Forbidden Love Season 1 Episode 5

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Forbidden Love S01E05
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00:00Previously on Forbidden Love.
00:03Whoa!
00:04Do you ever miss the Amish community?
00:07My parents, I miss them a lot, but I used to try, you know,
00:11like to go once a month to visit with them.
00:14They still talk to you and let you see them.
00:18At first they didn't.
00:19I wonder if Elmer's parents find out we're having a baby,
00:23they would be open to seeing us.
00:25The kids is what pulls at their heart strings.
00:30Your brother had said a lot of things.
00:32You know, listen to me.
00:34You're not being my brother right now.
00:36From the very beginning of my marriage,
00:38Mohammed's brother, Abdul, and I have been clashing.
00:40One time, Mohammed and I were fighting,
00:42and Abdul kept egging him on, telling him that I was a bad Muslim.
00:46So I smashed his precious little PlayStation.
00:54I feel bad for my brother,
00:56because he choose a wrong wife,
00:59because, like, he's not Muslim.
01:01You know, we're going to move forward.
01:07That's a whole lot of people don't believe in Jesus.
01:10You're already condemned.
01:12Pastor Johnson's sermon feels directed at me.
01:16There's a way out for you now, through Jesus Christ.
01:20I am completely shocked.
01:23It's so disrespectful.
01:25Don't have to die in your sin!
01:27Whoo!
01:29Ha-cha-na-ha-ha!
01:31I got you now!
01:33Hallelujah!
01:35♪♪♪
01:42♪♪♪
01:47♪♪♪
01:51All right.
01:53The ambitions are strong.
01:55♪♪♪
02:01Elmer, it stinks in here.
02:03Why do you have onions over there and over here?
02:05Because, you know, it pulls the germs out of, like, you know,
02:07out of the air out here.
02:09You know, most husbands, they do, like, flowers,
02:12sweet things, sweet little surprises.
02:14I walk downstairs and there's freaking onions.
02:17He set this up we can prevent from going to the doctor.
02:19Like, I grew up with 15 kids in the house,
02:22and we never went to the doctor.
02:26I'm putting onions around the house
02:28because Lindsey's starting to feel sick.
02:30Onions, they draw out germs from the air,
02:32they draw out all the toxins and the germs from your body.
02:36When we got sick, my mama, the first thing she would do
02:38is cut up onions, put it all over the house.
02:40It's a very old, old, old-school home remedy
02:44passed down from generation to generation to generation
02:46in the Amish world.
02:49And that's one thing.
02:51These English people out here,
02:52they don't believe that crap works,
02:54but I know it does.
02:56I'm gonna throw this away.
02:57No, you're not.
02:58This is not happening.
02:59No, no, no, no, no, no.
03:00It stinks.
03:01I'll get your socks in a minute.
03:04In the Amish, we used to do it all the time.
03:06Well, you know what?
03:07Out here, there's civilized medicine,
03:08and you can get medications and go see a doctor
03:10when you're sick,
03:11but you don't need to do this weird stuff.
03:13I'm not doing this.
03:14No way.
03:15Some of the other home remedies that I remember,
03:17as kids, we would bump our head,
03:19and it would, like, swell up.
03:20First thing Mom would do is rub butter on her forehead.
03:24When we would have an earache,
03:25I would put the potato on our ear.
03:27If we had a cut, you put raw honey on it,
03:30and that would draw out the bad stuff as well.
03:32So it's, you know, all kinds of cool stuff.
03:35You're always complaining
03:36we don't make time for each other.
03:37Guess what?
03:38We're gonna put onions in your socks,
03:39and we're gonna sit down and watch a movie together.
03:41Oh, that is so romantic.
03:42Well, I'll give you a foot massage
03:44while I'm putting the onions in your socks, all right?
03:47Well, you can do the foot massage, and we'll see.
03:49No, we're gonna put this back where it was, all right?
03:51We'll see about the onions.
03:52I'm gonna put it right there,
03:53and I'm gonna cut one more up,
03:54and then I'm gonna put it in your socks, all right?
03:55Well, I'm gonna go sit down,
03:56and you're gonna give me a foot massage, so...
03:59The onions in the sock thing is so weird and disgusting,
04:02and when I am in pain, and I am in labor,
04:05and we are at the hospital,
04:06if you walk in that door with a damn onion in your hand,
04:09I will freaking kill you.
04:11Put an onion in your sock.
04:13Oh, that's so gross.
04:15I swear.
04:19It's all good.
04:21How much you putting in there?
04:22Two. Two slices.
04:24It pulls all your germs out of your feet.
04:28Two cuts of onion about half-inch thick.
04:32That's so freaking cold.
