Manoj's heart-wrenching story of being denied access to his son after a divorce mirrors the pain of Atul Subhash from Bengaluru, whose tragic suicide followed years of emotional turmoil in a similar battle. This interview highlights the silent suffering of fathers caught in custody disputes, shedding light on the emotional toll they face.
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00:00As you can see, Atul Subhash, who is 34 years old, has committed suicide.
00:06He was also very worried about the judiciary system.
00:10There is a lot of harassment, they have put false cases on us.
00:13Like right now, a father has been made a kidnapper.
00:17So, being a natural guardian, being a father, I wanted to meet my son.
00:22That I am his father, let me meet my son.
00:26I should be given interim custody because my mother is not taking care of him.
00:30And she left him and went to her parents.
00:33But even after that, I will never meet my son.
00:37The last time I met my son, after meeting him, he made me a kidnapper of my own son.
00:43Still, the case is still running on me.
00:48I have gone to question him.
00:51But if you look at today's date, I am the kidnapper of my son.
00:55Hello and welcome. I am Rhea and this is One India.
01:00The tragic case of Atul Subhash from Bangalore,
01:04who took his life following a very painful divorce and custody battle,
01:09sheds light on a very deep emotional struggle that many faces in similar situations.
01:15Today, similarly, we hear from Manoj, who is a father from Rohtak,
01:22who just like Atul, has been separated from his son post-divorce
01:27and is denied the chance to meet his son.
01:31Manoj's story is a very painful reminder of the emotional toll of such battles
01:37and the silent suffering many parents endure or couple endures post-divorce.
01:43They get caught in the judicial process
01:49and at times take very major decisions, like Atul did, of ending their life.
01:57Let's quickly connect with Manoj and talk about his story,
02:05his side of the story and know what all things he has been going through from past 8 years.
02:12Manoj, welcome to One India. Thank you so very much for taking your time out and talking to us,
02:18sharing your story with us and with our viewers.
02:22Please tell me about your case. What exactly is your case all about?
02:28First of all, thank you very much, ma'am, for talking to me and asking about my story.
02:34My name is Manoj Dhankar. I am from Rohtak, Haryana.
02:38I have been fighting for my child for the last 8 years.
02:43I just want to meet my child, nothing else.
02:47I would like to tell you that for the last 8 years, I have been connected to the judicial system.
02:54And for the last 8 years, the judicial system has not been able to get me to meet my son.
02:59I have finally come to the Supreme Court from the District Court while fighting.
03:05But even now I still hope that the Supreme Court will give me this relief
03:10and give me a chance to meet my son,
03:13which I have been wanting to meet my son for the last 8 years, but I have not been able to.
03:19So you have not met your son even once in the last 8 years, since you have been separated?
03:25I met my son in the middle, in 2022.
03:31After how long?
03:33After 7 years.
03:36After 7 years, you met your son in 2022, and now it has been 2 more years.
03:42Yes, ma'am.
03:43Ma'am, when I met my son for the last time,
03:46after meeting him, he made me the kidnapper of my own son.
03:50Still, the case is still pending.
03:55I have gone to question him.
03:57But if you look at today's date, I am the kidnapper of my own son.
04:02And my family members have also been involved in this.
04:05My sister, my brother, my friend, they have also been accused in this.
04:11Ma'am, I went to meet my son at school,
04:13because they were not letting me meet my son at home.
04:16I had a visitation rights order, which was not being complied with.
04:20Whenever I went to meet him at home,
04:23they used to make excuses that the child is sick, the child is out of station somewhere.
04:28They did not let me meet him, ma'am.
04:30When I went to meet my son at school,
04:33my son told me that I have to go out with you.
04:36My grandparents do not let me go out.
04:39So I told my son, let's go out.
04:42As soon as my son and I left the school to go out,
04:46my father-in-law lodged a FIR against me,
04:49that I have kidnapped my own son.
04:52In which, ma'am, he also showed the involvement of my family members.
04:56And after that, ma'am, the visitation rights that I had,
04:59that too the court has terminated.
05:01As of today, I do not have any visitation rights to contact my son.
05:06There are no phone calls, ma'am, no video calls.
05:09I would like to tell you, ma'am, that being a natural guardian,
05:13mother and father both are the natural guardians,
05:17but my wife left my son with her parents and went to Ireland to study in 2019.
05:26And my son was living with his parents.
05:30So being a natural guardian, being a father,
05:33I wanted to meet my son as a father,
05:36that I am his father, let me meet my son,
05:39give me interim custody,
05:41because mother is not taking care of him,
05:44and she left him with her parents.
