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00:01:28Assalam-o-Alaikum, good morning, good morning Pakistan! How are you?
00:01:33By the way, if you take out the percentage in the whole of Pakistan, more than half of the people would be sick.
00:01:38As the weather changes, the disease leaves its mark.
00:01:41This disease is seasonal, sometimes it comes, sometimes it goes.
00:01:46But there is one disease that has entered our minds, and that is the disease of slavery.
00:01:52That is, we have become slaves of the British, that the white color is not coming out of our minds.
00:01:59And in our future generation, no matter how our children are, we look for that thing in the future girl.
00:02:06And a lot of people have pain from this thing, there is also sorrow about why it is not coming out of our minds.
00:02:14I mean, it's been a long time since the British left this area, but why is slavery still in our minds?
00:02:23You have a great desire to get your children married, especially I am addressing the mother of sons.
00:02:31Listen to the list of their wishes.
00:02:34In the list of their wishes, there are thin, thin, smart, fair, long hair, big, big eyes, slender neck.
00:02:45Do you want a daughter-in-law or a model for the modeling of a brand?
00:02:50I don't know, but it happens in the list.
00:02:53Then what happens next, they need Katrina and Sakina together.
00:02:58They want a girl who is educated, well-educated, the girl knows all the housework.
00:03:07I don't understand that if the girls, they also want a girl of young age, if the girls are studying.
00:03:14And along with studying, they have so much education burden on them.
00:03:19So she can't learn the work of the kitchen and all these things at home.
00:03:24But the mother-in-law wants everything in the girl, no matter how her daughters are, no matter how her sons are.
00:03:31But they need a fair girl daughter-in-law.
00:03:35Along with all these qualities, but also innocent, without a tongue, also intelligent, not stupid.
00:03:48So they have asked for a lot of things together.
00:03:52And a lot of people get their favorite daughters-in-law in the same way,
00:04:02whose first impression is your favorite.
00:04:05But then slowly, what is it that you have not given priority,
00:04:11today we are going to show you in this program,
00:04:15we are going to tell you and practically we are going to make you experience it.
00:04:20You are switching the camera so much that I have gone crazy, I should go here, I should go there.
00:04:26Something strange is happening.
00:04:28So today we will show you that you will feel that you have got your favorite daughter-in-law.
00:04:34But after that what happens, you will also see that.
00:04:38So today for the discussion of this panel, we have some people present in our studios.
00:04:44Our celebrity guest list is Ghazala Javed and Farah Nadeem.
00:04:47These two are here because they have played so many mother-in-law characters in dramas,
00:04:52that they do not know personally because they are the mothers of both daughters.
00:04:56So in real life, both daughters also have a mother.
00:05:00So in real life, they know what the pain of daughters is and what happens when someone is rejected.
00:05:06And in the real life, that is, the life of the camera, they have also become mothers-in-law.
00:05:13And they must have also looked for such daughters-in-law.
00:05:15So she is with us as a celebrity guest.
00:05:17And the experts we have with us are Dr. Aila Faisal, a clinical psychologist.
00:05:23And Dr. Erum Musa, another clinical psychologist.
00:05:29We have called two experts today so that the discussion is going to be great.
00:05:34Assalam-o-Alaikum.
00:05:35How are you?
00:05:36Fine?
00:05:37May God bless you.
00:05:38Yes.
00:05:39So I was right, we are slaves.
00:05:42First of all, you are looking so good.
00:05:44Mashallah, the dress is looking very good.
00:05:47I was a little late.
00:05:49Okay, you are on set for the first time.
00:05:51I have also come for the first time.
00:05:52Beautiful set.
00:05:54Pinky Pinky.
00:05:55Pinky Pinky.
00:05:56Pinky Pinky.
00:05:57Pinky Pinky.
00:05:58Pinky Pinky.
00:05:59Pinky Pinky.
00:06:00Pinky Pinky.
00:06:01Pinky Pinky.
00:06:02Pinky Pinky.
00:06:03Pinky Pinky.
00:06:04Pinky Pinky.
00:06:05Pinky Pinky.
00:06:06Pinky Pinky.
00:06:07Pinky Pinky.
00:06:08Pinky Pinky.
00:06:09Pinky Pinky.
00:06:10Pinky Pinky.
00:06:12But one thing is that coming to this set today, the morning show is looking very healthy and fresh.
00:06:19Because the set is so fresh that when a person watches it on TV and even comes to watch it,
00:06:24the sleep that comes in the morning, all that disappears.
00:06:29Eyes open.
00:06:30Freshness.
00:06:31Eyes open.
00:06:33So today our team went to meet ordinary women and asked them their wishes.
00:06:44So many people will not believe.
00:06:46No, no, no.
00:06:47This does not happen now.
00:06:48Now the mothers-in-law are not looking for such daughters-in-law.
00:06:52This is the talk of the old days.
00:06:54What did Nida take?
00:06:55I will show you things with proof that people's mindset has not even changed.
00:07:00You are talking about daughters-in-law.
00:07:02The heroine of our drama has stopped taking Sambli.
00:07:05Which is a big pain for me.
00:07:08I am telling all my producers, all the people who are watching,
00:07:11that all the girls the heroines take in dramas,
00:07:15now you see Sambli, you count a little.
00:07:17No, no.
00:07:18Anyway, what is your name?
00:07:20I can't see any Sambli heroine.
00:07:22You are right.
00:07:23I mean, do anything.
00:07:25This white color that is on us, it is not coming off.
00:07:29This was the case when we were born.
00:07:31This was the case when our daughters were born.
00:07:34But we will always be very God-fearing.
00:07:39And we will say that this is nature.
00:07:41And our faith is very strong.
00:07:43And specially I have not seen those people,
00:07:45who are doing a lot of Namaz, Tabligh.
00:07:50Those people do this.
00:07:52When they go to see the daughter-in-law,
00:07:54No, I want a fair one.
00:07:56I want educated.
00:07:57Okay, your daughters.
00:07:59We don't wake up our daughters in the morning.
00:08:01Which is true.
00:08:02I have seen the majority in my house too.
00:08:04Going to college, going to school, going to university,
00:08:07that is a different thing.
00:08:08But otherwise, if there is a holiday or anything,
00:08:12which is not their practical work,
00:08:14we don't wake them up.
00:08:16Wake up early in the morning.
00:08:17It is a good thing to wake up early in the morning.
00:08:19It is a good thing to work.
00:08:20But as soon as the daughter-in-law comes,
00:08:22if the daughter-in-law sleeps late,
00:08:24if the daughter-in-law sleeps late,
00:08:25then her words will spread all over the world.
00:08:28Oh, she doesn't get up after sleeping.
00:08:30What does she have to do in life?
00:08:32And then fights start on this.
00:08:34Your son is taught a lot.
00:08:37Your daughter-in-law is this, your wife is that.
00:08:40I mean, what do you want?
00:08:43I don't understand.
00:08:44Let's see what they want.
00:08:46Let's listen to their language.
00:08:48So, my team who has gone out,
00:08:51go here and there and ask people.
00:08:54My team is ready.
00:09:01Hello.
00:09:02Hello.
00:09:03Are you looking for a daughter-in-law?
00:09:04Yes.
00:09:05What kind of daughter-in-law do you want?
00:09:07I want a very beautiful daughter-in-law.
00:09:08I have only one son.
00:09:10My son and I have the same demand.
00:09:12We will not compromise on this.
00:09:14My daughter-in-law should be fair,
00:09:15long hair, big eyes.
00:09:18Tell me something about your son.
00:09:20Who looks at a boy's face?
00:09:22My son earns 1 lakh rupees.
00:09:24What if he has a little hair?
00:09:26What if he has less hair?
00:09:27But if the future daughter-in-law is beautiful,
00:09:29then the future generation will be beautiful.
00:09:32Did you see what I said?
00:09:34I mean, I will show you with proof.
00:09:36Today's people,
00:09:38even if the world has reached the moon
00:09:41and I don't know what else,
00:09:42technologies have come,
00:09:44it is the age of AI,
00:09:45but the definition of daughter-in-law will remain the same
00:09:50as it was in your mother's mother's mother's mother's time.
00:09:56But the worst thing is that
00:09:58there are women who reject.
00:10:00There are women who look for.
00:10:02There are women who find shortcomings.
00:10:04And they don't want to see
00:10:06that when I was rejected,
00:10:10what was my condition at that time?
00:10:13If you have a problem in the past,
00:10:17then you go ahead and do good work.
00:10:19Did you say that you have to do that?
00:10:21I think it is wrong that a girl brings a tray,
00:10:25brings samosas, tea and shows it to herself.
00:10:27Why is it presented like this?
00:10:29I am against this.
00:10:31You have to like it.
00:10:32You have to see the girl.
00:10:33Meet her parents.
00:10:34What is this way that you are presenting the girl?
00:10:37I think most of the girls you see,
00:10:41you go to a wedding or a function
00:10:43or a get-together
00:10:45and see that
00:10:47and take the child too.
00:10:49So that the girl doesn't know
00:10:51that someone is watching us.
00:10:53After that, approach her parents.
00:10:55I would like to ask you people
00:10:57what is the psychology of a person?
00:10:59A person likes beautiful things.
00:11:01If the set is good,
00:11:03if the set is beautiful,
00:11:05then you have praised it.
00:11:07This is the nature of a person.
00:11:09If you are looking for a face,
00:11:11then why does it become a priority?
00:11:13You have talked about white people.
00:11:15We still have that complex.
00:11:17But if you bring a white daughter-in-law,
00:11:19then you will be praised.
00:11:21People will say that you have brought a good daughter-in-law.
00:11:23That is a social factor.
