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Friday Night Live 12 July 2024

Reflecting on recent challenges, I delved into the dynamics of running the show with honesty and self-reflection on Friday Night Live. Exploring themes of frustration, loss, and de-platforming, I stressed the importance of integrity, authenticity, and genuine connections amidst societal pressures. From discussions on cancel culture to family dynamics and relationship insights, the focus remained on prioritizing self-respect, meaningful connections, and unwavering integrity in navigating life's uncertainties.

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Transcript
00:00:00Yes, good evening, it's the 12th of July 2024, it is time for Friday Night Live with Stefan
00:00:08Molyneux, and I think I owe everyone a tiny, tiny little bit of an apology.
00:00:13A tiny, tiny, tiny little bit of an apology.
00:00:17I think Wednesday's show was sub-par, sort of thinking back on it.
00:00:25Monday's show was great, because Izzy was here, but I think that Wednesday's show was
00:00:30sub-par, and I don't know if anyone's interested in this or not, but would you like to know,
00:00:40or if you're interested in sort of the behind-the-scenes psychodrama of running this crazy conversation,
00:00:47crazy on my side, fine on yours, I don't know if anyone's interested in why I think it was
00:00:53sub-par, and what was going on.
00:00:56And I tend to be pretty critical of the work that I do, because I think I've been given
00:01:00a great gift, and I always want to make sure that I'm using it to the very betterment of
00:01:04the planet as a whole.
00:01:07Hello, Rob from South Australia.
00:01:11Great, I don't know why you have to throw it back at Australia, but yes, hello, hello.
00:01:16Good evening, good evening, welcome.
00:01:17I'm going to tell you this is going to be a scorcher of a show, I guarantee it.
00:01:22You will tell your grandchildren you were here on the 12th of July 2024 for the absolute
00:01:28barn-burner super-scorcher of a show.
00:01:32That is guaranteed.
00:01:35Was Mercury in retrograde?
00:01:37No, I don't think that was it.
00:01:39I don't think it was Freddy at all.
00:01:41But okay, so here's the scorcher.
00:01:44Let me ask you this, because we're live-streaming, right, so we can be frank with each other.
00:01:50Fly me to the moon.
00:01:52We can be frank, we can be Tony, we can be whoever with each other.
00:01:56Now, from one to ten, how prone are you to self-pity?
00:02:01Yes, yes, that's right, he's luring you in to talk about yourself, just so you could
00:02:08end up with him talking about him.
00:02:10How close are you to the giant pitiful tapioca self-furnace immolation of pride known as
00:02:21self-pity?
00:02:22Little bit.
00:02:23One to ten.
00:02:24One to ten.
00:02:25Do you have any of that self-pity?
00:02:31Ah, getting married next weekend, we both have you to thank for the knowledge and armor
00:02:36we have today.
00:02:37Thank you from the bottom of our hearts.
00:02:38Beautiful.
00:02:39Congratulations.
00:02:40I don't think I got an invitation.
00:02:42I'm shocked and appalled.
00:02:45Yeah, self-pity.
00:02:47Zero.
00:02:48Wow, good for you.
00:02:50Good for you.
00:02:51Now, I wouldn't say I'm catastrophically susceptible to self-pity, but I'm not going
00:03:00to say it doesn't happen.
00:03:03And I think this week I fell prey.
00:03:09I fell prey to the soul-scrubbing, brain-diminishing, ball-shrinking demon of self-pity.
00:03:22Rough man, rough.
00:03:25And I also found the cure, which I find interesting, and hopefully you will as well.
00:03:31The cure for self-pity is interesting.
00:03:34Now I'm not saying it's some sort of permanent, eternal cure, because it's an aspect of human
00:03:38nature, but I certainly feel oh-so-much better.
00:03:44Now, as you may have noticed, I just passed my four-year anniversary of de-platforming.
00:03:56Or as I like to call it, a semi-permanent invitation to play jazz clubs, not stadiums.
00:04:02It's okay.
00:04:03Jazz is cool.
00:04:04Jazz is cool.
00:04:05You know the old saying, rock and roll is three chords to 10,000 people, and jazz is
00:04:1010,000 chords to three people.
00:04:12Not diminishing you.
00:04:14Super happy that you're here.
00:04:16I'm going to lure everyone back in with a rigorous self-examination.
00:04:21That's right.
00:04:22I'm looking for moles.
00:04:24I've got a scope up my ass.
00:04:27I'm turning and coughing, and we're going to go deep inside Steph.
00:04:32Deep into the Steph-bot we go.
00:04:35Yeah, four years already, isn't that wild, right?
00:04:38Now when I was flying high in my peak in social media, it was absolutely wild.
00:04:47Ten to fifteen million views and downloads a month, 100,000 plus books read or downloaded
00:04:53a year.
00:04:54I had, you know, two million followers and subs on various social media platforms.
00:05:00I was as big as Jupiter, and I'm not even talking about the planet.
00:05:05I'm talking about the actual living God.
00:05:09It was something else.
00:05:10It was something else.
00:05:12And then I got somewhat casually invited to a slightly different kind of show.
00:05:20A little bit more personal, a little bit more spontaneous, and a little bit less endlessly
00:05:26researched and pretty much getting interviews became a challenge.
00:05:34That did not end.
00:05:35So now, although I don't blame people for being de-platformed, although there certainly
00:05:44was some pretty sinister stuff going on behind the scenes, I'm sure, as Musk's lawsuit may
00:05:48find out, but I don't blame.
00:05:51I mean, I chose to take on the red-hot topics.
00:05:54I chose to pee on the third rail, but here's the thing, right?
00:06:01It hit me on Sunday.
00:06:06I think, I don't know, like I remember reading a story many years ago about the man who felt
00:06:10things later.
00:06:11You know, he'd stub his toe and he wouldn't feel it for like an hour.
00:06:15He'd have sex with his wife and then he'd have the orgasm during a business meeting.
00:06:19Hey man, we've all been there.
00:06:20We've all been there.
00:06:23So it sort of hit me on Sunday.
00:06:38So I was having brunch with Izzy and she said, hey, you can do a live stream, right?
00:06:43Let me join, right?
00:06:45Now, we don't generally do live streams.
00:06:46We normally do pre-recorded stuff and movies and stuff like that.
00:06:49But I thought, you know, we had a bunch of questions we hadn't got to from the audience
00:06:52specifically for Izzy, so we just came down and did a live stream.
00:06:55Now, I mean, I'm not going to hide any of this stuff.
00:06:59It's pretty available to everyone who cares to look.
00:07:02I used to have, you know, six, 7,000 people watching a live stream and on Sunday, at least
00:07:07on one platform, it was like 25 or 30.
00:07:12I don't know if it's having my daughter in the room or something like that, but I get
00:07:15to tell you, it kind of hit me sideways.
00:07:20You know, sum of life is just gritting your teeth and ignoring the undertow, ignoring
00:07:26the downdraft.
00:07:27Don't you find that?
00:07:28I mean, I find that.
00:07:30The sum of life is just like, you just got to grit your teeth and plow forward.
00:07:35You just have to grit your teeth and plow forward.
00:07:41And I remember when I was a kid, I went, I joined, I think my father signed me up for
00:07:50something vaguely called the Young Explorers Club or something like that, and we went on
00:07:56a two-week hike through the Outer Hebrides, which is an ass-end-of-the-universe intergalactic
00:08:03hellhole of wind, rain, and salt on the northwest, I think it is, corner of Scotland.
00:08:14You take a train, a catapult, a trebuchet, some camels, I think, were involved, and we
00:08:20were supposed to have a two-week hike, and I got to tell you, it was just mental.
00:08:24The weather was appalling.
00:08:25I was, I think, five.
00:08:29I went with my brother, who's seven or so at the time, and I was about five, and we
00:08:35just, it was completely appalling, like what an absolutely horrible trip it was.
00:08:40The weather was appalling, and we ended up sleeping most of our nights in bus shelters,
00:08:47like kind of all crammed up and jammed up.
00:08:48Now, I do have a couple of things I remember from that trip.
00:08:51One was I began to be skeptical about the approval of parental, of adult authority,
00:08:56because there was this guy there who was a writer, and I thought, wow, what a successful
00:09:00writer you are.
00:09:01You're leading a bunch of kids around for two weeks in the Outer Hebrides, which is
00:09:05like hell but clammier, without even the vivid fires of hell, and you know, you're sleeping
00:09:14with your cheek pressed up against a grimy, probably herpes-ridden, cracked window of
00:09:23a bus shelter.
00:09:25Tasty stuff.
00:09:26So, but this writer had a big, heavy manual typewriter, and the kids got to carry it,
00:09:32and you say, well, why on earth would kids want to carry some big-ass, heavy typewriter
00:09:36around?
00:09:37Well, funny, funny story.
00:09:41The answer, you see, is that we got points, got points.
00:09:47Now, we just wanted points.
00:09:49Now, even at the time, and I know I was a fairly precocious kid and had my limitations,
00:09:54but even at the time, I was thinking, okay, so we get these points, what are they for?
00:10:03Is it cash?
00:10:04Candy?
00:10:05What?
00:10:06What do we get?
00:10:07What do we get for these points?
00:10:08No, no, just the points.
00:10:09The points are what matter.
00:10:10So, you'd have these kids lugging along these up-and-down, sand-dune, heather-craptastic-ass
00:10:15end of the universe beaches, not quite beaches, basically just gritty sand and the washed-up
00:10:20skulls of people from the North Sea Wars of the 1940s.
00:10:26And yeah, good-boy points, yeah?
00:10:29It was really, really, really tragic.
00:10:33And I remember getting in trouble.
00:10:34I got in trouble because I was five and I packed my own backpack, and I was always the
00:10:41youngest everywhere I went, right?
00:10:43I was always the youngest, because also September, I was the youngest kid in my whole boarding
00:10:47school.
00:10:48I was always the youngest.
00:10:49And I remember on one of the half-decent days that we had, walking along these up-and-down
00:10:54bluffs at the edge of the ocean, the shore, and I turned around, looked back, and half
00:11:05of my clothes, some of my food, they'd fallen out.
00:11:09Every time I took a step, it jogged a little, and stuff just fell out of my backpack.
00:11:13And I had to look back.
