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Transcript

00:00 [Music]

00:12 [Arabic]

00:23 [Arabic]

00:36 May Allah keep us safe wherever you are, wherever you see us in the world. May Allah keep everyone in his protection.

00:43 The program that is going on in relation to Seerat, we were discussing some social issues.

00:50 And obviously, it is a social issue, but obviously, social issues are the ones that are in demand of guidance.

01:00 We were discussing about Seerat, and the topic was Nikah.

01:06 And the thing was that we have made Nikah so expensive, so difficult,

01:12 that people get married, I mean if a father has two or four daughters,

01:17 then he gets a heart attack just by thinking about it. Poor man, God knows what will happen.

01:24 And if he gets one daughter married, then it is not possible to get another four or three, he becomes so poor.

01:33 We have put all these burdens upon ourselves, we have put all these problems upon ourselves.

01:38 And it is mentioned in the Quran that the difficulties that a person faces are the result of his actions.

01:42 Our actions are such that we make a lot of noise about it.

01:46 In fact, these days, these things are being told in the government, on social media,

01:52 that you should keep a watchful eye on your children, what they are watching on their mobile phones,

01:56 and what is happening, and the children are watching the wrong things.

02:00 So, the children will watch, because we have done this, the children have grown up,

02:05 we are not worried, we do not get them married.

02:08 We will discuss this, and we will take a recap of the previous program with reference to Seerat.

02:12 Then, God willing, we will move forward. Assalamu alaikum.

02:15 Walaikum assalam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu.

02:19 Wa alaikum assalam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu.

02:22 How are you?

02:24 Alhamdulillah.

02:26 How is your mood?

02:28 Yes, thanks to Allah, now it is better.

02:31 But it is not completely better, I do not know what will happen in between.

02:35 Allah will do good.

02:37 So, there is a message of PTA on social media, that you should keep a watchful eye on your children,

02:42 and while giving mobile phones, how will you impose restrictions?

02:47 So, we have given that evil thing to the children,

02:49 secondly, we have delayed the Nikah so much, and created so many difficulties,

02:54 that Allah should keep us safe.

02:57 Yes, Doctor, Jazakallah khairan kathira.

03:00 Bismillahir Rahmanir Rahim.

03:02 Allahumma salli ala Muhammadin wa ala aali Muhammadin wa barik wa sallim.

03:05 Rabbish rahli sadri wa yassirri li amri wa hulul ukhudatuhum bil lisani yafqahu qawli wa ja'ali wazzeeran min ahli.

03:11 Ameen, Ya Rabbil Alameen.

03:14 So, there are some messages coming from PTA, in which we also recorded some of them.

03:19 I would like to, it is a very important issue and topic, and it has a background.

03:24 So, I would like to take a little recap of the previous program,

03:27 and after that we will talk about it in detail, because many scholars, many IMA mosques,

03:33 many educational institutions, many government officials and officials have drawn our attention to this,

03:43 that we need to be very careful about the mentalities of our parents, our children, our progeny,

03:49 and the moral training, and these attacks, these satanic attacks of the Dajjal culture.

03:57 So, I would like to, this program is being watched in 150 countries from our forum.

04:01 We will talk about this in a little more detail.

04:04 Our viewers should remember that from the previous program, we have been talking about family life.

04:10 This is the title of the program, "Laqad Kaan Alakum Fi Rasool Allahi Usbatun Hasana".

04:14 Then we talked about the Prophet (pbuh) as the head of the family.

04:19 We talked about this, and then we talked about Nikah,

04:23 because through Nikah, the house comes into existence, and then the society is organized.

04:27 Then in the previous program, we talked in detail that Nikah is a part of the religion,

04:31 and it is a request that it should be held in mosques, so that the family, women, children,

04:38 and everyone should know that this is a part of the religion, and not outside of the religion.

04:41 Then we also learned that Nikah is a Sunnah of the Prophet (pbuh),

04:45 so it is not possible that there is no guidance in Sunnah.

04:48 The Prophet (pbuh) had many Nikahs,

04:51 your daughters had Nikah, your dear companions had Nikah,

04:56 the companions had Nikah, and we have a lot of details.

