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00:00What can you say about that, Niko? You suddenly became quiet.
00:04Yes, it's hard. Actually, I'm a bit speechless here.
00:09But what can I add to what he said?
00:14What does it feel like when you can't give another chance?
00:19For example, you're used to always being given a chance, right?
00:23Then suddenly, oh, it's the last one.
00:26When you didn't expect it, you thought there's more.
00:29I don't want to make excuses.
00:31I'm not going to stand here and make excuses.
00:33But relationships aren't black and white.
00:36There's lots of grays and different colors.
00:39A lot of things happen in a relationship.
00:42Our relationship isn't perfect.
00:45A lot of times, we separated, then we got back together,
00:48then we got back together again, and so on.
00:52It's not perfect.
00:54I'm not perfect.
00:57I have a lot of mistakes in my life.
00:59And I'm sure anybody that's watching this, they also have mistakes.
01:03So, that's it.
01:06Unfortunately, I failed in this relationship.
01:14Yeah.
01:16That's all I have to say.
01:20That's why you chose to be alone rather than with someone.
01:24But you feel that it's not good anymore.
01:29Is this traumatic for you?
01:31Is it traumatic for you to be like that?
01:33First, then how many times did you get hurt?
01:37Not really.
01:39So, maybe I needed to feel this pain for me to grow also.
01:44And for me to see that in every relationship,
01:49it's not always like happy or you will always feel happy.
01:53So, for me, I would say that this relationship isn't traumatic,
01:57but I learned a lot from it.
02:01Okay.
02:04By the way, this is a 700 Club.
02:07700 Club.
02:08You will be given money.
02:10This is not a 700 Club.
02:13So, Niko, I just want to ask you.
02:16Because you said that you didn't feel what you felt with Christine in your other exes.
02:22Right?
02:23So, in your opinion, what else does Christine lack to find someone else?
02:28Actually, she doesn't lack anything.
02:30I lack something.
02:32But I'm still growing.
02:36And even though I'm 29, I still have a lot to learn.
02:41I'm still far away, to be honest.
02:44Question.
02:45Because you mentioned earlier, what is the beauty of Filipinas?
02:48You said, love, take care of me.
02:52Sensitive.
02:53And that's what you saw in her.
02:54Yes.
02:56But why did you still cheat?
02:59Why does…
03:02Why do cheaters cheat?
03:05Even though they saw the beauty, the kindness, the care, the prayers,
03:12why do they still cheat?
03:14Why do they still cheat?
03:16I wish I could answer that question.
03:17To yourself, do you know why you do that?
03:22Why are you like that?
03:24Do you understand yourself?
03:26No, actually.
03:27I think that's what you said.
03:31I don't understand myself.
03:33That's why I look for someone else.
03:36And I'm not saying that's right.
03:38But that's a natural instinct for us as humans.
03:43And I think…
03:44Really?
03:45I think I don't understand myself.
03:49And I'm not sure about myself.
03:52That's why you look for someone else?
03:54I don't know.
03:55I don't know what my problem is.
03:57The missing piece you're looking for.
03:59The missing piece, yeah.
04:01It's hard to pinpoint my problem.
04:08We always talk about the anatomy of a cheater.
04:14Why do they cry?
04:17What do they do when they're cheated?
04:20Where do they run to?
04:22Why do they feel that way?
04:24But the one who cheated, we don't really dissect that.
04:28Why did he cheat?
04:31Is there really something called born to cheat?
04:34Cheat?
04:36You were born a cheater?
04:38Or is it an effect?
04:41What influenced you?
04:45Why did you cheat?
04:47That's what I want to know, to talk about, and to realize.
04:52What really triggers them?
04:54Especially if it's over and over again.
04:56To a person, right?
04:58You cheated on a person you love so much,
05:00you saw that she's good, kind, and beautiful.
05:03Then you cheated.
05:05You might have made a mistake, right?
05:06You were hit, and then you were forgiven.
05:08But you did it again.
05:09Then you were forgiven, and then you did it again.
05:11Why?
05:12Why over and over again?
05:15Was it because you were born to cheat?
05:17Or something is happening to you?
05:19Are you sick?
05:20That's what I want to understand.
05:22Contentment.
05:23Contentment.
05:24No, if he sees all the beauties, why isn't he content?
05:27There are people who are like that.
05:30You know what I mean?
05:32I haven't seen my future yet.
05:34I haven't seen my future yet.
05:36Why doesn't Nostradamus be your partner?
05:38So you can see your future.
05:40But you can't say that.
05:43You can't say that.
05:44You can't say what your future is.
05:47Because you won't know.
05:49It's a waste.
05:50I wish it was this.
05:52I got a partner that I really didn't like.
05:56But I couldn't escape.
05:58Is that why he cheated?
06:00No, I mean, that's what I'm saying.
06:02He's not content.
06:04So he's looking for something.
06:06But the point has come.
06:07Do you know karma?
06:08The point has come that you can go to a woman
06:10and you won't be able to leave.
06:12But you don't want to go to that woman.
06:15That's why they're just cheating.
06:19I want to know their reason.
06:20Of course, there is no valid reason to cheat.
06:23He doesn't have a valid reason.
06:25The personal reason when he cheated,
06:27that's what I want to know.
06:28There's someone who cheated,
06:29and there's someone who's like a serial cheater.
06:31Yes, a serial cheater.
06:32That's why I'm asking you,
06:34why did you cheat?
06:35One-time offender.
06:37Others, because of the effect of trauma,
06:41that's what I want to understand.
06:44But again, there is no valid reason to cheat.
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