00:11:25You get a social status.
00:11:27This is an important thing.
00:11:29Then you talked about the generation.
00:11:31The generation will be beautiful.
00:11:33People are very beauty conscious.
00:11:35This is the nature of a person
00:11:37that he goes for his parents.
00:11:39But when you are going to get married,
00:11:41then this is a superficial thing.
00:11:43We see that marriage happens.
00:11:45In such cases,
00:11:47you see divorce rates.
00:11:49Compatibility is an important thing.
00:11:51Both the boy and the girl's
00:11:53lifestyle is matching.
00:11:55The way of thinking is matching.
00:11:57What are the goals of the boy and the girl?
00:11:59For career, for home, for children,
00:12:01for religion, for practice.
00:12:03There are many things
00:12:05If we stay at the same level,
00:12:07then we will miss these important factors.
00:12:09And then we see that
00:12:11problems start after a few months.
00:12:13Which we can avoid first.
00:12:15You can check these things a little.
00:12:17The boy and the girl
00:12:19should talk a little.
00:12:21You should give them some time to understand.
00:12:23Do some questions.
00:12:25See about your goals.
00:12:27If you want a fair daughter-in-law,
00:12:29and if you want a well-maintained daughter-in-law,
00:12:31then she will spend time in salons.
00:12:33You have to accept that.
00:12:35If you bring a working woman,
00:12:37then she can't manage the house
00:12:39like a housewife.
00:12:41And if you bring a housewife,
00:12:43then she will be dependent on you.
00:12:45These are some factors.
00:12:47Psychology says that
00:12:49when we select a partner,
00:12:51people go to a superficial level.
00:12:53I feel that
00:12:55when you are looking for a doctor's daughter-in-law,
00:12:57just to show the world that
00:12:59my daughter-in-law is a doctor,
00:13:01and when she comes,
00:13:03you will make her sit at home.
00:13:05This is even more painful.
00:13:09You don't get permission from your in-laws
00:13:11to practice.
00:13:13But when the boy wanted
00:13:15to find a daughter-in-law,
00:13:17only the relatives were told
00:13:19that we don't need anyone other than a doctor.
00:13:21This is even more painful.
00:13:25Either you don't find a doctor's daughter-in-law,
00:13:27or you write a clear criteria
00:13:29that we need a housewife.
00:13:33And then you come and
00:13:35see her hard work,
00:13:37her education,
00:13:39even the seat of a doctor is gone.
00:13:41And she has studied for so long.
00:13:43Especially,
00:13:45when you are looking for
00:13:47a doctor's daughter-in-law,
00:13:49majority of families,
00:13:51I know such families,
00:13:53obviously a person can't take names,
00:13:55but they are very famous,
00:13:57if they are looking for a daughter-in-law,
00:13:59they are only looking for a doctor
00:14:01because her sister-in-law
00:14:03has married
00:14:05her son's doctor.
00:14:07So how can she stay behind?
00:14:09She married a doctor.
00:14:11But in our family,
00:14:13women don't work outside.
00:14:15We don't have this tradition.
00:14:17No, no.
00:14:19I want to introduce people.
00:14:21Today we have
00:14:23thought of a poll
00:14:25and talked to them
00:14:27and got an idea
00:14:29if the mentality of today's world has changed or not.
00:14:31And after that,
00:14:33I want to show you
00:14:35that those who got their favorite daughter-in-law,
00:14:37still they are not happy.
00:14:39And why?
00:14:41Who is with me behind the curtain?
00:14:43Kamar is with me.
00:14:45Obviously, she won't want to tell or show.
00:14:47Life is still going on.
00:14:49Yes, Kamar.
00:14:51Assalam-o-Alaikum.
00:14:53I also wanted
00:14:55that my daughter-in-law should be like the moon.
00:14:57Kamar, say it a little louder.
00:14:59I also wanted
00:15:01my daughter-in-law to be like the moon.
00:15:03I was also looking for that moon.
00:15:05And I told my relatives
00:15:07that I want a daughter-in-law like the moon.
00:15:09I want such a beautiful daughter-in-law
00:15:11because my son is very handsome.
00:15:13We all are from the same family.
00:15:15So,
00:15:17I was not getting that moon.
00:15:19I rejected
00:15:21my daughter-in-law's height.
00:15:23Her hair was long
00:15:25and her height was short.
00:15:27And when a girl
00:15:29used to bring tea,
00:15:31I didn't like her fingers
00:15:33because they were not delicate.
00:15:35So, I wanted a perfect beauty
00:15:37which I was not getting.
00:15:39By the grace of Allah,
00:15:41I got that beauty.
00:15:43And when I got that beauty,
00:15:45her parents didn't want to marry her.
00:15:47They used to say that
00:15:49my daughter-in-law is very delicate
00:15:51and she doesn't know how to take care of the house.
00:15:53So, I said,
00:15:55I have found the girl I was looking for.
00:15:57So, you can marry her.
00:15:59By the grace of Allah,
00:16:01I got married
00:16:03and brought my son's beautiful wife
00:16:05home.
00:16:07Everyone praised me
00:16:09and asked me
00:16:11how I found such a beautiful girl.
00:16:13She was like the moon.
00:16:15And I used to feel proud
00:16:17that I got such a beautiful daughter-in-law.
00:16:19I got that beauty
00:16:21but
00:16:23she started dancing on my head.
00:16:25As soon as she came,
00:16:27she controlled her husband.
00:16:29She didn't listen to us.
00:16:31She used to sleep all day
00:16:33and didn't take care of the house
00:16:35or the kitchen.
00:16:37So, I told my son
00:16:39that I have old bones
00:16:41and I should take care of the house
00:16:43and the kitchen.
00:16:45He said,
00:16:47you can see all the bad things
00:16:49in Saira.
00:16:51She is so beautiful.
00:16:53Why do you want to harm her?
00:16:55If she used to sleep all day,
00:16:57she used to listen to him.
00:16:59She used to say that
00:17:01my wife is the best
00:17:03and this is the best thing about her.
00:17:05So, she controlled her husband
00:17:07and separated from him.
00:17:09I felt sad
00:17:11that I shouldn't have found
00:17:13such a beautiful daughter-in-law.
00:17:15Instead, I should have found
00:17:17a well-mannered, good-natured
00:17:19and happy-go-lucky girl
00:17:21who would have taken care of us
00:17:23and her husband.
00:17:25We would have lived happily together.
00:17:27Finding a beautiful girl
00:17:29is not a big deal.
00:17:31You can find many beautiful girls
00:17:33but it is very difficult
00:17:35to find a good-natured girl
00:17:37whom we don't value at all.
00:17:39I would like to ask you
00:17:41that you must have seen
00:17:43many mothers-in-law
00:17:45who are going to be mothers-in-law.
00:17:47My sons are still young
00:17:49and we are also going to be mothers-in-law.
00:17:51My sons are still young
00:17:53but I will also learn a lot
00:17:55from today's program.
00:17:57So, tell me,
00:17:59how would you guess
00:18:01a well-mannered, good-natured
00:18:03and happy-go-lucky girl?
00:18:05You can guess her beauty
00:18:07from her first impression.
00:18:09How would you guess
00:18:11a well-mannered, good-natured
00:18:13and happy-go-lucky girl?
00:18:15Do you have any tips for this?
00:18:17Do you have any tips for this?
00:18:19Do you have any tips for this?
00:18:21Usually, when we meet someone
00:18:23the first thing that comes to our mind
00:18:25is their physical characteristics.
00:18:27is their physical characteristics.
00:18:29This is the first thing
00:18:31that connects us.
00:18:33If you are meeting someone
00:18:35who is neat and good-natured
00:18:37or tall
00:18:39or fair
00:18:41or educated
00:18:43then the first thing that connects you
00:18:45is the person
00:18:47who is also good-natured.
00:18:49is also good-natured.
00:18:51The second thing
00:18:53is their personality.
00:18:55You don't know their personality.
00:18:57You don't know their personality.
00:18:59You get the compatibility
00:19:01when you meet someone.
00:19:03You get the compatibility
00:19:05when you meet someone.
00:19:07Then you get to know
00:19:09who you are spending your life with
00:19:11We think of marriage
00:19:13We think of marriage
00:19:15For me,
00:19:17we don't meet boys and girls.
00:19:19The mothers
00:19:21meet the girls
00:19:23meet the girls
00:19:25and if they approve
00:19:27or the girl's father
00:19:29then
00:19:31you meet the boy
00:19:33This is how it is.
00:19:34Actually, you would have said no, not at all, we can't meet.
00:19:37A lot of people still do this.
00:19:39There are problems in this too.
00:19:40When you connect with someone on an external level,
00:19:43you don't know what's going on internally.
00:19:45And you have to live your life.
00:19:47So on what basis will you live your life?
00:19:49Appearance is a factor with which you can't spend the rest of your life.
00:19:54My question is,
00:19:55like we have to analyse someone,
00:19:58apart from their physical appearance,
00:20:04if we want to meet someone,
00:20:11if we want to meet someone and analyse their upbringing,
00:20:15can we find out in just one meeting?
00:20:18Or are there a few things that we can mark
00:20:23that yes, this is a good upbringing.
00:20:28I'll come back after the break and ask the question again.
00:20:42Welcome, welcome back, good morning Pakistan.
00:20:45Today we have a very strange topic.
00:20:48And with apologies, if you have such a mentality,
00:20:53then change it.
00:20:54Because its after effects are not good.
00:20:56I'm showing you the after effects on the show today.
00:21:01If you like your mind,
00:21:04which is a very awkward choice in your list,
00:21:08to move forward in your generation,
00:21:11to find a girl,
00:21:13like we were talking before the break,
00:21:18someone said something to me,
00:21:22and she said that the delicate, beautiful daughter-in-law
00:21:26of her house and what she did to her.
