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00:00:31Assalam-o-Alaikum, good morning, good morning Pakistan
00:00:35How are you? How are you all?
00:00:38I hope you are doing well. Life goes on very well
00:00:41Especially if both parents are involved in your upbringing
00:00:46Mother and father
00:00:48It is said that husband and wife are like two wheels of a car
00:00:51But we can also say that parents are like two wheels of a car
00:00:55Because husband and wife don't just drive the car of life
00:00:59But as parents, they also drive the children
00:01:02And there are many techniques in couples
00:01:06Regarding the upbringing of children
00:01:08Sometimes one of the couples becomes a good cop
00:01:12Sometimes a bad cop
00:01:14And with that, with good and bad
00:01:17With anger and love
00:01:19With love and a little hate
00:01:22Sometimes the children have to improve
00:01:25And that improvement is then passed on to the parents
00:01:30Because the parents feel that the biggest foundation of their life
00:01:34Whatever it may seem
00:01:36They have children
00:01:37No matter how much property they make
00:01:39No matter how hard they work
00:01:40No matter how busy they are
00:01:41To build empires
00:01:42But if their children don't walk on the right path
00:01:45And won't be able to stand on their own feet
00:01:47And what they want to make their children
00:01:49Or that child wants to do something important in life
00:01:55If she gets it
00:01:57Then the parents feel that their upbringing has brought color
00:02:02Sometimes the children are very cunning
00:02:06They take a lot of advantage
00:02:08If father scolds, they hide behind mother
00:02:10If mother scolds, they complain to father
00:02:12And sometimes they take the support of the differences between mother and father
00:02:19And they get out of trouble
00:02:21In the future, they have to bear the circumstances
00:02:25Because of which they were not successful in life
00:02:30So many
00:02:32Often we say
00:02:34When we were young, we were not aware of our parents
00:02:39Whatever our parents said
00:02:42Whatever our parents showed us, explained to us
00:02:44We thought it was right
00:02:46We were inspired by them
00:02:47We made them ideal
00:02:48Which is right to an extent
00:02:50Parents are very sincere with you
00:02:52And they give you the right guidelines
00:02:55But sometimes the elders can be wrong
00:02:57The world has changed
00:02:59And it is not necessary that if father earns and brings
00:03:04Then whatever mother says will be wrong
00:03:07No
00:03:08Sometimes mothers are absolutely right in some matters
00:03:11And sometimes fathers are absolutely right in some matters
00:03:14Their foresight
00:03:16Their guidance
00:03:18Or the ways told by mother
00:03:21On which to follow
00:03:23Sometimes both the ways are the same
00:03:25Because if mother does not have her own strength
00:03:27Whatever father said, mother followed
00:03:29But sometimes it is like this
00:03:31And vice versa can also happen
00:03:32Sometimes father does not have the strength
00:03:34And whatever mother said, he followed
00:03:37But sometimes both the parents are very strong headed
00:03:41And they are very intelligent couples
00:03:44So a man has his own perception
00:03:47A woman has her own perception
00:03:49Children have to choose
00:03:52At what time in life
00:03:55They have to hold their father's hand
00:03:57And at what time they have to hold their mother's dupatta
00:04:01So keeping both things in balance
00:04:04You can carve your life
00:04:07So today we have brought such a different topic
00:04:10Sometimes mother is right
00:04:12Sometimes father is wrong
00:04:14Sometimes father is right
00:04:15Sometimes mother is wrong
00:04:16Today celebrities will tell you from their experiences
00:04:19That at what point in life
00:04:21The decision of mother was told
00:04:23That was useful for them
00:04:24And the way told by father
00:04:26That was useful for them
00:04:28Stay with us after a short break
00:04:29So that it is easy for you to analyze
00:04:32Whether your mother is right in your life
00:04:34Or father
00:04:35Do you want to get married at your aunt's house
00:04:37Or at your aunt's house
00:04:39Good morning
00:04:50Welcome
00:04:51Welcome back
00:04:52Good morning Pakistan
00:04:53Today you will see our screen a little different
00:04:55There are some guests under one roof
00:04:58To whom I yearn to talk
00:05:01And I say call them
00:05:03I want to hear very good things
00:05:06So I said today is Monday
00:05:08It is such a beautiful day
00:05:09So some people
00:05:11People
00:05:12Common people
00:05:13I think they speak from the tongue
00:05:15They speak from the heart
00:05:16So what is in the heart
00:05:17It goes to the heart
00:05:19And that's why
00:05:20Today my heart wants to talk to them
00:05:22And your heart will want to hear
00:05:24Our topic is
00:05:25At what point in life
00:05:27I listened to my mother
00:05:29And at what point I listened to my father
00:05:31So
00:05:32Their parents are also obviously educated
00:05:35And
00:05:37In listening to them
00:05:38They benefited in life
00:05:40On one side is my Nadia Jameel
00:05:42Assalamualaikum
00:05:43Walaikumussalam
00:05:44Now the day has come
00:05:45That everyone listens to you
00:05:47You
00:05:48Speak professionally
00:05:49And everyone is listening to you
00:05:51And on the other side
00:05:52I have Komal Aziz
00:05:53Assalamualaikum
00:05:54Assalamualaikum
00:05:55Thank you for such a lovely introduction
00:05:56She is a small business woman
00:05:57Small
00:05:58Younger
00:05:59Youngest
00:06:00Business woman
00:06:01Looking in front of me
00:06:02She does acting
00:06:03But she also does business
00:06:05She has supported me a lot
00:06:07Thank you so much
00:06:08So now these two
00:06:09Where is the third one?
00:06:10Getting ready
00:06:11Getting ready
00:06:12As I told you
00:06:13Our topic is
00:06:14That in life
00:06:16No matter what age we are
00:06:18We need support from our parents
00:06:22Their love, love, prayers
00:06:25And
00:06:26We need their guidance
00:06:28Whether we are young
00:06:30Whether we get married
00:06:31Whether we become a mother
00:06:32So
00:06:33So I will ask you people
00:06:35And I will start
00:06:36When and where
00:06:37Whose need is felt
00:06:41Yes
00:06:42This
00:06:43Nadia
00:06:44Come back
00:06:45My friend
00:06:46My mother is also gone
00:06:47It's been three years now
00:06:50So this
00:06:51Time
00:06:52Will keep going
00:06:53What to do
00:06:54The people Allah has sent
00:06:56They belong to them
00:06:57He will take them back too
00:06:59Their memories and their talks
00:07:01Are left
00:07:02When we get a chance
00:07:03To talk about them
00:07:04Absolutely
00:07:05Komal was very young
00:07:06Komal you were so
00:07:09You were in first year
00:07:10When your father died
00:07:11Yes
00:07:12Right?
00:07:13So
00:07:14Yes
00:07:15We all
00:07:16Have lost one by one
00:07:17In our lives
00:07:20Should I start from here?
00:07:21Absolutely
00:07:22Yes
00:07:23Let's come to the topic
00:07:24Will you put the slide?
00:07:26Okay
00:07:27Let's start from there
00:07:29We get emotional
00:07:30To our parents
00:07:31Yes
00:07:32Because
00:07:33Education
00:07:34And
00:07:35Slash
00:07:36Entertainment
00:07:37Both
00:07:38I think
00:07:39What to do
00:07:40In life
00:07:41Yes
00:07:42Now
00:07:43Mother
00:07:44I think
00:07:45My education
00:07:46In school
00:07:47Sticks
00:07:48Discipline
00:07:49Absolutely
00:07:50That was mother
00:07:51I was very naughty
00:07:52In school
00:07:53Yes
00:07:54In convent
00:07:55I was very rebellious
00:07:56Everyday
00:07:57In front of sister's office
00:07:58Mother was sitting
00:07:59Because of complaints
00:08:00Because
00:08:01I was running
00:08:02From the class
00:08:03Father
00:08:06Father
00:08:07May Allah
00:08:08Keep him high
00:08:09Father
00:08:10I
00:08:11Father
00:08:12Was very fond of singing
00:08:13Okay
00:08:14My brother also
00:08:15Learned singing from Fateh Ali Khan
00:08:16Okay
00:08:17At a young age
00:08:18He tried to teach me
00:08:19But I used to run away
00:08:20Yes
00:08:21Fond of singing
00:08:22Watching movies with father
00:08:23Old movies
00:08:24The entertainment person
00:08:25In the house
00:08:26Was father
00:08:27Father
00:08:28Mother
00:08:29What to do
00:08:30Take a stick
00:08:31And teach
00:08:32Nothing can be done
00:08:33And I think
00:08:34It's in the balance
00:08:35And not in the personality
00:08:36Yes
00:08:37Because
00:08:38Both are right
00:08:39In that regard
00:08:40Yes
00:08:41But father
00:08:42Was away from studies
00:08:43So his stick
00:08:44Was very hard
00:08:45To go back
00:08:46To studies
00:08:47Yes
00:08:48So
00:08:49My father
00:08:50Was very laid back
00:08:51Okay
00:08:52Father was very laid back
00:08:53My mother
00:08:54Was disciplinary
00:08:56Okay
00:08:57So
00:08:58Same
00:09:00Same
00:09:02Sometimes
00:09:04To spoil the kids, there is a father
00:09:06And to improve the kids, there is a mother
00:09:08And where there is a mother
00:09:10God has made such a balance
00:09:12This is good for daughters
00:09:14Father is spoiled and mother is improving
00:09:16This is good for daughters
00:09:18I think
00:09:20The father and daughter relationship
00:09:22I see it in
00:09:24Noor and Ali
00:09:26That is a very special relationship
00:09:28Nadia
00:09:30Often we get stuck on
00:09:32When we are very confused
00:09:34We have a special age
00:09:36We don't know which subject
00:09:38To choose
00:09:40After 8th or 9th
00:09:42There comes a time
00:09:44When we think of science or art
00:09:46This is a very common thing
00:09:48For the masses
00:09:50They don't know
00:09:52Which field to go
00:09:54We have facilities
00:09:56We have internet
00:09:58But when we were growing up
00:10:00Me and Nadia
00:10:02We didn't know
00:10:04What our parents used to say
00:10:06We used to follow the same path
00:10:08At that time
00:10:10Who decided
00:10:12My mother is a very independent woman
00:10:14Okay
00:10:16She gave me independence
00:10:18At the age of 7
00:10:20She put me in an elocution
00:10:22At the age of 12
00:10:24I was in England
00:10:26In the elocution
00:10:28I had a relationship
00:10:30With words
00:10:32With literature
00:10:34With poetry
00:10:36I was 13
00:10:38When I started working with Ajoka
00:10:40Nadia Khalla
00:10:42Nadia Gauhar
00:10:44Because of your mother
00:10:46After that
00:10:48My
00:10:50We overthink
00:10:52As a life coach
00:10:54I work with many kids
00:10:56I see
00:10:58They use their head brain
00:11:00And overthink
00:11:02We have two more brains
00:11:04One is cardiac
00:11:06And the other is gut brain
00:11:08I went with my gut and my heart
00:11:10I didn't overthink it so much
00:11:12Some people
00:11:14Think with their mind
00:11:16Nadia thought with her heart
00:11:18Now I have learned
00:11:20To align my three brains
00:11:22Here is compassion
00:11:24Here is creativity
00:11:26Here is courage
00:11:28He is a general
00:11:30He will make a strategy
00:11:32He will do it
00:11:34If you are doing it or not
00:11:36The problem is with the gut
00:11:38The way you talk
00:11:40Did you learn it from your mother or father?
