Aired (May 3, 2024): Ibinahagi ni Jerieh ang naging experience niya ng kanyang kasal bago mawala ang kanyang bagong asawa.
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00:00You're in a Christian church, you're happy, you're wearing a gown, she's wearing a suit, she's wearing a suit,
00:11mommy's wearing a suit too, and there are flower girls. Is it the same for Christian weddings?
00:18Yes, but it's not just girls, it's teens.
00:24Oh, so it's not super young anymore?
00:26Yes, it's not super young anymore.
00:27And where's the reception?
00:28Right there where we got married.
00:31How was the wedding? Was it very solemn? Was it fun? Was it just chill?
00:38You can't explain the magic because for the first time in my life, that's where I celebrated.
00:47I never celebrated.
00:48At birthday?
00:49No, I didn't have a debut, it was just a birthday, but the celebration with family and all, that was the first time.
00:58So it's so magical for me, especially that my love is there, of course, right?
01:04I'm happy.
01:05I was so happy at that time.
01:08What song? Isn't there a song when you walk? Do you also walk on the aisle?
01:11Yes.
01:12What song?
01:13Her song is...
01:15Whose song is it?
01:18John Lennon.
01:20Who sings at your wedding?
01:23Him, because he's a singer.
01:25That's so cool, right?
01:26Yes.
01:27He's a hands-on coordinator.
01:29That's so cool.
01:30Patrick, at that time, was the gene of your wedding.
01:35Yes, yes.
01:36He also sang All of Me.
01:38Yes, him.
01:39What did you feel when you were walking and your husband was singing?
01:43When I saw him, I just wanted to run and...
01:48You were already with him.
01:49Yes, I was already with him.
01:51What did he look like? Was he handsome?
01:53Yes, he was handsome.
01:54I really saw that this is who I will be with for the rest of my life.
02:00That it's really us.
02:01So you were already married.
02:03Yes.
02:04Was there a reception there?
02:05Yes.
02:06What did you prepare?
02:07What did I prepare?
02:09Just the usual pesto and beef.
02:14Was it fun?
02:15Yes.
02:16Actually, I didn't eat much because I was so tense.
02:19Okay.
02:20I didn't eat much at that time.
02:23Oh, that's the reception we're showing.
02:25Okay.
02:26You can't eat? Why can't you eat?
02:28Because it's like, this is it.
02:30This is real.
02:31It's like we're already married.
02:33It's like I can't digest it anymore.
02:36I'm excited.
02:38This is what we're showing.
02:39This is the same day edit.
02:41Yes, that's it.
02:42Okay, so the same day edit.
02:44Of course, he also released it on the same day, right?
02:46Yes.
02:47So tell us what happened.
02:50Actually, when we were already watching our same day edit, there was a problem.
02:58Why?
02:59Patrick, of course, I was with him at that time.
03:03I could see that he was already dizzy.
03:06Like he was going to die.
03:08Maybe because of the heat.
03:12A lot of things happened.
03:14So we asked one of our friends, who is also a host, to go to the hotel.
03:25CR?
03:26The room.
03:27Yes, because the room is nearby.
03:29Oh, during the reception?
03:31He left.
03:32It was already the same day edit.
03:34Oh, but you were still at the reception.
03:36Yes.
03:37And when he left, he died.
03:42At that time.
03:44So, of course.
03:47So when he left the reception, he died?
03:50Yes.
03:51I didn't know that he died because I was thanking the guests.
03:54Because I was the only one there, so I was thanking them and all.
04:00Then my friend, Jerry C. Patrick, came to me and said that he died outside.
04:05And then what happened?
04:07After that, of course, I thanked him.
04:10Then I ran outside because, of course, as a partner, I was getting married.
04:16Your boyfriend died.
04:18Yes, I was nervous.
04:19And then, at that time, I was running to him and he suddenly stood up.
04:23So, it's a prank.
04:26It's like, I'm okay.
04:27It's like, I'm okay.
04:29But a lot of people were telling me that he's not okay.
04:32So, he called a nurse, then the ambulance, and all.
04:36Then the nurse came.
04:37They have a relationship.
04:38What kind of relationship?
04:40Then she slapped him with a plot twist.
04:41We also have a plot twist.
04:42There.
04:43After that, of course, to calm him down, we brought him to the hospital.
04:49Because the nurse said that his oxygen level dropped to 30.
04:54It's low.
04:55Yes, 30.
04:56So, we had to bring him to the hospital.
04:59And at the hospital, the doctor said that his organs were submerged in water.
05:07His organs were full of water.
05:11So, at that time, I was like, you know, I'll take care of it.
05:17What's happening?
05:18What's happening?
05:20Then, the next day, the doctor came and said that he was okay.
05:25So, the following day?
05:26Yes.
05:27The following day, like October 7th of yesterday, he said that he was okay.
05:33That the water was removed.
05:35Then, around 3 o'clock, he died.
05:42He was revived.
05:44He was revived several times.
05:46Three times.