00:21:28So after that, I came to you for the next question.
00:21:32To ask,
00:21:34that in the first impression, we know the physical appearance,
00:21:39but we can't know the inner state of the heart.
00:21:42How do we see the character?
00:21:44What tips do you want to give to the women?
00:21:48Obviously, they don't have white hair in the sun,
00:21:50they are experienced women.
00:21:52How do we find out that yes, she is the one?
00:21:55She likes the girl.
00:21:58I will give some tips,
00:21:59which are basic tips.
00:22:01It's difficult to tell what happens in the end,
00:22:04but there are some initial tips that I would like to share with you.
00:22:07First, try to go through reference,
00:22:10so that you get an idea that the family background.
00:22:12For example, I want to find a girl for my son.
00:22:16Ghazala Apa said,
00:22:16Nidha, she is his daughter, I know her.
00:22:21This is also her job.
00:22:23She has done a lot of relationships.
00:22:25She has become famous.
00:22:28She is a very good daughter.
00:22:30She is so sweet,
00:22:32she has been brought up so well,
00:22:33that she knows her as a family friend.
00:22:38This is what you should say.
00:22:40Go through reference.
00:22:40Second, observe for a while,
00:22:43that in some families,
00:22:45you want the girls to be confident,
00:22:46to have relatives,
00:22:47to have some parties,
00:22:49so that they can interact.
00:22:50If a girl of this personality
00:22:52will get along well with your family,
00:22:54then you can see these things.
00:22:56In some places, you can see...
00:22:57How will you analyse that the girl is confident?
00:22:59By the way she talks?
00:23:00By the way she talks,
00:23:01tone of voice,
00:23:02the way she talks,
00:23:04the way she is getting along.
00:23:05First, you ask about the situation.
00:23:09In some families, they want the girl to be more secretive,
00:23:12to sit quietly.
00:23:14Like a lot of people say at weddings,
00:23:16that this girl is very talkative,
00:23:17she is talking a lot on stage.
00:23:19So you get an idea from the family background,
00:23:21by talking,
00:23:22that what is the level of confidence.
00:23:24So you can see these things
00:23:26according to your family background.
00:23:28Let me tell you one thing,
00:23:30the girls who are over-confident,
00:23:34they think that
00:23:37there is no such thing as us.
00:23:40Apart from beauty,
00:23:41the over-confidence
00:23:43is also very dangerous for a person.
00:23:46Especially among girls.
00:23:48They have their own tips,
00:23:51but my tip is,
00:23:53when you go to someone's house for a marriage proposal,
00:23:56the first thing you do is very good,
00:23:59go with a reference.
00:24:00If you have any link,
00:24:02then go with that.
00:24:04But the link,
00:24:06because when you do a marriage proposal,
00:24:08that link becomes different.
00:24:09But meeting like that,
00:24:11is something else.
00:24:12What are your tips?
00:24:13My tip is,
00:24:15first of all,
00:24:16when you go to see the girl,
00:24:17when you go to the girl's house,
00:24:19then definitely see the girl's mother.
00:24:21Oh good.
00:24:22How is the mother's attitude?
00:24:25Now you see,
00:24:25the mother is sitting here,
00:24:27remember one thing,
00:24:28when the girl comes,
00:24:30if the girl is rude,
00:24:33if she is not good,
00:24:34then she will come,
00:24:35I mean, she will come at the mother's behest,
00:24:37she will bring all the trolleys,
00:24:38she will also give things,
00:24:39so she will see her mother again and again.
00:24:42It will be her nature,
00:24:43that I am doing it for you,
00:24:45what trouble have you put me in?
00:24:46So she will see her mother once in everything,
00:24:49and then she will do it.
00:24:50So if you have seen that
00:24:52you have liked the girl,
00:24:54you want to get married in that house,
00:24:56then you will never go to that house again.
00:25:01Never passing through that house,
00:25:03you will say,
00:25:04I passed by,
00:25:04I said,
00:25:05let's go towards you.
00:25:07No, people don't like this.
00:25:08No,
00:25:09that liking,
00:25:09see,
00:25:10the open people,
00:25:12whose daughter is really very good,
00:25:15they themselves are very good,
00:25:16they will never think this thing is bad.
00:25:19I am telling you this now.
00:25:21No,
00:25:21I am telling you this,
00:25:23like,
00:25:24even real sisters have a house,
00:25:26you call them and go,
00:25:28the times have changed.
00:25:29I am talking about the times of today,
00:25:33that so manyโฆ
00:25:34Okay, you can go on the pretext.
00:25:35You can go on the pretext.
00:25:36I also said that,
00:25:38this is a cake,
00:25:38I said,
00:25:39should I take the cake and go?
00:25:41Okay,
00:25:41go on the pretext.
00:25:42I am also saying the same thing,
00:25:44that I had come here,
00:25:46so I thought when I have come so close,
00:25:48so I will meet my daughter and go,
00:25:51I will see her and go.
00:25:52You should definitely go.
00:25:54See,
00:25:55you have to tell before going,
00:25:56the person gets ready,
00:25:57that those people are coming,
00:25:59you don't have to say this,
00:26:00you have to explain to your daughter,
00:26:01that you have to come like this,
00:26:02you don't have to misbehave at all,
00:26:04you don't have to do this,
00:26:04you don't have to do that,
00:26:05so you make your family,
00:26:06very,
00:26:07I mean,
00:26:08they do it,
00:26:09that everyone has to do it in the right way.
00:26:10Settle down.
00:26:11Yes, settle down.
00:26:12And,
00:26:13I got two tips.
00:26:14One,
00:26:14the reference is yours.
00:26:15She is also saying the right thing.
00:26:16And one more,
00:26:17will you say something?
00:26:17Yes, I will definitely say,
00:26:19I will say that see,
00:26:20family background counts a lot.
00:26:21Okay.
00:26:22If you go to any house,
00:26:23then you should know about their family background,
00:26:25that which family they belong to.
00:26:28And at the entrance of the house,
00:26:29the way they are sitting and standing,
00:26:32this should also be kept in mind.
00:26:34That the house should be clean,
00:26:35sitting and standing.
00:26:37And the entrance of the girl,
00:26:39her footwork,
00:26:40coming and sitting,
00:26:41this counts a lot.
00:26:43That how she is sitting,
00:26:44this is the way she is sitting.
00:26:45She is absolutely right,
00:26:46that by looking at the mother,
00:26:47you get an idea of the daughter.
00:26:48But, there are many daughters,
00:26:50who are better than the mother.
00:26:52Mothers are less,
00:26:53because with time,
00:26:54daughters improve even more.
00:26:56So, the girl,
00:26:56becomes more groomed.
00:26:57Absolutely.
00:26:58But, I am talking about the mother and the sister.
00:27:01You see the majority,
00:27:03that the house gets ruined,
00:27:05that is because of the mother and the sister.
00:27:07That the mother,
00:27:08Okay, sometimes, Ghazala ji,
00:27:09it happens that the mother is very mischievous.
00:27:13The daughter is very good.
00:27:13The daughter is very good.
00:27:14Absolutely.
00:27:15The nature is different.
00:27:17No, you are not understanding the point.
00:27:19The mother is like this,
00:27:22she is married.
00:27:23Now, the mother,
00:27:25see, every girl,
00:27:27understands her mother,
00:27:28that what my mother is saying is right.
00:27:30Even if she is doing it wrong.
00:27:32Very few daughters,
00:27:33are so intelligent,
00:27:34that they argue with their mother.
00:27:38Nowadays, girls say,
00:27:40what do you know, mom?
00:27:41That's what I am saying,
00:27:42she argues.
00:27:43What do you know?
00:27:44No, no, not like that.
00:27:45In this,
00:27:46when it comes to in-laws,
00:27:47the girls listen to their mother a lot.
00:27:49In other things,
00:27:51they say,
00:27:52you don't know,
00:27:52you are from the old times,
00:27:53this and that,
00:27:54what do you know?
00:27:55But when it comes to the relationship
00:27:57between the in-laws,
00:27:59between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law,
00:28:01the daughter listens to her mother.
00:28:05So, we have analysed,
00:28:07with this thing,
00:28:08that if you want to see the upbringing,
00:28:11go through the references,
00:28:12look at the mother.
00:28:13Yes, look at the mother.
00:28:14Look at the family.
00:28:15I will see next,
00:28:17what our ladies are thinking.
00:28:20Yes, team.
00:28:23Assalam-o-Alaikum.
00:28:25Wa-alaikum-as-salam.
00:28:26Are you looking for a daughter-in-law?
00:28:27Yes.
00:28:28What kind of daughter-in-law do you want?
00:28:30If you are asking,
00:28:31I will share with you,
00:28:32that I want a decent and clean daughter-in-law.
00:28:34Who makes round rotis,
00:28:36and clean and soft rotis.
00:28:37And takes care of the cleanliness of the house.
00:28:39She knows how to sew,
00:28:41that you know,
00:28:41how much sewing has become expensive nowadays.
00:28:43So, I want her to do the sewing at home.
00:28:45And the cleanliness of the house,
00:28:47she should be the cleanliness of the house.
00:28:49That's it.
00:28:50Are your daughters still so clean?
00:28:51Oh, no.
00:28:52The girls don't have time for studies.
00:28:54Every day,
00:28:55they say, semester, semester.
00:28:56So, because of this,
00:28:57they don't get time.
00:28:59So, I want,
00:28:59when the daughter-in-law comes,
00:29:00I am tired,
00:29:01now she should take care of the house.
00:29:02This.