05:01 So, it is not possible that the Ummah does not know.

05:04 But it should be known, which we tried many times in this series.

05:08 In the previous program, I remember how easy it is to perform Nikah,

05:12 according to the teachings of our religion and the Sunnah of the Prophet (pbuh),

05:16 so the Nikah of Bibi Fatima Zahra,

05:19 the Nikah of Hazrat Abdul Rahman bin Auf,

05:22 and the Nikah of the Prophet (pbuh) himself,

05:25 the Nikah of Bibi Safiyyah,

05:28 we talked about their simplicity in the previous program.

05:32 And it was also mentioned in the previous program that

05:34 the most blessed Nikah is the one where the expenses are the least.

05:37 We also mentioned, as you mentioned in the intro,

05:41 that we have made the Nikah act a burden, a problem,

05:44 we have done it.

05:46 We have done the rituals of non-Muslims, Hindu rituals,

05:49 wasteful expenses, and the work of sin,

05:52 and we have made this sacred act, this pure act,

05:56 free of blessings, and we have made it a problem.

06:01 And today, the Nikah act has been made so difficult,

06:03 that the act of Zina has become easier.

06:06 We have also studied the blessed Hadith,

06:09 in which the Prophet (pbuh) said that the eyes, ears, tongue,

06:12 heart, hands, and feet do Zina.

06:15 So if we make Nikah difficult,

06:18 then naturally there is an emotion in it,

06:21 and Allah wants that the pure way of Zina should be perfected,

06:24 so that the wife should also find peace,

06:27 and tomorrow, the child's attainment is also a big objective,

06:30 so that the caravan of the human race can move forward.

06:32 This is the thing that we have mentioned in this program,

06:35 with great intensity, continuously, for many years.

06:38 And because the topic has now come,

06:41 the Prophet (pbuh) as the head of the family,

06:44 so how easy is it to perform this Nikah,

06:47 how much details are there in the Sunnah,

06:50 we wanted that our viewers should know about it.

06:53 This is a recap of the previous program,

06:56 which I have tried to keep.

06:59 I would like to say that we have made the practice of marriage,

07:01 the practice of Nikah, an unreligious practice.

07:04 And the result of this is that we have thought that

07:07 marriage is only a means of calming our emotions,

07:10 and it has nothing to do with religion,

07:13 except that we get Nikah done,

07:16 because it is a part of religion,

07:19 we think that it is just to get two words of Nikah recited.

07:22 This is actually a complete religious process,

07:25 and there is no religious practice in it,

07:28 there is a discussion of it in the Quran,

07:30 the Sunnah of the Prophet (pbuh) is there,

07:33 and the limit is that in some cases,

07:36 obviously this program is watched by the whole world,

07:39 the whole family, so some things cannot be directly discussed with you,

07:42 the limit is that during the relationship of the wife,

07:45 there is also a command to recite prayers.

07:48 And this process, you can ask your nearest Ulema,

07:51 or those who have religious knowledge,

07:54 what are the methods,

07:57 there are also matters of washing,

07:59 when will the washing be obligatory,

08:02 the relationship of the wife,

08:05 all these are religions, we consider it a game.

08:08 This is a part of religion,

08:11 and in the same way, you see,

08:14 today people search the whole world to find proposals,

08:17 there is order placement, which people call Jihas,

08:20 which is not imagined in the Sunnah,

08:23 we have invented Jihas,

08:26 the Prophet (pbuh) gave some things to Bibi Fatima Zahra,

08:28 which was sold by Sayyedina Ali (r.a)

08:31 through his Zira,

08:34 and through that, the matter was solved,

08:37 these explanations have been made,

08:40 to say that, placing an order of furniture,

08:43 and the concept of boutique,

08:46 and the expensive, long, wide expenses of clothes,

08:49 we spend a whole year for this,

08:52 and a book based on a few pages,

08:55 and half an hour of knowledge,

08:57 we spend 15-20 minutes to read that book,

09:00 we are not ready for that,

09:03 what is the reason, we are not considering it a part of religion.

