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00:00:00As-salāmu ʿalaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuhu.

00:00:07Bismillāhi r-Rahmāni r-Rahīm.

00:00:13Al-ḥamdu liLlāhi rabbi l-'ālamīn.

00:00:18Wa bihi nista'īn.

00:00:24As-salātu wa-s-salāmu ʿalá ashrafi l-anbiyā'i wa-s-sayyidi l-mursalīn

00:00:33wa ʿalá ālihi wa-ṣaḥbihi

00:00:38wa man tabi'ahum bi-iḥsānin ilá yawmi d-dīn ammā baʿd.

00:00:47A'ūdhu biLlāhi mina sh-shayṭāni r-rajīm.

00:00:53Yā ayyuhal-lazīna āmanū qū anfusakum wa-ahlīkum nārā.

00:01:03O believers, save yourselves and your families from the fire of hell.

00:01:18Imam Mujahid ibn Jabr, may Allah have mercy on him,

00:01:26A'ūdhu biLlāhi mina sh-shayṭāni r-rajīm.

00:01:29Yā ayyuhal-lazīna āmanū qū anfusakum wa-ahlīkum nārā.

00:01:34A'ūdhu biLlāhi mina sh-shayṭāni r-rajīm.

00:01:37Yā ayyuhal-lazīna āmanū qū anfusakum wa-ahlīkum nārā.

00:01:45Save yourselves and your families from the fire of hell.

00:01:53And teach yourself and your family the etiquettes and manners.

00:02:02The etiquettes and manners are the beautiful attitude of human life,

00:02:10through which human life becomes beautiful,

00:02:19becomes blessed,

00:02:23and its culture, civilization, and civilization becomes prosperous.

00:02:31That is why the righteous try to beautify their life with etiquettes and manners.

00:02:44And what the narrator has said is not exaggerated.

00:02:50It is absolutely correct.

00:02:53The nation which does not have etiquettes and manners,

00:03:01that nation is not really a nation of humans.

00:03:11Rather, that nation is a herd of animals,

00:03:20which you can take wherever you want, whenever you want, and as you wish.

00:03:29This is the reason that even after attaining dozens of degrees,

00:03:38you and I are seen to be deficient in etiquettes and manners.

00:03:47The etiquettes of sitting and standing,

00:03:51the etiquettes of conversation,

00:03:54and even the etiquettes of eating and drinking,

00:03:59sometimes we are seen to be so far and distant,

00:04:04that if any civilized person,

00:04:08the owner of civilization and culture,

00:04:12if he sees them, he will feel ashamed,

00:04:16that these are the people who have knowledge and wisdom.

00:04:24And this was the distinction of the companions, may Allah be pleased with them and please them,

00:04:33that in their life,

00:04:37the way they ascended to the divine,

00:04:41and their life was blessed,

00:04:44it was because of the etiquettes and manners which the Prophet taught them.

00:04:53Not only did he teach them,

00:04:56he showed them,

00:04:59taught them,

00:05:01and made them practice it as well.

00:05:07This is the reason that even if the enemy saw them,

00:05:11he would have recognized them,

00:05:14that this person is not an ordinary person.

00:05:19The amount of violence in the society,

00:05:24the amount of mischief,

00:05:28and the amount of indifference in the society,

00:05:33where the reason for it is ignorance,

00:05:37sometimes there is ignorance of knowledge as well,

00:05:42that we know, we are educated,

00:05:45but that corner of education has become weak,

00:05:49or the effort to make that corner better has not been made.

00:05:54As a result, those scholarly things,

00:05:59those bookish things,

00:06:02those intellectual things,

00:06:05they are experts in doing and listening,

00:06:09but in presenting them practically,

00:06:14they do not seem to be successful.

00:06:20Being a Muslim, you and I need to learn those Islamic etiquettes,

00:06:29so that our religion, our world, becomes bright.

00:06:38And after that, we teach our children those etiquettes,

00:06:45after learning those etiquettes,

00:06:48where their lives are bright,

00:06:52where they become a guide for those who see and meet them.

00:07:00So in today's first session,

00:07:03which is the first session of the course on the etiquettes of life,

00:07:08in this we will discuss a few points.

00:07:12The topic of our discussion will be those ten basic points,

00:07:21from which we will at least be able to understand

00:07:26what is etiquette,

00:07:29what is the greatness of Islam,

00:07:34and along with that,

00:07:37after the greatness of Islam,

00:07:41how can every individual in a society be made unique?

00:07:48How can a serious nation be formed?

00:07:54How can a sensible society be organized?

00:08:00And by combining knowledge and etiquette,

00:08:05how can the desires of high status and rank be fulfilled,

00:08:13which the companions, followers of the great ones,

00:08:18followers of the followers, and the righteous ones,

00:08:21were given by Allah the Almighty.

00:08:25That people yearn to see them,

00:08:29they yearn to sit with them,

00:08:32to get a chance.

00:08:35They desire to meet them.

00:08:39Because of what?

00:08:41Because of their piety and righteousness.

00:08:45Because of their etiquette.

00:08:49Because of the qualities and qualities that they had,

00:08:54this yearning and yearning of the people was there,

00:09:00and remained there till the last breath of their life.

00:09:05In fact, we consider it a great blessing

00:09:09to get a chance to spend some time with such a person.

00:09:17That is why it is important that we understand

00:09:21that this forgotten lesson

00:09:24which the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him,

00:09:27taught the companions,

00:09:30we also have to give it to the society today.

00:09:34If we are true in our desire

00:09:38that an exemplary society should be established,

00:09:42a serious community should be established,

00:09:46a young generation,

00:09:49a new generation,

00:09:52an exemplary generation should arise,

00:09:55and they should leave their morals,

00:09:58their religion,

00:10:01and their etiquette and manners to the world.

00:10:05For that,

00:10:07adopting the manners of life

00:10:10which the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him,

00:10:13taught them,

00:10:15understanding them,

00:10:17and then implementing them in their individual lives

00:10:21and in their collective lives,

00:10:24this is the only way

00:10:27that we will be able to fulfill our desires.

00:10:34Allama Abu Irfan Muhammad bin Ali Sabban

00:10:40has summarized these ten things in three verses.

00:10:47No matter how much you learn about the world,

00:10:52until you are familiar with ten things about it,

00:10:57you will not be able to fulfill the right of that knowledge.

00:11:01This is the reason that today,

00:11:04people associated with education know

00:11:07that sometimes people study for six years.

00:11:11They do not know what are the well-known books of this art.

00:11:17If we want to know the details of this knowledge,

00:11:21then which books will we find?

00:11:24They are not even aware of this.

00:11:27Just a few pages of that book,

00:11:30a few months of that book,

00:11:32they listened to it.

00:11:34As they listened, time passed,

00:11:36the exam was over, and they were free.

00:11:39So to understand any knowledge in depth,

00:11:44this is the basis of it.

00:12:14There are ten things in every knowledge.

00:12:19There are ten fundamental things in every art and every knowledge.

00:12:25The limit is the definition of that knowledge.

00:12:30The subject is the subject of that knowledge.

00:12:35Then the fruits.

00:12:38First of all, what are the fruits and benefits of that knowledge?

00:12:44What are its benefits?

00:12:47What is the relationship of that knowledge?

00:12:51What is its importance?

00:12:53What is its status?

00:12:55And what is the virtue of that knowledge?

00:13:00And the clear thing is,

00:13:03in the form of the proofs of this knowledge,

00:13:06those who presented this knowledge as a gift,

00:13:09who were the first lucky ones

00:13:12who compiled this knowledge?

00:13:16And what are the names of this knowledge in the world today?

00:13:26And what are the sources of this knowledge?

00:13:32If we want to learn something about this knowledge,

00:13:35from where will we find it?

00:13:39The rule of Sharia.

00:13:42If this is such an important knowledge,

00:13:45then what is the rule of Sharia of Allah?

00:13:50And what guidance has the Prophet given about it?

00:13:57And the tenth thing is,

00:13:59what are the issues of this knowledge?

00:14:10Some people learn a few things and are satisfied with them.

00:14:16And they think that this is enough.

00:14:20Indar-ul-jami'a haad-ul-sharaf.

00:14:25If someone wants to go into the depth of a knowledge,

00:14:30and wants to learn it properly,

00:14:33then he gets introduced to these ten things.

00:14:36He gets introduced.

00:14:39And such a person is honoured

00:14:42who with great accuracy,

00:14:45satisfaction,

00:14:48and determination,

00:14:50takes something according to the principle,

00:14:53that this is the principle, and I have to learn it this way.

00:14:58So in today's gathering,

00:15:01we will present these ten things,

00:15:03through which the etiquette of life,

00:15:06Islamic etiquette,

00:15:08religious etiquette,

00:15:10and their greatness and importance,

00:15:13their benefits and benefits,

00:15:15will be revealed to all of us.

00:15:18So let's come to the first point.

00:15:21What is etiquette?

00:15:26Adbu-adab,

00:15:29in the Arabic language,

00:15:31is from adub-yadub-adaban.

00:15:35In people's perspective,

00:15:38adbu-adab means,

00:15:41intelligence.

00:15:43Learning such things,

00:15:45through which a person's behaviour,

00:15:48comes in front of people,

00:15:51and they say that he is a very intelligent person.

00:15:55Adab also means knowledge and discipline.

00:16:00That a person should have such etiquette,

00:16:04which becomes the slogan of his knowledge and discipline.

00:16:09That yes, he is indeed an educated person.

00:16:13His habits are so beautiful.

00:16:17Discipline and modesty is also the meaning of adab.

00:16:22That the discipline should be so beautiful,

00:16:26that in the light of that hadith,

00:16:29the saints of Allah,

00:16:31who when they see Allah,

00:16:35The saints of Allah are those,

00:16:38who when they see Allah,

00:16:40they remember Allah.

00:16:42Their beautiful behaviour,

00:16:44their words,

00:16:46their character,

00:16:49and their habits and qualities,

00:16:52make the person who sees them,

00:16:55remember Allah.

00:16:57Good manners,

00:17:00and good discipline,

00:17:02this is also the meaning of adab.

00:17:05So adab is such a blessing,

00:17:08through which a person has a beautiful way of living.

00:17:15You must have heard the word,

00:17:18adab-i-kalaam.

00:17:21What does adab-i-kalaam mean?

00:17:24It is such a polite and polite word,

00:17:29It is so polite,

00:17:32it is so beautiful,

00:17:34that the listener enjoys it.

00:17:37So a person who has good manners,

00:17:42he makes his life and character,

00:17:45shine.

00:17:48In Arabic language,

00:17:50a word with adab is called,

00:17:52ta'deeb.

00:17:54Adab,

00:17:55yu'deebu,

00:17:56ta'deeb.

00:17:58Teaching good manners,

00:18:02teaching good manners,

00:18:05showing good manners,

00:18:08making a person polite and polite,

00:18:13You have seen,

00:18:16that in human life,

00:18:18there are not just one, but many,

00:18:20when there is good manners,

00:18:22good things come out of it.

00:18:25In fact, how many of you would be sitting like this,

00:18:29that you have made a standard for yourself.

00:18:35If you want to keep someone as an employee,

00:18:38you don't recruit them.

00:18:40Who is there who can fulfill the right responsibility?

00:18:45You get dozens of people,

00:18:48but in the light of your standards,

00:18:51you make choices.

00:18:54Selected person,

00:18:56the one who is close to you,

00:18:58you make him your right-hand man.

00:19:01So the meaning of adab is,

00:19:04that a person should include such attitudes in his life,

00:19:10which are selected,

00:19:13which are appreciable,

00:19:16which a person should appreciate,

00:19:20and should not live without appreciating.

00:19:24This is why the scholars say,

00:19:27etiquette and adab,

00:19:30were among the fundamental responsibilities of the Prophets.

00:19:36What kind of people were they in Mecca?

00:19:39The source of all the evil in the world.

