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00:35Tonight we discover the many factors that make up time.
00:38We will also talk about issues that affect us as partners,
00:41as individuals, as parents, and how time affects us in each one.
00:46If you'd like to join us in our sweet journey through time,
00:48please welcome on the show,
00:50one of the country's top cosmetic surgeons,
00:52Dr. Manny Calayan.
00:54Yay!
00:55Top of the line diamond studded Rolex watch.
00:58Please welcome also beauty queen actress,
01:00Maria Isabel Lopez,
01:02who owns one of the world's few pieces of Cartier Santos collection
01:06and Gerard Perrigo.
01:08Right?
01:10Please welcome also actor, host, singer, Gabby Eigenman,
01:13proud owner of more than 10 branded watches.
01:16Tag Heuer, DKNY, Kenneth Cole, name it.
01:19He's got them all.
01:21And our favorite actress,
01:24mom, Angelo Deleon,
01:26proudly collects watches, one of the most treasured.
01:29A gold Rolex watch which she gave as a gift to her mom.
01:35Angelo, tell us quickly about giving every member of your family
01:39Rolex watches.
01:41Ever since my mom,
01:43she always tells me about her dreams
01:45to go around the world.
01:47One of her dreams was to have a Rolex watch.
01:51When I was working,
01:53that was my target to buy
01:55my brother, my sister, and my mom
01:57and me, of course,
01:59a Rolex.
02:00When I got it,
02:02I felt so happy.
02:04We're rich.
02:06But my mom is richer
02:08because she has the most expensive one.
02:10The solid gold.
02:11The one with diamonds.
02:12You know, we're siblings.
02:13Why don't you give me a Rolex?
02:14You know, I worked hard for it.
02:16Your last name should be Deleon.
02:18It's Kalayan.
02:19I'm going to change my last name.
02:20Kalayan.
02:21Let's ask our other guests.
02:22Why do you collect watches?
02:25Angelo and I are opposite.
02:27She buys watches.
02:29I cannot say I collect them
02:31because I've never bought a watch in my entire life.
02:34Most of them are gifts.
02:35She's so proud.
02:37What's this?
02:38She's so proud.
02:40Tell us from special people in your life.
02:42In all honesty,
02:44when you buy,
02:45you have the freedom of choice.
02:47But if it's a gift,
02:48you don't have the freedom to choose it.
02:50If it's given to you, it's already wrapped.
02:52And there's no tax.
02:54Of course, there's a tax.
02:55We have a gift tax.
02:56There's no VAT of 12% per day.
02:58That's not popular yet.
02:59I'm interested in Dr. Kalayan.
03:02Let's show her the watch.
03:05So, Doc, I hope you don't mind.
03:06How much is it?
03:07It's expensive!
03:10Actually, I don't remember.
03:12Was that a gift?
03:13Or you bought it for yourself?
03:15It was a gift.
03:16By a doctor?
03:17By a doctor.
03:18You know what, Doc?
03:19Why didn't you give me one like that?
03:20A diamond one.
03:21Isn't your birthday coming up?
03:22July. It's coming up.
03:23It's coming up.
03:24Let's ask Gabby.
03:25Why did you collect watches?
03:27Well, I started from buying.
03:30Of course, it's the freedom of choice.
03:32I liked the watch.
03:33You remember the first watch you bought
03:35with your own money.
03:36Yes.
03:37You liked the first watch.
03:38I was in grade school.
03:40But I bought it.
03:41I saved money.
03:42I just wanted the watch itself.
03:44But now, I mostly give away my watches.
03:47Oh, you mostly give them away?
03:48Yes.
03:49But unlike what Aunt Isabel said,
03:50you don't have a chance to choose.
03:53Yes.
03:54If I want to give a gift,
03:56I'll ask what kind.
03:57So, I get to choose what kind of watch.
04:00And you're still with Bibihan.
04:01Yes.
04:02You're still teaching at school.
04:03Yes.
04:04Times have changed.
04:05We're spoiled now.
04:06Anyway, we will discuss more of your precious time pieces later.
04:09Meanwhile, let MYMP serenade us with their rendition
04:13of Time After Time.
04:35Warm nights
04:37Almost left behind
04:41Suitcase of memories
04:45Time after
04:47Sometimes you picture me
04:51I'm walking to the far end
04:55You're calling to me
04:59I can't hear what you say
05:03And then you say
05:06Go slow
05:08I fall behind
05:12The second hand unwinds
05:15If you're lost, you can look
05:17And you will find me
05:20Time after time
05:25See the streetlight
05:28Every place a new beginning
05:31See the streetlight
05:33Every night a start of something
05:35Brand new ways and brand new hands
05:38We also have with us on the show
05:40commercial and print ad models
05:41Jeff Ortega and Justin Quirino.
05:43Hi.
05:44Also, two watch collectors.
05:45They collect watches, too.
05:47Get this.
05:48Remember romantic dates.
05:50Wow.
05:51Okay, tell us.
05:52Well, kind of.
05:53My dad collects watches and we kind of share.
