Martin Cosser has spoken out about the devastating impact of knife crime following the murder of his son Charlie, aged 17, in Sussex.
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00:00Can you tell us a little bit more about Charlie?
00:04Yes, Charlie was 17. He was born in Guildford.
00:08I named him Cheeks when he was three weeks old.
00:11He just had that cheeky smile and actually it was a perfect name for him
00:15because he was so cheeky.
00:17Exceptionally funny and witty.
00:19Very loyal.
00:21Had a really wide circle of friends.
00:23In fact, since Charlie's died, we didn't realise how many friends he had
00:26and what's been really nice when you hear about Charlie
00:30is people say we just clicked.
00:32A beautiful, beautiful little boy.
00:35Charlie had gone with two friends to a party
00:38and he got picked up halfway down our cul-de-sac.
00:41And I watched him, and I watched him get in the car and shut the door.
00:46But yeah, that's my last image of Charlie walking.
00:50It was the last conversation we had with him.
00:52He was looking for a particular T-shirt.
00:54He had loads of Euros on the side
00:56because he was off to Zante with his friends.
00:59He'd just bought loads of clothes.
01:01His suitcase was on the lounge floor.
01:03What happened that night?
01:06How did it start for you?
01:13There was a bang on the door.
01:15It was ten past midnight.
01:17Bang, bang, bang, bang.
01:21I run down the stairs, open the door.
01:24There's two police officers there.
01:26So my first reaction is, where's Charlie?
01:29I can't see Charlie.
01:32Are you Martin? God, they know my name.
01:35Yes, I'm Martin.
01:37I'm afraid your son Charlie has been stabbed and he's critical.
01:42Their police car is sat on the drive.
01:46We jump into it.
01:48Eloise sat behind the passenger,
01:50Tara was in the middle and I was behind the driver.
01:53We were just holding each other,
01:55saying it's going to be all right, it's going to be all right.
01:58They eventually let us into the hospital.
02:00We got up there and we were greeted by another consultant
02:03called Alex and a critical care nurse
02:06who said we need to prepare you for how Charlie's going to look.
02:10What we were greeted with will stay with me for the rest of my life.
02:16He'd been stabbed four times.
02:19So he was really poorly.
02:22You can't prepare yourself to see your child.
02:27My little boy, who on the 28th October 2005,
02:31I was there for his first breath.
02:33I held him in my arms.
02:35I loved him more than words can ever say, unconditionally.
02:40And there I was, able to do nothing.
02:44I can't do anything for him.
02:47The terrible news came on the morning of Tuesday 25th July.
02:52When I say the terrible news, it was the start of the terrible news.
02:57He took us into a room and said,
03:00there's been a lot of swelling in Charlie's brain
03:02and we need to rush him in for brain surgery.
03:05This means you have to say goodbye because he may not survive.
03:09In fact, he probably won't.
03:13So we went to see Charlie and we had like 10 seconds with him
03:18because they said we've got to get him in.
03:20But we just kissed him and said, you're going to get through this.
03:22You're going to get through this. You're going to get through this.
03:24We love you. None of us could actually say goodbye.
03:26We didn't want to say goodbye because he was still breathing
03:29and his pupils were still reacting.
03:33So again, what should have been a 20 minute procedure,
03:36we probably sat there for three hours and Alex came back
03:38and he opened the door and his face looked pretty,
03:42well, you could tell it wasn't good news, put it that way.
03:45And we were told that when they operated on Charlie's brain,
03:49the brain fluid that surrounds the brain had been released so quickly
03:54that it caused irreversible brain damage.
03:57His pupils were no longer reacting and that he would never wake up.
04:03They kept his heart beating still.
04:05They did a tracing for us actually of his heartbeat
04:07and we took some photos of us just about being able to hold his hand.
04:11He had a little bird thing they'd given him
04:14and my wife had given him a cross necklace that he had around his hand
04:19and we played a bit of music in the background
04:22and we all said what we needed to say
04:26but should never have been in a position, that position.
04:32And then just after 9pm, they said it's time, it's time now.
04:39And I held one hand and my wife Tara held his other hand
04:47and my daughter Eloise was to the left of me,
04:50just leaning over and cuddling him.
04:52He was covered in bandages and tubes
04:55but she was able to cuddle him one side and Adam the other
04:58and that's when I made my promise, the biggest promise of my life
05:03and I promised Charlie two things.
05:06One, that I would fight for justice
05:09and his death would not be in vain
05:12and the second one, the biggest promise I've ever made in my life
05:15is I would talk to other families and schools about the impact of knife crime.
05:21Tragically we know that there are other young people out there
05:26who are carrying knives.
05:28What would your message be to those young people?
05:32My message to those young people that are or are thinking of carrying knives
05:38is really, really simple and that is they need to think twice.
05:43If you stab somebody and God forbid kill them, you can't take it back.
05:50Carrying a knife is a weapon no different than to carrying a gun.
05:58If you're using it with intent to hurt or kill somebody, this is murder.
06:06This is a life sentence for you as well as the victim's families.
06:12Why would you want to do that?
06:15I don't understand.
06:17So what I would encourage anyone in a gang or anybody that's involved in that world
06:23to take a step back and have a little bit of a think about where they're going.
06:28It doesn't matter what your upbringing is. It's not an excuse.
06:32It doesn't matter where you went to school or where you live.
06:36It's not an excuse.
06:38You're in control of your own destiny as an individual and you have a choice.
06:43Everybody has a choice.
06:45You don't have to pick that knife up, put it in your pocket and take it out of an evening.
06:51You don't have to do it. You have a choice.