Are some zodiac signs better than others? Find out if your astrological sign can really affect your relationships and compatibility in this episode of #ShareKoLang with astrologer Resti Santiago.
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00:00It's not just about looks and manners that's being looked at right now
00:03for your crush to like you.
00:06Zodiac signs are also based on whether you're meant to be.
00:11But wait, does Zodiac signs really have anything to do with love?
00:16That's what Doc Ana and Astrologer Resty Santiago are going to talk about
00:21in Shareko Lang.
00:23Let's go!
00:29Hello Kapuso!
00:30I'm Dr. Ana Tuazon,
00:32and this is your storytelling psychologist in Shareko Lang.
00:35In our single hearts,
00:38do you have someone you like,
00:40but you can't make a first move
00:42because you're not compatible with Zodiac signs?
00:45Does Zodiac signs have anything to do with love?
00:49That's what we're going to talk about with Filipino astrologer Resty Santiago.
00:55Hi Resty, welcome to Shareko Lang.
00:57Good afternoon, Dr. Ana.
01:00Thank you for having me here in Shareko Lang.
01:02What are the common questions that Filipinos ask
01:07when they ask you for a consultation?
01:10What are the usual questions that Filipinos ask?
01:13Usually, there are people who consult us when there are eclipses,
01:17for example,
01:18wherein they have to make important decisions
01:21if they should leave their partner
01:23or pursue another relationship or something like that.
01:27Somehow, we saw some good results
01:31from our consultations,
01:33whether they should start another relationship or not.
01:37Actually, it's very personal,
01:38very intimate,
01:40the issues or decisions that they make.
01:45Yes.
01:46Actually, the best application of astrology
01:49is to help people come up with a good decision.
01:53Let's say, a decision that is aligned with their personality,
01:58their nature,
01:59and somewhat the trait of a person.
02:01And then, you know, like you said,
02:03those are potentially big decisions, right?
02:06Life-changing decisions
02:07to get together with someone, to break up.
02:11Is it really okay
02:15to really leave that quite up to the stars, literally?
02:20Or is it that it's just one of the many factors?
02:23How do you integrate it?
02:25Because I'm sure the context matters,
02:27who their partner is.
02:29It matters.
02:30So, what can astrology really contribute to that decision-making?
02:36Because I'm sure it's not the one-hundredth, right?
02:38Like, whatever you say, I'll do the rest.
02:40It's just a part of it.
02:42That's a very good question.
02:44There's one good example, right?
02:46One of my best readings
02:50was actually with lawyers.
02:53Because when you're a lawyer,
02:54there are a lot of questions like,
02:56should I do this?
02:57Should I do that?
02:58What if? What if?
02:59Things like that.
03:00So, yeah.
03:01First of all,
03:02let's say the more mature kind of astrology.
03:07We are not really dictating on the people or on the client.
03:12We are actually using astrology as a tool
03:15for them to analyze what's happening in their lives,
03:19what the dynamics are between their personalities.
03:24So, we're not dictating on the people.
03:28We're showing them,
03:29ah, that's why you're like that.
03:31You're not compatible.
03:32Because you have an incompatibility in the emotional aspect.
03:37Or even, for example,
03:39when it comes to talking,
03:40the love language, for example.
03:43If it's just like that,
03:45for example,
03:46the expression,
03:47it can be overcome.
03:48So, we're showing them
03:49which you yourself can validate.
03:53So, we're also showing the events in people's lives
03:57that are reflected in astrological science.
03:59So, when they see it,
04:01ah, that's why,
04:02because of this,
04:03because of that,
04:05we can project in the future
04:07that this is the seed,
04:10this is the seed of your nature,
04:12personality, or life.
04:13Now, when you make a decision that is,
04:16for example, against that seed,
04:18this is what will come out.
04:19So, the decision is still up to you.
04:23It's just that we can,
04:26astrologers can provide,
04:28for example,
04:29a bigger context
04:31on what's happening in people's lives
04:33that is aligned,
04:34for example,
04:35to the so-called faith.
04:36So, it's like,
04:37it's just providing additional information.
04:40That's what you said,
04:41when we ask,
04:42why don't we get along?
04:44Or maybe if,
04:45well,
04:46for example,
04:47why don't we get married yet?
04:48When is a good time to get married
04:50or have children?
04:51Etc.
04:52It's like,
04:53you're just sharing
04:54that, okay,
04:55based on compatibility,
04:56that's why there's a gap like this.
04:58That's why you're more likely.