05:56This one actually, the one I'm wearing right now
05:58is from him.
05:59What is it?
06:00What watch?
06:01It's a Casio Edifice.
06:02Okay.
06:03200 meters dive.
06:04Your dad dives?
06:06Not really, but he likes to go swimming a lot in the ocean.
06:09Okay, okay.
06:10Yeah.
06:11So, which date did you wear that to?
06:14You wore it to a date?
06:15Actually, practically all.
06:16How about Jeff?
06:17Well, on a date, because I wear this.
06:19It's a Nike watch.
06:20I wear this when I swim, actually.
06:23Oh, so you're a swimmer.
06:24Yeah, I swim for my school.
06:26What school?
06:27Ateneo.
06:28Ateneo?
06:29Yeah.
06:30Ah, in the swim team.
06:31Yeah.
06:32You're a prog.
06:33Of course, yeah.
06:34And what, what?
06:35But anyway, when I go to dates,
06:37I wear exactly my watch right there.
06:39Which one?
06:40It's a formal, the Kenneth Gold watch.
06:42Okay.
06:43I wear that practically because when you wear it with formal clothes,
06:47because whatever watch you wear has to go with your clothes.
06:51Yeah.
06:52With all the watches that you have in your collection,
06:54is there still a brand that you're aiming for?
06:57That somehow, you haven't bought it yet?
07:00There's still no chance?
07:01Ah, there still is.
07:03There's no time to buy.
07:04Yeah, there's no time to buy.
07:06Ah, I don't think there is.
07:09There isn't?
07:10How do you guys collect watches?
07:12Do you mark significant moments in your life with watches?
07:15Like you, Angelo.
07:16Like, for example, after a movie,
07:18part of your, part of your earnings,
07:21you invest in jewelry or a watch.
07:23Yeah.
07:24Sometimes, you're already set and you're like,
07:27okay, I'm so bad.
07:28But it's like, okay, this is my salary.
07:31For this.
07:32For this.
07:33So I'll save this.
07:34Like that.
07:35Because I really like watches.
07:37And then, of course, the watches I like,
07:40like the Patek, I haven't afforded that yet.
07:42If there are people who will give it to me, why not?
07:44I'm free.
07:45Why not, right?
07:47What about you, Gab?
07:49What's your most cherished collection?
07:51For me, most of my watches,
07:53they're all special.
07:55Because most of it has been given to me
07:58in special occasions like birthdays, Christmas.
08:02So these are things that you'll never part with.
08:04You'll probably, at the most, just pass them on
08:07to your kids in the future.
08:10Can you tell me, I suppose,
08:12I suppose many of your watches have a love story.
08:15What was the most creative way
08:18that the watch was presented to you?
08:20Was it in a cake?
08:21Well, I have one watch here which is all pearls.
08:24It's a Nina Ricci watch given to me by my ex-husband.
08:27Okay.
08:28How did he give it to you?
08:29What occasion?
08:30That was Christmas.
08:31Christmas.
08:32He gave it to me.
08:33And he really meant it from the maker.
08:36What about style?
08:38Are you particular about certain styles
08:41or you go for the brand?
08:43The matured outfit.
08:44I don't think,
08:45it's not a specific style
08:49because different makers have different styles.
08:52The first thing you think of when you go to a watch store,
08:58the first thing you think of is,
09:00that's what I'm called.
09:02Yes.
09:03Take me home.
09:04Yes.
09:05There was a time when my dad was still alive.
09:08He always had his Santos.
09:10Cartier.
09:11The two-tone.
09:13Isn't it so classic?
09:14Yes.
09:15It was my dream watch.
09:17I know the watch.
09:18I don't know what happened.
09:19They stopped making that also.
09:20Yes.
09:21Santos.
09:22Because I have a female version of that,
09:23the Santos.
09:24Yes.
09:25They stopped making that.
09:26The ones that came out after that,
09:27the Panthers,
09:28Cartier evolved.
09:30This is the classic of Cartier.
09:32Time cannot be stopped.
09:33Yes, we all agree on that.
09:34But if you're imaginative and resourceful,
09:36you can always bring it back when you want to.
09:39How?
09:40We will find out.
09:41We will talk about preserving memories
09:43of cherished times together.
09:45We have with us on the show,
09:47Gina Santiago and April Ong
09:49from Memory Box.
09:52Welcome to the show.
09:53I was just telling myself,
09:54the kids are so lucky today
09:56because when they do scrapbooking,
09:59all the materials are available.
10:01Unlike us before,
10:02like in my time,
10:03we were talking backstage.
10:04Magazines.
10:05We were cutting magazines,
10:07collecting stickers.
10:09Now, all the materials are available.
10:11Tell us more about your shop.
10:12Memory Box is one of the first
10:15pioneers in bringing in
10:19acid-free scrapbook materials
10:21here in the Philippines.
10:22Can you explain,
10:23for the benefit of our viewers,
10:24how important is using acid-free materials
10:28for your pictures?
10:29Actually, the pictures themselves,
10:31when you develop it,
10:32it will last a long time.
