Deen e Fitrat - Topic: Shaadi Aur Nikah (Hissa 3) - Shaykh Mufti Tauqeer - 11 Feb 2024 - ARY Qtv - video Dailymotion

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00:00 As-salamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu.

00:07 Alhamdulillahi wa kafa wa salamu ala ibadihi allatheena ustafa amma ba'd.

00:14 Fa'udhu billahi minash shaitanir rajim.

00:17 Bismillahir rahmanir rahim.

00:19 Allahumma salli ala sayyidina wa nabiyyina Muhammad wa ala aali sayyidina wa habibina

00:24 Muhammadin.

00:25 Wa barik wa sallim wa la hawla wa la quwwata illa billahi l-Aliyyi l-Azeem.

00:31 We were talking about marriage last week and we said that marriages should be made

00:38 easy.

00:39 The Prophet (PBUH) said that the best Nikah is the one that is the easiest.

00:45 It also has blessings.

00:47 We do all these functions and the first thing that happens is that there is a lot of trouble

00:55 and people take loans.

00:57 And then we set up a peer pressure.

01:02 If I have money and I can do it but when I do it I set an example for the rest of the

01:11 people.

01:12 Now those poor people who don't have money, you know that in our society the internal

01:19 strength is very low.

01:21 That a person stands on principles and follows his own principles is very low.

01:27 No one has the courage to say that despite the fact that he doesn't have money and he

01:33 says that he doesn't have money then it's okay I won't do it.

01:37 He looks at the environment around him.

01:39 And people also pressure him that if he has a son and a daughter then he won't even do

01:45 the functions.

01:46 He is forced to take loans from people and then he does all the functions.

01:51 If we set an example, number one is the advice of the Prophet (PBUH) that he should marry

02:05 easily.

02:06 In fact, there is a Hadith in Mubarakah that he should go to the mosque and do one function

02:11 of Wali-e-Mai.

02:12 So we will set an example and God willing it will be easy for people and those who will

02:18 find it easy will also be rewarded by God.

02:22 So, we should make the Nikahs easy and then after Nikah, it is necessary to fulfill the

02:29 rights of the husband and wife.

02:32 It is unfortunate that we do Nikahs and get married but we don't know what the rights

02:39 of the person who comes in our life are.

02:42 And we have said this in the previous episodes that not giving someone's right is an oppression

02:48 and oppression is such a sin that on the day of judgement these people will catch us.

02:53 God willing, those who have been oppressed by us will come and catch us on the day of

02:59 judgement.

03:00 They will come and ask for our good deeds as per the Hadith of Mubarakah because there

03:06 is no money or dollars to be earned there.

03:09 Only good and bad deeds will be used.

03:12 So, these people will come and ask for our good deeds and whatever good deeds we have

03:18 done, if they come and ask for it and take away those good deeds from us, then according

03:23 to the Hadith of Mubarakah, we will have nothing left.

03:26 So, make sure that before getting married, we know the rights of the husband and wife

03:33 so that we don't oppress them.

03:37 God willing, we will talk about the rights of the wives.

03:42 The first right is their Mahar.

03:46 And giving good Mahar according to our status, as much as we have financial status, as much

03:55 as we have status as a girl, is a religious duty.

04:01 Prophet Kareem (PBUH) set the Mahar of his daughter, beloved daughter Syeda Fatima (R.A)

04:11 at the time of 480 Dirhams.

04:15 Which is more or less 1470 grams of silver.

04:21 And if you see the rate of 1470 grams of silver, it is a little more than 3 lakh rupees.

04:28 Which we also call Mehra Fatima.

04:31 And this is a middle sort of Mahar.

04:39 Because Syeda Ali (R.A) who married Syeda Fatima (R.A) did not have much money at that

04:46 time.

04:47 So this is a moderate middle Mahar.

04:51 So Mahar should be given well because it is the right of the wife.

04:55 The biggest issue in Mahar, which I have observed personally, is that either it is given very

05:04 little or it is given a lot.

05:09 But it is given to show people that he will give 10 crore rupees or 5 crore rupees.

05:17 But after that he does not give it to the wife.

05:20 And sometimes it is forced, pressurized to forgive Mahar.

05:27 If she does not forgive with her heart, then it will be a crime.

05:31 If she forgives with her heart, it is her wish.

05:34 But it is not good to write such a Mahar and decide between husband and wife what is going

05:41 to happen.

05:42 Which the husband can give to his wife and give it to her and give it quickly.

05:48 If there is a delay, then it can be delayed.

05:52 Which is called Mehra Muajjal and Mehra Muajjal Ain.

05:56 Which is given immediately and Muajjal with a little delay.

