• 6 months ago
A woman who lost 11 stone after two weight loss surgeries says she has 'skinny privilege' now she is smaller - and strangers treat her differently.

Issy Montgomery, 24, had always been “big” but found herself piling on the weight during lockdown and was soon tipping the scales at 24st 11lbs and bursting out of a size 32.

She had always struggled with yo-yo dieting and couldn’t find anything that worked for her when it came to keeping the weight off.

Issy changed up her diet and looked into weight loss surgery and had a gastric sleeve in September 2022 on the NHS.

She got down to 15st but couldn’t budge the rest of the weight no matter how hard she tried – and went for a revised bypass in March 2024.

Now Issy has lost 11st 10lbs and is a slender 13st 1lbs and can slip into a size 14 but has realised how differently she is being treated.

She said people now hold the door open for her and smile at her and they hadn’t before - so she believes she now has 'skinny privilege'.

Issy, an e-commerce and social media manager, from Grimsby, Lincolnshire, said: "It's basic things - someone holding the door open. People smiling at you.

"I feel I get treated differently.

"When you’ve been big you realise you don’t have the same experience.

"I was quite shocked that people before wouldn't have entertained me before have popped up.

"I'm the exact same person. I still treat people the same.

"I want someone to like me for me not for what I look like.

"People say you're thinner now - must get more attention.

"It's a bit sad. Why wasn't she worthy of the same?

"But everyone has a preference and everyone is entitled to that.

"It's crazy how different people treat you being smaller.

"I feel I've been given a second chance of life."

Issy realised she needed to do something about her weight when she couldn't walk up the stairs without getting breathless.

She confessed she was "lazy" and "greedy" and would snack on crisps, biscuits and chocolate at any chance she got.

She said: "I was greedy. I liked my food.

"It was embarrassing to be so young and so unfit.

"It was very overwhelming to lose so much weight."

She had previously tried various different diets but never found anything that worked.

Issy was put on a clinical trial for weight loss jab Saxenda at the end of 2021 and lost two stone - taking her to 18st 11lbs for her surgery.

She underwent gastric sleeve surgery in September 2022.

She said: "It was brilliant. My life changed."

Issy "got her life back", stuck to a healthy diet of home-cooked meals and started to hit the gym.

But after hitting 15st she found she struggled shed anymore weight.

She said: "It was really frustrating.

"I was told they surgically needed to go in again."

In March 2024 Issy had her sleeve revised into a bypass - which means she can't absorb as many calories.

She said: "I lost 8lbs in the first week."

Now Issy is already down to 13st 1lbs and is on track to reach her 10st 7lbs goal.

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00:00Hey first of all ignore the state that I am in obviously I'm in recovery so I do
00:05not look my best and second of all you do not sound like that whatsoever it's
00:10quite a common question that I've been asked and it's completely fine I'm
00:13totally open about my journey and so I was nearly 25 stone at my starting weight
00:19so when I went to the hospital to kind of get the ball rolling for weight loss
00:25surgery I was always told that I would probably need a weight loss surgery
00:29and then have that revised so basically like re-increase my restriction again
00:33just to get me to where I want to be so I'm really short so my BMI although I've
00:39lost over 10 stone now my BMI still classes me as obese so I've got a lot of
00:44loose skin I want to eventually have plastics and have that removed but my
00:49BMI is still too unhealthy to do that and I've hit a stall for the last
00:53probably nine months even though I'm doing all the things I should be so the
00:57only way to kind of force my body under its set point is to go in and make like
01:02that biological change again so that's what they've done so they've gone and
01:06just tweaked my sleeve a little bit so they've changed my sleeve into a bypass
01:10and it was only like a mini bypass so it wasn't too invasive and that basically
01:17is just going to kick-start my body to a new lower set point so there's quite a
01:22lot of research about this new thing called called a set point and it's this
01:26idea that when your body gets to a certain way no matter what you do
01:29whether you you know drastically cut your calories whether you drastically
01:33increase your exercise it won't go past that point or it all it might but you're
01:38gonna really struggle to kind of maintain that whereas this surgical
01:42intervention because it changes the sort of biological side of your body so it
01:46changes your absorption your home like your hormones or hunger hormones and
01:51hormones that make you feel full all those kind of things it actually changes
01:56the biological composition in your body and allows your body to lose that extra
02:01bit so I have another sort of four stone that I need to lose to be able to have a
02:05healthy BMI to be able to go get my skin surgery so that is why they have revised
02:11my surgery and that's why I was always told from the beginning that I would
02:14need two surgeries so I would need an initial weight loss surgery and then I
02:18would have to go back and have it revised or tweaked just to increase my
02:23restriction again basically.
02:25Hey I just wanted to do a really quick video on my last
02:29TikTok or one of my last TikToks and I posted about things that I found quite
02:34sad after having weight loss surgery like things that I realized and I got
02:40this comment reply back which I just kind of wanted to touch on a little bit
02:44and talk about so when I say about skinny privilege or pretty privilege
02:50that is not everyone falling at your feet not everyone suddenly fancying the
02:56pants off you and wanted to date you and things like that it's for me my
03:00experience is like really basic human things that people probably don't even
03:05really think about and things literally things like someone holding the door
03:12open for you in a corridor or someone smiling at you from across the street
03:16things like that you know walking into like a break room at work and people
03:22actually talking to you and wanting to have a conversation with you things real
03:27basic things that maybe I'm not saying for everyone but maybe for people that
03:31haven't been big that is just normal for them but when you've been big you realize
03:38that you don't get that same experience you don't get the same and I find it
03:44quite sad because when I first started losing the weight I'm not gonna lie I'm
03:50not overly happy to share it but I always said I'd be truthful it was it
03:54was a bit of motivation for me because I was I've never had that before so then
03:58all of a sudden I was like oh people are being nice to me like I quite like this
04:02feeling this is lovely and so it drives you to do more but I'm I've been at the
04:08weight that I'm at so I'm around 15 stone now and I keep fluctuating a
04:11little bit but I've lost nearly 10 stone and because I've been here for quite a
04:16while I've like reflected back on the journey a little bit more and it makes
04:22me quite angry to think that I was treated so differently back then to why
04:26I am now because I am still the same person I'm no different I still treat
04:32people the same like when I was big I always treat people with kindness and
04:36respect you know I was always super friendly to people and I just think why
04:41didn't I get the same back just because I was bigger I'm still the exact same
04:46person and I embarked on this journey for my health like I could barely walk
04:52without being out of breath my legs hurt after walking up the stairs things like
04:56that but equally I know that there's people that are you know bigger that are
05:02comfortable with that and happy with that and I'm not gonna tell anyone how
05:05to live their life but it makes me quite sad to think that they probably lived
05:09their life without getting some of the basic respect and decency that like a
05:13thinner person would and yeah I just yeah so for me my experience it was it's
05:20really real and it's quite hard to to deal with sometimes mentally to be fair

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