There I am.
05:00 Nice one, Mars.
05:01 For me, I still give them a chance to say something.
05:10 Because they are the ones who are guiding us, right?
05:14 So, of course, for you too, to clear your mind and to feel that you're on the right guide.
05:25 Because you can't not trust your parents.
05:31 I was really raised with my parents who are good.
05:37 So, my trust is with them.
05:40 But of course, it's still up to me to make the final decision.
05:44 Whatever I will put in, they are always behind me.
05:50 Yes, they are just supporting you.
05:52 Correct.
05:53 Nice.
05:54 And because we always know, well, for our part, that our parents have good intentions for us.
06:00 That's why we value their opinion.
06:03 Okay, lastly, finances.
06:05 Do you think we should still be complaining?
06:08 Is it a big no-no?
06:10 Go long or carry but very light?
06:14 This is hard.
06:15 Wait, Mars.
06:16 We're talking about now?
06:17 We're talking about now.
06:19 Because what we're saying, Mars, this is from the Free Britney trend.
06:24 So, when you say knowledge or involvement, they are the ones who have saved.
06:30 You really give it to them.
06:33 So, which one?
06:35 I'm still here.
06:36 Me too.
06:37 Because, Mars, I really feel that with…
06:40 I mean, they've been here in the world for a longer time.
06:46 So, I feel with that, they know more.
06:50 So, that's why I feel we value what they have to say because maybe they know something that we don't know.
06:56 And we're not aware.
06:58 Yeah, I agree.
06:59 That's why I'm still here even with finances.
07:03 Carry but very light.
07:05 Okay.
07:06 How about you, Pauline? What's your answer? Finances.
07:08 Go long.
07:09 Go long.
07:10 I don't have any other answer.
07:11 Okay, go. Explain why it's just go.
07:14 Because, I have to pay for my expenses.
07:18 Okay.
07:19 So, you need to be on allowance. You need to be budgeted.
07:24 Yes, even if I'm earning my own money, my mom is still the one who's holding it.
07:31 Even if she's telling me, "You should hold your own."
07:35 I don't want to, mom. I just want you.
07:37 Because at least, she knows how to manage our financial.
07:42 And I trust my mom.
07:44 That's what everyone says.
07:46 You should always trust your parents.
07:48 So, it's 101%.
07:50 So, I think, go long.
07:52 But you know what, Pauline? I have to also say that we're very lucky that we're in the position that we can actually trust our parents.
07:59 That's what I'm saying.
08:00 Unless, Mars, you have a bad, I don't know, experience with money from your parents.
08:07 Because I would like to think that all parents are like that.
08:10 But I'm sure there are also some that their team-up didn't work out when it comes to handling finances.
08:16 So, probably that's when it changes.
08:19 Mars, of course, it's money.
08:20 Sometimes, or often, it's really overwhelming.
08:23 And that's where Mars' problem comes from.
08:25 When it comes to money.
08:26 Yes.
08:27 It's really very sensitive.
08:28 Yes.
08:29 What about you, Dave?
08:30 For me, Mars, since I'm in adulthood now, it's just like, I'm just confused in a way.
08:42 I'm just really complicated when it comes to, because you're budgeting.
08:48 These are the responsibilities that you're doing.
08:50 Yeah, I'm still a kid.
08:51 Yeah.
08:52 So, now, it's like, oh my God, these are the things that my parents are doing.
08:58 So, now, I have also opened up my finances to them.
09:03 They also have advice, which has guided me well.
09:11 So, I just trust my parents.
09:15 I am lucky that my parents, that's what we say, when it comes to money,
09:24 they are sensitive, but my parents, they haven't yet.
09:30 So far, I'm happy.
09:33 And I feel like our answer is very Filipino.
09:35 Yes.
09:36 I'm sure for some, they'd be like, "No, I handle my own finances."
09:40 Because once you turn 18, it's you.
09:42 Actually, you know, Mars, we're still involved.
09:46 As long as they're there.
09:48 Thank you very much, Pauline and Dave.
09:50 I like all of our input in this segment.