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00:00This sounds really cheesy, but it would be nice to walk this earth with somebody.
00:07I've healed now from that relationship and I'm ready to find love.
00:13It's my turn now. I've been waiting a long time.
00:17I am looking to meet, like, the love of my life.
00:24I feel on top of my game now. Like, I feel ready now to bring someone in.
00:54Are you ready for love?
00:57Yes, I am, I am.
00:59Are you ready?
01:01Are you ready for love?
01:11Birds flying high.
01:15When I was nine or ten, an older person said to me,
01:18Ella, some men in life are handsome and some dress well.
01:22You haven't got a choice, you have to dress well.
01:24You know how I feel.
01:27It goes into your psyche and lodges there,
01:30and I've, to this day, now thinking,
01:33I can't afford to walk around in a tracksuit and a hoodie.
01:36I have to dress well.
01:39Ellis, with a taste for romance just like his taste in fashion.
01:43Timeless.
01:45I'm not good with change, which is ironic, given that a relationship is change.
01:49I'm kind of like that dog you get from the shelter,
01:51where you've got to coax him out a little bit and go, let's just take it slow.
01:54Good.
02:00I'm feeling good.
02:07How are you?
02:08Well, look at you.
02:09Pleasure.
02:10Your name? Ellis.
02:11You're in your style.
02:12Can I just say, my mother loves you.
02:15I would love to fall in love again. I think it's a beautiful experience.
02:17And even if it ends badly, that's a risk you've got to take.
02:20You listening?
02:21Oh, constantly.
02:22Ah, yeah? OK.
02:23Perpetually.
02:24A mixture of dance music, Michael Bublé's jazz,
02:27and a little bit of Day O'Donnell.
02:29I have to confess that.
02:30Oui, Daniel.
02:31Yeah, a little bit of him.
02:33Whatever puts you at ease, my man.
02:35I need whatever.
02:36Yeah, yeah, listen, we all have our thing, you have your thing.
02:38You know, we're all different people.
02:39That's it.
02:40In virtually every picture or video of me, you'll see me having an AirPod in.
02:44And it goes down to my ASD, my sensory issues that I experience.
02:48I've no problem with, you know, smell or touch or taste,
02:51but sound is very important to me.
02:53And again, I can't control the environment in general,
02:56but I can control what I listen to, I can control what I hear in my ear,
03:00and that kind of irks me, as opposed to someone who is getting overwhelmed
03:03by that feeling of no control,
03:05which I think is very common for those who have ASD.
03:08I love it, it's cool.
03:09I got Sam Smith on.
03:10Oh, you're way cooler than Sam Smith.
03:13Come on, boy, you're a good-looking man.
03:15I try, the beard helps, the beard hides a lot.
03:17As someone who's very much struggled with his weight, with his body image,
03:22and to put it bluntly, dislikes his body,
03:25I have a very hard time turning off that cynicism and criticalness for them,
03:29because I have it so much for me.
03:30I don't like how I look,
03:31so I have a very hard time being with someone who looks like me.
03:34Yeah, here's hoping that they went to work to find my date.
03:36That's the important thing.
03:37Or NCD.
03:38One or the other.
03:39Scroll those alternative arty types of people.
03:42I've dated trans women, I've dated cis women,
03:46I've dated people who are non-binary.
03:48I've always been attracted to, I suppose, features.
03:50You see that a lot in my crushes.
03:52I loved Shelley Devane.
03:53She just, unsoundly, she's gone by.
03:55I was obsessed with her.
03:56You know, Lucille Ball, you know, Carol Burnett.
03:58But all at the same time, I love people who are just mad out there.
04:01In Italy, it's a famous saying, they say,
04:03mondo è bello perché è vario.
04:05It's basically translated,
04:06the world is beautiful because it's different.
04:12I find that people of my age can have very fixed ideas.
04:21Nothing is ever black and white.
04:23Life is not black and white.
04:26Returning dater Lorraine flies in the face of convention,
04:30and she likes to travel light.
04:32Not too much baggage.
04:35If I wanted a job as a baggage handler,
04:37I'd be working for Ryanair.
04:39Hello, how lovely to see you again.
04:41Pleasure to hear you, love.
04:42How lovely.
04:43Pleasure to hear you back.
04:44Lovely to see you again.
04:45Come into me, come into me.
04:47You couldn't knock celebrity status, could you?
04:50Lorraine, am I right?
04:51Yeah.
04:52Great to see you again.
04:53And I hear you have another little bambino soon.
04:55Yes, I have two.
04:56Yes.
04:57I have two, yeah.
04:58I keep tabs on you.
04:59Yeah, yeah.
05:00It was a very good date, very good date.
05:02We stayed in contact for quite a while afterwards,
05:06and you have a fan club in Tullamore.
05:09Thank you for that.
05:10All the older ladies.
05:12I think if you're sat opposite somebody,
05:14even for half an hour,
05:16if there's not a two-way process,
05:18it can be numbing.
05:21Obviously, every year I go home,
05:22and I bring my kids home too.
05:24Oh.
05:25Oh, the joy it brings to the house.
05:27Oh, I bet.
05:28My dad was never softer, you know.
05:30Oh, I bet.
05:31He's a teddy bear nowadays.
05:32Oh, I bet.
05:33My best friend was six foot eight,
05:35so I started wearing heels.
05:37I couldn't be that short next to him.
05:38Every night I have girls who go,
05:39oh, oh, and see him,
05:41and I go, okay, well, I've got a chance now.
05:43I've got nothing going for me now.
05:45And do you wear heels all the time then?
05:46Perpetually.
05:47Really?
05:48Anybody with a lot of confidence
05:50and people who are quite secure in themselves,
05:53I find that very attractive.
05:55If Dervla does meet the right person,
05:58she'll know right away.
06:00And so will they.
06:02I'm quite bad at hiding my emotions,
06:05especially the emotions that come out
06:07when I'm interested in someone.
06:09Hello.
06:10Hey, beautiful.
06:11Hi.
06:12What's your name?
06:13My name is Dervla.
06:14Ah, no, welcome, Dervla.
06:15Nice to meet you.
06:16You look lovely.
06:18You go, girl.
06:19Where's home, Dervla?
06:20Galway, it's a rather small city,
06:22and I feel like I might have maybe
06:25exhausted some of the dating options.
06:27Hi.
