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00:00Let's put this in practicality.
00:02I asked Deesha out, she said yes, yay.
00:04She's meeting me for the first date.
00:05Okay, so how do I start a date?
00:08Good to see you.
00:12If you wouldn't mind.
00:16Nope, that sucks.
00:19Okay.
00:20So if she's made the effort to come and see you again,
00:22let's start it with a nice physical vibe.
00:24Doesn't mean latching yourself onto her,
00:26but it's like, hey, really great to see you.
00:31You look gorgeous.
00:33Shall we?
00:35And then maybe I'll let go and we're at the,
00:37you know, I'll lead her a little bit,
00:38and then we get to the stoplight and I let go,
00:40and that's the touch, okay?
00:42It's not gropey, it's not pushy,
00:43but it shows her that yes,
00:45this is gonna, there's gonna be physicality.
00:47Okay, so today's class is our final class with the ladies.
00:58Sorry, everyone's gonna be sad at the end,
01:00but that's how it is.
01:01We're gonna be looking at touch.
01:02Now, we're not doing anything fancy, nothing kinky,
01:05nothing too sexy.
01:06We're just going to be looking at the qualities
01:08of normal natural touch that would happen
01:10in an interaction or on a date,
01:12you know, pre-kiss or basically that.
01:15So before we look at ways to touch a woman,
01:18what would you say would be some of the,
01:20sorry, what would you say some of the qualities
01:24of bad touch would be?
01:25Like say I wanted to put my hands, stand over here, please.
01:28I wanted to put my hand on her shoulder.
01:30What would be bad ways to do that?
01:35Frantic.
01:38Right, okay, so anything where it's,
01:40where I'm trembling and I'm uncertain.
01:43Yes.
01:47Like that, yep.
01:49What else?
01:50Anything too forceful.
01:51Right, sorry about this.
01:53Mate.
01:55Yeah, you know, and I see this,
01:57like guys are doing it accidentally.
01:59But you know, I'm trying to put,
02:00I think you did it the other day and like to do,
02:05to do this touch here, right?
02:07It was a bit like that, you know, plonk down, okay?
02:12If you're going to do that type of touch,
02:13never touch a woman because it's having
02:16the opposite effect that you want, all right?
02:18So anything where, you know, I plonk it on
02:20or there's rigidity in my hand, right?
02:22Like so there's tension in my hand.
02:24This feels like some strange claw, right?
02:26Or I like, you know, grab her like this or something.
02:29Like this, I can feel for her that that feels terrible.
02:33All right, what else?
02:36So too forceful, too tentative.
02:39Too sudden or unexpected.
02:42Too sudden and unexpected, yes.
02:45Okay, so.
02:48Yes, too sudden.
02:54And then what, wiping on her face?
02:56All right, don't ever do that move, yeah.
02:59Like, like, you know, I'm not going to kiss you,
03:04but if I was going in for a kiss, right?
03:06This is not good, right?
03:09The ninja kiss.
03:10No, it's that, you know, as I get,
03:12generally as you get closer to the woman, you slow it down.
03:14It's deliberate and slow, right?
03:16So you saw that, yes, the other day
03:18when we did the five-step drill,
03:20where we step in here, right?
03:22Now, if I come in like this,
03:23that's going to freak her out even if she liked me, right?
03:26But as I come in close, now I'm in,
03:28now I'm about to be too close,
03:30and so I break eye contact,
03:31create the psychological pressure and,
03:34or intimate pressure there,
03:36and then I slow everything down.
03:37So I'm coming in to speak to her in the bar,
03:39so we're talking and I can't hear her.
03:41I said, and I just come in like this, right?
03:46Now, did you notice the primary touch
03:48and the incidental touch?
03:50Okay, someone describe that.
03:54So if this was me mate, right?
03:56And I went, hey, mate, fucking football's great, huh?
03:59Would I do that bit as well?
04:02I might, but he'd be confused.