04:35Oh, my gosh, that feels so gross.
04:37You're fine.
04:38It's like cold, wet worms in my socks.
04:41It's okay. It's good for you.
04:43Pulls all the toxins and the germs out of your body.
04:47Have an onion snack.
04:48Ew.
04:50You need it straight and raw.
04:53Guess I learn something new every day.
04:57That's weird.
04:58Yeah.
04:59Speaking of learning new things,
05:00I learned a lot of stuff from your cousin Wilma yesterday.
05:03Oh, yeah?
05:04Yeah, she said at the party
05:05that she finally can go see her parents now,
05:09and they're open to her bringing the grandkids around.
05:14It kind of gave me hope a little bit,
05:17that you think your parents would ever be receptive to that
05:21if we went up there and...
05:23I mean, the way my dad and mom have been,
05:26I would be very, very shocked if that would ever happen.
05:31Lindsey does not understand how devout my family is.
05:35My parents live up in Michigan
05:37in one of the most strict Amish communities.
05:39The last time I spoke to my parents
05:41was when I told them I'm marrying Lindsey.
05:43I've tried reaching out to them, but they don't respond back.
05:47If they are even caught, like, having communication with us,
05:50they would get shunned from the Amish church.
05:56I never imagined that when I had kids one day
05:58that they wouldn't get to know both sides of their family.
06:02I want them to know the rest of the family and their side
06:06so they can know where they came from
06:08and their heritage and background.
06:10Yeah.
06:11Like, they'd be curious about us having a baby.
06:14I would hope so.
06:16Yeah.
06:17But, I mean, the way they've rejected me so far,
06:19I don't know if they would accept it or not.
06:23I don't know.
06:25Would they be open to us just coming and standing on the porch
06:28for, like, 15 minutes just to say hi and make an introduction?
06:34If we go see your family and I get to meet them
06:37and talk to them and then tell them that we're pregnant,
06:40maybe it'll kind of soften things a little bit.
06:43I'm shunned, okay?
06:45You don't understand how deep that is and where I come from.
06:48Like, you don't talk to me.
06:50You don't communicate with me.
06:51You don't eat with me.
06:52You don't do nothing.
06:54It's, like, very important that we try to at least go visit your family
06:57and see them.
06:59Like, look at Wilma.
07:00She was persistent and kept trying and reaching out,
07:02and eventually she had a breakthrough with them.
07:05Maybe this is the beginning,
07:07like a small baby step in the right direction.
07:11We should try it, I guess.
07:13I think if we dress in Amish clothes
07:15and we would park down the street,
07:17it might be a little bit more accepting, you know?
07:19Yeah.
07:20I mean, it don't hurt to try.
07:22Yeah.
07:23What's the worst that could happen?
07:24I guess we'll have to see.
07:29♪♪♪
07:36Okay, here we go.
07:38♪♪♪
07:44Need you, like, do your best, talk to my brother.
07:47I did my best with your family.
07:50Yeah, that's fair for me to do that, unfortunately.
07:58It's been a couple of weeks since we went to Missouri
08:00to patch things up with my family.
08:02I really had hoped for an apology from my sister,
08:04so I'm a little bit disappointed that we didn't get that.
08:07But I think things overall are a little bit better, right?
08:11Right.
08:12I'm really proud of how he handled himself in Missouri.
08:15It showed me that he does care about this marriage
08:18and that he wants to put in the effort.
08:20And I hope, like, you know,
08:21you do the same things, like, with my brother.
08:24To sit and just, like, try and give it a shot.
08:29You being, like, nervous or...
08:32Me, like, if I go there, I'll be nervous,
08:34but, like, I got to face it.
08:36Abdul and I do not have a good relationship at all.
08:40He's told Mohammed multiple times
08:41that he should not be married to me.
08:44He doesn't approve of me not being Muslim,
08:46and he doesn't like me being an outspoken woman.
08:50He's literally said in front of me multiple times
08:52that Mohammed should not be with me,
08:54that he should divorce me,
08:55that I'm crazy, that I'm controlling,
08:58that I'm fake, that I'm a bad person.
09:01It's crazy to me that he always says that.
09:05Like this, I'm not going to be there.
09:08I thought you were going to sit with us.
09:10You're not going to sit with us?
09:11Well, I mean, honestly, I want it,
09:13but at the same time, like,
09:14if I will be there with you guys,
09:17he might not going to see something,
09:19or you might not going to see something.
09:21I feel nervous now.
09:24Ashley and my brother, they are very, very stubborn.
09:27It's really upsetting, like, that they didn't get along.
09:30Each of them, like, feed me information.
09:32Oh, your brother do this.
09:33And him, like, oh, Ashley control you.
