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00:00 Me too!
00:01 Let's see.
00:02 Very cerebral type.
00:03 Wow, cerebral!
00:04 Cerebral!
00:05 This episode is science.
00:07 From your fruits to our anatomy.
00:10 It's like a class.
00:12 Eyes to eyes.
00:13 Okay.
00:14 Tell us, LQ, how long did it take for Mars to make you cry?
00:18 Because we don't have time.
00:20 That's what she said earlier.
00:22 How many hours did Mars take?
00:24 It's like a clock.
00:25 Do we need a part 2 of this, Mars?
00:28 Mars made you cry?
00:30 Yes.
00:31 In my line of work, we're expected to make people happy.
00:37 And whenever we express vulnerability, especially on social media,
00:41 people say, "You can do it!"
00:44 I really hate when people are going through something and then somebody says,
00:48 "It's okay. I'm here."
00:50 So I veer away from posting anything personal on social media.
00:56 I really try to make it work.
00:57 But when a strong person cries,
00:59 that's the time you know it's really painful.
01:03 So please, especially during the pandemic, if you are listening today,
01:07 check on your friends, especially the strongest ones.
01:11 Those who appear to be fine and okay,
01:14 those who appear to handle everything quite well,
01:17 they are the ones that are not discussing the things that are hurting you.
01:21 So I have a friend, she's really close to me, her name is Carla.
01:25 When I'm quiet,
01:27 I'm really loud, right?
01:29 You're not! You're really quiet.
01:31 I'm really quiet in person.
01:33 You're the one who's quiet.
01:35 So when I'm quiet, she knows something is wrong.
01:39 "Aha, she's not posting, aha, she's not replying,
01:42 I'm in the message zone or something."
01:44 She called me up.
01:46 She didn't even ask.
01:48 And then tears were just running down my face.
01:50 We weren't talking, she was just listening to me sobbing and all of that.
01:54 So she didn't even ask anything?
01:56 She just poured out her feelings?
02:00 It's like they already know.
02:02 They know what's going on.
02:04 And the trigger is something so trivial, something so small.
02:07 Let's say you're chopping vegetables,
02:09 and you didn't cut it the way you wanted,
02:12 and it's like, "Not everything is going my way!
02:14 Why can't I have a win today?"
02:16 And then all the pent-up emotions will come together.
02:21 So when we cried, the comedians or the clowns in your group of friends,
02:27 the life of the party,
02:29 everything was just a little bit up to the upper man,
02:33 and then it just exploded one day.
02:35 So what I did was, rather than discussing the problem itself,
02:40 we talked about how our friend was laughing,
02:43 and we were laughing at the people we saw on our page.
02:47 And then later, we were laughing.
02:49 So it was just crazy.
02:50 So when you take care of yourself,
02:52 and you think about, "What is this teaching me?"
02:54 Rather than, "Here we go again, here we go again."
02:58 Then there's no moving forward.
03:00 So my take on that is, whenever we have problems, understand it.
03:04 And if you need to cry, you need to be lonely, you need to be sad,
03:08 just embrace the emotion and then move forward after that.
03:11 And don't keep it to yourself, bottled up like that.