Some might consider it taboo but more and more couples are adopting the IVF route to having a baby. Here’s actor Mahhi Vij talking about her experience…
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00:00I had tried IVF when I was 32, it didn't click.
00:04At a certain age, a lot of doctors told me to offer surrogacy.
00:08But Jai wanted to enjoy those 9 months and
00:13full period of having a child,
00:16going every month to see ultrasound.
00:30Mahi, your journey, your pregnancy journey has not been so easy.
00:59People don't know about it.
01:00There are women dealing with a lot of difficulty.
01:05But you have been a prime example of not losing hope.
01:08There was a point where you said in my last interview that you were losing hope.
01:12Were there difficult moments then?
01:14And then when Tara happened, how happy were you as a mother?
01:17I had tried IVF when I was 32, it didn't click.
01:21Obviously, I was told by the doctor that I'll have to choose IVF.
01:26And then there was a certain age where a lot of doctors told me to offer surrogacy.
01:32But Jai wanted to enjoy those 9 months and
01:37full period of having a child,
01:40going every month to see ultrasound.
01:45He said, I want to enjoy that journey.
01:47This is going to be the last try.
01:50After this, I will not force you because IVF is not an easy journey.
01:55There are a lot of ups and downs.
01:57Emotionally, you feel drained.
01:59Your health goes for a toss.
02:01You put on weight.
02:02Your mental health goes for a toss.
02:04So, you give a lot as a woman when you are delivering a human.
02:11A new life altogether.
02:13So, Tara was our last try and it clicked.
02:20After that, I didn't feel the pain when I got 100 injections.
02:26Because I knew that this is for my daughter.
02:28For her well-being.
02:29Because when I got pregnant, I still got shots.
02:33For about 4 months, I used to get good injections.
02:39But I was happy that this is part.
02:45We can't expect that everything will go smoothly in life.
02:50There will be difficult times.
02:53God also knows that there is so much strength in this.
03:03So, we have to give it.
03:05And it will come out.
03:07So, I feel that I have come out of that.
03:11I have come out smoothly.
03:13And Tara was born a premature baby.
03:18She is a 30-week-old.
03:20I broke once when she was not leaving the ventilator.
03:26That's when I broke.
03:28Otherwise, I am very positive.
03:31I thought that she will be fine.
03:33This is her part.
03:36She has to be in the NICU.
03:38She has to be with the doctors.
03:40She is in good hands.
03:43We didn't do anything wrong.
03:44When you don't do anything wrong, you always think positively.
03:48It will be good.
03:49We didn't do anything wrong.
03:50So, it will be good.
03:51Those who do something wrong, they have a fear.
03:54They remember their mistakes.
03:56Maybe I did something wrong at that time.
03:58It's so weird.
04:00Biologically, I understand.
04:02But the society also puts a timer on women.
04:04You have to have a baby by this age.
04:07Or you shouldn't.
04:08Don't do this.
04:09They put it biologically.
04:11But there is also a societal pressure.
04:13Not only men.
04:14Biologically, men can also have complications.
04:19Have you ever noticed that the society has a view
04:22where the pressure is always on a woman.
04:25Marry at this age.
04:26Have children by this age.
04:27Have you ever heard this?
04:29No.
04:30I wanted to get married before 30.
04:32And have children by 30.
04:33But Jai was not ready.
04:35But this issue comes on women.
04:38It comes on women because men have a problem.
04:43It's not only that women have a problem.
04:46Because of the man, they are facing this problem.
04:49True.