09:06 If we start this, then in whichever gathering it happens,

09:09 the religious scholars,

09:12 Qazi Sahib, whoever they are,

09:15 if they say this, then the ones who are going to get married,

09:18 they will benefit from this.

09:21 That is why you remember,

09:24 many religious scholars,

09:26 when they teach Nikah,

09:29 the verses that are recited,

09:32 Surah Al-Imran, verse 102,

09:35 Surah Nisa, verse 1,

09:38 Surah Ahzab, verse 77-71,

09:41 these four verses, the Prophet (pbuh) used to recite

09:44 on the occasions, and in the Nikah sermon as well.

09:47 Many scholars translate this,

09:50 but it is very important that not everyone does this.

09:53 But, the Prophet (pbuh) arranged for this,

09:55 and we also tried to do this,

09:58 that when we teach Nikah,

10:01 we have a 15-20 minute discussion,

10:04 the translation of these verses,

10:07 the mention of the Ahadith in the previous program,

10:10 the mention of the examples of 2-3 Nikahs,

10:13 how easy Nikah is to mention,

10:16 the criticism of the Khurafat that we have included,

10:19 the discussion of making the practice of Nikah easy,

10:22 and you will find many books on this,

10:24 and now online,

10:27 you don't even have to go, you can search,

10:30 and you can find many things on PDF.

10:33 You just said that the prayers on the occasion of establishing

10:36 the relationship of the spouses,

10:39 so there is no need to go anywhere for this,

10:42 you can search for the books on the prayer of the Masnoon,

10:45 and you will find the prayers right now.

10:49 The prayer of the spouses,

10:51 that is, Allah Akbar,

10:54 save him from the attacks of Satan,

10:57 this is one prayer,

11:00 and when the relationship is established,

11:03 Allahumma la taja'al lish-shay-taani fee ma razaq-o-tani naseeba

11:06 aila jo rizq-o-tu mujhe ata farmaye,

11:09 do not include the part of Satan in it,

11:12 the children will never come into the world again,

11:15 as a result of which relationship,

11:18 and the protection of that child,

11:20 and the protection of his parents,

11:23 in order to save them from the attacks of Satan,

11:26 these prayers,

11:29 the Prophet (pbuh) has taught us,

11:32 this is a part of the religion,

11:35 listen to this,

11:38 after a long conversation in a Hadith,

11:41 the Prophet (pbuh) said,

11:44 when the spouses establish a relationship,

11:47 the Prophet (pbuh) said,

11:49 this person fulfills his desire,

11:52 he will be rewarded,

11:55 now see what a wonderful thing the Prophet (pbuh) said,

11:58 from which we know what our religious nature is,

12:01 if he fulfills his desire by turning his face towards Haram,

12:04 then it will be a sin,

12:07 when he fulfills his desire through Halal,

12:10 he will be rewarded,

12:13 this is a part of the religion,

12:16 establishing a relationship is a part of the religion,

12:18 and in the future,

12:21 this is a part of the religion,

12:24 and the marriage is a part of the religion,

12:27 so you should learn from the scholars,

12:30 we consider this a social activity,

12:33 not a personal activity,

12:36 we will come back to this,

12:39 Assalamu Alaikum,

12:43 Assalamu Alaikum,

12:45 the point was that

12:48 marriage is not a non-religious activity,

12:51 and when this concept,

12:54 I am conveying all these things to you through Shuja Sahab,

12:57 when this concept is clear,

13:00 it is a purely religious activity,

13:03 on which there will be reward,

13:06 and a reward,

13:09 and in the future,

13:12 our life will have a positive impact on it,

13:14 so when this concept is clear,

13:17 then we will not do this marriage,

13:20 with a sense of non-religion,

13:23 then we will think that this is a religious activity,

13:26 and to include non-religious things in religious activities,

13:29 will be a sin.

13:32 Yes, the Quran says in another way,

13:35 "Do not mix truth with falsehood"

13:38 this is a very important teaching,

13:41 that in a religious activity,

13:43 do not include non-religious things,

13:46 Hindu rituals,

13:49 sins, and disobedience,

13:52 this is why we do not get blessings.