06:28Dervla.
06:29Are you a hugger or...?
06:30Yeah, I'm Dervla.
06:31Nice to meet you.
06:32Nice to meet you, Dervla.
06:33Ellis, how are you?
06:34Ellis, nice to meet you.
06:35I'm good, how are you?
06:36I love the hair.
06:38A very weird topic to start with
06:39is me judging your hair,
06:40but you know, we're here now.
06:41That's the important thing.
06:42We've got to commit to it.
06:43They normally always go straight
06:44for either a compliment on my hair,
06:46my piercings, or my tattoos,
06:49which I always appreciate
06:51because I love attention.
06:52Who doesn't?
06:53Sparkling water with mint.
06:54I'd love that.
06:55That sounds great.
06:56Great salesman.
06:57I sold it.
06:58So you don't drink, no?
06:59No, I don't.
07:00At all, or...?
07:01At all.
07:02Do you mind me drinking, or...?
07:03Not at all.
07:04Go for it, yeah.
07:05Is that a choice, or...?
07:06Very deep from the get-go,
07:07like, why don't you engage in this?
07:08See, that's why we're here, isn't it?
07:09I suppose I became quite a heavy drinker
07:12when I started college.
07:14What did you do in college?
07:15I did drama.
07:17If you had a kid, who would have guessed?
07:19You'll kind of be able to look at my eyes
07:21and you'll be able to tell
07:22if I'm, like, fairly restraining,
07:25like, my kind of excitement and attraction.
07:28You obviously went to NUIG for theatre.
07:30See, I'm remembering everything.
07:31I'm listening to her.
07:32I'm very intent.
07:33Despite the AirPod, I'm listening intently.
07:35Yeah, don't mind the ASD.
07:37Actually, I'm listening.
07:38Everyone's like, oh...
07:39As it goes, I work for Apple, so...
07:43Imagine you turned up for a blind date
07:45and met the love of your life.
07:48Stan's counting on it.
07:50Eight, nine, ten, eleven...
07:53Um...
07:55Oh, yeah.
07:56Yeah, this is a good day for me.
08:00Love is...
08:06It's somebody you can sit in silence with.
08:09Where you can sit in a room and not say a word,
08:13just be happy that that other person's there.
08:15How are you?
08:16Your name?
08:17Stan Phillips.
08:18Real love is rare.
08:20It's wonderful.
08:22I've had it a couple of times in my life
08:25and I'm hoping that I'll have it again.
08:28Hello.
08:29Hello, how are you?
08:30How do you do?
08:32How are you?
08:33I'm well, what's your name?
08:35Lorraine.
08:36And your name is?
08:37Stan.
08:38Stan?
08:39Where are you from?
08:40Offaly, Tullamore.
08:41Oh, right.
08:42And you, where are you from?
08:44I'm from Waterford.
08:46Oh, a long way up.
08:47You sound... You've got an English accent there.
08:49I'm a bit of a mixture, really.
08:51I was born in the Isle of Man.
08:53Oh, right.
08:54And then I came to Ireland when I was five.
08:56And then when I was 17, I went to London.
09:00I was meant to be going to college here,
09:02which at the time would have been, you know,
09:04quite unusual for women to go to college.
09:07But then I met a boy who was home on holiday,
09:12but I decided then that I would go to London
09:15and I went... I had family in London.
09:17Exeter, near Exeter.
09:18Oh, very nice.
09:19And I worked in an old railway station.
09:22Oh, wonderful.
09:23Right in the middle of a field.
09:25Oh, wonderful.
09:26Normal was not what I did, and the marriage collapsed,
09:29the business I had collapsed as well.
09:31Lost everything.
09:32And I came to Ireland in 95
09:37and met Bernadette, who was the...
09:42I've called her the love of a thousand lifetimes.
09:46I met my partner Bernadette when she died.
09:49I said, I'm just going to live.
09:51Oh, you have to.
09:52I've travelled.
09:53How long have you been on your own?
09:5518 months.
09:56Oh, not long.
09:57Yeah.
09:58Your physical being is going to deteriorate.
10:00That's the law of averages.
10:01But I think if your mind is fairly active
10:04and you can look outwards rather than inwards.
10:08I'm a great people-watcher.
10:09I love watching people.
10:10I love watching people.
10:12Could occupy my whole day, really.
10:14Someone once said to me,
10:15if you can't laugh at other people, who can you laugh at?
10:17Exactly, exactly.
10:18Well, it's like laughing at yourself, doesn't it?
10:20Oh, I always laugh at myself.
10:22You have to.
10:23Crazy.
10:26Apple, Galway, theatre kid.
10:29Yeah.
10:30Tattoos, Scorpio.
10:31What's your horizon?
10:33I have a Libra rising.
10:35OK, what's that?
10:37It's more of like a vibe and a feeling
10:39than something I'm able to describe.
10:41What's the vibe?
10:42Workman's?
10:43Oh, love workman's.
10:44You actually?
10:45I've been there many times.
10:47As far as I haven't seen you,
10:48as far as we've just passed like ships in the night.
10:51Sydney?
10:52Yeah.
10:53Who's that guy with the pipe?
10:54Me?
10:55What?
10:56Yeah, I was that wanker.
10:57Younger me would have been a bit angsty,
10:58would have been more like, oh, woe is me.
11:00Now I'm like, I'm not owed anything.
11:02No one is obliged to give me anything.
11:04I'm not obliged to anybody else.
11:06I choose to do what I do with my time,
11:08with my energy, with my love.
11:09I want to do the law.
11:10I want to do it purely for the wig.
11:13It's a little number.
11:15Like, your honor, stop it.
11:17Maybe it's L'Oreal.
11:18You know, one of them was like.
11:20Why do they wear the wigs?
11:21It's like the way body types have come in and out of fashion.
11:24Having the long hair was very important.
11:26Well, like back in ancient Greece,
11:28I would have been great.
11:29I would have been there on the chasse longue with the grapes
11:31being like, bring me the gladiators.
11:34Don't actually, but.
11:35Probably would have been like a peasant servant.
11:37In the Coliseum, like, kill that one.
11:39Take her out.
11:42I'm talking way too much.
11:43You go ahead.
11:44That's me as well.
11:45I'll just go a mile a minute.
11:46Ask me a question.
11:47What do you fear?
11:52That wasn't a genuine question.