10:34But then, using the magazines
10:36that we were talking about,
10:38the acid-free,
10:39will deteriorate it faster.
10:41Let's start with the album.
10:44The album comes in many different kinds,
10:46many sizes also.
10:48You have the designer paper.
10:51That's the background.
10:52Does it need an album?
10:54Or can you just bind it?
10:56There's an album that can use it.
10:59It works as a sleeve.
11:02You have a sample here.
11:03This one.
11:04This one is the 8x8 size.
11:06This is the 8x8 size.
11:07Once you decorate this sheet,
11:11you can just slip it in.
11:13It's like a clear book.
11:14It works like a clear book.
11:16So if you think,
11:18I don't like this,
11:19you can change it.
11:20Can you run us through
11:23the whole scrapbooking procedure?
11:25Just one.
11:26Can we show them this
11:27while you're doing that?
11:28Sure.
11:30First, you have to have the background paper.
11:34Like a cardboard.
11:38Depending on the theme,
11:40you choose this.
11:42Okay.
11:43They chose this.
11:45A picture of me and Juliana.
11:48And on what background?
11:52You have to choose a mat
11:56for the picture.
11:58It's like a border.
12:00What's the adhesive?
12:02Is it acid-free?
12:03Double-sided acid-free photo tape.
12:06Can you use acid-free glue?
12:09Yes.
12:10If you're going to use it on a picture,
12:13it would be easier or better to tape.
12:16If you glue,
12:17you use it on paper.
12:19It's a good bonding activity
12:21for moms and kids.
12:22You can do it for summer.
12:24This is a foam tape.
12:26How do you know
12:28when you need a foam tape
12:29as opposed to the flat stick?
12:31Depending on how you want
12:33your layout to be.
12:36If you want it to be tight.
12:38Is it expensive?
12:40Actually, it's a little bit expensive.
12:43But you have to remember
12:45that memories are priceless.
12:49That's right.
12:50Memories are priceless.
12:52You cannot take the same picture twice.
12:55We will pause for a break.
12:58We will show you the finished product
13:00when we come back.
13:01Thank you, Gina and April.
13:08Perfect timing.
13:09The one factor
13:10that Jessica Rodriguez
13:11and David Vunovac
13:12attributes to the success
13:13of their somewhat unexpected love.
13:17Jessica admitted
13:18she wasn't really looking
13:19for someone to settle down with.
13:22And David was still
13:23enjoying the single life.
13:25But everything changed
13:26when David and Jessica
13:27became a couple.
13:29They started dating
13:30when they were 12 years old.
13:32They were in love
13:33when they were 13 years old.
13:36But everything changed
13:37when they met.
14:01Actually, I didn't like her.
14:03Yeah, I didn't like him too, no?
14:04Yeah.
14:05We didn't like each other.
14:06We didn't like each other.
14:07But we got married,
14:08I mean, what,
14:09six months later or something?
14:11Yeah, it was
14:12like a whirlwind romance.
14:14So you really never know
14:15when you're gonna meet the one.
14:18We didn't go looking
14:19for each other.
14:20It just, it happened.
14:21I mean, just like she said,
14:22I was supposed to date
14:23her best friend,
14:24who's another Jessica.
14:26But I didn't.
14:28My focus was on her instead.
14:32And we never looked back.
14:39Actually, everything,
14:40the reason why our marriage
14:41is so good, and I'm sure
14:44will continue to be,
14:45is because it was the fact
14:47that the timing was perfect.
14:50And you can't,
14:51you can't arrange that,
14:53you can't plan it.
14:54You can't say, okay,
14:55when I'm 30, it's gonna happen,
14:57or when I'm 31, or when I'm 35,
14:59or when I'm 25, it just happens.
15:02You can't plan it.
15:04Who would ever have guessed
15:05we're gonna be so strong
15:07at seven years being married?
15:09I mean, people would have
15:10put bets down when we got married,
15:13ah, it's gonna last one year,
15:14two years, three years.
15:16But we knew it was
15:17the right time.
15:19We knew, we had not even
15:20a second doubt about it.
15:22We weren't so naive
15:23to think that, wow,
15:25we're gonna get married
15:26and we've only known
15:27each other for six months.
15:28We should probably wait.
15:30We waited for 30-plus years
15:32already to get married,
15:33so I was ready,
15:35and she was ready,
15:36and it was just,
15:37the timing was right there.
15:39I remember, oh my God,
15:40this guy, when I,
15:41when I look at him,
15:43I said, babe,
15:44I used not to like you,
15:46but now I'm so in love with you.
15:49And I love you more, ah.
15:51Really, like,
15:53it's true that
15:54when you get married,
15:55you love your husband
15:56more and more, you know,
15:58as days or years pass by.
16:00We are so blessed
16:02and so lucky
16:03to have found each other
16:05at the right time.
16:06We weren't even
16:09anywhere near
16:10looking for each other,
16:12so far away.
