Video Information: NIT-Silchar, 22.02.2022, Rishikesh, India
Context:
~ What work to choose in life?
~ Should one seek social validation while choosing work?
~ How important is money while choosing work?
~ Why do we often underestimate the circumstances?
~ How can a girl prioritize her career over emotional distractions?
Music Credits: Milind Date
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Context:
~ What work to choose in life?
~ Should one seek social validation while choosing work?
~ How important is money while choosing work?
~ Why do we often underestimate the circumstances?
~ How can a girl prioritize her career over emotional distractions?
Music Credits: Milind Date
~~~~~~~~~~~~~
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LearningTranscript
00:00Hello Acharya ji. My name is Kali. I am doing the M.Tech from MIT Central. So my question
00:10from you is how can I keep my career ahead of my emotions? Like I am a very emotional
00:17person. I get disturbed with little things. Means whenever I am having argument with my
00:23loved ones, I just get disturbed and I keep on thinking about those things only and I
00:28can't study and it hampers my study a lot. So how can I keep my career ahead of my all
00:37these feelings? It's not that we have loved ones. We love to be disturbed. Would our loved
01:03ones mean anything to us if they don't disturb us and we don't disturb them? Think of this.
01:12If our loved ones stop disturbing us, probably the relationship would disappear. Is the relationship
01:25itself not founded on the premise of giving each other the right to invade the personal
01:35space of the other? If you want, for example, the other's time and the other is saying,
01:48you know, right now I am occupied with something important. Maybe you will exempt him or her
01:56a couple of times, but after that you will enjoy disturbing. Otherwise, you will feel
02:03you mean nothing to that person. Similarly, the other person wants to have the right to
02:13freely move about and litter in your inner space. That is what you call as disturbance.
02:30Emotions we are born with, and especially being a woman, in the biological scheme of
02:39things, emotions are powerful. The thing is, what do these emotions want to do to you?
02:58Where are these emotions coming from? This same body that is the source of all emotions,
03:14what does it really want? Is your nose really very interested in having a career? The emotion
03:28is coming from the nose. The emotion is coming from the eyes, the ears, the skin, all parts
03:43of the body, and I am not even naming the brain right now. The entire body gives rise
03:52to emotions. What does the body want? You have a woman's body, what does it want?
04:05And we share our bodies with animals, what do bodies want? Do the bodies want the woman
04:14to have a career? Do the bodies want the woman to have knowledge and wisdom? Is your
04:22nose annoyed if you do not study? Do your eyebrows feel offended if you do not clear
04:34an exam? Nothing happens. The skin continues to glow even if you are an extremely ignorant
04:46person. In fact, it has been seen that the skin of ignorant persons glows much more brightly
04:59than those who are a little less ignorant. Does the skin care for knowledge, career,
05:10consciousness? No. Now, the relationships, are the relationships coming from wisdom and
05:22consciousness or are the relationships themselves coming from the body? Don't be in a hurry
05:29to answer. I just want you to consider it. So, the body manifests itself in the relationships.
05:48How do we choose friends? We choose the kind of friends that support our mental patterns.
05:58We choose friends whose company allows a rush of dopamine to the brain. So, you are not
06:07choosing friends. It's the body, the brain that is choosing friends. How do we choose
06:15partners? We choose partners based on their intellectual depth and spiritual wisdom. We
06:24may claim so, it sounds honorable. But the fact is that the body has its own ways. And
06:36the first proof is that a woman likes to choose a man and a man likes to choose a woman. If
06:44we were looking only for intellect and depth, why would gender be a concern? But the gender
06:54is the first thing. So, the relationship itself is founded on the body. Now, see where we
07:01are coming. The relationship is the body. And what you want is wisdom and consciousness.
07:17Now, why will these two go together? Why will your relationships be conducive to your career
07:26or to your real growth? You have an exam tomorrow. You know that you have an exam tomorrow.