13:55 So Allah's Prophet (PBUH)

13:58 guided us through his fingers,

14:01 and gave us guidance for every single matter of life,

14:04 and marriage is not a small matter,

14:07 it is a matter of a lifetime,

14:10 and if you are doing this before your death,

14:12 then you should know,

14:15 like you take time to find a match,

14:18 and you take time to book a banquet,

14:21 and you take time to make gold ornaments,

14:24 and you take time to make furniture,

14:27 and you take time to do all these things,

14:30 then you should know what is the Sunnah teaching about this,

14:33 and I would like to request our Ahimams,

14:36 and Nikah Khans,

14:39 that those who do not follow this,

14:41 it becomes a matter of religious responsibility,

14:44 that the people who are doing Nikah,

14:47 do they give Friday Sermon or not?

14:50 Our Friday Sermon is in Arabic,

14:53 why? Because people do not know Arabic,

14:56 we go to the Arab world,

14:59 and we have a 20 minute Arabic sermon,

15:02 so why do you do a speech in Urdu,

15:05 Punjabi, Sindhi, Baluchi, Pashto,

15:08 and you get tired of 15-20 minutes,

15:10 so the Nikah sermon was given by the Prophet (PBUH),

15:13 so if you recite some verses,

15:16 then translate it, clarify it,

15:19 so that the people who come,

15:22 take the message and leave,

15:25 so this is the responsibility of Ahimams,

15:28 Nikah Khans, and our scholars,

15:31 who are doing this,

15:34 and those who are not,

15:37 if they have not started Nikah.

15:39 [Hassan] The discussion we were having,

15:42 about Nikah, now its importance is clear,

15:45 Nikah's importance is proven by the Quran,

15:48 and the Sunnah of the Prophet (PBUH)

15:51 is not a place to talk about it further,

15:54 because whatever the Prophet (PBUH)

15:57 explained, taught, and explained,

16:00 there can be no further discussion on it,

16:03 you said this is what to do,

16:06 and you said that the sermon is given on the day of Nikah,

16:08 and the third occasion is so important,

16:11 that you used to give a sermon on the occasion of Nikah,

16:14 we don't have that tradition,

16:17 although this is the most important Sunnah of the Prophet (PBUH)