00:19:43All the evil that can be,

00:19:45before Islam,

00:19:46were all evil.

00:19:48But what was the principle and rule,

00:19:53that when the Prophet,

00:19:56brought them up,

00:19:58they became so polite,

00:20:01that the one who saw them,

00:20:02was left speechless.

00:20:05The one who saw them,

00:20:06did not live without accepting the greatness of Islam.

00:20:10What kind of attitude was that?

00:20:12It was the same attitude,

00:20:14which today,

00:20:16is remembered with Islamic etiquette.

00:20:20In the Arabic language,

00:20:22along with etiquette and discipline,

00:20:24a third word is also used.

00:20:26Ta'adub.

00:20:28What is ta'adub?

00:20:30The behavior,

00:20:32which is appropriate,

00:20:34which is compatible with the past.

00:20:38The ways of life,

00:20:42and the values,

00:20:44which a person adopts,

00:20:47which in every aspect of society,

00:20:50according to his needs,

00:20:52he fulfills them.

00:20:56Today, on small things,

00:20:58houses break down.

00:21:00Sometimes a person objects,

00:21:03I thought that a housewife would be educated.

00:21:07She was not even taught,

00:21:11that the spoon for food,

00:21:13is included in the tea,

00:21:15and there is a separate spoon for it.

00:21:17Who has to teach this?

00:21:19The mother has to teach.

00:21:21She should know,

00:21:23that when I am talking,

00:21:25who is in front of me?

00:21:26It is the mother.

00:21:27In front of me is the father.

00:21:29She should know,

00:21:31that there is a difference between parents and ordinary people.

00:21:36There is a difference between small and big.

00:21:39Elders are always given respect.

00:21:42They respect them,

00:21:45and show kindness to the younger ones.

00:21:47That is why the Prophet said,

00:21:51this difference is over today.

00:21:54The one who has read two to four words,

00:21:58his ability to lift someone's turban,

00:22:01diminishes.

00:22:04The one who has learned two to four words,

00:22:08his ability to misbehave with parents,

00:22:12is considered to be the highest ability of debate.

00:22:15But what does the Shariah say?

00:22:18The one who does not know how to respect elders,

00:22:28the one who does not know how to show kindness to the younger ones,

00:22:33the Prophet of Allah said,

00:22:36What is my relation with him?

00:22:38He is not from my Ummah.

00:22:41On one hand, he speaks with pride and arrogance,

00:22:45that I can answer anyone.

00:22:48Freedom of opinion.

00:22:50I can say whatever I want.

00:22:52You should not call it freedom.

00:22:54You should call it mental and intellectual laziness.

00:22:58Didn't the companions have this freedom?

00:23:02Didn't the followers have this freedom,

00:23:04that they could express their opinion?

00:23:06But if they had expressed their opinion,

00:23:08they would have done it with respect,

00:23:12so that the opinion would have come,

00:23:14and there would have been no difference in respect.

00:23:20That is why,

00:23:22the one who gives training,

00:23:25the one who teaches etiquette,

00:23:27is called a teacher.

00:23:29Such a teacher,

00:23:31such a teacher of etiquette,

00:23:34who takes each and every attitude,

00:23:37from small attitudes,

00:23:39to the highest level of thought,

00:23:42totally polishes it.

00:23:44This purification and beautification procedure,

00:23:50and the effort to take a person to the level of excellence,

00:23:55is the work of a teacher.

00:23:58It is the work of a teacher.

00:24:00Think about it.

00:24:02Sayyiduna Ismail A.S.

00:24:06His father is far away from him.

00:24:09Who taught him this etiquette?

00:24:12That after a long time, his father comes,

00:24:14and says,

00:24:15Son, I want to kill you. I have seen you in a dream.

00:24:18What does the son say?

00:24:20Father, kill me.

00:24:22Think about it for a moment.

00:24:24If we say to our son,

00:24:26that I want to kill you,

00:24:28will he listen?

00:24:30Who taught him this etiquette?

00:24:33He was not a father when he was young.

00:24:40He has become such a great Imam.

00:24:43That is why,

00:24:44Imam Shafi is called the Imam of principles.

00:24:47Who taught him this etiquette?

00:24:50What kind of a mother would she be?

00:24:53Even Imam Bukhari, after a few months,

00:24:56was deprived of his father.

00:25:00Who gave such a great Imam to the Ummah?

00:25:05This is what we have to think about today.

00:25:08Salahuddin was not a jinn. He was a human.

00:25:12What kind of a mother was she who said,

00:25:14I have never given my child a bath without a cloth.

00:25:19Even when he was a child,

00:25:21I used to give him a bath with a cloth.

00:25:23How could she not have given him a bath?

00:25:27What kind of a person would he be?

00:25:29Like Muhammad Al-Fatih.

00:25:31The one who conquered Andalus for 22 years.

00:25:34He was only 22 years old.

00:25:36When he announced,

00:25:38that he has to read two rak'ahs to thank Allah.

00:25:40But he will be taught by the one

00:25:42who has never left Salah in congregation.

00:25:47Who came before him? He himself came.

00:25:49He said, if I had not been afraid

00:25:51that the enemy would taunt me,

00:25:54that I have not offered Salah today,

00:25:56I have not offered Salah.

00:25:58Then I would have been afraid to say,

00:26:00that I have never left Salah in congregation.

00:26:06Was Saeed bin Musayyib not a human?

00:26:11It is not a matter of 50 days.

00:26:13It is not a matter of 50 days.

00:26:15It has been 50 years, he says.

00:26:17Muazzin would have said the call to prayer later.

00:26:20I used to sit in the first row.

00:26:23You should understand the meaning of sitting.

00:26:25He did not come and sit.

00:26:27He came and read two rak'ahs and sat.

00:26:29This is Sunnah.

00:26:30When one of you enters the mosque,

00:26:32he should not sit until he prays two rak'ahs.

00:26:36When one of you comes to the mosque,

00:26:38he should not sit until he reads two rak'ahs.

00:26:41Fifty years.

00:26:44Did Sulaiman ibn Mehran live in America?

00:26:50He says,

00:26:52I have not missed my first Takbeer in 70 years.

00:27:02Who taught you this etiquette?

00:27:05Today, you and I are in need of this etiquette.

00:27:12Which makes us an exemplary nation.

00:27:16Which makes us an exemplary society.

00:27:20Such etiquette should be taught to you and me.

00:27:27And should be taught to our children as well.

00:27:31The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him,

00:27:35taught this to such a nation.

00:27:40You must have read the history of Mecca.

00:27:43There were ninety-four or ninety-six people in Mecca.

00:27:48In the next one and a half century,

00:27:52they have enthralled the whole world.

00:27:55They have enthralled the world with their morals,

00:27:58character,

00:28:01thoughts,

00:28:04words,

00:28:06deeds,

00:28:07and actions.

00:28:09People used to wonder who has trained them.

00:28:13No matter what,

00:28:15the matters of tolerance,

00:28:17courage and bravery,

00:28:19morals and character,

00:28:22honesty and honesty,

00:28:25and the ability to lead a life,

00:28:28to guide a nation,

00:28:32no matter what,

00:28:34the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him,

00:28:37groomed them to such an extent.

00:28:41That is why Allah the Almighty

00:28:43has designated their faith as the scale for the faith of humanity that will come to the Day of Judgment.

00:28:57After the logical definition of morals,

00:29:00to understand the angles of morals,

00:29:02it is necessary to understand the terminological definition.

00:29:06And I would like you to stay with me.

00:29:09And with each definition,

00:29:11think about where you and I are standing,

00:29:14and what is the meaning of morals?

00:29:17Imam Ibn Hajar Asqalani, may Allah have mercy on him, says,

00:29:21he is the author of Sahih Bukhari,

00:29:24Morals are,

00:29:26to use what is praiseworthy in words and actions.

00:29:33To choose words that are worthy of being described,

00:29:36and actions that are worthy of being praised,

00:29:40are in essence, morals and morals.

00:29:43Today, if I say fifty words,

00:29:45how many such words will have no value?

00:29:49The predecessors of Allah used to say,

00:29:52used to pray,

00:29:54Allahumma ja'al hadeesi ibadah,

00:30:00basmati aadah.

00:30:03That is, make everything I say so good,

00:30:08that it becomes a form of worship.

00:30:11And make smiling my habit.

00:30:15And make every aspect of my life,

00:30:20be full of happiness and joy.

00:30:28And death is true and inevitable.

00:30:31But my Lord, my prayer is that,

00:30:33grant me the death of martyrdom.

00:30:37This is what Imam Ibn Hajar Asqalani, may Allah have mercy on him, says,

00:30:41If you are brought up in such a way,

00:30:45that everything you say becomes praiseworthy,

00:30:49if your every behavior and character becomes praiseworthy,

00:30:55then it will be understood that you have good manners.

00:31:00In another place he says,

00:31:02alakhzoo bimakarimil akhlaaq

00:31:06Qaable takreem akhlaaqi rawayyoon ko ikhtiyar karna

00:31:10What does this mean?

00:31:12To adopt such actions,

00:31:14so that people become ready to respect them.

00:31:19Yes, this is a human being,

00:31:22who has indeed been purified by someone.

00:31:29Imam Ibn Hajar Asqalani, may Allah have mercy on him, says,

00:31:33In a third place,

00:31:35huwa ta'zeemu man fauqaq

00:31:38wa alrifqu biman doonaq

00:31:41Your character, your thoughts,

00:31:47and your words will have light and fragrance.

00:31:52Where does it begin?

00:31:55As long as you glorify your elders,

00:31:59respect them,

00:32:02and do not learn to honor them,

00:32:06and do not learn to be gentle with the younger ones,

00:32:11this fragrance, this light,

00:32:14will not enter you.

00:32:17So if you want this light,

00:32:20if you want this fragrance,

00:32:23then first of all,

00:32:25you should know the difference between the elders and the younger ones.

00:32:28And this is knowledge.

00:32:30The difference between truth and falsehood?

00:32:34Between truth and falsehood,

00:32:36there is a distinction between knowledge and wisdom.

00:32:41Between right and wrong,

00:32:44there is a distinction,

00:32:46when there is honor in a person.

00:32:49The distinction between lawful and unlawful,

00:32:51is also given to a person,

00:32:53when he has this knowledge.

00:32:56To acquire this knowledge,

00:32:59about which Sheikh Ahmed Rida narrates,

00:33:03Adab is an angel that protects

00:33:07those who stand by it,

00:33:09from what it takes away.

00:33:12Adab is the name of such an angel,

00:33:16this angel comes inside a person,

00:33:19who gives every bad thing to a person,

00:33:22every bad thing,

00:33:25and removes all bad thoughts,

00:33:29actions,

00:33:31attitude,

00:33:33and words from him.

00:33:36Then when a aspect of his life comes in front of him,

00:33:40then it is not a bad thing,

00:33:42it is not a bad thing,

00:33:44people praise him.

00:33:46Jawaleeki narrates,

00:33:49that Adab is,

00:33:52What is good in morals and good deeds,

00:33:56is like leaving laziness,

00:33:59and putting in effort,

00:34:01and a good meeting.

00:34:05Adab is that,

00:34:07you should have such morals,

00:34:11that the person who meets you once,

00:34:14he does not forget the meeting.

00:34:17And this was the attitude of the Prophet.

00:34:27One day he thinks,

00:34:29that I have met the Prophet of Allah,

00:34:32I think he loves me more than the whole world.

00:34:37This thing made him happy,

00:34:42and prepared him,

00:34:44that I will definitely ask him.

00:34:46So he came to Allah.

00:34:48He said, O Prophet of Allah,

00:34:52who is the most beloved to you?

00:34:58He said, Aisha.

00:35:01He said, no, one of the men.

00:35:05He said, his father, Abu Bakr.

00:35:08I thought,

00:35:10He said, I thought it would be me.

00:35:13He said, who else?

00:35:15He said, Umar.