16:13Maybe that's the best
16:15advice that we can give,
16:18that, you know,
16:19don't look for that person,
16:21that right person,
16:22because we all know
16:24that God will just
16:25give him to you,
16:26and there's always
16:27a certain person
16:28who is really, you know,
16:30for you.
16:31Something like that.
16:33You'll never know.
16:34Yeah, you'll never know.
16:36There, we've been
16:37talking about time earlier,
16:39so now, of course,
16:40let's play,
16:41and let's call this
16:42Racing Against Time
16:44through a
16:45pictograph game.
16:47So our teammates are
16:49Angelo, Doc Money,
16:51and Papa Justin.
16:53Okay.
16:54And our teammates are
16:56Miss Isabel,
16:57Gabby, and Jeff.
17:00So we have here...
17:01Who will go first?
17:02Is it us?
17:03Rock, paper, scissors,
17:04the two girls will go first,
17:05maybe.
17:06Who will go first?
17:07Pick.
17:08The two girls.
17:09The two girls?
17:10Gab, I knew it.
17:11Rock, paper, scissors.
17:13Wait, wait, wait.
17:14Rock, paper, scissors.
17:17Rock, paper, scissors.
17:19If we're not ready
17:20by tomorrow,
17:21it's okay, okay?
17:22There.
17:23So Miss Isabel's team
17:24will go first.
17:25So we have categories.
17:26So who will draw
17:27first on your side?
17:29Who will pick?
17:30Is it us?
17:32Okay, words
17:33are related to time.
17:34Of course.
17:35Miss Isabel,
17:36who will go first?
17:37Ladies first.
17:39Pick first.
17:40Pick a word.
17:45So 30 seconds only, okay?
17:49You can start guessing.
17:51Whatever comes to mind.
17:52Radio.
17:54Time.
17:56Instrument.
17:57Clock.
17:58Draw, draw, you have to draw.
18:00Instrument.
18:03Wall clock.
18:04Good.
18:06So continue.
18:07She guessed.
18:08Wall clock.
18:09Wall clock.
18:19One score.
18:22And Angelo's category is...
18:27Song.
18:33Time's up.
18:34Three words.
18:36Cry.
18:37Watch.
18:38Time, time, time.
18:39Time.
18:40After time.
18:42Waves.
18:43Time after waves.
18:45Over, over.
18:48Time's up, 30 seconds.
18:49Time's up.
18:50Other drawing.
18:52Other drawing.
18:53Can I have soap?
18:55Soap.
18:56Sea, sea.
18:57Five, four, three, two, one.
19:01Can I steal?
19:02Can I steal?
19:03Steal.
19:04Can I steal?
19:05Can I steal?
19:06Yes, you can.
19:07Yes.
19:08Time and tide.
19:09Time and tide.
19:10Yes.
19:11Soap.
19:12It's not my time.
19:13Soap.
19:15Justin is so cute.
19:17Okay, next.
19:18We have a prize here.
19:19Yes, it's from Dr. Galayan's collection.
19:21Okay, the first team to make three points is the winner.
19:25Go, Gab.
19:27Come on, Gab.
19:28Choose your word, Gab.
19:29Pick a word.
19:33And your word.
19:35Category, song.
19:37Song, too?
19:38Yes.
19:39Time.
19:40Word song.
19:41Timer starts now.
19:44Four words.
19:45Time.
19:46It's a song.
19:47Time in a bottle.
19:48Time.
19:49Time in a bottle.
19:50What's the word for time?
19:51Um...
19:52Time in a bottle.
19:53Time in time.
19:54Time in a bottle.
19:55All right.
19:56You're so good.
19:57You know what's the word?
19:58That's it.
19:59We did it.
20:00That's how it is.
20:01We did it.
20:02How many points?
20:04We did it.
20:05So, we won three points.
20:06So, three points.
20:07You're the winner.
20:08Okay, we have a winner.
20:09So good.
20:10We have a chance.
20:11Our team is so good.
20:12Your team is rich.
20:13Dr. Galayan is rich.
20:17Now, that's true.
20:18It's okay.
20:20What's going to happen now?
20:22Wilma?
20:24Oh yeah, I forgot. I'll be back.
20:26Bring your two girls back there.
20:28I forgot.
20:30I'll be back.
20:32What happened while I was gone?
20:34It's done.
20:36It's done? Let's show them what you did.
20:40Okay, this is what they did.
20:42How did you tie this?
20:44You hid it under here?
20:46Yes, and there's tape.
20:48Okay.
20:50And you put two mattings on the picture, right?
20:52Yes.
20:54Okay.
20:56And as a final touch...
21:04Oh, it's stuck.
21:06There you go.
21:12Isn't that so cute?
21:16It's a perfect bonding activity
21:18also for your kids.
21:22Invite them to go to your shop.
21:24Where is it again?
21:26You can find our products at Rustan's Makati
21:28and Rustan's Shangrila at the children's section.
21:30And we also have a website.
21:32Our website is
21:34www.memoryboxph.com
21:36Numbers 2420856
21:38or 2421164.
21:40Okay, thank you.