00:11:14Now, I was too nervous to say, everybody stop, because I didn't want to be the youngest
00:11:20kid who couldn't even pack his own backpack.
00:11:23So I ended up just going back.
00:11:26And I figured I just had to run back a little bit, gather, but apparently it had been falling
00:11:29off for approximately 4.3 light-years.
00:11:32My food and clothes and socks and everything had been falling out.
00:11:35So I had to go back quite a ways, and then I went forward, and then, of course, I lost
00:11:39the path.
00:11:40Right?
00:11:41It was kind of windy.
00:11:42I think the footprints had been blown over.
00:11:43It wasn't muddy, so I couldn't follow the footprints.
00:11:45So I just lost.
00:11:46Anyway, I ended up finally running into the people, but the guy was kind of nervous.
00:11:51Don't worry.
00:11:52I wasn't carrying his...
00:11:53I managed to avoid carrying his suitcase.
00:11:54Sorry, his typewriter.
00:11:55It was like the size of a suitcase.
00:11:56It's a heavy typewriter.
00:11:57I managed to avoid that, because I didn't care about the points, and redeemed them for anything.
00:12:02It's like social credit with no cash in.
00:12:05So anyway, because I had not kept up, and you know when you're a kid, and you've done
00:12:12something, you're never allowed to explain anything.
00:12:13Right?
00:12:14Why did you do this?
00:12:15Well, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
00:12:16Right?
00:12:17Well, why didn't you keep up?
00:12:18Well, my backpack, this, that, and the other.
00:12:19Well, you're supposed to keep up, or say something, or whatever it is.
00:12:21Right?
00:12:22Nobody ever asks you why you didn't, or what the problem is.
00:12:24Just get mad at you and punish you.
00:12:26It's just usual stupid stuff.
00:12:28So I was confined, and it was one of the few nice days.
00:12:31It was blue sea.
00:12:32There was actually some seashells and cool stuff out there.
00:12:35I was confined to my tent for the entire afternoon.
00:12:37So the whole point was to get out there and explore things, and it turns out I just explored
00:12:41the inside of a pup tent for the afternoon.
00:12:45And anyway, at one point, I hear the kids whooping and having a great deal of fun.
00:12:49So of course, full of five-year-old self-pity, I poke my head out of the side of the tent,
00:12:53and I see, I can still see this absolutely vividly, like 52 years later, more than half
00:12:58a century later.
00:12:59Boy, time flies, man.
00:13:01And what the kids were doing was they had found a land, a sea mine, you know, one of
00:13:06those coronavirus-shaped, spiky things, and they were jumping up and down on it.
00:13:11Jumping up and down on a bomb.
00:13:14Wow.
00:13:15Anyway, unfortunately, nobody was turned into a fine, drifty selection of human blood mist,
00:13:23but I remember thinking, like, wow, it's really good that my backpack exploded so that I didn't.
00:13:28That seems like a plus.
00:13:29Anyway, the reason I'm telling you all this is because when I was putting up the tent,
00:13:37you ever have this where you're trying to put up a tent, and you put up one end, the
00:13:40other end falls down, so you go back to the other end, this end falls down, and it just
00:13:43gets really, really frustrating, because you're just trying to hold this thing up, but it
00:13:49keeps coming down.
00:13:51And I'm no camping expert, right?
00:13:54I'm a big fan of that old Steve Martin comedy routine where he says, you know, getting older
00:13:59is just the whole process of starting to say no to stuff.
00:14:03Nope.
00:14:04Right?
00:14:05So when you get...
00:14:06It's a series of just closing doors.
00:14:07There's this whole way of these various options.
00:14:09Hey, let's...
00:14:10Right?
00:14:11And getting older is a whole process of just saying, nope, don't do that, not doing that,
00:14:15not doing long-distance relationships, nope, not doing that, not working late for no pay,
00:14:19nope, not doing that.
00:14:21The whole process of getting older, Steve Martin is like, somebody comes up and says,
00:14:26hey, let's go camping.
00:14:29I'm sorry, we're closed.
00:14:30Right?
00:14:31So I've never been a huge camping guy.
00:14:33I generally can't sleep with much of a tree limb up my ass.
00:14:36There's always some tree root that's poking you in the back or something like that, and
00:14:39you roll over.
00:14:40And there's always three mosquitoes in the tent that you can't find.
00:14:42Yeah.
00:14:43Yeah.
00:14:44Yeah.
00:14:45Man, it's like listening to Madonna.
00:14:47So...
00:14:49Or Mickey Mouse on helium.
00:14:50It's pretty much the same thing.
00:14:52I mean, if Mickey Mouse was a whore, which he might be.
00:14:56Anyway.
00:14:58Propping up that tent that kept collapsing and finally being frustrated, the frustration
00:15:03hit me four years later on Sunday.
00:15:07Boy, I can tell a long story.
00:15:10I don't know why my viewership went down with all of these concise stories.
00:15:14It's incomprehensible.
00:15:18And I was like, it just hit me.
00:15:20And then I hit me, it hit me also on the Wednesday thing, and I was like, I felt like there's
00:15:27a great...
00:15:28John Irving has...
00:15:29He's a terrible plot and character, but great descriptor, John Irving, the novelist.
00:15:35And I can't remember the name of the novel, but there's two images that I remember really
00:15:38clearly from one of his novels.
00:15:40One is...
00:15:41And what a lovely description this is.
00:15:42If you've ever taken a sort of regular flashlight out in the middle of the night, he says, the
00:15:46watery bullseye of a flashlight.
00:15:48Oh, I love that.
00:15:49The watery bullseye of a flashlight, you know, because it's just beautifully described.
00:15:55And in the novel, I'm pretty sure it's John Irving, there's a priest who's lost his faith.
00:16:01And he said that his faith was like a stick insect that was climbing a bathroom wall with
00:16:13a wash of water steadily coming down.
00:16:16And it can go up, it can go up, but eventually it's just going to get washed away.
00:16:19And his faith was sort of mounting and holding on and mounting and gripping and holding on,
00:16:22but then just got washed away.
00:16:24Which is lovely.
00:16:26Just lovely descriptions.
00:16:32And I think for me, the enthusiasm was like that stick insect on the wall of the bathroom
00:16:38wall.
00:16:40And I was like, it's fine, it's fine.
00:16:44You know, it wasn't quite dark in the room of fire, but not that far off.
00:16:48It's fine.
00:16:49I'll just prop up this side.
00:16:50Oh, this side fell down.
00:16:51I'll just prop up this side.
00:16:52And I think Sunday, probably, and I don't think my daughter even noticed the view count
00:16:56or whatever it was.
00:16:57She wouldn't exactly know where to look or whatever, and she was over here to stay off
00:17:00camera.
00:17:01But I was just like, you know what, this kind of blows.
00:17:06So for four years, I've been propping up this tent.
00:17:10And then I was like, you know what, this kind of blows.
00:17:15Incredibly thankful, though I am, to have everyone here.
00:17:18I really am.
00:17:21If you are in fact here, and I'm not fight clubbing myself with sock puppets arranged
00:17:25around a bunch of library computers, I don't think that's the case.
00:17:28Pretty sure it's not.
00:17:31But I just, and I felt that enthusiasm and it reflected, right?
00:17:36I mean, donations were down on Wednesday, and I just realized I was not being direct.
00:17:41I wasn't fully conscious about like why my motivation was low, my sleep's been a little
00:17:45bit light.
00:17:47But I think, and it sort of reminds me, a friend of mine's father, who was a university
00:17:52professor, he lent me Richard Feynman's autobiography, so it's a famous physicist.
00:18:02And fascinating stuff, he was the guy, very famous physicist and lecturer.
00:18:06He also was the guy who figured out what caused the Challenger to blow up in, I think it was
00:18:0986 or something like that.
00:18:11I remember I was working up north and was finally doing my laundry after being a couple
00:18:15of weeks, no, two months in the bush, I was coming back to town, did my laundry, right
00:18:19over the laundry in Thunder Bay, not Thunder Bay, Tunder Bay, I remember seeing the space
00:18:28shuttle explode, and I was really quite shocked, because it all felt like progress, right?
00:18:32Remember how we went to the moon really quickly and then it just all got transferred to welfare
00:18:36and kids, rather than actually being able to go to the stars.
00:18:44But Richard Feynman, his wife died of some illness, I can't remember what it was, it
00:18:51was cancer probably or something like that, and he said he didn't really feel anything
00:18:54until, I don't know, it was like six months or a year later, I'm completely butchering
00:18:59the story, but the essence of it is that his wife died and it was a brutal death and he
00:19:03was just heartbroken, but he said he didn't really feel anything at the time.
00:19:07And like six months or 12 months later, he's walking down the street, he looks in a store
00:19:11window and he sees a dress and he says, oh Shelley would love that, and then it hit him
00:19:17and he just fell apart.
00:19:22Sometimes it hits you later.
00:19:28So I've been wrestling with some self-pity this week, thank you for the tip, I really
00:19:33really appreciate it, love you back, and this is not a complaint, I'm just being direct
00:19:38and honest about what's going on for me, maybe some of this goes on for you in your
00:19:45life and so on, but I want to be direct and honest, you know, I sort of encourage honesty
00:19:49in the listeners and I'll be honest with myself with regards to you, but yeah, I felt that
00:19:58last 10 pull just go kind of poof, and that reflected I think in later Sunday and Wednesday,
00:20:11am I breaking up with you, I don't know what that means, but I wrestled with some self-pity,
00:20:23that I had this great philosophical movement that was just ripped away, the greatest philosophical
00:20:38conversation in history, I mean, largely because of the technology, although I certainly contributed
00:20:45as did you, but it just ripped away, no warning, no justification, no honor, you know, it's
00:20:56like that blonde woman in the Matrix, not like this, not this way, when she just gets
00:21:02erased and there's not even a fight.
