This lecture is about the method of expressing love.
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Kashif Mag.
By
Kashif Mag.
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00:00Love and expressing love is a big challenge.
00:03People love people but other people feel that they are not being loved.
00:08They are not able to feel their love.
00:10They feel that they are not being expressed the way they should be.
00:14What is the story? What is the matter? We will talk about this.
00:16Assalamualaikum. I am Dr. Tahira Rubab.
00:18I am a Psychiatrist, Relationship Therapist and Sex Therapist.
00:22We all want to love. We want to be loved.
00:27And we want other people to love us.
00:30Even after having so much love,
00:32even after expressing love,
00:34why don't other people feel that you really love them a lot?
00:39You really consider them very important.
00:41Or your role is very important in your life.
00:46Why does this happen?
00:47These questions come often.
00:49And we all feel that we don't have that value in other people's life.
00:54There are 3-4 reasons for this.
00:56First of all, when we love another person
01:01or when we develop feelings for another person,
01:04we try to express them the way we want.
01:10This is how love is.
01:12This is how love is expressed.
01:14The way we like, we express our love for the other person.
01:20And we handle it in our own way.
01:23For example, if we feel that we are doing something for that person,
01:27we are helping that person,
01:29we have shared some of their responsibilities,
01:32or we are saying I love you or I miss you,
01:35that's how the love is expressed.
01:37This is how your love is expressed.
01:40And you like it this way.
01:42It's like when people give gifts to other people to show their love.
01:49Which is right.
01:50It's a very good thing to express your love in different ways.
01:53It's very important.
01:54And these are the things that tell the other person that
01:57basically you are meaningful to someone.
02:00But when we see people say that
02:04I never felt that way,
02:07that I've been loved or something like that happened to me,
02:10that person really loves me so much.
02:12The reason for that is
02:14that normally we are not able to assess the needs of that person.
02:18We are not able to assess the needs of that person.
02:21We are not able to see that person's way of love
02:24which makes him feel that if this thing exists,
02:28then it means that it is love.
02:30We spend our whole life loving others in our own way.
02:34I see a lot of people say that
02:37when they see a needy person,
02:39instead of giving them money,
02:42you give them things.
02:44You are entertaining them in your own way.
02:47So it's possible that they may need things sometimes
02:49and sometimes they may not.
02:51But you are giving them money in your own way.
02:54So it's possible that ultimately the thing you are giving them
02:58may not be as meaningful for them.
03:00The food you are giving them may not be as meaningful for them.
03:03Because maybe they need money
03:05with which they can buy something of their own will.
03:07But your partner's way of love
03:11or the way of expressing love
03:13is something else which is very important to understand.
03:15It's possible that,
03:17like in our society, men say that
03:19they love their wives a lot
03:21but they never express it.
03:23They never say it out loud.
03:25Similarly, women love their partners a lot
03:30and they keep telling them again and again.
03:32Both of them love each other in their own way.
03:36For men, actions are very important
03:39and for women, words are very important.
03:41Words are not shoes.
03:43Of course, if there are only words
03:45and your actions are not with them,
03:47they start seeing that it is not going where they want.
03:52So it is very important for us to understand
03:54how my partner expresses his love.
03:59If you want to express your love in the right way,
04:03according to his needs,
04:05then it is important for you to understand
04:07how your partner expresses his love to you.
04:11The way he is expressing his love to you,
04:14in the same way, he wants you to express your love to him.
04:18And try to focus the need of your partner.
04:21You love your partner a lot.
04:23People love you a lot.
04:24They are very loyal.
04:25There is no doubt in love.
04:27But if it is not expressed appropriately,
04:30if it is not fulfilling according to your partner's needs,
04:34then people do not feel that love.
04:36And we often see that relationships end very quickly.
04:39We often see this.
04:40Love marriages start having a lot of problems.
04:44Just try to understand what is the need of your partner.
04:48And if you treat him accordingly,
04:52I am sure your love will be felt.
04:55It will be acknowledged.
04:57And along with that,
04:58the positivity that you want to create in your relationship,
05:02that will also be possible.
05:04I hope this video will help you
05:06to improve your love relationship.
05:09And how you should improve your expression.
05:13Take care of yourself.
05:14I will meet you again in a new video.
05:16Until then, Allah Hafiz.