11:54I'm sorry.
12:02Joker, performer, entertainer.
12:05Fingers was born to play.
12:08My earliest memories,
12:09I was only about like one and a half,
12:10and my whole mission in life was trying to crawl out of the kitchen
12:14and down the hall,
12:15bang left into the good room,
12:16and get to my old lad's saxophone.
12:21Do girls approach me anymore?
12:22I'm probably too old to be approached by women, aren't I?
12:25Someone did give me his, yeah, their number
12:27on a ripped bit of a cigarette box
12:30at a gig that I played last year.
12:31That was really cool.
12:36I think I'm probably fairly entertaining.
12:38Yeah, a good crack, up for a laugh.
12:41Limerick, huh?
12:42I know, yeah, but I'm not from there.
12:43It's just, you know, I'm appreciated by the people.
12:45They presented me with a medal of their appreciation.
12:47Here we are.
12:51I could go all night.
12:52Jesus Christ, are you OK?
12:53Are you ready for this?
12:54Oh, yeah, man, here we go.
12:56What is that?
12:57No.
12:58And notions.
12:59I think I decided that I'd really like someone funny,
13:01and they'd probably have to be quite intelligent as well,
13:04because my brain goes a mile a minute.
13:07You never told me your name. Your name?
13:08Fingers.
13:09Fingers?
13:10Yes, I play piano.
13:11Terrible teeth.
13:15Ah, legend.
13:16Nice to meet you, Fingers.
13:17Pleasure.
13:18So what does your mum call you?
13:20Not nice things.
13:23National television.
13:24And there's a Z in it as well, because I was 13,
13:27and I was like, well, if they're going to call me Fingers,
13:29I'm not going to be like all them other Fingers with an S.
13:32How many Fingers do you know?
13:33So I put a Z.
13:34Well, I was called after Johnny Fingers from the Wilmington Rats.
13:37Ah, OK, that makes more sense than what I was thinking.
13:42It's a multifaceted name.
13:44I linked it to my Facebook, so I come up as Fingers on Tinder.
13:51Now, I'd say there's a strong 85% of Irish women
13:55who wear out any question.
13:59Were you christened to this?
14:00Yeah, my parents are anatomists.
14:03OK.
14:05I made that word up myself.
14:07When I'm working, a lot of the time I think people are a bit scared
14:10to come up to me because I'm on it, or whatever, you know.
14:13If I'm hosting or doing gigs,
14:15I probably shut people off as well, just because I can, you know.
14:18It's like, sorry, sorry, one second, one second.
14:23I like a bit of a messer.
14:25Doesn't take anything too seriously.
14:27For Katrina, everything in this life and the next
14:31goes better with music.
14:33One of the best nights out I ever had was at my nanny's funeral.
14:36The sing-song.
14:41He has to have a song.
14:42If he can play an instrument even better, my dad will be happy.
14:45But he has to have at least one song he can belt out at the end of the night.
14:49Did it!
14:50What's your name, please? Katrina.
14:52Nice to meet you, Katrina. Nice to meet you.
14:54You look lovely, Katrina. Thank you very much.
14:56Yeah, look at that tulle there. Thank you very much.
14:58Yeah, you go, girl. There's plenty.
15:00You know, all the tattoos and stuff,
15:02I would probably consider it a little bit quirky,
15:04so I want somebody to match.
15:07Nice to meet you. Absolute pleasure.
15:09How are you? Good, and yourself?
15:11Good, yeah, not too bad at all.
15:13How are the nerves? I'm all right. Yeah?
15:16Where are you coming from? Tallaght.
15:18You're from Tallaght? Yeah. You sound a bit country.
15:21I get that a lot. I don't know where it comes from.
15:23No way. No, I don't know where it comes from.
15:25Well, yeah, Knock Lyon, originally.
15:27Oh, really? Yeah, Shelbyville.
15:30I don't know it now. I don't know the area well.
15:32No, Shelbyville, that's just the Simpsons joke.
15:35Oh!
15:36Springfield, next door to Shelbyville.
15:38That's what all the boys from Fairhouse used to call it.
15:40Off to a flying start!
15:42When I was touring, there was absolutely no room
15:44for a relationship, really, at all,
15:46unless you could find someone that was on tour.
15:48So I was seeing a girl who was working on movie sets,
15:51and so that was sweet, because it was the same thing.
15:53My ma lost me in the Dunn stores there once,
15:55when I was about four.
15:57I'll never forget it. Accidentally or on purpose?
15:59Well, probably a bit of both, to be honest.
16:01But, you know what I mean?
16:03When you're that height and you can't see over the things,
16:06and it's just like corridors of doom.
16:08She found you, I assume?
16:10We don't know. She's still looking.
16:12She's still in Dunn's looking.
16:14After about 20 minutes of them calling her,
16:16there were great deals happening down in Raleigh.
16:28This is...
16:30This is very fancy for my time.
16:32Thank you very much.
16:34You're very, very welcome, guys.
16:36Oh, I haven't been called that in years.
16:38Just think boss, I would just say.
16:40Say, thank you, boss. You're welcome, boss.
16:42Guys, I'd call you boss if you want.
16:44No, not now!
16:46That's what you're into.
16:48Peanut, please.
16:50Save it for TikTok.
16:52I'll DM you on TikTok.
16:54Stop making me fucking snore.
16:57I have an image to uphold,
16:59and me snoring is not helping at all.
17:01Sorry, just take that out of your brain.
17:03It never happened. It never happened.
17:11Because that's the freedom you have when you're on your own.
17:14And you don't have to be worrying about anybody else's needs or wants.
17:17You're just a free spirit.
17:19Do you have to be a free spirit? Yeah.
17:21And are you a free spirit? Very much so.
17:23Are you a rebel? Very much so.
17:26I love oddballs. Likewise.
17:28I tried being normal once. Oh, no, it's too boring.
17:30It was the worst ten minutes of me life.
17:32I agree, I agree. No, no, no, I am extremely rebellious.
17:35Did you work? Yeah, I worked most of my life.
17:38Oh, right. A communications manager.
17:40Oh, right. I was very involved in politics in England.
17:43Really? Very involved.
17:45Could I ask left or right?
17:47Well, I think you've probably deduced from my rebellious streak
17:50that it certainly wasn't right. You're a lefty like me.
17:52Yes, very much so.