00:11:42The way I talk
00:11:44Someone picks it from somewhere
00:11:46It comes in the genes
00:11:48It's a very good question
00:11:50I have never thought about it
00:11:52It's my way of talking
00:11:54I don't know
00:11:56I think both
00:11:58Speak very well
00:12:00So you picked it from them
00:12:02My father was more quiet in public
00:12:04Okay
00:12:06My mother is more social
00:12:08More hospitable
00:12:10I think when I was becoming an actor
00:12:12I had other mentors
00:12:14Shoaib Hashmi was my uncle
00:12:16Okay
00:12:18I learned a lot from him
00:12:20A lot
00:12:22The push that comes in showbiz
00:12:24Nadia must have
00:12:26Heard a lot
00:12:28When you teach so much to a child
00:12:30At such a young age
00:12:32At a certain age
00:12:34The child is hearing
00:12:36What my instinct says
00:12:38She supported me a lot
00:12:40My mother was very excited
00:12:42She liked it
00:12:44When I got a job
00:12:46She was very happy
00:12:48With the applause
00:12:50But my father
00:12:52He saw a talent in me
00:12:54He used to talk to me about it
00:12:56He used to get very irritated
00:12:58When I got away from the stage
00:13:00When I went to Cambridge for 8-9 years
00:13:02With the kids
00:13:04My father used to get very angry
00:13:06Why aren't you on stage?
00:13:08Why aren't you doing productions?
00:13:10So both your parents
00:13:12Liked that your daughter
00:13:14But they were more
00:13:16Encouraged by your father
00:13:18Always
00:13:20In this field
00:13:22Show the next slide
00:13:24Savings
00:13:26At our house
00:13:28Mom and dad
00:13:30Are poles apart
00:13:32Two people
00:13:34Can be opposite
00:13:36I used to think
00:13:38Their arranged marriage
00:13:40Couldn't be like this
00:13:42So dad
00:13:44Spends a lot
00:13:46And mom
00:13:48Is very stingy
00:13:50See
00:13:52God makes a pair
00:13:54Not stingy
00:13:56But mom
00:13:58Had to be stingy
00:14:00So mom says
00:14:02When she got married to dad
00:14:04Dad said
00:14:06I don't know
00:14:08All the debts
00:14:10He had a big heart
00:14:12Dad is very spiritual
00:14:14Again
00:14:16Very elevated
00:14:18And mom is very worldly
00:14:20So a spiritual person
00:14:22Doesn't value money
00:14:24He says money
00:14:26Is a temporary thing
00:14:28We are poor
00:14:30God will give
00:14:32Savings
00:14:34We have two daughters
00:14:36We have to plan
00:14:38This was the difference
00:14:40My personality
00:14:42Is that I have
00:14:44Taken both
00:14:46But in terms of money
00:14:48I have seen mom's savings
00:14:50Because I think
00:14:52Dad died
00:14:54And dad was sick for a long time
00:14:56So
00:14:58Mom's savings
00:15:00Mom used to save
00:15:0250% of our income
00:15:06With so much care
00:15:08Because
00:15:10In Pakistan
00:15:12It is said
00:15:14Sons earn
00:15:16Daughters get married
00:15:18So they were
00:15:20Traditional
00:15:22At that time
00:15:24They thought
00:15:26They will give me dowry
00:15:28But they had planned
00:15:30Not to depend on their daughters
00:15:32So mom
00:15:34Saved
00:15:36And you learned this
00:15:38From mom
00:15:40And dad
00:15:42Was very fond of books
00:15:44Sometimes books from Germany
00:15:46Sometimes from France
00:15:48At that time
00:15:50All the money was spent
00:15:52And at home
00:15:54There was an argument
00:15:56I am saving so much
00:15:58On eggs and milk
00:16:00I am buying from Jumma Bazaar
00:16:02And you are buying expensive books
00:16:04The thing is
00:16:06You used to buy books
00:16:08All the expenses were on books
00:16:10But for me
00:16:12Books are a beautiful thing
00:16:14And there are many things
00:16:16In this world
00:16:18You want to spend money
00:16:20But in our life
00:16:22I earn so well
00:16:24But my mom is not dependent on anyone
00:16:26She is not dependent on anyone
00:16:28Dad got sick
00:16:30And he is not in this world
00:16:32But mom made her savings
00:16:34Made her properties
00:16:36And it happened because of mom
00:16:38So I learned it
00:16:40And I think
00:16:42Savings are very important
00:16:44For women
00:16:46And this is such a beautiful thing
00:16:48Because I got it from mom
00:16:50Me too
00:16:52I don't know
00:16:54Mom sent me to college
00:16:56Mom got me married
00:16:58Dad used to tell me
00:17:00To study
00:17:02I was 29 when I got married
00:17:04Same
00:17:06Dad had a room
00:17:08He had a library
00:17:10Animals
00:17:12Music
00:17:14Old movies
00:17:16Books
00:17:18We used to share books
00:17:20And mom
00:17:22Practical
00:17:24Grounded
00:17:26They have to study
00:17:28They have to go to college
00:17:30I have a third guest
00:17:32I want to ask you
00:17:34How did you filter
00:17:36That I have to listen to dad
00:17:38And mom
00:17:40Let's call Urussa Siddiqui
00:17:42With us
00:17:44Hello
00:17:46How are you?
00:17:48Hello
00:17:50How are you?
00:17:52Your makeup is amazing
00:17:54You saw before and after
00:17:56A.I's makeup department
00:17:58Is the most
00:18:00Efficient
00:18:02Time management
00:18:04Stress management
00:18:06In the morning
00:18:08You look lovely
00:18:10Thank you
00:18:12It's the best
00:18:14They don't plaster you
00:18:16They don't plaster you
00:18:18For you
00:18:205 stars
00:18:225 stars
00:18:24You fixed my hair
00:18:26I'm so proud
00:18:28Thank you
00:18:32Today's topic
00:18:34Is related to mom and dad
00:18:36We have heard mom
00:18:38And dad
00:18:40Before you came
00:18:42I asked
00:18:44Now I have to listen to mom
00:18:46And dad
00:18:48In our house
00:18:50Mom and dad had different thoughts
00:18:52About life
00:18:54We had to filter
00:18:56What's better for us
00:18:58I filtered
00:19:00You ask
00:19:02This is a general question
00:19:04Their life lessons
00:19:06Because their life
00:19:08Passed in front of me
00:19:10I'm in my 30s
00:19:12I have seen
00:19:14Dad wasn't
00:19:16Saving as much as mom
00:19:18But now
00:19:20I'm seeing mom's life
00:19:22Not dependent on anyone
00:19:24I learned
00:19:26Women should be like this
00:19:28Independent
00:19:30Dad is right
00:19:32Don't save money
00:19:34Spend it on books
00:19:36It's beautiful
00:19:38But after seeing life
00:19:40I think
00:19:42For example
00:19:44My dad is friendly
00:19:46He gets along with people
00:19:48My mom was strict
00:19:50I liked
00:19:52Dad's things
00:19:54So I picked his
00:19:56Mom was
00:19:58Forward
00:20:00I used to think
00:20:02This is a good habit
00:20:04At some point in life
00:20:06I adopted his habit
00:20:08I saw his mistakes
00:20:10If something was wrong
00:20:12Or good
00:20:14Life shows you
00:20:16Mistakes
00:20:18Sometimes mom
00:20:20Sometimes dad
00:20:22Learn from your parents
00:20:24Mistakes
00:20:26I find it interesting
00:20:28After being a parent
00:20:30When I had a child
00:20:32I thought
00:20:34I will teach him
00:20:36We will tell him about life
00:20:38We will do everything
00:20:40But while I was a kid
00:20:42When I grew up
00:20:44I got married late
00:20:46I spent a lot of time with my parents
00:20:48I took their decisions
00:20:50From childhood
00:20:52Till old age
00:20:54I saw the result
00:20:56There were a lot of things
00:20:58Even we felt
00:21:00As a kid
00:21:02I can teach
00:21:04To guide
00:21:06The best part was
00:21:08My parents were
00:21:10Timeless
00:21:12Both of them
00:21:14There was a contradiction
00:21:16But both of them
00:21:18Timeless
00:21:20And taking their decisions
00:21:22Made me realize
00:21:24In some decisions
00:21:26You have to take together
00:21:28In some decisions
00:21:30You have to take a stand
00:21:32If you take a stand
00:21:34You will get the result
00:21:36If this kid
00:21:38Understands
00:21:40In today's internet
00:21:42And social media
00:21:44Our focus is so small
00:21:46We don't look at
00:21:48What our parents are doing
00:21:50I hope this generation
00:21:52Gets time
00:21:54To see what we did
00:21:56And what mistakes we made
00:21:58We learned a little
00:22:00We will continue after the break
00:22:02And after the break
00:22:04We will talk about
00:22:06Mom and dad
00:22:08Their life
00:22:10And our parents
00:22:12Good morning Pakistan
00:22:14Stay with us
00:22:26Welcome
00:22:28Good morning Pakistan
00:22:30I am fresh
00:22:32But my three sons-in-law
00:22:34Just imagine
00:22:36It's so contagious
00:22:38When colleagues
00:22:40Come to office
00:22:42You get energized
00:22:44By their energy
00:22:46Don't you dare
00:22:48Have sons-in-law
00:22:50Monday blues
00:22:52I don't come on your shows
00:22:54Because Hamza's school
00:22:56I won't start my week
00:22:58So I asked
00:23:00What's the difference
00:23:02So I sent three kids to school
00:23:04I gave birth to one
00:23:06Three kids or seven
00:23:08My mom has seven siblings
00:23:10I gave birth to
00:23:12The first kid in the world
00:23:14And this is it for me
00:23:16This is what's going on
00:23:18This is what's going on
00:23:20Are you praying?