00:21:08So I was not feeling great, I was not feeling great, and I think I went through a bit of
00:21:17latency morning, do you ever have that, where it's sort of like when I injured myself once,
00:21:23cracked my forearm falling off a bike, I didn't, I just biked home, I didn't really feel it
00:21:27till later, but later it hurt like hell, and I think I just went through that, being tired
00:21:34of just gritting my teeth and moving forward no matter what, and I was like, you know,
00:21:40it's okay to feel crappy about this, I think it's fair, I think it's right, I think it's
00:21:44okay, I mean, I don't find that there's any point, did you see society reward hawk to
00:21:52a girl with $30,000 to judge a bikini contest, local philosopher, just de-platform him, this
00:21:57is how grief hits you too, yeah, yeah, I mean, I have no doubt, I mean, I know this
00:22:05about myself, strengths and weaknesses, I'm a fighter, and sometimes I fight for too long,
00:22:08but I am a fighter, and you have to fight, right, fight or flight, you have to fight,
00:22:15there was no flight, wasn't going to flight, it's fight or flight, and I think I was just
00:22:20this week, I was like, this blows, man, this was my life's work, this was my life's work,
00:22:29I mean, since the age of 15, I've been working on philosophy, and I built up an amazing library,
00:22:36and it just got no due process, no warning, no rules that were enforced that were at all
00:22:44objective, just gone, what keeps you from getting back out there, Steph, what is out there,
00:22:57what do you mean out there, out where, do you really think you need a brilliant philosopher
00:23:06to say, Joe Biden's not all there, can you imagine me doing political commentary these days,
00:23:13I mean, I'm sorry you have people still denying that Joe Biden has mental issues,
00:23:18but don't worry, my graphs and charts are totally going to convince them,
00:23:21if people can't even accept what they see in front of their goddamn eyes,
00:23:25what am I going to say, what am I going to say, yeah, there were great conversations
00:23:34in the comments, oh yeah, absolutely, millions of comments on philosophy, gone, gone.
00:23:43And it's just a funny thing, I wasn't putting on this big brave face, like, you know,
00:23:56crying in the corner, but being brave, I mean, I genuinely was like, just keep going,
00:24:00just keep going, just keep going, right, but there was this thing where it was like,
00:24:08just this week was tough, and I wasn't sure exactly why I was feeling this,
00:24:13I was sleeping a bit lighter, just feeling this kind of malaise,
00:24:15and sometimes it's tough to track down what the hell's going on with yourself,
00:24:18you know, sometimes it's easier to see what's going on with other people,
00:24:22and sometimes it's a little tougher to track down, so I talked to friends and family and all of that,
00:24:25and kind of got it sorted, right, and I don't regret anything, I genuinely don't,
00:24:39I don't regret the choices that I've made, I don't sit there and say,
00:24:44I wish I had made different choices, because, I mean, the option was to lie,
00:24:59right, thank you, Chris, the option was to lie and survive, or tell the truth and be removed.
00:25:07I hate that those are the choices in the world as it is, I hate that those are the choices,
00:25:18but they are, I mean, I don't think it's possible to imagine otherwise,
00:25:23Sartre who said that there will come a time where people are
00:25:26thrown into the fire for saying that two and two make four.
00:25:29I could picture you being part of a conservative podcast like PBD for
00:25:40Philosophical Perspective, that would be great, I don't know what PBD refers to,
00:25:51you know, if you're not using common acronyms, it might be worth typing it out, I don't know,
00:25:56it might be, so it just, I felt sort of the whoosh go out, and I wasn't sure why,
00:26:05and I felt motivation go down, and I felt like, why?
00:26:14Now, of course, what I've been saying to myself, and I accept this still,
00:26:18is, you know, I'm laying sort of the foundation for
00:26:21sorry, let me just, Joe says, if Steph wasn't de-platformed, he'd probably be making videos,
00:26:28the truth about Joe Biden, and making political commentary on Twitter.
00:26:33Ah, you know, I get what you're saying, but
00:26:38I don't, Patrick bet David, oh, that's PBD, I don't know who that is, so
00:26:43I don't know what the truth about Joe Biden would be, I don't know what the truth, I mean,
00:26:51things have become so partisan that people don't see each other's realities at all,
00:26:55I'm sure you've seen those charts of the left and right moving further and further apart
00:27:02in ideology and beliefs, and universes, right, people are seeing now, right,
00:27:07so, I don't know, I mean, politics, to me, would be kind of embarrassing,
00:27:14honestly, would be kind of embarrassing to be involved in these days, I mean,
00:27:19if people aren't having mental breakdowns after the debate, they're just in absolute
00:27:22denial of reality, right, I mean, if people won't believe what's right in front of their eyes,
00:27:30why will they believe a PowerPoint? PowerPoint doesn't have a magical ability to get past
00:27:35people's defenses, if people literally, after that debate, didn't say, wow, we've been lied to
00:27:41for many, many years, well, what am I gonna say? What am I gonna say? You know, it's like if
00:27:52somebody's 350 pounds, and they look in the mirror, and they say, I look fantastic, I'm slender,
00:27:58and then they get on a scale that says 350 pounds, and they say, wow, 125, that's great,
00:28:03what are you gonna see? Well, what are you gonna say? What are you gonna say?
00:28:11What can you say? Can't say anything, really, I mean, what are you gonna say? I don't know.
00:28:22Denise says, I've followed you from talking in your car to and from work, I think how you are
00:28:28now is the best form of you when your crowd is truly your crowd. Well, thank you.
00:28:36So, I think it did, I think it just kind of hit me, I think it just kind of was a wallop,
00:28:44and I've had a lot of fun, honestly, over the last four years, and I've done things that I
00:28:49wouldn't have otherwise done, like I wrote two novels, I wrote Peaceful Parenting, which was
00:28:54like a year-long beast of a project, and I've done some absolutely wonderful live streams,
00:29:00I've done great solo shows, I've had some of the best call-in shows, I think, of my life as a whole,
00:29:08and so I've done some great stuff, and the stuff that will really last the test of time,
00:29:12I've mentioned this before, but Samuel Clemens
00:29:16was, of course, the writer, and everybody remembers Huck Finn and all of that, but he also
00:29:26did this newspaper column which he talked about politics, and nobody cares about that, but they
00:29:30care about the stuff that lasts the test of time, right? So, anyway, I was just kind of like,
00:29:40uh, I think, I mean, it's hard to say I got that it was all gone,
00:29:50but I just got that it was all gone,
00:29:56which, again, I know sounds weird coming four years later, but I just was like, uh,
00:30:05and, of course, I have enough data to know I'm not rebuilding in the current form, right? I mean,
00:30:10that's pretty clear, and I don't have any problem with that. I mean, I know some of the stuff that
00:30:14I would do to rebuild, but I don't want to rebuild in that way. I don't want to rebuild in that
00:30:18direction. You know, and there are already so many people out there who compromise in ways that I
00:30:33consider extremely dishonorable. There are already so many people who compromise. I really
00:30:43don't think the world needs one more. You know, like when I was trying to decide whether to stay
00:30:51in my software career, which was doing pretty well, I'll tell you that, or go do this crazy,
00:30:59I don't know how to fund it really, philosophy podcast stuff.
00:31:04When I was making that decision, the decision point was, you know, if you ask the right questions,
00:31:09the answers just become obvious, right? And the question was, does the world need
00:31:13another software entrepreneur, or does the world need a really dedicated philosopher?
00:31:22And once you ask the question that way, the answer becomes pretty obvious,
00:31:26and so for me, the question was, do we need another person who compromises what is essential
00:31:32in order to retain visibility? And of course, you also have to look at the people you admire over
00:31:41the course of developing your hero's journey. You have to look at the people you admire,
00:31:46and you have to say, what would X, Y, or Z do?
00:32:01The people we tend to remember the most, and the people who tend to influence us to do the best
00:32:08with our souls, are those who didn't bow to anything except absolute brute necessity,
00:32:16which was not the case with me. I don't think the world needs another compromiser, another
00:32:29kneebender, another liar, another shill. I mean, there's plenty of those around already.
00:32:39Don't need another. And frankly, I say to the planet, if you need another,
00:32:47go look somewhere else, because it ain't going to be me. It ain't going to be me.
00:32:55It ain't going to be me.
00:32:57So then I thought, if you don't like the price of telling the truth,
00:33:04which I don't, obviously, if you don't like the price of telling the truth,
00:33:11what do you think of the price of lying? Right? Because that's what I had to do this week.
00:33:20That's what I had to do this week, was to weigh shit.
00:33:31There are no solutions, only trade-offs. Weigh shit.
00:33:37If, and I don't mean to lecture you, because this is something I had to struggle through,
00:33:42which is blindingly obvious in hindsight, but I'm just going to share it with you,
00:33:45and I'm not going to do it in a lecture format, because I've no right to lecture
00:33:48you about something I've just kind of learned deep down. If I'm going to compare all the benefits
00:33:58of lying with all the costs of telling the truth, well, that's the crook finger
00:34:06of smoky-skinned Satan saying, come take the dark path.
00:34:13It's like that old argument, is it better to rent, or is it better to buy a house?
00:34:17Well, if you compare all of the strengths of renting with all the weaknesses of buying,
00:34:20then you end up renting. If you compare all of the weaknesses
00:34:23of renting with all the strengths of buying, it doesn't mean anything.
00:34:31And so, I had to grip my face in the mirror and say,
00:34:39if you think the cost of telling the truth is too high, that's because you've talked yourself
00:34:45out of looking at the costs of lying. Oh, but if I hadn't done this, and I hadn't done that,
00:34:55I'd still be doing speaking tours, and I'd still be out there in public,
00:34:59and I'd still be feted, and I'd still be blah blah blah blah blah, right?
00:35:03Okay, that's a strength of not telling the truth. I get that.
00:35:08People lie for a reason, because you get well paid.
00:35:16You get well owned.
00:35:20The domesticated animal has food, shelter, security, health care, in a cage!
00:35:33And if you're out there, and you're kind of lean and hungry, and you're
00:35:37trying to catch your 19th rabbit of the day, it keeps getting away,
00:35:42and you look over and you say, God damn, those dogs get secure food every day, they get shelter.
00:35:54If they get a wounded paw, they get healed, taken to the vet. They get
00:36:01crunchy little bones for their teeth, and broth for their belly. Right.
00:36:07Right. They get all of that.
00:36:15And all they lose are their fucking balls.
00:36:27I don't domesticate too well.
00:36:29Who's a good boy? Who's a good boy? Who's a good boy?
00:36:45Thank you, I'll hunt for myself. Thank you, bud.
00:36:53I don't care how nice and gilded and beautiful and even spacious the hotel room is,
00:36:59if they lock it from the outside, it's just another prison.