00:35:17He said, who else?

00:35:20He said, Usman.

00:35:22He said, who else?

00:35:24I took the names of ten people,

00:35:26after Sayyidina Ali.

00:35:29My name came in the tenth place,

00:35:32so I started smiling.

00:35:34I asked, what happened?

00:35:36I thought,

00:35:38that you gave me so much love,

00:35:40when we met,

00:35:42that I felt,

00:35:44that you love no one more than me.

00:35:48This is the way of life.

00:35:51Our pride never ends.

00:35:55We will salute with two fingers.

00:35:58We will salute with half a hand.

00:36:01I don't say it,

00:36:03people say it with broken hands.

00:36:05I don't even like to say it.

00:36:07We will salute with the other hand.

00:36:10Is this also wisdom?

00:36:12The Prophet said,

00:36:27When you salute,

00:36:30when you put your hand in someone's hand,

00:36:33both hands are separated,

00:36:36both sins are forgiven.

00:36:42Such a big reward.

00:36:45And our laziness,

00:36:47that I don't know how to salute.

00:36:50I don't have the manners.

00:36:52And do you know the answer?

00:36:54You were very busy.

00:36:56How many can you salute?

00:36:58You are more busy than Allah.

00:37:01You have a very big position.

00:37:03You have a bigger position than Allah's Prophet.

00:37:06The Sahabi says,

00:37:08When Allah's Prophet used to salute,

00:37:11he used to put his hand in his hand with such laziness,

00:37:14that in every strand of his hand,

00:37:16he used to feel love,

00:37:18happiness and coolness.

00:37:20And he never let go of his hand,

00:37:24until he let go of the other hand.

00:37:28This attitude is very high.

00:37:32We will either salute with the other hand,

00:37:36or we will not put our hand in the other hand.

00:37:38We will salute by swearing, taunting and joking.

00:37:43And the hadith says,

00:37:53The salutation of a hypocrite is,

00:37:55he swears and addresses,

00:37:58this is the attitude of a hypocrite,

00:38:00not the attitude of a believer.

00:38:02This is the etiquette.

00:38:04What is the etiquette?

00:38:09That you should have the ability,

00:38:11to have a good meeting.

00:38:14To be exemplary.

00:38:16What kind of a person was he?

00:38:18He had such a beautiful thought of the Sahabi,

00:38:21that when he leaves the house,

00:38:24he puts his hand in his hand with fragrance.

00:38:26What is he doing?

00:38:28He says, I am doing the salutation.

00:38:31So when I do the salutation,

00:38:33his 30 virtues are different.

00:38:36When he gets fragrance,

00:38:38happiness will be created in his heart.

00:38:40The hadith says,

00:38:42The pleasure in the heart of a believer is charity.

00:38:47To create happiness in the heart of a believer,

00:38:50is also charity.

00:38:52I do not only meet people,

00:38:54I also give charity.

00:38:56The mother of believers,

00:38:58Sayyida Aishah,

00:39:00gives charity and fragrance.

00:39:04What is this, the mother of believers?

00:39:07She says,

00:39:09The charity of Dinar will be as much,

00:39:11as I will give Dinar.

00:39:13So I want that,

00:39:15from this point of view also,

00:39:17a needy beggar will get fragrance.

00:39:20He will be happy.

00:39:21This is also charity,

00:39:22to create happiness in someone's heart.

00:39:25And what is the situation today?

00:39:27A beggar comes to a Salaf.

00:39:30He is needy.

00:39:32The first thing is that,

00:39:34the Shariah did not like him,

00:39:36that the one who has food,

00:39:38should spread his hand.

00:39:40The Shariah did not like him.

00:39:42But the Shariah has taught us,

00:39:44that if someone comes,

00:39:46Do not shout.

00:39:50Do not push.

00:39:52Do not shout.

00:39:54Do not say,

00:39:55that these do not end.

00:39:57Do not say,

00:39:58that we have a shop.

00:40:00When someone comes to a Salaf,

00:40:02he should first hold his hand and kiss it.

00:40:05Then he should give charity,

00:40:07in secret.

00:40:08Why should he kiss?

00:40:09He should say,

00:40:10this is the hand,

00:40:12which will give me heights,

00:40:14on the Day of Judgment.

00:40:16Today this attitude will end.

00:40:19The Prophet ﷺ,

00:40:22taught this attitude to the Companions,

00:40:25which is called Adab.

00:40:27Allama Safarini says,

00:40:30Adab is,

00:40:36Wisdom,

00:40:38is to adopt wisdom.

00:40:40Wisdom is,

00:40:46to have the ability,

00:40:48to do any work,

00:40:50to have the ability,

00:40:52to do any work,

00:40:54is called Adab.

00:40:55You must have seen some people,

00:40:57I would like to relate this to human life.

00:41:01After getting big degrees,

00:41:04they will get married.

00:41:06In less than a month,

00:41:07they will flop.

00:41:09That poor person does not know,

00:41:10how to spend his life.

00:41:11How to live with someone.

00:41:14How to take care of two families.

00:41:17Master,

00:41:19will reach the PhD level.

00:41:21His first job will be,

00:41:23within two months.

00:41:25Why?

00:41:26Because he does not understand,

00:41:28what the boss wants.

00:41:30If you don't understand,

00:41:31who will understand?

00:41:33Who will understand?

00:41:35What did you read?

00:41:37The ability to adjust,

00:41:40is Adab.

00:41:42It is an art.

00:41:44How to get out of the most difficult situation,

00:41:47how to get out of the most difficult situation,

00:41:50so that your personality is not damaged,

00:41:52and you can work.

00:41:56They will say,

00:41:57the situation is not good.

00:41:59The society is like this.

00:42:01My dear brother,

00:42:02is there a situation worse than Mecca?

00:42:06Where there were only Allah's messengers.

00:42:08Then there were three.

00:42:10Then there were five.

00:42:12Is there such a situation,

00:42:13that the collar is being pulled.

00:42:16And Sayyiduna Abu Dha,

00:42:17may Allah be pleased with him,

00:42:18is being killed.

00:42:20And there is blood from the head.

00:42:21Blood is coming out of the mouth.

00:42:23Blood is coming out of the shoulder.

00:42:24Is there such a situation?

00:42:27That Sayyiduna Abu Bakr Siddiq,

00:42:29may Allah be pleased with him,

00:42:30is being killed.

00:42:32And Allah's messenger is being pulled from here.

00:42:35Is there a situation worse than this?

00:42:37What are you saying?

00:42:39You are trying to escape.

00:42:41You want to take yourself on the path of failure.

00:42:44And you want,

00:42:45no one will touch me.

00:42:46No one will say anything to me.

00:42:47Should I do something or not?

00:42:49This is the path of escape.

00:42:50There were worse situations than this.

00:42:52But Allah created light there.

00:42:55The society is very bad.

00:42:58What can happen?

00:43:00It can happen.

00:43:01You read the Quran.

00:43:09The scholars say,

00:43:11the one who is the owner of the pure milk,

00:43:16which is between blood and dung,

00:43:19he is able to keep you in a pure society.

00:43:28The condition is,

00:43:30that you should have that ability.

00:43:33With which all these things come in line.

00:43:38That this thing is bad and this is good.

00:43:40How do I escape from badness and how do I do good?

00:43:44No disorder.

00:43:45No fight.

00:43:47No emotions.

00:43:48Not fights.

00:43:49Wisdom and wisdom.

00:43:52This wisdom and wisdom,

00:43:54this vastness,

00:43:57this ability to handle matters,

00:44:00is called adab.

00:44:02The Prophet has presented an example.

00:44:06There are many angles to it.

00:44:08But I will keep one angle.

00:44:10Al mu'min mir'atul mu'min.

00:44:14Al mu'min mir'atul mu'min has a mirror.

00:44:18One of the abilities of the mirror is,

00:44:21that if one mirror is seen by lakhs of people,

00:44:27then the mirror shows the face.

00:44:30That after a hundred people,

00:44:31it will say, stop it.

00:44:33I will not show it anymore.

00:44:36In the mirror,

00:44:37this ability is of Allah.

00:44:39It is not the soul.

00:44:42Whether you are sick or healthy,

00:44:47it will show you the face in both situations.

00:44:51What are the excuses here?

00:44:53I cannot work.

00:44:55What is work?

00:44:56Respect for elders.

00:44:57Love for the younger ones.

00:44:58Obedience to prayer.

00:44:59Sense of responsibility.

00:45:01And awareness of one's responsibility.

00:45:03Obedience to one's duties.

00:45:04Worrying about their performance.

00:45:06What should I do?

00:45:08How many people should I work with?

00:45:10How many people should I work with?

00:45:12Even if lakhs of people look at the mirror,

00:45:15the mirror does not say no.

00:45:18Allah's messengers were like this.

00:45:20In the last days,

00:45:22people used to sit and do tahajjud.

00:45:24People used to break it by doing people's work.

00:45:31Despite the fact that if you get angry,

00:45:34Some people are angry.

00:45:36They just came and broke it.

00:45:39Then they sat and cried.

00:45:41You will break that mirror too.

00:45:44Just look at a piece of it.

00:45:47It will not show you the face.

00:45:49Still, it will show you the face.

00:45:52This is a matter of a believer's etiquette.

00:45:55The world curses.

00:45:58The world taunts.

00:46:00Blames and accusations.

00:46:04It does not leave its good and bad.

00:46:06Whose Ummah are we?

00:46:08Was the Prophet of Allah not called unjust?

00:46:14He said,

00:46:15If I do not do justice, who will?

00:46:20There were such misfortunes that

00:46:23I seek refuge with Allah,

00:46:25these prophets are frauds.

00:46:27I seek refuge with Allah.

00:46:28Allah has revealed a verse in the Quran.

00:46:31And it was not for a prophet to cheat.

00:46:35It is not worthy of a prophet to cheat.

00:46:41People also said,

00:46:42He is crazy.

00:46:43He is a magician.

00:46:45I would like to present this to you too,

00:46:47Imam Shafi,

00:46:48who has benefited me a lot.

00:46:52Whoever wants to submit to the words of the people,

00:46:55he is crazy.

00:46:57The person's attitude is that

00:46:59he should not say anything about me.

00:47:01I am a holy cow.

00:47:03There should not be anything about him.

00:47:05He is crazy.

00:47:07How is he crazy?

00:47:09Because they said about Allah,

00:47:12and people did not even call Allah one.

00:47:15They say there are three Allahs.

00:47:17They did not even forgive Allah.

00:47:20And they said about His Messenger,

00:47:22a magician and a madman,

00:47:23He is crazy.

00:47:24There has never been such a person on the face of the earth.

00:47:28Nor will there be till the Day of Judgment.

00:47:30Muhammad is the Messenger of Allah.

00:47:33People also called him a magician,

00:47:35a madman,

00:47:36a madman.

00:47:37I seek refuge with Allah.

00:47:38Who gave him such titles?

00:47:40Who are you and me?

00:47:42What is the status of you and me?

00:47:44So do not think that

00:47:46no one should say anything about me.

00:47:48Recognize your status.

00:47:50You cannot stop people from speaking.

00:47:53What should be done?

00:47:55With wisdom and reason,

00:47:57answer this evil with such wisdom,

00:48:01that evil turns into goodness in the future.

00:48:05The same answer that Yahya bin Muaz gave,

00:48:08when a person abused him,

00:48:11he smiled.

00:48:13Today if someone comes and smiles at him,

00:48:15they say he is a coward.

00:48:17You know that if he speaks, two people will read it.

00:48:20So he sat next to him and said,

00:48:22Why are you not answering?

00:48:24He is a coward.

00:48:25He smiled again.

00:48:27He smiled and said,

00:48:28If I had to answer his abuse with abuse,

00:48:35then why did I read Ilm?

00:48:38Realize this.

00:48:41Did he not have the power?

00:48:43Abu Zar was such a brave man.

