Relationship expert Chanel Nicole Scott offers up advice to help you date differently, and have success, in the new year.
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00:002025 is here and it's new year, new me season.
00:02But do you know what hasn't changed?
00:04The dating pool.
00:05The apps are not giving what they're supposed to
00:07and people don't know what they should do
00:08to go out there and find the person.
00:10If you're looking to improve your chances,
00:12change is necessary.
00:13I'm Victoria Wimorogi,
00:14the Senior Lifestyle Editor for Essence.
00:16And we've tapped Chanel Nicole Scott,
00:18relationship expert, author,
00:20and Relationships Matter podcast host
00:22to give you her top three pieces of advice
00:25to date differently and have success
00:27when you're out here dating this year.
00:29Take it Chanel.
00:29All right guys, so you know it's 2025
00:32and we date differently than 10, even 20 years ago, right?
00:35Things are different.
00:36So the first tip would be
00:38before you even consider dating
00:40or getting into a relationship with someone else
00:42is you gotta know your purpose.
00:43You gotta know who you are.
00:44You gotta know your God-given identity
00:46and you have to be good with you.
00:49It is so important that you know your worth.
00:52So when someone disappoints you,
00:53you're not gonna fall apart, right?
00:55You're gonna be like, that's cool.
00:56If you don't like me, I like me.
00:58And moving on to the next, right?
01:00The next tip would be a foundation of friendship.
01:04So often we wanna jump the gun.
01:05We meet someone, we like them.
01:07We're like, okay, you're my man, you're my woman.
01:09But no, you have to establish a foundation of friendship.
01:14Get to know your person, vet them, right?
01:16Find out their personality in all seasons, right?
01:19Find out how they react when they're angry,
01:21when they're mad, when they're happy, when they're sad.
01:24You really wanna get to know your person
01:26so you're not blindsided, right?
01:28When something pops off, you know who you're dealing with.
01:30And then the last tip is don't overstay your welcome.
01:35If you see red flags, exit stage left.
01:38Don't wait, don't stick around until you can't get out,
01:41until you're caught up
01:42and your feelings are all caught up and you're emotional.
01:45The first sign you see, believe it.
01:48Believe who they are when they show you.
01:51Don't wait around, don't say, oh, it's gonna change.
01:54Don't think you can change that person.
01:56When they show you who they are
01:58and it doesn't align with your values, your goals,
02:01where you're going, leave the situation alone.
02:04So those are my three tips on relationship in 2025.