00:29:03And I say,
00:29:04that no family member should tell her,
00:29:05that she is useless,
00:29:06that she is an enemy of the family.
00:29:08She is a Kaafani Maasi,
00:29:10that's what she says.
00:29:12Okay,
00:29:13I don't understand such women,
00:29:17that when your house is not running,
00:29:21before the daughter-in-law comes,
00:29:23you starve,
00:29:24you don't cook roti,
00:29:25you don't cook salad,
00:29:27you don't get food,
00:29:28you don't clean,
00:29:29you don't wash the utensils.
00:29:31I mean, all these things,
00:29:32when a house is a routine work,
00:29:34why doesn't your house run in a routine work?
00:29:38A girl has come,
00:29:39she has come to your house,
00:29:41she has left her whole family,
00:29:43mother, father, sister, brother,
00:29:45she has left everyone.
00:29:46So, you come to her,
00:29:47give her a chance,
00:29:49give her a chance,
00:29:49that she understands you,
00:29:51sits with you,
00:29:53talks to you,
00:29:54loves you,
00:29:55daughter has come,
00:29:57if you love her,
00:29:59give her time,
00:30:00and as soon as she comes,
00:30:02I mean,
00:30:03you don't treat her like a Maasi,
00:30:04you will believe that girl,
00:30:06no matter how bad she is,
00:30:08she will be yours.
00:30:09Now, how will she treat you,
00:30:10if her thinking is already that,
00:30:12I want a daughter-in-law like her,
00:30:14who will come and do the household work.
00:30:15No, we are saying that,
00:30:17I mean, such people should change.
00:30:19Like this lady spoke,
00:30:21so, I was very sad,
00:30:23that you are going to look for a Maasi,
00:30:26that you wash the utensils,
00:30:27okay, you also stitch the clothes,
00:30:29this and that,
00:30:30you are a tailor.
00:30:31You should get your son married 3-4 times,
00:30:35you should get a tailor,
00:30:37you should get a Maasi,
00:30:38who does the broom work,
00:30:40and you should get a chef,
00:30:44the one who cooks food,
00:30:45you should get one of them,
00:30:47who will come to their house,
00:30:48and cook round rotis.
00:30:48Her son will be very happy,
00:30:504-5 wives.
00:30:51Yes.
00:30:51When all three of them will get married,
00:30:53her son will be very happy.
00:30:54They say, sugar is found in sugarcane.
00:30:57You see, behind the curtain,
00:30:59a lady comes out,
00:31:00with a lamp,
00:31:01maybe Farida is behind the curtain,
00:31:04and she came out,
00:31:04and let's see what kind of a daughter-in-law she got,
00:31:07and what happened,
00:31:07and how happy she is.
00:31:09Come, let's listen behind the curtain.
00:31:11Yes, Farida.
00:31:13Yes, Needa,
00:31:13I am talking about my son,
00:31:18he does a normal job,
00:31:20and his salary is also very less,
00:31:2250,000 rupees.
00:31:24So, when I thought about his marriage,
00:31:26I thought that I will get him married to a girl,
00:31:30who also does a job,
00:31:32so that she can support my son,
00:31:34and support the house.
00:31:35Because she is the only wife of my house,
00:31:38and I have three daughters.
00:31:40Okay, let me tell you about my son,
00:31:42that he is a little bit like this,
00:31:44that he is very organized,
00:31:45and he has a little bit of a city problem,
00:31:47and means, he wants everything properly.
00:31:49So, his sisters also used to say that,
00:31:52you didn't wash my shirt properly,
00:31:55and it was stained,
00:31:56and you didn't iron it properly,
00:31:57or I didn't get food on time,
00:31:59and he used to live like this.
00:32:02Anyway, I got a girl,
00:32:04obviously, she is a job seeker.
00:32:06Now, when she does the job herself,
00:32:08she also comes home,
00:32:10and she doesn't participate in any of the household chores.
00:32:14Even she neglects my son's chores a lot,
00:32:17that I have come home tired myself,
00:32:19and my son says,
00:32:23at least you take care of my chores.
00:32:25But then,
00:32:27both of them started fighting,
00:32:29after some time,
00:32:31and this kept happening.
00:32:32Then, they fought and went back to their parents,
00:32:34and they still have gone to their parents.
00:32:36So, now, my son is upset with me,
00:32:40he is upset with me,
00:32:41that you chose such a girl for me,
00:32:45who does the job,
00:32:46and she doesn't give me time,
00:32:47or she doesn't have time for my work.
00:32:50Now, that girl,
00:32:52obviously, it is okay for her to say that I do the job,
00:32:54but I don't have time,
00:32:56I can't give her that much time.
00:32:57I have come home tired myself,
00:32:58how can I participate in the household chores?
00:33:01Now, this is what is happening,
00:33:04that my son is upset with me,
00:33:05that I don't know where you got me married,
00:33:07and the environment at home is very bad because of this.
00:33:11I don't understand how I can solve this problem.
00:33:14They fight and go back to their parents,
00:33:17and they still have gone to their parents,
00:33:18and my son is upset with me.
00:33:20So, your first wish was that the girl should be working,
00:33:25because the son's salary is less,
00:33:27and the expenses are obviously high these days,
00:33:31the inflation is so high,
00:33:33so you got a working daughter-in-law,
00:33:35and you are saying that she is not able to keep a balance in the household chores.
00:33:41You are saying this, right?
00:33:42Yes.
00:33:43And because of that, life is not going well.
00:33:46It is exactly like that.
00:33:47My son is upset with me,
00:33:48that what kind of daughter-in-law have you found,
00:33:51that obviously, she is at home.
00:33:52Do your sons drink water on their own?
00:33:56No, it is a bit like that.
00:33:58Obviously, he is working from a young age,
00:34:02so his sisters used to do all the work,
00:34:03and now he wants his wife to do it.
00:34:07Now his wife is saying that she also works,
00:34:09she is also tired,
00:34:10how can I participate in the household chores,
00:34:12or should I do everything for you?
00:34:15Your sisters are doing it for you,
00:34:16so it is okay, you are satisfied with it.
00:34:20There is a routine from the beginning,
00:34:22so the work that is going on,
00:34:25so it is important that the sisters don't do it,
00:34:26only the wife should do it.
00:34:27Is this your demand or your son's demand?
00:34:30And the wife is also doing the job.
00:34:32So is it your demand or your son's demand,
00:34:36that the sisters don't do it, only the wife should do it?
00:34:38See, on the screen we saw,
00:34:40the woman said that she wants a housewife.
00:34:43Now if you want a housewife,
00:34:45who will cook flatbread for you,
00:34:47then in today's time of inflation,
00:34:49she will not be able to make a better life with your son,
00:34:53she will not be able to cover all the expenses,
00:34:56all the burden will be on your son,
00:34:58she will take care of the house.
00:34:59Okay, either she should think about the flatbread,
00:35:04if you have thought that your son's salary is less,
00:35:08and you want a working daughter-in-law,
00:35:10who will earn and take care of your house,
00:35:13because of course you have daughters,
00:35:15you have to get them married as well.
00:35:17How much of a contribution is there?
00:35:20Yes, when you think about it and get a daughter-in-law,
00:35:23then you will have to realise that if she is working,
00:35:27then you should also train your son in such a way,
00:35:30that he will also be able to work in the house.
00:35:34See, I am sharing this with you,
00:35:36it is such a big thing that,
00:35:38see, your household work was going on,
00:35:40your daughter did not participate in that house by earning or doing a job,
00:35:46because you were able to survive with the small amount of money of that child,
00:35:51and time was passing.
00:35:53But now, if there is an increase in your earnings,
00:35:57then you should think that the work is being done the same way before as well.
00:36:00Okay, Hazala ji, I will come back after the break,
00:36:02and I am going to ask you both a question,
00:36:05because I will come and ask that,
00:36:06if the girl is working, the daughter-in-law,
00:36:09and it is obvious that there is a house as well,
00:36:12then how should the family keep the balance together?
00:36:17How should the balance be kept in the house?
00:36:20We will get to know this from you.
00:36:21After the break, good morning Pakistan.
00:36:34Welcome, welcome back, good morning Pakistan.
00:36:38Today, we are discussing a very important topic,
00:36:41and the responsibility of finding your favourite daughters-in-law is on your head,
00:36:47and you have a son from the same line,
00:36:49so, we are helping you for that list,
00:36:53and we are opening the light of your mind,
00:36:56as to what you should do.
00:36:57Before going to the break, I had given you a responsibility,
00:37:01that how to keep the balance,
00:37:05if the mother-in-law wants the daughter-in-law to be a housewife,
00:37:10and the husband wants to bear all the burden of the house,
00:37:13I can't do it, I don't have that much salary,
00:37:16so my wife should be working,
00:37:18so that we can work in harmony with each other.
00:37:21So, what should be the balance?
00:37:23Please give us some tips.
00:37:24Okay, in terms of balance, first of all,
00:37:26we should define the roles,
00:37:28that we have one task in which we have to work,
00:37:30and the second task is to fulfill the responsibilities of the house.
00:37:35Prioritizing this, we have to feel the hours of the day,
00:37:40that we have to give 8 hours or 6 hours for work,
00:37:43and the remaining hours we have to give at home.
00:37:46Now, since you are doing double duty,
00:37:48that is, you are doing two tasks,
00:37:49and it is not possible for you to do so many tasks together.
00:37:53So, what you can do is,
00:37:54you have to see which tasks you can do,
00:37:57and no one else can do it,
00:37:59you have to do that.
00:38:00You decide the dedicated hours for that.
00:38:03Which tasks can someone else do?
00:38:06So, you have to assign that task to someone else.