06:01 So it is better to decide a good Mahar and the woman who is getting married should be

06:11 accepted.

06:12 Because at the end of the day it is her gift.

06:16 So please be careful about this.

06:20 Do not show off.

06:22 In any way we are Muslims and we do all our work for Allah.

06:29 This is called Ikhlas.

06:31 So we should have patience for Allah.

06:34 Allah knows our hearts.

06:36 We should not do it for show off.

06:38 We should not do it to tell people.

06:40 But we should have a good Mahar for Allah according to our financial status and the

06:44 financial status of the girl.

06:46 And we should pay it.

06:48 This is her right.

06:50 Other than this Allah says in the Quran that men are the Qawwam of women.

06:57 Qawwam means caretaker.

07:02 The one who takes care of her needs.

07:07 This is Qawwam.

07:09 All the financial needs of a woman, psychological needs, moral needs, intellectual needs.

07:18 All of these are the Qawwam of a husband.

07:21 All her needs, her personal needs, her clothes, her house, her place of residence, her daily needs.

07:33 All of these are the responsibilities of a husband.

07:36 Allah has made a husband as the Qawwam of the house, the caretaker.

07:40 So we should make sure that men earn and give to women.

07:46 There are many men who force their wives to work with them.

07:53 And I have seen this in many places that it is not that the needs are not being fulfilled.

08:01 They want to increase their financial status and social status.

08:08 If they are driving a small car, they want to drive a big car.

08:13 And if a big car does not come in the husband's salary,

08:16 they force their wives to work so that they can afford a big car.

08:23 See, the needs of life are different, luxuries are different.

08:28 There is no limit to luxuries.

08:30 If Allah gives someone a space in wealth and he can afford it,

08:39 then it is not haram at all that he drives a big car and lives in a big house.

08:44 There is no problem in this.

08:46 But the problem is when we do such things to get those luxuries that Allah does not like.

08:55 We force our wives to work.

08:59 We all know what the condition of our society is.

09:02 It is a very unfortunate thing that women are not given the respect,

09:09 the respect and the respect that they deserve in society.

09:14 You can go to any company, colleges, universities,

09:23 and see that notices are put everywhere that if there is any misbehavior with a woman, then report it.

09:33 What was the need to put all these notices?

09:37 Because it is unfortunate that this is happening.

09:41 And these are absolutely right notices and such things should be reported.

09:46 But do we want to force our wives to go to such environments where Allah does not want any misbehavior with them?

10:06 This is a strange thing.

10:09 There is no sign of a man.

10:14 Because he is a protector and a protector of his people.

10:17 He also protects them so that no one can misbehave with my wife.

10:23 So please think about this.

10:25 Allah has made a man responsible to earn.

10:30 In some places, a woman becomes helpless.

10:34 For example, she becomes a widow or divorced.

10:40 In principle, the society should still support her.

10:43 But in some places, she becomes a needy person because she has children and she has to support her children financially.

10:50 So she is forced to work.

10:53 These are exceptional circumstances.

10:55 But in normal circumstances, a man should take responsibility.

11:00 And especially if the children are young,

11:04 then the responsibility of the children is initially the first responsibility of the mother.

11:10 The mother's childbirth is the school of the children.

11:13 The first school of a child is the lap of the mother.

11:18 The mother's childbirth is the first school of the child.

11:20 And if the child is ignored at this level,

11:25 when the children are young and the mother is not available for them,

11:30 then the child becomes a victim of being ignored.

11:33 The father has to earn.

11:36 So anyway, this is a topic.

11:38 But it is the responsibility of a man to support his wife financially.

11:44 Allah has made him a protector.

11:47 Apart from this, we should also remember

11:51 that Prophet (PBUH) said that the greatest reward a man gets for spending is his own wife and children.

12:01 The greatest reward.

12:03 In a Hadith, a companion asked Prophet (PBUH) that he has wealth,

12:09 so on whom should I spend first?

12:12 So Prophet (PBUH) said, spend on yourself.

12:16 You should know that you earn.

12:21 A companion came in another incident,

12:23 whose clothes were old.

12:26 Prophet (PBUH) said that you do not have wealth.

12:30 He said, O Messenger of Allah, there is wealth of all kinds.

12:32 Allah has given a lot.

12:34 So Prophet (PBUH) said that you should be able to see.

12:37 If Allah has given wealth, then you should wear good clothes.

12:41 So first of all, spend on yourself.

12:45 The companion said, O Messenger of Allah, after that I will have more wealth.

12:49 So he said, spend on your wife.

12:52 He said, O Messenger of Allah, after that I will have more wealth.

12:55 He said, spend on your children.

12:57 He said, after that I will have more wealth.