00:48:47He was such a loving companion.

00:48:49He did not tolerate any evil.

00:48:51One day he went out.

00:48:53He saw a sorceress

00:48:56carrying another woman

00:48:59and cutting her neck with a sword.

00:49:02There was sorcery.

00:49:04She said, Oh! Sorcery!

00:49:07He ran home,

00:49:09brought a sword and cut her neck.

00:49:12However, this was the beginning of Islam.

00:49:15Later it became a rule

00:49:17that this is the work of the government.

00:49:19Not everyone can do this.

00:49:21So what do they say later?

00:49:23Show me your sword.

00:49:26She was dead.

00:49:28He was such a strong companion.

00:49:32But when he was abused,

00:49:34he remained silent.

00:49:36He wanted to say something.

00:49:38The abuser said,

00:49:40If you say anything, I will abuse you a hundred times.

00:49:43He smiled and said,

00:49:44Even if you abuse me a hundred times,

00:49:46I will not answer even once.

00:49:49Who does not know Abdullah Ibn Abbas?

00:49:52The one who abuses, abuses.

00:49:55He says to the servant,

00:49:56Come soon.

00:49:57People may have understood.

00:49:58He says to the servant,

00:50:00Feed him quickly.

00:50:02He has come from a journey.

00:50:04In a journey,

00:50:05there is a change of temperament.

00:50:06There is a dryness.

00:50:07He will be a little emotional.

00:50:09And he will be ashamed.

00:50:11I abused him and he is feeding me.

00:50:13It is possible that if he abuses me,

00:50:15I will give him ice cream.

00:50:17I will give him chocolate.

00:50:18Is it possible?

00:50:19No, it is not possible.

00:50:21Hassan Basri was so upset.

00:50:23He sent a box of dates.

00:50:26He was very upset.

00:50:28He said,

00:50:29I have ruined the words of today.

00:50:32Where did this box of dates come from?

00:50:35He said,

00:50:36Hassan Basri sent it.

00:50:38He asked,

00:50:39What is this box of dates?

00:50:42He said,

00:50:43I came to know that you have given me a lot of good deeds.

00:50:46I came to know today that

00:50:47without salary,

00:50:49how can someone give good deeds?

00:50:51I said,

00:50:52He is making arrangements for so many good deeds for me,

00:50:54by abusing and abusing.

00:50:56So let me also make his mouth sweet.

00:50:59Is it possible that if someone abuses today,

00:51:02he will be given a box of sweets?

00:51:04Coincidentally,

00:51:05I said in a gathering,

00:51:07I received a message from a person,

00:51:09that I have understood today.

00:51:11I was also thinking of buying a shop.

00:51:13Now I have to abuse you so much,

00:51:15he said,

00:51:16Will you buy me a shop of sweets?

00:51:18I said,

00:51:19May Allah give you two shops.

00:51:20May Allah not abuse you.

00:51:22May Allah give you two to three.

00:51:24So,

00:51:25Adab is that,

00:51:27you should not have this arrogance,

00:51:30that no matter what anyone does,

00:51:32I will not come down from my level.

00:51:35I have set my level.

00:51:37What is that?

00:51:38A beneficial person,

00:51:40a righteous person,

00:51:42a good citizen,

00:51:45in whichever country I will be,

00:51:47I will not come down from that level.

00:51:50Ibn Ata says,

00:51:52Adab is that,

00:51:53Al adabu al wuqoofu ba'al mustahsanat.

00:52:00In the world,

00:52:01wherever there is something,

00:52:03that is worthy of praise,

00:52:06that is worthy of praise,

00:52:09adopting it,

00:52:13and to make yourself worthy of praise,

00:52:17to do this,

00:52:19is in reality, adab.

00:52:23Imam Ibn Qayyim, may Allah have mercy on him,

00:52:25finished the matter.

00:52:27He used to say,

00:52:29Al adabu ijtima'u khisaalil khairi fil abd.

00:52:35If someone wants to see a combination of good and bad,

00:52:40then he should look at the person,

00:52:42who has been taught by Allah and His Messenger,

00:52:45adab and good manners.

00:52:47He has been blessed.

00:52:50Imam Ismail Al Harawi says,

00:52:53Hifdhul hadd bainal ghulubi wal jafa'a,

00:52:58bima'rifati dharari al adwan.

00:53:02When a person gets the ability,

00:53:05what are my limits?

00:53:08Where will the loss begin,

00:53:10and how much benefit will I get?

00:53:13What are the moral and legal things,

00:53:18that have caused me loss,

00:53:20I will not go near them.

00:53:24Where there are benefits, I will get them.

00:53:28Understand that this person,

00:53:30has created a beautiful angle of adab in himself.

00:53:34In us, when these things don't come,

00:53:36we get stubbornness.

00:53:38Which law? What is it?

00:53:41Hasn't Islam taught you anything?

00:53:45Which law?

00:53:47Hasn't any teacher taught you,

00:53:49that there is a law?

00:53:51What is that person doing?

00:53:53Are you responsible for that person?

00:53:55Do you have to account for that person?

00:53:58You have to account for yourself.

00:54:01What is your standing?

00:54:03You think that,

00:54:05you have to present yourself before Allah.

00:54:07You are an exemplary member of society.

00:54:10Society is made up of each individual,

00:54:12and each element.

00:54:14You have to tell people,

00:54:15why this and that is not there.

00:54:17So you, how are you?

00:54:20When this feeling is awakened,

00:54:23then understand that,

00:54:24this person has adab.

00:54:27The religion of Prophet Muhammad,

00:54:31among those who understand it,

00:54:33is Abdullah bin Mubarak.

00:54:35And what a wonderful person he was.

00:54:38The truth is that,

00:54:41a student is a teacher.

00:54:44A student is a teacher's secret.

00:54:47And a son is a father's secret.

00:54:52When I read a few stories,

00:54:55I keep thinking,

00:54:57that Fudail Ibn Uyad used to pray,

00:55:01O Allah, make my son better than me.

00:55:05He used to pray and get up for tahajjud,

00:55:09and his son was in the first prostration.

00:55:13What a coolness came into his heart.

00:55:16And his son is sitting in the market,

00:55:19and he is cleaning the scale.

00:55:22Someone asked, what are you doing?

00:55:24He said, I have to weigh it,

00:55:27so I have a lump.

00:55:28So if this lump also goes in the weight,

00:55:31then how will I account for the Day of Judgment?

00:55:33I said, this is amazing.

00:55:35He is afraid of the lump.

00:55:37People are weighing the lump.

00:55:41Look at wheat.

00:55:43Look at something.

00:55:45If you go to buy chillies,

00:55:47you will know what it is.

00:55:49Where there are such habits,

00:55:51those nations never rise.

00:55:55What a wonder of Abdullah Ibn Mubarak.

00:55:58He is the son of the father,

00:56:00who was kept as a gardener.

00:56:03Once the gardener came with his friends for a visit.

00:56:06He asked them to bring some fruits.

00:56:09They broke some and presented it to him.

00:56:12They were all fresh.

00:56:14They were not ripe.

00:56:16He said, don't you know how ripe fruits are?

00:56:19He said, you have kept me as a gardener,

00:56:22not to taste the fruits.

00:56:25Since I have come,

00:56:27I have not dared to break any fruit.

00:56:30He was very worried.

00:56:32How can this be? He is a human being.

00:56:34He said, he has never touched any fruit.

00:56:40He was very impressed.

00:56:42He called him.

00:56:44He said, tell me one thing.

00:56:46I want to get my daughter married.

00:56:49Whom should I marry?

00:56:51He said, this is the responsibility of the parents.

00:56:55I can give an advice.

00:56:58It is up to you.

00:57:01He said, what is the advice?

00:57:03The Jews marry for wealth.

00:57:08The Jews always marry for wealth.

00:57:11The Christians marry for beauty.

00:57:16The Christians marry for beauty.

00:57:19The Arabs marry for lineage.

00:57:23The Arabs marry for lineage.

00:57:26The believers marry for piety.

00:57:30The believers have piety as their top priority.

00:57:34He said, I did not see anyone like you.

00:57:37I will marry my daughter to you.

00:57:41Abdullah ibn al-Mubarak is his son.

00:57:45The narrator says, he prayed Maghrib.

00:57:49He did dhikr and azkar.

00:57:51He listened.

00:57:53He looked left and right.

00:57:55There was no one.

00:57:57He went in prostration.

00:57:59He raised his head in prostration when the call to prayer of Isha started.

00:58:06He says,

00:58:09If you want to build the foundation of etiquette,

00:58:22The ego that comes in the soul,

00:58:26If you are beautiful, you are arrogant.

00:58:29If you are rich, you are arrogant.

00:58:32If you have a good degree, you are arrogant.

00:58:37If you have a strong body, you are arrogant.

00:58:43Until you sacrifice these egos,

00:58:47There is no etiquette in it.

00:58:53You have to get rid of that arrogance.

00:58:59Then there will be a foundation of etiquette in it.

00:59:04After that, it will be given to those who are not given to anyone in the world.

00:59:13After the logic and terminology of etiquette,

00:59:16The second point is, what is the topic of etiquette?

00:59:19The etiquette that we will study,

00:59:21The etiquette of sitting and standing,

00:59:23The etiquette of business,

00:59:26The etiquette of meeting someone,

00:59:29The etiquette of Dawah, and various other etiquettes.

00:59:32What is the topic of these?

00:59:35Creating beauty in all aspects of life.

00:59:41And to have the ability to act appropriately.

00:59:46Beauty should come in all aspects of my life.

00:59:51And no matter what the attitude of life is,

00:59:54I should know what I have to do here.

00:59:58And today, despite studying,

01:00:01Despite degrees,

01:00:03I don't know what I have to do here.

01:00:07What should I do?

01:00:08This is what people do.

01:00:10People are not standards.

01:00:13Standards are principles and regulations.

01:00:16What are the rules of Shariah?

01:00:19According to that, when you stand up for yourself,

01:00:22Then this is etiquette.

01:00:24And this is the principle to save you from all kinds of problems and social problems.

01:00:33The third point is,

01:00:35What are the benefits and benefits of etiquette?

01:00:39The Udabas say,

01:00:43The main benefit of etiquette is,

01:00:46The wise mind.

01:00:49Allah gives such a wise mind,

01:00:54That the thoughts that come out of it,

01:00:57The emotions that arise in the thoughts,

01:01:01The thoughts,

01:01:03The views,

01:01:05The words,

01:01:06The actions,

01:01:07And the matters,

01:01:08All of them become beautiful.

01:01:12Allah gives such a wise mind.

01:01:18And some scholars say,

01:01:21Using good manners in all situations,

01:01:25Even in the most difficult situations,

01:01:28Even in the most difficult situations,

01:01:31The weightage in that person's opinion,

01:01:36The one who teaches etiquette,

01:01:38Other than that,

01:01:40You will not see that weightage in any person's words.

01:01:45The fourth point is,

01:01:47What is the relationship between knowledge and etiquette?

01:01:53Just like the Quran and Sunnah,

01:01:56Just like the Tafseer and Hadith,

01:01:59Just like the science,

01:02:01Everyone has their own status,

01:02:03People state,

01:02:05What is the status of this knowledge,

01:02:08Which we call the etiquette of Islam.

01:02:11We call it Islamic etiquette.

01:02:13We call it the etiquette of life.

01:02:16From reading the Quran, we know,

01:02:19That the Prophets and Messengers,

01:02:21Who were 1,24,000 Prophets,

01:02:24Of which 315 were Messengers,

01:02:27The rest were Prophets.

01:02:31The Messenger is the one who brought the new Shariah.

01:02:36The Prophet is the one who brought the old Shariah.

01:02:42The fundamental responsibility of all these Prophets and Messengers,

01:02:48Was to educate the people.

