When to express your emotions? || Acharya Prashant, with NIT-Calicut (2022)
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Video Information: 14.05.2022, NIT-Calicut, Greater Noida, U.P.
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Music Credits: Milind Date
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#acharyaprashant
Video Information: 14.05.2022, NIT-Calicut, Greater Noida, U.P.
Context:
Music Credits: Milind Date
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#acharyaprashant
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00:00 We say emotions are something very intimate to me internally.
00:09 Therefore the ones who are intimate to me externally must partake these emotions.
00:18 So we went it out all to them.
00:25 We spout lies and toxicity and all kinds of worthless things, especially to the ones who
00:37 are close to us.
00:40 Now this is not right.
00:43 This is exploitation.
00:44 This is unjust.
00:50 In fact the more valuable and intimate a person is to you, the more you should be careful
00:57 about the effect your company is having on that person.
01:02 That is love, is that not?
01:06 Therefore you have to be extremely careful about what you say to that person, what you
01:09 share with that person.
01:12 Not everything that arises in your body due to your inbuilt prakritic chemicals and hormones
01:21 and glands is worth sharing with the world.
01:31 We have our restrooms, our lavatories.
01:36 We keep them closed, right?
01:41 We do not share our excreta with our loved ones.
01:46 We do not say, "Oh, this came from my guts.
01:51 This came from right within me, from the core of my body.
01:57 Therefore I'll share it with you."
01:59 Do we do that?
02:02 We know what is it that stinks.
02:07 We know what is it that's rubbish.
02:11 And we know very well that it must be kept to ourselves and be duly flushed away.
02:22 It is not something you want to share with the world.
02:25 In fact if you share with the world it is quite interesting.
02:34 It would be the limit of bad etiquette.
02:43 So this much we know, that our night soil, our rubbish is not to be taken to others.
02:59 But then why do we take our mental rubbish to others?
03:06 Why do we take our emotional rubbish to others?
03:12 Is there anything sublime in our emotions?
03:16 If there is, please do share it.
03:22 But mostly emotions are just trash.
03:28 I know emotional people will not like to hear this and they'll immediately contest.
03:35 I would point out that the reaction that arose within you the moment you heard me say that
03:43 emotions are trash is another emotional reaction.
03:50 It is emotions that do not like emotions being decried.
04:02 The fundamental mistake as we said right when we opened is that we identify with our emotions.
04:09 We do not see that the body is one thing and we are not really the body and that all emotions
04:19 arise from chemical biological processes pre-programmed within the body.
04:25 They are not to be taken very seriously.
04:29 Emotions simply further the agenda of the jungle, the place we all come from.
04:40 What's the agenda of the jungle?
04:41 Possess, occupy, eat, sleep, be merry, procreate, dominate.
04:50 That's what goes on in the jungle.
04:53 And all emotions if you scrutinize them are towards this goal.
05:00 This is the prakritic goal.
05:07 So why take the remnants of the jungle past so seriously?
05:20 We were monkeys right?
05:24 And the vestiges of those times still exist within us.
05:30 They in fact dominate most of us in the form of emotions, in the form of instincts and
05:40 tendencies.
05:43 So take that as something that hardly ever has any value.
05:54 And when it does not have any value, it does not deserve to be expressed or shared with
06:00 others.
06:04 We want to be loving people and we want to be loved, don't we?
06:09 And in love you do not share your crap with your loved ones.
06:13 You do not make life miserable for them by throwing all your rubbish at them day in and
06:19 day night in the name of intimacy.
06:26 That's the reason why people suffer so much in love.
06:29 Because in the name of love it's not their heights that they share with their partners.
06:40 They share their bottoms.
06:42 They share their ugliness and they think of it as closeness, as love.
06:49 It is not love.
06:50 Love is to handhold the other and pull him up.
06:56 Not bury the other under the weight of your infinite nonsense.
07:08 What do you think lovers talk about in their daily four hour phone calls?
07:18 Are they sharing scientific discoveries with each other?
07:22 Are they sharing sublime literature with each other?
07:26 Great poems?
07:29 Are they talking of depths of wisdom?
07:35 Are they discussing geopolitics?
07:37 Are they discussing neuroscience?
07:40 Are they discussing anything of any worth?
07:44 They are expressing themselves to each other and you know what that's all about.
07:53 Let the sound of rubbish being flushed down the commode reverberate.
08:05 That's the telephonic conversation.
08:08 Thank you sir.
08:11 Namaste Acharyaji.
08:13 Namaste.
08:14 This question which I am about to ask is related to the first question about the emotions.
08:26 So I have two questions in mind.
