What Actually Holds Women Back || Acharya Prashant (2022)

Acharya Prashant

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00:00Just a thought that I have seen that the basic approach, the very base of how a woman is

00:18looking at the world as well as I have come near to a woman's mind and I have tried to

00:25is that they think through a lens that I cannot even fathom and that obviously has the kid

00:33in the center.

00:34They are always thinking about a family.

00:37In fact, when I look at societies or when I look at colonies or when I go to a mall

00:45or anywhere, I find that every kind of infrastructure that has been laid in the name of civilization

00:57has been laid keeping the family in the center and family basically means that you are simple

01:06nature's game of, because ultimately what we are, we are products of nature and everywhere

01:13when I look at in nature, the only two things are getting that save the body and propagate

01:18the body.

01:19Genes are being saved, genes are being propagated.

01:22So I always find that the basic thing that civilization is doing is that they are saving

01:26the human body and they are propagating it.

01:29Here what I find is that because the woman's role is that they are the ones who are creating

01:35that body inside, whereas man has the free will of impregnating maybe two or three women.

01:46It does not have any kind of liability or collateral liability just after the act.

01:54So I have observed that for a woman, the family, the kid is very important, the nest is very

02:04important.

02:05This woman that you are talking of, is she a function merely of her body or also of the

02:13school she studied in, the college and university she went to, the belief system she inherited

02:22from her grandfather and mother, the kind of things she saw in the movies and the serials,

02:31is she a function merely of her body or also of these things?

02:35But these things are also a genesis, they are coming from somewhere, the university

02:40or the belief system.

02:41No, they are not really coming from the woman herself, they are coming from the collective

02:45ignorance of mankind.

02:46And the ignorance might have started from the biology itself.

02:52That's true, the ignorance starts from the body itself and the ignorance is therefore

02:59on both the sides.

03:01Acharya ji, Marxist feminists say, it's a very cliché statement that sex is created,

03:11sex is born but gender is created.

03:14So the probing, fundamental probing is in the process of gendering.

03:19So sex is assigned to you when you are born by the doctor, seeing the chromosome that

03:25you carry and your genitals.

03:28But the gender that is assigned to you and the process of gendering is indeed very complicated.

03:33Fully agree, that's why the female gender in let's say India will be very different

03:42from a person of the same gender in a first world country.

03:48But physically they will be absolutely alike.

03:52Two kinds of bodies are born and so what forces decide which body is going to become so called

04:00man and which body is going to become a woman.

04:02In this sense, the LGBTQ discourse is very revolutionary because they have proven that

04:10a female body can also be a man, that you can have genitals, I mean you can have a vagina

04:17and be a man.

04:18So this is a revolution which is really trying to deconstruct the process of gendering, if

04:26you are a male you have to be a man only.

04:29So the probing, my argument that I would want, my basic argument is that when it comes to,

04:38I totally agree with the fact that a woman is born but gendering is something that is

04:45a, yeah, my argument here as far as my observation or my conviction stands is that the biology

04:57has a very vital function in the basic approach of how they perceive the world and that has

05:03the kid in the center.

05:05That is one of the most core values of their existence because logically speaking, just

05:10my own logic if I may, that nature, we are a part of nature apart from the fact that

05:20spirituality enables us to go beyond nature but we are a part of nature.

05:25What are our basic functions?

05:27We have the civilization, we are earning, we are, but ultimately it is propagating the

05:32body.

05:33So if the basic function of our existence as human beings or as any kind of creature

05:41in the animal kingdom is save your body and propagate the body, then the basic approach

05:49propagates from that objective and that objective in itself when looked at from a woman's perspective,

05:58it is that they have to think about the kid, they have that, with gendering, the intensity

06:07with which they value that objective, that may change, a woman in America, she might

06:16not think about a kid or might not favor so much but the fact that they have that value

06:24system of thinking about the kid itself, I think that very value system, that very

06:32value or that very outlook is something that is missing in man.

06:36No, it's not missing in man, it's relatively smaller in man but all that you are saying

06:44is applicable only as long as we take ourselves as physical beings, as you said parts of the

06:55animal kingdom driven purely by our physical desires.

07:00If we are driven purely by that then obviously we live to just eat and reproduce but that's

07:06not where we stand as human beings.

07:10I would agree that even in a well-educated and spiritually liberated woman, the desire

07:24for a kid would be probably relatively larger compared to that in a man but I don't suppose

07:40that kind of a difference is a problem because ultimately the earth does need kids and I

07:50am saying this with all consideration.

07:54We are talking of responsible reproduction, we are not talking of zero reproduction.

08:00We are not wanting a state where the woman becomes an absolutely zero woman with no desire

08:13at all to be a kid.

08:16That's not the objective, is that?

08:18That's not the objective.

08:20What we want to talk of is whether the compulsive desire or passion to keep the kid and the

08:31family at the center of her life is necessary.

08:37If the kid is just one of things in her life, what's the problem?