17:54I was elected to Wilshire County Council,
17:57which is the last bastion of wealth.
17:59And you had people like Princess Anne's then-father-in-law
18:03on the council.
18:05That's the calibre of the people.
18:07So I was very, very lucky to get elected.
18:09At that time, I was the youngest serving councillor
18:12and the first Irish person to have been elected as a councillor.
18:16A little left of centre. Yeah, yeah.
18:19Probably, in my case, probably a little bit more than left of centre.
18:22I'm a little to the right of Jeremy Corbyn.
18:24I won't have a word said about Jeremy.
18:27Did I say? No.
18:29I absolutely adore that man.
18:31He was the best Prime Minister Britain never had.
18:34Then my first husband, unfortunately,
18:36died suddenly when my children were quite small.
18:39So I had to kind of withdraw a bit from politics,
18:42cos it's very demanding.
18:43Once history's happened, it's happened. It's happened.
18:45Most people try to rewrite it, but at the end of the day,
18:48it's history and it's how it happens.
18:50It's OK having a love affair,
18:52but what you do for the other 23.5 hours of the day,
18:55you've got to have somebody that you can talk with.
18:58How old are you? Do you mind me asking?
19:00No, no, not at all. I'm 80.
19:0280? Yeah. And you?
19:0486. Oh, wow.
19:06Today. Today.
19:08Oh, my goodness. Happy birthday, then.
19:10Oh, this is a lovely treat for my birthday.
19:12It's a celebration.
19:13They say the more birthdays you have, the older you get.
19:16Yeah, it's right to have another one, isn't it?
19:18At my time of life, you don't plan ahead.
19:20Not at all.
19:21You don't even buy green bananas.
19:23No, no, no, you just... You just get on with the day.
19:29So, you have a daughter?
19:31I have a daughter, yes. She's ten.
19:33Oh, OK.
19:34And full of beans, Sadie.
19:36Oh, they do be at that age.
19:38Yourself? Any kids?
19:39No, I have no kids. I have a 12-year-old niece, though.
19:42Things are starting to increase at rapid rates for me now.
19:46Have fun with that.
19:48I'm staring down the barrel of puberty
19:50and the shotgun that she has behind that,
19:52so that's going to be interesting as well, I'm sure.
19:55Because I'm the cool dad, I suppose,
19:57where, like, I work an interesting kind of thing,
20:01so I would have loved my dad to be doing what it is that I do.
20:05My own dad would love to be doing what you were doing.
20:08I think my mum broke a guitar over his head once when she was trying.
20:12He was trying to teach her how to play,
20:14and she was like...
20:16He'll just vanish.
20:17You lose him to the attic for a couple of hours every day.
20:20He has his own little studio up there.
20:22He used to have it out in the shed,
20:24but I turned it into a granny flat.
20:26Never forget that.
20:28Oh, my God!
20:30I'm only after setting up a new company,
20:32so I have a bit more control over where and when I'm working.
20:36Whereas before, it was just, I have to take it when I'm taking it,
20:40and then I have Sadie on the weekends.
20:42Because I'm looking for someone who fits,
20:44like, it's probably a tight enough...
20:46When I have a minute.
20:48Oh, my God!
20:50The title of it is...
20:52What fucking time do you call this?
20:54Whenever I'm early, which is very rare.
20:56Very rare? Yeah.
20:58I'm polar opposite.
21:00I'm standing there at the gate, and all the young fizz are coming through.
21:03My watch is broke!
21:05I'm like, what fucking time do you call this?
21:08BELL RINGS
21:10So, what did you do when you were in college?
21:12You obviously did acting, but... I drank.
21:14Yeah. Mostly. OK. Pretty much.
21:16Really? So that seems like your drink, if I may be asking.
21:19Your drink really did seem to impact you.
21:21It kind of took control over me for a little while.
21:24Doing nasty things, saying nasty things to people and stuff
21:27as a result of being, like, really drunk.
21:30You know, when you go to college
21:32and you move away from home for the first time
21:35and you're meeting all these new people,
21:37it can be so exciting, but it can take a turn very, very quickly.
21:42That sort of mentality and that sort of lifestyle
21:45just really took over my life for a few years,
21:48and I just completely kind of lost who I was.
21:51I had tried to give up drinking twice in the past,
21:54but there was this kind of... I just... I guess I wasn't ready yet.
21:58Yeah. I mean, it's a journey. Addiction...
22:00Maybe addiction is a strong word, but having a struggle like that,
22:03it is just kind of...
22:05I have to take it very seriously, cos, like...
22:09You know, I've ended up in a few, like, scary situations
22:12and a few, like, kind of make-or-break situations as a result.
22:16Yeah.
22:17I was in hospital in Galway
22:20and I ended up speaking to a psychiatrist.
22:24This was after a night out
22:27that kind of took a little bit of a turn for the worst at the end.
22:31He was asking me about my drinking habits
22:34and how that affects my life.
22:36I wasn't able to stop crying the entire time that I was there
22:40and the entire time that I spoke to him.
22:43He said that if I really want to heal and move on
22:49from a lot of the really negative and damaging things
22:53that have happened to me in my life,
22:56I need to stop drinking.
22:58That takes real strength and, honestly, fair fucks to you.
23:01Thank you. For what it's worth,
23:03I'm acutely aware that we met 40 minutes ago and I'm like,
23:06listen, I know you've been vying for this approval
23:08off this guy wearing a jumpsuit, cos obviously, who hasn't, clearly?
23:11I'm reconnecting with myself and I'm finding myself again
23:15and I've never been more kind of secure in a decision.
23:19I was a kidney infection.
23:22Nice. Yes.
23:24I was all elbows.
23:26I...don't know what that means.
23:29Yeah, you don't want it, from what I've been told.
23:32Did you elbow your way out?
23:35All I know is that my mother looks at me...
23:39Differently. ..when like this.
23:42You were all elbows.
23:45You could meet somebody on a night out
23:48and they're not your usual type, but you get chatting to them
23:51and then all of a sudden, they're actually a bit gorgeous.
23:55You're a singer, are you? Yeah. I'm a singer.
23:57Oh, yeah? Mm-hm. Nice.
23:59Who do you sing or what do you sing?
24:01Eva Cassidy. Ooh!
24:03A bit of Eva, a bit of Norah Jones.