00:37:04So, what I did in terms of falling into self-pity, was I said, but look at all the
00:37:10benefits if I hadn't told the truth, and look at all the costs of telling the truth.
00:37:17And that's pretty easy, to feel sorry for yourself, for everything you've lost.
00:37:23Because all you focus is on everything you've lost,
00:37:27not everything that you've retained and gained. And that's the shit that matters.
00:37:33I lost anonymous eyeballs and gained or retained love, self-respect, pride, and
00:37:47a true impact on the only place philosophy can save people, which is the future.
00:37:53And the more people it can save, the further away you have to defer your gratification as a thinker.
00:38:07Philosophers are evil until everyone recognizes that we're right.
00:38:13And then what we say is somehow transformed from unspeakable to utterly self-evident.
00:38:29And you say, Joe, you're right. All those fans couldn't go one website over. Right.
00:38:36But they helped me enormously.
00:38:39But they helped me enormously.
00:38:45They saved my butt in important ways. And I don't begrudge them a bit
00:38:57because they said, where you want to go into battle, we will not follow,
00:39:04which was a bit of a relief, frankly, was a bit of a relief, frankly.
00:39:10But we see the battle you're thinking of, we're not following and you can't win alone.
00:39:23So they, and I think they were right.
00:39:39So in life as a whole, right, you have the challenge of, or the temptation.
00:39:59This is funny.
00:40:02This is funny. This is great. Now, freedomain.com slash donate if you'd like to help out the show,
00:40:07I really would appreciate it.
00:40:16You weren't doxxed, you got greedy and Lauren Southern stopped
00:40:21sponsoring you. You then sold out for media dollars.
00:40:29That's very funny.
00:40:30Lauren Southern sponsored me. Also, it's L-A-U-R-E-N not L-O-R-E-N.
00:40:39I know it's tough to spell people's names when they're uncommon like Lauren.
00:40:45You got greedy and Lauren Southern stopped sponsoring you. That's wild.
00:40:48You then sold us out for media dollars.
00:40:53What media dollars are you referring to?
00:40:57Media dollars. Ah yes, the shower of media dollars I used to transform my
00:41:02studio into a magnificent five-dimensional matrix holodeck.
00:41:11Oh, that's funny. Oh, that is funny.
00:41:17That's great.
00:41:19Oh, I sold everyone out for media dollars. Yeah, just search me up on the media, man.
00:41:24They just absolutely wanted to just do nothing but shower me with money.
00:41:35That's great. Oh my gosh, that is great. Oh, thank you. That helps a lot.
00:41:43Ah yes, all those media dollars.
00:41:56And people see what they want to see forever playing to the gallery.
00:42:03All right, let's see here.
00:42:05Just saw a screen cap of yours on Twitter, searched for you on Rumble and saw you were
00:42:08streaming. Well, thank you and welcome, welcome, welcome. People in the comments were asking for
00:42:12you to come back. Yes, no, it is tough. It is tough to go over one website.
00:42:20Steph, we care about you on Twitter so much. We desperately need you to come back because
00:42:25the only alternative to get your words, ideas, arguments, and perspective, the only chance we
00:42:31have is we have to sacrifice 19 goats and cross the Andes plus the Himalayas. Wearing only a thong,
00:42:41a piece of broccoli gripped between our ass cheeks, climbing with only our teeth.
00:42:47Oh wait, you can just go one website over and subscribe to me there.
00:42:51Come back to Twitter. The only alternative is for me to go one website over and click a button.
00:42:57I mean, I'm only human. I can't do it all.
00:43:03Come back to Twitter because there's no way I can get to you. You're a website over.
00:43:11Oh, that's funny. So much of the modern conservative movement is saying things that
00:43:17came from you and they don't even know it was you who entered those ideas into the public
00:43:21consciousness. Yeah, I don't know. Maybe. I don't really follow much conservative media these days.
00:43:29Steph, is it a good idea to share bank accounts between spouses before and after marriage?
00:43:34What the hell are you talking about, buddy? What the living Sam hell are you talking about?
00:43:40You can't share spouses' bank accounts before marriage because you're not spouses yet.
00:43:46I don't know. The idea of having separate bank accounts is completely bizarre to me, honestly.
00:43:52Oh, thank you for the tip. I appreciate that.
00:43:57Yes, that is delightful. That is delightful. Honestly, I can't imagine why anybody would
00:44:05want separate bank accounts. I mean, you merged your one flesh. I don't know why people fight
00:44:11with their spouses. Fighting with your spouse is like cutting yourself, to make a point. It's just
00:44:15self-harm. You can't fight with your spouse. They're exactly who you chose. Oh, I had all
00:44:24the choice in the world. I spent five years choosing and dating and 10 years and choosing
00:44:29and dating and finally I found the one and we dated for months or years and we were engaged
00:44:33for months or years and we'd be married for months or years and I hate her. You can't fight
00:44:40your spouse without hating your own choices. She's a manifestation of everything you've chosen. You
00:44:45fight with her and put her down and aggress against her and call her names. You think you're
00:44:52doing anything other than punching a mirror and calling it ugly? I don't fucking understand it.
00:44:57I'm not talking to you. You're just talking about bank accounts, just in general. This may be coming
00:45:01out of a couple of private calls. I don't understand.
00:45:16Never tell your wife what you actually make a year. Some old guy gave me that advice once.
00:45:21Thou shouldst not have been old before thou wert wise.
00:45:37Ah, let's see here. I remember Steph getting the boot off YouTube. It took me about a week to
00:45:44figure out where he was and I went to public school. Oh well, that probably was it. I don't
00:45:49know. People have short attention spans. Tweets are easier to digest than long-form streams
00:45:59and you could easily blow up on Twitter these days and return to your former glory.
00:46:06That's certainly a possibility. Yeah, I don't, I mean, the idea that you'd hide anything from
00:46:11your wife in particular, I don't understand. I don't understand. Never tell your wife what
00:46:17you're making a year. That's insane. That's insane. What advice would you give to a 21-year-old
00:46:24virgin girl, perfect tan, Christian and conservative, but can't find a potential husband?
00:46:28I sense a troll. It's a delusion of grandeur to assume people would gather around your feet just
00:46:40because you were speaking. I mean, I don't know who you're having a conversation with. I assume
00:46:46it's yourself, so I will not interrupt. I won't interrupt you talking to your own hand puppet
00:46:50because I don't know what you're talking about. All right. Sorry, let me just get back to your
00:46:58comments. Whoever it was who said the Lauren Southern comment, just please be quiet. No,
00:47:10come on. It's enjoyable. Steph is here asking support while he's making all this money from
00:47:16the media. How am I making money from the media? I just love to hear these theories.
00:47:20I mean, how am I making money from the media? I'd love to know these theories. Oh dear.
00:47:32It has been a pathetic time in history for loyalty. Cancel culture scares people. It's
00:47:35been an effective attack on the First Amendment. Yes, that's very true. That's very true.
00:47:41Steph, many people inhabit their parents in their relationships. Trigger words make them
00:47:46morph into parental forms and fight for them, but an unmasked adult doesn't fight with their spouse.
00:47:54I would just be embarrassed to attack my wife as if she wasn't a reflection of my choices.
00:48:01I mean, it's schizo in my view, right?
00:48:05And you know you're telling me exactly what I talk about in Peaceful Parenting and what I've
00:48:09talked about in about a thousand call-in shows, so I do appreciate you telling me all the things
00:48:14I already know, but what the heck, right? Speaking just in your own stream and disconnected
00:48:20from the media, churn isn't going to hold an audience any more than singing in the shower.
00:48:25Speaking just in your own stream and disconnected from the media, churn isn't going to hold an
00:48:30audience any more than singing in the shower. So that's an analogy, and if you knew anything
00:48:36about philosophy, an analogy is not a proof. Now, of course, I have done shows with other
00:48:45people over the last couple of years, which you can go and check out. So,
00:48:49are you saying that if I don't do larger people's shows, I tend to have a smaller audience?
00:48:55I just love all of these people who've never had a big show telling me how to get a big show.
00:49:07That's delightful. Well, Steph, it's true you did have one of the biggest
00:49:12alternative media shows on the planet for quite a few years,
00:49:15but let me tell you what you need to do to get a big show.
00:49:21That's great. Oh my gosh. And this guy's talking about delusions of grandeur.
00:49:29That's great. Oh my gosh. And this guy's talking about delusions of grandeur.
00:49:41Oh my gosh. Jordan Peterson's Meltdown. Oh, that gets very sad. They're all very sad.
00:49:51All right, let me just get to your comments here.
00:49:53So, yeah, I mean, look, there are obviously there are people who've taken a payout and
00:50:03don't talk about things they know. I mean, I think, right, it's pretty obvious, right,
00:50:07that people who've taken a payout and are just not talking about things that they know to be essential.
00:50:14And I mean, I think that's terrible, particularly if you've got some coin in your pocket, right?
00:50:21Particularly if you've made a bit of F.U. money, I find it odd that people just line up.
00:50:28So particularly, I mean, I don't quite get it. I don't quite get it.
00:50:39Oh, are we on? Let me see. Let me see.
00:50:51All right, let's see here.
00:50:59You're a good guy, man. You changed the world. Thank you. I appreciate that.
00:51:02Certainly changed some people's world, and I appreciate that.
00:51:06What the hell is going on with Peterson's daughter? Well, that's a fairly long and detailed
00:51:13story, and in another life, I'd probably dive into it more, but
00:51:17I don't have any particular incentive or reason to at the moment.
00:51:24And, yeah, I mean, I don't know. I mean, I don't know. I mean, I don't know what's going on there.
00:51:29I don't have any particular incentive or reason to at the moment.
00:51:35And by the way, of course, thank you very much for the tips as a whole.
00:51:42Hey, Steph, I hope you're doing good. Appreciate that. Welcome back.
00:51:45I hope I'm doing good and well and well. So for me, it's like if
00:52:00there's an old song by the late, great George Michael. Thank you for the tip.
00:52:07There's a great song called Freedom 90, I think it is.
00:52:14And it's a great album, Listen Without Prejudice. And there's a slow song where he says,
00:52:20um, the road I've taken has filled my pockets and emptied out my soul.
00:52:31Well, the road that I have walked upon, well, it filled my pockets but emptied out my soul.