00:23:22No
00:23:24Where are you sitting?
00:23:26Mom must be awake
00:23:28Let's go to Urusa
00:23:30What did Urusa learn?
00:23:32Equality among kids
00:23:34That's the title
00:23:36Dad and mom
00:23:38Decide everything together
00:23:40But the upbringing
00:23:42Of a mother
00:23:44Because mom was a homemaker
00:23:46And we grew up in Riyadh
00:23:48So there
00:23:50There is no concept
00:23:52You have to do your work
00:23:54So there
00:23:56As we grew up
00:23:58Young age mom
00:24:00Gave us house chores
00:24:02It wasn't like
00:24:04Washing dishes or vacuuming
00:24:06Was my responsibility
00:24:08So all of us
00:24:10One daughter and two sons
00:24:12So how does mom
00:24:14Spend time with one daughter
00:24:16And this daughter
00:24:18So mom
00:24:20Mom
00:24:22If I'm making avtari
00:24:24Then Rafay is picking it
00:24:26If I'm cutting fruit chaat
00:24:28Then Rameez is making juice
00:24:30Not just four people
00:24:32So only the daughter
00:24:34So mom was very equal
00:24:36In dad's house or mom's house
00:24:38But dad never
00:24:40Said anything
00:24:42That it's good or not
00:24:44We had it from inside
00:24:46More than me
00:24:48We do all the work
00:24:50But now when we're grown up
00:24:52And don't have
00:24:54The facilities
00:24:56Like brother went out
00:24:58To cook
00:25:00So he's taking care
00:25:02So like this
00:25:04Dad said when I went
00:25:06To Saudi Arabia from Pakistan
00:25:08I had to learn everything
00:25:10Because I was the father of my family
00:25:12So he had to learn a lot
00:25:14And your brother
00:25:16So it was useful
00:25:18And at that time
00:25:20For brothers and sisters
00:25:22It was a joke
00:25:24Mom never thought
00:25:26That it was a joke
00:25:28Mom was confident
00:25:30That I make all three do the work
00:25:32Because this is what we should do
00:25:34Dad didn't do much
00:25:36But I saw dad at the party
00:25:38That he was cutting vegetables
00:25:40Or Sunday's drawing room
00:25:42Detail pro cleaning
00:25:44He did that
00:25:46But mom
00:25:48Used to say
00:25:50You're all equal
00:25:52You all have to do it
00:25:54Dad never said anything
00:25:56And this saying
00:25:58That really helped
00:26:00Because even today
00:26:02We're all grown up
00:26:04We're all married
00:26:06Dad went up
00:26:08May god bless him
00:26:10But all those things
00:26:12With your husband
00:26:14It's not just that I'll stay at home
00:26:16And it's your job to do this and that
00:26:18So it's a good responsibility
00:26:20When there's empathy for each other
00:26:22It's very useful
00:26:24Even if the husband realizes
00:26:26That he has to take care of the kids all night
00:26:28Let him sleep, I'll go
00:26:30Or if she's a housewife
00:26:32Or if she's a housewife
00:26:34And she sees that her husband is doing double duties
00:26:36Because the expenses are not being paid
00:26:38Then why not do something
00:26:40So that I can help her
00:26:42So this empathy is very important
00:26:44And I've defined it
00:26:46This is what a woman does
00:26:48And a man does
00:26:50And between the two of us
00:26:52Sugar and clean
00:26:54He's my brother
00:26:56Everything
00:26:58I swear if you come to my house
00:27:00Why am I revealing this
00:27:02But
00:27:04This is the purpose of all the shows
00:27:06I'm sorry
00:27:08If there's food in a plastic box
00:27:10I'll tell you to hold the spoon
00:27:12My mother will be shocked
00:27:14Because my mother
00:27:16U.P. Urdu speaking
00:27:18Everything
00:27:20Her napkin
00:27:22Everything
00:27:24He's my brother
00:27:26If you take the plate from here
00:27:28He'll leave everything
00:27:30For a minute
00:27:32So that you can get back to your place
00:27:34That mother's quality
00:27:36When you walk into the room
00:27:38He's polishing
00:27:40His floor
00:27:42Rafay
00:27:44He makes the best biryani
00:27:46The food that they make
00:27:48Rafay roasts
00:27:50There won't be a scratch on his mobile
00:27:52His things will never get lost
00:27:54He's never asking
00:27:56Where's this? Where's that?
00:27:58You must have thrown it
00:28:00It sounds like you were my son
00:28:02When I was growing up
00:28:04He was totally my son
00:28:08Only when I went to study
00:28:10I learned to cook
00:28:12And I love cooking
00:28:14I still haven't fallen in love with cooking
00:28:16I also love cooking
00:28:18It's really meditative
00:28:20My mother hates cooking
00:28:22You like peeling onions
00:28:24And chopping them
00:28:26And peeling potatoes
00:28:28This isn't a cooking show
00:28:30I like it
00:28:32When he chops onions
00:28:34There should be equality
00:28:40I'm seeing onions now
00:28:42Show them the slide
00:28:44Oh my god, wrestling
00:28:46My son
00:28:48Now I want to hear this
00:28:50Wrestling is my father
00:28:52May he go to heaven
00:28:54My father and I
00:28:56My father used to make us fight
00:28:58Like chickens
00:29:00And my father
00:29:02He's a great Hafiz
00:29:04He's well educated
00:29:06He's not that spiritual
00:29:08But when it was time to play
00:29:10My father
00:29:12My father used to play with us
00:29:14My father's age
00:29:16My brother is a little
00:29:18You know
00:29:20You know
00:29:22I'm like
00:29:24My father used to be a referee
00:29:26My brother used to say
00:29:28I don't want to do it
00:29:30My brother was more of a
00:29:32I'm delicate
00:29:34So I used to attack my father
00:29:36My father used to have a wrestling match
00:29:38Full
00:29:40And my father used to cheat
00:29:42And start tickling
00:29:44And my father
00:29:46I used to tickle him
00:29:48And he used to
00:29:50And I used to scream
00:29:52And beg him not to tickle
00:29:54My father used to do this
00:29:56Exactly
00:29:58My laughter
00:30:00It's the same
00:30:02I cannot stand tickling
00:30:04I cannot stand it
00:30:06And my mother
00:30:08My UP mother
00:30:10Who likes etiquette
00:30:12You're sitting properly
00:30:14You're a woman
00:30:16What is this?
00:30:18What is this?
00:30:20You know
00:30:22Stop it
00:30:24What was your father saying?
00:30:26He used to go into a room
00:30:28And ask you to come
00:30:30My father would only stop
00:30:32Until one of us
00:30:34Wins
00:30:36He wasn't scared
00:30:38Of my mother
00:30:40And later
00:30:42He used to sing
00:30:44Your eyes are full of life
00:30:46But the romance
00:30:48They were poles apart
00:30:50My mother is a socialist
00:30:52And her love marriage
00:30:54Total love marriage
00:30:56This concept has changed
00:30:58Because opposites attract
00:31:00They say
00:31:02Total opposites
00:31:04If you have an understanding
00:31:06You'll find someone like you
00:31:08It's not like that
00:31:10Life will be boring
00:31:12My husband and I are opposites
00:31:14I've heard of long marriages
00:31:16You and Yasir
00:31:18Are complete opposites
00:31:20Me and Saqib
00:31:22You've worked with Saqib
00:31:24I'm his wife
00:31:26How can I sleep?
00:31:28I've understood
00:31:30They should be equal
00:31:32My mother and father
00:31:34Were complete opposites
00:31:36But we had fun
00:31:38No no
00:31:40Ali is also
00:31:42This is the thing
00:31:44Although Ali
00:31:46We're in our fifties
00:31:48Ali is your brother
00:31:50My husband
00:31:52I get confused
00:31:54Ali is your brother
00:32:00I get confused
00:32:02When he was abroad
00:32:04I get confused
00:32:06About his brother and husband
00:32:08Do they look alike?