16:20 [Ghamidi] What do you mean by this is not a tradition,

16:23 please explain this a little,

16:26 most of the occasions of Nikah,

16:29 are in the lawn, in the banquet,

16:32 in the open ground,

16:35 in the city and the area of Pakistan,

16:37 and in other places,

16:40 so a large group of people, 300-400 people,

16:43 there is no sound system,

16:46 [Hassan] Now they use it for music,

16:49 [Ghamidi] No, it is for music,

16:52 it is on the day of Nikah,

16:55 what happens,

16:58 some verses are recited,

17:01 and then the voice is raised,

17:04 but in mosques,

17:06 the sound system is there,

17:09 and if you are getting married in a lawn,

17:12 in a banquet,

17:15 you have spent lakhs of rupees,

17:18 to install a sound system,

17:21 you can take a few thousand rupees on rent,

17:24 what is the problem,

17:27 we say that it is necessary,

17:30 otherwise, those who give Nikah,

17:33 they do a short sermon in Arabic,

17:35 because our people do not know Arabic,

17:38 so on the occasion of Nikah,

17:41 you have recited the verses in Arabic,

17:44 they do not know anything,

17:47 what was said, what was taught,

17:50 what was the message, what was the guidance,

17:53 what was the guidance,

17:56 we say that if it is done,

17:59 it will be beneficial,

18:02 if it is not done,

18:04 it will be harmful,

18:07 if it is not done,

18:10 it will be harmful,

18:13 if it is not done,

18:16 it will be harmful,

18:19 if it is not done,

18:22 it will be harmful,

18:25 if it is not done,

18:28 it will be harmful,

18:31 and we have said many times,

18:33 that the parents of daughters,

18:36 do not have to spend a single rupee,

18:39 all the responsibility of security is on the husband,

18:42 the husband has to give the dowry,

18:45 the husband has to distribute the food,

18:48 the husband has to do the reception,

18:51 he has to pay the rent,

18:54 he has to take care of the wife,

18:57 he has to take care of the children,

19:00 he has to take care of the children,

19:02 and the father of the son,

19:05 may face some problems,

19:08 he has to manage the children,

19:11 if the son is not able to earn,

19:14 the father has to support him,

19:17 and it is a good thing,

19:20 but we are going backwards,

19:23 we are the parents of the daughters,

19:26 and the Sunnah says,

19:29 that the responsibility of security is on the son,

19:31 and the responsibility of security is on the husband,

19:34 and if the responsibility is on the son,

19:37 then it will be on the husband,

19:40 and the parents of the daughters,

19:43 should not be worried,

19:46 and they should not be worried,

19:49 we are worried at this time,

19:52 I want to discuss one thing,

19:55 ladies and gentlemen,

19:58 the gold jewellery,

20:00 it is a must,

20:03 and the expensive suits,

20:06 I was not conscious at that time,

20:09 when I came to know,

20:12 that on the wedding day,

20:15 they wear a lehenga,

20:18 it costs 3.5 lakh rupees,

20:21 2.5 lakh rupees,

20:24 and they wear it for a day,

20:27 and it is a good fashion,

20:29 and no one wears it after the Maudood era,

20:32 it costs 2.5 lakh rupees,

20:35 and now with your permission,

20:38 and the viewers will remember,

20:41 you are talking about the 20th century,

20:44 I do not know,

20:47 I was aware of it,

20:50 when my daughter was getting married,

20:53 when I was told all this,

20:56 I was joking,

20:58 that if someone starts giving such suits on rent,

21:01 then it will be easy for people,

21:04 and people will start giving on rent,

21:07 that give me 50,000 rupees,

21:10 and return it in the morning,

21:13 this is also a matter,

21:16 so the bride's suit,

21:19 it has reached 20 lakh, 25 lakh, 30 lakh rupees,

21:22 and in this, 5 girls can get married,

21:25 and I can say,

21:27 that from where the daughters got married,

21:30 they left the mosque,

21:33 and there was no expense,

21:36 and we say that those boys,

21:39 who need support,

21:42 to help the family,

21:45 so that it is easy for them,

21:48 to keep their honor,

21:51 and to become someone's daughter,

21:54 Allah says,

21:56 "Wa ma arsal laka illa rahmatan lil aalameen"

21:59 so the teachings of Sunnah of "Rahmatan lil aalameen"

22:02 is mercy,

22:05 today we have left the teachings of Sunnah,

22:08 and we are in trouble,

22:11 and we are creating problems,

22:14 and the solution to this is the following of Sunnah,

22:17 which we are talking about with great pain.

22:21 I have also read many hadiths,

22:23 and I have also got the knowledge,

22:26 the hadith was that,

22:29 create ease, do not create problems,

22:32 now what I said,

22:35 that you people are sitting,

22:38 and I am saying this because all people are sitting,

22:41 so they will think about it,

22:44 and may be some will react on it,

22:47 and start acting on it,

22:50 and start making suits of 25 lakhs,

22:52 this is not necessary,

22:55 get your daughter married,

22:58 and later after marriage,

23:01 if they are in need,

23:04 then give them gifts,

23:07 if you want to give gold to your daughter,

23:10 then give according to your convenience,

23:13 if you want to serve your son in law,

23:16 then do it later,

23:19 this can continue later,

23:21 is it necessary to do all this at the time of marriage?

23:24 Let us discuss this also,

23:27 as you said, it is not necessary to give gold,

23:30 it is not necessary to make expensive suits,

23:33 now see from another angle,

23:36 the current economic situation of people,

23:39 especially in Pakistan,

23:42 60-70% population below poverty level,

23:45 and Allah has kept in his words,

23:48 that in big cities,

23:50 where is the place of theft and robbery,

23:53 now people are using artificial jewellery,

23:56 and it is very good,

23:59 those families will understand this,

24:02 that they have good jewellery,

24:05 not of gold,

24:08 and that is it.

24:11 But only for decoration,

24:14 no one is touching it,

24:17 and it is not for decoration,

24:19 it can be done with artificial jewellery,

24:22 but it will reduce the burden on your pocket.