04:03So for any standard social touch,
04:12which you could do on a friend or your mother or something,
04:16there'll be a sexy incidental touch that you can add to it,
04:18which makes it better, right?
04:21So, you know, if we were just mates
04:23and I just went, all right, let's go over here.
04:25Yeah, that's a friendly touch, right?
04:28Whereas this with the blend here,
04:32that extra touch there, here,
04:36this one I've got your toes, I meant to do that.
04:41Right, so if I want to take a woman by the hands,
04:43don't do this, do this.
04:48All right, because how does that feel
04:51on the inside of your arm?
04:52It feels very nice.
04:54Women's skin is like multiples time
04:57more sensitive than ours.
04:59And where are the most sensitive parts of the body?
05:04It's always on the interior.
05:07Yeah, makes sense, right?
05:09These are the soft, delicate parts of the body.
05:11These are the external parts, right?
05:13So inside of the wrists, inside of the bicep,
05:17inside of the thighs, behind the knees, along the neck,
05:21right, those are all erogenous or super sensitive zones.
05:25And so we can, you know, even in a,
05:27I'm just looking at her ring, for example,
05:30and I get this extra touch.
05:31Now, of course, that could be, you know, very sleazy
05:33if I made a big deal out of it, right?
05:36But if it's just that I allow my hand to blend into hers,
05:39then she gets this lovely touch
05:41and me, you know, just supporting her hand
05:44as opposed to, you know, looking at the ring.
05:49Anyone, was there anything else anyone said?
05:51Things?
05:55Yeah, like if I'm really uncertain,
05:57like I wanna take a hand and I go like that,
06:01it's not very masculine or leading, right?
06:03Yeah, or, you know, I half do it where I like hover, right?
06:08So I'm like, I'm uncertain about
06:11whether I turn again so the others can see, right?
06:13I'm uncertain, so I'm sort of hovering there.
06:16Feels creepy and weird, yeah.
06:22Oh, yeah, they're just like hot.
06:26I'm halfway there.
06:28Oh, that's so cringe.
06:30Don't do that.
06:31Okay, so now if we look at what makes elements of quality,
06:34the quality of touch and what makes it good.
06:36So we, because in a moment,
06:38you're gonna be doing some very simple touching
06:39with the ladies.
06:41You're just gonna be turning them around,
06:42leading them basically, right?
06:44It may not look fancy or particularly important,
06:47but as I was saying to some people or everyone this morning,
06:51like a man that does that and says,
06:53hey, come over here and then let's go,
06:55like I've already communicated volumes to her
06:58that I know how to touch a woman,
07:00that I know how to make her feel good, right?
07:02And we were talking about that in terms of escalation, right?
07:04We're not escalating to get points.
07:06We're escalating the level of physical touch
07:09because it feels good for her.
07:12That's the only reason that she's gonna want more of it.
07:14Really, right?
07:15Like, otherwise, yeah, she's not going,
07:17oh, he touched me on the arm.
07:18That means next time he can do the elbow.
07:19Next time he can do the shoulders.
07:21It's like, no, oh, wow, that felt nice.
07:22Yes, I want him to touch me more.
07:25That's the idea, right?
07:26And we're starting the physical discussion
07:30below the verbal discussion,
07:33which is, you know, the primal one.
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08:30Okay, so if we look at just the quality of touch,
08:33when I place my hands on her shoulders, for example,
08:35I just let the shape of my hand fit hers, right?
08:38So I think of it like my hand is made of melting wax
08:41or something like that, right?
08:42So the contours of her body
08:44determine what shape my hand makes.
08:46Because anything like this, right,
08:48where I'm holding some tension here,
08:49now all she feels is weird fingertips, right?
08:53It's not pleasant, right?
08:55Whereas that is now fitting the shape of her body.
08:58Same thing if we're running the hand down her back,
09:01it just fits the shape.
09:03So my hand is kind of, it's not like limp, but it's loose.
09:07There's a nimbleness or movement in my fingers,
09:10so I'm not holding a rigid hand and then just scraping down.