00:38:08Give an example.
00:38:09For example, I think I can take sessions better,
00:38:13but can someone else do my write-up?
00:38:16No, no, no.
00:38:17Give a common example.
00:38:19For example, there is cleaning in the house,
00:38:22so you can keep a maid for cleaning,
00:38:24you can cook yourself,
00:38:25you can raise children,
00:38:27but you can keep a nanny for their helper tasks.
00:38:30So, you have to build a support system.
00:38:32You can't do everything.
00:38:33They don't have enough income to keep a nanny.
00:38:37You can simply fight.
00:38:38Marriage is the name of a partnership.
00:38:40So, we are raising our daughters to be independent,
00:38:44but at the same time,
00:38:45we should also prepare the boys,
00:38:46that if you have to do it together,
00:38:48that if they are dividing the financial responsibility,
00:38:51like you mentioned about the maid,
00:38:53that if there are so many resources,
00:38:54that you can outsource things,
00:38:56hire someone from outside,
00:38:58then go for that.
00:38:59But if you think it is difficult,
00:39:01then it is a partnership.
00:39:02Like in foreign countries,
00:39:03both earn and divide the house responsibilities.
00:39:07If there are some traditional roles in responsibilities,
00:39:10then it is important to realize that
00:39:12there is a partnership,
00:39:13where your partner is getting weak,
00:39:16there are some mistakes,
00:39:18ignore it.
00:39:19Because in all these small details,
00:39:22you are not keeping one thing in mind,
00:39:24which is the peace of the house.
00:39:26That you get married at home,
00:39:29if you want to have a good generation,
00:39:31then it should not be a beautiful generation,
00:39:32but it should be mentally stable,
00:39:34emotionally intelligent,
00:39:35and you should live in a peaceful environment,
00:39:38and the children should be brought up there,
00:39:40and there should be harmony between husband and wife.
00:39:42So, I think that along with the upbringing of daughters,
00:39:44we should also prepare the sons,
00:39:46that if you want a working woman,
00:39:48then these things should not happen.
00:39:50Like you mentioned,
00:39:52my son has an OCD problem,
00:39:54he used to fight with his sisters,
00:39:57so you have to assume that
00:39:59he will have a conflict with his wife also,
00:40:01so he needs to be sent for therapy,
00:40:04to a psychiatrist,
00:40:06because a new girl is coming in adulthood,
00:40:09which is a problem of so many years,
00:40:11a person who is a wife or a husband,
00:40:13cannot treat his partner,
00:40:15so these are some things,
00:40:17and if your son has an OCD problem,
00:40:19then your brother also finds a girl there,
00:40:22who also has the same problem.
00:40:24No, first get him married,
00:40:25get him treated,
00:40:26but there is one thing,
00:40:28if a mother loses her son,
00:40:29she doesn't know.
00:40:30This is what I wanted to ask you,
00:40:32both of you are working,
00:40:34and also taking care of the house,
00:40:36how have you kept the balance,
00:40:38in both your lives?
00:40:40See, this is what we want,
00:40:42to love our house,
00:40:43now the thing is,
00:40:44there is interference of mother-in-law also,
00:40:46Nando also,
00:40:47it is not just a matter of husband and wife,
00:40:49the thing is,
00:40:50a family is a joint family,
00:40:52now what is the fault of the girl,
00:40:54a girl is doing a job,
00:40:55earning from outside also,
00:40:57now whatever she is earning,
00:40:59if there is some money in it,
00:41:00you can keep a maid,
00:41:02who will do the work upstairs,
00:41:04it is not necessary to keep more servants,
00:41:06if she is earning 50,000 to 60,000,
00:41:10then keep a maid of 5,000 to 6,000,
00:41:12a lot of work will be done,
00:41:14so these fights of yours,
00:41:15will end soon,
00:41:16you want her to earn,
00:41:18and do the work of a maid,
00:41:20this is not possible,
00:41:21for a girl,
00:41:22how much can she do,
00:41:23in this,
00:41:24the mother-in-law is doing the injustice,
00:41:25more than the son,
00:41:26the mother-in-law has become negative,
00:41:28the way she is thinking about her daughters,
00:41:31she cannot consider her daughter-in-law as her daughter,
00:41:33my question to you is,
00:41:35my question is,
00:41:36how to keep the balance,
00:41:38professional,
00:41:39we have talked about all this in the last segment,
00:41:41now my question is,
00:41:42you can keep the balance like this,
00:41:44the thing is,
00:41:45the balance can be done like this,
00:41:47if husband and wife are there,
00:41:49obviously husband has also worked,
00:41:51wife has also worked,
00:41:53now she has a kitchen,
00:41:55she has kids,
00:41:56kitchen,
00:41:57school,
00:41:58everything,
00:41:59so if wife has gone to the kitchen,
00:42:01her husband should do the homework for the kids,
00:42:03teach them,
00:42:05make them wear night suits,
00:42:07make them ready,
00:42:08so that the wife does not have to,
00:42:10distribute the time,
00:42:11go to the kitchen and think,
00:42:13the kids have exam tomorrow,
00:42:15I have to make them ready,
00:42:17so when you are getting those things,
00:42:20understanding when a person has,
00:42:22I have also done it,
00:42:24I have run my house in the same way,
00:42:26I am a single parent,
00:42:28I have a daughter,
00:42:29my daughter is also working,
00:42:31so she is running her house in the same way,
00:42:33now obviously if her husband has not been able to afford it,
00:42:37then what she is earning,
00:42:39she has kept a servant from her own earnings,
00:42:42that you will do this work,
00:42:44because she knows that what I am earning,
00:42:46I have to give some of it to the servant,
00:42:48rest I can spend it on the house,
00:42:50I can teach my kids in a good school,
00:42:52you know what the fees of the school are,
00:42:54so she can balance it in that way,
00:42:56that my own kids will study in this school,
00:42:58these are the things,
00:43:00like she said,
00:43:02distribute the responsibilities,
00:43:04because the support system,
00:43:06matters a lot,
00:43:08I can perform very well,
00:43:10so I have to distribute it,
00:43:13I can perform very well,
00:43:15if I have a backbone,
00:43:19In love and understanding,
00:43:21if Nida is there,
00:43:23if Yasir will help a little bit,
00:43:26then Nida will have a big heart,
00:43:28she will work more than that,
00:43:30and will try more than that,
00:43:32that I should do this, I should do that,
00:43:34she is right,
00:43:36if your spouse is your support system,
00:43:38instead of taunting you,
00:43:40that you don't look after the house,
00:43:42you have left it to the servants,
00:43:44if she is not able to look after it,
00:43:46you look after it,
00:43:48if the servants are at home,
00:43:50then you take the responsibility,
00:43:52both are doing it together,
00:43:54so believe me,
00:43:56if the husband takes a step forward,
00:43:58then the wife takes 4 steps forward,
00:44:00it's a matter of empathy,
00:44:02it's a matter of feeling,
00:44:04I say to all the mothers-in-law,
00:44:06when you go out to find a daughter-in-law,
00:44:08leave all these things behind,
00:44:10see if that girl has a feeling,
00:44:12if that girl has a feeling,
00:44:14you are sick,
00:44:16you have a problem at home,
00:44:18she will work with a feeling,
00:44:20with her heart,
00:44:22she will understand her house,
00:44:24and if you feel that
00:44:26your son's salary
00:44:28is not enough
00:44:30to run the house,
00:44:32still she will feel,
00:44:34she will start online work,
00:44:36she will do something,
00:44:38because she has a feeling,
00:44:40if she is not emotional,
00:44:42she will not be able to do anything,
00:44:44even if it's a house thing,
00:44:46then you start fighting,
00:44:48the biggest thing is to be emotional,
00:44:50I would say,
00:44:52look for examples in the environment,
00:44:54good in-laws are also good,
00:44:56when we see,
00:44:58in other things also,
00:45:00they have a car,
00:45:02they have a house,
00:45:04there are happy people living there,
00:45:06you can see them at events,
00:45:08they have a good environment,
00:45:10they have spent a lot of time with their kids,
00:45:12so look for good examples,
00:45:14you can learn from them,
00:45:16like we learn from others,
00:45:18my daughter's mother-in-law,
00:45:20when she used to go to work,
00:45:22she never used to say,
00:45:24now she has gone,
00:45:26when she comes, she will do it herself,
00:45:28after that,
00:45:30she used to teach her kids,
00:45:32and believe me,
00:45:34she has never said to her husband,
00:45:36her mother,
00:45:38your wife looks after the house,
00:45:40your kids,
00:45:42when you come back from work,
00:45:44you go and break the bed,
00:45:46and when your wife comes,
00:45:48you go straight to the kitchen,
00:45:50if you get support,
00:45:52you can go further,
00:45:54this is called,
00:45:56caring with feeling,
00:45:58next,
00:46:00let's see,
00:46:02what the next mother-in-law,
00:46:04has in mind for her daughter-in-law,
00:46:06team,
00:46:08hello,
00:46:10are you looking for a daughter-in-law,
00:46:12yes,
00:46:14what do you want your daughter-in-law to be like,
00:46:16I want my daughter-in-law to be like,
00:46:18she should be well fed,
00:46:20and she should be able to,
00:46:22take care of her house,
00:46:24because a poor family,
00:46:26a middle class girl,
00:46:28a girl from a poor family,
00:46:30she should support herself,
00:46:32and her family,
00:46:34because,
00:46:36we have everything,
00:46:38we should do everything,
00:46:40for our daughter,
00:46:42and support her,
00:46:44how much does your son earn a month,
00:46:46my son,
00:46:48has a salary of 40,000-45,000,
00:46:50he is from a good family,
00:46:52and what does a girl want,
00:46:54he is from a good family,
00:46:56he should be well fed,
00:46:58he should be well fed,
00:47:00by the family,
00:47:02these thoughts are something else,
00:47:04he should be well fed by the family,
00:47:06a rich girl,
00:47:08and the boy,
00:47:10has a salary of 40,000-45,000,
00:47:12what will happen,
00:47:14but everyone has the right to wish,
00:47:16hadn't there been thousands of wishes,
00:47:18that all wishes would come true,
00:47:20so let's see,
00:47:22if all wishes come true,
00:47:24She wants to get a daughter-in-law from a rich family.
