90 Day - The Last Resort S2 Episode 15
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00:00We want to play foosball.
00:02Come on, Trina.
00:03Come on.
00:04Boom!
00:05Whoa!
00:07Previously on 90 Day, The Last Resort.
00:10I want to try to hold it.
00:13Oh!
00:16So I start apply for my parents' visa two months ago,
00:19not telling anybody.
00:21Brandon took this so hard.
00:23I'm immigrant here.
00:25I don't have my family.
00:26I don't have my friends.
00:27I don't have anybody here.
00:28It's hard, so you're not alone.
00:31You went out after hours with Darcy and Georgie.
00:35There was two hot blonde chicks, okay,
00:37that Darcy saw you leave the club with.
00:39Are you f***ing another woman behind my back?
00:42The clues are looking like he's cheating.
00:44Makeup on the shirt, him walking girls home late at night.
00:47Tired of giving all my good years to someone
00:50who's just going to, like, f*** me over in the end.
00:53Do you have someone in mind
00:55that you want to have an open marriage with?
00:58Yes.
00:59That's cheating.
01:00I haven't cheated, and that's why I'm here.
01:02No, it's not an excuse for cheating.
01:04You are a cheater, yes.
01:05I'm a cheater.
01:06You enjoy your life.
01:07Okay, perfect.
01:08Have a good one.
01:09Okay.
01:10Bye.
01:11How the heck proposing ethical, non-monogamous marriage
01:14is cheating?
01:16I just wanted to save my marriage.
01:18I don't know how, and I...
01:20I don't know what to do.
01:22I don't know.
01:24I don't know.
01:54I don't know.
02:12I know he's mad.
02:14He's very mad in the heart.
02:18And I don't want to hurt him.
02:20Gina!
02:22I'm here.
02:23I have to talk with you.
02:24I want to have a drink.
02:25Please.
02:36She wants an open marriage with this guy
02:39that she already knows which guy to be with.
02:45Okay, so why is she going out with this guy, then?
02:48Oh.
02:49Um...
02:51Mm-hmm.
02:59But I don't like how she's put me in a corner.
03:10Here I am thinking, you know,
03:12things have been pretty good recently with Jasmine and I,
03:15so maybe we can turn things around
03:17and we can be happy together as a couple.
03:20And so hearing her, where she says
03:23she wants to have an open marriage with Matt,
03:26um, already has a guy picked out,
03:29means that she was having a relationship with this guy
03:32prior to coming to therapy, behind my back.
03:35To me, that already feels like a betrayal.
03:40What happened?
03:41Where's Geno?
03:42I don't know.
03:43He said that I cheated on him.
03:44What?
03:45When?
03:47Because I told him about...
03:48What?
03:49I had planned with the open marriage and everything,
03:51and I told him about Matt.
03:52But you didn't do it.
03:53You did not cheat.
03:54No, never.
03:56No, no, no, no, no, no.
03:58He's accusing me.
03:59The guy from the gym, like a friend.
04:00Yes.
04:01Okay.
04:02I don't know.
04:03I'm tired of them.
04:04Have any of us cheated or...
04:06No.
04:07I never...
04:08If I were cheating, I would say,
04:09look, I look like a cheater.
04:10No, you don't.
04:11I swear...
04:12You are a queen.
04:14We got you, Jazzy.
04:16That's crazy.
04:17He's like assuming...
04:18Jazzy, it's okay.
04:19Come sit.
04:21We got you, Mama.
04:22We got you.
04:23It's okay.
04:25Oh, no.
04:27No.
04:29Come on, Natalie.
04:31Okay.
04:32Okay.
04:33It's a crazy night.
04:34Wow.
04:35Everything's being exposed while we're here.
04:37And you know what?
04:38It's for the better because we need to know the truth.
04:41We need to know the truth and facts.
04:43Yes, that's why we're here.
04:46What a crazy freaking night.
04:47You know, this is my worst nightmare.
04:51I find out that Florian walks some hot chick home in Miami
04:55and I'm supposed to believe that's all that happened?