01:02:52The great grandfather of the Prophet,

01:02:55Ibrahim A.S. prayed,

01:02:58O our Lord, send among them a Messenger from among themselves,

01:03:03A Messenger from among themselves,

01:03:05Who will recite to them My verses,

01:03:07And will purify them,

01:03:09And will teach them the Book and Wisdom.

01:03:13O Allah,

01:03:15Send among them a Messenger from among themselves,

01:03:18Who will recite to them My verses,

01:03:23And will purify them,

01:03:27And will teach them the Book and Wisdom.

01:03:31Allah has mentioned this three times in the Quran.

01:03:39The result is,

01:03:41The purification, purification and purification of the nation.

01:03:48The Prophets worked on these three stages.

01:03:51What is purification, purification and purification?

01:03:55Purification means,

01:03:58Every thought,

01:04:01Every thing,

01:04:03Every action,

01:04:05Which is against the Shariah,

01:04:08Which is against the Shariah,

01:04:10Which is against the Shariah,

01:04:12To purify a person from it.

01:04:14This is purification.

01:04:16And purification is,

01:04:18When bad things are removed from him,

01:04:22To create brightness and brightness in him,

01:04:26To continuously follow up,

01:04:29That this is happening, yes it is happening.

01:04:31And purification,

01:04:34To deepen the inscriptions of purification,

01:04:38The Prophets gave such a system of purification,

01:04:41That even if they are not the Messengers of Allah,

01:04:44They seem to be doing what the Messengers of Allah had taught them.

01:04:48Today the teacher is happy that the child is studying in front of him.

01:04:52What is the real purification and purification?

01:04:54The teacher is not there.

01:04:56The father is not there.

01:04:58He is dead.

01:04:59That shining star,

01:05:01In every corner of the world,

01:05:03Where there is light,

01:05:05There the father,

01:05:07There the teacher,

01:05:09Seem to be doing more good deeds.

01:05:12This purification,

01:05:13And purification,

01:05:14And purification,

01:05:15Each and every companion,

01:05:17Was done by the Messenger of Allah.

01:05:19From which a perfect society,

01:05:21Was created.

01:05:23And it is called Riyasat-e-Badina.

01:05:26When Allah has made a will about it,

01:05:29There is nothing greater than this.

01:05:31Qoo anfusakum wa ahlikum naara.

01:05:34In the commentary of which Mujahid Ibn Jabr states,

01:05:38And he is that Mujahid Ibn Jabr,

01:05:40Who has done three times,

01:05:43One verse at a time,

01:05:45From Abdullah Ibn Abbas,

01:05:48He has read the entire commentary of the Quran.

01:05:51If there is the most authentic commentary in the world right now,

01:05:55Then it is through Mujahid Ibn Jabr.

01:05:58And through Saeed Ibn Jubair.

01:06:01Which Abdullah Ibn Abbas,

01:06:03And he learned from the Messenger of Allah.

01:06:06In the Quran,

01:06:08There are many verses,

01:06:10In which Allah has stated these etiquettes,

01:06:14Which are not thought of.

01:06:16I will present a few examples,

01:06:18Just to explain and understand,

01:06:21Where we are standing.

01:06:23Atadkhuloo buyootan ghayra buyootikum,

01:06:26Hatta tasta'nisoo,

01:06:28Watusallimoo ala ahliha.

01:06:31Those who claim to have faith,

01:06:34When you go to someone else's house,

01:06:38Until you form a bond,

01:06:42Until then, do not enter anyone's house.

01:06:45Until you say Salam,

01:06:48Do not go to anyone.

01:06:51Tell me honestly,

01:06:53Is our house,

01:06:55Our system,

01:06:57Our society,

01:06:59Our offices,

01:07:01Are they in accordance with this verse?

01:07:04The situation is that we have made customary standards.

01:07:07This is my first cousin's house.

01:07:09This is my second cousin's house.

01:07:12And what will happen?

01:07:14Without knocking on the door,

01:07:16Without saying Salam,

01:07:18We will go inside.

01:07:20And the Shariah is so sensitive,

01:07:23That the honour of a believer is so precious,

01:07:26That without permission,

01:07:28Someone will knock on your door.

01:07:30It is a very far thing to come.

01:07:32And if you hit a stone,

01:07:34Or hit an iron rod,

01:07:36And remove its eye,

01:07:38Then it will not be a sin.

01:07:40The Prophet of Allah himself was sitting,

01:07:43He felt that someone saw him from the door.

01:07:47The Prophet of Allah said,

01:07:49I have an iron rod with me.

01:07:51If I would have known,

01:07:53I would have removed your eye.

01:07:55And the situation is that,

01:07:57The Prophet of Allah taught him manners.

01:07:59Someone asked Imam-e-Auzai,

01:08:01How old should a child be,

01:08:07To be taught these manners?

01:08:09Son, if you want to go to someone,

01:08:11You have to take permission.

01:08:13How old should he be taught?

01:08:15He said, four years.

01:08:19If a child is four years old,

01:08:21He should be taught these manners.

01:08:23Son, we do not go to someone's house without permission.

01:08:27Today, even 40 year old children,

01:08:29Go without permission.

01:08:31To be frank,

01:08:33Today, even 40 year old children,

01:08:36Are not allowed to go and say Salam.

01:08:39Although the Hadith says,

01:08:42One who does not say Salam to you,

01:08:44And wants to come to you,

01:08:46You should not allow him to come to you.

01:08:49Even this 40 year old child,

01:08:51Did not learn these manners today.

01:08:53He will call but not say Salam.

01:08:55He will only say Hello.

01:08:57Whereas the Hadith says,

01:09:05One who wants to talk to you,

01:09:07But does not say Salam,

01:09:09Do not answer him.

01:09:11You try it.

01:09:13If you call someone and do not answer,

01:09:15It will become a bigger problem.

01:09:17I called but he did not answer.

01:09:19Because he has not heard these manners.

01:09:22And if he has heard,

01:09:24Then his greatness will not be in front of him.

01:09:27The Prophet,

01:09:29Taught the same to the Companions.

01:09:32If you want to go to someone's house,

01:09:34Never stand in front of the door and knock.

01:09:37This is the next stage.

01:09:43He used to knock with his nails.

01:09:45He used to knock so much,

01:09:47That the voice of the Companions would reach.

01:09:50And what do we do?

01:09:52Because I have come.

01:09:54Now this is not me.

01:09:56This is not the door.

01:09:58This is not a manner.

01:10:00And if a respected person has rang the bell,

01:10:03You should ring the bell once.

01:10:05A sick person may be inside.

01:10:07The doctors may have told him not to ring the bell.

01:10:10Once, twice,

01:10:12At most three times,

01:10:14And go back.

01:10:16He has just kept his hand on the bell.

01:10:18When will he wake up?

01:10:19When the bell will have rung.

01:10:21This is not a manner.

01:10:23This is a manner.

01:10:25That the Prophet of Allah,

01:10:27Went to the house of the Companions.

01:10:29He knocked the door three times.

01:10:31Asked for permission.

01:10:32If no one came, he went back.

01:10:34He did not get angry.

01:10:36Because the Hadith says,

01:10:38Ask for permission three times.

01:10:41If he gives permission, he should come.

01:10:43If not, he should go back.

01:10:45And if you are told to go back,

01:10:47Then go back.

01:10:49When you are told to go back,

01:10:51Then go back.

01:10:53This is the greatness for you.

01:10:56Allah Almighty said in another place,

01:11:00No nation should make fun of another nation.

01:11:06Tell us honestly,

01:11:08In our 24 hours,

01:11:10How many hours do we spend in making fun?

01:11:14Talking about civilization and civilization,

01:11:18Talking about honour and respect,

01:11:21To make someone fall,

01:11:23To damage someone's honour,

01:11:26To damage someone's dignity,

01:11:28All kinds of jokes,

01:11:30All kinds of voices,

01:11:32And all kinds of talks.

01:11:34Allah has taught this in the Quran.

01:11:36No nation should make fun of another nation.

01:11:39Neither a man should make fun of a woman,

01:11:41Nor a woman should make fun of another woman.

01:11:43Do not blame yourselves.

01:11:45Do not give bad names.

01:11:47Someone is saying something.

01:11:49Satan is saying something.

01:11:51There is a fight.

01:11:53There is a fight between two sides.

01:11:56If you think about it,

01:11:58You will understand,

01:12:00How harmful it is,

01:12:02If there is no respect and honour.

01:12:04Do not blame yourselves.

01:12:07Allah has taught us this.

01:12:09Some people think,

01:12:11I am very brave.

01:12:13I am ready to do it in front of people.

01:12:15Is it permissible to say something wrong in front of people?

01:12:19In front of the face,

01:12:21Or behind the face,

01:12:23What is wrong is wrong.

01:12:25The Companions asked this question.

01:12:27If there is a flaw in someone,

01:12:29If we say it,

01:12:31Is it also a sin?

01:12:33He said, this is a sin.

01:12:35If it is not there,

01:12:37You will say, this is blasphemy.

01:12:39This is a sin.

01:12:41And you are saying such a thing in front of someone,

01:12:44That he will feel bad.

01:12:46If you are not brave,

01:12:48If you are truthful,

01:12:50Go to his house.

01:12:52Explain to him,

01:12:54My brother,

01:12:56You have this in you.

01:12:58What do you think,

01:13:00Should I tell you what the Prophet of Allah said?

01:13:02Or there is another way,

01:13:04If you think he is angry,

01:13:06Take the attitude of Hassan and Hussain.

01:13:08When they saw a person,

01:13:10That his ablution was not right,

01:13:12They did not say,

01:13:14Did you see how old you are?

01:13:16They did not teach this attitude.

01:13:18He said,

01:13:20If you like,

01:13:22Then both of us will do ablution for you.

01:13:24Tell us,

01:13:26Whose ablution is right?

01:13:28Both of them did ablution for him.

01:13:30That old man said,

01:13:32Both of your ablutions are right.

01:13:34Mine is not right.

01:13:36They are sitting in a gathering.

01:13:38Suddenly a problem arises.

01:13:40When a problem arises in a gathering,

01:13:42Look at Sayyiduna Umar's attitude.

01:13:44Look at his attitude.

01:13:46He said,

01:13:48We have been sitting for a long time.

01:13:50Should we not do ablution again?

01:13:52He did not say anything to anyone.

01:13:54This is the wisdom.

01:13:56This is the depth

01:13:58And the deepness of etiquette.

01:14:00That you do not damage

01:14:02Someone's intellect, understanding,

01:14:04And personality.

01:14:06And find a solution.

01:14:08The Prophet of Allah,

01:14:10Peace be upon him and his family,

01:14:12This is how the Qur'an was revealed.

01:14:14This is how he was brought up.

01:14:16This was the etiquette.

01:14:18Do not use bad names.

01:14:22Do not use bad names.

01:14:24Here, the sons,

01:14:26The father,

01:14:28The brothers,

01:14:30The friends,

01:14:32Keep the names of your relatives.

01:14:34The devil has come.

01:14:36Astaghfirullah.

01:14:38The devil.

01:14:40Then what are you?

01:14:44Because the relative is a disbeliever.

01:14:46The uncle of the Prophet of Allah,

01:14:48Abu Lahab,

01:14:50Was a disbeliever.

01:14:52So he is an uncle.

01:14:54So if he is the devil,

01:14:56Then what are you?

01:14:58What are you?

01:15:00People are deprived of thinking.

01:15:02When they are deprived of etiquette.

01:15:04What am I saying?

01:15:06This is etiquette.

01:15:08When you come to Salam,

01:15:10Respond with

01:15:12a good response.

01:15:14When someone says,

01:15:16As-salamu alaykum,

01:15:18Respond with,

01:15:20Wa alaykum al-salam wa rahmatullah.

01:15:22When someone says,

01:15:24As-salamu alaykum wa rahmatullah,

01:15:26Respond with a good response.

01:15:28Wa alaykum al-salam wa rahmatullah.

01:15:30Wa barakatuh.

