RHOC's Jennifer Pedranti Talks Adjustments to Living With Ryan, Is Still Struggling to Coparent With Ex
RHOC's Jennifer Pedranti Talks Adjustments to Living With Ryan, Is Still
Struggling to Coparent With Ex
Struggling to Coparent With Ex
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00:00So, was your ex supposed to be paying those monthly payments and you were just unaware of what was going on?
00:06Yeah, so he paid our rent, he paid everything.
00:09We had talked like, okay, the job, if I get the job, I was going to contribute.
00:15And the job was Bravo, but we hadn't had contracts yet.
00:18So, I was like, of course, if I do that, then I will totally help with rent or expenses or whatever we had talked about.
00:27And so, at that time, our arrangement was truly I had a debit card.
00:31And it's like, if I need gas, I text him, can you move money?
00:34I need groceries, can you move money?
00:36And so, I don't know if people understand.
00:38It was not a situation where I was sitting on all this money and just being like, I'm going to go get my hair done.
00:43It was not like that.
00:44You assumed the funds were there.
00:45Yes.
00:46And then you were like, oh my God, what am I going to do with myself and all these kids?
00:50And the owner of the home was like, it was right around Christmas.
00:54Sure.
00:55And so, we were having a conversation.
00:56And she said, look, get through Christmas.
00:58I know you and the kids.
00:59And I said, thank you so much for that.
01:01And then it was right around New Year's that we were all, my dad, Ryan, what are we going to do?
01:07How much has not been paid?
01:09And then rent was due on the 5th.
01:12And I was sitting there going, this is what we owe.
01:14And I owe another $12,000.
01:16And I asked the owner, I said, what if I get these kids and I out before the 5th?
01:19And she's like, okay, don't worry about it.
01:21And I moved in four days.
01:22Sure.
01:23And we went to Ryan's.
01:24And how was that then?
01:25Still there?
01:26It was an adjustment.
01:27We're still there.
01:28And it's amazing now.
01:29It was an adjustment period.
01:30For Ryan, for me, even though we were almost four years in, we're blending a big family
01:34and animals and all the things.
01:36And so, Ryan is very structured.
01:38And I learned I was very, like, I did everything for the kids.
01:42And so, Ryan's made me a little more structured.
01:44I've made Ryan a little more loose.
01:46And we are totally settling in now.
01:48But I would be lying if I said there wasn't a time period.
01:50We all needed to, like, settle into what we felt in the beginning was Ryan's home.
01:54But now we feel like we're all home.
01:56Did it ever put a strain on the relationship at all?
01:58Yeah.
01:59He had to have some mom talks with me.
02:01And that, like, it's like, you're not going to talk to him as a mom.
02:04You're not going to talk to me as a mom.
02:06And then when I let it sink in, like, you know, why are the kids not helping with the trash?
02:10Why am I picking up everyone's laundry?
02:12There's so many people in this house.
02:14Little things where I'm like, you know what?
02:16You just made my life so much easier.
02:17So much easier.
02:19Good.
02:20And things are settled with your ex now, right?
02:22Now.
02:23Divorce was final on the 11th.
02:24Okay.
02:25And I just keep saying I hope now we move forward.
02:28Sure.
02:29Are you happy with how everything turned out?
02:32I'm happy that that tie is now not between us.
02:37And, you know, it kept Ryan and I tied to it.
02:39It kept Will and I tied to one another.
02:42And I know he's so happy.
02:44And I know he and his girlfriend, wife, I know they want to move forward.
02:48They want to do the same.
02:49And so, peace, right?
02:51Peace.
02:52Yeah.
02:53I'm just ready for peace.
02:54Co-parenting peace, too?
02:55I need co-parenting peace.
02:56We are not.
02:57You're not there.
02:58Yeah.
02:59But they say, I feel like every time, you know, you talk to people and they say that
03:02it's bad, you know, time heals everything.
03:04And hopefully.
03:05I hear that, too.
03:06Yeah.
03:07And I so hope that.
03:08It's weird.
03:09I know this is an odd statement to make.
03:10It's like he still feels like family to me.
03:12Sure, yeah.
03:13And my family was Will's family.
03:15And my family still loves him, too.
03:17And we would embrace.
03:18I mean, his girlfriend was a friend of mine.
03:21I've known her for so long.
03:22So it's like, come on.
03:23Let's like.
03:24Get on the same page.
03:25Get on the same page.