00:32:10I think so
00:32:12They're Kashmiri
00:32:14We're from Patil
00:32:16They've become partners
00:32:20They used to be quiet
00:32:22But now
00:32:24I'm quiet
00:32:26He commands the room
00:32:28Is it true
00:32:30That up to forties
00:32:32They start glowing
00:32:34Your personalities rub off
00:32:36On one another
00:32:38I was weird
00:32:40About money
00:32:42My mother was the one
00:32:44I was like my father
00:32:46Now I'm
00:32:48Going towards the stock market
00:32:50Ali does investment
00:32:52I'm getting involved
00:32:54I'm more quiet
00:32:56Ali sings
00:32:58In gatherings
00:33:00They both have
00:33:02Different personalities
00:33:04I used to be very social
00:33:06I was 14
00:33:08Now I'm 52
00:33:10I used to tell Umar
00:33:12I used to give him a birthday
00:33:14On your show
00:33:16The world knows
00:33:18I used to tell Umar
00:33:20My parents were not even married
00:33:22Now I'm 52
00:33:24I also tell Umar
00:33:28Today's show is not
00:33:30About telling Umar
00:33:32Next slide
00:33:34Her father used to do wrestling
00:33:36O levels
00:33:38This was also a big thing
00:33:40What subject do you want to choose?
00:33:42Do you want to go to Cambridge or O-Level?
00:33:44Do you want to go to the Matric system?
00:33:46Do you want to do engineering or medical?
00:33:48Do you want to do science or arts?
00:33:50There is a lot of confusion.
00:33:52For middle class people, O-Level is very expensive.
00:33:54Because in pounds,
00:33:56your exam fees goes.
00:33:58School is also very expensive.
00:34:00We used to study in a normal Matric system school.
00:34:02But I was very good in studies.
00:34:04Like I have told you many times on the show.
00:34:06I was very good in studies.
00:34:08There was a parent-teacher meeting.
00:34:10I think I was in 7th or 8th grade.
00:34:12They called my mother.
00:34:14They put their job in danger.
00:34:16They said,
00:34:18your daughter studies so well.
00:34:20Which school have you put her in?
00:34:22Change her school.
00:34:24Send her to American school.
00:34:26My parents said,
00:34:28American school is good.
00:34:30You can't go to American school.
00:34:32They said,
00:34:34O-Level is close to Bacon House.
00:34:36They told my mother.
00:34:38My mother didn't understand
00:34:40the whole thing.
00:34:42Everyone used to study in Matric system.
00:34:44They were teaching there.
00:34:46My mother told my father.
00:34:48Financially,
00:34:50we used to save a lot.
00:34:52We were normal middle class people.
00:34:54My father took this decision.
00:34:56When my mother told him.
00:34:58The school teacher said,
00:35:00take her out of the school.
00:35:02She is too bright.
00:35:04She is too bright.
00:35:06Send her to American school.
00:35:08My mother told my father.
00:35:10My father said,
00:35:12yes,
00:35:14we are changing her school.
00:35:16I liked my father's decision.
00:35:18Even though,
00:35:20they couldn't afford it.
00:35:22They had two daughters.
00:35:24In traditional society,
00:35:26you have to save for their dowry,
00:35:28for their marriage.
00:35:30You have to save for yourself.
00:35:32He was a dreamer.
00:35:34He didn't think,
00:35:36how will it happen?
00:35:38We couldn't afford O-Level.
00:35:40But he said, yes,
00:35:42we will do it.
00:35:44And then he did it.
00:35:46He did everything.
00:35:48He did all the scholarship.
00:35:50He didn't know.
00:35:52He did all the scholarship.
00:35:54He brought education in America.
00:35:56He did everything on his own.
00:35:58He used to say,
00:36:00you are so blessed.
00:36:02You had such a teacher.
00:36:04It doesn't matter if it's a small school or a big one.
00:36:06You have a teacher.
00:36:08Sir Arshad.
00:36:10Sir Arshad, thank you so much.
00:36:12Thank you so much.
00:36:14There are angels in the world,
00:36:16who guide you.
00:36:18You don't know where they come from.
00:36:20Sometimes it can be a teacher.
00:36:22Sometimes it can be your friend.
00:36:24Sometimes it can be your spouse.
00:36:26I have seen,
00:36:28you have empowered them.
00:36:30They were not allowed to do anything
00:36:32in their parents' house.
00:36:34And after marriage,
00:36:36they have found themselves.
00:36:38Sometimes you find such people in your life,
00:36:40apart from your parents.
00:36:42I say,
00:36:44men are like this, men are like that.
00:36:46In my life,
00:36:48till now,
00:36:50there were some great men.
00:36:52One was my father,
00:36:54but apart from him,
00:36:56my parents,
00:36:58who didn't see that dream for me,
00:37:00saw it for me,
00:37:02put their job in danger,
00:37:04and told my mother.
00:37:06Similarly, I have 2-3 more teachers.
00:37:08In business,
00:37:10I often get stuck in business,
00:37:12because I don't know.
00:37:14A couple of such men,
00:37:16who are so kind and nice,
00:37:18come and help.
00:37:22I am very grateful,
00:37:24that there are such men in the world.
00:37:26Next slide.
00:37:28Starting
00:37:30job.
00:37:32So, we were
00:37:34kids.
00:37:36I was,
00:37:38I did my 7th and 8th
00:37:40from here.
00:37:42Then I did my inter-D.A.T. college,
00:37:44and I was doing graduation.
00:37:46So,
00:37:48before that,
00:37:50we shifted here from Saudi Arabia,
00:37:52and my father had a heart attack,
00:37:54followed by a bypass.
00:37:56So, the savings,
00:37:58we made in Saudi Arabia,
00:38:00came to Pakistan,
00:38:02and became an abroad family.
00:38:04My father had no insurance,
00:38:06so we were struggling a lot.
00:38:08But,
00:38:10in schools,
00:38:12like good parents,
00:38:14they say,
00:38:16we will eat less,
00:38:18we will study less.
00:38:20So, we shifted here from Saudi Arabia,
00:38:22and went to schools.
00:38:24When I had a heart attack,
00:38:26my father was there,
00:38:28and when he came back,
00:38:30we didn't have to give so much stress.
00:38:32He was trying to figure out,
00:38:34of that age, 3 kids,
00:38:36and I was around 11-12 years old.
00:38:38So, my mother's decision was,
00:38:40you guys have done your matriculation,
00:38:42and now,
00:38:44slowly,
00:38:46start a job.
00:38:48No, I was looking there,
00:38:50and it was written, starting job.
00:38:52So, I don't move from my point.
00:38:54Because, I go somewhere else.
00:38:56I go a lot.
00:38:58So, my mother said,
00:39:00you go now.
00:39:02So, slowly, we started our work,
00:39:04from my tuitions,
00:39:06to a part time job.
00:39:08In which, my family,
00:39:10and my father,
00:39:12used to feel guilty.
00:39:14Why is she working?
00:39:16Because, we are so young.
00:39:18Sometimes, we have tuitions,
00:39:20sometimes, we have to go home.
00:39:22But, Nurul Shah,
00:39:24our mother was so far-sighted.
00:39:26Because, in today's world,
00:39:28it is so important,
00:39:30at a certain age,
00:39:32to tell the kids,
00:39:34how important it is,
00:39:36to earn money.
00:39:38And, my mother's thinking,
00:39:40that she had a heart attack,
00:39:42and it was bypassed.
00:39:44So, she used to stand on her feet.
00:39:46So, my father used to feel guilty.
00:39:48My mother used to tell him,
00:39:50that you are not understanding.
00:39:52This is right.
00:39:54And, we never missed our studies.
00:39:56I am telling you,
00:39:58every parent,
00:40:00whether your children need it or not,
00:40:02every parent, like the West,
00:40:04after 14 years,
00:40:06you should work for a few hours.
00:40:08Because, you know,
00:40:10you understand your studies more.
00:40:12I did my Bachelors from Commerce.
00:40:14How would I know,
00:40:16what is business or not?
00:40:18I was young, living my life.
00:40:20After a short break,
00:40:22let's talk about this.
00:40:24Because, I saw in Switzerland,
00:40:26that they take a break in between studies,
00:40:28get a job,
00:40:30and then complete it again.
00:40:32100%
00:40:34After a short break,
00:40:36we will talk about this.
00:40:38And, whoever is watching,
00:40:40let's start.
00:40:50Welcome.
00:40:52Welcome back.
00:40:54Good morning, Pakistan.
00:40:56And, now we are moving towards
00:40:58our profession.
00:41:00I mean, what profession
00:41:02you have to choose,
00:41:04parents have a big role in this.
00:41:06In fact, we were talking before the break.
00:41:08I mean, I was,
00:41:10I came from a
00:41:12okay background,
00:41:14but my parents were,
00:41:16when I went abroad to study,
00:41:18after the age of 18,
00:41:20that was it.
00:41:22If I needed
00:41:24pocket money,
00:41:26I worked for it.
00:41:28So, I
00:41:30How did you develop?
00:41:32I cleaned people's houses,
00:41:34walked the dogs.
00:41:36How did this develop?
00:41:38I needed money.
00:41:40I needed money. I wanted money.
00:41:42It was a habit.
00:41:44It was a habit.
00:41:46It was a habit.
00:41:48When you went abroad to study,
00:41:50who stopped you from giving money?
00:41:52Your father or your mother?
00:41:54It was both of them.
00:41:56I think it was a joint decision.
00:41:58The control of money
00:42:00was on my mother.
00:42:02Especially, in my sophomore year,
00:42:04my cousin and I
00:42:06were living in an apartment.
00:42:08His rent was low.
00:42:10So, my father said,
00:42:12if you want to shift with your cousin,
00:42:14do it.
00:42:16But, that's it.
00:42:18No pocket money. Then you're on your own.
00:42:20So,
00:42:22there was half scholarship.
00:42:24The rest was half fees.
00:42:26But,
00:42:28my mother encouraged me a lot.
00:42:30Look for jobs.