01:15:32And there is a narration.

01:15:34When he said,

01:15:36If you say Salam, you should say it from the front.

01:15:38Didn't you see the man behind you who wanted to say Salam, and I had to say it?

01:15:43Is this manners?

01:15:45The Messenger of Allah said one thing.

01:15:47Now there are three narrations.

01:15:49They are in two words.

01:15:51If you want to go higher, then do Salam in general.

01:15:56If you want to go lower, then do Salam in general.

01:16:00If you want to go higher, then do Salam in general.

01:16:03If you want to go lower, then do Salam in general.

01:16:06If you want to go higher, then do Salam in general.

01:16:09If you want to go lower, then do Salam in general.

01:16:13If you want to go higher, then do Salam in general.

01:16:18This was the first article that was included in the constitution of the state of Madinah.

01:16:25When the Messenger of Allah went to Madinah, there were the Aus and the Khazraj.

01:16:29There were also the Jews.

01:16:31He wrote the first written constitution of the world.

01:16:35He wrote it fifty-four times.

01:16:39The Jews also signed it.

01:16:4127 of them were only for the Muslims to meet the Jews and other people.

01:16:48What would be the rules and regulations?

01:16:51The remaining 27 were for the Muslims.

01:16:54Today we don't understand.

01:16:56Some people think there is bravery in this too.

01:16:59They will go to someone's house, they won't open the door with their hands,

01:17:02they will kick it with their feet.

01:17:04And later they will say, wow, wow, wow.

01:17:07He has a lot of courage.

01:17:09So if they are asked, he is a donkey with courage, what will you say?

01:17:14Because if the door is not open with this, he will break it.

01:17:18Is this courage?

01:17:20You are a believer, a Muslim, a human being.

01:17:22You are the chief of all creatures.

01:17:24Your behavior should be like a human being.

01:17:26Why are you making an example of a donkey?

01:17:29This is not courage.

01:17:31Courage is what Islam has taught.

01:17:33It is against the disbelievers.

01:17:35To abuse the Muslims, to slap them, and to kill them is not courage.

01:17:41Giving them respect is courage.

01:17:43The Prophet was passing by a people.

01:17:48He was doing wrestling.

01:17:54There is a narration in Sahih al-Jamia that people were doing weight lifting.

01:17:57He asked, what is this?

01:17:59They said, they are increasing strength.

01:18:01He said, shouldn't I give news of a person who has strength from this?

01:18:05When the companions heard this, they said, why not?

01:18:09He said, the one who has strength from this is the one who can control his anger.

01:18:16The Prophet has taught all these manners.

01:18:21It is not only Allah who has taught this in the Quran.

01:18:24The Prophet of Allah has also taught this.

01:18:26The Companion Mu'az Ibn Jabal says,

01:18:33I will advise you on ten things.

01:18:37Think about it.

01:18:42Don't do shirk.

01:18:48You should be killed.

01:18:51Your body should be cut into pieces.

01:18:54Don't do shirk.

01:18:56Now tell me honestly, does the society understand this?

01:19:02If the narration of Tariq Ibn Shihab tells us that

01:19:06when two people reached the place where they were hunted,

01:19:10where they were caught,

01:19:12that in the name of the Goddess, you should offer a sacrifice.

01:19:15When they refused, they were threatened with death.

01:19:18And what was the deal?

01:19:20You should offer a fly in the name of the Goddess.

01:19:25One said, it is a fly.

01:19:28The Hadith says, he offered a fly in the name of Allah.

01:19:35Because of the fly, he went to hell.

01:19:38The one who didn't offer a fly, he will be killed.

01:19:41He will go to heaven.

01:19:43Tell me honestly.

01:19:45You are all knowledgeable people.

01:19:48Does a fly sell here?

01:19:50Is there a shop here?

01:19:52What is its price?

01:19:54Offering 1.5 lakhs in the name of Allah.

01:19:57And then offering 10-20 million in the name of a non-believer.

01:20:02Does the society understand this?

01:20:05How will they calculate?

01:20:07This is being taught.

01:20:10My companion, your body should be cut into pieces.

01:20:13You should be burnt to ashes.

01:20:16Don't do shirk.

01:20:18It is said,

01:20:20And do not disobey your parents.

01:20:23Today, the society that cries and whispers,

01:20:27Every two hours, they say,

01:20:31Maulana, pray for us.

01:20:33Our sons are very ill-mannered.

01:20:35What can we do?

01:20:37We can only pray.

01:20:39And what is the advice?

01:20:41And do not disobey your parents.

01:20:43And if He commands you to leave your family and property,

01:20:48And if He commands you to leave your family and property,

01:20:53And if He commands you to leave your family and property,

01:20:56You are my children, this is my property.

01:20:58If you leave, then leave.

01:21:00These are the rules of Allah.

01:21:02What is here?

01:21:04What will you say about the state of the society, of the community,

01:21:08Where the father is afraid to talk,

01:21:11That his son may get angry.

01:21:15Where he is afraid to talk,

01:21:17That if the words are misplaced,

01:21:19Then I will be humiliated.

01:21:21Is this a society?

01:21:23Is this a community?

01:21:25Where the status is given such an example,

01:21:28That the son becomes the father, and the father becomes the son.

01:21:31Allah has also mentioned the sign of the Day of Judgment.

01:21:36The sign of the Day of Judgment is,

01:21:38That the woman will give birth to the master.

01:21:41And the mother will have a strong mouth.

01:21:44She will behave with her mother in such a way,

01:21:47As if she is her daughter.

01:21:49And the second meaning,

01:21:51Which is written in the Shara of this Hadith,

01:21:53That people will become so unfortunate,

01:21:56That they will sell their mother for money.

01:21:59She will sell and sell,

01:22:01One day she will come and buy herself.

01:22:03First she was a mother, and now she has become her daughter.

01:22:06Until these etiquettes and manners do not come into the society,

01:22:10Until then, my dear and respected,

01:22:14We will not be able to see the splendor of this society,

01:22:19For which we yearn.

01:22:21How did the Prophet of Allah teach this etiquette at home?

01:22:25It is a far-fetched thing at home.

01:22:27Now a Jew came and said, Assalamu Alaikum.

01:22:31I will also say with respect,

01:22:33Pay attention,

01:22:34How is my and your greetings at the same time?

01:22:37Assalamu Alaikum.

01:22:38Do you know what this means?

01:22:39You should say Assalamu Alaikum.

01:22:42Assalamu Alaikum.

01:22:44It means, death is upon you.

01:22:48Now the Jews are enemies.

01:22:51They passed by and said, Assalamu Alaikum, O Muhammad.

01:22:55We seek refuge in Allah, death is upon you, O Muhammad.

01:22:58What did the Prophet say?

01:22:59Wa Alaikum.

01:23:01What does it mean?

01:23:02Death is upon you.

01:23:03When Sayyida Aisha heard this,

01:23:06She understood.

01:23:07She said, O Allah, death is upon you, curse is upon you, anger is upon you.

01:23:13He said, slowly, O Aisha.

01:23:15Slowly.

01:23:16Stop.

01:23:18She said, didn't you hear what I said?

01:23:21Didn't you hear what the Prophet of Allah said?

01:23:24He said, didn't you hear what I said?

01:23:26Didn't you hear what I said?

01:23:28They said, death is upon me.

01:23:30They will not be accepted.

01:23:32I said, death is upon you.

01:23:33I will be accepted.

01:23:35I gave the same answer.

01:23:37The Prophet of Allah taught all these manners.

01:23:42And a difficult hadith is of Sahihul Jamia and Sahiha.

01:23:46Don't sit somewhere and get upset.

01:23:50The hadith says,

01:23:57To teach such things,

01:23:59Hang a whip in your house,

01:24:01For your family,

01:24:03So that it is a means of respect for them.

01:24:06But today we have prepared a slogan.

01:24:08Although with a very good intention.

01:24:13What is the result?

01:24:14The children who did not speak in front of their parents,

01:24:17Now they have become rude.

01:24:19The children who used to look down on their teachers,

01:24:22Now they are tearing their homes.

01:24:24Which slogan has ruined it?

01:24:27We ourselves believe that,

01:24:29It is not right to hit.

01:24:35To teach manners,

01:24:39The children who are so rude and rude,

01:24:42Need water to keep the tree green.

01:24:49If you don't correct their attitude,

01:24:52You will always suffer a loss.

01:24:55That is why the Prophet has called it,

01:24:57A part of prophethood.

01:25:00To whom?

01:25:01To manners and etiquette.

01:25:11To have a good character,

01:25:13And to choose the right path,

01:25:16Is the 70th part of prophethood.

01:25:20Such is the knowledge of greatness,

01:25:23Of manners and etiquette.

01:25:24And the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him,

01:25:27In the second hadith,

01:25:29Created even more excellence.

01:25:31He said,

01:25:42This is the 25th part of prophethood.

01:25:45In fact, the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him,

01:25:49Created the distinction of the companions,

01:25:52That they have manners and etiquette.

01:25:54The companions of the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him,

01:25:59They were the first generation of manners and etiquette.

01:26:06That is why Imam Ibn Qayyim says,

01:26:14All of this is religion.

01:26:18And the scholars of the Ummah,

01:26:20Read the lives of the companions,

01:26:22Understood, thought,

01:26:24And decided,

01:26:25That before knowledge,

01:26:27We should learn manners.

01:26:29We have a lot of knowledge.

01:26:32We will answer each and every question.

01:26:35And we will be ready to fight.

01:26:37We will be ready for debates.

01:26:39Come and debate with me.

01:26:41At least talk to me.

01:26:43You will not learn manners.

01:26:45This was the attitude of the predecessors.

01:26:50Who said this?

01:26:51Umar.

01:26:53Learn manners before learning knowledge.

01:26:56Imam Abu Abdullah Balkhi says,

01:27:03You and I are not as much in need of knowledge,

01:27:05As we are in need of manners.

01:27:08The righteous predecessors advised their children,

01:27:16I would like you to learn 70 levels of knowledge.

01:27:21If you learn one level of knowledge,

01:27:24I would like you to learn 70 levels of knowledge,

01:27:29But you will not learn manners.

01:27:34Imam Zuhri says,

01:27:35Who is the teacher of Imam Bukhari,

01:27:38We used to come to the scholar,

01:27:40But what we learn from his manners,

01:27:42Is more dear to me than knowledge.

01:27:44Whenever we go to our teachers,

01:27:47We learn manners from them more than knowledge.

01:27:52Today,

01:27:53What will we teach manners?

01:27:55I remember the words of Abdullah Ibn Mubarak again.

01:27:58He used to say,

01:27:59I have asked for manners for 30 years,

01:28:02And I have asked for knowledge for 20 years.

01:28:05I have asked for manners for 30 years,

01:28:09And I have asked for knowledge for 20 years.

01:28:12And they used to learn,

01:28:14And they used to ask for manners before knowledge.

01:28:17And I have seen my teachers,

01:28:19They used to ask for manners before knowledge,

01:28:24And they used to learn it.

01:28:28What is surprising is,

01:28:30Imam Ahmad Ibn Hanbal,

01:28:34And Imam Sufyan Sauri,

01:28:36Have said such a strange thing.

01:28:39Where did they do it?

01:28:40They used to say,

01:28:41A man, if he wants to write a hadith,

01:28:45If he wants to read a hadith in our time,

01:28:48If he wants to write it,

01:28:50He used to learn manners and worship,

01:28:53Before that,

01:28:54For 20 years,

01:28:55Before that,

01:28:56He used to learn manners for 20 years,

01:28:59And put himself in worship,

01:29:02Before that,

01:29:03He used to join the ranks of the Muhaddithin.

01:29:07Today,

01:29:08The one who narrates a hadith,

01:29:10Must be narrating a hadith,

01:29:12Must have done a PhD,

01:29:14Must be abusing,

01:29:16And must be saying all kinds of things,

01:29:19Is this manners?