21:42I invite everyone to go to Memory Box
21:44and preserve all your pictures.
21:48More timely discussions to come up
21:50when The Sweet Life returns.
22:08Okay, we all get blown away
22:10by how time flies by.
22:12It's like we see our kids
22:14when they're this small.
22:16Then before you know it, they're a bit big.
22:18Before we know it, they're a girl.
22:20Before we know it,
22:22they already have a boyfriend.
22:24And before we know it,
22:26what happened?
22:28Part of the reality is
22:30that kids grow up
22:32and there are facts of life
22:34that they have to know about.
22:36We cannot shield that from them forever.
22:38So we are here to talk about
22:40when is the right time?
22:42When is it the right time to talk to your kids
22:44about sex?
22:46We have with us a parenting expert,
22:48Dr. Amy Manalaisay,
22:50parenting consultant from UNIDA Church.
22:52Thank you for being with us.
22:54Thank you also for inviting me to your show.
22:56Dr.,
22:58when is the right time?
23:00Or is there such a thing?
23:02Actually, if you want my honest opinion,
23:04it should start at home.
23:06Okay.
23:08No age at all?
23:10No age at all.
23:12Actually, at the age of one,
23:14you should start exposing your child
23:16to sex education.
23:18Because when you say education,
23:20with the word education,
23:22it just means you're teaching your child
23:24the proper way.
23:26And what is the aspect of sex?
23:28When you say expose your child
23:30at one year old,
23:32how?
23:34Like you bath with him,
23:36expose your child,
23:38because I take my child to the bathroom,
23:40and I want him to know
23:42what are the sex organs,
23:44especially the breasts.
23:46Because the kids are naturally curious.
23:48Yeah.
23:50That's why in psychiatry,
23:52there's what's called a peeping tom.
23:54Because they're curious,
23:56what's that hole?
23:58What's that part?
24:00Whereas if it comes from the mother,
24:02my mom would say,
24:04that's a private part of the woman.
24:06I should expose her.
24:08Or you treat it factually.
24:10Yes.
24:12The breast is there for milk.
24:14The organs are there
24:16to excrete the wee-wee.
24:18That's right.
24:20Don't put it wrong.
24:22Yes. That's why we call it education.
24:24And as much as possible,
24:26I know it's cute
24:28to have their own names.
24:30Okay.
24:32With me, I don't believe in giving names
24:34with your
24:36sex organ.
24:38In science, that's what it is.
24:40Right.
24:42Can you talk about it to his children?
24:44Yes.
24:46The doctors know us.
24:48We explain it
24:50medically.
24:52They call it breast mammary glands.
24:54Mammary glands.
24:56That's how it is?
24:58I like that.
25:00Can you buy me a bra
25:02for the mammary glands?
25:04No.
25:06How about you?
25:08How many kids do you have?
25:10I have two.
25:12I was once married to a Japanese.
25:14Both a boy and a girl.
25:16We take a bath together.
25:18As a whole family?
25:20We go to the spa in Japan.
25:22As a family, we take a bath all together.
25:24Even when the kids
25:26are all grown up?
25:28When the kids are already teenagers,
25:30like when Mara was 12, 13,
25:32we would still take a bath together.
25:34Until now, when we go to the spa,
25:36we share the shower.
25:38Growing up, we have to show them the differences.
25:40This is the boy's organ.
25:42This is the female organ.
25:44Shower time is less on time.
25:46At a certain age,
25:48when they move on to 6, 7, 8 years old,
25:50my daughter is starting to feel
25:52sensitivity in her body.
25:54You have to always talk to them.
25:56Sometimes she would tell me,
25:58Mama, I'm having impure thoughts.
26:00Really?
26:02Impure thoughts?
26:04She is that honest.
26:06She communicates it with me.
26:08How do you deal with that?
26:10When she says, Mama, I'm having impure thoughts,
26:12what do you say?
26:14I always have to tell her that
26:16she's so young and she should not focus on sexuality.
26:18There's the right time for sexuality.
26:20I have to tell her that
26:22sex is a gift from God
26:24even to those with the right age,
26:26when you have a family.
26:28That's true.
26:30I think that's the fault of our house.
26:32Based on my personal experience,
26:34that's why I got impure.
26:36Because we never talked about
26:38contraceptives in our house.
26:40Or about other things.
26:42When I thought about it,
26:44I made it on my own.
26:46I got impure.
26:48We're both like that.
26:50That's why we're friends.
26:52Angelo,
26:54in your household before,
26:56it was taboo also?
26:58My mom was very strict about it.
27:00When you ask questions like,
27:02Mommy, why are you like this?
27:04I just said it.
27:06It's not clear.
27:08I started working when I was 13.
27:10My education
27:12in school and having bargadas
27:14is not normal.
27:16Because at that age, it's easy to get excited.
27:18It's easy to get excited.
27:20You lost your childhood.
27:22You lost your teenage life.
27:24It's easy to get crazy.
27:26So you got crazy right away?
27:28Yes.
27:30That's how it is.