05:47But ma'am, even after that, I never got to meet my son.
05:51Why are you not allowed to meet your son?
05:56Is there any specific reason?
05:58What is the court saying?
06:00Why is the court in favor of your ex-wife,
06:03and why are you being kept away from your son?
06:06Would you like to say something on this?
06:08Yes, ma'am, on this I would like to say that,
06:11look, the dispute between parents, husband and wife,
06:14is a separate issue, ma'am.
06:16There is no involvement of the child in this.
06:19And the court should see that,
06:21where the dispute between husband and wife is going on,
06:24the rights of the child should be given equally,
06:27which should be of both father and mother.
06:29And in some cases, like in my case,
06:31the child was neither with the father nor the mother,
06:34it was with my in-laws, who do not have any rights, ma'am.
06:37Even in that case, the court took a lot of time,
06:41to get me the visitation rights, ma'am.
06:43In 2017, my wife filed for divorce,
06:47and I filed for custody, ma'am.
06:49And after that, in 2019,
06:52I got the first visitation order from the court, ma'am.
06:57And after that, ma'am...
06:59You took so much time,
07:01in 2017, you got divorced,
07:03you filed for custody of the child,
07:05in 2019, you got the permission,
07:08that you can take care of your child.
07:10All this time, of two years,
07:13did it take so much time in the judicial process,
07:16or was it delayed on purpose?
07:19You can say in the judicial process also,
07:22because, ma'am, after filing,
07:24the dates, ma'am,
07:26the reply dates, ma'am,
07:28the order dates, ma'am,
07:29it takes a lot of time, ma'am.
07:31And when the orders are received,
07:33they are not even compliant, ma'am.
07:35Even after that, I kept filing applications in the court,
07:38that the order that you gave me,
07:40is not being compliant.
07:41And my in-laws,
07:43were taking advantage of that,
07:45that they were not getting the child visited again and again.
07:47And they kept misguiding the court,
07:49by making some excuses.
07:51Would you like to share,
07:53very briefly,
07:55what was the reason,
07:57for you two, husband and wife,
07:59to separate?
08:01At what age was the child?
08:03And what is the age of the child now?
08:05And,
08:07why did the mother get the custody of the child?
08:09Or, did she demand for this?
08:11Did the child say,
08:13that he has to live with the mother?
08:15Or, did the child get that option or not?
08:17Touch on all these things.
08:19Tell us.
08:21Yes, ma'am.
08:23I got married in 2012.
08:25And, in 2016,
08:27I had a son.
08:29After that, ma'am, in 2017,
08:31I came to know,
08:33that my wife was having an extra-marital affair,
08:35with her colleague.
08:37So, I raised her objection,
08:39that all this is not right in our life.
08:41We also have a child.
08:43You should also look at that.
08:45So, she took the child home,
08:47hurting the child.
08:49After that, she stopped
08:51letting me meet the child.
08:53And, after that, she filed a case in the court,
08:55that she wants a divorce.
08:57So, I said, okay, if you want a divorce,
08:59you can take it.
09:01My first priority is that you should live with me.
09:03And, for the welfare of the child,
09:05mother and father, both are important.
09:07But, if you still don't want to live with me,
09:09then I am the father of the child.
09:11I should not be stopped from meeting him.
09:13And, if you are going out of the country,
09:15then you should give me the custody of the child.
09:17Because, I will be able to keep him well.
09:19All these things happened between us.
09:21But, she denied all these things.
09:23And, finally,
09:25she went out of the country.
09:27And, she left the child with her parents.
09:29When you say,
09:31you haven't met your child,
09:33does that even mean,
09:35that you haven't contacted him over the phone?
09:37Because, nowadays,
09:39technology has become so advanced.
09:41There are calls, video calls,
09:43messaging, texting.
09:45So, is there a complete silence?
09:47There is no conversation?
09:49There is no interaction at all?
09:51Or, are all these things happening?
09:55No, ma'am.
09:57I tried a lot.
09:59But, my wife never contacted me.
10:01She blocked me on every number.
10:03And, I appealed to the High Court,
10:05ma'am, to contact me
10:07about my child.
10:09And, finally,
10:11when I came to know that my wife
10:13has finally left the island with her child,
10:15without the court's permission.
10:17Whereas, the High Court had said that
10:19if she takes the child out of India,
10:21she will have to get permission from the court.
10:23But, she didn't get any permission, ma'am.
10:25She took the child and left the country.
10:27So, I appealed to the High Court,
10:29ma'am, that I don't know about my son.
