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00:00Please allow me to introduce our season six cast of Essence and Coca-Cola Zero Sugars, If Not For My Girls.
00:08If Not For My Girls!
00:14It's so good to be here with you all today at the 2024 GU Disruptor Summit. Give it up for that!
00:21We are live filming If Not For My Girls and these are my girls. How y'all feeling today ladies?
00:27We good. Y'all look so beautiful by the way. Y'all look amazing. Just saying. Yeah, I love it. So
00:34speaking of women gathering here together, that's exactly why we're here. To pour into each other,
00:40to uplift each other. We're gonna have some fun today. So y'all know the conversation's
00:45gonna get real, right? Y'all okay with that? Is y'all okay with that? And I'm gonna need y'all
00:50full participation today. We're not giving the silence. Great. Okay, perfect.
00:56I think we should start by sharing about who we are, our stories, and since we all do music,
01:02how did you know it was your passion and who inspired you to go after your dream?
01:08Oh man, I've had so many different inspirations in my life. Music was so healing for me growing up
01:17and it's kind of one of those things that I don't think I chose. I honestly think that it chose me
01:22and I think a lot of people that are in music feel the same exact way. But my biggest inspiration
01:26was my mom. I love that. I know that's corny, but it's true. It's true. My mom was my biggest
01:34inspiration. She's been, I always say if I can find five people in my life that believe in me
01:39the way that my mom believes in me, then I can do absolutely anything in this world. She's been my
01:44biggest champion for the music that I've written, every play that I've done. My mom has been front
01:49row center, so I think, yeah, she's my biggest inspiration. I love that. What about you? I love
01:54that. For me, it was an interesting path. I didn't start off in music. I began my journey in medical
02:01sciences and then transitioned to music after graduating with many degrees. So my mom was like,
02:07girl, you about to do what? I said, I'm a rap. She was like, rap presence or what? What's going on?
02:16So I definitely had an interesting transition. But now, to your point, my mom is my biggest
02:21supporter as well. I think about believing in yourself. Bigger than you believing in yourself,
02:28find people around you who believe in you the way God believes in you. Amen. So that's what I've
02:33been doing, living my little ministry life and all the things. Lady London be preaching, y'all.
02:39She does, and it's amazing. She always got a word and a scripture for you. Y'all heard
02:45somebody say, touch your neighbor, neighbor. Say neighbor. All right now.
02:52Given that we're here today with a ton of go-getters in the music industry and in the
02:57business, I know times kind of get tough in this male-dominated industry, in this
03:04just like people thinking that they know more than you. So can you guys name or pinpoint a
03:09time in your career where you may have had to put your foot down when it came to business?
03:15Business wasn't standing on you, you were standing on it. Yes. So let me know when the time was.
03:20Yeah. So I'm a country artist and a lot of people at the time, my team, they're all trying to tell
03:27me what they thought would be best for me. Or when we would meet with record labels, they're like,
03:31this is how you need to market yourself. This is the branding. And I'm like, that's not going to
03:35work. Like that might work for, you know, who you guys have worked with in the past. But for me,
03:39I know I need something different. I need a different audience, a different demographic
03:43than what you guys are used to. And they're like, no, just do it the Nashville way. It's
03:46going to work. I'm like, it's not going to work. And then over the past year, I feel like my career
03:51has elevated and I've gotten to work with a lot of incredible artists. And now people are seeing
03:56that like my vision was right. And I had to just be like, y'all are wrong. And that's it.
04:02I've said no a lot. And I've made my managers and agents mad a lot. But I've always had to stay
04:08true to what I felt was right for me. And that doesn't always, you know what, that doesn't
04:13always feel good. Because I've said no to things that did well. But it just wasn't for me. And
04:21sometimes you can't explain that to people. But staying true to yourself can kind of make you look
04:28a little wild sometimes, like, because they're like, oh, all this money and look that blew up.