09:13It follows the shape of her body.
09:17Same thing if I'm reaching around,
09:19I have my hand on her hips, right?
09:20This is a nice way to walk along with somebody.
09:25Okay, so it comes in and it fits around
09:27as opposed to just kind of finding the spot
09:31and then gripping into it.
09:33Yes, definitely.
09:35Flows in and then, you know, from there when we're walking.
09:41See these kinds of like loose and simple touches
09:44that leads into, whoops,
09:46into like pleasant intimate moments with her, right?
09:50It's not a big deal.
09:52Like let's put this in practicality.
09:54I asked Disha out, she said, yes, yay.
09:56She's meeting me for the first date.
09:58Okay, so how do I start a date?
10:01Good to see you.
10:03So, yeah.
10:05If you wouldn't mind.
10:09Nope, that sucks.
10:11Okay.
10:13So if she's made the effort to come and see you again,
10:15let's start it with a nice physical vibe.
10:17Doesn't mean latching yourself onto her,
10:19but it's like, hey, really great to see you.
10:25You look gorgeous.
10:26Shall we?
10:28And then maybe I'll let go and we're at the,
10:30you know, I'll lead her a little bit
10:31and then we get to the stoplight and I let go
10:33and that's the touch, okay?
10:34It's not gropey, it's not pushy,
10:36but it shows her that yes,
10:38this is gonna, there's gonna be physicality.
10:39Now, of course, she might be weirded out
10:42and resist that, right?
10:42So let's say I go to take your hands and you,
10:44so I've kissed you and then you kind of resist,
10:46pull your hands away.
10:49A bit more, less, even worse.
10:51All right, so, wow, you look awesome.
10:54Shall we?
10:55And then, okay, so I registered
10:56that she pulled away a little bit,
10:58not in a like get away from you freak,
11:00just like, eh, I didn't want that touch right now.
11:03Okay, I can adjust, yeah?
11:05If I have rigidity in my own body,
11:07then I won't be able to read this, right?
11:09So resist when I try to pull you.
11:12Shall we?
11:16Okay, I can feel it, right?
11:17Whereas if I have tension in my arm
11:19and I'm trying to pull her, resist.
11:23I didn't feel that she was resisting.
11:25I literally can't register it.
11:27All right, so you just let your hands
11:28melt onto her shoulders.
11:31And to start with, what you see is
11:34as I start to pivot my hips, it takes her center, right?
11:37Because what I don't really want you to be doing
11:38is using your arms as levers,
11:40because again, you won't be able
11:41to really feel what's happening, right?
11:43Any partner dancing, which is led by the male,
11:45has this thing where your core
11:48is the thing that everything moves off, right?
11:51So we're working with that same kind of feel.
11:53So just get this rock going for a while
11:55and ladies just kind of relax
11:57and let them take the lead on it.
11:59And then at some point, I want you to do this and say, turn.
12:04Okay, so what you'll notice with this turn,
12:07just look at the quality of touch on my hands.
12:10Turn.
12:12Okay, what do you see?
12:15You're already in contact at some point.
12:18Yeah, it's like I'm an octopus or something.
12:21Yeah, it's like she just feeds through
12:24and so there's a touch, sorry,
12:25touch across the collarbone
12:26or there's this touch across the back,
12:28which easily goes into the hand, for example.
12:31Yeah, where is this relevant?
12:33Anyone?
12:34Like what would be a practical value of it?
12:38When do you need to turn a woman around?
12:40Look at that, it's an eclipse.
12:41Let's go.
12:43Actually, let's go this way.
12:45Yeah, or later on, we're in the bedroom
12:48and I spin her around and pull her in
12:49and do something nasty, right?
12:52I'm not spinning girls all the time,
12:53but you will need to be able to turn them.
12:54Again, I can either grab straight at the hand
12:56or grab at the wrist,
12:57or I can dive in here,
12:59get that sensation down through the wrist
13:03and then lead weight there.