27:32I'd like to ask Dr. Manalaysay,
27:34by being very open about
27:36sex education in the household,
27:38is there a danger also
27:40that they might be too open
27:42to the point that
27:44they're too okay
27:46about it?
27:48Actually, it's how you approach.
27:50At the early age, you expose them.
27:52In school,
27:54it's just secondary.
27:56It's harder because
27:58there's a lot of pornographic materials.
28:00Actually, you know what's scary?
28:02The internet.
28:04In the streets,
28:06how much is a CD? 5 pesos?
28:08Really?
28:10I think it's 50.
28:12No, because I bought it from a gay person.
28:14I bought it from a gay person.
28:16Because I'm a gay person,
28:18so you can see that there's a lot of porn.
28:20Well, I don't want that thing to happen
28:22especially to my child
28:24because I have 3 boys.
28:26Imagine if I have 3 boys.
28:28I'll have 3 children if I get pregnant.
28:30So I told him,
28:32Son, don't be shy
28:34to your mom.
28:36You always ask your mom.
28:38If not, you can ask your dad.
28:40Especially when it comes to sex.
28:42If you like a girl,
28:44just be sure you ask your mom.
28:46I'm open to you, son.
28:48No problem.
28:50Just don't do something
28:52that goes beyond my expectations.
28:54So don't do sex without my consent.
28:56It's like I was forced to do it.
28:58What about me, Doc?
29:00I'm on a date.
29:02I have a brother
29:04also same as your age.
29:06Same as the age of your son.
29:08I'm very casual because I'm liberated.
29:10It's like they say,
29:12if you go on a date,
29:14bring a condom with you.
29:16Is that okay?
29:18Actually, for his age,
29:20I said yes already.
29:22Because it's hard.
29:24It's also a safe sex
29:26because STDs are everywhere.
29:28But as much as possible,
29:30don't do it.
29:32But if you cannot stop doing it,
29:34then you have to use that.
29:36But we might be
29:38sending mixed signals to the child
29:40because you say, don't do it.
29:42But just in case you want to do it,
29:44be protected.
29:46I understand your side.
29:48But we can't stop it.
29:50We'll do it anyway.
29:52We'll do it in the car.
29:54It's better safe than no sex at all.
29:56The more you stop it,
29:58the more they'll disappear.
30:00Okay, so
30:02any final words to
30:04the parents out there
30:06about safe sex education?
30:08What I can tell
30:10to all parents,
30:12I hope you'll be open.
30:14Because if we will not do it
30:16as parents,
30:18who will do it for the kids?
30:20It's harder for neighbors,
30:22friends,
30:24they'll have more problems.
30:26So let's be more open
30:28and realistic.
30:30Times are different now.
30:32It's not the same as when
30:34we were kids.
30:36So let's be honest with ourselves.
30:38Okay, thank you very much
30:40Dr. Amy Manalaisay.
30:46If you have lost that loving feeling,
30:48can you tell the truth?
30:50Is there a perfect time
30:52to break up?
30:54Find out when The Sweet Life returns.
31:04We are here to talk about
31:06the time when you fall out of love.
31:08Is there a right time to say goodbye?
31:10First, let's ask our guests.
31:12What are the signs
31:14that the relationship is not working out?
31:16I think Angelo can answer that perfectly.
31:18Okay.
31:20What are the signs?
31:22What are the signs
31:24that the relationship is not working out?
31:26I think Angelo can answer that perfectly.
31:28Okay.
31:30What are the signs?
31:32What are the signs?
31:34Yes.
31:36For me,
31:38when I don't have respect for the other person.
31:40You reached that point?
31:42Yes, I reached that point.
31:44If there's a physical
31:46or you can say verbally
31:48that
31:50something bad is happening.
31:52Or every little thing that you do
31:54or he does irritates you.
31:56Yes.
31:58If you don't have respect for the other person,
32:00give it up.
32:02That's the most important thing.
32:04Instead of losing self-respect
32:06or self-esteem
32:08because you accept what you accept.
32:12I've always wondered about that.
32:16You can love a person so much
32:18and it's possible
32:20that you fall out of love.
32:22Of course.
32:24In your experience.
32:26For me, it's simple.
32:28He doesn't find time anymore.
32:30It's time to move on.
32:32That was an issue before with you.
32:34You'll see
32:36in the early stages of a relationship.
32:38There's time. You make telepathy.
32:40There's a time to text, a time to date.
32:42A time to bring you on a hideaway.
32:44A time to honeymoon.
32:46A time to do this, to do that.
32:48Then time will come that he doesn't have time.
32:50He's already in his golf.
32:52He's already in his business partners.
32:54He's already in his late nights.
32:56The time he used to give you,
32:58it's time to move on.
33:00Time to get active.
33:02Don't cry. It's okay.
33:04You should have respect.
33:06That's how Tok Tore and I are.
33:08Even though we don't see each other often.
33:10We're so busy.
33:12When they see each other, they buy expensive watches.
33:16Let's ask all out.
33:18Let's ask the little boys.
33:20Justin and Jeff.