00:42:32So, I did look for jobs.
00:42:34In the beginning, it was cleaning homes and walking dogs.
00:42:36Then, it became
00:42:38promoted to babysitter.
00:42:40Then, I had a small Greek restaurant
00:42:42where I was Khansami's assistant.
00:42:44Wow!
00:42:46Cutting vegetables, cleaning the kitchen.
00:42:48And then, my cousins were
00:42:50waitresses in the same restaurant.
00:42:52Yes.
00:42:54By doing these things,
00:42:56you get to know
00:42:58about yourself.
00:43:00I know that
00:43:02God forbid,
00:43:04if I don't get a job,
00:43:06I'll get a cleaning job.
00:43:08My father used to say,
00:43:10if I don't get a job today,
00:43:12I'll drive a taxi.
00:43:14It's always something you can do.
00:43:16When I'm working today,
00:43:18there are times when
00:43:20I don't get a job.
00:43:22So, at that time,
00:43:24I feel down.
00:43:26When you're 18 or 19,
00:43:28you've bought a TV,
00:43:30a sofa,
00:43:32you've decorated everything.
00:43:34You have to go out to eat.
00:43:36You have your own money.
00:43:38You value that.
00:43:40It's because of your mother.
00:43:42Sometimes,
00:43:44your father spoils you.
00:43:46He says, I'll get it for you.
00:43:48Sometimes,
00:43:50I think,
00:43:52it's your mother
00:43:54who tells you
00:43:56that you don't have to spend money.
00:43:58When I was earning,
00:44:00he thought that
00:44:02I was earning at a young age.
00:44:04When you're 24,
00:44:06you get more money than other jobs.
00:44:08Sometimes,
00:44:10you can't handle money at a young age.
00:44:12You're doing this,
00:44:14you're spending this.
00:44:16My mother said,
00:44:18you'll deposit all the money
00:44:20in the account
00:44:22and I'll give you
00:44:24a cheque.
00:44:26I understood
00:44:28what's important
00:44:30and what's not.
00:44:32Otherwise,
00:44:34I would've spent all the money.
00:44:36Whose mother or father
00:44:38deposited the money?
00:44:40My mother was annoyed.
00:44:42She said, you don't have much control.
00:44:44I didn't have any control.
00:44:46My mother
00:44:48used to deposit
00:44:50a small amount.
00:44:52We used to tell my mother
00:44:54every year.
00:44:56When the account used to open,
00:44:58we used to know that this is what we saved.
00:45:00Before that,
00:45:02saving was not a concept.
00:45:04It depends.
00:45:06My mother had a strong will power.
00:45:08If she wanted to save something,
00:45:10she didn't have any control over it.
00:45:12But,
00:45:14my mother taught me
00:45:16that if you get a small amount of money,
00:45:18invest in property.
00:45:20Even if it's a small amount.
00:45:22You heard it, but I didn't.
00:45:24There's a difference.
00:45:26That's the best thing that you can do.
00:45:28It's impulse control.
00:45:30Exactly.
00:45:32I learnt.
00:45:34I had a hole in my hand.
00:45:36When I used to do a morning show,
00:45:38where did all that money go?
00:45:40I realised
00:45:42when I was learning
00:45:44and becoming a mental health practitioner,
00:45:46then I learnt
00:45:48that money
00:45:50and self-worth
00:45:52have a direct relationship.
00:45:54Until my self-worth
00:45:56becomes strong,
00:45:58my relationship with money
00:46:00doesn't become strong.
00:46:02The money I earn is my energy.
00:46:04I'm just throwing it away.
00:46:06Nadia has said a big thing.
00:46:08She has said a million dollars.
00:46:10I learnt this.
00:46:12In simple words,
00:46:14I started working on my self-worth.
00:46:16On myself.
00:46:18If I explain this,
00:46:20Nadia is saying a great thing.
00:46:22It's a high-level thing.
00:46:24It's a good thing that
00:46:26you're saying this in your show.
00:46:28Self-worth means
00:46:30the more you love yourself
00:46:32and value yourself,
00:46:34the more money
00:46:36you'll have in your bank account.
00:46:38Yes.
00:46:40If you don't value yourself like that,
00:46:42then you won't have
00:46:44that much money in your bank account.
00:46:46Value means priority.
00:46:48It's about self-love.
00:46:50I've had a journey on this.
00:46:52Like Nadia said, she's a mental health practitioner.
00:46:54In the past 6 years,
00:46:56I've worked a lot
00:46:58on my mental health.
00:47:00The more I've worked,
00:47:02the more money I've earned.
00:47:04Even though I left showbiz.
00:47:06I didn't do dramas.
00:47:08I used to think it's a good thing.
00:47:10You get good money very quickly.
00:47:12Especially if you're leading in dramas.
00:47:14Instagram, shoutouts, etc.
00:47:16But my journey was
00:47:18about my self-worth.
00:47:20Unfortunately, I wasn't happy
00:47:22when I was working.
00:47:24Because those hours were very long for me.
00:47:26So I worked on my self-worth
00:47:28like, yes Komal,
00:47:30money is good and fame too.
00:47:32But you're not happy.
00:47:34You're not at peace.
00:47:36So leave this job.
00:47:38And what should've happened?
00:47:40But
00:47:42because I loved myself
00:47:44and decided that
00:47:46Komal, you're not happy so you won't do this.
00:47:48My money increased.
00:47:50Whatever you do, do it with happiness.
00:47:52How did my money increase?
00:47:54Because I worked on my self-worth.
00:47:56And money comes from God.
00:47:58Anyone can be a mediator.
00:48:00It can be acting, business,
00:48:02even marriage.
00:48:04It could be anything.
00:48:06Komal, I used to run away
00:48:08from school.
00:48:10I used to run away from discipline.
00:48:12I learned
00:48:14when I started
00:48:16appreciating my self-worth
00:48:18and started working on myself.
00:48:20I learned that discipline
00:48:22gives me freedom.
00:48:24Absolutely.
00:48:26How do I explain discipline?
00:48:28You have boundaries.
00:48:30Yes, boundaries.
00:48:32Your limitations are open.
00:48:34Absolutely.
00:48:36You get a purpose.
00:48:38I never used to
00:48:40say no to anyone.
00:48:42No.
00:48:44I'm sorry.
00:48:46I learned from this
00:48:48that I get freedom.
00:48:50What do I get freedom for?
00:48:52Money is coming into my way.
00:48:54Abundance is coming into my way.
00:48:56I get freedom
00:48:58that I can do what I want.
00:49:00Because I become good at my work.
00:49:02When there's discipline.
00:49:04Your health improves.
00:49:06Those who don't have discipline
00:49:08don't exercise.
00:49:10Freedom is a different definition for people.
00:49:12People think they can get up
00:49:14and sleep as they want.
00:49:16They can eat whatever they want.
00:49:18They can do whatever they want.
00:49:20People think this is the definition of freedom.
00:49:22But it varies for everyone.
00:49:24I'll add one more thing.
00:49:26We're talking about self-worth.
00:49:28In Nida's show, many women
00:49:30watch your show.
00:49:32In our society,
00:49:34women's self-worth is very low.
00:49:36It's a fact that
00:49:38when we have children,
00:49:40we want them to be sons.
00:49:42Okay?
00:49:44From there,
00:49:46a woman thinks
00:49:48her self-worth will be low.
00:49:50My parents also wanted
00:49:52a boy to be in my place.
00:49:54It starts from there
00:49:56and the society
00:49:58is made in such a way
00:50:00that men's status is higher
00:50:02in many places.
00:50:04Most powerful places have men.
00:50:06Most of the big businessmen are men.
00:50:08Those who have power and money
00:50:10are men.
00:50:12Slowly, a small girl
00:50:14starts seeing that
00:50:16she doesn't have much worth.
00:50:18Since childhood,
00:50:20a girl is taught to compromise.
00:50:22Compromising is a girl's job.
00:50:24That's why her self-worth
00:50:26is low.
00:50:28A girl doesn't love herself as much
00:50:30as men in our society.
00:50:32Okay?
00:50:34I also had a journey
00:50:36where I had to work a lot
00:50:38that I matter.
00:50:40I don't get recognized
00:50:42by my money, degree
00:50:44or beauty.
00:50:46My soul
00:50:48is enough.
00:50:50I was born like that.
00:50:52I don't need to achieve anything
00:50:54to get love.
00:50:56I coach
00:50:58and a lot of young people
00:51:00come to me for coaching.
00:51:02I have seen one thing
00:51:04that everyone wants money.
00:51:06I want money.
00:51:08I want to say one thing
00:51:10because as a coach,
00:51:12I can't say it.
00:51:14If you run after money,
00:51:16you will run after money
00:51:18all your life.
00:51:20If you run after money,
00:51:22you will run away from it.
00:51:24If you run after money,
00:51:26you will run away from it.
00:51:28What are you after?
00:51:30Value.
00:51:32You are after value addition.
00:51:34What are you doing
00:51:36to get value production
00:51:38in the society?
00:51:40The biggest investment
00:51:42you have is
00:51:44yourself.
00:51:46You are the biggest
00:51:48investor.
00:51:50The biggest investment
00:51:52is us.
00:51:54We should know
00:51:56and there should be
00:51:58some tips.
00:52:00I think
00:52:02my worth is this.
00:52:04Nida has said
00:52:06a good thing about freedom.
00:52:08Nadia is also saying
00:52:10what is the first investment
00:52:12you have to make.
00:52:14I have a rule
00:52:16that I sleep at 10 pm
00:52:18and wake up
00:52:20at 5 or 6 pm.
00:52:22I don't touch my phone
00:52:24and I touch my phone
00:52:26at 8 or 9 pm.
00:52:28That is 3 hours.
00:52:30This is her freedom
00:52:32because she made her own timetable.
00:52:34Someone else made it for her.