05:48Then, everyone was asking me what to do because I'm his wife.
05:52It's like, you're the one who's going to make the decision for him.
06:00So, I was like, why am I the one who's going to make the decision?
06:05We've been married for almost 22 hours.
06:09Why am I the one who's going to make the decision?
06:11And I didn't know what happened.
06:13I just lay down next to him.
06:15I was listening to his heartbeat.
06:17Then, that was it.
06:21That was it.
06:22So, like after the wedding, I was so happy about what happened.
06:27And then, suddenly, he died.
06:32So, it was unreal.
06:34I couldn't understand why.
06:38I was full of questions.
06:40Why?
06:41Why me?
06:42Why me?
06:44And why that day?
06:46Yes, why that day?
06:48It was a very special day.
06:51We all wake up to the truth that eventually, all of us will be gone.
06:57But not on the day when he should be very happy.
07:03Why that day?
07:05You can question that, right?
07:07It's not easy to accept.
07:10It's like a dream.
07:12It's like a nightmare.
07:13You just watch it in the movies.
07:15But what happened to you, that was so tragic.
07:19That was so tragic.
07:21It was so hard at that time.
07:23As in, even I wanted to die.
07:27It's like he was with me.
07:29He loved me until the end.
07:33And I also wanted to die.
07:37It's like, until death do us part.
07:45It was so hard to wake up.
07:47Did you get angry?
07:49Yes, a lot.
07:51At whom?
07:52At myself.
07:54Because I didn't know that he had an illness.
07:56He hid his illness.
07:58What illness?
07:59We found out after he fixed his things in his house.
08:05We found out that he had an illness.
08:07It was in 2015, in his heart.
08:09So, he hid it from me and his family.
08:13His family also didn't know.
08:15Mommy Grace, where were you when that happened?
08:20Were you with him in the hospital?
08:22Yes, we were there in the hospital.
08:24It's like he was waiting for us.
08:26He died before he died.
08:31How did you support Grace as a mother?
08:37Your daughter became a widow in one day.
08:41How did you support your daughter?
08:44It's hard, but you can't show weakness.
08:48Because she might get weaker.
08:50So, we showed her our advice.
08:53You can do it.
08:55Maybe her life will end there.
08:59I can't imagine how many tears you cried.
09:02Yes.
09:03To the point that I couldn't eat or sleep.
09:09Every time I close my eyes, I see him.
09:12It's really hard.
09:14The first time I ate was when his brother talked to me.
09:20He told me,
09:22Jerry, everything happens for a purpose.
09:26He told me, your name is Jeremiah.
09:28My name is Jeremiah.
09:30Patrick died when he was 29.
09:32The watch that I gave him stopped when he was 11.
09:37When I gave it to him, it was Jeremiah 29, 11.
09:40He said,
09:42For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord.
09:46Plans to prosper you and not to harm you.
09:48Plans to give you a hope and a future.
09:51His brother told me,
09:53There's beauty in it.
09:56In the future, you and him will meet again.
10:00And while waiting for that future, be better.
10:04He doesn't want to see you sad,
10:07grieving, having a hard time.
10:10So, how did you cope?
10:11Didn't you let yourself grieve?
10:13Or did you grieve for a time?
10:15It's hard.
10:16How did you grieve?
10:17Even though a lot of people encouraged me,
10:19it's hard for me to get up.
10:21That's understandable.
10:24It's weird.
10:26It's so fast.
10:28So, how?
10:30You can't eat.
10:32You can't leave the house.
10:33No, I just lay down at home.
10:35What did you do?
10:37How did you cope?
10:38I couldn't sleep.
10:40I couldn't sleep for months.
10:42To the point that I needed to talk to a psychologist
10:47to process the mental trauma, the emotional trauma.
10:52What did you do to your gown?
10:55Everything.
10:57The memorabilia of your wedding?
11:00The same-day edit?
11:02The video?
11:03What did you do to it?
11:04I didn't move.
11:05Everything was just lying at home.
11:07Even the gifts.
11:08Everything was just there.
11:10I didn't move.
11:11It's so hard.
11:13It's really hard.
11:15So, you didn't open the gifts?
11:16No.
11:17Up until now?
11:18No.
11:19Where are they?
11:20Why?
11:21They're hidden.
11:22Maybe we can use them.
11:25It's a waste.
11:26They're hidden in the trunk.
11:30All the things I used are in one box.
11:34Do you plan to open them or just leave them there?
11:37Now, I can see them.
11:39In fairness, I already opened the photo album.
11:42In fairness.
11:44To the point that I needed closure or healing in my heart,
11:50I went to our honeymoon.
11:53Alone?
11:54Yes.
11:55Where did you go?
11:56Japan.
11:57You went alone?
11:58Yes, I went alone.
11:59You went alone on the plane?
12:01What were you thinking?
12:02Were you crying?
12:03Yes.
12:04It was good for me because no one could see me.
12:07When your family is there, you need to...
12:10Stop crying.