04:33And I remember there was a specific movie that I said no to. And my mom was like, you know,
04:39that movie did really well. Like, did you feel you know, do you feel that that was a missed
04:44opportunity? And hey, it could have been in some ways. But in another way, I just felt like it
04:49wasn't going to propel my career forward. Because it wasn't the trajectory that I had in mind for
04:55my career. I did a singing show growing up. And I really wanted to separate myself from being the
05:01singer actor. And I really only wanted to do acting roles because I loved them both equally.
05:07And I didn't want people to think, you know, a lot of times when you see singer actors, people,
05:12they're typecast, or people just think, oh, they only got cast for that because they're a good
05:16singer. But I am a trained actor. And I wanted people to see that I was good at that also.
05:22And so I had to say no to a very lucrative role. But I feel like it was it's been good for me,
05:28people have been able to see me outside of just music. Yeah, yeah. I love that.
05:32This one is an interesting one. Yeah. You know, we don't we don't typically like to talk about money.
05:40You know, people get a little get a little uncomfortable when you talk about money. But
05:45this this question is how did you determine what you should charge for what you do?
05:50Know yourself know your worth? How did you determine?
05:53So you should take this first because one thing about me.
05:58Oftentimes, you walk into situate no joke aside, because I joke too much,
06:01right. But oftentimes, you walk into situations and people try to tell you what they believe
06:05the value of your work is. And if that's the case, then get somebody else to do it or you do it.
06:10Oh, so that's really my position on a lot of things. But I also on the other side,
06:16because I'm gonna play devil's advocate with myself all the time. I understand that not
06:20everything is transactional. Yeah, and some opportunities are building in stepping stones
06:25for great fostered relationship in the long run. Yeah, I've done partnerships with people
06:30that it didn't start off as a monetary exchange. And as I grew with the brand and with the people,
06:36I now close and I spoke about it recently on a previous podcast that I did. And I was just like,
06:42I partnered with a certain brand when I first began rapping in 2019. And they paid me $1,500
06:47for a campaign. And I've still been working with this brand for this far. And I closed the deal
06:52just like maybe two, three months ago for like over 60,000. And so when you think about those
06:59type of things moving forward for you, you just got to understand that if you're only,
07:04if your only form of currency is actual money, then you're at a very large disadvantage.
07:09Sometimes it is also the bonds that you make in the people that you're able to cultivate with. So
07:16walk in rooms with a stride, keep a positive energy about everything, embrace people,
07:20treat people like you don't know their journey, and treat everybody like they have the key to
07:24your destiny, whether that's the CEO or the janitor. And you know, that's all the thing,
07:29you know? Yeah. That was so beautiful. I'm not gonna answer that question. That was so beautiful.
07:36I'm gonna ask the next question instead.
07:39What is something you've learned the hard way? How do you deal with setbacks and failures?
07:43How have your friends and support system helped you bounce back?
07:48What is something I learned the hard way? I learned how to say no.
07:53Because burnout is very real. I was saying yes to way too many things, to way too many people.
08:00And I was burned out. I was burning the candle from both ends and I literally had
08:07nothing to give to myself. And I think that that is so true to women in general.
08:15A lot of the times we are seen as the givers and we're expected to give and not want anything in
08:20return. And it's okay to give sometimes and not give anything in return. But the keyword that
08:27you use was exchange. Especially in business, there is a value. If I'm bringing value to you,
08:35I expect you to bring some type of value to me. Because I put so much into my work. I put so much
08:42into what it is that I do. And I guess that's piggybacking on this. And the question that you
08:50answered that was so interesting. I found myself having to explain my worth so much to so many
08:59people that now I just move in it. But saying no is a part of knowing your worth. It really is. And
09:06as far as my support system, it's always my girls. I love that. The closest people to me in my life
09:12are women. My sisters, my aunts, my cousins, my best friends, the women that I'm around. Because
09:19there is nothing like talking to someone and you don't have to go into depth about what it is that
09:24you're feeling or what it is that you're thinking. It's something about us just understanding
09:30in conversation. And I don't have to explain why I feel this way. You already know why I feel this
09:35way. And just having someone else know without you feeling like, wow, or feeling like crazy,
09:44I shouldn't be feeling this way. It's just really important.