24:05I feel the silver, but most days I feel the gold. Gold!
24:08Yeah.
24:11I'm unaware I write a blog every day.
24:13You do your own blogging on...?
24:15I do on my Facebook page. Oh, really?
24:17I've got a poetry page and I've written some books as well.
24:21I'll have to have a look at that.
24:23I'm the queen of Facebook. Are you?
24:26She needs to be interested in the arts,
24:29you know, music, musical theatre.
24:32I love live music.
24:34Like if there's gigs locally in the pubs or wherever,
24:37I love live music.
24:39I'm a classical music man.
24:41Love all music, even a bit of punk or a bit of heavy metal.
24:45I went to the Isle of Wight Festival,
24:47which would be the equivalent of Glastonbury,
24:50and hitched a lift.
24:52You couldn't do that today, but anyway.
24:55And left a note for Sarah's daddy.
24:58I've gone to the Isle of Wight, your dinner's in the oven.
25:02The children are next door.
25:04Do you remember, 50 years ago,
25:08you and I might have met at this hotel
25:11and we'd have been sitting here,
25:13maybe drinking a glass of wine, having a chat,
25:16talking about the nightclubs we'd have gone to,
25:19the boys we'd been with, the girls we'd been with,
25:22and now we talk about bad legs and bad backs
25:25and death and all this sort of thing.
25:28You can plan for the future and you can learn from the past.
25:32The only reality we possess is this.
25:35Are you guys on a date?
25:37No.
25:38Well, you could have fooled me.
25:40I can see chemistry, girls.
25:42I can see chemistry.
25:44How do you feel about this?
25:47Set the horse to the one-legged jockey.
25:51Think about that for a second.
25:53Oh, it's interesting.
25:56Yeah.
25:57He's from Knockline.
26:00He's a very animated fellow.
26:02Well, I like to think what you think.
26:04You're very entertaining.
26:06Yeah.
26:07ALL SING HAPPY BIRTHDAY
26:11Oh, my God.
26:12ALL SING HAPPY BIRTHDAY
26:14To you, everybody.
26:16ALL SING HAPPY BIRTHDAY
26:20Oh, shit.
26:21ALL SING HAPPY BIRTHDAY
26:25CHEERING
26:29Thank you so much.
26:30Go on, Danny.
26:31Oh, God, thank you.
26:33Music man, Christy would be delighted.
26:36Seems to be what he does for a living.
26:40Oh, that's a... I get home now, that's a high spot on my day.
26:43Aw!
26:44Thank you all, thank you.
26:46Happy 50th.
26:48Thank you very much.
26:50He's a poet and all, he's a lovely man.
26:53Ask her things about herself.
26:55I'm trying to.
26:58Ah, no, it's been great fun.
27:02It's just an unusual experience.
27:05So, tell me, do you like that girl?
27:07I don't think you're allowed to ask me that now,
27:09at this point in time, we're not supposed to.
27:11You can't ask her anything.
27:13No, she's lovely, she's just...
27:15I'm mental, I couldn't do...
27:17I couldn't do me to her.
27:21CHEERING
27:23There we are.
27:26Oh, that was a total surprise.
27:28Oh, that's wonderful.
27:29I nearly knew it was my birthday.
27:31How thoughtful.
27:32You chatting up my day?
27:35No, not just one.
27:37Two!
27:38Both of them.
27:39Unbelievable.
27:41I swear to God.
27:42Lucky you came.
27:43I didn't go nowhere.
27:44Lucky you came back.
27:47And have you been single long?
27:49Since January.
27:50OK.
27:51What about you?
27:53I took a time just to, like, you know, look after.
27:55Not look after myself, but really find my real...
27:58the real Alice.
27:59It was my first queer relationship.
28:01She was a trans woman and she was the most beautiful woman
28:04I've saw in my life.
28:05Just stunning.
28:06Conventionally and unconventionally attractive.
28:08I wanted to go for it or she didn't.
28:10I totally respect that. That's totally fine.
28:12I wished her well.
28:13That was just hard to get over.
28:14And also, kind of, the time frame of when it happened,
28:17I was in a very bad spot mentally.
28:19I had just suffered a very bad loss of a friend of mine.
28:21It was just this kind of avenue of happiness
28:23that I thought I wouldn't get.
28:25Before you passed,
28:26they gave me, like, a photo collage of all our friendship
28:28for, like, the last five years. Yeah.
28:30I suppose when Jack went, my kind of cynicism went away.
28:33Life's always better because it has the potential
28:35to do something rather than not.
28:36And if it's rather this or going on a date with someone
28:39who is miles out of my league, I still did it.
28:41That's why I took a break for a while.
28:43I was being like,
28:44I need to really re-evaluate what's going on right now
28:47cos it was a weird time.
28:48It's the anniversary two weeks from now.
28:55Dating is hard.
28:57Just ask Laura.
28:59Relationship status, single but cautious.
29:02Apparently, people don't want relationships nowadays.
29:07I feel like if I ask them what we are,
29:09I'm going to scare them off and they're going to run away.
29:11Your name? Laura, it's nice to meet you.
29:13Beautiful, Laura. Oh, thank you. How are you?
29:15I like your glasses, everything's cool there.
29:17Thank you, I said I'd like to be able to see my date,
29:19so I said I'd pop them on for a little bit, anyway.
29:21If they can make me laugh, like, straight off the bat,
29:23then we're going to get on.
29:24Do you know, that's the one thing that's really important to me.
29:27I love a funny lad.
29:28Someone who's quite, like, clean, like, who has a nice haircut and...
29:31Groomed. Groomed, yeah. Very well groomed, yes.
29:33I'm not going to lie, they're all pretty well un-groomed out there.
29:36Really? Yeah, yeah, yeah. Don't tell me that.
29:39She knows.
29:42Quiet, patient, longing to connect.
29:45Not Stephen, his dates.
29:48I was on a first date, there was two girls sitting next to us.
29:51When I went into the bathroom, I came back out and your mum was like,
29:54they just, like, apologised for you and everything to me,
29:56cos they were like, you haven't got a word in since you sat down.
30:00THEY LAUGH
30:02I think I'm going to be nervous.
30:06How do you feel? I feel great. I usually do.
30:09You took out the... Yeah, cos I wasn't doing any conversation.
30:12Which is a good sign for me, but, yeah, that was... Super.
