Video Information: 12.09.22, RVCE, Bangalore
Context:
~ How can I make sure I have enough time for both studying and hanging out with friends?
~ Is it okay to take breaks from studying to socialize?
~ How do I decide when it's time to study and when it's time to socialize?
~ Can you give me tips for balancing schoolwork and spending time with friends?
~ What are the consequences of only focusing on studying and not making time for friends?
~ Are there any easy tricks for managing my time between studying and socializing?
~ How do I explain to my friends that I need to study sometimes without hurting their feelings?
~ What can I do to avoid feeling stressed about not having enough time for both studying and socializing?
~ Are there any apps or tools that can help me keep track of my study and social time?
~ Will finding a good balance between studying and socializing help me do better in school and feel happier overall?
Music Credits: Milind Date
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#acharyaprashant
Context:
~ How can I make sure I have enough time for both studying and hanging out with friends?
~ Is it okay to take breaks from studying to socialize?
~ How do I decide when it's time to study and when it's time to socialize?
~ Can you give me tips for balancing schoolwork and spending time with friends?
~ What are the consequences of only focusing on studying and not making time for friends?
~ Are there any easy tricks for managing my time between studying and socializing?
~ How do I explain to my friends that I need to study sometimes without hurting their feelings?
~ What can I do to avoid feeling stressed about not having enough time for both studying and socializing?
~ Are there any apps or tools that can help me keep track of my study and social time?
~ Will finding a good balance between studying and socializing help me do better in school and feel happier overall?
Music Credits: Milind Date
~~~~~
#acharyaprashant
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00:00Namaste ji. So, my question I think is something that a lot of students face. So, like you
00:10said the purpose of human life is to strive for excellence. But right now I am trying
00:16my best to strive for that excellence. I like to become a very good engineer. But for this
00:23of course you need to dedicate a lot of personal time as well. But when you dedicate a lot
00:28of personal time towards this goal of excellence, you also lose out on a lot of social time.
00:34Like time for you to hang out with friends and have fun. So, how would you ideally be
00:40able to balance it? Because until now every time I have achieved my excellence in anything,
00:46it has always been by me shutting the door and just sitting all alone in my room or wherever
00:51and just working. So, that is not really sustainable if you want to have long term friendships
00:58and all. So, how would you suggest to balance all of this? No, that is a concept that these
01:05two are mutually exclusive things, studies and friendships and that these two ought to
01:12be balanced and that friendships cannot be sustained if one is too immersed in his studies.
01:19All this is a concept that you have absorbed from somewhere. Why can't you have friends
01:27who have fun with books? So, you are there and the friend is there and both of you are
01:33hanging out with books. How are these two things mutually exclusive? That it's either
01:46books or friends. Why can't it be friends with books or books with friends? Why can't
01:52you find friends in books? Why can't you have friends who are books in themselves?
01:59Even if you are not carrying books, that friend is a living walking book. Why can't you have
02:06friends of that nature? The problem is an internal fragmentation. One part of you wants
02:15to learn mathematics. One part of you wants to go into the bare and honest facts that
02:24science has to offer and science is very honest. The other part of you wants to have friends
02:32who just entertain you with lot of falseness and nonsense and you do not realize that these
02:39two cannot go together. The mind that wants to go into the reality of things via the scientific
02:49method, how can that same mind opt to have fun with someone who is cracking bad jokes
02:57that mean nothing and even expects you to laugh? But we want to have these two and that
03:04we call as work-life balance. Can we have both of these? Why do you want to have both
03:09of these? Have the one thing that is really really precious, no? Do you want to have a
03:15flight and a train ticket and balance the two? One leg in the flight, one in the train.
03:25If you want to reach your destination, you need to have only one and if you have two
03:30then there is a problem. You will reach nowhere. So have the right flight for the right destination
03:38and have your friend in the flight. If you have a friend who has a different flight to
03:45catch to a different destination, then you either drop the friend or the flight. These
03:51two cannot go together. Nothing of balance would work here. Drop this word balance from
04:00your mind totally. Balance simply means fragmentation, division. This is to be done, this is to be
04:10done and I am balancing both of these. Which basically means that you can never be completely
04:15into either of these. Otherwise why do you need to balance? Joy lies in absolute immersion
04:23not in balancing. Joy lies in totality not in incompleteness and all forms of balancing
04:31are incompleteness. Are they not? 50% this, 50% that or 90% this, 90% that. Be it 50 or
04:3890 both are incomplete. Whereas joy lies in absolute 100%. If you cannot be dedicated
04:48100% to the one thing in life, life I repeat is not worth living. Balance is not something
04:57good. You know where does this concept of balance come from? You want me to tell you?
05:05This comes from the point of industrial revolution. Now industrial revolution threw up a lot of
05:14jobs that were inherently soul sapping. So for example in a factory you are just standing
05:21by an assembly line and inspecting goods as they pass by. And what's your job 8 hours
05:29of the day? To keep looking at goods and if one of them is not proper then you pull it
05:34out. Right? Now this kind of job is something no sane man can live with. It will kill you.
05:43Maybe you can do it for 2 days, 4 days, a month. But if you are told to do it for 20
05:48years, how will you live? So the concept of work-life balance came in. They said fine
05:52you do this, we will pay you enough and then you go and have fun in the house. So there
05:57will be work-life balance. And then you can console yourself. You can say alright I tortured
06:02myself for 8 hours in the job but in return of that I got some money and using that money
06:08I bought a vacation and in the vacation I had fun. So see there was a balance. There
06:13was torture and there was fun and they were balanced. Don't let this happen to you. Don't
06:20live a balanced life. Not at all. Live an outrageous life. You understand outrageous?
06:28Live a totally unbalanced life. Unbalanced means only one side is present, the other
06:34side is totally absent. And that one side has to be so absolute that it contains all
06:39the sides. That one side is not partial then. That one side in itself is the absolute then.
06:47Just get into the one thing worth loving in life. Choose the right road for yourself and
06:55if while walking down that road you meet great friends, no problem enlisting them.
07:04But you cannot have friends who have chosen a different road. Especially when you are
07:09choosing a life partner. Please be very cautious. If there is one thing you love in life and
07:17you have a life partner whose ways are totally different, you will find yourself torn, split.
07:24Remember one leg in the flight, one leg in the train. That kind of life you will live
07:28for 50 years. Don't let that happen. Have one central theme in life and everything else
07:36should be around that theme. You cannot have two themes in life and balance them. Okay?