08:29 The first thing is whenever you know some people particularly in a family or in relatives
08:38 they try to you know they have some expectations that you know house has to be taken care like
08:45 this only or cooking has to be done in certain way.
08:49 All these things actually it's like totally gone out of my mind and I am not able to you
08:56 know be like what they want to be and initially when I try to you know understand like you
09:04 know these are not that great value I try to you know explain them but they are not
09:11 you know in a way to accept all those things and I am just doing whatever I feel like doing
09:17 and I am not much engaged into any of those activities but in spite of that you know when
09:25 things come up I am one thing what I see from myself is I am just very harsh.
09:31 I am not able to control it or I am not able to tolerate all these things anymore.
09:35 So I just like you know bluntly shout and there is something you know very fiery I can
09:44 say within that I don't want to listen to any of such talks and that moment I don't
09:52 know exactly what I speak out but it's I feel very relaxed after that and I am not
10:01 able to actually say why I am behaving and whatever I told it does not carry over again
10:07 in my head but yeah I can see that you know too many things I am reacting very harshly.
10:15 So how do I validate that emotion that is one thing I mean sometimes I just feel like
10:26 I don't bother about it I don't care whatever however it goes it is okay so I go to that
10:32 extent and one other question I have is whenever I try to talk to you ask any question automatically
10:43 there is some tears in my eyes I don't know how what is this this is also some kind
10:51 of emotion I try not to cry I try not to bring in tears but that happens.
11:07 See all that surrounds us outside the body and all that is available to us from within
11:24 the body all that is available to us to be used or all that can use us for its own purposes.
11:47 So when I answered our friend who initiated the discussion on emotions I focused on ensuring
12:00 that your bodily mandate and your emotions and hormones do not start using you and exploiting
12:10 you and taking you away. So I said remember that you are not your body remember that you
12:18 are not obliged to serve your emotions remember that it is not a compulsion to express to
12:28 others whatever you feel. So that's what I highlighted when I was speaking a while
12:37 back. Now there is another part to the same thing we said all that is surrounding us within
12:48 the body and outside the body who are we first of all we are consciousness and all these
12:55 things are available to the consciousness emotions thoughts intellect as well as worldly
13:01 material resources and time and life these are things available to consciousness to achieve
13:10 its destiny its end that is liberation. Now if you can be someone who can use these resources
13:22 towards the proper end then it's all right rather wonderful to engage with emotions then
13:35 there is no need to even be detached. Are you getting it? I'll give you two examples
13:42 both involving Shri Krishna. So there is the Mahabharata battle and we are in Kurukshetra
13:55 and the entire Gita has been narrated to Arjuna still he is not fully beyond his feelings
14:07 of attachment and the past he carries his memories so he's not able to fight Bhishma
14:22 Pitamah with total rigor he is almost just pretending to fight he is not attacking the
14:35 old man with full ferocity. Now what does Krishna do at this moment? He jumps down from
14:49 the chariot picks up an abandoned wheel from the ground and rushes towards Bhishma with
15:04 that wheel to attack him. This is a clear and unapologetic display of emotion but this
15:17 is great you would have seen this moment captured in many paintings Bhishma standing on his
15:30 chariot he has put down his weapons and he's standing with hands folded and he's welcoming
15:38 Krishna to come and attack him and Arjuna is behind Krishna and Arjuna is begging Krishna
15:46 please please do not break your vow you had said you would not participate in the fight
15:56 do not do that now I'll do the needful I won't be a hesitant warrior anymore and Arjuna
16:09 is holding Krishna by his feet and is almost being dragged towards Bhishma it's a very
16:23 moving scene it's a very eloquent picture when you look at it and it's full of nothing
16:30 but emotion emotion being displayed by all three characters in the painting can you visualize
16:39 the frame of these three the central one the middle one is the one who is using emotions
16:56 emotions come from prakriti prakriti is also called as maya and Krishna is called as mayapati
17:02 so Krishna is the master of maya thereby also the master of emotions he's not carried away
17:10 by emotions he uses emotions for a higher goal what is the higher goal the higher goal
17:18 is that dharma should win and for dharma should to win Arjuna must wholeheartedly fight so
17:25 to make Arjuna fight Krishna has expressed his emotions now such expression is auspicious
17:35 and most welcome do you get this please here your emotions are not possessing you instead
17:45 you are making very wise use of emotions your emotions are doing your bidding your emotions
17:54 are aligned with your higher purpose and if your emotions can be aligned with your higher
18:00 purpose it's alright to be angry just as Krishna was in that moment and Krishna is very angry
18:08 in that moment have you seen him he's furious he's like a tornado rushing towards Bhishma
18:25 Krishna is very angry who says spiritual people must not be angry look at Krishna
18:30 who is angry with Bhishma.