33:22I assume you're in relationships now.
33:24Not right now.
33:26What happened?
33:30I believe that every relationship has to be beneficial.
33:32When it stops being beneficial
33:34for the both of you,
33:36in terms of school or work.
33:38How do you make time
33:40for your girlfriends when you have so many activities?
33:42You have school, you have your sports.
33:46Even if you're
33:48indulged in sports or something like that,
33:50you still have to give time
33:52for ways like
33:54going out, watching movies.
33:56You know, just simple things
33:58that could mean big things.
34:00Have you initiated breakups?
34:02No, I'd rather stay single.
34:04You could have more fun with that.
34:06So you're single?
34:08He's a playboy.
34:10Jack is saying you've never had a girlfriend.
34:12Never had?
34:14Well, officially.
34:16This time, there are stages
34:18when you say it's a mutual understanding.
34:20It's really hard.
34:22It's different now.
34:24Is there an M.U.M.E.?
34:26No, right?
34:28There's no M.U.M.E.,
34:30but there's a lifestyle.
34:32How about you, Gav?
34:34Have you ever initiated a breakup?
34:36I don't remember.
34:38Wait a minute.
34:40When we were together,
34:42who broke up with us?
34:44I think it was you.
34:46But for me,
34:48if it's my fault
34:50that I'm going to accept it,
34:52because it's hard for men to accept
34:54that it's their fault in a relationship,
34:56if I accept that it's my fault,
34:58I'd rather wait for her to
35:00initiate it.
35:02Even if I already know
35:04that I don't want to,
35:06that's so bad. That's unfair.
35:08He said it's unfair.
35:10We're both the same.
35:12I'm protesting.
35:14That's unfair.
35:16Even if I don't want to,
35:18if I already want to,
35:20that's so bad.
35:22That's unfair.
35:24I can attest to that.
35:26You know what?
35:28Initiating a breakup
35:30has a phase in life.
35:32When you're young,
35:34normally,
35:36I can only speak for myself,
35:38when I was young,
35:40I didn't want to break up
35:42because I didn't know
35:44that I didn't want to hurt the other person.
35:46But it's like this,
35:48you let it pass,
35:50you let it pass,
35:52then you do things to make her mad,
35:54to make her break up with you.
35:56You project her.
35:58But eventually,
36:00when I matured,
36:02I was able to say,
36:04that's enough.
36:06Let's ask Dr. Manalaisay,
36:08is there a proper way
36:10to break up?
36:12No, there's none.
36:14It depends on the person involved
36:16in the breakup.
36:18Do you give up on the first sign of trouble?
36:20Maybe with kids,
36:22it's easier for you to say no
36:24because there's no commitment involved.
36:26Not the kind of commitment that marriage entails.
36:28But for married couples,
36:32they say a relationship is always
36:34a series of highs and lows.
36:36Rollercoaster rides.
36:38No, peaks and valleys.
36:40There are times when the husband
36:42loves the wife more.
36:44There are times when the wife
36:46loves the husband more.
36:48The love is there,
36:50but it's not always equal.
36:52How much effort do you put into your marriage?
36:54Or at the first sign of trouble,
36:56how long have you been married, Doc?
36:58We've been married for 17 years.
37:00That's a long time.
37:02Was there ever a time
37:04when you said,
37:06I hope I don't get her married.
37:08Did you really break up with her?
37:10Maybe not.
37:12We give and take.
37:16Is there ever a time
37:18when you looked at another woman
37:20and played with her?
37:22That's just in the surgery room.
37:24Minus the surgery,
37:26you played with other girls
37:28without the idea of a doctor.
37:30Did that ever happen?
37:32Of course not.
37:34I'm just asking
37:36how much Doc knows.
37:38Thank you, Doc,
37:40for being on my watch.
37:42Doc, you didn't answer my question.
37:44What's the question anyway?
37:46I'm not married.
37:48I'm separated two years ago.
37:50I'm going through a divorce right now.
37:52You've only been married once.
37:54I've been married for 15 years.
37:56Two years ago, I decided it's time to move on.
37:58When did you know
38:00that it's about time to divorce?
38:02You know when it's time to leave a relationship
38:04when you have exhausted all means
38:06to save the marriage.
38:08You have exhausted all means
38:10like you go to marriage retreat,
38:12you go to marriage counseling,
38:14you go to Victoria's Secret,
38:16you do aromatherapy,
38:18you go have a liposuction,
38:20and then you realize it's time to get out,
38:22time to leave, time to move on.
38:24What if you say,
38:26I don't want to anymore,
38:28and then she still wants you,
38:30how many times do you give in?
38:32It depends.
38:34Usually, it takes two to tango.
38:36If I say, I don't want to anymore,
38:38and then she still wants me,
38:40for my own opinion,
38:42I'm a man,
38:44I try to make things work.
38:46If she still doesn't want me,
38:48what did I do wrong?
38:50I'll try to do something about it.
38:52It's impossible to say,
38:54I don't want to anymore,
38:56I don't love you anymore.