00:52:41And that is rough, man. That is rough. And he did. I mean, he became extraordinarily famous.
00:52:47I think he did sell out quite a lot of important principles. And it ended up kind of killing him,
00:52:56right? Steph, are you related to the Australian reality star-turned-neighbor's heartthrob who
00:53:04shares your surname? I do not know. But there is in fact a Molyneux newsletter,
00:53:09which does all of this. I am in the media. Here's one of your checks.
00:53:14Ah, there we go. It's all been worth it for that donation. Thank you. Thank you. Do you think people
00:53:20in the past supported or understood free speech more or has the general public always not cared
00:53:24about freedom in the abstract right before getting punched in the face? So, people have.
00:53:38Let me ask you this. Steph, what interviews do you think were the most important for the show?
00:53:43Well, I mean, the fact that I did the 17 interviews with the world-renowned intelligence
00:53:47researchers, I mean, that was just made everything incontrovertible regarding IQ, right? So,
00:53:52I think those are pretty important. Okay. Give me a 1 to 10. Give me a 1 to 10.
00:53:59How deep, how fiery, how much of a rant do you want? I don't know if you can take this kind of
00:54:06rant. I don't know if I can take this kind of rant. I don't know, man, because this is a big one.
00:54:13Do you think Taylor Swift has sold her soul? Oh, yeah. Yeah. I mean, in my view, absolutely. She's
00:54:21entirely captured and conquered and colonized. Yeah. Yeah. I mean, she's F the patriarchy and
00:54:26so on, right? It's crazy. Right. Right. Right. Right. So, free speech. Free speech cannot
00:54:39long survive people's insatiable desire to have people to hate.
00:54:48It seems to me that the vast majority of mankind
00:54:53wakes up every morning like a coked-up anteater sniffing the air looking for someone to hate.
00:54:59And all they need, this seething, surging, back and forth, blood-tied sea of resentment is just
00:55:05rolling around in their gut. And they're just looking. They got to vomit on someone, on something.
00:55:11You know, when you want to vomit and you just got to grab a bucket or a cup or a
00:55:15bowl or a garbage can. People are just full of this seething, frustrated rage and resentment.
00:55:22And they're just do-do. They're just dying and begging for someone to hate.
00:55:30Can anybody find me somebody to hate? That's what they want. It's chilling. Like a bunch of half
00:55:38animated zombies just looking to be shot through with the Zeus juice of electrical media propaganda
00:55:44so they can animate their fingertips and blaze through the trachea of someone they're told to
00:55:48hate. That's the infinite power source of the universe. Vanity, greed, stupidity, and hate
00:56:00seems to be what people live for. Hate my husband, hate my wife, hate my kids, hate my job,
00:56:06hate the unvaccinated, hate this, hate that, hate whites. Oh my god.
00:56:10Hate my husband, hate my wife, hate my kids, hate my job,
00:56:14hate the unvaccinated, hate this, hate that, hate whites. Oh my god.
00:56:20Can you take a breath? Without spreading the poison of hate in every exhalation, it seems that
00:56:27that's just a bridge too far for the vast majority of humanity, right? I mean, I remember back on my
00:56:33Twitter days, I'd make some comment about India, and the Indian Twitter brigade would arrive to
00:56:40tell me what a bigot I was. And I would say, oh, and I'd say something because I did The Truth
00:56:45About Colonialism. Do you know when the British took over every land that they took over, they
00:56:52granted everyone immediately human rights, to which the natives said, human rights? What is that? Is
00:56:58that the right to eat humans? No, no. Property rights, free speech, participative government,
00:57:03we're giving you human rights. What rights? Is that like a spice you use for the human? No, no.
00:57:11Okay, let's start this again.
00:57:14And they would come and get mad at me about India. The Raj, 150 years ago. Terrible. I'm like, you
00:57:20know that India, like in India, you like literally murder 15 million girls every year out of sex
00:57:25selection. Infanticide, right? You know, maybe, just maybe that's a little bit more to look at in
00:57:31terms of the morality of your country than what happened 150 years ago when you got railways and
00:57:36human rights, and they interrupted the sooty practice of forcing the bride to jump on the
00:57:40burning pyre of her husband's grave. Oh, the hate, the hate, the hate.
00:57:51You know, those unvaccinated people are going to make you sick and kill grandma,
00:57:55and that's the reason you can't have any rights. Those unvaccinated, oh, yeah, oh, those unvaccinated.
00:58:04Like a year later, everyone's functionally unvaccinated because they don't take the
00:58:07boosters, but apparently they just hated the unvaccinated.
00:58:12And then they return like there's just some cryogenic freezing mechanism by which they simply
00:58:17did not exist for the three years of the two minutes hate on the unvaccinated.
00:58:23Or anyone who questioned anything, safe and effective, how could they know?
00:58:27It's been four fucking months.
00:58:35I was talking to, I had some workers over today, and we were just chatting as, I love chatting
00:58:42with people, I'll honestly like, don't ever come and do work at my house because I'll just chat
00:58:46with you and make you late for your next appointment because I just love chatting with
00:58:48people, right? And the guy was like, yeah, yeah, no, I got, I got vaccinated, and I got the
00:58:55boosters, and I got COVID three times, and I got sicker each time. I'm like, oh my god.
00:59:04Love gathering these data points. Love gathering my data points.
00:59:16Those are the bad people. Whoever's pointing at the bad people, particularly if they're the
00:59:23people in power, just follow the arm back up to the shoulder, look at the head, those are the bad
00:59:27people. You take away people's hatreds. It seems like for most people, you're taking away their
00:59:37reason to get out of bed in the morning. Oh, I hate my boss. Really? Are you a great employee?
00:59:42You ever try to manage people? No, I just hate them.
00:59:51It's like if you blocked up people's hatred and demanded that they drop the habit of hating,
01:00:06would their heads explode? Would their hearts explode in their chest,
01:00:08John Hurt style? Like, what would happen?
01:00:12What would happen? Oh, yeah, just being taught and trained and propagandized into hating people.
01:00:27Just hate, hate, hate, hate, hate. What would people do without their hatreds? What would
01:00:33they do without their class enemies, or their race enemies, or their gender enemies,
01:00:37or their patriarchy, or God knows what? What would they do without their enemies? What would
01:00:41they do without hate non-conservatives, or even hate non-liberals? What would they do without
01:00:45their hatred? How would they guide themselves without the North Star of hating the living
01:00:50shit out of people or groups, or races or sexes? Just hatred, hatred, hatred, hatred, right?
01:01:07Like, the CEO of YouTube obviously was not a big fan of mine. I talked a lot about addiction
01:01:22and adverse childhood experiences and the costs of childhood trauma and how it leads to addiction.
01:01:31And then her son was later found dead some years, a couple of years after I was deplatformed.
01:01:41Her son was found dead in his dorm at UC Berkeley.
01:01:51Just awful.
01:01:53The grandmother said that she believed her grandson died from a drug overdose.
01:01:58If I had been on YouTube, maybe he would have seen my work. Maybe
01:02:03he would have found a way out of his addiction.
01:02:09Oh, you can't trust men. You've got to be a strong, independent,
01:02:13boss, bitch, babe. You can't trust men. Don't rely on a man. Hate man, hate man, hate. They're
01:02:19just programming you to deliver votes. They're just sowing endless fields of cat ladies so
01:02:25that they can harvest votes for more power. Man, and I see that tsunami of hate.
01:02:34Harvest votes for more power.
01:02:41Man, and I see that tsunami of female loneliness coming, right?
01:02:46Soon half of women over 30 are going to be childless without relationships and so on.
01:02:51Oh.
01:03:03Hey, Steph, years ago you helped me get out of a big time mindset. I want to thank you for that.
01:03:07Hey, beautiful, beautiful. You know, I got to tell you, I mean, I don't think it's inconsequential
01:03:14that I came from the background that I came from, obviously horrible levels of child abuse and so on.
01:03:21And that I have now, gosh, now my wife for like 22 or 23 years, we've been married for 22 years.
01:03:29And it's just beautiful. Like, it's wonderful. Like, marriage just keeps getting better and
01:03:33better. Like, every time you think it's great, it's just like, yeah, it's even better than you
01:03:37think. And I do think that having that as an example is, I think, nice for people, right?
01:03:44So like all the bitterness people, there aren't any good women and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
01:03:48You know, I mean, obviously I didn't get the only one and she didn't get the only good man. And
01:03:52you know, it's just absolutely wonderful. Absolutely wonderful. I mean, marriage
01:03:56is the greatest institution the planet will ever see. To have somebody by your side
01:04:03that you absolutely adore, who's incredible amounts of fun and who keeps you sane.
01:04:12You know, you can't stay sane in isolation. We have a hive mind. We have, through being social
01:04:19animals, we have offloaded our reality processing in part to other people. Now they can keep you
01:04:26sane or they can make you completely insane. But having someone in your life that you love,
01:04:30worship and adore, who's incredibly fun. And she is a joyful person, man. She is a
01:04:36scoldingly, wonderfully, beautifully, supernovally joyful person. And that is something,
01:04:42well, I drink deep off and it's a beautiful thing. So I hope that that helps. I think just having
01:04:48that example can help people get out of the MGTOW. Because the MGTOW stuff is like, there aren't any
01:04:53good women, nothing good can happen. It's all, you know, thoughts and whores and frigid and blah,
01:05:00blah, blah, right? Yeah. Yeah. And I can feel this, the female tsunami of loneliness and isolation.
01:05:11You know, all it takes to make society insane is to have people make enough bad decisions that
01:05:18they can't recover. Right? If you can get people to make enough decisions that they can't really
01:05:28recover, they're just committed to their insanity. Right? Which is why, you know, I used to be on
01:05:33Twitter. I would, you know, post the stuff like, you know, ladies, your fertility pretty much
01:05:41crashes at 40, but you live to 80. If you don't have kids, what are you going to do? What are you
01:05:45going to do? And I know, I know that a lot of men in the manosphere, I did a lot of research for
01:05:56that for my last novel, The Present, which you should totally get at freedomain.com slash books.