01:29:20Must be lying to Allah's Messenger,

01:29:23Must be narrating false stories,

01:29:25Must be presenting stories,

01:29:28Is this manners of knowledge?

01:29:31Those who have understood the religion of the Messenger of Allah,

01:29:35Understand this,

01:29:375000 people used to read in front of Imam Ahmad bin Hanbal,

01:29:44How many thousands?

01:29:47I didn't say 500, I said 5000.

01:29:51Maybe you are aware of this,

01:29:53Otherwise I will tell you,

01:29:55When Imam Ahmad bin Hanbal passed away,

01:29:57When he passed away,

01:29:58250,000 people led his funeral prayer.

01:30:01I am talking about that time.

01:30:04Out of the 5000 people who used to sit,

01:30:07Only 500 people used to write.

01:30:09The remaining 4500 people used to learn manners,

01:30:12How to teach the teacher,

01:30:15And how to sit in the class.

01:30:17They used to learn only manners.

01:30:19The religion of the Messenger of Allah,

01:30:22Tells us,

01:30:24That intellect and manners,

01:30:26Are bound to each other.

01:30:27If there is no manners,

01:30:28A person becomes ill-mannered.

01:30:30If there is no intellect,

01:30:31He does not learn manners.

01:30:33There is no manners,

01:30:34Except with intellect,

01:30:35And no intellect,

01:30:36Except with manners.

01:30:38One who does not have manners with intellect,

01:30:40His intellect is no longer intellect.

01:30:42He will never tell you a reasonable thing.

01:30:45One who does not have manners,

01:30:46His intellect is of no use.

01:30:48That is why,

01:30:50He used to say,

01:30:51The secret of knowledge,

01:30:52Is the intellect and the intellect.

01:30:54If you want to translate your intellect,

01:30:57They will translate your manners.

01:30:59Whatever manners you have,

01:31:02You don't need to get it checked.

01:31:04You can understand,

01:31:05What is the level of your intellect.

01:31:07That is why,

01:31:08The Prophet used to say,

01:31:10A person who calls himself wise,

01:31:17And does not have manners,

01:31:19He is such a brave person,

01:31:21Who has no power or weapons.

01:31:23What is bravery?

01:31:25He does not have anything of bravery.

01:31:29That is why,

01:31:30Shuaib bin Shaibah says,

01:31:32Ask for manners,

01:31:33For it is the substance of the intellect.

01:31:36If you want to make your intellect,

01:31:38So that it becomes suitable for people,

01:31:42Then learn manners.

01:31:44And Sulahai used to say,

01:31:47The intellect without manners,

01:31:49Is like a fruitless tree.

01:31:51And with manners,

01:31:52Is like a fruitless tree.

01:31:54Thirdly,

01:31:55If a tree has fruits,

01:31:57Consider it to be a tree,

01:31:59And the fruits are manners.

01:32:01If a tree does not have fruits,

01:32:03Consider it to be the intellect,

01:32:05Which does not have manners.

01:32:07The fruitful tree is protected,

01:32:09And water is also given.

01:32:11If it does not have fruits,

01:32:12At any time,

01:32:13A farmer can cut it and burn it,

01:32:16Or do something else with it.

01:32:19These are the people,

01:32:20Who have manners.

01:32:22They are presented as ideal.

01:32:25Those who do not have manners,

01:32:28They are only presented as a lesson for a person.

01:32:32They are not presented as an example.

01:32:38With a teacher,

01:32:40There is a deep connection of manners.

01:32:44This is also something,

01:32:46Which will surprise you.

01:32:48We say,

01:32:49Put the child with such and such.

01:32:53He will teach him.

01:32:56What did the predecessors do?

01:32:57They used to say,

01:32:58When the man came,

01:32:59They would take him away.

01:33:01They would look at his presence,

01:33:04His prayer,

01:33:05And his condition.

01:33:07Then they would take him away.

01:33:09Whenever a person would send his child to the righteous,

01:33:13First of all,

01:33:14He would look at his prayer,

01:33:17His manners,

01:33:19And his character.

01:33:21His condition,

01:33:22And his manners.

01:33:24Then they would take the child away.

01:33:26Now tell me honestly,

01:33:28When they take the child away,

01:33:31And teach him dance,

01:33:33Are you doing justice to your children?

01:33:37A person has come to leave his child.

01:33:41When the teacher puts on his shoes,

01:33:44He puts his left foot first.

01:33:46What is the Sunnah?

01:33:52This is manners.

01:33:54He puts his right foot first.

01:33:57When he takes off his shoes,

01:33:58He puts his left foot first.

01:34:01When he saw,

01:34:02He took his child back.

01:34:03He said,

01:34:04He does not have manners himself.

01:34:05How will he teach my child?

01:34:08Therefore,

01:34:09With knowledge,

01:34:10Manners are so important.

01:34:12If there is no manners with knowledge,

01:34:15Then a person does not receive blessings.

01:34:17Who was Imam Malik?

01:34:18He was a teacher.

01:34:19Whose teacher was he?

01:34:20Imam Shafi'i.

01:34:22Imam Shafi'i says,

01:34:33If I was sitting in front of Imam Malik,

01:34:35Then I would have changed the page of my book very slowly.

01:34:40So that he does not become ill-mannered.

01:34:43And my teachers who are thinking,

01:34:45So that there is no difference in their thinking.

01:34:48Imam Shafi'i says,

01:34:58Rabi is his student,

01:35:00Imam Shafi'i.

01:35:02He says,

01:35:03By Allah,

01:35:04I have never sat in front of Imam Shafi'i and drank water.

01:35:08It was such a great thing.

01:35:11And today's teachers and students,

01:35:13Go around the intellectual villages.

01:35:16In colleges and universities.

01:35:18Where famous scholars are born.

01:35:21The teacher is passing by.

01:35:24Students are whistling.

01:35:27The teacher is going.

01:35:29And how is he addressing them?

01:35:31Like he is addressing a slave.

01:35:33He is not an intellectual.

01:35:35Think where the nation is going at this time.

01:35:38And what will these ill-mannered people be able to do in the future?

01:35:43And until we teach our children this etiquette,

01:35:47What will we be able to make them do in the future?

01:35:51That is why Imam Malik,

01:35:53When his mother sends him ready,

01:35:56She ties a turban.

01:35:58And before leaving she says,

01:36:04Son,

01:36:05Before knowledge,

01:36:07Learn etiquette from the teacher.

01:36:10Imam Shafi'i's mother was the one,

01:36:13Who before the Fajr prayer,

01:36:15She would make him perform ablution.

01:36:17She would tie a turban and make him stand.

01:36:19And he would leave.

01:36:21Mother, let me go.

01:36:23Son,

01:36:24At least let the call to prayer be made.

01:36:26What kind of etiquette is this?

01:36:27That the son has slept till 8 o'clock.

01:36:29And the parents do not have the courage to wake him up.

01:36:31They cannot knock on his door.

01:36:33They cannot tell him to get up and pray.

01:36:35This is not a society.

01:36:37When the parents have so much fear,

01:36:40Then how will the nation be made?

01:36:43Sheikh Ibn Abbas asked his mother,

01:36:46My son does not get up.

01:36:48She said, you are not saying the right thing.

01:36:50He said, I wake him up every day but he does not get up.

01:36:52She said, tell me one thing.

01:36:54In the room where he is sleeping,

01:36:56What will you do if there is a fire?

01:36:58She said, I will pull him out.

01:37:00She said, you will pull him out to save him from the fire of the world.

01:37:06And to save him from the fire of hell,

01:37:08Are you not able to think?

01:37:10These attitudes have to be corrected.

01:37:13If after my death,

01:37:15My son is not able to get up and pray,

01:37:18Then what did I give him?

01:37:20He does not know how to bathe his father.

01:37:25He is not able to offer his funeral in front of my dead body.

01:37:29I have spent crores of rupees on his degrees.

01:37:32I have wasted everything.

01:37:34There is no use of it.

01:37:36Because everything has to be left here.

01:37:38A life which is not a trillion years,

01:37:42More than this,

01:37:44A life of unlimited years,

01:37:46Where it will not end,

01:37:48We should also think about it.

01:37:50The Prophet, peace be upon him,

01:37:53Taught us these things.

01:37:55Whoever teaches his son good manners,

01:37:58He will be very happy.

01:38:01The Salaf used to say,

01:38:03Whoever teaches his son good manners in his childhood,

01:38:06All his life,

01:38:08Happiness welcomes him.

01:38:13Even if his children grow up,

01:38:15His eyes will always be cool.

01:38:17Because he has taught his children good manners.

01:38:20And Luqman Hakeem,

01:38:22Although many people believe that,

01:38:24This will happen by eating this,

01:38:26And this will happen by eating this.

01:38:28Luqman Hakeem used to say,

01:38:34To teach good manners,

01:38:36To be strict as required,

01:38:39To beat the child,

01:38:42Is as important as,

01:38:44To keep the earth green,

01:38:46It is important to shower rain from the sky.

01:38:55The Salaf used to say,

01:38:57Whoever teaches good manners to his children,

01:39:00He has put a nail in the neck of all his envious people.

01:39:05Whoever is jealous,

01:39:07He will not be harmed.

01:39:09Because his children are exemplary.

01:39:11He has defeated the envious people.

01:39:14If you want to be safe from the envious people,

01:39:16You should teach your children good manners.

01:39:20The Salaf used to say,

01:39:28The best inheritance people give to their children,

01:39:31Is good manners.

01:39:34It is a beautiful definition.

01:39:36When they grow up,

01:39:38When they leave this world,

01:39:40People will continue to praise them.

01:39:42And this is the greatest inheritance.

01:39:44Abdullah Ibnul Mubarak used to say,

01:39:55No one can become a unique person,

01:39:59Until he beautifies his knowledge with good manners.

01:40:05It is good manners,

01:40:07That enlightens the mind of a person.

01:40:10Ahnaf Ibn Qais used to say,

01:40:14When a person wants to enlighten his mind,

01:40:17He should learn good manners.

01:40:19The Arabs wanted to make Ahnaf Ibn Qais the king.

01:40:23And they did.

01:40:25He was not well educated.

01:40:28But he had good manners.

01:40:32Coincidentally, one day,

01:40:34A girl was bringing coal.

01:40:37She had a 9 month old baby.

01:40:39The girl passed by,

01:40:41And her ring fell off her hand.

01:40:43The coal fell on the spot,

01:40:45And the baby died.

01:40:47And she died herself.

01:40:49And the girl was unconscious.

01:40:51The baby died, and the girl was unconscious.

01:40:53Because she didn't know what would happen to her.

01:40:55He came.

01:40:57He gave her water.

01:40:59He made her conscious.

01:41:01He said, You are free.

01:41:03People said, What is this?

01:41:05He said, My son was destined to be like this.

01:41:09Because of him,

01:41:11I didn't want to waste another life.

01:41:13I got angry.

01:41:15I set him free to cool down.

01:41:19People said, We have to make him the leader.

01:41:21Let's see how much tolerance he has.

01:41:25A young man was asked,

01:41:27To tell him in the assembly,

01:41:29His father said,

01:41:31I want to marry your mother.

01:41:33I said,

01:41:35Did you hear that?

01:41:37I thought,

01:41:39If I tell someone in the assembly,

01:41:41They will bury him where he is.

01:41:43He said,

01:41:45Son,

01:41:47Such things don't happen in the assembly.

01:41:49Which is the translation of his words.

01:41:51You come home for this.

01:41:53He said, No, answer me now.

01:41:55He said, My advice is,

01:41:57Don't marry my mother.

01:41:59She is a very old woman.

01:42:01She will die.

01:42:03He said, No, I have to marry her.

01:42:05He said,

01:42:07You know,

01:42:09The unmarried woman,

01:42:11She is allowed to marry.

01:42:13And,

01:42:15The married woman,

01:42:17The wife who is dead,

01:42:19She is a widow.