00:52:36She made a timetable for her mission
00:52:38that I have to sleep at 10 pm.
00:52:40Neither her mother, husband
00:52:42nor children.
00:52:44She has dictated herself.
00:52:46This is freedom.
00:52:48There is a school in Delhi.
00:52:50Kiran Foundation.
00:52:52Sabina Khatri has taught
00:52:54something to the children.
00:52:56As we all know
00:52:58that it is important
00:53:00to move for the health of the body.
00:53:02If you don't exercise
00:53:04your body will get sick.
00:53:06It was made to move.
00:53:08What do you do
00:53:10for your mental health?
00:53:12Every child there
00:53:14is asked
00:53:16what did you do for your mental health?
00:53:18Did you smell flowers?
00:53:20Did you jump?
00:53:22Did you listen to music?
00:53:24Did you sing?
00:53:26These are all things
00:53:28for your mental health.
00:53:30Going to a life coach
00:53:32or a trainer
00:53:34for your body
00:53:36is not a bad thing
00:53:38for your mental health.
00:53:40It doesn't mean
00:53:42that you are mentally ill.
00:53:44When I feel
00:53:46that I need help
00:53:48in a decision
00:53:50I contact my coach
00:53:52and take coaching sessions.
00:53:54I have three coaches.
00:53:58Let me tell you
00:54:00that
00:54:02till a certain age
00:54:04our parents are our coaches.
00:54:06But
00:54:08after a certain age
00:54:10we decide
00:54:12that apart from these coaches
00:54:14we also need other coaches.
00:54:16In school, like Mr. Arshad
00:54:18in Komal's life
00:54:20I grew up
00:54:22like I am saying.
00:54:24When I grew up
00:54:26I saw politicians,
00:54:28lawyers, poets,
00:54:30filmmakers,
00:54:32I saw so many people.
00:54:34I saw laborers.
00:54:36I saw cleaners
00:54:38who are raising
00:54:40their children.
00:54:42They are sending them to school
00:54:44so that they don't have to work
00:54:46at home because
00:54:48they don't have a husband.
00:54:50These are all mentors.
00:54:52After that,
00:54:54you reach another level
00:54:56where you stop
00:54:58and see that
00:55:00this tree is giving me oxygen
00:55:02daily.
00:55:04I don't salute it once.
00:55:06You become thankful.
00:55:08It becomes your mentor.
00:55:10Till a certain age
00:55:12you become ungrateful.
00:55:14Why did this happen to me?
00:55:16Why is my marriage bad?
00:55:18Why is my business bad?
00:55:20We call it victim mindset.
00:55:22At a certain age,
00:55:24you become thankful to everyone.
00:55:28In the 20s, we didn't even think
00:55:30that the tree is giving us oxygen.
00:55:32It comes with ages.
00:55:34In the 20s,
00:55:36it comes with maturity.
00:55:38This is spirituality.
00:55:40In my early life,
00:55:42I faced a lot of difficulties.
00:55:44I used to ask myself
00:55:46why am I facing these difficulties?
00:55:48As I worked on myself
00:55:50and my self-worth,
00:55:52I had a beautiful
00:55:54connection with Allah.
00:55:56Because of that connection,
00:55:58I have a belief
00:56:00that
00:56:02even if there is a fire,
00:56:04I will say that
00:56:06it is because of Allah's
00:56:08betterment.
00:56:10This belief becomes so strong
00:56:12that you realize
00:56:14that your connection is weak.
00:56:16Connection is not a Pakistan's
00:56:18Wi-Fi system.
00:56:20This connection from Allah
00:56:22is more than
00:56:241000 supernova suns.
00:56:26It is such a strong connection.
00:56:28We get distracted.
00:56:30We get distracted.
00:56:32Like you,
00:56:34I have seen Nadia
00:56:36before and even now.
00:56:38There is a change in your personality.
00:56:40Is it because of
00:56:42your parents or
00:56:44did you pick things up?
00:56:46Sometimes, children
00:56:48start working on themselves.
00:56:50Everything.
00:56:52My father doesn't think like that.
00:56:54My childhood trauma,
00:56:56everyone knows what happened.
00:56:58I never worked on that.
00:57:00When I got cancer,
00:57:02during that time,
00:57:04I was alone,
00:57:06I got depression.
00:57:08All those fears
00:57:10that I didn't work on
00:57:12in my childhood,
00:57:14I started working on myself.
00:57:16I started studying.
00:57:18I did courses.
00:57:20I did master coaching course.
00:57:22I became a hypnotherapist.
00:57:24I did embraining.
00:57:26I kept studying.
00:57:28I had my coach with me.
00:57:30I kept working on myself.
00:57:32My faith increased.
00:57:34I realized that
00:57:36all my life,
00:57:38even during COVID,
00:57:40she sent me cancer.
00:57:42You are looking here and there.
00:57:44You are looking for help from there.
00:57:46You are holding her hand.
00:57:48You are trying to hold her hand.
00:57:50Why? Stop it.
00:57:52This was a wake up call.
00:57:54This was a wake up call.
00:57:56Our wake up call was actually
00:57:58a very beautiful wake up call.
00:58:00We are taking a short break.
00:58:02We will be back after the break.
00:58:04Now the matter has gone ahead.
00:58:06Mom has gone ahead of dad.
00:58:08We will be back.
00:58:26Welcome. Welcome back.
00:58:28Good morning, Pakistan.
00:58:30Let me tell you the topic again.
00:58:32I don't know how far we have gone
00:58:34in the waves of the topic.
00:58:36Our topic is
00:58:38At what point in life
00:58:40did we take the support of mom's advice
00:58:42and at what point did we
00:58:44follow dad's advice.
00:58:46Sometimes the story of Red Riding Hood
00:58:48was made.
00:58:50We had to take a loss due to shortcuts.
00:58:52Sometimes long roads helped us.
00:58:54Let's see who has the next slide.
00:58:56Open house.
00:58:58Open house.
00:59:00Mom's house. Actually grandma's house.
00:59:02Starts with nani.
00:59:04Grandma's house was always open.
00:59:06Yes.
00:59:08Mom's house was also like that.
00:59:10Our house was never locked.
00:59:12It was an open house.
00:59:14And
00:59:16there was a lot of hospitality.
00:59:18If there are no rooms, nothing happens.
00:59:20We will empty our rooms.
00:59:22Every guest should get a place.
00:59:24Anyone can come at any time.
00:59:26At any time.
00:59:28It was an open house.
00:59:30Mom taught you.
00:59:32Dad was very recluse.
00:59:34Dad
00:59:36used to love animals.
00:59:38He used to stay away from people.
00:59:40He used to stay in his books.
00:59:42It was mom
00:59:44who taught me this.
00:59:46Her heart
00:59:48and her house.
00:59:50Everything.
00:59:52You are like mom in this family.
00:59:54Absolutely.
00:59:56Yes.
00:59:58I think mom
01:00:00thinks I am a little over.
01:00:02Because
01:00:04my house is
01:00:06for humans, animals,
01:00:08donkeys,
01:00:10cats, dogs.
01:00:12It's open for everyone.
01:00:14Anybody who needs it,
01:00:16wants it, it's there.
01:00:18Did you ever feel
01:00:20that it's so much
01:00:22for everyone,
01:00:24it's a loss.
01:00:26It's important for everyone.
01:00:28It's Ali.
01:00:30It's Ali for him.
01:00:32It's opposite for me.
01:00:34It's necessary to control.
01:00:36It's opposite for me.
01:00:38If I could,
01:00:42I think
01:00:44if Allah has given you a roof over your head,
01:00:46if Allah wants to
01:00:48cook in your kitchen,
01:00:50and someone needs it,
01:00:52whether it's a human or an animal,
01:00:54and you can fulfill
01:00:56their needs for a while.
01:00:58So,
01:01:00I think
01:01:02it's your responsibility.
01:01:04But it's also right
01:01:06that there should be boundaries.
01:01:08Because you can't make everybody happy
01:01:10and that hurts your heart.
01:01:12You don't trust anyone.
01:01:14The second thing is
01:01:16people won't leave.
01:01:18They'll stay.
01:01:20What happened with my mother,
01:01:22people came for a while
01:01:24and stayed for years
01:01:26and didn't leave.
01:01:30We don't have such stories.
01:01:32There were no relatives.
01:01:34There were no relatives.
01:01:36There was a friend's friend
01:01:38who needed a place.
01:01:40But what happened is
01:01:42there's a good balance between us.
01:01:46Ali has also taught me
01:01:48that before bringing
01:01:50a person,
01:01:52I should make a boundary
01:01:54for him.
01:01:56It's a good thing.
01:01:58Discipline is also a part of it.
01:02:00Before, I used to follow my parents.
01:02:02Now,
01:02:04at a certain point,
01:02:06my husband comes.
01:02:08Ali has taught me boundaries.
01:02:10This is very important.
01:02:12He's my son.
01:02:14My daughter is 3 years old.
01:02:18I'm like a hawk.
01:02:20I'm like a shield for my kids.
01:02:22You're called a helicopter mom.
01:02:24Helicopter mom and
01:02:26good touch, bad touch.
01:02:28I don't want them to get hurt.
01:02:32Now, I'm a little bounded.
01:02:34After the baby,
01:02:36you're protected.
01:02:38It happens a lot
01:02:40when guests come.
01:02:42But I've learned that
01:02:44I can still help.
01:02:46But you don't
01:02:48have to help inside the house.
01:02:50Helping and
01:02:52doing charity is different.
01:02:54Being hospitable is different.
01:02:58Learn to be hospitable from your mom.
01:03:00She's there and she's there.
01:03:02She's there and she's there.
01:03:04Next slide.
01:03:08No marriage in teens.
01:03:10Marriage in teens?
01:03:12No.
01:03:14I didn't either.
01:03:16I forgot why I wrote it.
