These boys didn't quite get the married life they hoped for when they signed up for Love Is Blind UK. Melissa Nathoo sits down with Freddie, Ollie, Tom and Steven to find out what happened and what they think is the best way to meet someone. Report by Nathoom. Like us on Facebook at http://www.facebook.com/itn and follow us on Twitter at http://twitter.com/itn
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00:00Guys, it is good to see you all.
00:02Tell me how you are all feeling, first of all,
00:04now that the dust has kind of settled.
00:07I know it's been a little while for you guys,
00:09but for us, we've obviously only just seen how things panned out.
00:12But how are you feeling?
00:13I feel good.
00:14Mixed emotions for me.
00:15Yeah.
00:15An emotional rollercoaster.
00:16Yeah.
00:17Yeah.
00:17Yeah.
00:18I've heard you talk about it.
00:19Nice for it to be out in the open, for sure.
00:21It's great to see everyone today.
00:22Do you know what I mean?
00:23We've all gone so well throughout that whole experience,
00:25particularly the boys.
00:26So it's good to reconnect.
00:28OK, well, Stephen, seeing as you touched on it very briefly,
00:30let's come to you first.
00:31What did I do?
00:32On how things have worked out.
00:34I was so heartbroken, because we saw you walk down the aisle.
00:38You said, I do.
00:39And then it's not worked out.
00:41Any regrets for going through everything that you did?
00:46How are you feeling?
00:46No, I don't have any regrets.
00:47Obviously, in a breakup, when you're watching your breakup,
00:52because that's a first, obviously,
00:54you raise certain questions about your own behaviour and hindsight.
00:57So maybe there's some regrets in that element of things.
01:00But going through the whole process, no, none whatsoever.
01:03I was a little bit heartbroken to hear it didn't work out.
01:05But you guys are smiling, and that's the main thing.
01:08Freddie and Tom, you were the guys who did the leaving at the altar.
01:13But Oli, you were left at the altar.
01:17How was it?
01:18Because actually, I thought it was really admirable how you dealt with it all.
01:22I didn't want all the weight to come down on Demi.
01:24I think leading up to that, there have been conversations
01:26that had led us both to believe that it probably wasn't the right time for us.
01:29I didn't want it to be...
01:30And ultimately, I wanted to come away from this with my head held high,
01:33and we're both happy regardless of what the outcome was, so to speak.
01:36So I think I touched on it at the time.
01:37It's like, I've still got a best friend in her for life.
01:40I've still got best friends in these guys.
01:41So I refuse to come away thinking of myself as anything other than a winner
01:44just because I didn't get married.
01:45I don't look at it as first and second place.
01:47If you come away with a head full of memories and new friends,
01:51how can I look at it as anything other than a good thing?
01:53Yeah.
01:53Have you guys all been hanging out in the interim?
01:56Have you seen much?
01:57As much as we can.
01:58Yeah, it's been very minimal.
01:59Yeah, I mean, I live up north, so for me, it's been hard.
02:03But I've kept in touch with a couple of lads and stuff.
02:05But yeah, we're all in touch.
02:07We're all mates.
02:07We're all mates, you know.
02:09Everybody, everybody.
02:10Is there a group WhatsApp?
02:11There's a few.
02:12Yeah.
02:13Oh, who's not in which one?
02:15I get political.
02:16Someone, no, will there?
02:18I'm not getting involved, though.
02:20I don't get involved.
02:22I don't get involved.
02:23Just don't answer.
02:25You've got the muted, Freddie.
02:26I just don't get involved.
02:27He's the quiet one in the group.
02:28I'm the quiet one.
02:30Like you said, it didn't work out for you guys,
02:33but it didn't necessarily mean that it was the end.
02:36So have you seen, like, your prospective other halves?
02:40Or have you been on any other dates with anyone else in the meantime?
02:43For me personally, you know, it was, the journey was,
02:47it was a roller coaster, like Steve said.
02:50Ups and downs.
02:51And it was very overwhelming.
02:53A lot of pressure.
02:54And I met an amazing girl,
02:59but there was a lot of pressure from her, I felt, on me as well.
03:03And it wasn't until the moment between sort of,
03:09we had a brief spell where we were at home prior to the weddings,
03:12you know, where we had a bit of a time to ourselves.
03:14And it was really that time where I had time
03:16to kind of reflect on myself and think,
03:18I've got the opportunity now, my mind's clear.
03:20And I had a bit of clarity.
03:22But up until that point, it was just a lot of pressure.
03:24I have stayed in touch with Kat.
03:26She's a good girl.
03:27We did try and sort of continue things after.
03:31But I think it was quite clear that we were quite different.
03:34And personally, I've not been dating.
03:39But I'm not, obviously, I can't speak for Kat.
03:41Okay.
03:42There's a lot of love out there for you though, Freddie.
03:44I don't know if you've seen it, but there's a lot of love.
03:46So you're not going to be short on others.
03:48Honestly, the comments section of my social media is just about Freddie.
03:51It's like, can I meet Freddie?
03:53Aww.
03:54Yeah, they can.
03:55How about you and Maria?
03:56Similar story to Freddie, I think.
