Renata tiene una relación hace 7 años y un hijo de un año y medio, pero el hijo no es de su pareja.
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00:00Because he has his heart divided or not Renata, hello
00:05Hello everyone, how are you?
00:08Good and you?
00:10Well, today we want to help you, tell me what is your situation?
00:13Look, the story is
00:16I've been in a relationship for seven years, and in that seven-year relationship I have a son
00:23Now, the issue is that the son is not from my partner
00:28Let's see, wait
00:30How long have you been in a relationship? Seven years?
00:33How old is your son?
00:35One and a half years
00:38And who is your son then?
00:41Well, what happens is that, well, about two years ago
00:47I, well, one of my roommates died, I was at a funeral with my partner, we were very bad
00:53They went to a funeral?
00:55We went through a crisis, yes, we went through a crisis, but it was my roommate who accompanied me to the funeral
00:59The thing is that there I met a cousin, very, very distant, very, very distant, that is, I could tell you that he is like the third generation
01:07Already?
01:08But things in life continue and we meet
01:11Obviously we talked, we followed each other's phone number, we started talking
01:15The thing is that in the end, for six months we had a parallel relationship
01:19Let's see, Renata, let me understand that when you go to the funeral, at the funeral one imagines that people are sad, they talk about different things, already saying goodbye to the deceased
01:30You, how many minutes do you start talking?
01:34Yes, in fact, we started talking in this case of therapy, which is still going on
01:39Already?
01:40After our crisis, a friendship happened, and from that friendship we met once, and it was not just a friendship, there were attractions between us
01:51It was an immediate attraction, and were you just talking to him or your husband too?
01:56No, no, no, it was not the shootout, it was after the funeral, it was after his first meeting
02:03So you kept a parallel relationship for how long?
02:06Approximately six months
02:08Six months
02:10And you find out that you are pregnant, does he know that the child you have is his?
02:16No, he doesn't know
02:18The situation is as follows, when I find out that I am pregnant, having this parallel relationship
02:26I and my partner were bad, but when he finds out that I am pregnant, he becomes another person
02:32He went away
02:33Yes
02:35Ah, your partner becomes another person to improve the relationship, it was a great joy to know that you were going to be a father
02:42Exactly
02:44And there you were not able
02:47I was not able to tell him, because for time reasons, as a woman intuits, calculates
02:53And I think, as I said, I had a parallel relationship with both
02:59As I calculated, and I say, girl, maybe he can do it, I didn't give him the applause of my child
03:05Why didn't you do it, if in the end it is also tranquility for you?
03:12Because I don't want another person to appear, the truth, and I don't want to ruin everything he has lived that year and a half with this baby
03:21But are you okay with your marriage, or your partner, are you okay in this relationship?
03:27What?
03:28Are you okay in this relationship?
03:30Now we are fine, but I have that guilt, I have that backpack of how to face the situation
03:36Super difficult, it is super difficult, because also when you get pregnant, what happens with this third person?
03:43He knew that this baby was probably his, or you disagreed and ended up with this relationship?
03:48I disagreed on the subject, the truth
03:50What did you say?
03:52He hasn't asked me, because he hasn't told me that he has seen the baby
03:58But the problem is that the baby looks a lot like him
04:02Like who?
04:03Like his biological father
04:06The one who is supposedly the biological father, because we don't have 100% proof
04:11Look, I want to tell you
04:13Of course, he looks very little like my partner
04:19Of course, when our families see him, they tell me that he looks a lot like me
04:25But of course, I laugh, yes, yes, no
04:30And it's typical that they say that he doesn't look like me, he doesn't look like me
04:35I take it very seriously, and I don't know what to do
04:41Because it's my fault that I don't do it
04:45Renata, look, there are people here in the panel who almost faint with this story
04:52Look, he even put his arms crossed, I have to open it
04:56I'm astonished, look
04:58I'm astonished because first, in the world we live in, this is very La Colonia
05:03I mean, not knowing who the baby is seems like a joke
05:05Yes
05:07First, when one, or you, or whoever, has a relationship with more than one person, they have to take care of themselves
05:15They are adult people, they are not looking for a pregnancy, they have to take care of themselves
05:19And why didn't you take care of yourself, Renata?
05:20It's very rare
05:22No, I took care of myself, I apologize for the context, but this was a mess
05:27Wait, wait, wait, wait, the condom broke and you took the pill
05:32But you are a grown woman, you know what you are doing, right?
05:34Or not?
05:36No, it's just that, look, obviously I have taken care of myself with antidepressants, but
05:42Listen, let me explain
05:44Renata, Renata, do you know why I get a little exasperated?
05:48Because when you live a life with more than one partner, you become someone promiscuous
05:52And you have to take care of the STDs, the sexually transmitted diseases
05:56That's what the condom exists for, right?
05:59So, no matter how many pills you take, you run other risks and you risk your partner
06:04Now, if you have the slightest suspicion that this condom is not from the partner
06:10You have to be an example
06:12So, everything we talk about here is wrong
06:15Yes, Renata, why did you let yourself be?