09:47I think you said all the things. I would just add to the friendship portion and how important it is
09:53to build a sisterly bond with people. I think the most important or one of the most important
09:59things that you mentioned was their ability to just understand that you're going through
10:02something. Sometimes you don't need no advice. You just need a soundboard. You just need somebody
10:07that'll hold that phone and just hear you on the other side of it. I'm not trying to get no advice
10:13from you, sis. I ain't trying to do none of that. I just want you to listen while I vent.
10:18Because I don't really have a solution, nor do I really want one right now. I just want to tell
10:23you. I want to be heard. I mean, those women that you have in your life, or men, but really the
10:29girls, because the girls get it. The girls will get it, right? Those people that you have that
10:35you can hold that FaceTime call with and say nothing for hours, special group of girls.
10:41That's a special group where you put the phone down, you walk around the kitchen, you haven't
10:44said nothing to this lady in 10 minutes, but you're like, hey, girl, okay. That's just important. I
10:50think cultivating friendships can foster just amazing things in your life, just having that
10:55strong system. What about you, Raina? How do you deal with setbacks? I pray about it. I'll go to
11:02my family or the people I really, really trust in my close circle, my team, and I'm like,
11:08this is what I'm thinking. This is what I'm feeling. Let me know. How can I do better? How
11:15can I be excellent? How can I just learn from this lesson? Help me to grow in this area since
11:22this is something where I wouldn't necessarily say I failed or I had to be taught a lesson. I call
11:27them lessons instead of failures. Then I speak to God about it. I'm like, Lord, can you show me
11:32what I'm missing in this scenario so I can learn and grow from it and so I don't make this same
11:39mistake or have to learn this lesson again. That's what I do. That's good. We talked about how
11:47sisters and friends can pour into us, but what are some of your go-tos to pour into yourself?
11:52What are some like slings? I love a nap. Yeah. Midday or any time, girl. I love a nap, y'all.
12:04It's so good. It's so essential to get to rest. Yeah. I want to take a cat nap. I can nap right
12:12here with all of y'all looking at me. I love. I'm laughing, but I'm telling the truth. Learn
12:20to nap like a lot of y'all. Some of y'all are young, right? I'm young at heart, but I've learned
12:25as I've gotten older that sleep is so essential and like in regenerate like from even from like a
12:33from a scientific standpoint in regenerating cells and like your brain like it is so essential
12:40to get sleep. Please don't pass up on that nap. If your spirit is telling you to take a nap,
12:46close your eyes. I'm such a nerd. I'll go and read books. Yeah. I love. Yeah. Or I'll listen
12:53to one on Audible and then I feel better. I feel like, yeah, I'm in my fantasy world and then I
12:57feel better. That's what I do. What about you? Yeah. I mean, listen, first and foremost, drink
13:02your water and don't let nobody's son stress you out. Yeah. Nobody's son gets to stress me out.
13:09So that's one. Um, I take sabbatical a lot though. Honestly, I take a vacation usually to Arizona
13:15or somewhere, get a massage. One thing about me, I love a massage. I can get a massage multiple
13:19times a week. Yeah. Is that creepy? No, I love it. Let people fill up on you.
13:27But that is like really amazing to me. I love the sound of water too. It's extremely healing. So
13:32too. Uh, I don't know if that's because I'm a cancer. It's some cancers in here.
13:35Okay. You know, I always have my tribe amongst me. Okay. Now I got to shout out the Aquarius.
13:40Is there a Aquarius in there? You know, we going to be loud. See, it wasn't sure. It wasn't your
13:45moment. Well, okay. Speaking of not letting anybody's son stress you out or otherwise, um,
13:58what is on your list of importance? Like that you look for in dating? Like what is,
14:06what are your red flags? What are your no-nos? What is at the top of the list? Let's give like a,
14:12what is at the top of your list of red flags? And then, oh God, Lady London, I don't even want you
14:18to answer that. I'm not going to answer that because I just did a deep exhale and that was
14:21enough. She says she's in her villain era y'all. You did say that? It must be carnival the way I
14:28be having red flags hanging all the way out of every pocket that I have. Okay. Let's start with
14:34Raina. We're going to let you cool off before you answer. Raina, what are three like red flags?