01:05:59But I did a lot of research in the manosphere. And of course, I've spoken to men's rights
01:06:03conferences and so on. But, you know, it's real easy for guys to say, oh, the women who rejected
01:06:11us in their 20s are going to get theirs in their 40s. And now they want to, they've ridden the
01:06:14carousel. And now they want me and my prime to pick up them and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
01:06:18It's like, bro, this is part of the hatred. Come on, man. Jeez. All the guys out there
01:06:28resenting women who make their bad choices. Do you really think if you were a hot young woman
01:06:36that you'd make a whole lot of better choices? Come on. It's so sad. It's so sad.
01:06:45You know, I was talking to a woman, I think it was yesterday. We do these sometimes. And I just
01:06:50wanted to point this out. If you're a subscriber, freedomain.locals.com or subscribedstar.com
01:06:56slash freedomain. If you're a donor, if you're a subscriber, we do these donor only voice chats.
01:07:02And I was doing a voice chat with a woman, a very attractive woman. I'd actually done a call
01:07:07and show with her the night before, but it hasn't been published yet. And she was a very attractive
01:07:12woman. So let me ask you this. Let me ask you this. Let me ask you this.
01:07:21You're a guy. If you're a guy, I want you to guess, assuming you weren't in on this flash
01:07:27conference. If you're a young, attractive woman and you go to a nightclub or a bar,
01:07:37how many times do you get hit on over the course of a night? Just out of curiosity.
01:07:42How many times a night would she get hit on? As a young, attractive woman.
01:07:59What do you think? What do you think? 50.
01:08:03Am I there by myself or with a guy? 35, 25 times an hour. How big a nightclub? Oh my god.
01:08:16Okay. All right. Excellent. Good to know. Good to know.
01:08:25She said 40 to 50 on average, which I mean, some nights more, some nights less. 40 to 50.
01:08:34Now, almost no men will experience that over the course of their lifetime.
01:08:39So if you are an attractive woman at a nightclub,
01:08:4340 to 50 guys will hit on you over the course of an evening.
01:08:46So if you are an attractive woman at a nightclub,
01:08:5040 to 50 guys will hit on you over the course of an evening.
01:08:59So all the people who were like, well, these women make these terrible decisions and they're just
01:09:05thoughts and sluts and this and that and the other, it's like, okay, okay. So you got all
01:09:09the propaganda in the universe trained on you, right? If you're a white male, you don't have
01:09:14much propaganda trained at you except to get you to try and dislike yourself or your history or
01:09:18culture or whatever, right? But if you're a woman, you got all this massive laser-like propaganda
01:09:22directly pointed at you and you're in the very flush and height of your dating market value,
01:09:30right? Late teens, early 20s, mid 20s, whatever you want to say, right?
01:09:33Now, I want all the haters out there to look me directly in the eye and say they know for
01:09:48absolute certain that if they were a young hot woman, that they would have made absolutely
01:09:56wonderfully better decisions. With all that propaganda and all of that power and 40 to 50
01:10:01guys hitting on you every night in the club, but you get your pick of whoever you want.
01:10:09Anybody who says they know for absolute certain they would never have made any bad decisions as
01:10:13a young hot woman is lying through their teeth. That's just an absolute, complete and total lie.
01:10:23Absolute, complete and total lie. Now, I had, of course, a number of women hit on me when I
01:10:28was younger. I had women who would offer to get my books published, which I desperately wanted to
01:10:32have happen in return for sleeping with them and all of that. I was a very, very good-looking young
01:10:37man. I mean, I've posted the picture here before. I don't think you particularly care to see it,
01:10:41but I'll show it to you anyway, just because I don't want you to think that I'm deluded.
01:10:45I was a good-looking young man and I'll post the picture because I want you to understand
01:10:53that I understand to some degree. Obviously, I wasn't getting hit on 40 or 50 times a night,
01:10:58but I just want you to understand what it's like and to have some humility about how silly it is
01:11:05for you to somehow imagine that no matter what, you were going to just make massively better
01:11:12decisions than everybody else. All the women out there, no matter what, in what circumstances,
01:11:18they just make bad decisions. You were to just make wonderful decisions.
01:11:22All of that is a massive, bizarre, and eerie delusion. It's not true. You probably would
01:11:29have made absolutely terrible decisions as women do as a whole as well. I will put this
01:11:35here so you can see how I looked at the age of 18. Boy, I wish YouTube had been around then.
01:11:42I could have done my covers of Take On Me and it all would have been tasty and juicy.
01:11:49All right, let me get this here. Can this dragon drop?
01:11:54Can it? Let's see here. Let's find out. Oh yeah, here we go. All right. What the heck?
01:12:03Oh, no, no. Oh, they didn't do it. Okay. Well, we'll get there. We'll get there. I'll throw
01:12:11the picture in. What the heck? So yeah, I mean, did I make great decisions with that kind of
01:12:20access? No, I didn't make great decisions. Absolutely not. So have some humility that
01:12:27if you had been in this situation, you probably would have made some pretty terrible decisions too.
01:12:32And maybe you would have had some real fun making some pretty terrible decisions. I know I did.
01:12:36But yeah, just this idea that, well, I can handle power, no problem. Oh yes, me. Me and power,
01:12:45we just, we're totally fine. Me and power, yeah, no problem at all. Not true. Not true even a little
01:12:54bit. Oh, I don't want to be there. Sorry, I went to the wrong place.
01:13:07So yes, very sad. Don't imagine it. Don't imagine. It's all the people who are like,
01:13:14if I had political power, I'd do the right thing. If I had political power,
01:13:17everything would be wonderful. It's like, no, it wouldn't have been. Nobody can handle political
01:13:22power and nobody can handle any kind of excess of sexual power. You just can't do it. Oh,
01:13:31I don't think I can post pictures over here. So yeah, just hatred. Just hatred.
01:13:43Yeah, so I don't know. To me, it's just kind of funny that people are just so absolutely certain
01:13:55that women just make all these terrible decisions, but I would have made absolutely wonderful
01:14:00decisions. Oh my gosh. Oh, the women can't handle power, but I sure could. I should have. As a hot
01:14:10girl, I would have made much better. All right. So let's see here.
01:14:28You've never touched COVID for three years. Now you're passionate.
01:14:31I was literally one of the first people on the planet to talk about COVID, bro.
01:14:43Like I had just come back from doing a documentary on Hong Kong, where I got tear gas,
01:14:50pepper sprayed through support of the anti-communist riots. I talked to the guy who wrote their
01:14:56constitution. I did a lot of interviews and came back and my contacts out there all told me right
01:15:02away, oh, China's just had its Chernobyl. This is going to be a huge deal. I literally was one of
01:15:08the first people on the planet in the West to talk about COVID and I talked about it forever and ever
01:15:12and a day. I did an entire video called The Case Against China, where I laid out all the biological
01:15:18and scientific reasons why this shit came from the lab in Wuhan. You just get your fucking head
01:15:24out of your ass and learn something. All right. Let's see here.
01:15:36So listen, I know how to build a channel. I mean, I already did it from nothing.
01:15:41I know how to build a channel. So people telling me, well, you know, if you don't follow where the
01:15:45big audience is, you might not have a big audience. And if you don't expose yourself to more people,
01:15:48it's like, I know all of that. Like, come on, come on, come on. It's not a lack of knowledge,
01:15:54right? All right.
01:16:08All right. Let's see here. Just trying to find anything useful over here, but I'm not really.
01:16:14Steph, I'm just wondering why you quit doing the full research videos on politics to explain to
01:16:21the masses just how much the media is lying to them and how Trump has been railroaded in every
01:16:24way possible. Yeah, I did all of that. And it became so obvious that the media was false that
01:16:33I had no particular idea how to explain it to people when it was just so obvious, right?
01:16:40Why do you think guys drop out of the dating market, though?
01:16:44Yeah. Oh, look, I'm not saying go marry the women who've slept around. I'm not saying that at all.
01:16:49I'm not. Don't marry women who've slept around. In my humble opinion, the data on it, you can look
01:16:54at The Truth About Sex, my presentation, The Truth About Sex. Just go to FDRpodcast.com,
01:16:59do a search for sex. So I'm not saying go marry. I'm just saying that you would probably have made
01:17:04and I would probably have made equally bad decisions if we had that much dating market
01:17:09value, right? If we had hit the peak, imagine, I want you to think of this. Imagine that when you
01:17:18were 18 years old, someone gave you $5 million tax-free. Just imagine that. When you were 18
01:17:27years old, someone gave you $5 million. Do you think you'd invest that wisely and save it for
01:17:31a rainy day? No! You'd blow it on stupid shit, at least a lot of it, right? Maybe you'd end up
01:17:36with some of it left over, but you'd squander a lot of it. Why? Because you're 18. Or 20.
01:17:43Oh, but if someone gave me $5 million at the age of 18, I would have just put it in RESPs.
01:17:52Oh my gosh, why are people on Rumble so cheap? I almost never get any donations from people
01:17:58on Rumble. It's just funny. It's just funny to me. Just funny. Yeah, you buy a Bugatti or
01:18:06like whatever, right? I mean, yeah, you know, I get all of that, right? I get all of that.
01:18:12Yeah, the truth about sex? Yeah, don't marry women who've had a lot of sexual partners and
01:18:17haven't done therapy or whatever to deal with that stuff because they're going to divorce your ass and
01:18:21extract your wallet through your urethra.
01:18:34What platforms do you use now? So you can go to freedomain.com slash connect and go there
01:18:39and go there and you can see all of the places. So why do men drop out of the dating market?
01:18:52Why do young men drop out of the dating market? Well,
01:18:55there's lots of reasons but the one that people don't understand is
01:19:02let's say you have dysfunctional parents and you have not cleaned up that relationship.
01:19:09It's quite common. It's quite common. You have dysfunctional parents and you've not cleaned up
01:19:14that relationship. You haven't talked to them directly. You haven't had those direct conversations.
01:19:19You haven't said here are my issues and you haven't said what you want which is usually an
01:19:24apology and a restitution and some commitment you can believe in by which it won't happen again,
01:19:28the dysfunction. So let's say you've got mean parents. They frighten you. They were mean to
01:19:33you when you were younger. Maybe they hit you. Maybe their parents fought a lot in front of you.
01:19:37Maybe they put you down. They insulted you and they just did some bad things.