08:45Nobody would say in his right senses that we want a situation where the fertility rates

08:50drop to absolute zero.

08:53That's nobody's objective.

08:56We started with the question not being upfront but it's not about just women in the society,

09:07generally in the urban society, when nobody is upfront, they talk in terms of hints, symbols,

09:16like in corporates, for example, if somebody has a handicap, we don't say handicap, we say some nice euphemisms and we hide the facts totally.

09:30See, that's when these things are absent in your life, fearlessness, love, truth.

09:40When the relationship has a lot of love, then you are not afraid to be blunt.

09:46Because you know the other one would understand.

09:48You also know that the other one would not be hurt.

09:51You also know that being straight and blunt and direct deepens love.

09:56So you are not going to hesitate then.

09:59Equally, when you value truth a lot, then you do not want to deal in symbols and indirect

10:09kind of diplomatic behavior.

10:14But when the most important values are missing and there is a lot of fear and there is a

10:25chronic need for security, then you don't open up.

10:34So when that is happening, you probably need to look at the entire ecosystem rather than

10:43one single gender.

10:45Why is there so much of fear in the environment?

10:49And also, mind you, when there is fear, it would be affecting not only one gender but

10:56the entire population.

10:59In one gender, it's more readily visible to the other gender because the other gender

11:08does not behave in that way.

11:10So they can spot it out, she is being just too roundabout.

11:17But the same kind of fear in the ecosystem is troubling men as well.

11:22Won't it be pertinent to see how even men have to cater to their own insecurities and

11:33their own stereotypes and their own false beliefs?

11:39Because if women have been trained to live and behave and be in a certain way, equally

11:45men have been trained to live and believe and be in a certain way.

11:51At this point I'll present a certain thing to you all.

11:59You see there are what we call as womanly values.

12:03You can identify a woman with those values.

12:09Human being giving value to this, this and this and you'll be easily able to say this

12:15person is a woman with almost 95% accuracy.

12:22Another human being giving value to this, this, this thing, for example, somebody giving

12:28value to, what do women give value to typically, what would you say, children and the nest

12:40and clothes, emotionality.

12:46So these you could call as the female values for want of a better word.

12:54I know it's a generalization, but because it's a general thing, so generalization here

12:59is not very useless.

13:02And then there are a set of what we can call as the manly values.

13:09What do you call as the manly values?

13:14Chivalry, achievement, ambition, aggression.

13:21What we probably need to consider is whether there is a third set of values superior to

13:29both these sets.

13:31No point declaring one set higher than the other.

13:39If we indeed are caged consciousnesses yearning for freedom, then neither the womanly values

13:53nor the manly ones take us to our liberation, do they?

14:01One is emotional, one is logical, neither of them necessarily give to you what you want.

14:08If I am the suffering consciousness, logic does not take me to liberation, nor do my

14:15emotions because they all arise fundamentally from the same center of bondage.

14:23That which is arising from your bondage cannot lead you to liberation.

14:28So she is emotional, he is logical.

14:34She cares more for the nest, he cares more for ambition.

14:41Neither her nest will bring her deliverance, nor would his ambition bring him freedom.

14:53So is it men versus women or is it so that both men and women are equal partners in their

15:03slavery?

15:04It's just that either side calls its own slavery as better than that of the other side.

15:13I am enslaved, you are enslaved, but because I am enslaved, I call my slavery better than

15:22your slavery.

15:25Had this been an all-women gathering, I am sure they would have had much the same things

15:33to say about men, say in the sense of opposite, opposite things in the same tenor.

15:42Why are men like this?

15:44Why are men so ugly?

15:46Why can't men understand subtle things?

15:50Why do they have to be so gross?

15:52What's convoluted and dishonest to us may be subtle and mysterious and beautiful to

15:59them.

16:00Subtle and aesthetically nice.

16:02You really have to punch in somebody's face to communicate, that's how they say.

16:07They say the way men talk to each other is like punching each other in the face.

16:12Now, it's very gross.

16:14What we are calling as convoluted and roundabout is in their language subtle and aesthetically

16:23beautiful, which is not true, I agree, that's not the case.

16:31That's not the case to anybody, see.

16:34Just as your manly stuff is a great thing only to you, similarly, their womanly stuff

16:44is obviously great only in their own value system.

16:49It's not an absolute virtue.

16:55There has to be a third set that both men and women have to be educated into, indoctrinated

17:06into.

17:09If you turn the man into more of a man, then he is just an alpha gorilla, right?

17:17If you turn the woman into more of a woman, then she is just the mate of the alpha gorilla,

17:25right?

17:26I don't know how it sounds, but from where I see it, the man has to be demanned.

17:42The woman has to be de-womanized.

17:50I am not talking of emasculation, don't get me wrong.

17:54I am not talking of neutering and stuff.

17:59The man has to be liberated of the social and biological values that give him the persona

18:09of the man.