14:41Okay. Give us two. Just give us two. Maybe two. Cause I've only, I've only dated one person,
14:46but I would say, Oh, well, I don't think I should say that.
14:52Babe, I don't have no exes, so don't worry about it.
14:56Um, red flags. Um, somebody that's like not motivated and doesn't have any faith or belief
15:01in themselves. Like I feel like, um, you need somebody that's going to make you a better person
15:06and that will push you to strive and strive for you, um, to be your best self and for them to
15:12also be the, their best selves. And if they don't have that, that's a struggle. Yeah. And I would
15:16just warn against that. Okay. What are two green flags? Like what are two absolute thing? And it
15:23ain't gotta be, it don't even have to be deep. You can be shallow. They can be like, Oh, you know
15:27what I'm saying? That's fine too. I like beautiful men. Yeah. Pretty ones. I like really, really
15:34pretty ones. You know, I keep a medium ugly now. Come on. I like looking at them and being like,
15:42you look like a portrait. I want to look at you. She's like, baby, you are. Yeah, you are. I like,
15:48I like that. I like men that look like art. You like the cute ones cause you like to flirt.
15:54You like to like, you like to game them up. I don't know how to do that.
15:58Hi, you're so adorable. She's so cute. Okay. All right. Lady London, I'm gonna keep this short
16:04cause y'all know, y'all know, but I will say two red flags. Well, let's just give them one to one.
16:09Okay. You know, I could go. Okay. But one red flag for me is definitely, um, making sure
16:15the man in my life has his own identity. I think a lot of times,
16:20Ooh, they gonna, I'm gonna shake the table a little bit.
16:23Sometimes your man be a hater. Oh, sometimes, sometimes he, he, he hating on, you know,
16:31your, your ability to captivate rooms, your success. You know, oftentimes if your trajectory
16:37is going on a higher pace or, you know, than his at the moment, it's important to be secure
16:42within your household and outside of your household. Because other than that, we invite
16:46such a space for insecurities and projections and disc in unnecessary discourse just overall.
16:52So I think if a man has his own identity and I have my own identity, we can flourish in a place
16:57where we have a very good give and take dynamic where it's like, you know, you're doing say it's
17:02sports and I'm not saying it's sports, but say it's, he does sports and I do music. Then we have
17:07our own give and take in it. And he has his specialties and I have mine. And I just think
17:12the security is important. So that's my red flag. If you don't have your ID, right? Yeah.
17:17Green flags on the shallow level. Um, clean nails, love it. Love a good gel manicure. I love that.
17:24Love that. Real bad. Men outside, outside doing construction work. Yeah. But I like a medium,
17:29ugly with a gel manicure. What is a medium? Is that like a six or a seven?
17:37A little bit. I don't know. Ruggy, a little ruggy. I'm telling y'all this, they make me belly laugh.
17:45Okay. Okay. So what is, there's a buzz on social media right now, um, that black women's standards
17:53are way too high. What is your take on this? I don't believe in too high standards. For whom?
17:59Like what's high? Yeah. Have you, have you heard of the, the, the, the, the, the, the,
18:05yeah. Have you, I don't, I can't even answer, like, I've literally, I've literally been told
18:13you ask her too much. What? By who? The somebody's son. Oh, I see. You see what I'm saying? That's
18:20why he ain't here. You ask her too much and he's not here. He's not here. No, there's no such thing
18:24as, as having too high a standard. As long as you are willing to stand on that and what that means
18:32for you. I think black women set the bar and people fall under like limbo and that's just
18:39really what it comes to. I don't, I think we are the standard, set the standards for what we want
18:45and we, we only ask for what we can provide for self and for others. And so that being said,
18:51I need you to meet me where I am or not, you know, and that's just that. There's like, somebody
18:58commented this the other day and I saw it was like something to the nature of like, don't,
19:03if you don't, um, have a long enough rod, like don't cast it for like the type of fishing,
19:10I'm not a fisher girl, but like it was some type of like fishing thing. But I understood it to be
19:14like, if you want this type of woman, then you must be able to have the equipment to fish.