01:42:21Her opinion is respected.

01:42:23I will ask her.

01:42:25If she agrees, then only there will be a problem.

01:42:27People said, He is worthy of being the leader.

01:42:29And,

01:42:31No one felt helpless.

01:42:33And today,

01:42:35If someone says such a thing,

01:42:37Allahu Akbar.

01:42:39Then what will happen?

01:42:41You know better what will happen.

01:42:43In the world,

01:42:45The poor are not those who don't have money.

01:42:47The poor are those,

01:42:49Sayyiduna Muawiyah,

01:42:51R.A. used to say,

01:42:53The poor,

01:42:55Who has no manners,

01:42:57He is the poorest.

01:42:59The Messenger of Allah,

01:43:01S.A.W,

01:43:03Taught

01:43:05Manners.

01:43:07Sayyiduna Muawiyah, R.A,

01:43:09About whom no one had prayed to Allah.

01:43:11The 45 verses

01:43:13Which were revealed,

01:43:15He is the only author.

01:43:17O Allah,

01:43:19Make him a guide, a guide,

01:43:21And guide him.

01:43:23O Allah, make him a guide,

01:43:25And guide people through him.

01:43:27O Allah, teach him the Book,

01:43:29And save him from punishment.

01:43:31Allah taught him the Book,

01:43:33And saved him from punishment.

01:43:37He was a governor for 20 years,

01:43:39And he ruled for 20 years.

01:43:41But,

01:43:43Allah gave such wisdom,

01:43:45Abdul Malik bin Marwan and others,

01:43:47When they rose against him,

01:43:49They poisoned their swords,

01:43:51And said,

01:43:53Sayyiduna Muawiyah, R.A,

01:43:55If he speaks further,

01:43:57All of them will attack.

01:43:59And today,

01:44:01They will destroy everything.

01:44:03Sayyiduna Muawiyah, R.A,

01:44:05Who had learned manners,

01:44:07From the Messenger of Allah,

01:44:09And from the great companions,

01:44:11When he spoke further,

01:44:13They smiled.

01:44:15When he spoke more harshly,

01:44:17They smiled.

01:44:19And what did he reply?

01:44:21O sun of the suns,

01:44:23O moon of the moons,

01:44:25Who are you opposing?

01:44:27O sun of the suns,

01:44:29Neither are you better than Moses,

01:44:31Nor am I worse than Pharaoh.

01:44:33Allah sent Moses to Pharaoh,

01:44:35And said,

01:44:37Say to him,

01:44:39Say to him,

01:44:41Both of you go,

01:44:43And speak softly to Pharaoh.

01:44:45These were the words,

01:44:47Of wisdom,

01:44:49These were the words,

01:44:51Of wisdom,

01:44:53He said,

01:44:55I will never speak against you again.

01:44:57And he used to say,

01:44:59There is no wise man,

01:45:01Except one who has experience.

01:45:03There is no wise man,

01:45:05Except one who has experience.

01:45:07And there is no kind man,

01:45:09Except one who has experience.

01:45:11One who does not get beaten up in society,

01:45:13He does not become rude.

01:45:15The first day,

01:45:17On the first day,

01:45:19There is a lot of arrogance in him.

01:45:21He gets a new degree,

01:45:23He gets a new position,

01:45:25He becomes arrogant.

01:45:27This society suppresses him.

01:45:29It takes time.

01:45:31There is no wise man,

01:45:33Except one who has experience.

01:45:35One who does not have experience,

01:45:37You will not see wisdom from his mind and tongue.

01:45:39You will not see wisdom from his mind and tongue.

01:45:41Wisdom and wisdom

01:45:43Are always obtained after experience.

01:45:45Some people are made wise by Allah.

01:45:47They are naturally wise.

01:45:49There is politeness in what they say.

01:45:51There is deep thinking.

01:45:53There is the art of tackling matters.

01:45:55There is the art of tackling matters.

01:45:57If you talk to the elders,

01:45:59They do not feel it.

01:46:01Allah has given them so much firmness.

01:46:03There is so much readiness in their strength.

01:46:05There is so much readiness in their strength.

01:46:07And Allah has given them the ability

01:46:09To solve the biggest of matters

01:46:11To solve the biggest of matters

01:46:13People become free.

01:46:15People keep looking at what happened and what they thought.

01:46:17This is the wisdom

01:46:19Which should be asked from Allah.

01:46:21This is why the Harith used to say

01:46:23The good literature is a good thing for the scholar

01:46:25And a cover for the ignorant.

01:46:27And a cover for the ignorant.

01:46:29If you learn literature of knowledge,

01:46:31It is a beautiful blanket

01:46:33Which can only be praised.

01:46:35Which can only be praised.

01:46:37If literature comes to the ignorant,

01:46:39It is such a beautiful blanket

01:46:41It is such a blanket

01:46:43Which falls on the ignorant

01:46:45People consider the ignorant to be a great scholar.

01:46:47People consider the ignorant to be a great scholar.

01:46:49When literature comes to him.

01:46:51Abdul Malik bin Marwan used to say

01:46:53Abdul Malik bin Marwan used to say

01:46:55Who advised his sons

01:46:57My sons, do not leave literature in your life.

01:46:59My sons, do not leave literature in your life.

01:47:01You have no wealth.

01:47:03You have no wealth.

01:47:05If you have literature,

01:47:07It will be a great wealth.

01:47:09If you have wealth,

01:47:11It will be a great wealth.

01:47:13If you have wealth,

01:47:15It will be a great wealth.

01:47:17It will be a great wealth.

01:47:19Prophet Muhammad

01:47:21Prophet Muhammad

01:47:23taught this to the Companions.

01:47:25And Abdullah bin Mubarak

01:47:27And Abdullah bin Mubarak

01:47:29is quoting this.

01:47:31If you want to see the honor of a person

01:47:33If you want to see the honor of a person

01:47:35There are many noble people.

01:47:37But until there is etiquette and manners

01:47:39But until there is etiquette and manners

01:47:41His honor and greatness

01:47:43cannot be seen in front of the world.

01:47:45Literature is the one whose nobility

01:47:47is given four moons.

01:47:49Ibn Muqaffa says

01:47:51People get honor with wealth.

01:47:53People get honor with position.

01:47:55People get honor with wealth.

01:47:57No one has wealth.

01:47:59No one has a position.

01:48:01Still, if you want to see the honor

01:48:03He is the one whom Allah has

01:48:05blessed with etiquette and manners.

01:48:07In fact, you will be surprised.

01:48:09Dawood bin Rashid used to say

01:48:11Everyone wants to be a leader.

01:48:13Everyone wants to be a leader.

01:48:15He is a human being.

01:48:17But leadership cannot be achieved

01:48:19without four things.

01:48:21The first thing

01:48:23is etiquette.

01:48:25A person who does not have etiquette and manners

01:48:27cannot be a leader.

01:48:29And a person who does not have a good reputation

01:48:31cannot be a good leader.

01:48:33Because he does not have the ability

01:48:35to lead the people.

01:48:37Etiquette

01:48:39Honesty

01:48:41A person who does not have honesty in his tongue

01:48:43cannot be a leader.

01:48:45He will be humiliated every day by lying.

01:48:47He will be left out.

01:48:49The third thing is jurisprudence.

01:48:51A person who does not understand

01:48:53the matters

01:48:55What is his previous record?

01:48:57What did he do?

01:48:59What did he do for the nation?

01:49:01He cannot be a leader.

01:49:03Even if he fails, he will be a leader.

01:49:05And the fourth thing is trust.

01:49:07A person who does not have

01:49:09trust and honesty

01:49:11cannot be a leader.

01:49:13This is the reason why

01:49:15when the crown of Kisra was brought

01:49:17in front of him

01:49:19The crown was brought

01:49:21And maybe you know

01:49:23that like Mount Kankal

01:49:25there was a golden crown of

01:49:27Adaiman

01:49:29It was hanging from the roof

01:49:31and he used to come down and sit

01:49:33It used to look like he was wearing it.

01:49:35When it was brought,

01:49:37not a single pearl was separate from it.

01:49:39Seeing everything, he says

01:49:41that the one who brought it

01:49:43is very trustworthy.

01:49:45The companions of Bol say

01:49:47when their Caliph and Ameer

01:49:49are trustworthy, how can the nation

01:49:51not be trustworthy?

01:49:53This is how it is.

01:49:55For leadership,

01:49:57truthfulness,

01:49:59honesty,

01:50:01understanding

01:50:03and etiquette

01:50:05cannot be achieved

01:50:07unless there is leadership

01:50:09and neither can a person be successful.

01:50:11This is the reason why

01:50:13Sayyiduna Bilal has been freed

01:50:15by Abu Bakr Siddiq.

01:50:17He is a slave.

01:50:19His color is also black.

01:50:21Learn such etiquette

01:50:23that Sayyiduna Abu Bakr

01:50:25himself is saying

01:50:29Bilal is our leader.

01:50:33Although he has freed him.

01:50:35He has given him money.

01:50:37He was on the ground.

01:50:39You could hear his footsteps in heaven.

01:50:41What was the secret?

01:50:43It was the etiquette

01:50:45that you and I

01:50:47need today.

01:50:49Elegant etiquette

01:50:51and sharp tongue.

01:50:53Sayyiduna Amr bin Aas

01:50:55may Allah be pleased with him

01:50:57When someone asked

01:50:59what is the meaning of

01:51:01Marwad?

01:51:03It should be

01:51:05Marwad.

01:51:07What is Marwad?

01:51:09Sayyiduna Amr bin Aas

01:51:11may Allah be pleased with him

01:51:13said,

01:51:15Elegant etiquette

01:51:17that makes people happy

01:51:19and sharp tongue.

01:51:21And such tolerance

01:51:23and flexibility

01:51:25that a person does not compromise

01:51:27on principles

01:51:29but does not take revenge

01:51:31of evil with evil but with goodness.

01:51:33And this was the character

01:51:35of Prophet Muhammad.

01:51:37He forgives and forgives.

01:51:41He forgave

01:51:43and took revenge of evil

01:51:45with goodness.

01:51:47Abdullah ibn Mubarak

01:51:49used to say,

01:51:53who is lazy

01:51:55in learning etiquette,

01:52:01Allah first of all

01:52:03takes away the Nawafil as punishment.

01:52:05Without etiquette, you cannot perform Tahajjud.

01:52:13And who leaves the Nawafil

01:52:15and dares, what is the need?

01:52:17One day,

01:52:19he becomes a thief of Sunnah.

01:52:25Who says, what is the need of Sunnah?

01:52:27One day,

01:52:29he is ready to leave

01:52:31that obligation.

01:52:37Who is lazy

01:52:39in his obligations

01:52:41and is deprived of Allah's knowledge.

01:52:47Who is deprived

01:52:49of Allah's knowledge.

01:52:51He is deprived

01:52:53of Jannah.

01:52:55We pray to Allah,

01:52:57that all the etiquette

01:52:59that Allah and His Prophet

01:53:01have taught us,

01:53:03may we learn them

01:53:05and live our lives accordingly.

01:53:07And may we be able to

01:53:09pass on these beautiful

01:53:11and exemplary attitudes

01:53:13to our children and

01:53:15to our society.

01:53:17And may we be able to

01:53:19paint our society

01:53:21with these beautiful

01:53:23etiquettes.

01:53:25And all the bright faces

01:53:27who have come here,

01:53:29may Allah make them

01:53:31His beloved.

01:53:33And may Allah include

01:53:35them and their children

01:53:37among His close ones.

01:53:39And just as there is a gathering

01:53:41for religion here,

01:53:43may Allah gather them

01:53:45with their parents and children.

01:53:47And grant them

01:53:49with their beloved.

01:53:51And make them worthy of seeing.

01:53:53And our last supplication is

01:53:55to praise Allah.

01:54:13And all praise is due to Allah,

01:54:15Lord of the worlds.

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