03:58Like Maria and I were like, we had an amazing journey together
04:03and got on so, so well.
04:04Obviously, the differences in our values
04:06were probably the main reason why we didn't work out.
04:09We were fully intending on staying in contact.
04:12It's just, it's hard.
04:13Like when you break up with someone,
04:14particularly when you break up in front of millions of people,
04:18there is like, it's hard to stay in touch with any ex, right?
04:20But so I think, you know,
04:21we stayed in touch for a few weeks after the show
04:23and have been in touch sporadically.
04:26Obviously, I think, you know, I have to respect her feelings
04:28about how some of the show sort of was portrayed
04:31and her feelings around that.
04:33So I've always got a lot of time for her and a lot of respect.
04:36But yeah, I'm not sure it'd be appropriate for us to be besties.
04:38That's fair enough.
04:39Yeah, it's a lot.
04:40I can't even imagine watching this all back.
04:42Did you actually want to watch it back?
04:44Or is it like, no guys, you're not.
04:46I can't miss the fun bits between Andrew and others.
04:49But yeah, it's weird because I think,
04:51I don't know if you guys feel the same,
04:52but when you're watching it,
04:53it kind of takes you back there again.
04:54Yeah, definitely.
04:54The bits that made you feel really, really happy,
04:55make you feel happy again.
04:56The bits that weren't so easy,
04:58you kind of go through that again.
05:00So it's like, it's a weird one.
05:01Definitely.
05:01We all had different highs and lows, didn't we?
05:03Like for me, like the pods was amazing.
05:06It was like, there was some real magic around it.
05:08And it was just, it was hanging out with these boys.
05:09But then also those dates, it was like,
05:11it was like therapy for me,
05:12those pods being one-on-one with all those people.
05:14So the rest of it, I found a bit more challenging.
05:17Yeah, I found the first four episodes emotional.
05:19I was crying at his reveal, let alone my own.
05:21It was emotional.
05:23And that's where you caught the feelings for the first time,
05:25was during that process, you know.
05:27And it's the first time we saw each other date.
05:29And so you only saw the one side of your mate
05:32going through what they went through,
05:33their own journeys,
05:34and activate their own obstacles and hurdles.
05:37But you didn't actually see what was going on
05:39and what caused the result of that, you know.
05:41Was there anything when you're watching it back
05:43that you saw the other do?
05:44You're like, oh dude, why did you do that?
05:46Yeah, loads.
05:47Loads.
05:50Yeah, I mean, yeah, I've seen stuff.
05:52And I'm thinking like, hmm.
05:53You're not going to give me specific?
05:55No, but there's definitely things I've seen.
05:56I'm thinking, oh, okay.
05:58For me, it was the other way around.
05:59I was like, fuck it, Oli's got game.
06:01I mean, I need to learn some stuff from him.
06:04Oh, you were taking tips.
06:05You were like, nice.
06:06Exactly, exactly.
06:07Okay, then I'm a girl who has struggled to meet a guy
06:10for the longest time.
06:11So what is your advice?
06:13What would you say is the best way to meet a guy for me?
06:16There's a show called Love Is Blind.
06:19Well, I will be signing up for the next series.
06:21As cheesy as it sounds, I think when you're not looking for it,
06:22sometimes that's the best time.
06:23It's like you can bump in someone in like a mutual hobby
06:26or whatever, be there.
06:27Run clubs are the thing these days, isn't it?
06:29Oh God, I tried it, guys.
06:31Everyone's meeting their partners there.
06:33But yeah, I think things like that.
06:33Like, I think, I don't know.
06:35What do you guys think?
06:35I think, like, my experience on that,
06:37it was all about dating with intent, right?
06:39And like going into dates and saying, this is who I am.
06:41This is what I'm looking for in a partner.
06:43And I think when you do that,
06:44it shows that you're taking that experience seriously.
06:46So I'd do that in any dating situation moving forward.
06:49I say just be yourself.
06:50Don't go in there with expectations.
06:53Then it takes all the pressure away.
06:55Then you can be yourself.
06:56You can be vulnerable.
06:57And then that's where the beauty happens, I think.
06:59Okay.
07:00Yeah, same.
07:01I just think just, you know, it'll just naturally occur, hopefully.
07:04But I'd rather, see, I'm not the kind of person
07:07to go out to like clubs and stuff and chat to girls and stuff.
07:11So I'd just rather meet someone in my car phone warehouse or something.
07:15I never even existed in my car phone warehouse at the time.
07:18The nation wants to know.
07:19I'll give you an upgrade.
07:20You're getting forms of girls when you're outside your car phone warehouse as well.
07:24I mean phones, not girls.
07:28Brilliant.
07:28I will try that.
07:30Thanks.
07:31I'll see you outside the car phone warehouse.
07:34Guys, it's been genuinely really enjoyable.
07:36I spend that time with you, weirdly, through a TV screen.
07:40It's been really lovely.
07:41So I know you probably didn't get the outcome that you wanted.
07:43But you made for great TV.
07:47And I do wish you luck.
07:48You know what?
07:49Everyone wants love in their lives, right?
07:51At some point.
07:51So here's hoping.
07:52Thank you so much, guys.
07:55You were lovely.
07:56See you guys.