09:36She didn't listen to you. She didn't loves you.
09:38It's just kind of like I'm in the middle,
09:40and I don't want to be in that situation.
09:44Okay.
09:49Hello.
09:50Hey, how's it going?
09:51Good.
09:52How are you doing?
09:53Do you guys want me seated inside or outside?
09:55Outside, please.
09:56This day is extremely important to me,
09:58just like we sit together and solve this problem.
10:01And then that will help us,
10:03and help my wife to become a Muslim.
10:06We'll give you both these menus.
10:09Then we are united.
10:10One religion, one bath,
10:12and we'll be happy.
10:14Happy couple.
10:15Where's your brother at?
10:18Late, as always.
10:28Yes.
10:32How are you?
10:34Fine.
10:35How are you doing?
10:36Good, how are you?
10:37I'm doing good.
10:41So, with all respect,
10:44I brought you over here, guys,
10:47to discuss about our problems.
10:58I love you both,
10:59and things need to be, I guess, fixed.
11:08Okay.
11:09I'll leave you guys over here and talk,
11:11and I'll be back.
11:24Actually, me and her, by myself,
11:28nah, she's a fake Muslim.
11:30I don't want to actually speak to her.
11:33We don't have a good relationship.
11:35She's, she's crazy.
11:40So, you're obviously, like,
11:42the most important person to my husband.
11:45Like, I feel like,
11:47me and you not having a good relationship,
11:49it does have a negative effect on my marriage.
11:54I feel like you think that Muhammad and I
11:56shouldn't have gotten married,
11:57or that you wish that he would divorce me.
12:04You know why I'm mad at you?
12:06Okay, why?
12:07It's a lot of things.
12:09Do you remember, you called the police,
12:11and you break the window?
12:14Yes, because you wouldn't let me in my house.
12:20I stood there, and I said, let me in.
12:22I said, if you're not going to let me in,
12:25then I'm going to have to call,
12:26and you said, f*** you and the police.
12:29I was mad, because you're breaking my TV.
12:34You're breaking stuff.
12:36I mean, you break my PlayStation,
12:38which is, I bought it, like,
12:40you know, it's not free money.
12:45Ashley, like, when she get mad,
12:47she broke a lot of stuff.
12:49Ask me how many TVs she broke, ask me.
12:51How many?
12:52Guess, tell me, guess.
12:54Two.
12:55Yeah, I wish two, I hope two.
12:57Well, now I got to go high.
12:58Go high, don't go...
13:00Close, 12.
13:02She didn't care.
13:03She didn't even, like, say, I'm sorry about this.
13:06Why are you breaking stuff, Ashley?
13:08Come on.
13:09No, I'm not saying that that was right,
13:11or I didn't overreact.
13:12Like, that's what I'm saying.
13:16Abdul told us that you broke upwards to 12 TVs.
13:21What the f***?
13:23I've never broken a TV.
13:25I have no idea where he would come up with that number.
13:28He just lies about random s***.
13:30That never happened.
13:32It was just one PlayStation.
13:34It was because he called me a fake Muslim,
13:37and I got so mad that I smashed his stupid PlayStation.
13:42I got pissed off, and I just shoved it down.
13:46You're not fixing any problem if you break stuff.
13:50The TV, PlayStation, you guys' TV,
13:52this, this, this.
13:54It's not really fixing a problem. It's not.
13:57You know how much it cost me?
13:58A lot of money.
14:00You feel happy if you break some stuff on Mohammed Bey?
14:04No.
14:05Abdul is just throwing everything that I've ever done
14:08right into my face,
14:09but he's not taking any accountability
14:11for any of the actions that he did.
14:13And that pisses me off.
14:16This is a bad idea.
14:19God, he's such an idiot.
14:29Am I blending in okay?
14:31I think so.
14:32Like, you think people are buying it,
14:34and I'm like, legit Amish?
14:35I'm sure they are.
14:36I don't think she came from the Amish originally.
14:39The outfit looked Amish enough,
14:41but the makeup and the nails,
14:44all of the above, yeah.
14:46I'm sure anybody Amish that sees them
14:48will realize they're not Amish.
14:51What a surprise.
14:53What are you doing here?
14:54It's kind of weird.
14:56How would you feel about me anointing you with ore?
15:00Anointing?
15:01Yeah.
15:02This is insane.
15:05This is witchcraft.
15:16You got my keys.
15:32I am hot.
15:36That's the best thing about when church over,
15:38we're getting out these clothes.
15:42I'm pretty upset about how Chris's dad's sermon
15:45went down.
15:46I feel like the sermon was created
15:49and dedicated to me.
15:52That's just, that's not the right approach.