12:11Yes.
12:12You need to go to your room and cry.
12:14So, when I went to Japan, I was able to breathe.
12:17I was alone.
12:18No one knew me.
12:19I can cry as much as I want.
12:21Even if I was on a train in Japan or on an airplane,
12:26I would cry.
12:27I was able to talk to myself.
12:29I felt like I was there.
12:32What did you say to him?
12:33I said,
12:34This is our dream country.
12:36I'm here.
12:37We want to go there.
12:40I went to all of them.
12:41I went to Harry Potter.
12:43I went to the Pyramids that we promised to visit.
12:46And those times,
12:48instead of enjoying riding the rides and all,
12:54I would just sit on one side and cry.
12:57That's how it was.
12:59Did you feel or dream about him?
13:02I had a dream about him.
13:04Actually, I can feel it now.
13:06Is he still there?
13:07That's why my mom is quiet.
13:09I had a dream about him once.
13:12He hugged me tightly.
13:14He hugged me so tightly.
13:16No words.
13:18Just a hug.
13:20Do you still talk to him?
13:21Yes.
13:22What was the last thing you told him?
13:25I told him,
13:27I think I'm ready.
13:28Because I had a dream about him before that.
13:31He told me,
13:32This time, I let you go.
13:35That was only in March.
13:37He said,
13:38This time, I let you go.
13:40That was the first time I had words in my dream
13:44that I remembered.
13:46I told him,
13:49You're letting me to have the life that I want.
13:55When did he pass away?
13:56October 7.
13:59What year?
14:002018.
14:01So, it's been 6 years.
14:04Yes.
14:056 years.
14:06And hopefully, you're okay now.
14:08Yes.
14:09You're healed.
14:11They said,
14:12It's not like
14:16you can't accept it.
14:17You just get used to it.
14:19How can you accept that
14:21the person you love passed away?
14:23You can't accept it.
14:24But you just get used to it
14:26until you don't get hurt
14:28because you got used to that feeling.
14:32That's how it is.
14:33It's always sudden.
14:35Yes.
14:36And what happened to him in a day
14:39or in a time
14:41when he wasn't there.
14:43Right?
14:44Yes.
14:45I was just going to say,
14:46Jerry is also good
14:48that he didn't...
14:50You'd never questioned the Lord
14:52or got mad.
14:54I have to commend you for that
14:56because that must have been so hard.
15:00But you held on to your faith.
15:03Your husband just passed away.
15:04That was so hard.
15:05Right?
15:06Maybe he passed away
15:07on the day you got married.
15:09Right?
15:10That happens sometimes.
15:11You get mad.
15:12Right?
15:13You stay away from God
15:14because, why did that happen to us?
15:16Yes.
15:17You can say,
15:18Lord, you're so good to me.
15:19Why did you give me
15:20such a hard assignment?
15:22Right?
15:23Why was my test so hard?
15:26Sometimes, you want to say,
15:27Lord, there's someone better than you.
15:28Why don't you give it to him?
15:30But it's not like that.
15:32You have to thank the Lord
15:33for trusting you.
15:35You believe that you can do it.
15:37I'll give it to you.
15:39But how are you now, Jerry,
15:41after the Lord tested you?
15:43Now, I can say that I'm really okay.
15:46The process of...
15:49Healing.
15:50Healing.
15:51I haven't worked for two years.
15:53What I did was
15:55solo travel.
15:56Like, I climbed mountains.
15:58I went to beaches.
15:59Why don't you bring your mom with you
16:00when you go hiking?
16:02Because Mommy is just sitting there.
16:04Yes.
16:05She won't get tired.
16:06Why?
16:07Are you ever with her
16:08on her ramps, Mommy?
16:09Actually, when she travels
16:11to other countries,
16:12I'm with her.
16:14Because I don't have a father anymore.
16:16So, it's just the two of us.
16:18What's the best word
16:20or best advice
16:21that you gave to her
16:22during those times
16:23when your child's heart aches so much?
16:27Nothing.
16:28Oh, that's great.
16:29Nothing?
16:30Hold on.
16:31He's explaining.
16:32Nothing?
16:33I was hoping.
16:35I was hoping.
16:36And you thought
16:37you didn't have any advice.
16:40What is it?
16:41We just show her
16:43our concern,
16:44our love for her family.
16:47Actually, sometimes,
16:48you don't really need advice.
16:50You're just there
16:51by her side.
16:52Yes.
16:53Enough.
16:54Right?
16:55Because sometimes,
16:56she'll give you advice
16:57but you're not available.
16:58She can't feel your presence.
17:00Right.
17:01Your presence is different.
17:02It's different.
17:03They're here physically.
17:05You're so lucky
17:06because you have a family like that
17:07that you've been with
17:09the whole journey
17:10of your love,
17:12pain,
17:13and recovery.
17:14Okay.
17:15So, now, you're saying
17:16you are ready.
17:17Yes.
17:18It's been six years.
17:20Yeah.
17:21And he has set you free already.