24:25 And this is a very important point,

24:28 because some people say about us,

24:31 that we are very strict,

24:34 when we say that there is no concept of dowry,

24:37 when we say that there is no expenditure in the girl's life,

24:40 then our people are very much against it,

24:43 but we are ready to bear it,

24:46 but we are firm on the fact that

24:48 we should make it easy for the girl to get married.

24:51 Now let us tell you the solution to this.

24:54 You are a father of a child,

24:57 does your daughter ever go empty handed?

25:00 MashaAllah, when she comes home,

25:03 first of all she comes after many years,

25:06 because she is out of the city,

25:09 and when she comes, she is a father.

25:12 And does your daughter's child ever go empty handed?

25:15 After the end of your marriage,

25:17 in the programme 'Seeratun Nabi Sallallahu Alaihe Walaikum'

25:20 you were saying that if you have the means,

25:23 you can give everything, but don't give it all.

25:26 After marriage, give a little bit.

25:29 Now if this is the concept,

25:32 and the world has not seen it,

25:35 then if the world sees it,

25:38 then such conditions will remain as they are.

25:42 But you have to give everything.

25:44 I am taking this point forward.

25:47 I was talking to the doctor directly.

25:50 Our daughters, who are married,

25:53 when their children come home,

25:56 does it ever happen that they go empty handed?

25:59 MashaAllah, sometimes the heart also wants it.

26:02 They are taking their clothes,

26:05 toys, books, cash, fruits,

26:08 the mother is preparing something for her daughter,

26:11 for her in-laws, for her in-laws,

26:13 everything is fine, but who has stopped them?

26:16 Why are we saying this at the time of marriage?

26:19 And what you said, to express, to show.

26:22 When we express it like this,

26:25 then forgive me, there are those who keep an eye on it.

26:28 And the eye is cast, isn't it?

26:31 Then there are those who talk.

26:34 Then in every family, there are people of every financial status.

26:39 Some will be rich, some will be less, some will be very poor.

26:41 Now when they see the families,

26:44 the daughters of those families,

26:47 the daughters whose parents cannot afford,

26:50 they go into frustration.

26:53 They are victims of complexity.

26:56 Then emotions are born inside.

26:59 The mother of those daughters will also demand from her husband.

27:02 The daughters will demand from their father,

27:05 from their brothers, if it happened at her time, then at our time too.

27:08 Now that poor man, he will not get food.

27:10 When the parents are going to the wedding,

27:13 the food they are eating,

27:16 they are eating poison,

27:19 seeing that my daughter has seen so much, I have also seen, how will I do?

27:22 That food becomes poison for them.

27:25 Now as a result of this, hatred in the families,

27:28 as a result of this, the matter of feeling of inferiority,

27:31 the matter of frustration, the matter of depression,

27:34 which you said, the matter of becoming sugar,

27:37 as it is,

27:39 now the father will also say, my daughter's wish,

27:42 he will steal, he will rob,

27:45 or if the poor man is in trouble, he will take out a loan and spend his whole life in debt.

27:48 He will be a brother, he will rob, he will steal,

27:51 or if he is a little light handed, he will take out a loan and sit,

27:54 he will go to the debtor, in the world, the funeral of the debtor is not accepted,

27:57 whose debt is not to be paid.

28:00 All these things are mixed up.

28:03 So at least do this, she is your daughter, Alhamdulillah.

28:06 The scholars have said a very beautiful thing,

28:08 Allah Almighty had given you a daughter,

28:11 she was born, you took care of her, you paid all her expenses,

28:14 you paid for her school, college, education,

28:17 for her clothes, for her illness,

28:20 and if she had any problem, you would fulfill her needs.

28:23 Till today, have you told anyone that I have spent so much on education,

28:26 I have spent so much on clothes, on illness, have you told anyone?

28:30 I have done the wedding, I am showing the world.

28:34 If you did that, then it was your responsibility, Alhamdulillah.

28:36 Now you give something, give, who has stopped you from giving your daughter?

28:40 Don't show her, don't tell her, this is what we are requesting.

28:44 Actually, the purpose is to give, to support the children,

28:47 so do it later, it is not to show the world.