00:47:28Let's see what she can do.
00:47:34Who's behind the curtain?
00:47:36Bisma, Assalam-o-Alaikum.
00:47:38Bisma? Yes, I'm Bisma. Assalam-o-Alaikum.
00:47:40Yes, Assalam-o-Alaikum.
00:47:42Nida, I have the same story.
00:47:45I wanted to get a daughter-in-law from a rich family for my son.
00:47:50I searched a lot and rejected a lot of girls.
00:47:53My son is handsome and cute.
00:47:57He has a normal job.
00:47:59He doesn't have a high-five job.
00:48:01We are a family.
00:48:03I searched a lot.
00:48:05I gave a lot of money to my relatives.
00:48:08They showed me a match as per my wish.
00:48:12The girl was very nice and cute.
00:48:14But they were very rich.
00:48:16They only wanted decent people.
00:48:18They inquired about us.
00:48:20We were perfect for them.
00:48:22They said that they needed a boy like me.
00:48:25I wanted a rich family for my son.
00:48:32They said that I'm the only daughter.
00:48:36We will support your son.
00:48:42When they got married, they gave him a house.
00:48:46It was a big flat.
00:48:48They said that we will set up a wedding there.
00:48:54They set up the house.
00:48:56They gave me a lot of dowry.
00:48:58They gave me a lot of things.
00:49:00I wanted to get a daughter-in-law like my son.
00:49:04My son and I got peace.
00:49:06I had two children.
00:49:08My daughter was small and my son was big.
00:49:12We shifted to that house.
00:49:14When we shifted to that house,
00:49:16we had a lot of fun.
00:49:18I was very happy.
00:49:20I was serving my daughter-in-law.
00:49:22I was cooking.
00:49:24I was cleaning the kitchen.
00:49:26When my daughter-in-law got ready,
00:49:28she left.
00:49:30My son didn't ask her for permission.
00:49:32One day, I started thinking
00:49:34what is this?
00:49:36She doesn't even ask me.
00:49:38She doesn't even talk to me.
00:49:40When I go to her room, she is sleeping.
00:49:42I shared it with my son.
00:49:44I said, I don't like it.
00:49:46Why are you doing this?
00:49:48He said, it was your wish.
00:49:50To get a daughter-in-law of a rich family.
00:49:52You wanted a rich family.
00:49:54You got it.
00:49:56You handle it.
00:49:58I was in a lot of tension.
00:50:00One day,
00:50:02I set up her dinner.
00:50:04The plate broke.
00:50:06She treated me very badly.
00:50:08She insulted me a lot.
00:50:10She insulted me a lot.
00:50:12She said, do you know
00:50:14where did you get it from?
00:50:16You ruined my dinner set.
00:50:18You don't know.
00:50:20If you had taken it, you would have known.
00:50:22Where did my father get it from?
00:50:26I cried a lot that day.
00:50:28I was very sad.
00:50:30Anyway,
00:50:32I used to work all day like a maid.
00:50:34I used to do everything.
00:50:36My daughter was young.
00:50:38My daughter-in-law came and told her
00:50:40to clean the tiles.
00:50:42You leave so much dirt here.
00:50:44You ruined
00:50:46all my white tiles.
00:50:48Clean the flowers too.
00:50:50I said,
00:50:52it's very small.
00:50:54How can I do it?
00:50:56I am old.
00:50:58I can't do it.
00:51:00She insulted me a lot.
00:51:04I was very sad about it.
00:51:06I told my son
00:51:08to be happy
00:51:10in his life.
00:51:12Keep giving us
00:51:14what you used to give us
00:51:16so that we can
00:51:18go to our house on rent.
00:51:20We left there.
00:51:22Today I am on rent.
00:51:24My son is happy
00:51:26with his daughter-in-law.
00:51:28God gave him a son.
00:51:30I know how I spent a year.
00:51:32That's it.
00:51:34It happens.
00:51:36When mothers-in-law
00:51:38go to see their daughters,
00:51:40they feel it.
00:51:42Other people
00:51:44feel it too.
00:51:46It's all about feeling.
00:51:50You got your favorite
00:51:52daughter-in-law,
00:51:54but life was not happy.
00:51:56You got used to
00:51:58the life you had before.
00:52:00In Pakistan,
00:52:02parents get old
00:52:04if they see
00:52:06their children
00:52:08playing in front of them.
00:52:10They get oxygen.
00:52:12Exactly.
00:52:14Their health improves
00:52:16if they see their grandchildren
00:52:18in front of them.
00:52:20I did less work.
00:52:22Everyone says
00:52:24that I used to do
00:52:26a lot of shows.
00:52:28What do you do
00:52:30with your time?
00:52:32I don't know.
00:52:34My breath
00:52:36comes out
00:52:38when I see my grandchildren.
00:52:40I feel refreshed
00:52:42when I see them
00:52:44playing or fighting.
00:52:46It's a lot of fun.
00:52:48Alhamdulillah.
00:52:50Thank God.
00:52:52We are taking a short break.
00:52:54We will be back
00:52:56with a new episode.
00:52:58Be ready.
00:53:00Good morning.
00:53:12Welcome.
00:53:14Welcome back.
00:53:16Good morning, Pakistan.
00:53:18Are you ready?
00:53:20When you go to see
00:53:22your daughter-in-law,
00:53:24make a list.
00:53:26After watching the show,
00:53:28correct whatever you wrote
00:53:30in the list.
00:53:32Then you can go out
00:53:34to look for your daughter-in-law.
00:53:36Everyone has
00:53:38the right to
00:53:40look for the best.
00:53:42Obviously,
00:53:44one looks for the best
00:53:46for their children.
00:53:48This is our culture.
00:53:50In the West,
00:53:52we look for each other.
00:53:54But here,
00:53:56what is the research?
00:53:58Even now,
00:54:00parents look for their children.
00:54:02Even in our family,
00:54:04we don't know
00:54:06what to do.
00:54:08I am telling my son
00:54:10to do it himself.
00:54:12He says,
00:54:14I don't look anywhere.
00:54:16He should have his own choice.
00:54:18He should do it himself.
00:54:20When a girl goes to
00:54:22college,
00:54:24she chooses
00:54:26her partner.
00:54:28Many boys
00:54:30think that
00:54:32they don't have the sense
00:54:34to choose
00:54:36a life partner.
00:54:38They can be friends,
00:54:40but they think
00:54:42it is a responsibility.
00:54:44When they understand
00:54:46that if you are
00:54:48looking for a spouse,
00:54:50it is a responsibility.
00:54:52They get confused.
00:54:54They give it to their mothers.
00:54:56Mothers know many things,
00:54:58but they don't know
00:55:00many new things.
00:55:02Some children
00:55:04break up and tell their parents
00:55:06to look for a partner.
00:55:08They feel
00:55:10that their choices
00:55:12are unfaithful.
00:55:14They lose hope.
00:55:16Our parents
00:55:18have better
00:55:20observation skills
00:55:22because of their experience.
00:55:24We can see half,
00:55:26but they can see more.
00:55:28They have lived
00:55:30a life of relationships.
00:55:32It is said that
00:55:34we should learn from
00:55:36people's experiences.
00:55:38It will take a long time
00:55:40to reach there.
00:55:42Sometimes,
00:55:44it is considered
00:55:46very bad.
00:55:48There are still people
00:55:50who like a boy or a girl.
00:55:52Especially, if a girl
00:55:54likes a boy,
00:55:56it is considered
00:55:58very bad.
00:56:00I tell my children
00:56:02that
00:56:04it is not
00:56:06a bad thing
00:56:08to like a boy
00:56:10or a girl.
00:56:12You should spend
00:56:14your time with them.
00:56:16If you want
00:56:18your children to like you,
00:56:20you should
00:56:22teach your children
00:56:24to make
00:56:26right decisions.
00:56:28You should
00:56:30induce
00:56:32your children
00:56:34in their minds.
00:56:36It is like brainwashing.
00:56:38You should talk
00:56:40to your children.
00:56:42Mothers don't talk like this.
00:56:44If you want
00:56:46your children to like you,
00:56:48and you don't have to take
00:56:50this responsibility,
00:56:52then I will do it.
00:56:54It is a matter of upbringing.
00:56:56If mothers
00:56:58talk to their children
00:57:00about boys and girls,
00:57:02then you should believe
00:57:04that boys and girls
00:57:06become so intelligent.
00:57:08My son
00:57:10told me
00:57:12that his sisters
00:57:14like to
00:57:16make a girlfriend
00:57:18and give her gifts.
00:57:20I told him that
00:57:22girls are not good.
00:57:24He said that he liked
00:57:26one girl.
00:57:28Two days later,
00:57:30as a friend,
00:57:32he asked me
00:57:34to give him a gift
00:57:36on his birthday.
00:57:38He said that
00:57:40it is up to me to give him a gift.
00:57:42He said that
00:57:44he broke his heart
00:57:46to give a gift to a girl.
00:57:48He said that
00:57:50it is up to him
00:57:52to give a gift to a girl.
00:57:54He was so intelligent
00:57:56that he understood
00:57:58how to give a gift to a girl.