07:40Does the body still not want to fall asleep? Have you not experienced this? That even if
07:49you know that something very important is to be done, yet the body starts acting lazy
07:55and sleepy. Have you not experienced this? Yeah, I have experienced this. So, the body
08:01has no respect for the real things in life. The body has respect only for its biological
08:09construction and the body is biologically constructed just to have fun of all kinds
08:15in life. Eat, sleep, be merry, repeat. You could say food, sex, sleep, repeat. That's
08:30all that is there to this body. And if our relationships are coming from the body, then
08:41know very well that your relationships will not be aligned with your intellectual pursuits,
08:51including your career choices. Do you feel I am beating around the bush? Probably I am.
09:04Or am I coming to a point? No, you are coming to a point. All right. All this disturbance
09:18that you experience, the heavy emotionality, quick to cry, these things happen and they
09:26happen a little more with women. They are just the conspiracies of this body against
09:39your real purpose in life. So, be very, very watchful. You are not born just to be a servant
09:53to your body and emotions are just bodily. Do not give too much respect to your emotions.
10:06Wisdom and discretion is one thing and emotionality is a totally different thing. If you start
10:17living your life founded on emotions, you won't go very far. You would go only in the
10:26direction of your bodily constitution. That's where your biological life wants to take you
10:36and the places where your biological life intends to take you are not very glorious
10:41or dignified places. Do not let those things happen to you. Emotions will continue because
10:51your body will continue. So, what can you do? Do not patronize your emotions. Do not
11:00energize your emotions. When emotions rise, do not say these are my emotions. Say these
11:07are the body's emotions. Fight against these emotions. Whenever these emotional disturbances
11:19arise, do not say, oh, what can I do? This has happened, that had happened. Now, I am
11:27feeling disturbed. Somebody has come and disturbed me. Say, I know where the disturbance is coming
11:32from and I do not want to side with it. Let the disturbance be there. I will still continue
11:39to do what is right. Are you getting it? All your life, ignoring our emotions, it's a very
11:54difficult thing. Yes, it is difficult, but it's worth it. Because if you do not ignore
12:00them, they will be all over you. And always remember, the emotions are not yours. The
12:10emotions belong to the body and the body is not a very glorious thing. You are a conscious
12:21human being. Your purpose in life is to gain heights of consciousness, of wisdom, of freedom.
12:32And the body wants no wisdom, no freedom. And I am saying, especially in the case of
12:41the woman, the body can militate very strongly against the purposes of the consciousness.
12:50So you have to be even more alert. And if you can be alert, the results are worth it.
12:59So, does this happen with women only? No, no, it happens with everybody. It happens
13:08with everybody. But the thing is that you look at our societal structure, you look at
13:16the way everything is designed to affect a girl child, in a way that makes her more body-centric,
13:26and you look at how Prakriti, physical nature, has chosen the woman as her preferred equipment
13:37for her continuation. When you look at the reproductive cycle, it affects the woman far
13:45more deeply and for a much longer duration than it affects the man. So, in that sense,
13:56the woman has to be more cautious. Both the man and the woman are offsprings of Prakriti.
14:07Therefore, they both are vulnerable to the chains of Prakriti. But woman has some additional
14:22forces acting against her. And therefore, she has to be extra cautious. But that also
14:32means that her victory tastes sweeter. That also means that when she succeeds, the success
14:45means even more. And it's not much important to ask who is at a greater risk. The more
15:00relevant question to ask is, would you be all right if you do not achieve your real nature?
15:08Maybe the odds are a little more against you. But the inner urge to be liberated is the same
15:24in all human beings, irrespective of their gender. So, will you be at peace if you remain
15:34a hostage to your body? Tell me. So, that's the question to ask. Do not ask how easy or
15:46difficult is it for me compared to a man? Because the thing is not relative. The thing
15:53is not comparative. Maybe it's a bit more difficult for a woman. So, what? It's worth it.
16:02Yeah. If it's worth it, then we will fight it out. Right? We will fight it out. See,
16:12you are thirsty. The other one too is thirsty. Would you look at the other's thirst and say,
16:20well, you know, he's more thirsty than me. So, I feel satisfied. Will that help you?
16:30No. You have to quench your own thirst. You have to fight your own battles. And the battles
16:38deserve to be fought and are possible to be won. That's what matters.
16:42Yes.