01:19:42And now you're 30 and you're still wrapped up in all of that dysfunction and you can't say
01:19:47a single shred of truth to the people in your life who did you the most harm of anyone which
01:19:52is dysfunctional parents. If they were dysfunctional, I'm not talking everyone, right?
01:20:00So now you're trapped. This is why you bail out of the dating market.
01:20:06This is why you bail out of the dating market.
01:20:11The reason you bail out of the dating market is because you don't want a life like your parents
01:20:24but you can't get a different life because you're still wrapped up and lying to your parents.
01:20:28You understand? Withholding the truth from people is a form of deception. The truth,
01:20:33the whole truth, and nothing but the truth. I don't know why. I talk to Christians all the time.
01:20:37Some of them on my call-in shows and they all say, yes, yes, I'm such a Christian. Did your
01:20:41parents do you harm? Oh, yes, they did these wrong things. Like I talked to one guy, one guy
01:20:45whose parents fought in front of him all the time, all the time, fought in front of him all the time,
01:20:48bicker, bicker, bicker, bicker, bicker, a couple of times a week at least.
01:20:53And I said, well, that's a sin. He was Christian, right? I said, that's a sin.
01:20:57What do you promise? To love, honor, and obey. You promise to almighty God to love, honor,
01:21:03and obey. So if you're bickering and it's harming your children and you're bickering,
01:21:07then you're breaking your marriage vows. It's a form of infidelity to fight with your wife
01:21:13because you promised to almighty God to love, to honor, and obey.
01:21:18Now that doesn't mean, of course, don't have disagreements, don't have differences of opinion,
01:21:21of course, of course. But fight, insult, put down, bicker, nicker, sticker, bullshit.
01:21:30And another thing, especially in front of your kids, you do not do that. It is a sin.
01:21:37And they're still doing it now, even worse now that they're old.
01:21:41They're all kinds of George and Martha from Who's Afraid of Virginia Woolf bullshit going on.
01:21:48It's halfway to John Osborne to look back in anger.
01:21:54So I said to the guy, well, you need to confront your parents because they're sinning.
01:22:01They've broken their vows to God by bickering and fighting and put each other down
01:22:10for 40 years. And they're going to go to hell if they continue to sin and break their vows to God
01:22:18and having harmed their children, which is a sin. So why don't you say something?
01:22:26The most powerful commandment to me, it's different for everyone, but the most powerful
01:22:29commandment to me is thou shall not bear false witness, which means it matters
01:22:36of import of good and evil. You tell the freaking truth, or you don't have a relationship.
01:22:45Don't be in a relationship to lie. That is lying that you even have a relationship.
01:22:50You don't. You only have a relationship with delusion, fear,
01:22:53anxiety, terror, subjugation, and self erasure.
01:23:00Saying you have a relationship that's based upon subjugation and deception is saying that
01:23:07you can live in a house that's currently burning to the ground.
01:23:17So if you have dysfunctional parents and you meet a quality woman, what's that quality woman going
01:23:26to do? Well, she's going to have kind of the following conversation with you. She's going to
01:23:31meet your parents and she's going to say, well, they kind of messed up, man. You know, they kind
01:23:35of insulted you. You really self erase around them. You're not direct. I've never seen you like
01:23:41that. Just kind of shrunken in on yourself. And you just, you know, when they say jump, you say
01:23:46how high? Like it's pretty gross, right? This is not good. And then she'll ask you about your
01:23:53childhood and you'll tell her about your childhood. And she'll say, so they did a lot of
01:23:57harm to you. And you say, yes, but I love them. You say, okay, well, what do you love about them?
01:24:05And you won't be able to answer. And then she'll say, do you love me? And you say, yes. I say,
01:24:12well, I love you and I do good things for you. And I care about you. I don't frighten you.
01:24:17So you love me. And then you also love, you say, these people who did the greatest harm to you
01:24:23and don't want to hear any truth from you and seem to put you down a lot.
01:24:28So you, I don't understand how you're using the word love to mean both things. And they'll get
01:24:34all trip tongue tied and tripped up on that. And then she'll say two questions, two questions.
01:24:39Number one, number one, are your messed up parents going to be involved in the raising
01:24:46and nurturing of our children? And you're going to say yes, or I guess so, or it's like, okay,
01:24:53well, if you're indifferent to it, then they'll push for it and they'll do it because you don't
01:24:57have any barrier. Okay. So I see men marry women, women marry families. This is a fundamental
01:25:05disconnect that used to be understood. You look at a woman and you think, wow, she's a great woman,
01:25:08blah, blah, blah, individual, blah, blah, blah, because you want to have sex with her and you
01:25:12have sex with her, not her family. Whereas she looks at you and sees a whole clan because women
01:25:19got to integrate into a whole other family. They got a mother-in-law, they got a father-in-law,
01:25:23they got aunts, they got to merge into all of that. They got to be around those people.
01:25:26You're off at work and she's trying to raise kids with crazy grandma,
01:25:29grandpa and aunts and uncles all around.
01:25:31So she's judging you by your family and she should, she absolutely should.
01:25:45So if you're like, oh yes, no, absolutely, they're going to be involved in raising our kids. She'd
01:25:48be like, okay, number one, I guess got my answer to that one. Number two, if you don't mind,
01:25:54tell me this, do you plan on taking care of your parents when they get old?
01:26:01Because these days, man, it is a long, slow incline and no slippery slope into death. It's
01:26:06not like tuberculosis and being hit by a tram anymore. It is a long, slow decay into death.
01:26:11These days, it can take five years, 10 years or more for somebody to go from infirmity to death.
01:26:17And it is a big ass, long, deep canoe over a very, very slow fucking waterfall.
01:26:23These days, everyone's propped up by various vitamins and health interventions and support
01:26:30and Lord knows what, drugs. And they just keep going and going like withers, like ghouls going.
01:26:38So then she says, as she should, what's going to happen? See, you don't think, you're just like,
01:26:44wow, this girl's really cute and funny and sexy. And I love her so much and blah, blah, blah. And
01:26:47she's like, okay, well, where's your crazy mom going to be for the last 15 years of her life?
01:26:55Because she's marrying a family, you're marrying just a woman.
01:27:00You're off at work and hunting and she's got to deal with all this shit.
01:27:03And as the woman, she's going to be taking care of the elderly.
01:27:19So she's going to ask you these two questions. And you're going to be like, well, yes, of course,
01:27:24I'm going to take care of my parents. And yes, of course, they're going to be heavily involved
01:27:28in the raising of our children. And then she's going to say, sorry, I'm afraid they're not.
01:27:35Yeah, I'm afraid they're not. And you'd be like, well, you can't make that decision for me.
01:27:38And she's going to say, I'm afraid that I can. And I say this with great sorrow because you're
01:27:41a pretty great guy, but I'm not spending the next 30 or 40 years around your parents.
01:27:49And I'm not spending the next 30, 40 years around you and your parents because they erase you.
01:27:54And it's too painful for me to see. And you're asking me to break bread and say that I like
01:27:58people who did you the most harm of all, who won't even listen to you talk about that harm,
01:28:02who refuse to apologize, make restitution amendments, anything.
01:28:17I can't do it. I can't put my kids through that. So yeah, I mean,
01:28:21maybe your parents will help you raise some other woman's kids, but sorry, it's not going to be me.
01:28:27They're not going to be me. Won't do it. Appreciate it.
01:28:43So that's why men take themselves out of the dating market, because they don't want,
01:28:49they know that they can't get a quality woman if they're around their own dysfunctional parents.
01:28:57Would you, I know I'm a little bit of a internet dad to some people, big daddy,
01:29:04big daddy. Would you like one of the biggest and most unknown, would you like one of the most,
01:29:11one of the biggest and most unknown realities of masculinity that nobody talks about?
01:29:20Hit me with a why, and I don't think you've heard this before,
01:29:26but if you want to be successful with women and you want to be happily married,
01:29:30there is one rule you absolutely must follow that nobody talks about. I've told you,
01:29:34it's going to be a great show tonight. It's going to be fire. And ladies, you tell me if I'm wrong.
01:29:40Ladies, you tell me if I'm wrong, and I will eat my watch. I may not be able to digest it,
01:29:49but I'll eat it. All right. Now, gentlemen, there are some severe advantages to being male.
01:29:59I love being a man. I love being male. I love the strength. I love the size. I love the height.
01:30:05I love not having a period. I love the fact that there's no such thing as menopause.
01:30:13I don't love the anxiety that comes with asking out girls when I was younger. I don't like the
01:30:17fact that sometimes you got to be the primary breadwinner. There's a lot of things I don't
01:30:20like about it, but I like the fact that I don't have to squeeze a watermelon out of my ass
01:30:25to give birth. So, that seems nice. So, there are lots of pluses.
01:30:31So, that seems nice. So, there are lots of pluses about being a man. But,
01:30:41there is one absolute ironclad rule for a successful relationship with a woman.
01:30:47You're not going to like it, but the ladies will agree with me.
01:30:52To have a successful relationship with a woman, you cannot, repeat after me, my friends,
01:30:57you can fucking not be in positions of enslavement, falsehood, and subjugation. You
01:31:04cannot do that. You cannot let your woman see you in situations of subjugation, ever.
01:31:16It's just not a thing. It's not allowed. You can't do it. You can't do it. Whatever maneuvers you
01:31:21have to make, you cannot be in a situation of subjugation, certainly not one that is voluntary.
01:31:28Now, okay, so, I don't know, some cop pulls you over. Yes, you're nice to the cop. You
01:31:32listen to the cop, whatever it is. That's not the issue. That's not the issue. But,
01:31:39you cannot be walking into voluntarily subjugating yourself to others, particularly a woman.
01:31:45You cannot be in a subjugated position.
01:31:59Now, a subjugated, let me be precise about this, a subjugated position is not where you lose a
01:32:04fight, because conflict and combat is inevitable for men. We fight. We fight verbally, economically,
01:32:22sometimes physically. We fight, and everybody knows, everybody knows that the only fights
01:32:29you constantly win are the ones where the stakes are way too low. So, a woman will not respect you
01:32:37if you don't lose, because if you don't lose from time to time, it means you're not trying hard
01:32:41enough or the stakes are too low. Hey, look, I beat my six-year-old cousin in squash again,
01:32:47and hey, I won. She's not going to respect you unless you're going up against worthy opponents,
01:32:52which means from time to time, you're going to get your ass kicked. That's not what I'm
01:32:55talking about with regards to subjugation. You go to work, and you have an idea that you think
01:33:08is great, and your boss vetoes it after you debate him. You say to your boss, I think we
01:33:12should do this, and here's why, and he's like, no, I'm not going to do it. I'm overriding you.