04:59It's like that.
05:00You're not telling them,
05:01you're not going to break up.
05:03Has that ever happened?
05:04It's like,
05:05it's a bit glaring
05:07when you see it,
05:08and you're like,
05:09okay.
05:10Yeah,
05:11what we discussed with a lawyer,
05:13the result was,
05:15he broke up,
05:16but after that breakup,
05:19she mentioned to me that,
05:22yeah, you were right,
05:23but I didn't base my decision
05:26on what she told me.
05:27But somehow,
05:28it was able to help me
05:30make the right decision
05:31because she was able to see
05:33something that was not very clear
05:35at that time.
05:36So, we're giving light
05:38to the personality dynamics.
05:40Do we say that,
05:41these signs,
05:43it has,
05:44I don't know,
05:45how can it guide us
05:46through life,
05:47through our love lives,
05:48not just love life,
05:49even work,
05:50career choices,
05:51how can we use it?
05:53In general,
05:54I know we can talk so long
05:56about this,
05:57but in general,
05:58how can we really use it
06:00as opposed to
06:02the daily horoscope?
06:04Okay.
06:05So, actually,
06:06this discussion on compatibility,
06:09this is already one way
06:11of detailing the discussion.
06:13So, what we're adding,
06:14for example,
06:15in the vocabulary of people,
06:17the elements,
06:18there are four elements,
06:20astrology,
06:21the five signs,
06:22Aries, Sagittarius, and Leo.
06:24There are also the air signs,
06:26Gemini, Libra,
06:27and Aquarius.
06:28Water signs, Pisces, Scorpio,
06:31and Cancer.
06:32And the earth signs,
06:33Virgo, Taurus,
06:34and Capricorn.
06:36So, these are the personality types
06:39that we can,
06:41there are characteristics,
06:43for example,
06:44the air signs.
06:46In Carl Jung's psychology,
06:48this is the thinking type.
06:50So, from that alone,
06:52you can see the general personality
06:54of a person
06:55if they fit in or not.
06:57So, then,
06:58these elements,
07:00which can be equivalent to signs,
07:02there are relationships
07:04with each other.
07:06For example,
07:07when it comes to air signs,
07:08you include the water signs.
07:09Water signs,
07:10in Carl Jung,
07:11that is more the emotional type.
07:13When you include the emotional types,
07:15which are the water signs,
07:17in air signs,
07:18which are the thinking type,
07:20they have a bit of a difference
07:23in life,
07:24in liking.
07:25So, we can say
07:26that there is some sort of incompatibility
07:28between them.
07:30So, if that's the case,
07:31for example,
07:32you're just dating,
07:33you see the signs,
07:35the sun signs,
07:36and they fit
07:37in those character traits,
07:40adjustments are needed.
07:42The fire signs are generally
07:44an action-oriented sign,
07:47while the earth signs
07:49are goal-oriented.
07:50So, when you include those two,
07:52that's when you achieve.
07:54So, somehow,
07:55it's very compatible as a business.
07:57But of course,
07:58if you're dating partners,
07:59it just means
08:00they must dream together
08:01to achieve something.
08:03So, at least,
08:04we're already thinking
08:05about the elements.
08:07Are my impulses similar to that?
08:09And then,
08:10also,
08:11when you meet someone new,
08:12you have a potential partner,
08:15you can also sense their impulses
08:17according to the elements.
08:19Now, Resty,
08:20I'll go straight to you
08:21because I'm sure
08:22your partners already know.
08:23Like me,
08:24for example,
08:25when I listen to you,
08:26I'm like,
08:27because I'm Gemini,
08:28all I can remember
08:29is my air sign.
08:30But maybe,
08:31what are the compatibles?
08:32So, you said,
08:33there's air,
08:34water,
08:35fire,
08:36earth,
08:37and of course,
08:38the zodiac signs.
08:39How do you know
08:40if it's compatible?
08:41So, let's say,
08:42Gemini,
08:43the air sign is very...
08:44Is it okay
08:45if we discuss
08:46your sign?
08:47Yes, go ahead.
08:48So, the air sign
08:49is very mental.
08:50It's cerebral.
08:51It's chatty.
08:52So, you need somebody
08:53who you can always talk to.
08:55So, if you...
08:56That's why,
08:57there's a slight incompatibility
08:59with the water signs
09:01and the earth signs
09:02because they're a bit slow,
09:04too clinging
09:06or emotional.