15:55I know it's not Chris's fault,
15:57and I don't want him to feel bad,
15:59but I had to get out of there.
16:01I had to calm down and collect my thoughts,
16:04decompress, until service was done.
16:07I just want to thank you for
16:10stepping out your comfort zone,
16:12having an open mind,
16:14and just allowing yourself to experience,
16:17you know, where I come from.
16:22When Linza got up and walked out
16:24while my father was giving his sermon,
16:26I felt uncomfortable, not only for, you know, me,
16:29but for her.
16:30I think that he was preaching his beliefs
16:33and the beliefs of a Pentecostal Christian,
16:36but it could be a little overwhelming for her.
16:41But I'm really relieved that she just needed some air,
16:46because sometimes, once she's upset,
16:48logic is out the window.
16:53I know it might have been a lot on you
16:55to experience that.
16:57You know, it was definitely geared
17:00a little bit more to open up, you know, your heart.
17:03Yeah.
17:04To convert, to become a Christian.
17:07Yeah.
17:08Oof.
17:09I'll be honest with you, Habibi,
17:11just the idea of that just makes my stomach twist.
17:21You know, while we were at church,
17:22I did notice that he was singing along,
17:25like he was really singing.
17:27I do see the connection he has to Christianity
17:30and the happiness that it does bring him.
17:33So, for Christopher to leave Christianity,
17:37it might be a bit more difficult than I thought.
17:41We need to come to a decision
17:43on which faith we're going to choose.
17:47I don't know, I would like us to come to that before I leave.
17:52What are you going to wear today?
17:54I don't know, I'm trying to figure out
17:55which shirt I want to wear.
17:57One's got some caulk on it still.
17:59CHRISTOPHER positivity
18:02What are you going to wear today?
18:03I don't know, I'm trying to figure out
18:04which shirt I want to wear.
18:06One's got some caulk on it still.
18:20So, we got to the hotel in Michigan last night,
18:23and we're about 20 minutes from my apartment.
18:26So we gotta find a decent hotel for work.
18:2820 minutes from my parents' house.
18:30We're trying to, you know, meet my parents
18:32and telling them that we're having a baby.
18:34I'm hoping that maybe it'll soften their heart a little bit
18:37and maybe they'll have a relationship with us.
18:39The last night, I could barely sleep
18:42because I was so nervous.
18:44I haven't had this shirt on in a long time.
18:49I'm putting my Amish clothes on, and Lindsey's also
18:52putting some Amish clothes on as a form of respect.
18:55So that way, we have a fighting chance
18:57to speak with my family.
18:59Plus, we're also trying to blend in with the Amish community
19:03so that way, we don't alert nobody.
19:06This is the same shirt my mom made me when I was 16.
19:09Aw.
19:10Does that make you sad?
19:12Yeah.
19:14I'll probably keep it forever.
19:17My feelings are all over the place this morning.
19:20I do miss my family very much.
19:23Being rejected by my family is definitely the hardest thing
19:26that I've ever had to go through.
19:29I haven't spoken to them since I got married six months ago.
19:34I don't really have any idea what's going to happen to me,
19:36but I'm trying to be hopeful because I don't want to have
19:39that hurt feeling again.
19:44Are you getting dressed?
19:46Oh, yeah, I'm doing the whole nine yards.
19:49You want to know a secret?
19:50What?
19:52I'm wearing my black lace underwear underneath this.
19:55Why are you not driving like the granny panties?
19:58I don't even own granny.
19:59I don't even know where you buy granny panties, to be honest.
20:04Do you need help?
20:10Oh, my god.
20:16Oh, my god.
20:20Don't take this the weird way, wrong way.
20:23What are you about to tell me?
20:24You look like my sister Susie.
20:26Oh, my.
20:29I'm being serious.
20:30Does that turn you on?
20:32No.
20:33OK, good.
20:35I feel weird wearing these Amish clothes.
20:38Oh, boy.
20:39Get up here.
20:43I look like a creepy pioneer woman.
20:45It's so uncomfortable.
20:47The material is scratchy.
20:48I'm just tweaking and itching like a meth head.
20:51But I am willing to suck it up and do
20:54this for Elmer if it will help with his relationship
20:57with his parents.
20:58I'm willing to do what it takes.
21:09I got to fix my look.
21:11Are you ready for this?
21:14Whatever they are.
21:16I want to go to the Amish store to try
21:18to get a little gift or something to kind of break
21:21the ice with Elmer's mom.
21:25I am completely clueless.
21:27What do you buy for your Amish mother-in-law?
21:33I'm going to go ask about, like, kitchen stuff.
21:36Wilma said that your mom, we're talking about baking and stuff.
21:39So maybe she'd like some kitchenware.
21:41All right.