00:58:00Let's move to the next
00:58:02part of the show.
00:58:06Hello.
00:58:08Hello.
00:58:10Are you looking for a daughter-in-law?
00:58:12Yes.
00:58:14What qualities do you want
00:58:16in your future daughter-in-law?
00:58:18I am looking for a daughter-in-law
00:58:20who lives abroad
00:58:22and my son will settle there.
00:58:24You know the situation of our country.
00:58:26There are no good jobs
00:58:28and no business.
00:58:30We educated our son
00:58:32and spent all our savings on him.
00:58:34I want my son to be educated
00:58:36and qualified.
00:58:38It is our right to demand a daughter-in-law.
00:58:40I can't leave my son
00:58:42to someone else.
00:58:46At this time,
00:58:48if you pick up a stone,
00:58:50you will find a mother
00:58:52or a son who wants to go abroad.
00:58:54He wants to go abroad
00:58:56and he thinks that
00:58:58he can get a marriage
00:59:00in such a way
00:59:02because it is not easy
00:59:04to settle abroad these days.
00:59:06I want to get a spouse visa
00:59:08through a marriage.
00:59:10I want to live
00:59:12in my in-laws' house.
00:59:14I want to spend
00:59:16the initial days of my life
00:59:18in a better way.
00:59:20I want to get a wife
00:59:22and a life partner.
00:59:24You should understand that
00:59:26when you get a marriage
00:59:28you don't know
00:59:30what is going on there.
00:59:32You don't know
00:59:34how that family is doing
00:59:36and what they are doing
00:59:38to trap you.
00:59:40There are many people
00:59:42who trap people.
00:59:44One of my acquaintances
00:59:46had a daughter
00:59:48and she got married
00:59:50and went abroad.
00:59:52When she went abroad,
00:59:54she used to get goose bumps.
00:59:56She was not a normal girl.
00:59:58Her mother-in-law
01:00:00locked her at home
01:00:02and didn't allow her
01:00:04to talk to anyone.
01:00:06She didn't talk to anyone.
01:00:08She didn't know
01:00:10where she went.
01:00:12She got married
01:00:14in London.
01:00:16She didn't tell her relatives
01:00:18about it.
01:00:20She was jealous
01:00:22and didn't tell anyone
01:00:24about it.
01:00:26Her mother-in-law
01:00:28locked her at home
01:00:30and didn't allow her
01:00:32to talk to anyone.
01:00:34One day,
01:00:36her mother-in-law
01:00:38called the police.
01:00:40The police came
01:00:42and told her
01:00:44about it.
01:00:46They talked
01:00:48and divorced her.
01:00:50She didn't go abroad
01:00:52and was sent back to Pakistan.
01:00:54She went to
01:00:56her lawyer
01:00:58and argued
01:01:00with him.
01:01:02She won the case
01:01:04and she is still there.
01:01:06She studied there.
01:01:08Her father was a
01:01:10brigadier.
01:01:12Her family was well-educated.
01:01:14Her father said
01:01:16that his family
01:01:18sent her to London.
01:01:20Today,
01:01:22if you
01:01:24get married to me,
01:01:26should I test you?
01:01:28If it's my fault,
01:01:30I'll leave.
01:01:32She won the case
01:01:34and she is still there.
01:01:36Rules are not good there.
01:01:38She was sent back
01:01:40and she fought.
01:01:42Girls should fight.
01:01:44Our topic is different.
01:01:46We need a daughter-in-law
01:01:48who is abroad
01:01:50and has invested in her.
01:01:52She has to go abroad.
01:01:54We have a daughter-in-law.
01:01:56Her name is Samina.
01:01:58Samina
01:02:00fulfilled her wish.
01:02:02Let's see the result.
01:02:06Peace be upon you.
01:02:08Peace be upon you too.
01:02:10How are you? What happened to you?
01:02:12I'll tell you
01:02:14my story.
01:02:16I'm suffering from a disability.
01:02:18It's not a sin
01:02:20if a mother
01:02:22wants her son to settle
01:02:24in a good place.
01:02:26I wished the same
01:02:28because my son was well-educated
01:02:30and capable.
01:02:32A friend of my son
01:02:34told me about his sister-in-law's
01:02:36proposal for my son.
01:02:38I liked the girl
01:02:40and there was a family in Canada.
01:02:42Everyone was happy.
01:02:44I have four children.
01:02:46We all agreed
01:02:48because he was my eldest son.
01:02:50I happily married
01:02:52my son.
01:02:54It's been five years
01:02:56since he got married.
01:02:58He is very happy.
01:03:00My son used to call me
01:03:02for six months
01:03:04and take care of me.
01:03:06He used to tell me about his
01:03:08responsibilities.
01:03:10His father was not well.
01:03:12He used to send money for his father.
01:03:14When he had
01:03:16his first son,
01:03:18either his life
01:03:20got busy
01:03:22or he didn't have time for us.
01:03:24I used to call him
01:03:26and he used to say
01:03:28that he'll call me in a while.
01:03:30He used to talk to his daughter-in-law
01:03:32and she used to get busy
01:03:34with something.
01:03:36She never misbehaved
01:03:38but her behavior
01:03:40was very well-educated.
01:03:42She used to ignore me
01:03:44in a well-educated way.
01:03:48It's been four years
01:03:50that my husband
01:03:52got sick.
01:03:54We were
01:03:56going to the doctor
01:03:58and I called my son.
01:04:00He used to give money
01:04:02but he didn't say no.
01:04:04He used to get married
01:04:06but he didn't show his face
01:04:08to his parents for five years.
01:04:10He didn't ask his family
01:04:12when they needed him.
01:04:14It's painful
01:04:16to ask them after a long time.
01:04:18When my husband died,
01:04:20my son couldn't come
01:04:22because he couldn't get leave.
01:04:24When my husband died,
01:04:26my son couldn't come
01:04:28because he couldn't get leave.
01:04:30He couldn't come from Canada
01:04:32all of a sudden.
01:04:34He has two children.
01:04:36He has two children in five years.
01:04:38I have never seen
01:04:40my grandchildren's faces.
01:04:42It's different to see them
01:04:44on video calls or in pictures.
01:04:46It's different to love
01:04:48your children.
01:04:50It's a mother's wish
01:04:52to feed her children.
01:04:54It's a mother's wish.
01:04:56It's a mother's wish.
01:04:58I yearned for that.
01:05:00I yearned for that.
01:05:02I used to call my son
01:05:04and he used to reply
01:05:06to my messages
01:05:08about money.
01:05:10It's not just about money.
01:05:12I didn't get married
01:05:14so that my son could
01:05:16send me pocket money.
01:05:18I got married
01:05:20so that my son and I
01:05:22could be happy.
01:05:24But it didn't work out.
01:05:26It didn't work out
01:05:28because I was deprived
01:05:30of my children.
01:05:32My children are still young.
01:05:34After my son's death,
01:05:36I was left all alone.
01:05:38I can't tell you
01:05:40that my son came to Islamabad
01:05:42to attend his wife's
01:05:44relatives' wedding.
01:05:46But he didn't come to meet me.
01:05:48He didn't come to meet his mother
01:05:50because he had a two-day leave.
01:05:52When I found out about this,
01:05:54you can imagine
01:05:56how I felt.
01:05:58I can't say anything.
01:06:00I lost my son.
01:06:02You don't know
01:06:04how to raise your children
01:06:06so that they can be your own.
01:06:08You don't know
01:06:10how to raise your children
01:06:12so that they can be your own.
01:06:14It's such a painful thing
01:06:16that your son
01:06:18didn't come to meet
01:06:20his mother
01:06:22on someone's wedding
01:06:24or on his one-hour flight.
01:06:26He didn't come to meet
01:06:28his father's death.
01:06:30When no one is alive,
01:06:32you can't bear it.
01:06:34It's very painful.
01:06:36But this is the thing.
01:06:38When you have
01:06:40such desires,
01:06:42you get a package
01:06:44in return.
01:06:46You get a package in return.
01:06:48You have to be mentally
01:06:50ready.
01:06:52If you think
01:06:54that you have to send
01:06:56your son abroad,
01:06:58you have to be mentally ready
01:07:00that if he can't come,
01:07:02you can go to meet him.
01:07:04Parents are more eager
01:07:06to meet their children.
01:07:08Children are not as eager
01:07:10to meet their parents
01:07:12because when they have
01:07:14their own children,
01:07:16their desires are shared.
01:07:18Parents are more eager
01:07:20to see their children's faces.
01:07:22Parents are more eager
01:07:24to see their children's faces.
01:07:26Parents are more eager
01:07:28to see their children's faces.
01:07:30Parents are more eager
01:07:32to see their children's faces.
01:07:34Parents are more eager
01:07:36to see their children's faces.
01:07:38Parents are more eager
01:07:40to see their children's faces.
01:07:42Parents are more eager
01:07:44to see their children's faces.
01:07:46Parents are more eager
01:07:48to see their children's faces.
01:07:50Parents are more eager
01:07:52to see their children's faces.
01:07:54Parents are more eager
01:07:56to see their children's faces.
01:07:58Parents are more eager
01:08:00to see their children's faces.
01:08:02Parents are more eager
01:08:04to see their children's faces.
01:08:06Parents are more eager
01:08:08to see their children's faces.
01:08:10Parents are more eager
01:08:12to see their children's faces.
01:08:14Parents are more eager
01:08:16to see their children's faces.
01:08:18Parents are more eager
01:08:20to see their children's faces.
01:08:22Parents are more eager
01:08:24to see their children's faces.
01:08:52Next, let's go to my team
01:08:54and see what they have in their minds.