04:58I deserve something more than just,
05:00I didn't do anything wrong.
05:02I hear those words all the time.
05:04Like, I really can't trust his words right now.
05:10We got you, girl.
05:13Can I sit with you, Florian?
05:15Oh, you can sit wherever you want.
05:16Oh, thank you.
05:17Thank you, my friend.
05:21And I thought this was supposed to be a good night tonight.
05:23F*** that s***.
05:24Let me f*** this s*** up.
05:25Gino, my boy.
05:26What happened?
05:28Hi, Gino.
05:29Yeah, so Jasmine pulled me to the side
05:31and she wanted to talk to me.
05:33Then she started pushing an open relationship
05:35and I asked her,
05:37do you have a person in mind
05:39that you want to have this open relationship with?
05:41And she says,
05:43yes.
05:44And who is this person?
05:45She's got a guy in mind.
05:46Some dude from her gym.
05:49Now, she's been going to the gym
05:52for several hours a day lately.
06:01And he immediately,
06:02oh, you're shitting, you're shitting.
06:04For you to accuse a person like that,
06:06you have to have, like, evidence.
06:09It really hurt me.
06:11I was being vulnerable to him,
06:13letting him know, like, everything, being honest.
06:15And he said, you failed me,
06:17you f***ing cheater.
06:18But he's not even having sex with you.
06:20Exactly.
06:21I don't understand.
06:22I don't understand Gino.
06:23I don't.
06:26I like Jasmine.
06:27I think she's cool, but
06:28to be honest, I do not think of Gino
06:30like a crazy man
06:32because this guy Matt
06:34didn't come out of the blue.
06:36I do think it was not accidentally
06:38this guy chosen.
06:39She might be cheating.
06:41She might.
06:44So I meet that guy.
06:46You met this guy?
06:47You met the guy?
06:48Yes.
06:49Where?
06:50We call him online.
06:51How does he look, this guy?
06:53So here, like, have a little dark hair.
06:56Here, like, have a big muscle.
06:58He looks like another man.
06:59That's what he looks like.
07:00He looks like someone else.
07:01He's got big muscles.
07:02Yes.
07:03That is f***ed up, man.
07:04Okay.
07:06No, bigger.
07:07Bigger?
07:08No way, I don't believe that.
07:09He's bigger than you are.
07:10That's f***ed up.
07:11Hey, Gino said he doesn't want to know
07:12what this guy looks like.
07:13Gino don't want to know.
07:14So why are you guys torturing him
07:15with this information?
07:16Yeah, I really don't care.
07:17This girl come with the information.
07:18All I need to know is she's with a guy
07:19which I already know.
07:20That's all he needs to know.
07:23To me, cheating isn't just
07:25going and having sex with someone else.
07:27Building an emotional connection
07:29with someone, that's very bad.
07:31If you're doing it behind your spouse's back,
07:33that's like the worst of the worst.
07:37It's very suspicious to me
07:38that she's introducing Matt to her friends.
07:40That just shows that she has
07:42some kind of emotional connection with him.
07:44That really worries me.
07:52F***ing Lorien, man.
07:53What happened with Lorien?
07:55Georgie called Darcy.
07:57There was these two blonde chicks in Miami
07:59that he was hanging out with
08:00after hours, late at night.
08:02And she saw him leave the bar
08:05with these two blonde chicks.
08:07Well, one of the chicks
08:10saw Georgie's night and was like,
08:11oh, by the way, tell Lorien
08:14thank you for walking me home that night.
08:17Wave.
08:18What?
08:19Yeah, yeah, yeah.
08:20And it was like four or five in the morning.
08:22Like after hours, you know?
08:25I'm not gonna go back to the room with Lorien.
08:28Mm-mm.
08:29I don't want to be next to him.
08:32I just kind of feel like
08:33I really have a lot to think about.
08:34Because I don't deserve this.
08:37So I guess I'm sleeping with you tonight, Darce?
08:39Sure.