06:18It's not that I let myself be
06:21What happened in that moment was, let's see, when
06:26The truth is, when I started this relationship for real, it was not like
06:33I want to do it and I do it, no
06:37It was something that was born at the moment, that was born little by little
06:40It was something that I really looked for
06:43Renata, but look, here we
06:46The problem is not that, because that already happened, the idea is not to question you
06:51The important thing is to know what you are going to do now
06:53Have you ever thought about telling the truth and doing the DNA test?
06:58Yes, I have thought about it
07:00And why don't you do it?
07:02But it complicates me, Renata, the happiness that he has taken from our son
07:07Because, after all, I am also of the opinion that a father is a child
07:11But I don't know how he takes me in the situation
07:14The relationship he has with the baby
07:20Of course, don't do it for him
07:22Because you can hurt him and you don't want to take care of that
07:28But, let's see, stay there
07:30What do we tell Renata?
07:33Let's see, Renata, I'm going to put you in a situation
07:36Imagine that your son has a disease
07:39And that he needs his father, who is your current partner
07:43And he takes an exam and it is not compatible
07:46I tell you this because, deep down, you are in a situation where you feel super trapped
07:52But you can do something
07:54Because the truth, and especially in this type of issue, always, for some reason, is known
08:00Even for an exam that could happen in the future
08:03That neither of you wants your son to have a disease
08:05The simplest thing is to leave
08:07Doing the DNA test, as Pri said
08:09In silence and knowing who the father is
08:12And then think well, calmly
08:15And assume, because sometimes every act has a consequence
08:18And finally, that child, the next day, will know that his father
08:22Is your distant cousin
08:24And a complete family is going to be destroyed
08:28I have seen this case a lot in therapy
08:30And believe me, it is very powerful
08:32I have also had very similar cases
08:34Where the father, who was not a father, like your partner, knew the truth
08:37And took care of the child
08:39But to this day it hurts him that they lied to him
08:42Because you can no longer untie him
08:44Because there is a feeling
08:46So I think the simplest thing
08:48In an act, where every act has a consequence
08:49Is that you order a little
08:51You calm down
08:53You start with the DNA
08:55And then you have to assume the consequences
08:57Because sooner or later, this is going to be known
09:00What do you think, Paula?
09:02No, I had not taken the option of taking the DNA
09:05But I am also calling for the DNA
09:07In this case, I don't know where I have to go
09:10I need a guide
09:12Because the truth
09:14The baby is already going to be two years old
09:16And it's going to grow
09:18And that's why I'm calling
09:20Because I don't want to feel more guilt
09:22Every month that passes
09:24Every minute that passes
09:26When I see them, the truth
09:28It's too strong for me
09:30Because they have such a beautiful relationship
09:32With their father and son
09:34Yes, Renata
09:36And it is understood
09:38How difficult it is to live day to day
09:40Based on a lie
09:42Not only with who your partner is
09:44But also with who your partner is
09:46Who is your son
09:48Who is going to understand in a minute
09:50And it's going to be more difficult for him
09:52To explain to him when he continues to grow
09:54It's going to be worse when the pot uncovers
09:56When you find yourself with that bomb
09:58But besides
10:00Here is something super important
10:02Paula, right?
10:04Renata is having a super bad time
10:06Because she feels guilt
10:08She sees how the supposed father
10:10Who does not know that he is the biological father
10:12With the child
10:14But that also generates an emotional discomfort
10:16And all that part
10:18That the child has to be happy
10:20He does not have a complete mother
10:22Who is fine, who is calm
10:24Who is guilty
10:26Look, not to feel that guilt
10:28The truth first of all, Renata
10:30The truth first of all
10:32And the first step is to do the DNA test
10:34So that you also have the tranquility
10:36And the certainty of knowing who your son's father is
10:38Now, just to close
10:40Does anyone else know about this?
10:43Or have you had to face it alone, Renata?
10:44No, no
10:46Only I know this
10:48I have not wanted to share it with anyone, the truth
10:50I wanted to face it alone
10:52But not because
10:54I do not want to talk about it
10:56But because I feel
10:58That this is something that really
11:00I do not
11:02Are you ashamed?
11:04Yes, I was ashamed
11:06Because really
11:08I know that this situation
11:10I looked for it
11:12But I did not think
11:14That it was going to end like this
11:16Now, Renata
11:18Thank you very much for trusting us
11:20At least you could vent
11:22Hopefully the advice we gave you
11:24Will serve you
11:26And you start to get weight
11:28From that backpack that you are always carrying
11:30That weight is taken out by telling the truth
11:32Somehow
11:34Look for the way
11:36And all the luck
11:38A lot of spirit and a giant hug
11:40We send you from the studio
11:42Have a good time, Renata
11:44It should be, for example
11:46Renata
11:48If the exam is done
11:50It turns out that the guagua is her partner
11:52I would advise her
11:54Yes, because if tomorrow that guagua has health problems
11:56No, no, no
11:58The result comes out
12:00Let's talk about commercials again?
12:02And where are we going to look?
12:04Let's go for a break
12:06Yes, because we are on television
12:08Really?
12:10I forget
12:12Let's go and come back