10:31Where is he today?
10:33Where is he?
10:35And, what is his situation?
10:37So, I should get a video call from my son
10:39and get my son back to India.
10:41So, the High Court, ma'am,
10:43didn't listen to me.
10:45And, dismissed my petition.
10:47No one provided me any video calls, ma'am.
10:49I didn't get any information about him.
10:51So, as of now,
10:53how many days or years have passed
10:55that you haven't met your son or talked to him?
10:57Ma'am, I met him in the last year,
10:59in 2022,
11:01when I took my son from school.
11:03After that, ma'am, it's been two years
11:05that I haven't met my son.
11:07When you were accused of kidnapping?
11:09Yes, ma'am.
11:11Okay. So, the last question
11:13that I would like to ask you is that
11:15as you said, your demand is
11:17that you should be allowed to meet your son.
11:19Or, when his custody
11:21is not available,
11:23then you should be provided
11:25with his interim custody.
11:27The last question,
11:29Manoj, would be
11:31that do you think
11:33that you will get justice in the future?
11:35I mean, the time,
11:37as you said,
11:39you fought the case
11:41till the High Court,
11:43but no decision
11:45was done in your favour.
11:47So, the only option
11:49left is the Supreme Court.
11:51Do you still have that faith
11:53in the Indian judiciary
11:55that justice will prevail
11:57and you will get your son
11:59and you will get the custody of your son
12:01or you will at least be able to meet your son
12:03on a regular interval?
12:05Absolutely.
12:07We have been hearing
12:09that justice denied, justice delayed for a long time.
12:11So, this has been going on
12:13for a long time,
12:15that justice is very less.
12:17There are only a few chances
12:19that someone gets justice.
12:21And, ma'am, there is a little hope from the Supreme Court.
12:23But even before this, I went to the Supreme Court.
12:25I came back disappointed from there.
12:27I went in January 2024.
12:29Because the High Court
12:31dismissed our application
12:33which was a video call.
12:35The High Court was not providing it.
12:37So, I went in the hope
12:39that the Supreme Court
12:41would at least give me a video call
12:43so that I could talk to my son
12:45and contact him.
12:47But the Supreme Court dismissed it
12:49without hearing it.
12:51So, I am going to the Supreme Court again
12:53because the High Court dismissed
12:55my main appeal as well.
12:57I don't think there are many chances,
12:59but if the judiciary
13:01wakes up,
13:03because you just saw Atul Subhash Ji,
13:05who is 34 years old,
13:07he has committed suicide.
13:09He was also very worried
13:11about the judiciary system.
13:13Because he tried a lot.
13:15He was fighting for 4 years.
13:17He was not able to meet his son.
13:19And he was being harassed a lot.
13:21So, we are also
13:23getting out of all those situations.
13:25We are being harassed a lot.
13:27They have put false cases on us.
13:29They have made my father a kidnapper.
13:31But the law says
13:33that a natural guardian
13:35cannot be a kidnapper of a child.
13:37Even after that, there are cases going on in the court.
13:39It has been 2 years
13:41that there are cases going on in the court.
13:43And I am going on dates.
13:45Now, look, the judiciary
13:47is talking on one side
13:49for the welfare of the child.
13:51If we look at it,
13:53all the welfare of the child
13:55goes to the courts.
13:57All the welfare of the child
13:59goes to the courts.
14:01So, whether the welfare of the child
14:03is getting better or worse,
14:05the court is not understanding it.
14:07What is your son's response?
14:09Because it has been 2 years
14:11that you have not met him.
14:13How does he react
14:15when he sees you?
14:17Because of course, he knows
14:19that he has a father.
14:21Tell us something about that.
14:23My son was very happy
14:25when he went out with me.
14:27I have produced all his photographs
14:29and videos in the court
14:31as evidence.
14:33And when the child came back,
14:35he gave a statement in front of the magistrate
14:37that I went out with my father
14:39and I was very happy.
14:41I went to the hill station.
14:43I had a lot of fun.
14:45He gave this entire statement to the child.
14:47Even after that, the magistrate
14:49ignored him and
14:51registered the case on me.
14:53And he dismissed
14:55my rights.
14:57Manoj, of course,
14:59we have heard your story and
15:01it is very sad to know
15:03that a father is
15:05kept away from the child
15:07and a father and son
15:09relation is exactly like how a mother
15:11and a child relation is.
15:13There is no comparison.
15:15There is no differentiation in both the relations.
15:17It is equally emotional.
15:19It is equally
15:21connected.