28:50 Ok, I will do it later.

28:53 She is your daughter, give her something before the wedding.

28:56 Give her something before the wedding,

28:59 don't show her, don't tell her.

29:03 In some places, this also happens,

29:05 in cities, in villages, in small cities, this happens,

29:09 and here, I have seen it in Karachi,

29:12 that one day, the dowry is displayed.

29:15 Yes, yes.

29:17 If a tent is set up, all the dowry is displayed.

29:20 Then a movie is made.

29:22 Yes, a movie is made, people are told to come, see and burn.

29:25 Forgive me.

29:27 This is what we oppose.

29:30 The women come to the homes, the sisters come to the homes,

29:32 we respect them, we have values,

29:35 no one has put a barrier in this.

29:38 But the ones who are showing off, showing off,

29:41 and then those boys who are demanding,

29:44 I say this is a matter of dishonesty.

29:47 Let me clear this also, why we are saying this.

29:50 The boys who demand,

29:53 they are Allah's servants,

29:57 you have made her your wife,

29:59 so you will be responsible for her dowry.

30:02 Or if you are getting married, you are going to make her your wife,

30:05 the dowry is on you for the rest of your life.

30:08 And if you want to start, you are asking so much,

30:11 what expectation will you have that you will be her dowry for the rest of your life?

30:14 This is causing another loss.

30:17 Viewers, think about it, I am talking to you very seriously.

30:20 This is not my personal experience, but it is my observation.

30:23 This is also causing a loss,

30:26 so the son-in-law who is going to be your husband,

30:28 the one you are getting married to,

30:31 a special image of yours is forming in his mind.

30:34 Then through his daughter or some other reason,

30:37 he keeps on demanding you indirectly.

30:40 He knows that his in-laws are very strong.

30:43 He keeps on demanding you for some reason.

30:46 This is also a social issue.

30:49 Now it is a very bitter thing.

30:53 Are we establishing relationships that will last for the rest of our lives?

30:57 Or are we doing business?

31:00 This is the tone of business.

31:03 If you give me, I will keep the matter in order.

31:06 In terms of maintaining relationships,

31:09 even if you don't give me, I will fulfill my duty.

31:12 There are such families, and I know such families.

31:15 I have hundreds of students, and thousands of friends and family members.

31:20 They are such people who go to their in-laws,

31:23 and they feel that the food there is not even appropriate.

31:27 They feel that this is the house of the wife's father,

31:30 and he does not give them anything.

31:33 If he had given them something, they would not have taken it.

31:36 In fact, they get angry if the daughter brings something.

31:39 Why did you bring it? It was not there in your house.

31:42 If I say goodwill in their mind, then it is that I am not becoming a burden.

31:45 This is it.

31:49 What kind of a creature is this?

31:51 Where did it come from?

31:54 Is there a sister of this son-in-law?

31:57 The sister who is married, will she be married?

32:00 Will there be a son-in-law of this family tomorrow?

32:03 What is your expectation about that?

32:06 And what is his attitude?

32:09 Sometimes we have put a mark on the son-in-law's head.

32:12 We have started giving our extraordinary protocol.

32:15 Why? Your daughter is there, and he is also a son.

32:18 You treat your son the same way.

32:20 Why did you make him a VIP?

32:23 What do you mean? Is there a mark on his head?

32:26 Actually, we have created fear in our heart.

32:29 He should not trouble our daughter.

32:32 If his upbringing is not right,

32:35 then if you give him the treasure of law, he will trouble.

32:38 This is a part of his nature.

32:41 If he is not trained,

32:44 then he will not even like to drink tea at your house.

32:47 He will not drink tea because he does not like it.

32:49 He will drink tea because he does not like to be burdened.

32:52 So, what will he do?

32:55 Now, let us look at the word 'tribulation'.

32:58 We have also said in these sessions that

33:01 when you decide on a marriage,

33:04 the Prophet (pbuh) said that

33:07 four things are considered when it comes to marriage.

33:10 Beauty, family, wealth, righteousness and religiousness.

33:13 The Prophet (pbuh) said that

33:16 you should give priority to these four things.

33:18 The rest of the things are later.