01:03:18My mom taught me.
01:03:20When I was little,
01:03:22whenever I used to go out,
01:03:24I don't know why,
01:03:26whenever I used to go out,
01:03:28I remember the first time
01:03:30I was 13 years old.
01:03:32We had a market near our house.
01:03:34I went shopping with my mom.
01:03:36My mom came to take the proposal.
01:03:3813 years old.
01:03:4013 years is too young.
01:03:42Fair skinned girls and all that.
01:03:46I don't remember the story.
01:03:48Sorry, I lost my train of thought.
01:03:50So my mom
01:03:52took this decision
01:03:54that she didn't get us married soon.
01:03:56But because we had
01:03:58financial difficulties
01:04:00and we were just
01:04:02two sisters and
01:04:04we were poor.
01:04:06So it's a matter of courage
01:04:08to handle a woman's financial struggle
01:04:10in a traditional society.
01:04:12You have a sick husband
01:04:14and you don't have a son.
01:04:16You have two daughters
01:04:18who are considered good looking.
01:04:20I've seen this a lot in our society.
01:04:22Mothers say
01:04:24that they got their daughters married
01:04:26early.
01:04:28I'm very grateful to my mom
01:04:30for her courage.
01:04:32She said no.
01:04:34If I get them married early,
01:04:36I'll get good proposals.
01:04:38I went out with my mom
01:04:40and my mom said
01:04:42she's only 13 years old.
01:04:44She said my son is a CA.
01:04:46My mom said he's 13 years old.
01:04:48She said he's a CA.
01:04:50I guess she was proud
01:04:52that my son is a CA.
01:04:54So what if he's younger?
01:04:56They'll say yes.
01:04:58What's wrong with that?
01:05:00My mom said no
01:05:02to scare me.
01:05:04She said she'll get them married next year.
01:05:06She used to say this every year.
01:05:08We used to get good proposals
01:05:10and she used to
01:05:12refuse them.
01:05:14Now that I'm older,
01:05:16if she had said yes,
01:05:18my mom's life would've been easier.
01:05:20She would've married me and my sister.
01:05:22I would've been in a good family.
01:05:24I would've been sending her money
01:05:26and supporting her.
01:05:28But she said no.
01:05:30She doesn't have a back-up.
01:05:32Her father is sick.
01:05:34She doesn't have a brother.
01:05:36She doesn't have an uncle.
01:05:38She doesn't have enough male figures.
01:05:40I have to make her independent.
01:05:42I'll work hard
01:05:44and get her educated.
01:05:46I'll make her independent.
01:05:48After that, I'll get her married.
01:05:50In the same situation,
01:05:52your mom can do the exact opposite.
01:05:54She can get you married.
01:05:56In the same situation,
01:05:58there are always two ways.
01:06:00What do you choose?
01:06:02What do you choose for the future?
01:06:04It's easy to say.
01:06:06Like you said,
01:06:08I'll get them married soon.
01:06:10I have a relative.
01:06:12He has 5-6 daughters.
01:06:14We say that
01:06:16he has abandoned his daughters.
01:06:18Abandonment is
01:06:20a very bad word.
01:06:22We say that
01:06:24he got married soon
01:06:26and got a family.
01:06:28Terrible.
01:06:30His daughters' lives
01:06:32were compromised.
01:06:34Otherwise, you have one life.
01:06:36You can live it
01:06:38in better circumstances
01:06:40if your parents are there.
01:06:42I met Ali when I was 14.
01:06:44He was my best friend's brother's best friend.
01:06:46Okay.
01:06:48At the age of 16,
01:06:50Ali seemed like a Greek god to me.
01:06:52Okay.
01:06:54I was very jealous.
01:06:56I didn't threaten him.
01:06:58No one.
01:07:00Ali
01:07:02became my fantasy.
01:07:04I wanted to get married.
01:07:06I wanted to get married.
01:07:08At the age of 14-15,
01:07:10my mom
01:07:12forced me to get married.
01:07:14I got married at 29.
01:07:16Really?
01:07:18At 29.
01:07:20After Laila Majnu,
01:07:22why didn't you get married?
01:07:24Because I was Laila.
01:07:26He was Majnu.
01:07:30Because you were in a relationship
01:07:32for 14 years
01:07:34and got married after 14 years.
01:07:36If it had happened earlier,
01:07:38the marriage would have been different.
01:07:40I think
01:07:42we waited for 8 years
01:07:44for the families to agree.
01:07:46Sometimes,
01:07:48I think
01:07:50I wasted so much time in my youth.
01:07:52But I think
01:07:54if I had got married 8 years ago,
01:07:56the point I was in,
01:07:58my thoughts and his thoughts,
01:08:00I don't know how the marriage would have gone.
01:08:02Now, that maturity,
01:08:04that understanding,
01:08:06has come a little.
01:08:08I still feel that
01:08:10when I was 29,
01:08:12I was very immature.
01:08:14I was 30 when Rakay was born.
01:08:16Although my children
01:08:18anchored me,
01:08:20because I was so scattered.
01:08:22But for me, it was just a game,
01:08:24fun, kids,
01:08:26I was their friend.
01:08:28If I go back,
01:08:30I sometimes think that
01:08:32Noor is 3 years old now.
01:08:34She has got a mature mother.
01:08:36I had the same decision for my life.
01:08:38That I should first
01:08:40do all my immaturity.
01:08:42And in my 20s,
01:08:44I am traveling here and there.
01:08:46I have started a business.
01:08:48Business takes a lot of time.
01:08:50Acting takes a lot of time.
01:08:52Now I think I am ready for marriage.
01:08:54This is not a formula.
01:08:56Everyone has their own.
01:08:58This is the same thing.
01:09:00This is the thing about freedom.
01:09:02That you say for your life.
01:09:04Now I am on it.
01:09:06My mother wanted to be independent.
01:09:08Now this is the thing.
01:09:10But this is not a formula.
01:09:12This was in 2021.
01:09:14I think that the decision
01:09:16that your mother took,
01:09:18and now life is completely different.
01:09:20We have reached somewhere.
01:09:22And Alhamdulillah,
01:09:24there are backups in the career.
01:09:26Life has completely changed.
01:09:28Now when you go on a partnership,
01:09:30you will keep your boundaries
01:09:32and limits very well.
01:09:34You will not bend much.
01:09:36I think when the girl's family
01:09:38is like this,
01:09:40there are financial difficulties.
01:09:42At that time, you are going
01:09:44into that relationship with fear.
01:09:46Because you say that we are somewhere
01:09:48less or because we are not financially
01:09:50strong.
01:09:52In that relationship,
01:09:54the other person has more power,
01:09:56you have less and you can benefit from it.
01:09:58But when you come to a point in life
01:10:00where you have not only money,
01:10:02like I am talking about my mental health,
01:10:04I have worked on my self-worth,
01:10:06then the likelihood is more
01:10:08that you can become a better partner
01:10:10and you can also become a good parent.
01:10:12So for me personally,
01:10:14do all these things first.
01:10:16Because bringing a person into this world
01:10:18is a very big responsibility.
01:10:20Very big.
01:10:22It will be a game for me,
01:10:24but I think it is a very big responsibility.
01:10:26And I don't want to bring
01:10:28all my issues into it.
01:10:30When I work
01:10:32in the orphanages
01:10:34of Punjab,
01:10:36in the protection bureaus,
01:10:38more than half of the children
01:10:40have their parents alive
01:10:42but they can't raise them
01:10:44or don't want to raise them.
01:10:46So it's, you know,
01:10:48we do it, but
01:10:50Because this is the mindset in Pakistan.
01:10:52Pakistan's mindset is,
01:10:54fast, fast, fast. This is the mindset.
01:10:56I am not saying to do it very late.
01:10:58The regret is that there is no
01:11:00preference for mental health.
01:11:02Why is this the mindset in Pakistan?
01:11:04Let me tell you why.
01:11:06This is because our
01:11:08average age is 45.
01:11:10Do you know this?
01:11:12When doctors are also being made
01:11:14in this age, in the West,
01:11:16the age of our country
01:11:18is 45.
01:11:20So common people think
01:11:22that we should have
01:11:24children at a young age
01:11:26and set our children in front of us.
01:11:28This is the mindset.
01:11:30There is no other reason.
01:11:32And the mortality rate
01:11:34depends on your lifestyle.
01:11:38If you look at the average
01:11:40of young children,
01:11:42how many young people
01:11:44are dying these days?
01:11:46Because of the lifestyle.
01:11:48Nadia ji is also saying that
01:11:50nowadays there is a lot of
01:11:52packaged food, a lot of frozen items,
01:11:54you have a lot of stress
01:11:56about the rest of the world.
01:11:58Unhygienic, unhealthy things,
01:12:00it's not even a banana,
01:12:02it's not even an apple,
01:12:04it's all modified.
01:12:06So that is less.
01:12:08But if you follow a healthy lifestyle,
01:12:10if you make good choices
01:12:12in your life,
01:12:14if you make good choices
01:12:16for your body and mind,
01:12:18then you will get out of this.
01:12:20Komal said a very important thing
01:12:22that cancer,
01:12:24all the fears I had,
01:12:26I said it during the break.
01:12:28All the things I had
01:12:30hidden in the carpet,
01:12:32and obviously
01:12:34I was not very confident,
01:12:36married,
01:12:38had kids,
01:12:40everything was set.
01:12:42But all the fears I had
01:12:44that I had not handled since childhood,
01:12:46because of them,
01:12:48and because I didn't exercise,
01:12:50I was relaxed in eating and drinking,
01:12:52so I got cancer.
01:12:54I think,
01:12:56life and death
01:12:58are in the hands of God.
01:13:00But this is one thing
01:13:02that I have said on your show before,
01:13:04that if fate is in his hands,
01:13:06then he has given us
01:13:08the power of decision,
01:13:10which even angels don't have.
