Jennifer Lopez is getting loud about her breakup with husband Ben Affleck ... sharing for the first time the reason for the highly publicized split.
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00:00Get ready for a whole new JLo. This is not the JLo that you have heard all about that you have talked about
00:09That lots of people have the picture that they've painted about her and her relationships
00:14She is not even though she is the one who filed to divorce
00:18Ben Affleck, she's not really not at all ever spoken about acknowledged that they are
00:24They're getting divorced. She before that shouldn't even acknowledge when they were living apart
00:29Well, he moved out first, right and they and never said anything about it now she is and she's talking about
00:37Her life as a single woman and there is a lot to talk about here
00:42yes, because she did this interview Nikki Glaser actually interviewed her for interview magazine and
00:48Nikki Glaser who is a big fan of JLo's and new fan and hysterical. Yes, and also hilarious
00:55But this wasn't about fun this wasn't about jokes just two friends sitting down chatting about being single
01:03And this is what Jennifer had to say. She said I felt like whoa, I got here. I'm good
01:09I did all the work and look at where I am and then it was like my whole bleeping world exploded
01:16Referring to Ben the marriage to Ben. I'll be I'll be Nikki. Go ahead
01:21It sounds to me like you have a new bar for the next person that comes along
01:27There's no new bar because I'm not looking for anybody. How's that? You have to be good on your own
01:33I thought I learned that but I didn't and then this summer I had to be like I need to go off and be on
01:39My own I want to prove to myself that I can do that
01:42So if you remember, um, I don't know how long ago with this sounds very healthy
01:47Well, hold on about nine months ago. We did a documentary on to be on Ben and JLo the warning signs
01:53It's still there. You can stream it right now on TV. You can't for free. Yeah
01:57So this is a brought to you by when we did this documentary
02:02We looked back and if you remember after her first divorce
02:08That's what people advised her to do and she talked about it. I need to spend time on my own
02:13I need to be comfortable with myself before I jump into another relationship and then when she did
02:19She said I think after the second marriage, I didn't learn my lesson
02:24Mm-hmm, and this is not critical of JLo. It's not but she's saying the same thing again
02:30it's exactly what we talked about before maybe it hits home a little bit better now because
02:37Ben was the the relationship she'd been pining after for 20 years, right and
02:42Finally got it and it still didn't work out so except maybe you gotta look at things a little bit
02:48You could say that except the one thing and again, this is not shade. This is she loves to be in love
02:54I mean
02:55this is the big thing that we heard from multiple people loves to be in love and
02:59Falls hard and fast and when that and and when that happens
03:04And you don't necessarily have a foundation
03:08Sometimes it just crumbles and that's been the problem that has you know, that's the problem that you can't say that
03:14That's why she gets engaged work. She gets engaged like that. All the relationships are different
03:20They all didn't work out for different reasons. I know right, but they go fast. They go fast fast
03:24She admitted in this interview that she is a romantic type
03:27She does love love and it's kind of actually the whole interview is almost like a therapy session between her and Nikki Glazer
03:34Because J Lo is saying stuff like I have to learn how to be comfortable with being single and I've never really been
03:41Single there's also nothing wrong with being in love with being in love. There's nothing wrong with it
03:47But if you good for it, yeah
03:49Charlie's right. It hasn't been good for her and it's like and she's when you go through your fourth divorce Charles
03:56There's there's a bad pattern there. They remember this too. Listen, first of all out of bounds foul
04:03foul on the play
04:06JLo also had this to say Wow
04:09Unbelievable being in a relationship doesn't define me. Do you hear Harvey? Mm-hmm. She's saying it doesn't define her
04:15Mm-hmm. I can't be looking for happiness and other people. I have to have happiness within myself, which is very healthy
04:22Very healthy very wrong, but it's hard and to achieve that
04:27When somebody is just so in love with the concept of being in love that they need to jump into it
04:33And again, I'm not look I'm acting like I'm acting like I'm some psychologist. Mm-hmm, but I have lived a long time and
04:40but no, but it's true and you're and and the problem is that when you fall that quickly and hard that the level of
04:47Passion is here and you can't sustain that over time and when it goes down and resets, you know, normally
04:56That seems to be hard to take. You know what?
05:00I mean that you can't live up here, but she wants to live up here and when it goes here it falls apart
05:06I'm Curtis in Los Angeles, California, and I couldn't agree more with Jennifer
05:10I think she needs to be alone for herself
05:12the next relationship
05:13Jennifer jumps into needs to be with a good therapist
05:16Someone that can help her with these boundaries that she's recently set up for herself and help her understand why her romantic relationships keep failing
05:23Yes, this therapy session brought to you by TMZ
05:26losers of
05:28Seriously it is streaming right now