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अक्सर बच्चों से व्यवहार करने मे माता-पिता कहाँ गलती कर देते है? माता-पिता होने के नाते बच्चों के साथ किये गए व्यवहार में क्या जाग्रुत्ता रखनी जरुरी है?
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00:00You may think that you know your beloved Priya very well, but there are many things about me that you have no idea about.
00:17Today, I want to tell you those things.
00:21I think that you believe that if you don't ask me to study again and again, then I won't study at all.
00:30That's not the case.
00:32Instead, by asking you to study again and again, I am going further away from studying.
00:36On my last birthday, I took some money from my father's wallet.
00:41To give a party to my friends.
00:43And I came and told you everything.
00:46You scolded me very badly.
00:49You must be afraid that if I make another mistake in future, I will be able to tell you the truth.
00:56Pooja is a very good friend of mine.
00:57But you compare me with Pooja again and again.
01:02That's why I feel very low.
01:04And deep inside, I have started hating Pooja.
01:08Don't children get proper guidance in their teenage years?
01:14The guidance that parents give, they take it very strictly.
01:21They speak in harsh words.
01:27They don't speak with love.
01:29So what happens to them is that even though it is such a good thing, they don't accept it.
01:40They speak with power.
01:44So ego.
01:46Parents' ego and children's ego.
01:51They clash with each other.
01:55The children have the feeling that their parents are telling the truth.
02:01We are doing wrong.
02:04The mistake that they feel guilty about, we don't even need to say a word about it.
02:11Don't even say a word about it.
02:13Speak with love.
02:15So their guilty feeling will increase and they will try to come out of their mistake.
02:23And if you start scolding them, their guilty feeling will go away.
02:28On top of that, they will say that whatever we are doing is right.
02:30You are also doing worse than this.
02:33It goes the other way around.
02:36Did you understand?
02:38So this is our mistake.
02:41We bring them there.
02:44Otherwise, the children of this generation are simple.
02:50They accept it.
02:52They should feel that their parents are speaking for their own benefit.
03:00They don't feel that way.
03:05They feel that we scold them again and again.
03:15If we want to tell them something, we tell them the same thing 10 times.
03:19We tell them to do it.
03:21We tell them to do it quickly.
03:23We do it the way we do it.
03:25Why are you so stubborn?
03:27They don't like all these things.
03:29If you tell them once, tell them twice.
03:33There is no need to tell them a third time.
03:36If they do it, it is good.
03:38If they don't do it, there is no need to tell them.
03:41If you behave like this, the children will go straight.
03:47They don't have to say much.
03:54Your trust is very important for me.
03:57Your trust is very important for me.
04:00Please have faith in me.
04:03Please understand me lovingly.
04:05I won't hide anything from you.
04:07Please don't compare me with anyone else.
04:10Let me be free.
04:12It is the parents' mistake to tackle them.
04:15Certified fathers and certified mothers.
04:19Before this, we have become uncertified fathers and uncertified mothers.
04:24Which college did you go to learn how to be a mother,
04:29how to play the role of a mother,
04:32how to play the role of a father?
04:34Did you go to any college to learn this?
04:36Nothing.
04:38As soon as you get married,
04:40Did you go to any college to learn this?
04:42Nothing.
04:44We behave with them the way we think.
04:51We speak so rudely with them.
04:54We speak with so much ego.
05:00Then they also learn from us in the same way.
05:04They also start speaking in the same way.
05:10I am a mother.
05:12I am a mother.