13:06Okay.
13:09Shifting into it and then adding turns.
13:13Now then you can,
13:14if you're walking along with a lady,
13:16having your arm around her shoulder,
13:18don't drop the entire weight of your arm on her.
13:21All right?
13:22I mean, my arm's not that huge,
13:24some of you are massive.
13:25So there's a little bit of weight
13:27just to guide her from there.
13:30Yeah.
13:33Same on the hips here, wrapping in,
13:35lock her into you as you're walking
13:37because this doesn't work very well, right?
13:40Whereas being locked in at the hips here does,
13:45and then you can add these, turn around.
13:48Come here.
13:49Okay.
13:53I wanna, if I wanted to, for example,
13:59we're going this way and I wanna go that way.
14:01Two choices.
14:02I can do this, sorry.
14:07All right?
14:07Which is where I'm like plowing her in a big arc
14:10or I can do this.
14:12Actually, let's go over here.
14:14So what was the difference?
14:16You used your free hand.
14:18What I did is I made her the pivot point.
14:22Right?
14:22So what I did is I went here and I stopped her
14:25and then I turned her 90 degrees and I adjusted.
14:29Right?
14:30Which is the gentleman's way to do it.
14:32Right?
14:32So in action, that looks like here.
14:36Actually, let's avoid those men.
14:38I don't like the looks of the end.
14:39Actually, fuck it, let's go that way.
14:42Yeah.
14:43You're seeing this quality here.
14:45It's like kind of octopus hands.
14:47What does that feel like compared to,
14:49so that way that I'm turning you around?
14:51So just be aware of this.
14:56Well, you gotta read my signals, woman.
15:09Okay.
15:10As opposed to I'll do the same movement,
15:11as opposed to I'll do the same movements,
15:13but it has a different quality to it.
15:24Not as good.
15:27How does that feel differently?
15:29All right.
15:30It's breaking.
15:33Like, the difference would be absolutely
15:35the difference between a hell yes and an absolute no.
15:39Or let's say a probably yes and an absolute no.
15:43So this stuff, even though it's subtle things,
15:45these are the kinds of touches
15:46you're most likely to be doing on a day.
15:49All right?
15:49Now, both of you hop up for a second.
15:51We've got some room.
15:54Get out.
15:55You can stay.
15:56You can stay.
15:57All right.
15:58So seated.
15:59All right.
16:07All right.
16:08So,
16:10actually I might as well just,
16:11so if I'm getting a girl to stand up,
16:13here's what I don't do.
16:17Not a sexy moment.
16:19Right?
16:20I do this.
16:20Come with me.
16:22Yeah.
16:24Or if I wanted her to sit down,
16:26I'll do this.
16:27Get down.
16:30So, again, I'm just walking back.
16:33And what I did there to place her down
16:35is I didn't shove her down.
16:36I, like, placed.
16:39All right?
16:40There is rougher versions of that,
16:41but that's a nice one.
16:42Or if I'm leading her over to the couch, let's say.
16:45Okay, we came in.
16:46We got a drink in here.
16:47And then I said,
16:49oh, come take a seat.
16:54See that there?
16:56Yeah, very natural and easy.
16:57The other thing I wanna show you
16:59how to do is how to hug a woman or anyone properly.
17:01All right, here's some bad ways to hug someone.
17:06Ass out and whatever that is.
17:09Pressing her into you.
17:11Not good.
17:12Yep.
17:13Tent, you know, tentative ones
17:14where you sort of spring out of it.
17:16I see that a lot with guys,
17:17like she's an explosive.
17:20Yep.
17:21I've never seen this.
17:22Oh, I've seen it.
17:23Oh my God.
17:24I've seen it.
17:25Anything where I'm really,
17:26you put your arms around me,
17:28where I'm really rigid anywhere.
17:29Like I'm holding tension in my hands or something.
17:31She'll just feel hard bits squashed in.
17:33It's not nice.
17:34Okay.
17:35So a good embrace.