09:07But,
09:08by archetypes alone,
09:10the air signs
09:11are compatible
09:12with the fire signs
09:13because the fire,
09:15for example,
09:16needs air to burn.
09:17And then,
09:18the earth signs
09:19need the fire signs
09:20for direction
09:21because the air
09:22is spread out.
09:24It's energy.
09:25So, based on that
09:26basic element
09:27of compatibility,
09:29we can see
09:31or say that
09:32somehow,
09:33these two have compatibility
09:35based on that.
09:36So, that's the fire
09:37and the air.
09:38As for the other set,
09:41the water signs
09:42are very compatible
09:43with the earth signs
09:45because what they have in common
09:47is security.
09:48Water signs
09:49need emotional security.
09:51So, if you include them
09:52in the air,
09:53it's like a lot of people
09:54want to go there.
09:56They want to stay at home.
09:58So, there's a conflict
10:00in the inner urges
10:02of the earth signs
10:03when you include them
10:04in the water signs.
10:06That's why, somehow,
10:07the inner needs
10:09are more compatible
10:11and what they can provide
10:12with each other
10:13between the earth signs,
10:15they're very dependable,
10:17financially secure.
10:20And then, the water signs
10:22are very emotional.
10:24They always need a partner.
10:26They need to be dependable.
10:28Always.
10:29So, there.
10:30It means the basic needs
10:32of each other
10:33are met
10:34when there is
10:35this basic elemental harmony
10:37between the sun signs.
10:39It's about relationships, right?
10:40It's between
10:41at least two people,
10:43usually.
10:44So, between two people.
10:46So, is compatibility important?
10:49Or is there an inherent...
10:50Because there's a trend
10:52online right now,
10:53that this is the most
10:55toxic,
10:56the most red flag
10:58zodiac sign.
10:59Actually,
11:00the one who topped it
11:02was like, don't date a Gemini.
11:04So, that's their...
11:06It's like they have a ranking.
11:08Capricorn is the most green flag.
11:11So, is there an absent
11:14match?
11:16Are certain zodiac signs
11:18just better at love?
11:19Well, first of all,
11:20this is the first thing
11:21we mentioned earlier.
11:23The signs themselves
11:25do not make or break
11:26a relationship.
11:28The signs are like the alphabet.
11:30And that's not astrology.
11:32The signs...
11:33When we say signs,
11:35it's just like patterns.
11:37So, it's not a person.
11:39It's up in the sky.
11:41It's just a pattern.
11:42So, there are people
11:43who manifest that character.
11:45And I don't think it's correct
11:47to give a ranking
11:49of the best,
11:51the worst,
11:52or the lovable,
11:54or unlovable signs.
11:56Because themselves,
11:57they are sort of neutral.
11:59And it doesn't mean
12:00that no one is compatible
12:01with them.
12:02For example,
12:03they are the most unlovable.
12:05It depends on the needs
12:07of the partner.
12:09So, even if, for example,
12:11a person is unlovable,
12:13but her partner,
12:15she doesn't need it,
12:17for example.
12:18So, she needs something else.
12:20So, it's more on how
12:22one individual is able
12:24to address the emotional,
12:26psychological,
12:28or even financial needs
12:29of another one.
12:31So, it's a matter of
12:32give and take relationship.
12:34You get something,
12:35and you get something back.
12:37For me,
12:38I can relate to
12:39personality types in general
12:41of psychology.
12:43Because, for example,
12:44extrovert, introvert,
12:46it's not like you're an extrovert.
12:48You're always an extrovert,
12:49100%.
12:50Like, full intensity.
12:52It varies.
12:53Because we have free will,
12:55right?
12:56We can make decisions.
12:57And then, sometimes,
12:58we can modulate.
13:00It's like we can match.
13:02The person we love,
13:03we can be together,
13:04we can adjust.
13:05So, astrology can be a mirror
13:08wherein you can assess
13:09how you react to things,
13:11how you react to people.
13:13And then,
13:14if you are aware of these things,
13:15you can adjust,
13:16and maybe make
13:17any relationship better
13:19despite the signs.
13:21At the same time,
13:22what I'm hearing from you is
13:24even though there's faith,
13:25it's not like we don't have control.
13:27It's like we can't do anything.
13:29So, actually,
13:30even though it's faith-oriented,
13:33it's not like people
13:34will just be passive.
13:35There's still so much
13:36they can do
13:37to determine
13:38if the outcomes are right,
13:40the result of love life,
13:41the result of their success.
13:43Okay.
13:44My view is that
13:46astrologers believe
13:47that there is faith.