21:42A new spatula, you know.
21:43OK.
21:44I have a question.
21:45Yeah.
21:46If I am buying my mother-in-law some, like,
21:48baking stuff or cooking stuff, that would be,
21:52what would you recommend?
21:53Look, the kitchen knives over here are a good one for them.
21:57Get her a bunch of knives.
21:58There you go.
22:00They're on the display right there.
22:03OK.
22:04Yeah, I'm definitely not giving my mother-in-law,
22:06who I've never met, and thanks.
22:08I'm the devil, because I'm an English woman.
22:11I'm not going to give her a knife.
22:13Like, here's a knife.
22:13Like, what are you going to do with this, stab me with it?
22:16Oh, look, there's greeting cards right there.
22:19I remember Wilma suggesting to get a greeting card.
22:22So I think the card is the safest bet.
22:27Am I blending in OK?
22:28I think so.
22:29Like, you think people are buying it,
22:31and I'm like, legit Amish?
22:32Oh, I'm sure you are.
22:35I don't think she came from the Amish originally.
22:38The outfit looked Amish enough, but the makeup,
22:42painted nails, all of the above, yeah.
22:45I'm sure anybody Amish that sees them
22:47will realize they're not Amish.
22:50I found a good one.
22:52Why are you being quiet?
22:53Huh?
22:54Why are you being quiet?
22:55Huh, it's just weird.
22:56Are you nervous?
22:58Yeah.
23:00OK.
23:01What else here?
23:03Let's look at house stuff.
23:04This visit is so important for me and my family.
23:07I don't know what's going to happen,
23:10or how they're going to react to see me after such
23:14a long period of time.
23:16The best thing that could happen would be my parents
23:20opening that door.
23:21Like, oh my gosh, Elmer, thank you for coming
23:24and giving me a big old hug.
23:26We got our goodies ready.
23:28Yes.
23:29But I'm worried that the door just gets slammed in our face.
23:32Boom, shut.
23:34Have a good day.
23:37If they reject me again, choosing religion over me,
23:40it's going to mentally and emotionally crush me.
23:42All right.
23:43Let's do this.
23:46You do say stuff to me that's rude.
23:49Like, when you said I'm a fake Muslim.
23:51You don't like wearing a hijab.
23:53I want to see Rosie and you, you know, cover your body.
23:56Like, right now.
23:57I always say I don't hate anybody,
23:59but like, I really do not like him.
24:01If you want to stay with my brother,
24:04you have to do it right now.
24:05I don't like him.
24:06I don't like him.
24:07I don't like him.
24:07I don't like him.
24:08I don't like him.
24:09I don't like him.
24:10I don't like him.
24:11If you want to stay with my brother,
24:12I would love to see you Muslim.
24:20He not like a lot of care.
24:22No, I'm not saying that that was right,
24:23or I didn't overreact.
24:25That's what I'm saying.
24:32I am sorry that I did that.
24:34But like, you do say stuff to me that's rude.
24:37Like, when you said I'm a fake Muslim.
24:44I do have a desire to make peace.
24:46I want us all to get along.
24:48And like, I always say I don't hate anybody,
24:50but like, I really do not like him.
24:54Let's see if you're Muslim.
24:55You cannot pick and choose.
24:57Like, oh, you know what?
24:58I like this one.
24:59I'll take it.
25:00For example, you don't like wearing hijab.
25:04I hope.
25:06I wish, like, I want to see Rosie and you,
25:08you know, cover your body like right now.
25:12So you think that this is, like, not appropriate?
25:16Exactly.
25:20If you want to stay with my brother,
25:23learn from your mistake.
25:25Just learn it.
25:27The second thing is, I would love to see you Muslim.
25:31But that's the point.
25:32It was like, I'm trying to learn.
25:34Like, I didn't grow up with all of this.
25:35That's what I told you.
25:36Like, you have to read.
25:37It's hard when I see.
25:39You like to read, right?
25:40So like, if you like to read,
25:42and you like to read about Muslim religion, read.
25:45Pray, pray.
25:47If you pray, God help you a lot.
25:52I really don't like talking religion with Abdul
25:54or talking about converting with him.
25:57I do feel like there needs to be, like,
25:58empathy towards me.
26:00Like, I don't think he understands
26:01how difficult it is to be taught one thing your whole life
26:04and then, like, wake up one day and realize,
26:05like, maybe that's not real.
26:08That can be really hard to handle emotionally.
26:14But it is a fear of mine all the time
26:16that if I don't convert to Islam,
26:18Abdul will poison Mohammed against me
26:20and convince him to divorce me.
26:23I'm trying my best to follow the religion.
26:26That's the number one thing
26:28that I have to, like, figure out what I believe.