17:36Firstly, I will offer the hug,
17:37not go in for the hug, right?
17:39Cause if I come into a woman's space like that,
17:40it's doesn't, even if she knows me well,
17:43it's not really the best way.
17:45I offer the hug and she comes to me.
17:48All right.
17:48Come here.
17:50So she comes in, fits in,
17:51then I wrap around her.
17:54Now, a couple of things to note here.
17:56If I stand upright, completely upright,
17:58my chest will push into hers
18:00and it's not actually comfortable.
18:01So what I do is I empty my chest.
18:03So it's just the difference between this and this.
18:06All right.
18:07So your sternum basically collapses a little bit,
18:09which means she can fit in.
18:10Relax.
18:11Okay.
18:12So I wrapped on
18:15and then I wrap off,
18:17which means again,
18:18that we get all that extra touch, right?
18:19Instead of just the hug starts now,
18:22instead, arms please.
18:25Hug starts here, wraps around, completes.
18:27And so she gets that nice constriction
18:29and she gets to fit into me
18:31because I've got that bow in my chest.
18:34And then when I release, don't explode out of it.
18:38Let it melt off,
18:40take my hands,
18:42relax.
18:44Cool.
18:45So then you can start to put it all together.
18:46So we can start with our turnaround.
18:50Let's go.
18:55Hug.
19:06Take a seat and stand up again.
19:17Okay.
19:17So it should look something like some kind of dancing,
19:20right?
19:21I'm not a trained dancer,
19:22but this feels to her,
19:23like she's,
19:24that she's dancing with me
19:25and that's feels nice
19:26as we're going on our little adventure.
19:28Yes?
19:29Yes.
19:30One thing I should show you,
19:31this is like basically a tango step.
19:34So let's say, you know,
19:35I want to get her onto the bed,
19:37which is this, all right?
19:39Now this is later in the day, obviously.
19:41All right.
19:41So we're together and we like each other now
19:43and I'm taking her somewhere.
19:44So if I want to walk her back this way,
19:46if I walk forward,
19:47I'll just step on her feet, right?
19:48So I do it,
19:49look at my feet.
19:53Okay.
19:58Okay.
19:59So what I did there was this,
20:02it's literally a tango step.
20:03So it's sliding body weight diagonally.
20:08Yeah, but don't take big steps.
20:10It's gonna be,
20:11cause otherwise she'll trip over.
20:12So watch the length of step that it is.
20:16All right.
20:17So, and to start with,
20:18I'll go side to side to make sure she's with me.
20:20Right now when I've got,
20:21it's the empty leg.
20:22So my weight's now on my left.
20:24So it'll be the right, right?
20:27So there's small steps, right?
20:28But I can,
20:29and I'm not gonna do this over 10 meters, right?
20:32But over a meter or two before I,
20:34you know, put it down, for example.
20:36It's good.
20:38Cool.
20:39And then we can do it from behind as well.
20:40So same thing.
20:42I'm holding her by the hips
20:43or maybe, you know,
20:44I might have her around here or whatever,
20:46but then it's this.
20:50Get down.
20:52Cool.
20:59It's very cool in the right moment.
21:01Yes.
21:02So he's basically saying,
21:03can you lead her or by the neck?
21:05Absolutely you can.
21:06Now,
21:08I would certainly do that with a partner that I know.
21:10Like, that's not a thing I'm doing on a first date
21:12probably is gripping around the neck to lead it.
21:14I mean, I might,
21:15but I'd have to really know the vibe was correct for that.
21:18But yes, like we've been making out
21:22and then, okay,
21:23so we've been here
21:24and then she's showing submissive signs by letting go here.
21:28You know, I've come up here,
21:29maybe I've done some caressing to almost
21:31to precursor to choking, right?
21:34If I'm, I mean, that's a whole other thing,
21:35but if I'm ever choking a woman,
21:37I don't immediately go on.
21:38I put it here and then you lift your chin, right?
21:41Which is a signal that she likes that, right?