19:22There we go. The net, the rods, all the things. We talk about toxicity and we have been,
19:27but what is, what is the key ingredient to a healthy relationship dynamic? And if you guys
19:31can give some real life scenarios to that. I mean, I know my girl over here is like,
19:37I was like, you're happy. Very happy. We're giving two beers.
19:44I'm really happy. Um, I can say,
19:50an ingredient. Ingredient. Yeah. An ingredient for a healthy relationship. Yeah.
19:57Um, I feel like the main ingredient is communication. Um, I think that's what I'm
20:04learning, which I thought that I was really good at, but I was just really good at telling people
20:10what to do. Uh, really wasn't that great at listening, um, and actively listening, um,
20:18and holding myself accountable to what that person is saying to me because I love him
20:23and putting it into action. So I think communication, because we're, we are,
20:28as people, we're always evolving. We're always changing. And, um, I think in year two of our
20:35relationship, we really have learned to give each other the space to change, um, and figure out who
20:44we are individually and then figuring out how collectively we fit. And that takes a lot of
20:51communication. Like, yeah, maybe I said that I liked that a couple months ago. I don't like that
20:55now. And here's why, you know what I'm saying? Maybe, maybe I allowed you to do that, but now
21:01I don't, I don't want that in my space anymore. So I think communication is like, for me, that's
21:06the, yeah, that's the, that's the key ingredient because the person that you're with is always
21:10going to be evolving and changing. Yeah. Yeah. I love that. What about you? What do you think?
21:14Um, I've never had one, but I would, I would, I would say probably trust. Like if you can't
21:20trust somebody, then it's like, I have, how's this going to work? If I can't trust you there,
21:25that's, that's a barrier. I can't see getting past that barrier, but that's from my limited
21:31experience. That's okay. Thank you. It's still significant. Okay. Here's a good one. Yeah. Cause
21:38I've heard a lot of debates about this in general. Do you tell your girls everything about your
21:45relationship? Yes or no? I heard no's. I heard strong no's. I knew that that was going to be a
21:52thing where people were like, it's like, it's like a hot topic. You have like a raise of hands. Like,
21:58do you, why don't you? Once you tell your friends and then they start hating their partner.
22:06Okay. She said, once you tell your friends and they start hating your partner, there's no going
22:11back. So my question, my question would be, is that your, is that your, is that on your friend
22:17or is that on who you're choosing? Because our, is because, cause here's the thing about it for me.
22:25I tell my girls everything, right? I do. I share everything with them because one,
22:32as, as someone that has, you know, dealt with a not so great person in my life. Um,
22:41they were able to see signs that helped me to get out before it got bad.
22:46So an accountable person. Somebody held me accountable. And if I know that I don't want
22:51to tell them it's because I know it's wrong because we have now set a precedent that we share
22:58not just the good moments. We also share the bad moments. Yeah. And until I was ready to go,
23:06I kept a lot of stuff to myself. But when I finally released, they were able to tell me,
23:12Hey sis, I love you, but let me tell you what's going to happen if you say, let me, let me show
23:19you your blind spots. Let me tell you what you didn't say, but what I know is probably happening
23:25based on what you did say. And now I am accountable to what they told me. I can't ignore it. And I
23:32can't pretend like I didn't hear it. So now I have a decision to make and I ended up making the right
23:38decision. So I am all for telling them everything. Now, do you have to tell, when I say everything,
23:46I think I mean the important things, you know what I'm saying? That's what I mean. Like I ain't,
23:50I'm not telling you. I'm about to say so. Yeah. Yeah. But I mean, but I mean, I mean the,
23:54when I say everything, you know, that's like a hyperbolic type of like statement, but I mean
23:59the important things, like the things that I don't want to tell them that I know that I need to.