26:35I realize, like, I shouldn't say, like, you fake Muslim.
26:38And I've really, really thought about this.
26:45I never expected to hear an apology out of him at all,
26:47so I'm pleasantly surprised, I guess.
26:52I feel like Abdul and I still have a long way to go
26:55in our relationship,
26:56but I do feel like he's making an effort
26:58to be civil and get along.
27:01What's the conclusion?
27:05I mean, I don't know.
27:06Like, we still, I think, have work to do, but...
27:10Yeah, you're doing it.
27:11Yeah. Yeah, do it.
27:14I still have a lot of questions and concerns
27:17about living life as a Muslim woman and wife.
27:20And I'm even more concerned
27:21about how my family's going to react.
27:24With Mohammed and Abdul,
27:25I feel like they think if I convert,
27:27that's gonna go away.
27:29But I think it could get worse,
27:33and that's very scary.
27:43This is the oil that is used for anointing.
27:46This is insane.
27:48I said, look at God.
27:51Look how great he is.
27:52But this is entirely way too much.
27:54When is he gonna give it up?
27:56You can't force me into submission.
27:58And I feel like I'm being forced here,
28:00and it makes me uncomfortable.
28:02No.
28:20I've been in Cincinnati for a week now,
28:23and it's been rockier than what I anticipated.
28:28The whole experience of church really shook me.
28:32I feel like I was being cornered into accepting Jesus,
28:35and I didn't appreciate that at all.
28:37It's convincing me that Chris really needs
28:40to get serious about converting to Islam.
28:43And on top of everything that's going on,
28:46I caught a bit of a stomach bug,
28:48and I just overall just feel like crap.
28:59Hey, Mr. Johnson.
29:01What a surprise.
29:03What are you doing here?
29:05It's kind of weird.
29:07Oh, have a seat here.
29:08Oh, okay.
29:09But unfortunately, it's a little too late
29:11to pretend like no one's home,
29:13so I can't just like turn off the lights
29:16and like turn the TV off like you would do
29:19if a Jehovah Witness came knocking on the door,
29:22because I would have definitely tried to hide.
29:27Where's Mr. Chris?
29:29He's been working all day,
29:31and I also haven't been feeling well,
29:33so I just kind of been laying around.
29:35Okay.
29:36Trying to get over this stomach bug.
29:39Well, how are you feeling now?
29:41I'm still feeling a little under the weather.
29:43I'm able to keep liquids down,
29:44but I haven't started eating any solids yet.
29:50Well, how would you feel about me anointing you with oil?
29:54Anointing?
29:55Yeah, with oil.
29:56I don't know what that means.
29:58When you anoint a person that whatever's going on with them,
30:02that the Lord will heal that.
30:06It's for healing.
30:13Where is this going?
30:14Like, what do you mean they're gonna heal me?
30:17Like, magic?
30:18Like, I don't know.
30:19He didn't say anything about medicine.
30:21He said heal.
30:23You know, Islamically,
30:25I'm not allowed to do anything that's ritualistic
30:31or could possibly be equivalent
30:34in the healing power of Allah.
30:37I'm not trying to force you to do it.
30:38I'm just mentioning it and let you know what we use it for.
30:42Okay, okay, okay.
30:44It's for healing.
30:45Okay.
30:46It's pure oil, nothing in it.
30:48What kind of oil?
30:49It's olive oil, virgin.
30:55It's not the oil, it's the spirit in the oil
30:58that do the anointing.
31:01How does the spirit of the Lord get into the oil?
31:04That's something no man, no woman can answer.
31:07The spirit is the presence of God.
31:11That's it.
31:13I have the oil with me out in the car.
31:15Follow me out to the car and I can show it to you.
31:21Well...
31:25I respect my elders and I always struggle with this.
31:28You know, like when an elder asks you
31:31to be a part of something,
31:32it's always been difficult for me to be like, no.
31:36Yeah, of course.
31:37Okay.
31:41So I'm gonna follow Elder Johnson outside,
31:45but I am nervous.
31:48Ooh, it's bright.
31:49This my little kit.
31:51This is the oil that is used for anointing.
31:59Anoint you in the name of the Father,
32:00the Son and of the Holy Ghost.
32:04Be blessed.
32:07This is insane.
32:09This is crazy.
32:11It's insane.
32:12It's crazy.
32:13It's crazy.
32:13It's crazy.
32:14It's crazy.
32:15It's crazy.
32:16It's crazy.
32:17It's crazy.
32:18This is crazy.
32:19I can feel him like putting the cross on my forehead
32:23and then he's like saying like the mother,
32:25what do you say?
32:26Like something, the Holy Ghost.