21:43So then I might put a choke on, right?
21:44But then if I might be like,
21:45let's go young lady.
21:48Right?
21:49So what I'm doing here is I'm holding her.
21:52Look at you.
21:57Is I'm holding her by the neck muscles.
21:59Now I'm not digging my fingertips in, right?
22:02I'm holding firmly and I'll show you,
22:03I'll do it to each of you.
22:05It's like that.
22:06That's not even that hard.
22:07Yeah, so I can maneuver you
22:09like it's a dominance hold, right?
22:10But I'm not digging the fingertips in.
22:12All right, so same thing.
22:14I don't just, I mean, yes,
22:15I will sometimes if that's the vibe,
22:18but this snaking up here, gripping, come here.
22:23All right, that's sexy and dominant.
22:26And look, you know, with a partner,
22:27like it can be cool.
22:28And like someone's there
22:30and give her a neck massage as well, right?
22:32You can have, so yes, we can absolutely lead.
22:36And I can maneuver her from here using my forearm.
22:40So I'll turn it this way so you can see.
22:44Yeah, see that?
22:46So I just went, I used the inner forearm as the turn, right?
22:50So it works better with momentum, right?
22:54Yeah, or I can do this kind of thing,
22:57this kind of thing, right?
22:59So I spin her, draw her into me.
23:04Yeah, now there's certainly from the front as well.
23:08So there's a difference.
23:09This is not a choke.
23:10This is a neck hold, right?
23:11So I'm not choking here.
23:13I've got room.
23:14I'm grabbing the neck from the other side.
23:17Now, it depends on how big your hands are,
23:19how big your neck is,
23:20whether that'll work from this position.
23:22Right now, that's a hot move for get over here.
23:25Yeah, or get up against the wall, right?
23:28Or turn her in like this, like that.
23:32Okay, so here there's room enough
23:35that I'm holding her by muscles
23:36so there's no constriction of the airways at all.
23:40When you're seated on a date,
23:43where you're on a park bench or whatever,
23:45some kind of date like that.
23:46So what will be types of touch that'll work here?
23:52As I was saying, right now,
23:53but if I go like that, okay, that's not,
23:57that reminds me, right?
23:58This kind of like it just blended on, yeah?
24:02And look, I mean, if she doesn't like that,
24:04she'll go like that, yeah?
24:06Or she'll tense in some kind of way.
24:08But here, making a point and then it's gone, right?
24:13That's very different from me going like this, right?
24:16This is like a kind of a creepy move,
24:18whereas this is that little incidental touch
24:21as I'm making a point.
24:22And you know, I can even turn my wrist over
24:24as I'm explaining something and then it's gone again, right?
24:27That's a sexy touch.
24:29Like with a lot of these initial touches
24:32before you've slept with somebody,
24:35you want it to be like it was there
24:36and before she's really registered it too much,
24:38it's gone again, yeah?
24:40Because sure, if I went there and then I just,
24:42now I left my hand on her knee for a long time,
24:45now she's thinking about it.
24:46She might be thinking good things about it,
24:48but now she has to consciously decide
24:49and then go, people watching, should I, all that, right?
24:52As opposed to here for a moment and then it's gone again.
24:55Okay, she doesn't have to make a decision about it,
24:58but it felt nice.
25:00What else from here?
25:02Yeah, like this kind of touch.
25:04Now be aware of don't ever tap a woman or anybody
25:06unless you're in Italy, yeah?
25:09They always do that.
25:11And Portugal, they do that too.
25:12But yeah, the back of the fingertips
25:14for this little incidental touch here,
25:16as I make a point for sure,
25:18if I'm checking out her nails or her ring
25:21or something like that,
25:22then you see that the quality of the touch here,
25:25where it's not just picking up,
25:27where it's not just picking up like it's some object, right?
25:32Yeah, I've seen people do that, yeah?
25:35So let's imagine you have a ring.
25:36Oh, show me that ring.
