Empower Your Career, Control Your Emotions || Acharya Prashant (2022)

Acharya Prashant

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00:00Hello Acharya ji. My name is Kauri. I am doing M.Tech from MIT Central. So my question from

00:10you is how can I keep my career ahead of my emotions? Like I am a very emotional person.

00:17I get disturbed with little things. Whenever I am having argument with my loved ones, I

00:24just get disturbed and I kept on thinking about those things only and I can't study

00:30and it hampers my study a lot. So how can I keep my career ahead of my all these feelings?

00:47It's not that we have loved ones. We love to be disturbed. Would our loved ones mean

00:59anything to us if they don't disturb us and we don't disturb them? Think of this. If our

01:08loved ones stop disturbing us, probably the relationship would disappear. Is the relationship

01:20itself not founded on the premise of giving each other the right to invade the personal

01:31space of the other? If you want for example the other's time and the other is saying you

01:44know right now I am occupied with something important. Maybe you will exempt him or her

01:52a couple of times but after that you will enjoy disturbing. Otherwise you will feel

01:59you mean nothing to that person. Similarly the other person wants to have the right to

02:09freely move about and litter in your inner space. That is what you call as disturbance.

02:25Emotions we are born with and especially being a woman in the biological scheme of things,

02:35emotions are powerful. The thing is what do these emotions want to do to you? Where are

02:57these emotions coming from? This same body that is the source of all emotions, what does it really

03:10want? Is your nose really very interested in having a career? The emotion is coming from the

03:24nose. The emotion is coming from the eyes, the ears, the skin, all parts of the body and I am

03:41not even naming the brain right now. The entire body gives rise to emotions. What does the body

03:52want? You have a woman's body. What does it want? And we share our bodies with animals. What do

04:04bodies want? Do the bodies want the woman to have a career? Do the bodies want the woman to have

04:13knowledge and wisdom? Is your nose annoyed if you do not study? Do your eyebrows feel offended if

04:28you do not clear an exam? Nothing happens. The skin continues to glow even if you are an extremely

04:41ignorant person. In fact, it has been seen that the skin of ignorant persons glows much more

04:54brightly than those who are a little less ignorant. Does the skin care for knowledge, career,

05:05consciousness? No. Now, the relationships, are the relationships coming from wisdom and

05:17consciousness or are the relationships themselves coming from the body? Don't be in a hurry to

05:25answer. I just want you to consider it. So, the body manifests itself in the relationships. How

05:44do we choose friends? We choose the kind of friends that support our mental patterns. We

05:54choose friends whose company allows a rush of dopamine to the brain. So, you are not choosing

06:02friends. It is the body, the brain that is choosing friends. How do we choose partners? We

06:14choose partners based on their intellectual depth and spiritual wisdom. We may claim so, it sounds

06:21honorable. But the fact is that the body has its own ways. And the first proof is that a woman likes

06:35to choose a man and a man likes to choose a woman. If we were looking only for intellect and depth,

06:43why would gender be a concern? But the gender is the first thing. So, the relationship itself

06:52is founded on the body. Now, see where we are coming. The relationship is the body and what

07:07you want is wisdom and consciousness. Now, why will these two go together? Why will your

07:17relationships be conducive to your career or to your real growth? You have an exam tomorrow. You

07:33know that you have an exam tomorrow. Does the body still not want to fall asleep? Have you

07:42not experienced this? That even if you know that something very important is to be done,

07:48yet the body starts acting lazy and sleepy. Have you not experienced this? Yeah, I have experienced

07:55it. So, the body has no respect for the real things in life. The body has respect only for

08:03its biological construction and the body is biologically constructed just to have fun of

08:10all kinds in life. Eat, sleep, be merry, repeat. You could say food, sex, sleep, repeat. That's

08:26all that is there to this body. And if our relationships are coming from the body,

08:35then know very well that your relationships will not be aligned with your intellectual

08:44pursuits including your career choices. Do you feel I am beating around the bush? Probably I

08:58am. Or am I coming to a point? No, you are coming to a point. All right. All this disturbance that

09:13you experience, heavy emotionality, quick to cry, these things happen and they happen a little more

09:25with women. They are just the conspiracies of this body against your real purpose in life. So,

09:39be very very watchful. You are not born just to be a servant to your body and emotions are just

09:54bodily. Do not give too much respect to your emotions. Wisdom and discretion is one thing

10:04and emotionality is a totally different thing. Getting it? If you start living your life founded

10:16on emotions, you won't go very far. You would go only in the direction of your bodily constitution.

10:25That's where your biological life wants to take you and the places where your biological life

10:33intends to take you are not very glorious or dignified places. Do not let those things happen

10:41to you. Emotions will continue because your body will continue. So, what can you do? Do not

10:51patronize your emotions. Do not energize your emotions. When emotions rise, do not say these

11:01are my emotions. Say these are the body's emotions. Fight against these emotions. Whenever

11:13these emotional disturbances arise, do not say, oh, what can I do? This has happened, that had

11:20happened. Now, I am feeling disturbed. Somebody has come and disturbed me. Say, I know the way

11:27the disturbance is coming from and I do not want to side with it. Let the disturbance be there.

11:34I will still continue to do what is right. Are you getting it? All your life, yes, yes.

11:45Ignoring our emotions, it's very difficult thing. Yes, it is difficult, but it's worth it. Yeah.

11:54Because if you do not ignore them, they will be all over you. Yeah. And always remember,

12:02the emotions are not yours. The emotions belong to the body. The body. And the body is not a

12:12very glorious thing. You are a conscious human being. Your purpose in life is to gain heights

12:23of consciousness, of wisdom, of freedom. And the body wants no wisdom, no freedom. And I am saying,

12:35especially in the case of the woman, the body can militate very strongly against the purposes

12:43of the consciousness. So, you have to be even more alert. And if you can be alert, the results are

12:53worth it. So, this happened with women only? No, no, it happens with everybody. It happens with

13:04everybody. But the thing is that you look at our societal structure. You look at the way everything

13:14is designed to affect a girl child in a way that makes her more body-centric. And you look at how

13:23Prakriti, physical nature, has chosen the woman as her preferred equipment for her continuation.

13:34When you look at the reproductive cycle, it affects the woman far more deeply and for a

13:43much longer duration than it affects the man. So, in that sense, the woman has to be more cautious.

13:53Both the man and the woman are offsprings of Prakriti. Therefore, they both are vulnerable

14:07to the chains of Prakriti. But woman has some additional forces acting against her.

14:20Right? And therefore, she has to be extra cautious. But that also means that her victory

14:31tastes sweeter. That also means that when she succeeds, the success means even more.

14:43And it's not much important to ask who is at a greater risk. The more relevant question to ask

14:57is would you be alright if you do not achieve your real nature? Maybe the odds are a little

15:11more against you. But the inner urge to be liberated is the same in all human beings,

15:20irrespective of their gender. So, will you be at peace if you remain a hostage to your body?

15:32Tell me. So, that's the question to ask. Do not ask how easy or difficult is it for me

15:43compared to a man. Because the thing is not relative. The thing is not comparative. Maybe

15:53it's a bit more difficult for a woman. So what? It's worth it. If it's worth it,

16:01then we will fight it out. Right? We will fight it out. See, you are thirsty, the other one too

16:11is thirsty. Would you look at the other's thirst and say, well, you know, he's more thirsty than me.

16:21So, I feel satisfied. Will that help you? No. You have to quench your own thirst. You have to

16:31fight your own battles. And the battles deserve to be fought and are possible to be won. That's

16:38what matters. Yes. Right?

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