33:21 Beauty, wealth, family, religiousness.

33:24 But, what should you give priority to?

33:27 You should give priority to righteousness,

33:30 character and reputation.

33:33 So, the point is that

33:36 if the wealth is good,

33:39 the family is good,

33:42 and the income is good,

33:45 then you should give priority to the wealth.

33:47 So, the Prophet (pbuh) is advising

33:50 that you should give priority to

33:53 religiousness, righteousness and character.

33:56 When it comes to 'tribulation',

33:59 there is no need to be afraid

34:02 that the son-in-law will keep our daughter happy.

34:05 The fate has already been written by Allah.

34:08 We have a strange concept.

34:11 When we meet our daughter,

34:14 we give her a strange prayer.

34:16 We say that may Allah bless her fate.

34:19 Have you ever given this prayer to your son?

34:22 Why? Doesn't the son have a good fate?

34:25 You always pray for your daughter that

34:28 may Allah bless her fate.

34:31 Why don't you bless your son's fate?

34:34 Will you leave your son after cursing him

34:37 that he will go and find a job?

34:40 How he earns money, how he spends his life,

34:43 all these things have become strange

34:45 and we are in trouble.

34:48 We have already discussed this in detail.

34:51 But what was the bottom line?

34:54 If you perform the holy, pure and pure act of Nikah

34:57 according to the Sunnah of the Prophet (pbuh)

35:00 then you will receive blessings and mercy.

35:03 If you delay Nikah without any reason,

35:06 make it difficult,

35:09 make it a burden,

35:12 we are witnessing the terrible consequences

35:14 of this in our society.

35:17 When shame is being lost,

35:20 and the honour is being lost,

35:23 the holy, pure and pure acts are being attacked,

35:26 the evil acts of the devil are being proved.

35:29 The big solution is to make the Nikah act easier

35:32 and to perform it according to the Sunnah of the Prophet (pbuh)

35:35 then only will we receive blessings in our homes,

35:38 our shame will be protected

35:41 and we will be able to live a peaceful life.

35:43 Why?

35:46 The Holy Quran says in Surah Ar-Rum, verse 20

35:49 "You have made your partners out of yourselves,

35:52 so that you may go to your partners and seek peace."

35:55 So Nikah was for peace,

35:58 for destruction, for trouble,

36:01 for destruction, for fights,

36:04 for the loss of honour,

36:07 and for the matters of shame.

36:10 Nikah was for peace and comfort,

36:12 but only when it was performed according to the Sunnah of the Prophet (pbuh)

36:15 and it was performed according to the Sunnah of the Prophet (pbuh)

36:18 Actually, these are two positions on which you are promoted.

36:21 Till now you were children,

36:24 you were your parents.

36:27 Now you have grown up,

36:30 Allah has made you reach the position

36:33 where you are going to become a parent.

36:36 The first position you have got is very important,

36:39 you have become the husband of a family member.

36:41 The second position is that you have become the wife of a family member

36:44 and you have become the queen of that family.

36:47 So these are big positions and for big positions,

36:50 you need a lot of training.

36:53 Today's program is coming to an end,

36:56 so I would like to request Shoaib to present today's Hadith

36:59 and then we will start the next program.

37:02 The Prophet (pbuh) said, "The best of people are those who benefit others."

37:05 Who is the best person among people

37:08 who is the best of people?

37:10 So may Allah enable us to be the source of benefit and mercy for people,

37:15 and not the source of trouble and trouble.

37:18 With this, our time for today's program has come to an end.

37:21 Mr. Shijratuddin Sheikh and his guest Dr. Mehmood Ghaznavi

37:24 are allowed to continue with the next program.

37:27 May Allah bless you.

37:29 Wa-Salaam-o-Alaikum wa-rahmatullahi wa-barakatuhu.

37:32 Allah Huwa Salli 'Ala Sayyidina wa Maulana Muhammadun 'Ala

37:47 Sayyidina Muhammadun 'Ala

38:03 - I hate it.

Seerat Un Nabi (SAWW) - The Life of Holy Prophet Muhammad SAWW - 12 Jan 2024 - ARY Qtv

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