24:02Yeah. I think it's also important that, um, you know, who to say what to,
24:10yeah. Cause some of your friends are rogue. Like some of them is like, girl, block him. You like,
24:15girl, he just, all he did was call me yesterday. I don't know. It's certain friends that you,
24:19that you, you know, that I need out for every woman in here to have a, a space that's a safe
24:27space for them. Like a nonjudgmental friend that even if you present her all that it is that you're
24:32going through with somebody that she can at least embrace you, even if you decide not to leave at
24:37that moment, it's not something where it's like, girl, I'm going to hear this no more. It's like,
24:40where else am I going to put it? You know what I mean? So just having that friend is important
24:44because I'd unpacked all my stuff and stay all of it. And I need somebody that I could come back to
24:49and say, I'm finally leaving. No, for real this time. I swear, I swear, I swear. Cause I'm the
24:54girl that's like, I'm done with him, girl. Hold on. It's him. I'm going to call you right back.
24:57So I'm going to make sure we keep a balance on that. I am not that friend. You got three times.
25:04I'm sorry. I'm not, I'm not that friend. You got three times to tell me. You tell me the first
25:10time. I don't say nothing. You tell me the second time. I don't say nothing. You tell me the third
25:13time that you asked me your opinion and you don't listen. You can't come to me. But like,
25:18I'll keep listening. I'll keep helping. But you know, I love that we even have friends that,
25:27I love that we even have friends that do that though. Like that, like, you know,
25:31I'm, these are your blind spots and this is what I've missed here. Yeah. So, so
25:36you think that there's a girl code anymore? Like, do you think like,
25:42if, Oh, she said update needs to have an iOS. Wait, what happened? She said it needs to be
25:47updated. But can we bring it back then? Like how, how is it that, um, let's name,
25:52okay. Let's name five rules. Oh gosh. Yeah. Let's get into it. Let's name five rules or must
25:57for our newly established girl code that we're going to abide by from this day forward.
26:02I just know the, the one girl code where like you never talk to anybody's boyfriend. Like that's
26:07the only girl code I know. Is it just boyfriend? Girlfriend? Everyone? No, no. Well, girl, of
26:12course, all exclusive, all, all, and all things, babe, everyone wins. Okay. I was saying,
26:20is it somebody who somebody even looked at before? Like, what is the parameters around that?
26:27They like, wake it up, wake it up. Cause I speak for myself and saying one, my friends,
26:33and I don't know if this is just a coincidence, but we don't even like the same type of guys.
26:37We went into a room and it was a hundred guys in there. We got to pick five. We come out with two,
26:41five different, different people. Like we never liked the same people, but I wonder in certain
26:47friend groups, if somebody was like, I like, I think he's nice looking. And then is it okay
26:52for your friend to be like, you know what I mean? That's tricky. It's tricky because you don't know
27:00why. Like, did you see him when I saw him or do you just not like him? Because I said he was cute.
27:05Yeah, that's a good point. Like that's a little tricky. That's true. I think I know when I had
27:10a crush on my friend's brother, I think, I don't know if that should be a part of the girl code
27:15because she was like, I don't know about that. Okay. So let's do one. Thou shall not
27:22deal with my brother. Cause he probably don't even shower every day. She probably could have
27:26gave you to him. For real. So wait, thou shall not be involved with your friends involved.
27:35Family. I feel like that's like, if they're involved in some way without a discussion,
27:40how about that? So can we get, can we get five rules that needs to be established?
27:44What are y'all for? Which y'all I take, I'll take five. What are you thinking? Let me get one.
27:55Yeah. She said my friends shall not be friends with my exes. Let me get one more.
28:00Let me get one more man. White shirt.
28:09That's good. My friends should not be telling their friends, my business.
28:16Sorry. I got a little, knows everything that man knows. Anybody on this side?