13:49But at the same time,
13:50we believe there is free will.
13:53And despite the fact
13:54that we know that there is faith,
13:56we don't act
13:58in a way that can be fatalistic.
14:01So, it depends on
14:02how you approach it.
14:04It depends on your understanding
14:06about the laws of nature.
14:08There is faith,
14:09but at the same time,
14:10there is free will.
14:11So, life is a balance
14:13between this,
14:15the acceptance of faith,
14:16and the use of free will.
14:19So, believing in faith
14:21doesn't have to be fatalistic.
14:23Yes.
14:24Okay.
14:25So, we asked our listeners
14:27if they check
14:29the zodiac signs
14:31of their crushes.
14:32Because for some people,
14:33that's the first thing they ask.
14:36What's your zodiac sign?
14:38So, one of our listeners said,
14:40I'm 100% guilty.
14:42I check the zodiac sign first.
14:45The other said,
14:47I'll do it.
14:48I'll check first
14:49if it's compatible.
14:52So, aside from compatibility,
14:54they have stereotypes.
14:59Again,
15:00because I know mine,
15:01Gemini,
15:02and so on.
15:03So, the personalities.
15:05Like,
15:06is that a good initial basis
15:09for swiping on dating apps?
15:13For example,
15:14on apps like Bumble,
15:16there's a zodiac badge,
15:18an astrology badge
15:19that says,
15:20this is my sign.
15:21Would you recommend
15:23that people always check
15:25for the sign first?
15:26Especially,
15:27if you don't know each other,
15:29and you're just choosing.
15:31Would you recommend that?
15:33Yes,
15:34but with certain limitations.
15:38So, for example,
15:40I don't know,
15:41on dating apps,
15:42it's more on that feel.
15:45Yeah,
15:46and then,
15:47there's a picture,
15:48there's a little,
15:49I like this,
15:50I like that,
15:51and then,
15:52oh, I'm a dancer,
15:53I'm a Capricorn.
15:54Yeah.
15:55So, there are two things.
15:57Being realistic,
15:58because actually,
15:59we're in the air period,
16:00starting 2020,
16:02in the next 20 years or more.
16:05In the air,
16:06because our period is impersonal,
16:10impersonal.
16:12So, you really can't see
16:14the inner nature.
16:16And then,
16:17because of that,
16:18there's a big chance
16:19that it might not be true.
16:21The information might be wrong,
16:24or something like that.
16:26So, we have to be realistic.
16:27So, first of all,
16:28it's not the right way
16:31to assess
16:32if you'll have a relationship
16:34or not.
16:35But, like you said,
16:36this is just for fun.
16:38Somehow,
16:39what we can do there
16:41is mirror.
16:44Let's check.
16:45So, if that fits
16:47in positive and negative,
16:49yeah, somehow,
16:51you can make it a gauge.
16:53But for deepening the relationship,
16:55we need to know
16:57the hidden aspects
16:59in a person's life,
17:00such as emotional needs,
17:02maybe psychological issues
17:04that can't be seen in the sun.
17:07In a way,
17:08generally,
17:09it's a good reminder
17:11whether you have a period or not.
17:13It's like a reminder
17:15that the real connection is important.
17:17You said it's impersonal.
17:19It kind of highlights
17:20the personal connection,
17:22the real,
17:23right?
17:24The real recognition
17:26of each other,
17:27at least from psychology.
17:29It's very important.
17:30You cannot make deep relationships.
17:33You cannot establish that.
17:34It's just like a guide.
17:36We asked the couples again.
17:39They shared a lot.
17:41We asked them
17:42if the zodiac sign is a big deal
17:44when they're looking for love.
17:47One said,
17:48before, no.
17:50Now, yes.
17:51So, the older,
17:52the more,
17:53it's like,
17:54wait,
17:55we need to listen to this.
17:57We need to be wise
17:59and extra careful
18:00in love life
18:01after heartbreak.
18:03Another couple said,
18:05Astrology is very important.
18:07It can help you
18:08not to waste time
18:10with people
18:11you can't get along with
18:13and who will just
18:14give you a headache.
18:16Another couple said,
18:18it's not in the zodiac sign anymore.
18:20It's in the personality
18:22of the individual.
18:23So, this is the other side.
18:25Another couple said,
18:27it's not in the zodiac sign anymore.
18:29If you want it,
18:30you want it.
18:31That's it.
18:32What I thought here,
18:33Resty,
18:34in a way,
18:35that's what you said,
18:37are we going to court
18:39extra layers of complications?