32:28Like he was just saying some stuff that I did not like
32:30and I don't believe in.
32:31It would be funny if it actually worked.
32:35This is witchcraft.
32:37All I could say underneath my breath was like,
32:39a-oo-da-ba-la-mi-na-she-ta-na-ji-ma-oo-da-ba-la-mi-na-she-ta-na-ji-ma.
32:48Gates of heaven.
32:49Praise God.
32:51Hallelujah.
32:55I hope Linza is accepting what I said
32:58is concerning Jesus Christ as her personal savior.
33:02Just a little bit more time when she knows
33:05everything that Elder Johnson has said,
33:07it's real, this is true.
33:09Oh, thank you, Jesus.
33:15At this point, this is entirely way too much.
33:18When is he gonna give it up?
33:20I said, look at God.
33:22Look how great he is.
33:24You can't force me into submission.
33:27And I feel like I'm being forced here
33:28and it makes me uncomfortable.
33:30It'll be a great joy to accept Jesus Christ
33:34as your personal savior.
33:38I love Chris with all of my heart,
33:40but I do feel like his family
33:42is just creating a huge wedge in between us.
33:46If they don't back off and respect me for who I am
33:51and respect my boundaries,
33:53this relationship is not going to last.
33:56Woo!
33:57Praise God.
33:59Mm-hmm, mm-hmm.
34:04Wilmer called me.
34:05Your brother?
34:07Yeah.
34:07He got wind that you guys were coming up.
34:10This is f***ed up.
34:11We didn't want his parents to know that we were coming.
34:14This is bad.
34:14This is beyond bad.
34:16What are we gonna do now?
34:17I think we should just go over there.
34:19If the whole community knows,
34:21they could block us from even getting on the property.
34:23If you're gonna do it, you better do it.
34:24Yeah, I mean, we better do it now.
34:37It's colder than a mother-in-law's kiss out there.
34:42♪♪♪
34:50I'm gonna work on that greeting card
34:52we just bought for your mom.
34:55There's our little ultrasound pictures.
34:58Just want to send a little sunshine your way.
35:01Here is a picture of your grandbaby.
35:03We hope that someday you'll let us be close.
35:08No.
35:09Closer.
35:10No.
35:10Don't put anything about the future?
35:14I wouldn't really write anything anymore.
35:19We're on our way to Amr's parents' house right now,
35:21and Wilma said that Amish people like greeting cards.
35:25So I got a greeting card.
35:26I wrote a little touching note in it
35:28and put the sonogram picture in there,
35:30and I'm hoping that kind of tugs at their heartstrings
35:33and kind of softens his family a little bit.
35:37You think they're gonna actually read this
35:39or throw it away?
35:41I hope they read it.
35:42♪♪♪
35:47Right here by the river,
35:49I used to come down here and lay on that culvert
35:51and just think,
35:52listen to the river running underneath me
35:54and stuff right here.
35:55So you used to come down here by yourself?
35:57Yeah.
35:58♪♪♪
36:03I can tell Amr's getting more nervous.
36:07His dad is very strict.
36:09Like, he's one of the stricter dads in the community,
36:11it sounds like, and then his mom is even worse.
36:14I guess she's even more strict.
36:16So I am worried if he can handle
36:19if his family rejects him again.
36:24So can we recap this again?
36:25We're gonna go there to Kirk's, and we have to park there?
36:30Mm-hmm.
36:31That way, out of respect for them, you know,
36:34so we don't park on their property and stuff.
36:37And then we're gonna walk there?
36:39Yeah.
36:40♪♪♪
36:42So we're parking the truck at Kirk's house.
36:45Kirk lives about a mile down the road
36:47from my parents' house.
36:48He's not Amish.
36:49He's an English guy.
36:50He's basically family to me
36:53now that, you know, I don't have any really anymore.
36:57We decided to go see my parents that night
37:00because it's dark and none of the other Amish people
37:02can see us.
37:04And it's already a very delicate situation,
37:07so we're treading softly here.
37:11Hey, bro.
37:12Hey, how's it going?
37:13Good, good seeing you.
37:14Hey.
37:15How you doing?
37:16Good.
37:17How are you?
37:18Good.
37:19Come on in.
37:20All right.
37:21Elmer, he shooed the horses
37:22and worked on the horses for the Amish.
37:24So he would take them for a trot.
37:27I'd be out in the barn or something,
37:28and he'd swing by and talk to me,
37:31and I ended up being pretty close with him.
37:33How's everything been?
37:34Good, good, good.
37:36Elmer's mom and dad, they're pretty heavily shunning him.
37:39I'm not no Amish expert by no means,
37:41but I know a lot of their rules come through a bishop.