30:15Yeah, that was a big thing for me. Super. I'm not used to that.
30:17She's gorgeous. Oh, she's fucking gorgeous.
30:20You're a good-looking man yourself, so come on, man.
30:22Let's drop it, let's drop it. Come on.
30:25Aha! How's it going?
30:27Hey, happens to everybody. Nice to meet you.
30:29How's everything, my man? Good, good, yeah.
30:31Very excited, man. Your name? Stephen.
30:33Nice to meet you, Stephen. Nice to meet you.
30:35Where are you from, Dublin? Cork. Cork.
30:37So, how do you feel about all of this?
30:39Good, but I wasn't nervous until I just walked in the door.
30:42Ah, yeah, but that's normal, that's normal.
30:44You're all the same, so... Yeah.
30:46Listen, you see her there, yeah? OK, you ready to do this?
30:49Yeah, all good. All right. Let's go.
30:52Everyone talks about how, like, people that love each other
30:54are together all the time.
30:55I think love is when people are spread, are separated,
30:57and then they come back together and they feel the exact same.
31:00Now...
31:01Hiya. Hi. How are you? Stephen, lovely to meet you.
31:04Lovely to meet you. How are you? What's your name?
31:06I'm Laura. Laura. Nice to meet you.
31:08Laura, great to meet you.
31:09We'll stay here for a minute. Savage.
31:11So, where are you from? I'm Tipperary.
31:13Tipperary? Yeah, where are you from?
31:15I'm from Cork. I'm not far behind you.
31:17I went to college in Cork. Where?
31:19CID. Oh. Where did you go?
31:21Oh, UCC. Oh, right, OK.
31:23Yeah, what did you do? Nutrition, Health Science.
31:25Oh, that's actually what I wanted to do. Really?
31:28Should have gone to CID. That was short, yeah.
31:30Actually, I got it in CID, but I was like,
31:32oh, no, I'll go UCC. Turn it down.
31:34What did you actually do in college, though?
31:36I did Economics as my undergrad,
31:38and then I mastered in Supply Chain then.
31:40Oh, you did a Master's? Yeah.
31:42I have it done now, but I'm never going back.
31:44You're never going back? Never going back.
31:46Fair play to you for doing that, though.
31:48I love cheering people on. I love giving people compliments.
31:51So, you're not in Cork at all. You're back home, eh?
31:54Yeah, I'm back home and hairless.
31:56I have a cousin who's hairless, actually.
31:58Oh? Yeah. Well...
32:00Ron McDonald.
32:02No, I don't.
32:04Is his father a French teacher?
32:06Yeah, Jim.
32:08Fuck, he taught me. He taught me.
32:10Did he? No way.
32:12He did. He was one of my...
32:14Like, he's so funny, like.
32:16You have a bit of a connection there.
32:18Small world, eh? Too small.
32:20My grandma didn't know I was queer until about four months ago.
32:23She was like, what? She was like, we didn't get that.
32:26To find out that Alice is also queer,
32:28it just made me feel so instantly kind of relaxed.
32:31I do work off of a three-strike basis.
32:34How many do I have? None.
32:36Really? Smitten, my nana would say.
32:38Sweet.
32:40Stop it.
32:42No tattoos, no grey hair, no jumpsuits.
32:46Wait a minute. You're rewriting the rules.
32:48What is it? You're rewriting the rules.
32:50I was very taken aback, because I was just like,
32:52oh, my God, you look amazing, like.
32:54I've got a voucher, would you mind?
32:57Got a one for all I got for Christmas.
33:00Would you like to see each other again romantically?
33:04I'll go first.
33:06I'd say yes.
33:08Yes. Yeah, what?
33:10Yeah.
33:12This is the crisis actor.
33:19I really, really enjoyed the date.
33:21Like, I barely felt it go by.
33:23Really good chemistry and...
33:25Come on.
33:28I genuinely thought you were lovely.
33:30I know, even when we both split off there,
33:32I was excited to see you again.
33:34Bastard!
33:36We're going to work once. Yeah, we are.
33:38Are we actually? Hell, yeah, we have to now.
33:41Yeah, fucking come on in for a penny.
33:45What you've just seen is a man fall up in the world,
33:48and you can do it too.
33:50Fall up. Do well.
33:52I'll take it.
33:57BS.
34:03See, I'd be weird in going,
34:05I want a coconut snowball, but...
34:07That doesn't sound horrific.
34:09Have you ever had a bounty?
34:11I love bounties. Yeah, dead on.
34:13I think I've met, like, two other people in my life
34:15that actually liked bounties.
34:17It's like eating a bar of chocolate and brushing your teeth
34:19at the same time. It's brilliant.
34:21I have to be sarcastic, I can't tell.
34:23No, it's... Yeah.
34:25I think a little bit of flirting on the first date is OK.
34:27It depends. Nothing too crazy.
34:29Not giving you a kiss on the first date,
34:31but unless it's going really well.
34:33By the way, you look lovely, by the way.
34:37I know, right?
34:39Not that I get more confidence off it,
34:41but if the conversation's going well
34:43and you're a few years in,
34:45then you kind of start talking in a different way,
34:47so you can kind of tell very easily if they like you then, yeah.
34:49I feel like it'd be very difficult for it not to go well.
34:51Yeah.
34:53Unless I, like, spit food at you, or...
34:55It won't be a no, unfortunately.
34:57Or show you baby photos of myself.
34:59That might be a yes. I don't know.
35:01Depending if you're an ugly baby, so...
35:03Aw, I was like, what?
35:05I was like, what? You could have put me in Gap ads.
35:07Really? Really?
35:09Yeah.
35:11You happy?
35:13I should look. What else could you be?
35:15What's that? Notions?
35:17Notions.
35:19Got a few notions.
35:21I have four other necklaces, I just can't put them all together.
35:23You take care. Go on, enjoy yourself.
35:25See, he can't find us.
35:27He can't find us.
35:29It's last, is he?
35:31Back here?
35:33My God.
35:35That would be lovely to come to Waterford.
35:37Yeah.
35:39Pretty Spanish.
35:41Do you think I could be, like, a little bit, like, nervous?
35:43I'd say it is a little bit
35:45of a nervous front.
35:47Which would be normal on a date.
35:49Yeah, absolutely.
35:51He's a very big personality, isn't he?