18:42Extra layers of challenges?
18:44Or,
18:45at the very least,
18:46you should know
18:47and ask yourself,
18:48is it worth it?
18:49Is it worth it?
18:50Because I'm going to have to
18:51make extra effort,
18:52extra adjustment for this.
18:54Do I want that?
18:56Yeah.
18:57So, again,
18:58in astrology,
18:59we don't judge.
19:01It's more on a tool.
19:03Maybe the one who said
19:05he became wise,
19:07instead of that,
19:08he tried.
19:09So, he had an observation.
19:11So, that means,
19:13when you observe,
19:15you think,
19:16you compare.
19:17So, you don't bring emotions.
19:19So, whether you use astrology or not,
19:22you compare,
19:23you check,
19:24you double-check,
19:25you assess.
19:27So, it's the right approach,
19:29whether you have astrology or not.
19:31Now, if you have astrology,
19:33you add certainty.
19:36Okay?
19:37Now, the one who said
19:39it's just a feeling,
19:42it's a very...
19:46I wouldn't say immature,
19:48but this means
19:51lack of experience, maybe,
19:53because you're still young.
19:56Because emotions come first.
20:01When these things are assessed
20:04or processed,
20:05the emotions will just vanish.
20:08That's why we need
20:11other ways of assessing
20:15our emotions,
20:17our energy interchange
20:20with someone,
20:21if it's compatible or not.
20:23But still, again,
20:24it's the will,
20:25it's the free will
20:26who will decide.
20:27It's more on tools,
20:29whether it's psychology,
20:31astrology,
20:32or tests,
20:33or whatever.
20:34So, it's a tool,
20:36but you have to be
20:37at your right mind.
20:39You have to be able
20:40to use all of these.
20:42And in a way,
20:43it reminds me again
20:44that in a relationship,
20:46it's not just the emotions
20:49that are involved.
20:50We need to think too.
20:52We need to be practical
20:54and realistic too.
20:56So, yes, there are emotions.
20:58And then, I think,
20:59where Bing Resty is right,
21:02when we advise
21:04in psychology
21:06and then in astrology,
21:07is take the time
21:10to know what's going on.
21:12Find out the factors
21:14that are at play.
21:16Find out where you're compatible,
21:19where you're not,
21:20where you might have problems.
21:23So that you can really make
21:25that free will,
21:27that informed decision,
21:29not impulsive.
21:30Yes, exactly.
21:31It's not just easy
21:33to show in a horoscope.
21:35So, there's a lot more
21:36that you need to know.
21:38But do you have
21:40final messages?
21:41What are your feelings
21:42that people should know,
21:44the general public,
21:46about astrology in general?
21:49And how should it be used
21:52when it comes to
21:53finding our love match?
21:55Our goal
21:57in Filipino astrology
21:59is actually to show
22:01to more Filipinos
22:02that there's more to astrology
22:04than horoscopes.
22:06So, this is one opportunity
22:08that you have given me
22:09to present different aspects
22:12or deepening layers
22:15of astrology.
22:17But astrology,
22:19let's say,
22:21the whole thing
22:23is actually on the individual level.
22:25So, you really need
22:26an astrological chart
22:28for you to be able
22:30to have a clearer picture
22:32of your life in general.
22:33Kasi meron tayong split sa buhay.
22:35Totoo yung it's written
22:37in the stars.
22:38You can see it
22:39if you know how to read
22:41the stars or the chart.
22:43So, I would advise everyone
22:46to at least once
22:49in their lifetime
22:50to have a session
22:52with an astrologer.
22:54Especially,
22:56if they are about to make
22:57important decisions in life,
22:59such as getting married,
23:00starting a business,
23:01or shifting careers.
23:03Ang dami pong natutunan.
23:05Feeling ko na kinabang ako sayo
23:07ng todo today.
23:10So, thank you so much.
23:12I'm sure parang you must have
23:14given more than we deserve
23:17in terms of, di ba,
23:18you gave us something for free today.
23:20So, thank you so much, Rusty.
23:22Sige. Thank you, Doktora.
23:24And I hope I can share more
23:26with you and your program.
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24:02I'm sure parang you must have
24:04given more than we deserve
24:06in terms of, di ba,
24:08you gave us something for free today.
24:10So, thank you so much, Rusty.
24:12Sige. Thank you so much.
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24:16given more than we deserve
24:18in terms of, di ba,
24:20you gave us something for free today.
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