08:41I definitely need time to process
08:43and figure out what I'm gonna do in this marriage
08:45and figure out how I'm gonna trust him again.
09:03Do you sleep okay?
09:06I'm tired today.
09:07Yeah, me too.
09:33Good morning.
09:34Why are you shy?
09:36Oh, you're so cute.
09:38Come here, Mommy and Daddy.
09:40Mommy and Daddy.
09:41Good morning.
09:44Let me sit near you.
09:45Between.
09:46Come on, come on.
09:47Let child sit between Mommy and Daddy.
09:49That's what it's like having kids.
09:51Yeah.
09:52I don't want kids anymore.
09:53I give you example.
09:56After last night,
09:57our relationship is clear.
09:59After last night,
10:00our relationship is have a big question mark.
10:04Because Brennan say he are done with that marriage.
10:08I didn't know what to expect from today.
10:11But I hope he are sleep is over happy
10:14and we will be have conversation.
10:17How was your sleep?
10:19Do you miss me?
10:25High energy Julia,
10:26first thing in the morning, boy.
10:27I don't know how you doing, Brennan.
10:31Thank you guys for let me sleep here.
10:34Yeah, for sure.
10:35Have you spoken to Brennan?
10:36No, since yesterday I not see him,
10:38not spoke with him at all.
10:40I won't give him space last night.
10:42That's what he want.
10:45I have to talk with him
10:46because yesterday he say he go home today.
10:49So you think he serious about going home?
10:51Yeah.
10:52Before the end?
10:53Mm-hmm.
10:54If he divorces you
10:55because like he's angry that your parents are coming,
10:58then that shows you all you need to know
11:00that he's not a supportive person for you.
11:03And if he's leaving and he is going to leave,
11:05then what's your plan?
11:07If Brennan decides to leave
11:08and that is going to be we broke up,
11:10that's going to be our last chance
11:13when we have our relationship
11:15and we will be divorcing.
11:16I'm not going to be stay in this country.
11:18I will be go home.
11:20I don't have anybody except Brennan here.
11:22So at one point I will be in this country
11:24if I don't have anybody here.
11:25Yeah.
11:26I will be go home to my family, to my friends
11:28and start my life from start there.
11:38Thanks for the pajamas.
11:39You're welcome.
11:40Came in handy.
11:41Well, don't fart in my bloomers.
11:45Maybe I did.
11:46Oh, great.
11:49I don't want them to smell like booty hole.
11:52Oh, stop it, Darcy.
11:54I might just take them.
11:55Can I have them?
11:56No, these are mine.
11:58I got to give them back.
11:59Yeah, you sure do,
12:00but I might want to wash them first.
12:03Darcy being here has been difficult
12:05and I know we have our ups and downs,
12:07but she's a good sister
12:08and I feel like she has my back right now.
12:11You know, it's times like this
12:12that we need each other the most.
12:18All right.
12:19I got to go talk to this ass.
12:22Cheating asshole.
12:23Yep.
12:25You better wish me luck.
12:26Good luck.
12:27Good luck, sis.
12:28Thank you for letting me spend the night.
12:31I told you I got your back.
12:35My goal for this conversation
12:37with Florian right now
12:39is to get the truth
12:40and nothing but the truth.
12:45I don't want excuses.
12:47I don't want him arguing, yelling.
12:50I'm hurt.
12:51I'm angry.
12:54And I want the truth.
12:55I want answers.
13:04What are you doing?
13:05Just packing.
13:07You weren't going to home?
13:09Julia's caused me a lot of pain
13:10in the last few days
13:12and I am done.
13:13I can't take her keeping things from me
13:15and I am just ready to go home.
13:17After everything we've done,
13:18I don't see this as working.
13:21I don't see this as working.
13:47What's wrong?
13:48This is not a joke, Florian.
13:49What joke?
13:51You open the door, like, aggressively.
13:55Chill out. Calm down.
13:56Can we, like, have a normal conversation
13:58about what happened last night?
13:59Because I really don't
14:00want another fight and argument.
