Nicole Eggert Explains What People Should Not Say When Trying to Comfort Cancer Patients

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00:00 A lot of times the wrong thing to say is to put your journey on somebody else's journey.

00:04 So people will say, "Oh, well, by this time my hair was falling out and by this time I

00:12 became sick."

00:13 And it's just not the case.

00:16 Every body is different.

00:18 So like Jillian Barberi, who I just recently got to catch up with and who went through

00:22 this and never was sick and her hair fell out at a different time.

00:28 So it's really, you shouldn't put that on people because we already have so much going

00:32 on and worry and anticipation.

00:35 So you have to let everybody just do as they may.

00:40 So for instance, with hair loss, a lot of people I know didn't entirely lose all of

00:46 their hair.

00:47 So I left it for a while until I was like, "Okay, this is embarrassing.

00:50 I look like it's too much now.

00:54 I need to shave it off."

00:55 But I gave it that opportunity, you know, maybe, maybe it will just thin out and it'll

00:59 be fine.

01:01 But that wasn't my journey.

01:02 I'm losing all my hair.

01:03 So that's fine.

01:05 So we shave it.

01:06 But to say to somebody by the fourth week, you're going to feel terrible or by the second

01:12 week this is going to happen to you.

01:14 It's just not true.

01:15 So you shouldn't put those things.

01:16 You really should just listen.

01:18 I think it's a lot like in life in general, right?

01:20 Listening is better.

01:21 Listening and saying, "Good for you," giving affirmations and listening is probably the