25:38It's lovely, where'd you get it?
25:39All right, this kind of touch.
25:41And then, I mean, sometimes I'm cheeky and I'll do that.
25:45All right, and then see what she does.
25:46If she like immediately pulls it off
25:48or if she goes down there, then that's good.
25:51All right, oh, that's lovely.
25:54And then, you know, this is,
25:56and then, you know, this is, are we holding hands?
25:58Not really, we just both happen to have our hands on my leg.
26:02Yeah, and then don't be attached to that.
26:04I'm not like, oh, I better keep that for there for long.
26:06Yeah, she moves it off again, cool.
26:07This is the physical conversation
26:10underneath the verbal conversation.
26:11You're still touching me, you sleazy woman.
26:14Yeah, now from here, this doesn't, is not that great.
26:19Yeah, but even it's not good for a couple of seconds
26:28because it doesn't come off.
26:29Now, how do I get rid of it?
26:30Now, I have to be like, you know,
26:33and especially if I go like that and then she resists it,
26:36it's a long way back, a long, lonely journey back.
26:42Yeah, so yeah, I would stay away
26:43from trying to put the arm around the girl.
26:46Like sometimes what I do if I've, you know,
26:48I've gone home with a girl and then we're in my,
26:50that room and there's the couch
26:51and I sit down and she sits down there.
26:54How do I close this gap?
26:56Better that she closes the gap, right?
26:58So I sit down and she chooses to sit there.
27:01So I might open out like this.
27:03So we're in this kind of space.
27:05Then I have this touch here, this touch here.
27:09And then at some point I'll say, come here, come here.
27:13And then she'll either say yes.
27:14I mean, if she says yes, then yeah, there, right?
27:19So that can be quite a common thing.
27:23She does want to get physically close,
27:24but she's not gonna bridge the gap.
27:26And then you're in this frozen moment, right?
27:29You don't know what to do.
27:30So go back again.
27:34Come over here, right?
27:35So then she moves into my space, but she's,
27:38and then I'm not yet, not yet.
27:39So she's close, right there, this, come here.
27:44Now that's not a pull, it's just like a wipe, basically.
27:47Then she fits into me, right?
27:49That's the better way to do it, right?
27:51Cause it's from there to kiss is that,
27:56as opposed to,
28:01and that's a long way back, that one for sure.
28:04So don't scoot over.
28:06Rarely, like if I was to scoot over,
28:08you scoot over for a moment.
28:11Okay, so you sit down, she sit down, leave it for a bit.
28:16Yes, can I scoot over?
28:17Yes, but I can't do it like this.
28:22What was wrong with that?
28:25Why?
28:30I had to look, because it's like face first.
28:34Here I come from the eyeballs, right?
28:37As opposed to,
28:41blah, blah, blah, amazing story.
28:42Actually, it reminds me.
28:43So, right, so I kept out this open psychological space.
28:48So I'm way closer, but I'm not in her face, right?
28:52So, and I continue the thing and made the point,
28:55and then a bit later, I'm like, actually,
28:56you know, let me just move here, right?
28:58And then, and then from there, okay,
29:02I can reach around to like touch the neck, for example.
29:06And then I can say, come here, right?
29:11Make sense?
29:20You don't need to use anything.
29:21Cause if she, like, look, if she came home with you
29:24and she's comfortable and you sat down on the couch
29:26or in your bedroom.
29:31Yeah, many social things, if you said you're at a bar
29:33or, you know, on the couch or whatever,
29:35I don't need an excuse.
29:36Yeah, it's just this like open psychological space.
29:40Like here, I'm actually looking away from her.
29:42I mean, I don't have to,
29:44but then when I settle back in here,
29:46it doesn't feel too close.
29:47Or if it, you know, she doesn't want me that close,
29:49then she'll lean away and then I'll get that,
29:52and I'll get that sense.
29:53And then I'll just go back to where I was.
30:00That's my butt moonwalk.
30:03Or you can do this one.
30:05Stay there.
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