The rules of attraction, chemistry, and being turned on by someone are ever-changing in modern dating. Human behavior is equally as complex and all over the map but fortunately, there are a few particular behavior traits that turn many people on the most. Quite a lot of it really involves you being your authentic self and, of course, a little innocuous pretending goes a long way as well. Here are a few traits that wouldn't hurt if you start practicing them now for future dates. These are behaviors that turn people on the most.
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00:00Attraction can be tricky, which is part of why dating is so tough.
00:04While a vast array of studies have revealed that a person's attraction to others is based
00:08on many different factors, there are some behaviors that have been proven to attract
00:12other people the most, and that you should adopt ASAP.
00:16Volunteering not only helps your community, but it's also been found to benefit your health
00:19and attractiveness.
00:21As part of a 2013 study, researchers polled men and women and asked them to rate the attractiveness
00:26of people demonstrating a helping behavior and people demonstrating another type of behavior.
00:31Those engaged in helping behaviors, both men and women, were rated as significantly more
00:35attractive as long-term partners.
00:37When it came to short-term relationships, altruism also had a positive effect on the
00:41attractiveness of men, but not of women.
00:44A woman's volunteer spirit is apparently a non-factor for men seeking a fling.
00:48I volunteer!
00:49I volunteer!
00:50Sorry, Katniss.
00:51Playing coy seems like a solid strategy, but if you're going to flirt, it's totally
00:56okay to be up front about what you're doing.
00:59Hey, you guys, I seem to be lost, can you guys help me?
01:07And as it turns out, some of the movements that naturally attract men might already feel
01:11natural to you.
01:13Helen E. Fisher, an anthropologist and human behavior researcher, wrote,
01:17First, the woman smiles at her admirer and lifts her eyebrows in a swift, jerky motion
01:21as she opens her eyes wide to gaze at him.
01:24Then, she drops her eyelids, tilts her head down and to the side, and looks away.
01:28Fisher revealed that men often use a chest thrust, or a way of standing tall, when flirting.
01:33Additionally, anthropologist David Givens and biologist Timothy Purper analyzed the
01:37flirting patterns of Americans and found that men also exaggerate their body movements to
01:41draw attention to themselves.
01:44Wow.
01:47Intense.
01:48Could the car you choose to drive and the apartment you choose to rent impact your love
01:52life?
01:53In a 2014 study, volunteers were asked to rate the attractiveness of a man or woman
01:57pictured standing in either a luxury apartment or a run-of-the-mill apartment.
02:02The study revealed,
02:03"[The male model was rated significantly more attractive when presented to females
02:06in the high status compared to the neutral status context."
02:10In an earlier study, a similar test was conducted with a high-status vehicle, a Bentley Continental
02:15GT, and a neutral-status vehicle, a red Ford Fiesta ST.
02:19Men who appeared to own the Bentley were perceived as significantly more attractive.
02:23As was the case in the 2014 study, status didn't affect how the men rated the woman's
02:27attractiveness.
02:28Ladies, if you found yourself swiping left for men in Ford Fiestas, now you know why.
02:33Wow.
02:34Seven bucks will probably cover it.
02:37You keep that.
02:38You might need it.
02:39Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, as they say.
02:41But your eyes are actually even more powerful than that.
02:44By adjusting your gaze, you have the ability to attract another person.
02:48Anthropologist and behavior expert Helen E. Fisher wrote,
02:51"[In Western cultures, men and women often stare intently at potential mates for about
02:55two to three seconds, during which their pupils may dilate, a sign of extreme interest.
03:00After locking eyes for those few vital seconds, you'll want to look away, or, you know, you
03:04might completely freak the person out."
03:06This type of eyes-only communication has been dubbed the copulatory gaze, and, well, you
03:10can probably guess why.
03:12According to Fisher, this form of eye contact causes an almost instantaneous reaction.
03:17I am being assertive, and I am making eye contact, and it is achieving results."
03:23The benefits of mindfulness are abundant.
03:25According to the American Psychological Association, mindfulness can reduce stress, increase your
03:30focus and memory, and even boost your relationship satisfaction.
03:34A 2015 study also proved that mindfulness has the ability to influence romantic attraction.
03:39Say what?
03:40Through a speed dating experiment, researchers from the School of Psychology at the University
03:44of Queensland and the School of Psychology and Public Health at La Trobe University in
03:48Australia reviewed the effects of dispositional mindfulness on attraction.
03:52Essentially, that's someone who is both aware of and considers their thoughts and feelings
03:56while in the moment.
03:57By the end of the study, the psychologists found that women were more attracted to men
04:01who had a higher level of dispositional mindfulness.
04:04The male participants, however, were still more attracted to women who they considered
04:08more physically attractive.
04:09That said, this was the first time a study like this had been conducted.
04:12Could men eventually become more attracted to mindfulness than physical looks?
04:16Hmm.
04:17Experts at the University of Southern California pulled 10,000 men and women from all over
04:21the world and determined which qualities made a person most attractive.
04:25The survey revealed that an overwhelming percentage of people, 75 percent to be exact, rated courage
04:31as even more important than confidence.
04:33Likewise, risk-taking was also found to be super sexy.
04:37But how does one demonstrate courage to a potential partner?
04:40Perhaps the easiest way is to incorporate courage into your everyday life.
04:44Sure, it can help you in the dating game, but there are plenty of benefits outside of
04:47that, especially when it comes to your career.
04:50According to Forbes, speaking up in a meeting, even when you're the only woman in the room,
04:54setting boundaries with co-workers, and making time for self-care are just a few ways to
04:58exercise courage on a regular basis.