01:13:12And with those decisions,
01:13:14our destiny is made.
01:13:16So you can make your life's destiny
01:13:18with your decisions,
01:13:20with the right decisions.
01:13:22I will go on a break,
01:13:24and we will continue.
01:13:26Good morning.
01:13:38Welcome. Welcome back.
01:13:40Good morning, Pakistan.
01:13:42We have a lot to talk about,
01:13:44and during the break,
01:13:46we have three different topics.
01:13:48But actually,
01:13:50the topic of our show is
01:13:52What did you pick from your parents?
01:13:54And what did you pick from your father?
01:13:56There will be a lot of households,
01:13:58like I said before,
01:14:00where mothers don't speak.
01:14:02And there will be a lot of such households
01:14:04where fathers don't speak.
01:14:06Because one is more dominating,
01:14:08if the mother doesn't earn,
01:14:10then she can't decide
01:14:12what to give to the children,
01:14:14what not to give,
01:14:16and what to do professionally.
01:14:18And in a lot of houses,
01:14:20and in a lot of places,
01:14:22it happens that
01:14:24you don't have a good relationship.
01:14:26And because your mother is stuck,
01:14:28I don't want to get married.
01:14:30I don't know how many people do this.
01:14:32And in a lot of places,
01:14:34your father says, no, no, I don't like this.
01:14:36Whether he is worthy of you or not.
01:14:38So sometimes,
01:14:40parents become the rulers
01:14:42instead of the parents.
01:14:44So, Alhamdulillah,
01:14:46my parents were not like this.
01:14:48I don't know.
01:14:50We are not like this.
01:14:52We are not sitting here.
01:14:54That is very important.
01:14:56And mom was a homemaker,
01:14:58but mom was educated.
01:15:00With dad,
01:15:02she went to Bangladesh,
01:15:04East Pakistan,
01:15:06and Red Cross.
01:15:08So she understood that.
01:15:10As a daughter,
01:15:12you can analyze
01:15:14that my mom is more sensible in this.
01:15:16My mom
01:15:18was sensible.
01:15:20My dad was more sensible than her.
01:15:22Because he understood that
01:15:24she is sensible and he is right.
01:15:26And he trusted her and moved with her.
01:15:28This is also a big thing for a person
01:15:30who is not that literate.
01:15:32His situation is like this.
01:15:34Losing his family.
01:15:36And then a woman came into his life.
01:15:38He being the one who earns,
01:15:40the one who supports.
01:15:42And giving that trust,
01:15:44I said mom,
01:15:46how did you do this?
01:15:48Mom was pregnant with me,
01:15:50and dad was in Riyadh,
01:15:52working like a normal job.
01:15:54And mom,
01:15:56how did she book a 3 bedroom house?
01:15:58When I was pregnant,
01:16:00I said,
01:16:02where is this money coming from?
01:16:04Mom, how did you book a house?
01:16:06So many things,
01:16:08you are deciding right at this moment.
01:16:10I did this house for this moment.
01:16:12So,
01:16:14the ability to think and see ahead.
01:16:16I also had a mother,
01:16:18who drives basically.
01:16:22In our country,
01:16:24in foreign countries,
01:16:26there is no inheritance.
01:16:30What did you make for your children?
01:16:32I think this was my mother's thinking.
01:16:34What to give to the children,
01:16:36what to make for the children.
01:16:38Dad used to live in the present moment.
01:16:40He used to live in the present moment.
01:16:44He didn't think much about the future.
01:16:48The conversation and conflicts
01:16:50must be good.
01:16:52One is completely different.
01:16:54Absolutely.
01:16:56Although my father was totally malnourished,
01:16:58but if we used to go on holidays,
01:17:00dad wanted us to live in a good hotel.
01:17:02And mom wanted us not to waste money,
01:17:06and live in a normal place.
01:17:08So,
01:17:10he used to be very interested.
01:17:14I think,
01:17:16now,
01:17:18in my 50s,
01:17:20I am learning
01:17:22how to save money.
01:17:24Because,
01:17:26now I value myself,
01:17:28and whatever I earn,
01:17:30and whatever grace comes to me,
01:17:32I also value it.
01:17:34Absolutely.
01:17:36Now, you are like your mother.
01:17:38Earlier, I was like my mother.
01:17:40Now, I am like my mother.
01:17:42And my father is also there in me.
01:17:44So, there is a balance.
01:17:46Obviously, children are mutually.
01:17:48Ursa, you tell us,
01:17:50who do you see more in you?
01:17:52I see my father more in me.
01:17:54But now,
01:17:56as I am growing up,
01:17:58I see my mother's practicality.
01:18:00My father was also like me.
01:18:02He used to save money,
01:18:04and he used to
01:18:06make me like a princess.
01:18:08When I wake up in the morning,
01:18:10and this is still a bad habit of mine,
01:18:12I don't make a bed
01:18:14and leave my room.
01:18:16The bed is always the same.
01:18:18And my father has spoiled the habit.
01:18:20When I get down,
01:18:22my mother tells me to make a bed.
01:18:24And she says,
01:18:26how will you get married?
01:18:28So, I don't even know how to make a bed.
01:18:30So, I make a bed from behind.
01:18:32My mother used to say,
01:18:34what will happen of this?
01:18:36You have spoiled it so much.
01:18:38But I think,
01:18:40my self-worth has increased
01:18:42because my father made me a princess.
01:18:44It's such a beautiful thing.
01:18:46If a girl's father
01:18:48gives her so much worth,
01:18:50then she understands herself.
01:18:52Sometimes,
01:18:54it is very important for girls
01:18:56to understand themselves.
01:18:58Sometimes,
01:19:00I will say,
01:19:02you should be shy.
01:19:04Don't think that
01:19:06compromising is a bad thing.
01:19:08I have heard this a lot.
01:19:10You have to compromise in a marriage.
01:19:12You have to be confident.
01:19:14You have to be shy.
01:19:16When I came to your last show,
01:19:18I went home and saw the comments.
01:19:20Two or three women have written,
01:19:22Komal keeps praising herself.
01:19:24This is my education.
01:19:26This is my parents.
01:19:28Alhamdulillah.
01:19:30Alhamdulillah.
01:19:32Because my father made me a princess.
01:19:34I really feel that
01:19:36my life is very good.
01:19:40I will tell you the negative.
01:19:42But the commenters said,
01:19:44she only comes and praises herself.
01:19:46I think she came to the show
01:19:48to praise herself.
01:19:50Do you think your father's qualities
01:19:52are more or your mother's?
01:19:56My father
01:19:58is like
01:20:00everyone.
01:20:02He wears a white shalwar kameez,
01:20:04beard and white cap.
01:20:06But he is a very cool dude.
01:20:08I wanted to dye my beard
01:20:10in white and black.
01:20:12I wanted to wear a t-shirt and shorts
01:20:14and sit with Galax.
01:20:16He would do everything.
01:20:18He would do wrestling.
01:20:20My mother and father
01:20:22are very much involved in charity.
01:20:24But my father
01:20:26would go to the streets
01:20:28and check the houses
01:20:30to see if they need anything.
01:20:34My mother
01:20:36didn't go much
01:20:38but my father used to tell
01:20:40stories when he was young.
01:20:42When he found out
01:20:44that my brother and I
01:20:46used to do something.
01:20:48That habit
01:20:50is my mother's
01:20:52and my father helped us a lot.
01:20:54My mother's in-laws
01:20:56helped us a lot.
01:20:58But my father would actually make an effort
01:21:00to find people.
01:21:02I think that is my father's quality.
01:21:04My comedy
01:21:06career is long.
01:21:08You have a choice
01:21:10what role to choose as well.
01:21:12But in life
01:21:14Allah and Rosie
01:21:16helped me a lot.
01:21:18I used to do a lot of comedy
01:21:20One day
01:21:22I was going to Debu in Islamabad.
01:21:24I was checking
01:21:26and auntie came and tickled me.
01:21:28I was shocked.
01:21:30How can you get angry
01:21:32when someone tickles you?
01:21:34She hugged me
01:21:36and said,
01:21:38you know you do a lot of charity.
01:21:40People smile when they see you.
01:21:42When my father passed away
01:21:44everyone who came
01:21:46used to say
01:21:48what a smiling face!
01:21:50And then he would
01:21:52smile just like you.
01:21:54After my father's death
01:21:56I realized that smiling face
01:21:58gives you
01:22:00mental peace
01:22:02hope
01:22:04and positive energy.
01:22:06That is from my father.
01:22:08And before
01:22:10ending the program
01:22:12I would like to thank you
01:22:14for telling us about your family.
01:22:16I realized
01:22:18that
01:22:20most of the spouses
01:22:22are based on
01:22:24looks and attraction.
01:22:26Finding a spouse is
01:22:28far beyond that.
01:22:30Your spouse can make
01:22:32and ruin your life.
01:22:34You have to look
01:22:36far beyond that.
01:22:38If a woman comes into your life
01:22:40she will be the mother of your children.
01:22:42Or if a man
01:22:44comes into your life
01:22:46he will be the father of your children.
01:22:48Will we be a good team for the children?
01:22:50Can we be a good team for our children?
01:22:52That's too early to think about it.
01:22:54You have to.
01:22:56You have to think about it.
01:22:58Before marriage
01:23:00you have to think
01:23:02if you want to have children
01:23:04can you be a responsible team
01:23:06for both the kids?
01:23:08Kids cry a lot
01:23:10in a bad marriage
01:23:12It hurts the kids a lot.
01:23:14So, this was our program for today.
01:23:16I hope you learned something
01:23:18and understood something.
01:23:20Today's conversation was fun.
01:23:22If you understood, learned and absorbed
01:23:24then definitely apply it in your life.
01:23:26Good morning Pakistan and Khuda Hafiz.