35:53He's a nice guy. You're gorgeous.
35:55Oh. Thank you very much.
35:57Why not? I wouldn't have the courage.
35:59No, and I wouldn't have the courage this time last year
36:01because I was a much bigger girl.
36:03Oh, really? Yeah.
36:05What happened? I've lost 14 stone.
36:07Oh, my God.
36:09Yeah.
36:11So, I know it's a big deal.
36:13Did you have a sleep? Bypass.
36:15And were you very sick and everything?
36:17No. Yeah, best thing,
36:19best money I ever spent.
36:21We're all going out after. Yes.
36:23Are you coming to Coppers? I knew it.
36:25I predicted
36:27this at the beginning, ladies,
36:29if you remember correctly.
36:31What did you predict? The two of you
36:33went to each other, I can see it.
36:35Just chemistry. We're not, we're just eating.
36:37We're just out for lunch.
36:39Would you smash her hair if you saw her?
36:41Ready? One, two, three.
36:43My wife is
36:45very much into horoscopes.
36:47Oh, right. What's her date of birth?
36:4918th of January.
36:51So, that's 9, 10, 18, 9.
36:53No, but she's at the end
36:55of a sequence, so she's about
36:57to make a new beginning. She's almost
36:59into Aquarius. She's off in a different direction.
37:01She's also planning a trip as well.
37:03Oh, is she? Do you know that?
37:05She wants to go somewhere different and exotic.
37:07Hopefully she'll take you with her.
37:09You can read somebody's hand.
37:11You can do
37:13their numbers for them.
37:15But then there are things that happen
37:17that you cannot know.
37:19Oh, so my birthday
37:21is the 3rd of January, so come on.
37:23Hit me.
37:25You're in the third year of your sequence.
37:27And
37:29don't get into arguments
37:31that you can't win.
37:33Oh, that's very interesting.
37:35Or arguments that don't go anywhere.
37:37Oh, very interesting.
37:39Very, very interesting.
37:41And I suggest
37:43that 2025
37:45is a memorable year for you.
37:47Oh, wonderful.
37:49It's the odd you have another
37:51new challenge coming for you.
37:53But it's one you want to go for.
37:55Alright, that's a cool-ass carrot.
37:57That's a sick carrot.
37:59That's a really good carrot.
38:01That's such a cool carrot.
38:03Do you want it?
38:05We're going to feed each other.
38:07You think we should?
38:09We'll just skip to the good part now.
38:11I love a bit of physical touch.
38:13If I'm comfortable with the person, yeah,
38:15no problem. You can play up my hair, hold my hand.
38:17I don't mind any of that at all.
38:19I'm not taking off your fork.
38:21It defeats the purpose.
38:23We're in love, like.
38:27You're all one.
38:31We're like...
38:37It's good, though, innit?
38:39You still had half a chicken in your mouth.
38:41It's the stupid humour, I call it, to be honest.
38:43Stuff that most people wouldn't find funny.
38:45I'm very easy to make laugh, though,
38:47so that's not a hard thing.
38:49Yeah, I'd say definitely.
38:51I call it silly humour.
38:53Oh, that's mank.
38:55That's really good.
38:57I'm about to be the biggest fan of a roast chicken now.
38:59You're not a true Irishman, so...
39:01I'm actually not. I was born in America.
39:03Are you? No way.
39:05I was born in New York.
39:07Both my parents are Irish, so they had me over there
39:09and one of my sisters.
39:11My mother wouldn't have been very fond
39:13of my past relationships.
39:15It might lead to a few altercations back and forth,
39:17but in the end, she usually is right.
39:19So, do you do any travelling?
39:21Just cos I have repeats and stuff
39:23and I, to be honest, wasn't really able to afford it.
39:25You have repeats out in Cork?
39:27So you can come visit me out in Cork?
39:29Yeah, I can. Yeah, I've got a chance, yeah.
39:31Oh, brilliant.
39:33I'll be there on the 14th and the 19th.
39:3514th of August? Mm-hm.
39:37She's never going to have to go on another date, so...
39:39Yeah? Yeah.
39:41And the 19th? I actually can't do the 19th, do you know?
39:43Oh.
39:45Busy with your other girlfriend that day?
39:47Fag.
39:49Which one?
39:55Love is a dream
39:57from which real life awakens you.
39:59Love is a magic potion.
40:01The more you give it away,
40:03the more you have left to give.
40:05I've got a friend who's a psychic
40:07and I sometimes, I think,
40:09watch what I'm saying here
40:11than reading what I'm thinking,
40:13if I'm having any bad thoughts.
40:15Between the gentle throbbing of twin beating hearts
40:17and in the silence
40:19of the promise of the dawn,
40:21it is at first touch.
40:23Wonderful.
40:25Well, there you are.
40:27Oh, it's beautiful.
40:31Hello, fancy meeting you.
40:33Hello, yes, indeed.
40:35Too many people are dreaming
40:37and thinking and believing
40:39that another person
40:41will provide all their needs
40:43and that is not possible.
40:45Would you two
40:47like to see each other again?
40:49Yeah. Yes.
40:51If you come to Waterloo, I'll buy you lunch.
40:53Yes, and if you come to Tullamore, I'll buy you lunch.
40:55I might even make you lunch.
40:57Oh, there you go.
40:59If you've got a good life insurance policy
41:01and you don't fancy being poisoned.
41:03My time of life, dear, you can't get life insurance.
41:05True.
41:07You can escort me off the premises.
41:09I've been escorted off worse premises than this.
41:11Take her out and show her the sights.
41:13Yeah, I'd love to go to the Dacia.
41:15I think you're the winner with this one.
41:17She's beautiful. You are beautiful.
41:19God bless you. Look after yourself.
41:21And you. And I'll listen out for your music.
41:23I'll show you mine if you show me yours.
41:25Oh, stop it. I haven't said that for a few years.
41:27Do you want me to leave?
41:29No, no, no, you stay.
41:31It was the 60s.
41:33Oh, those were the days.
41:35If you remember them, you weren't there.
41:37I love cricket. Did I tell you I love cricket?
41:39No, you didn't tell me that.
41:41Oh, my God, I'm addicted. I will watch two boys
41:43playing on a beach.
41:45I can't help you on that.
41:47Oh, you'll get the bill for the reading in the morning.
41:49Fantastic, excellent.