37:44I can't imagine as a parent, I'm a parent,
37:47somebody telling me that I can't see my own kid.
37:51How was the drive up?
37:53It was good.
37:54It was a little rough there for a minute.
37:56Yeah, he was doing 98, 98 miles per hour.
38:01You haven't been down to where you grew up at all, have you?
38:03No, not yet.
38:05All right, because Wilmer called me.
38:08Your brother?
38:10Yeah.
38:14And he got wind that you guys were coming up.
38:19He said, man, they don't want him
38:20coming around the house right now.
38:22How'd he know?
38:23I don't know how he knew.
38:25No idea.
38:27That's freaking weird.
38:30Somebody could have seen you in town, don't you?
38:32From the store, somebody saw us?
38:35Somebody could have seen you anywhere.
38:36At the Collingville store, you mean?
38:38Yeah.
38:38Yeah.
38:39He knew you was coming up,
38:40and he wanted to make sure that no TV crew
38:45came to the house.
38:48Uh-huh.
38:50You know, we drove all this way and stuff like that.
38:52Like, I don't know, like, you know,
38:54I don't understand why somebody would tip Wilmer off, like.
39:00My brother, he has a phone in his business
39:03about half a mile down the road.
39:04So my brother called Kirk and told Kirk that we're coming.
39:08And now I know that my parents know that we're coming,
39:12so I'm afraid they're going to be gone
39:13because they don't want to get in trouble with the church.
39:20What are we going to do now?
39:22I think we should just go over there.
39:24Yeah, if you're going to do it, you better do it.
39:25Yeah.
39:26I mean, we better do it now.
39:28This is f***ed up.
39:29We didn't want his parents to know that we were coming.
39:31We wanted it to be real discreet that we were in town,
39:35but Elmer's brother knows, obviously,
39:37and then his parents will probably know,
39:39then the community and the bishop will find out,
39:41and then it'll just be a big s*** show.
39:44This is bad.
39:44This is beyond bad.
39:46We got to go.
39:47I mean, there's one chance, and it's here.
39:50It's now.
39:51Yeah, let's get going.
39:52So we got to go.
39:53Yeah.
39:56Good luck.
39:57All right.
39:58Love you guys.
39:59I love you. Bye-bye.
40:02Woof, woof, woof, woof.
40:05There we go.
40:07When my brother no one, it changes the whole plan.
40:10Our cover got blown, and I don't know if this is going to work.
40:13If the whole community knows, they could block us
40:16from even getting on the property.
40:18I'm scared s***less what's going to happen,
40:20but we got to do it, and we got to go now.
40:27Woof, woof, woof, woof.
40:30Next time on Forbidden Love.
40:32Allahu akbar, summa.
40:35You're doing so good.
40:38Rosie getting older,
40:39I want to make sure she grow up as a Muslim.
40:42I'm very afraid Rosie gonna be like one of your family.
40:46You're sitting here saying,
40:47oh, I don't want her to act like people in your family.
40:48She's not Muslim.
40:49You know what I'm saying?
40:50I'm afraid she's going to be that.
40:51You're being kind of dumb right now.
40:53When she call me dumb,
40:54that means she don't respect me as a husband.
40:57We will not be continued in the future.
40:59Obey, respect, trust.
41:01That's why I need you to be a Muslim.
41:05He offered to heal me.
41:07Heal you?
41:07Like, I really felt like I betrayed my religion,
41:10and I don't want to feel that anymore.
41:12Christopher's dad, he's doing everything in his power
41:16to get me to convert to Christianity,
41:18and I'm beyond over it.
41:20I want you to be Muslim.
41:23I'm in.
41:26The hardest thing is what it would do to my family.
41:29Converting over to Islam,
41:30that could hurt them and, you know,
41:32potentially push them away.
41:33Let's pump the brakes a little bit on them.
41:37Hey!
41:40My family has expressed to me
41:42their reservations about me converting.
41:46I just feel like if you really love someone,
41:47they shouldn't have to convert or do anything
41:49to be able to be with you.
41:51The last thing we need right now are doubts.
41:54I think she was just giving her honest opinion
41:56that she thought I shouldn't have to.
41:57Well, her honest opinion sucks.
41:59I mean, it's 2023.
42:03You point out all my flaws.
42:05You say, oh, you don't do nothing around the house.
42:08What do you do?
42:09Since we've been back, Elmer is regressing hardcore,
42:13and his Amish bad habits are getting worse again.
42:15I need a man to raise a baby with.
42:19You knew I was 23 when I married you.
42:21I didn't know you acted like a child.
42:23If he's not ready to do this,
42:24then how are we gonna bring this baby in the world?
42:26I'm done.
42:27Me too.
42:29I'm done.