13:00 He said, spend on your servant.

13:02 He said, O Messenger of Allah, after that I will have more wealth.

13:05 He said, after that you will know better.

13:07 After that it is your choice.

13:08 But these are the people on whom it is your responsibility to spend first.

13:15 Spend on them first.

13:18 On your wife and children.

13:20 Prophet (PBUH) also said in a hadith that

13:24 the man who puts that food in his wife's mouth,

13:29 he gets the reward of charity.

13:34 He gets reward for spending on his wife and children.

13:37 So according to your financial status,

13:41 you should spend on your wife and children.

13:44 And you should do it with the hope of Allah's reward.

13:50 After this, the husband is responsible for providing the place to live.

13:55 It is the wife's right.

13:57 And this is very much lacking in our society.

14:03 After marriage, people usually live in joint family systems.

14:07 And in joint family systems, many problems arise.

14:13 But one problem is that the wife does not get a private space where she can live.

14:18 She does not have a private space.

14:21 Providing a private space is the husband's responsibility.

14:25 If he can afford it, he should live in a separate house.

14:30 Even if it is on rent.

14:31 If he cannot afford it, then he should provide a portion of the house where he lives for his wife.

14:40 If he cannot afford it, then he should provide at least one room with a private bathroom

14:44 where he can easily come.

14:48 This is the wife's right.

14:53 In our society, women are unkindly in front of men.

14:57 And the husband's brother is unkind to the woman.

15:02 If he does not have a private space, how will he be able to roam freely in the house?

15:10 So, one should take care of this.

15:14 This is the wife's right.

15:16 That she should be given a private space where she can live comfortably in the house.

15:22 Where she can roam freely and work comfortably.

15:25 InshaAllah, we will continue this topic.

15:28 In the next episode, we will discuss in detail what are the rights of wives.

15:34 So that we can give the rights of wives and not oppress them.

15:38 And by the will of Allah, we will earn rewards.

15:41 You can email your questions to DineFitrat@arydigital.tv

15:46 We will take a short break and will be back with your questions.

15:50 Assalamu Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuhu

15:52 Welcome back, we are back with your questions.

15:56 You can email your questions to DineFitrat@arydigital.tv

16:01 Someone asked that I did not give the dowry that I had committed with my wife after marriage.

16:09 So what should I do now? It has been many years since I got married.

16:12 So the easy answer to this is that you should give it now.

16:16 And also apologize to your wife that you gave the dowry late.

16:23 And the wife should also happily ignore the fact that her husband gave the dowry after such a long time.

16:33 Dehra-e-durusta-e-t.

16:35 You should settle the matters with love and peace.

16:39 Someone also asked that I did not give the dowry in cash but instead my husband gave me gold jewelry as dowry.

16:53 So what is the order for this?

16:55 It is not necessary that it should be cash.

16:59 In fact, gold is better.

17:03 Cash is devalued, gold is not devalued.

17:06 So if someone is giving gold jewelry, then that is also good.

17:13 Another question that has been asked is a social issue.

17:20 The boy whose parents give gold jewelry to their son's wife, what is the order for that?

17:38 See, the boy's parents are giving gold jewelry to their son's wife.

17:50 I am assuming that it is a gift.

17:53 In other words, they are not giving it only for temporary use.

17:59 I am assuming this because no one does this.

18:03 If someone has a doubt, then please clarify that why is it given?

18:09 Is it given for temporary use or is it given to me?

18:14 But as I said, it is not that you wear it temporarily and then return it to me after a year.

18:21 Generally, it is given as a gift.

18:24 Please remember that when a gift is given to someone, that person becomes its owner.

18:32 If someone gifts me a pen, then I have become the owner of that pen.

18:40 Now I can write with that pen, I can gift that pen to someone, I can sell that pen.

18:47 It is my choice because I am the owner.

18:50 Similarly, the boy's parents gift their son's wife, their daughter-in-law, gold or whatever jewelry,

19:04 now that girl, their son's wife, has become its owner.

19:09 Now it is up to her to wear it or sell it or gift it to someone.

19:16 In our society, there is an expectation that the gold or jewelry that I have gifted to my son's wife,

19:26 she cannot sell it.

19:28 She will definitely wear it.

19:30 Another thing is that every person has a temperament.

19:34 I have a temperament and you have a temperament.

19:38 It is possible that I like one type of perfume and you like another type of perfume.

19:44 If I force you to wear the perfume that I like, you have to wear it too.

19:50 This is injustice.

19:52 Similarly, women know very well that every woman has a different temperament.

19:59 Some like gold, some like gold, some like white gold, some like diamonds.

20:07 Every woman has a different temperament.