38:58It needs to be mutual.
39:00These are my reasons,
39:02what's your reason?
39:04You're really like your father.
39:06You're a one-man woman.
39:08Okay, I really wish we had more time,
39:10but we have to say goodbye to our guests.
39:12Thank you very much for being here.
39:14Thank you very much.
39:16The Sweet Life has more surprises in store for you.
39:18Stay tuned.
39:28Another way of preserving memories
39:30is to make a memory box.
39:32I'm going to share this with Wilma
39:34because we're both mothers.
39:36This is what I did
39:38on Juliana's first birthday.
39:40I learned this from an old lady
39:42named Portia Luterio.
39:44She teaches us arts and crafts,
39:46creative gift wrapping and packaging.
39:48She teaches us beading.
39:50So this is one of the things
39:52that I learned from her.
39:54I'm going to share this with Wilma.
39:56She teaches us beading.
39:58So this is one of the few things
40:00I learned from her.
40:02This is one of the first things
40:04I learned from her.
40:06It's called a memory box.
40:08It's fun to make because
40:10you can use any hard box.
40:12I used an ordinary brown box.
40:14This one is really nice.
40:16You can use a shoe box.
40:18When you're done making it,
40:20I hide all of Juliana's party hats,
40:22the invitation,
40:24the candle,
40:26the birthday cake candle,
40:28the crown,
40:34and then I have an envelope here
40:36with the receipts
40:38that I spent on her
40:40on her first birthday
40:42so that she can see that
40:44I spent.
40:46So that she has an idea
40:48that parties during that time cost this much.
40:50She won't get to appreciate this
40:52when she's 18 years old.
40:54So what I did was
40:56I just covered the brown box.
41:00What do you call this?
41:02The most important thing you need to use
41:04is glue and you mix it with water.
41:08I thought you just need to
41:10wet it with water.
41:12You need to stick it together.
41:14So you mix it.
41:16While you're mixing,
41:18what I did was
41:20I put it on the box.
41:22The pictures are stuck together.
41:24Her theme was flower power.
41:26This is her invitation.
41:28I photocopied it because it's a bit thick
41:30for it to stick.
41:32So I photocopied it and then
41:34this is the other side.
41:38Then I put her picture.
41:40These are the
41:44paper napkins.
41:46You know those paper napkins?
41:48You just need to cut it perfectly
41:50and decoupage it.
41:52When you use water and glue,
41:54you decoupage it.
41:56You don't need to...
41:58This is really simple.
42:00There are no rules.
42:02I just did this.
42:04This one. Actually, it's not finished yet.
42:08It's not finished yet.
42:10I'll finish it now.
42:12Don't do that because it's hard.
42:14Just tear it like this.
42:18It's better
42:20if the edges are rough.
42:24You'll glue it here.
42:26For example, this.
42:28You'll glue it here.
42:30Don't be afraid.
42:32Just tear the portion you'll glue.
42:34There you go.
42:36There you go.
42:38So this is the
42:40napkin we made earlier.
42:42Wow!
42:44It's so artistic!
42:46There you go!
42:48When you put it like this,
42:50you'll put glue over it.
42:52Make sure that
42:54especially the edges...
42:56Did you see why we cut it?
42:58We made it rough instead of cut.
43:00There are edges.
43:02Yes!
43:04Wilma, you can also
43:06tear it.
43:08Tear it.
43:10I'll tear it.
43:12Tear it.
43:14Sometimes, I burn it.
43:16This is the crown she wore.
43:18It suits you.
43:20Where do you want to put it?
43:22In the middle.
43:24Where?
43:26I'll give it to you.
43:28I'll just close it.
43:30Here?
43:32Okay.
43:34Just hide everything inside.
43:36The birthday candle,
43:38the party hat.
43:40Can I hide my son's father there?
43:42I'll keep him there.
43:44If you don't want to see his pictures,
43:46but you want to let Asiana know
43:48that she has a father,
43:50hide him in the box.
43:52How can I hide my father?
43:54So she'll know when the time is right.
43:56Okay?
43:58Before we end the show tonight,
44:00we will be giving away
44:02one special edition Timex watch.
44:04All you have to do is text
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44:10This is something
44:12you can do with Asiana.
44:14If you include her pictures,
44:16I'll do it at home.
44:18When you're not here.
44:20So I won't have to text.
44:22Of course, thank you to our home,
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44:26Thank you, our home sponsors.
44:28Jeff Robles for my hair and makeup,
44:30Skin Food, thank you,
44:32and Dr. Calayan.
44:34Okay, I'd like to thank
44:36Dr. Vicky Bello, Jerome Chang
44:38for my hair and makeup,
44:40Kashika for my clothes,
44:42and Jewel Dizon Jewelry Salon.
44:44What have you...
44:46Any parting words for our viewers?
44:48Ako ito lang,
44:50time is gold.
44:52Ako rin, same.
44:54Time will not wait for you,
44:56so make the most of it.
44:58This is...
45:00And I'm Lucy Torres Gomez
45:02for The Sweet Life.