Ano nga ba ang ‘unique sense of intimacy’ sa isang relasyon? | It's Showtime
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00:00 Yes, that's how it is.
00:02 So in that way, no matter what, I can just bear the sadness that I'm feeling.
00:08 And I can get rid of those thoughts that I have,
00:14 that I'll doubt if he still loves me.
00:17 Because her effort and sweetness is 100% right?
00:20 Yes, 100%.
00:21 From 100, she's a zero.
00:23 Yes, that's how it is.
00:24 She really got me used to that.
00:26 Then suddenly...
00:28 She said that I'm not a zero.
00:30 I have a 1.
00:32 Let's talk about that.
00:36 What she's saying is that she's just looking for assurance.
00:40 Just an assurance to greet her with a happy monthly greeting.
00:42 Or if you have nothing...
00:44 Who doesn't want to be assured?
00:46 Yes, for example, like what Vice said earlier,
00:49 do you have no other ways to show your love to her
00:54 other than greeting her with a happy monthly greeting?
00:58 Actually, I gave her a promise ring twice just to assure her.
01:04 What did you say in the promise ring?
01:06 What did you promise her?
01:09 Maybe she was hurt because you gave her a promise ring,
01:11 but what you said in the promise ring,
01:13 she didn't see the promise.
01:15 That's true.
01:16 She said that maybe I'm just a word,
01:19 that she still sees me in what I say.
01:23 Aside from the promise ring, what else did you do?
01:26 She also got a promise necklace.
01:28 A promise anklet.
01:30 She got a jewelry box.
01:32 What else?
01:34 Did you do any other love language for her?
01:38 I still invite her to go out,
01:43 but not as often as before.
01:46 When she's not busy.
01:48 Because in a relationship, it's different.
01:54 Do you know the difference between love and in love?
01:58 Yeah.
02:00 Because you can say, "I love her."
02:02 That's the difference between whether you love her or you're in love with her.
02:07 Because you can give your love to everyone, to many people.
02:13 But when you love someone, you're giving it to the most stubborn.
02:22 So if I feel that she loves me, or you say, "I love her."
02:29 But do you feel that when you love her?
02:33 Do you feel that she's being stubborn?
02:38 The difference between love and in love,
02:43 because love is for everyone, but in love, it's only one.
02:49 And to maintain your in love in a relationship,
02:55 it is a constant combination of both your conscious and unconscious efforts.
03:03 Because if you don't have...
03:08 That's why in love, there's a difference between love and in love,
03:12 the unique sense of intimacy.
03:18 If you don't feel it, if the unique sense of intimacy is not evident in a relationship,
03:23 you just love her, but you don't love her anymore.
03:27 Because there's no longer any connection to what you feel for each other.
03:31 You don't do anything for each other, you're just different and unique.
03:35 What you show and do for each other, you show it to everyone.
03:39 There's nothing special.
03:41 You have to make that person feel so special.
03:44 You have to do things that are special.
03:46 You have to make that relationship special, extra special compared to your relationship with your friends,
03:51 relationship with your co-workers.
03:53 How you treat that person should be extra special compared to how you treat your workmates, your friends.
04:00 How you treat your friends outside, when you talk to them, it's different.
04:04 There's a unique sense of intimacy so that you can feel for each other,
04:08 "I didn't just fall in love, I'm in love with this person."
04:12 That's why when you're in a relationship, it's scary if you're still in love with this person or you just love her.
04:20 So at that point, are you still in love with her or you just love her?
04:26 If you love her, you care about her, you want her to be happy, you feel good about her, you have love for her.
04:34 But when you're in love with her, you want to see her, you want to talk to her.
04:39 "I'm so tired but I want to go home because I want to hug my wife."
04:44 "I'm not in the mood but I want to talk to Ayon because I'll get back in the mood."
04:50 We're always like, "This is so annoying, there's so many of these, there's so many of these arts."
04:58 But this is what I want to be with for the rest of my life.
05:02 In love with her.
05:04 My unique sense of intimacy.
05:07 Let's see.
05:09 [silence]