01:08:56Next, let's go to my team
01:08:58and see what they have in their minds.
01:09:00Next, let's go to my team
01:09:02and see what they have in their minds.
01:09:04Do you want a sister-in-law?
01:09:06Do you want a sister-in-law?
01:09:08What do you want?
01:09:10What do you want?
01:09:12What do you want?
01:09:14What do you want?
01:09:16What do you want?
01:09:18What do you want?
01:09:20What do you want?
01:09:22What do you want?
01:09:24What do you want?
01:09:26What do you want?
01:09:28What do you want?
01:09:30What do you want?
01:09:32What do you want?
01:09:34What do you want?
01:09:36What do you want?
01:09:38What do you want?
01:09:40What do you want?
01:09:42What do you want?
01:09:44What do you want?
01:09:46What do you want?
01:09:48I have seen that
01:09:50mothers of sons
01:09:52who have a big family
01:09:54face a lot of problems
01:09:56in getting them married.
01:09:58Even the girls
01:10:00think that their family
01:10:02is so poor that
01:10:04they will eat their daughter.
01:10:06What is the psychology
01:10:08of a person
01:10:10who has a big family?
01:10:12If you have a big family
01:10:14then you will have more responsibilities.
01:10:16If you have more responsibilities
01:10:18then you will have more responsibilities.
01:10:20If we understand this concept
01:10:22that we have to live together
01:10:24to be happy, to be better
01:10:26to make life easier
01:10:28and what is the main purpose of our marriage?
01:10:30Raising the kids
01:10:32making generations
01:10:34we have to be healthy
01:10:36If this is the concept then we will live together.
01:10:38If this is not the concept
01:10:40and we are getting married
01:10:42because we want to bring someone
01:10:44for a purpose, then this is not marriage.
01:10:46But let me tell you one thing
01:10:48sometimes it happens that
01:10:50a son gets married with a lot of enthusiasm
01:10:52and a lot of excitement
01:10:54that his daughter-in-law should come
01:10:56and his sister-in-law should also come
01:10:58and when those sisters-in-law
01:11:00are not getting married
01:11:02and they are not getting proposals
01:11:04then they feel so bad
01:11:06that why did this person get a proposal
01:11:08and why did this person
01:11:10get a proposal
01:11:12and they start fighting
01:11:14and they start looking for bad things
01:11:16and then they will look for bad things
01:11:18in their sister-in-law
01:11:20so that there is a base of fighting
01:11:22so that she should also get married
01:11:24so these things happen a lot
01:11:26I say that if you have
01:11:28daughters and sons
01:11:30then try to get your daughters married
01:11:32before your daughters
01:11:34so that they get married
01:11:36and then you bring your daughter-in-law
01:11:38so that she can take care of the house
01:11:40secondly,
01:11:42if I am
01:11:44coping with one
01:11:46for example, I am coping with my mother-in-law
01:11:48now I have to cope with two
01:11:50or three, what is my ability
01:11:52I have a threshold
01:11:54I can do this much
01:11:56that my frustration will come, my exhaustion will come
01:11:58and then the environment
01:12:00of the house will be ruined
01:12:02fourth is
01:12:04the stress
01:12:06we are in this environment
01:12:08we are feeling very good
01:12:10the set is very good, the colors are very good
01:12:12so there is an impact on us
01:12:14so when there is a disturbance in the house
01:12:16it has an impact on everyone
01:12:18we are all in a collective
01:12:20problem
01:12:22now the girl does not have a support system
01:12:24they are all one
01:12:26she does not have anyone
01:12:28so it will happen that
01:12:30there is one here and the whole family is here
01:12:32but if the people are less
01:12:34then there is one here and there is one there
01:12:36she must be trying to adjust
01:12:38but when there are more people
01:12:40the adjustment becomes difficult
01:12:42but if her husband supports
01:12:44majority of the girls
01:12:46if your husband
01:12:48is with you, then the girl
01:12:50can tolerate a lot
01:12:52she tries to take everyone
01:12:54but where your husband
01:12:56leaves you
01:12:58there she breaks
01:13:00then it becomes very difficult
01:13:02you just talked about one step
01:13:04if your husband
01:13:06moves forward
01:13:08then it is the nature of a woman
01:13:10that she will support him
01:13:12she will support him
01:13:14this is the nature of a woman
01:13:16Allah has made her
01:13:18that she is so good with me
01:13:20so why not me
01:13:22my revenge is that
01:13:24she wants this
01:13:26then the cultural issues
01:13:2820 years or 30 years
01:13:30that boy stayed with his family
01:13:32their hold is more
01:13:34their attachment is more
01:13:36that boy has more trust on them
01:13:38the girl has just come
01:13:40and the bond that is formed
01:13:42is the most important
01:13:44if the bond is formed
01:13:46if the mother-in-law
01:13:48interferes
01:13:50you must have heard
01:13:52that the boy
01:13:54tries not to form a bond
01:13:56because of this also
01:13:58there is a problem
01:14:00the bond is not formed
01:14:02the bond is not formed
01:14:04the bond is not formed
01:14:06the bond is not formed
01:14:08the bond is not formed
01:14:10the bond is not formed
01:14:12the bond is not formed
01:14:14the bond is not formed
01:14:16the bond is not formed
01:14:18the bond is not formed
01:14:20the bond is not formed
01:14:22the bond is not formed
01:14:24the bond is not formed
01:14:26the bond is not formed
01:14:28it is a matter of husband and wife
01:14:30it is a matter of husband and wife
01:14:32so I say that
01:14:34the wife should be a little careful
01:14:36she should complain all the time
01:14:38that he did this, he did that
01:14:40so that also makes a person fed up
01:14:42that 24 hours of complaining is nothing
01:14:44let's see what we have in the confession box
01:14:46what is she saying
01:14:48Nazia is with us
01:14:50let's ask her, Salam Nazia
01:14:52Salam
01:14:54what would you like to tell
01:14:56I have two other sisters-in-law
01:14:58they are very smart
01:15:00so we thought
01:15:02let's bring a quiet wife
01:15:04we searched a lot
01:15:06and we found her
01:15:08I am a divorcee
01:15:10my son is with me
01:15:12my son is with me
01:15:14so for some time she was there
01:15:16but she was very stubborn
01:15:18and provoked my brother
01:15:20she did a lot
01:15:22but we didn't say anything
01:15:24so she slowly
01:15:26took her kids
01:15:28and got separated from her brother
01:15:30she got separated from my mother
01:15:32she bought a house
01:15:34and she doesn't meet her
01:15:36she doesn't let her kids come
01:15:38she got separated from us
01:15:40she got separated from her brother
01:15:42and in the neighbourhood
01:15:44she rented a house
01:15:46and she doesn't meet her mother
01:15:48and in some neighbourhood
01:15:50she keeps telling
01:15:52my mother-in-law
01:15:54my mother-in-law
01:15:56my mother-in-law
01:15:58my mother-in-law
01:16:00my mother-in-law
01:16:02my mother-in-law
01:16:04my mother-in-law
01:16:06my mother-in-law
01:16:08my mother-in-law
01:16:10my mother-in-law
01:16:12my mother-in-law
01:16:14my mother-in-law
01:16:16my mother-in-law
01:16:18my mother-in-law
01:16:20she doesn't let her nephews
01:16:22or her brother meet her
01:16:24sometimes these people
01:16:26cause a lot of harm
01:16:28those who look like
01:16:30they are harmless
01:16:32the reason is
01:16:34they know
01:16:36that they will do this
01:16:38but when you don't know
01:16:40those who stay quiet
01:16:42and those who
01:16:44are dangerous
01:16:46they attack
01:16:48how will you react
01:16:50when they attack
01:16:52so today's show
01:16:54was basically
01:16:56to change
01:16:58the priorities
01:17:00of those
01:17:02who are
01:17:04walking
01:17:06what should be the
01:17:08priority
01:17:10when you are
01:17:12looking for a girl
01:17:14for your son
01:17:16you won't get a girl
01:17:18you will have to compromise
01:17:2019-20 things
01:17:22and fate
01:17:24counts a lot
01:17:26and those relations
01:17:28are made in heaven
01:17:30whatever you want
01:17:32Allah will make you
01:17:34where the girl's
01:17:36relation with your son
01:17:38is in heaven
01:17:40there is no doubt
01:17:42and I have seen
01:17:44that
01:17:46the programs
01:17:48that you do
01:17:50I am not saying
01:17:52that 100% people are watching
01:17:54and it has 100% or 80% effect
01:17:56but I have seen
01:17:58that it happens
01:18:00and people learn
01:18:02but
01:18:04there are many people
01:18:06who
01:18:08don't know how to walk
01:18:10they know how to walk
01:18:12so through that TV
01:18:14people who have seen the world
01:18:16who haven't dyed their hair
01:18:18if their experiences
01:18:20reach you
01:18:22then you see the world
01:18:24apart from mother-in-law and daughter-in-law
01:18:26there are many problems
01:18:28many problems
01:18:30but because
01:18:32you and I
01:18:34are connected
01:18:36so we help each other
01:18:38by making each other aware
01:18:40so remember me in your prayers
01:18:42InshaAllah we will meet tomorrow
01:18:44the conclusion of today's program
01:18:46is that
01:18:48if you want to see your daughter-in-law
01:18:50all qualities are on one side
01:18:52just see that she is sensitive
01:18:54she is sensitive
01:18:56her nature is sensitive
01:18:58if you get such a girl
01:19:00then respect her
01:19:02even if she is ugly
01:19:04but if she is sensitive
01:19:06then she will make your house
01:19:08a paradise
01:19:10Good Morning Pakistan
01:19:12Khuda Hafiz