18:11Equally, the woman has to be liberated of the biology and the history that turns her

18:17into the kind of woman that we see on the road, yeah, de-gendering.

18:23That de-gendering has to happen and equally, a love and appreciation for the right values,

18:30right and gender independent values has to be fostered in both the boy and the girl,

18:36the man and the woman.

18:40Truth is beautiful.

18:43The woman is not beautiful, the man is not beautiful either.

18:47Truth is beautiful.

18:48Have a thing for truth.

18:52Compassion is wonderful.

18:59She is gorgeous, he is handsome, none of that is a patch on compassion.

19:07The compassionate one stands head and shoulder above the gorgeous one or the handsome hunk.

19:17So these values have to be there.

19:21See, Ishwankar, I can see you restless, but the thing is if in this society you are seeing

19:28a lot of distorted women, the law of duality dictates that there would be an equal amount

19:37of distortion in the men as well, because both are products of the same ecosystem.

19:43You cannot just say, oh the women are distorted.

19:46The women might be distorted and I concur that a lot of women are indeed distorted,

19:51but an equal kind of distortion would then there be necessarily present in the menfolk

19:58as well.

19:59Both the genders have their own set of problems.

20:02And hence, unless both are taken care of, neither can be taken care of.

20:12Men's liberation just cannot happen without women's liberation.

20:16Acharyaji, in light of what you just said, it's like a small digression, but I am sure

20:23it will add value to the discussion.

20:26Would you want to comment on this Indic symbol Ardhanarishwar?

20:32It seems that it is a mixture of both the genders.

20:35It is not a mixture and that pertains to something totally different.

20:41The way you see the Ardhanarishwar image, to me that's a distortion.

20:50Everything that exists in the language of Sankhya Darshan is Prakrti which has been

21:01taken as feminine.

21:03So the entire body is female.

21:06Body means everything that exists, everything that is bodily.

21:10So the body itself is female, the world, the universe itself is female because it exists.

21:17That's how the thing has been connoted in the philosophy.

21:22Everything that exists has at its heart something that is non-existent in the sense of being

21:32formless, formless, nameless.

21:36So there is Shakti, the female, which is bodily and at the heart of Shakti is Shiva.

21:44That is the right depiction of Ardhanarishwar.

21:46We see something else.

21:48Now what is shown normally, I beg to say with all due consideration is a caricature.

21:58You take 50% women and 50% men and rivet them together, that's not Ardhanarishwar.

22:06This kind of symbolism is coming from people who just don't understand what that great

22:11word means.

22:14Shiva and Shakti are not two halves glued to each other.

22:22Shiva is the heart of Shakti.

22:25Shakti is not one half of Shiva.

22:29All that exists is Shakti herself, the feminine, entire existence is feminine.

22:37At the heart of that feminine existence is Shiva.

22:42Shakti includes both men and women.

22:45All that exists, men, women, the road, the concrete, the third gender, the fourth gender,

22:55the fifth gender, all that is feminine.

22:59Everything is feminine.

23:00Why they called it feminine because, I mean, it's again got distorted into, like women

23:06are…

23:07It's like this.

23:09You'll have to understand it almost graphically.

23:17Because Acharya ji, those who charge Hinduism of sexism, they take, I mean, these two words,

23:23Purush, first mistake they do is they equate Purush with man and then they say that why

23:29did these…

23:30No, no, Purush is not man, Purush is consciousness.

23:35Pur is a fort, Pur.

23:39The same word is also used for man, I mean, it's used for man, it's a coincidence,

23:45it's a coincidence, right?

23:48Knowledgeable people do not hide behind coincidences.

23:52In all languages of the world, we have words that have two or three meanings in two or

23:58three different contexts, right?

24:01D-E-A-R.

24:03You know of the number of meanings it holds.

24:07My dear, dear is very dear.

24:10Now it would be quite, in fact, malignant of me to pick up one meaning of the word and

24:24impose it on the other one, which is then totally unrelated thing in a different context.

24:33So, Purush is consciousness, Purush does not mean man or male, no.

24:42Pur means fort, Purush is the resident of the fort.

24:47The fort is the world in general or the body in particular.

24:53This is the fort.

24:55In this fort lives the Purush.

24:58Now the body of the male is a fort and equally the body of the female is also a fort.

25:08So the Purush lives both within the male and the female, right?

25:15So in social language, you have the physical male and the physical female.

25:28In spiritual existential language, you have the physical male who is a female and the

25:40physical female who is obviously a female.

25:45And the only male is a cleaned or liberated consciousness.

25:53That is the only male.

25:55That is the only Purush.

25:58Everybody else is female.

26:00So men are females with male genitals, women are females with female genitals.

26:22But everybody is, in the spiritual sense, a female.

26:30But why do you want to get confused, bringing in the male-female and then you do not know

26:36who is a male and who is a female and get totally confused and end up entering the wrong

26:41washroom and get beaten up.

26:46So keep that aside.

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