01:33:15That is not being subjugated. Your woman will not look down upon you for trying
01:33:24to get something going at work and it failing, it not working. She will not lose respect for you
01:33:31for going up against your boss or a co-worker and losing.
01:33:38Right? So, if you never put yourself in a situation where you can lose and do lose,
01:33:46your woman will not respect you, because you're obviously shying away from fights
01:33:52where there's an equal or a potential equal. Okay, hit me with a why if what I'm saying makes sense,
01:33:58because the final thing is to come. Hit me with a why if what I'm saying makes sense, please.
01:34:07I would like to know.
01:34:12Does it make sense? Does it make sense? Does it make sense? Yes. Okay.
01:34:21Your wife will not lose respect for you. Your girlfriend will not lose respect for you
01:34:27if you go to your boss, try to get your way, and your boss overrides you. She will not lose
01:34:32respect for you. She will lose respect for you if you're too terrified of your boss to
01:34:38open your mouth in the first place. Do you follow?
01:34:41She will not mind. In fact, she'll probably quite like it, and might, in fact, be quite turned on
01:34:46if you come out of that allegorical boxing ring bloodied and beaten.
01:34:56This is why, in the movie Rocky, it doesn't matter in the first one, in fact, it's kind of sexy,
01:35:01that Rocky gets to go to his boss. It doesn't matter in the second one.
01:35:05In the movie Rocky, it doesn't matter in the first one, in fact, it's kind of sexy,
01:35:09that Rocky gets his ass handed to him and loses.
01:35:17It doesn't matter if you lose,
01:35:22but it matters if you're terrified to fight.
01:35:29If you throw the spear and miss, she can live with that,
01:35:33because you took a chance. However, if you're too chicken to even pick up the spear,
01:35:38then you have a big problem. This is true, right? I'm not saying anything false. Get out there,
01:35:45fight, win, lose, do something. You understand, biologically, women cannot lose respect for men
01:35:54who fail in an honest fight, because that's natural. That's going to happen. It means the
01:35:59man is operating at a level that is fair and competitive. If you're winning all the time,
01:36:06it means you're being a bully, and if you're losing all the time, it means you're not able
01:36:09to judge risk accurately. So, sometimes you win, sometimes you lose. That's totally fine for women.
01:36:17Doesn't matter. If you lose, it matters if you don't fight at all.
01:36:23Yes, you're right. You're right, Denny sir. You like being there doing the lows. Yes,
01:36:27if your boss, if your man goes out there and tries to get something and loses, and it's really tough,
01:36:33and he, you know, but he went out and tried, and you can help build him back up, and you can figure
01:36:36out what went wrong, there's nothing wrong with that, she will respect the hell out of you,
01:36:42even and particularly if you get your ass handed to you on a plate,
01:36:46because you're in the ring, sometimes you win, sometimes you lose.
01:36:49Yeah, we like being there during the lows, but not when you were the low, right? That's
01:36:52how it works, right? So, why am I talking about parents?
01:37:09Why am I talking about dysfunctional parents, and you cannot be weak?
01:37:14Why am I talking about dysfunctional parents, and you cannot be weak in front of dysfunctional
01:37:20parents in any place where your woman can see you?
01:37:30Distancing yourself from conflict is the problem. Yeah, honey, hi honey, I just came home from
01:37:35beating five-year-olds in basketball. That's a lady boner killer if ever there was one, right?
01:37:40That's going to turn her as dry as the air above the Sahara.
01:37:55All make sense? Are you with me so far? Are you with me so far?
01:38:03So, you go to your parents' place with your girlfriend,
01:38:06and your parents are kind of dismissive and mean, and they talk about nothing, and they
01:38:11she'll sense if you're too frightened to speak about anything honest with them.
01:38:27Because you self-erase, you vanish, you cow down, you bow, you abandon yourself,
01:38:35you ghost yourself, you become nothing around your parents.
01:38:41And she sees you subjugated, occupied, colonized, enslaved.
01:38:52I'm the black sheep because I constantly fight against my dysfunctional family,
01:38:55and if there's a girl that's on my team, stop fighting!
01:38:57Stop fighting! A constant fight is an inevitable loss. Yeah, why would you fight? That's sad.
01:39:11Oh, about this. You were doing shows on COVID in December 2019. It wasn't really a big thing
01:39:15until February 2020. You were talking about it months before most other people. Yes.
01:39:19Yes, yes, yes. I won't put up with their shit anymore. Okay, so stop fighting them.
01:39:23Yeah, because if your girlfriend sees you go into fights and constantly lose, and you can't
01:39:33win against dysfunctional people because they don't obey rules, and you probably have a conscience,
01:39:41it says to us that we can't trust you in the world because if someone were to do this
01:39:44to the chosen family, you'll be weak there too. Yes. So if your girlfriend sees you being bossed
01:39:50around and subjugated by your abusive parents or neglectful parents or dysfunctional parents,
01:39:55then she's going to know that there is a path by which other people can control the living
01:40:00shit out of you, which means that there's an avenue by which you can be taken from her
01:40:07and will not protect her and the children, and that is a terrible, terrible place for a woman
01:40:14to be. Do you know how much trust a woman has to have in you in order to let you make her big with
01:40:19child and slip on past the goalie? If you are too frightened to be honest with your parents,
01:40:32see, remember, you've probably talked about your parents with your girlfriend. You said,
01:40:35oh, these bad things and those bad things, and this was problem, that problem, and so on, right?
01:40:39If you're honest, and if you're not honest, I don't even know what you're doing in the relationship.
01:40:43So then she finally sees all these ogres, oh my gosh, here are your parents, here's your mother,
01:40:48here's your father, I don't know why we're here, but let's see what happens, and then she sees you
01:40:51like, oh yeah, no, you're right, oh yes, dad, oh yes, mommy, oh no, that's fine, oh yes, can I get
01:40:56you anything else, can I get you some cream for your coffee? Oh, and she's, yeah, gross, gross.
01:41:08And she'll be like, okay, well, maybe they'll go old and die, but anyone like them
01:41:11is going to disassemble the soul of the man who's supposed to protect me,
01:41:17right? Right.
01:41:30It's the biggest evict, yeah, it is. You cannot let your female ever see you voluntarily subjugated.
01:41:46It's just, and this is not saying don't be vulnerable, you can be vulnerable, you can say,
01:41:55man, I've got this problem with my parents, and it was tough when I was, I'm not saying don't
01:41:59be emotional, I'm not saying don't be vulnerable. She's trusting you with absolutely everything,
01:42:08more so than a man trusting a woman with his life savings and assets because he could work
01:42:11to make them back, yeah. There are literally zero men who are not cowards.
01:42:23That's totally bitchy, right, you know that, and it's not true, and it's not true.
01:42:28My partner had never questioned his parents before talking to me. He listened to what I saw in them
01:42:33and confronted them the next day. They have zero pull over his choices now, put a ring on it so
01:42:37fast. Yeah, of course, clean house, clean house, clean house, clean house, clean house.
01:42:52That's just the price. It is just the price for being a man that you absolutely cannot let your
01:42:58wife or girlfriend or children see you enslaved, subjugated, owned, broken,
01:43:07pushed around, bullied. Nope, it won't work. So if you have dysfunctional parents in your life,
01:43:16you won't confront them, then you can't get a quality woman. All you could do is get a woman
01:43:21who doesn't mind the fact that you're pushed around by your mother because she's eager to
01:43:25take your mom's place and push you around some more. You can't bend the knee, you cannot bend
01:43:29the knee. So you know you've come full circle, right? We've come full circle. How have we come
01:43:40full circle from the beginning of the show? I told you I was going to be a banger, baby,
01:43:44and I'm going to just save the finale for now because this is some big shit.
01:43:51Remember, I was talking about the costs of telling the truth,
01:43:55which is myself, my conscience, my friends, my family
01:44:01would all have watched me bend the knee when I didn't absolutely have to.
01:44:14So what did I keep? Self-respect, a good conscience, the love of friends and family,
01:44:21the respect of my child. So that's how I overcame my self-pity at the shrunken audience
01:44:34and the tiny reach compared to before. Oh no, I've given up a plethora of anonymous eyeballs
01:44:46and a chunko-chunko income, but the consolation prize is the love of my family, self-respect,
01:44:55the love of my friends, happiness, contentment with my choices, a good conscience. BAM!
01:45:08All you have to do is ask the right questions and the answers are obvious.
01:45:14Would I give up the love of my wife, the respect of my friends and child,
01:45:19and self-respect and a good conscience for money and reach?
01:45:28Would I be willing to alienate those close to me in order to please those I will never meet?
01:45:32And that's how you overcome the self-pity as you realize the stakes that are there
01:45:46and you realize that the costs are far greater than the benefits.
01:45:52And it's easy. And that's why I had renewed energy for the show tonight,
01:45:58which I think you can see. Does that make sense?
01:46:04Didn't I tie that together two in a bow beautifully?
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01:46:54Oh, I'm sorry. You were going through an ectopic pregnancy. Those are rough,
01:46:57and they can be dangerous. I'm glad you're all right. And I'm sure it will happen next time.
01:47:02Next time.
01:47:06All right. Any other last comments, questions, challenges, issues, criticisms?
01:47:11Problems.
01:47:19All right.
01:47:26Ah, lots of comments, lots of comments. Are we catching up?
01:47:32All right. Well, thank you, everyone, so much for a lovely evening of
01:47:36rampant honesty and directness. I really appreciate your feedback and your support
01:47:41of the show, freedom.com slash donate. No disrespect, Steph was wondering if you ever
01:47:45thought of an end date for the stream, or are you going till the wheels fall off? The end date is
01:47:49now for the stream. I can feel myself drying up, drying up much like the squishy bits of your
01:47:57girlfriend when she sees you being subjugated voluntarily. So yes, we're drying up. Thank you,
01:48:03everyone. Have yourselves a gorgeous, beautiful evening. Thank you for joining me tonight. I will
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