Victoria Volkova es una famosa modelo, vlogger, youtuber, maquillista, DJ y escritora conocida por su amplia trayectoria en las redes sociales y ser vocera de los derechos y calidad de vida de las mujeres trans. En este episodio de 17 Tips, la modelo y activista mexicana responde las preguntas de la audiencia de Glamour, sobre la importancia del amor propio, la autoaceptación y cómo empoderarte para tener relaciones más sanas.
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00:00 I feel like my boyfriend is hiding me because I'm trans.
00:03 This is too much to hide, right?
00:05 Hi, Glamour. I'm Victoria Volkova.
00:10 Welcome to 17 Tips.
00:12 This is the existential doubt jar.
00:19 We're going to answer all of them.
00:22 What do I do now?
00:24 Let's see.
00:25 I don't decide who I'd like to spend more time with on a deserted island.
00:30 Paris Hilton or Britney Spears.
00:32 This is complicated.
00:33 I'd go with Paris Hilton.
00:37 I feel like Paris guarantees fun.
00:39 I love Britney, but you never know what Paris Hilton will bring to your table.
00:44 So, yes, we love them.
00:46 Friendships are harder to last forever and when?
00:50 When you don't have sex with them and you don't have debts.
00:53 Long friendships are the ones that don't owe you money.
00:56 Sorry, these gloves make me look useless.
01:01 Can you change someone who said he was going to change and did it again?
01:05 The answer is no, girls.
01:07 I've been there many times.
01:09 Besides, you don't want someone to change you.
01:11 People don't change.
01:13 If they want to change, great.
01:14 If they do it on their own, great.
01:16 People don't change.
01:17 You better change or change him.
01:21 Life is happier when you have the right people in your life.
01:25 Period.
01:26 My friends disappear and only show up when they have a problem.
01:30 I feel like this is a topic that often scares us.
01:33 Like saying no.
01:34 And here you just have to say, "No, I don't love you anymore.
01:37 You don't work for me. Fuchi, bye."
01:38 What do I need to forge my character?
01:41 You have to accept that people will always have an opinion.
01:45 You'll never be able to find what people think of you.
01:48 And you won't be worrying about what they're thinking.
01:50 So, be it good or bad, it doesn't matter.
01:52 Do what you want.
01:53 And I feel like when you're happy, you're happier.
01:56 Passion comes back when...
02:01 This one got to me.
02:02 Shut up.
02:04 When you make the decision to do it.
02:07 I feel like passion doesn't come alone.
02:08 It's something that you work on.
02:09 You have to start doing those things that you're passionate about.
02:13 And once you're there, let the momentum take you.
02:16 Let's see.
02:19 It's like taking a lot of cookies from a fortune cookie.
02:21 I miss my boyfriend.
02:23 A little trip.
02:24 Of course, or he comes.
02:25 Or he pays you.
02:26 He pays you for a vacation, girl.
02:28 The secret to being memorable is...
02:31 Being yourself.
02:33 Being yourself.
02:34 I think the most memorable people
02:36 are the ones who try the least to be memorable.
02:39 There you go, girl.
02:40 I love that the papers match my outfit.
02:43 I feel like my boyfriend is hiding me because I'm trans.
02:46 I should be able to handle him.
02:48 Girl, what are you doing there?
02:50 No, obviously not.
02:52 You've endured that too much.
02:53 We endure too much in this society with our transition
02:55 so that we can endure people who can't stand themselves.
02:59 Bye.
02:59 Yes, girl, no.
03:01 How lame.
03:02 Besides, so much effort and so much...
03:04 So much of this to hide you.
03:06 No.
03:07 I see first for everyone before for me.
03:10 How do I fix that?
03:12 Why others first and why not you first?
03:14 What are you trying to hide?
03:15 I think we should do a little therapy here, baby.
03:19 Helping others can also be a way of not wanting to help.
03:24 Of course.
03:25 I feel like everything we do for others,
03:27 the "give, give, give" is a way of trying to ask
03:30 for what we're not receiving.
03:32 What we were never given.
03:33 When you're that person who gives a lot of love,
03:35 it's because you want to receive that love.
03:37 And because we avoid it.
03:38 We avoid it.
03:39 Go to therapy.
03:41 There are things that advice is solved
03:45 in the "go to therapy" part.
03:46 When do I know it's enough to end a relationship
03:50 that doesn't work anymore?
03:51 I think you're going to decide that.
03:54 I've been there and I think that no matter how much people tell you,
03:57 no matter how much people say, "Girl, realize it."
04:00 One will be there until you're getting on your knees
04:04 and you say, "I can't anymore."
04:05 It happened to me that I had an ex I had in front of me.
04:07 We went to dinner for our anniversary
04:09 and it was like, "I'm willing to another anniversary like this."
04:12 And I said, "Forgive me, but this is not going to work."
04:15 Kisses. I know you've gotten over me, that's good.
04:18 But no, you're going to realize it yourself.
04:20 How do I stop saying yes to everyone without feeling bad?
04:25 Do you know what works?
04:26 When you give another option.
04:28 Because I feel that many times we think
04:29 that he shouldn't be aggressive or that he's not rude.
04:31 So it should be a "No, I don't want to."
04:33 But it can be a "I don't want that."
04:35 But what do you think if, when you give another option,
04:38 I feel like it takes away a little bit of the guilt.
04:40 Ready. Simple.
04:42 They're running out and I'm liking this.
04:45 What is the accessory to look amazing with little effort?
04:49 The truth is that I could walk around naked and perfume.
04:53 Or your hair.
04:54 I feel like the best accessory is often not what you wear,
04:56 it's your hair or your eyebrows. That too.
04:59 How do I empower other women in the industry?
05:02 I think empowering is about showing off
05:05 the talents of all people.
05:06 It's like, "Look at this talented friend.
05:08 Look at this other talented friend.
05:10 We're all talented, we're all creative."
05:12 And I think that empowers you in itself.
05:15 How can I exercise my patience
05:17 in front of the people who work with me?
05:20 Breathing deeply.
05:23 Girl, breathe.
05:24 And also, knowing that we all have things
05:28 that we do that we don't realize,
05:29 that are like, "This person does this and I'm not liking it."
05:32 We're all walking this world and doing the best we can.
05:35 And that also helps you to see the human side
05:37 and have compassion with you and with others.
05:40 The last one.
05:41 Gold or silver for an event?
05:43 I saw a TikTok filter that tells you exactly
05:45 what your skin undertone is and what suits you best.
05:48 Because people who use a lot of gold
05:50 realize that gold doesn't suit them as well as silver.
05:52 So this is an exercise where you grab your TikTok filter
05:56 and see what suits you best.
05:57 I know I'm doing well, so I don't suffer with that.
06:00 Done, now more TikTok.
06:03 Thank you so much, Glamour, for joining me in my 17 tips.
06:06 And if you want to see more content like this, you know what to do.
06:09 What do I do now?
06:11 Sorry, these gloves make me a little useless.
06:14 You don't work for me, Fuchi, bye.
06:15 Shut up.
06:17 It's like taking a lot of cookies out of a fortune.
06:21 I love that the papers match my outfit.
06:23 But I've been there, been there.
06:25 There are things that the tips are summarized in therapy.
06:28 Kisses, I know you've surpassed me, that's good.
06:32 The truth is that I could walk around naked for the rest of my life.
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