41:51I'd stick to hurling any day, thank you.
41:53My dear, our first argument.
41:57Do you know what you'd actually look like
41:59if I was to say one thing?
42:01You look like a horse. Do I look like a horse?
42:03You look like a horse.
42:05What an insane thing to say.
42:07What, people that ride horses look like horses?
42:09You're the furthest from a horse.
42:11Don't worry about that.
42:13No, I like drawing and I like painting.
42:15So you're artistic?
42:17Yeah.
42:19I kind of get a spur of the moment once a month
42:21where I'm like, I need to draw right now.
42:23That could be at two o'clock in the morning.
42:25I'll be like, I need to get this on a page.
42:27Are you into water sports at all now?
42:29Not really, why are you into water sports?
42:31Surfing.
42:33Yeah, I swim a lot as well, yeah.
42:35Definitely being a lifeguard and a surfing instructor
42:37definitely helps. I could fit in there with women.
42:39Absolutely.
42:41My dream was to own my own fashion line.
42:43Really?
42:45Yeah, seriously.
42:47When did you come up with that?
42:49It's always been a thing that I've wanted to do.
42:51Yeah, I feel like I definitely will at some stage,
42:53but I couldn't have picked a better job right now than I have.
42:55They kind of had a plan if they knew what they were doing
42:57and had goals where they're going
42:59and just to kind of be a little bit put together.
43:03What I wanted to do was
43:05see animals
43:07Japanese style.
43:09Do you have sketches drawn for it?
43:11I can draw you sketches.
43:13Yeah, there you go.
43:15There we go. I'll be rooting for you anyway.
43:17That sounds unreal.
43:19What do you mean you'll be rooting for me?
43:21You'll be right next to me when it happens.
43:23You'll be right next to me.
43:25How many hours have you worked today?
43:2718?
43:29Another four more at least.
43:33It's gorgeous, but that's as much as I can eat.
43:35Is it OK?
43:37Yes, stunning.
43:39You can't?
43:41I had surgery, so I can only eat small amounts.
43:43A little bit of everything.
43:45And how is that for you?
43:47Great.
43:4914 stone.
43:51Was that in a year?
43:53Yeah.
43:55June 17th last year.
43:57That's amazing.
43:59I'd say that was about maybe two years ago.
44:01I don't have even many pictures
44:03from back then
44:05because you were hiding from cameras more so.
44:07Now I'm like, take my picture.
44:09It doesn't matter about the surgery.
44:11It's the dedication that goes with it.
44:13Oh yeah.
44:15The surgery is only a tool in your toolbox.
44:17You can't even undo a surgery.
44:19To actually do that every month
44:21for 12 months, that's...
44:23Yeah, amazing.
44:25It's amazing.
44:27That's my only regret about it
44:29is not doing it years ago.
44:31The wall is awful hard to climb over
44:33when it's up there.
44:35But as soon as you get there,
44:37time doesn't matter.
44:39She's gorgeous.
44:41It's really, really pretty.
44:43And I didn't know any of that stuff
44:45until the very end.
44:47Do you want to go have these?
44:49Absolutely not.
44:51There's no filter. He just says whatever he wants.
44:53And that's nice to be around sometimes.
44:55Perfect. Thank you so much.
45:03Amazing.
45:05Would you like to see each other
45:07again romantically?
45:09I'll let you go first.
45:11I would say
45:13probably not.
45:15Not because I didn't enjoy myself.
45:17I actually had an awful lot of crack.
45:19I thought it was brilliant.
45:21I just think our lives are probably...
45:25...aimed in different directions
45:27where you're kind of a Monday to Friday,
45:29but I am Sadie.
45:33I can see the reasons
45:35why we would have been matched,
45:37but fundamentally
45:39the energies are just...
45:41She's fond and I'm mentally.
45:43Very good.
45:45I'd give him that one.
45:47That's my favourite part of the night.
45:51What is it?
45:53It's a profiterole
45:55with a hazelnut cream. Do you have any allergies?
45:57I like hazelnut.
45:59Look at you, concerned already.
46:01So cute.
46:03Knowing her future.
46:05She has the same kind of crack that I do.
46:07Actually a kind of unique feature
46:09that a lot of people don't.
46:11And I love her eyes as well.
46:13We could have swapped.
46:23What are we thinking?
46:25What do you think we're thinking?
46:27Thank you very much.
46:29You're welcome.
46:31And the company?
46:33Better than the food?
46:35Couldn't have asked for better.
46:37Would you like to see each other again romantically?
46:39You go first.
46:41I'll go first.
46:43Yeah, I would.
46:45Yeah, I would too.
46:47Savage.
46:57Is he sunning her?
46:59Yeah, he's not so bad.
47:03He's actually really, really funny.
47:05And he seems really, really kind.
47:07Seem?
47:09Seems the right answer.
47:15So you can't swim at all?
47:17No, I can swim.
47:19I can swim and he'll teach me.
47:21I'll teach you.
47:23I have to teach myself first.
47:33Now you've got that fresh air.
47:35Free AC.
47:39So all I want to do
47:41is grow old with you.
47:43I just can't wait to learn more about you.
47:45That's nice.
47:47Ah, she can't.
47:49No, no, yeah, very much the same.
47:51Your tummy aches
47:53build you a fire
47:55if the furnace breaks.
47:57Oh, it could be so nice
47:59growing old
48:01with you.
48:03I can't believe she's so shy
48:05now that you've turned everything else up.
48:07Kiss you.
48:09Give you my coat
48:11when you are cold.
48:13Need you.
48:15Feed you.
48:17Even let you
48:19hold the remote.
48:21Proofreading and editing, that's my forte.
48:23I'm a very lazy writer.
48:25I really am.
48:27And I'm a lazy editor.
48:29Oh, well.
48:31Oh, I could be the one
48:33who grows old
48:35old with you.
48:37I wanna
48:39grow old with
48:41you.
48:45You look at me and you think
48:47Redfly's galorely.
48:49I think she has a problem.
48:51I like being extra.
48:53I'm too full on, maybe. That's what scares them away.
48:55If I met the right person tomorrow
48:57I'd have a baby.
48:59Lock button.
49:01I want to see the
49:03disappointment in your face when you see me, Mickey.
49:05Eight ounce sirloin.
49:07I'll have some.
49:09You better eat it.
49:33You better eat it.