15:23Of course, we have heard your side of the story
15:25and it is just one side of the story.
15:27Before we say
15:29anything,
15:31in order to conclude,
15:33hearing the other side of the story is also
15:35as important as it is yours
15:37to be heard
15:39out in the public
15:41so that
15:43next time
15:45if an Atul
15:47is going through such a situation
15:49knows that
15:51there is Manoj also who is fighting for it
15:53who is not yet ready to give up
15:57I will wish you all the
15:59very best that
16:01your faith in the judiciary
16:03succeeds
16:05whichever is the right
16:07wins
16:09and I think
16:11be it the mother or the father, the loss is
16:13of the child because
16:15staying away from one
16:17is not
16:19something that the child would want
16:23Thank you so very much for connecting
16:25with us on One India and sharing your thoughts
16:27sharing your story with us
16:29motivating the
16:31other men who
16:33probably are going through the same situation
16:35that you have been through in the last
16:37eight years, eight long years
16:39At the end,
16:41would you like to say something
16:43to those people who
16:45are stuck in your situation
16:47today?
16:49I would like to say
16:51that all the fathers
16:53should not lose their courage
16:55and stay strong
16:57and keep fighting because
16:59truth is always win
17:01you will definitely
17:03win, it will take some time
17:05so I would like to say
17:07that everyone stay strong
17:09and keep fighting legally
17:11and hope will arise
17:13at least
17:15God will arise
17:17there are many people
17:19who are not able to meet their children
17:21I am also associated with
17:23many groups and NGOs
17:25so I see these cases daily
17:27so I feel very bad
17:29Atul is not
17:31only the one person
17:33who has taken this step
17:35many people have already
17:37taken this step but their stories
17:39have not been highlighted
17:41and many people have
17:43separated from their children
17:45and many children
17:47are fatherless
17:51I feel very bad
17:53when I see these things in society
17:55where a man thinks
17:57that he will get a hope
17:59from the judiciary system
18:01why does a man
18:03go to the judiciary?
18:05he only goes with the hope
18:07that where there is no hearing
18:09he will get a hearing
18:11and when he has to
18:13return disappointed
18:15he has no other option
18:17then he has to take this step
18:19because I saw
18:21Atul's statement
18:23that my money is making my enemies
18:25stronger
18:27so it is exactly the same
18:29our money is making
18:31our enemies stronger
18:35because the judiciary
18:37is saying
18:39give her maintenance
18:41give her alimony
18:43wife is earning well
18:45well educated
18:47even after that
18:49my wife's salary was
18:51more than mine
18:53still the court says
18:55give her maintenance
18:57give her alimony
18:59why ma'am?
19:01we don't understand these things
19:03she is not guilty
19:05there is no correlity
19:07no husband is guilty
19:09so I feel very bad
19:11seeing these things
19:13happening in India
19:15of course
19:17there is a need
19:19an urgent need to change
19:21certain laws
19:23with respect to the domestic
19:25violence or
19:27separation when it comes to divorce
19:29and alimony especially
19:31but that is
19:33due in time
19:35of course the judiciary
19:37and the administration
19:39is working towards it
19:41because things are changing with time
19:43it's not exactly
19:45when these laws were written
19:47or when they came
19:49but
19:51all we can do is pray and wait
19:53for the justice to prevail
19:55and the truth to win
19:57absolutely right
19:59because the time has come
20:01that there is a need for
20:03improvement in the judiciary
20:05because parental allegations
20:07are at their peak in India
20:09and taking advantage of this
20:11women are being
20:13falsely accused
20:15by men
20:17and all this
20:19is being involved
20:21and harassed
20:23so the judiciary
20:25should look at this
20:27and make a law on it
20:29no like
20:31I am also a woman
20:33but having said that
20:35you are very right that it is very easy
20:37for women to play that victim card
20:39necessarily
20:41unnecessarily but
20:43of course the society is such
20:45or our conditioning is such that
20:47there is this
20:49you know leniency
20:51towards women
20:53but having said that
20:55of course the country is growing
20:57we as a community is growing
20:59and with this growth
21:01there is a need of change
21:03which will happen
21:05of course it might take some time
21:07but I think in some
21:09in coming years or in
21:11literally in due time
21:13we will see certain changes
21:15certain drastic changes
21:17that will help men of the society
21:19also as well as the women of the society
21:21because we co-exist
21:23and both of us
21:25need the equal amount of
21:27attention, equal amount of
21:29equality and
21:31you know the justice
21:33at the same time. Thank you so very much Manoj
21:35talking to us and sharing
21:37your story with us.