28:22My man knows it all. Y'all don't have no rules on this whole side. Okay.
28:26My friends should be a girl's girl. Don't be putting men before me.
28:29Ooh, I love that. Be a girl's girl. Don't put men's before the girls. That's a good one.
28:35Do not make friends based off what they can do for you, but how they make you feel.
28:39Oh, that's good. Yes. That's a good one. I like this audience so much. I have one.
28:45Thou shall hold each other accountable. Yeah, that's a good one. I think that's good. And not
28:50get offended. I like that. Yeah. Because I'm, I'm here for you. I'm not against you. Yeah.
28:55How do y'all celebrate Friendsgiving? Do you have any holiday traditions you enjoy with your
28:59friends? So Friendsgiving, I have one every year. So I moved, I moved to LA for grad school after I
29:05finished Howard, Howard, you know, first guy. Sorry. Okay. Okay. Period. It's always one of us
29:12somewhere. Anyways. Um, yeah, I went, I went, I moved to LA after I finished my undergraduate
29:17program. And that being said, I was broke when I had, when I was getting my master's and I couldn't
29:22go home for Thanksgiving. So I established having Friendsgiving every year at my house and a bunch
29:27of my friends would come and bring stuff and we would have community and prayer and praise and
29:31worship at the end and all the things. So, um, it's something that's like really big in my friend
29:35group now. And now that I'm, you know, more established for myself, my family can come to
29:40my house and we can have Thanksgiving, but literally for the last, I would say eight,
29:44seven, eight years, we did it with just friends. And they also, we found community in each other
29:49because we all couldn't go home. So it would be, it was like a bunch of people that were
29:53transplants in LA that, you know, needed each other, especially my Howard family. And so we found
29:59real bond in that. Oh, I love that. That's beautiful. Do you do Friendsgiving? I've never
30:05done one. Really? I've never, I've never done one. Maybe this is the first year where I'll
30:09be able to do it. You are officially invited to my house for Friendsgiving. Let's do it. Yes. I,
30:13I do it for, um, a lot of my friends, a lot of my friends are actors and artists and they don't
30:20really have places to go. So it's kind of the same thing. You know, my mom also lives with me
30:25and my mom is a lot of people's moms. If you've ever met my mom, like she just adopts, she just
30:31adopts all my friends. Like they literally call my mom, text my mom, they'll come and sit and
30:35talk with my mom. Um, and I just kind of offered that for, for, for people. And the tradition is
30:42for Thanksgiving, we have a traditional Thanksgiving one. Everybody has to bring a
30:47dish. Um, everybody picks, you know, pick something. And we always end up playing a
30:52game like a drinking game. We always find the newest dance crave. Like it was the Tamiya.
30:58Last year we did the Tamiya. Everybody learned the Tamiya. When I think about you. That one.
31:04Everybody learned that one. So that's kind of like, those are kind of like traditions that we
31:08should, we should actually do that. Yeah. Okay. But I remember if we, we got to teach it.
31:15Okay. So like, what are you cooking? Are you cooking? Are you hiring a chef? Like,
31:19no, I'm for sure cooking. Definitely cooking. Um, yams, mac and cheese. Um, I like to, I think
31:25cooking is extremely therapeutic and personally in no shade, no tea. I be wanting to cook the
31:30stuff that I know is going to like, whatever y'all bring is cool. If I miss out on the mac
31:35and cheese this year because somebody did it wrong, it's going to be really, really bad in
31:39this household. So everybody bring your own rendition of whatever you can bring. And some
31:44people need to be plate people. You know, some people, you know, I mean, you know, no, I don't
31:50cook. I'll bring, I'll bake some cookies. You know, you can bake. No, I just get them from the
31:55store. I put them in the, I put them in the oven and that's it. Hey, that's bacon. No champagne.
32:03No, I should bring the liquor. I should, I just bring myself.
32:07Raina, you don't bring anything to the house. It's usually at my house.
32:12Okay. So you provide, you provide the home and the love. Okay. So cook, cook home. Yeah. Got it.