20:11 If the boy's mother is gifting a particular type of jewelry to her daughter-in-law,

20:21 it is possible that the girl does not have the temperament to wear that type of jewelry.

20:27 But as I said, an expectation is set that the girl will definitely wear that gold or jewelry.

20:37 This is a little bit of injustice.

20:40 You gifted it and your intention should be that for Allah,

20:46 I repeat again that we are Muslims and our life is for Allah.

20:52 We give gifts to someone for Allah.

20:55 If I have gifted it to her, then it is for Allah with the expectation of Allah's reward.

21:01 And that's it.

21:02 Now if she does not want to wear it, it is her choice.

21:05 It is possible that she does not have the temperament and she has become a master.

21:09 Now to expect that she will keep it with her till her last breath is not at all permissible.

21:16 In the spirit of Islam and Shariah, because she is a master,

21:20 if she wants to sell it, she can sell it.

21:22 If she wants to gift it to someone else, she can give it.

21:24 There is another big problem with this and it is in the context of this that

21:29 even if Allah does not do it, the boy and the girl get divorced.

21:35 Now the parents of the boy, the gift that he gave to the girl,

21:43 they demand that it be returned.

21:46 This is common in our society.

21:48 This is very dangerous.

21:51 The Prophet (PBUH) said, I am explaining the meaning of a Hadith,

21:55 The Prophet (PBUH) said that whoever gives a gift to someone and he takes it back,

22:01 his example is like a dog that vomits and licks it.

22:08 What a bad example it is.

22:10 You see, in the Quran and Hadith, such examples are used to bring hatred.

22:16 It is also mentioned in the Quran that whoever does not act upon knowledge,

22:20 his example is like that donkey who has picked up books on himself.

22:26 That is, there are books but no action on knowledge.

22:29 So, such examples are used to bring hatred.

22:36 What a bad example it is to give a gift to a person and take it back.

22:41 You gave a gift and now you are demanding that the gift that I gave at the wedding,

22:47 the jewelry set and gold, return it.

22:50 This is not at all permissible.

22:54 So, we should take care of these things.

22:56 We should realize that we should not fall below the basis of our morals.

23:07 We should strengthen our character.

23:10 We should become those who love people,

23:13 who are merciful, who forgive people.

23:16 These are very important things.

23:18 Another question was that can Zakat be given in advance?

23:26 For example, if someone's Zakat calculation date is 1st Ramzan,

23:33 then he calculates his Zakat.

23:37 By the way, Zakat should be calculated on a particular day,

23:43 not on a month or a random date.

23:46 Because all the principles of Zakat calculation are related to the day and that too is an Islamic date.

23:56 Not according to our normal solar calendar.

24:01 So, for example, if someone calculates his Zakat on 1st Ramzan,

24:08 then can we give our Zakat in advance on the day of next year's 1st Ramzan?

24:17 The answer is yes, we can.

24:19 It is possible that a poor person needs Zakat and he deserves it.

24:24 We have given him our previous Zakat and we do not have any more money.

24:30 It is only possible that I give Zakat to him,

24:33 with the intention that this is the Zakat money.

24:38 And the Zakat that I will have to pay on 1st Ramzan,

24:44 I am giving that Zakat in advance.

24:47 You can do this.

24:49 For example, if you have 10,000 rupees,

24:53 then note down the 10,000 rupees that you have given in advance.

24:58 Now, when 1st Ramzan comes, and you calculate your Zakat,

25:04 all your cash, gold, silver, etc.

25:09 You add up all these and get 2.5% of it.

25:14 And for example, the Zakat that you have to give now,

25:17 you get 50,000 rupees out of 2.5%.

25:20 So, since you have given 10,000 rupees in advance,

25:23 you note down that you have to give 40,000 more.

25:29 You have given 10,000 and 40,000 are left.

25:34 You have to give 40,000.

25:36 It is absolutely possible that you can do this.

25:39 May Allah enable us all to understand our religion,

25:43 understand the principles of our society,

25:46 understand our morals,

25:48 improve our morals,

25:50 improve our morals,

25:52 and worship Allah in a way that we have the right to do so.

25:56 May we not fail in our duties.

25:59 May Allah enable us to be so that Allah is pleased with us.

26:03 And inshallah, the day we meet Allah,

26:06 on the day of our death,

26:08 may Allah grant us His pleasure in that day and in this life.

26:15 InshaAllah, we will meet again next week.

26:18 As I said, you can email me your questions.

26:21 dinefitrat@arydigital.tv

26:25 May Allah accept us all.

26:27 And the last of our supplication is,

26:29 All praise is due to Allah, Lord of the worlds.

26:31 Peace be upon you.

26:33 May Allah accept our supplication.

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