14:02We're here to work through our issues,
14:04but what I found out last night,
14:06that's the last straw, Florian.
14:08I'm not dealing with this no more.
14:21I hope he's going to believe in me
14:23and everything is going to be good.
14:26Tell me the truth.
14:27Tell me the truth.
14:28One more time.
14:30Everything. I want details and all.
14:48So you didn't leave with two girls.
14:49You left with the one.
15:09So you didn't take her back to her apartment?
15:11No! What the f*** house?
15:12No!
15:14You know, wham, bam, thank you, ma'am.
15:19I know you like to help people, damsels in distress,
15:22but where are you when I need your help?
15:24Well, I was sick and recovering.
15:27I'm supposed to believe this story?
15:29And you're disappearing all the time?
15:31You're f***ed up and you're gone.
15:32Your location's off.
15:33No, no, no, no.
15:34Did you have a last hurrah before you came here?
15:37What the f*** are you talking about?
15:39What am I supposed to think?
15:40What am I supposed to think?
15:41I can't trust you.
15:44I'm really upset right now
15:45because I feel like he needs to honor our marriage.
15:48And our vows.
15:49And be respectful to me.
15:52I was healing from surgery.
15:53I couldn't go out a lot.
15:54So it was like, f***, like,
15:57I might be the damsel in distress.
16:00Take care of me.
16:01Instead of other women in our building.
16:05I want to believe you.
16:06I want to trust you.
16:07It's just, it's hard because I see all these patterns
16:11adding up, like the past.
16:13And I know you're chivalrous at times.
16:17And that's great, you know?
16:19Maybe I would like to see that a little bit more,
16:21that side of you with just me, not with other women.
16:27I know I did mistake in the past.
16:30Like, this time I tell to Stacey the truth what happened.
16:36Stacey not believe to me.
16:38It's upset me so much.
16:40Take me a long time to build this trust.
16:42And I work for this trust long time.
16:44Right now, this is, everything which I work is going down.
16:47This is not trust me no more.
16:52How would you feel if I stayed out late after hours
16:54and walked some guy home?
16:56And wouldn't you think the worst?
16:58Okay, I understand.
17:00Now you understand.
17:03In your mind, it's not a big deal, but to me it is.
17:07It's hard for me to let that go.
17:08Stacey, I'm telling you the truth.
17:10I'm not f***ing making this up.
17:13I'm not f***ing making up nothing.
17:15Okay, well then when I ask you about these kinds of things,
17:17stop getting aggressive and flipping it on me.
17:20I get aggressive.
17:22Defensive, that tells me that you're guilty.
17:24No, no, I get aggressive to be honest with you.
17:27This is how I am, you know.
17:28I grew up different thing, different culture, different things.
17:31This is how I am, you know.
17:34When you're yelling at me, it's like it goes in one ear, out the other.
17:38Come softer.
17:39If you want me to be soft, you have to be soft.
17:42Okay?
17:47I love you and I'm sorry I yelled to you, but Darcey,
17:51make it this more big in ears
17:54and explain to you in a wrong way.
17:57Can you just say you're sorry?
18:00That's how I'm sorry.
18:04It's hard for me to trust Lorian
18:07because I still carry a lot of pain
18:09from when he cheated on me in the past.
18:11But we're here at this retreat to learn and grow.
18:14So right now, I choose to work on our marriage.
18:19And I feel like we still have a lot of work to do,
18:21but I hope that we can figure it out while we're here.
18:25This is it.
18:26This is the last time.
18:27I've had it.
18:28I love you.
18:29I want us to work.
18:30I love you.
18:31But just know, if it ever happens again and there's cold, hard proof,
18:34it's over.
18:36This is not a joke.
18:37We're still in this joke.
18:38No, I'm just letting you know.
18:39I'm just letting you know it's him.
18:40Yeah.
18:56Yesterday at the family therapy with James,
18:58Julia revealed that she had already filed for a visa
19:01for her parents to come to the United States
19:03without even my approval.
19:06I'm just so angry that I once again find something else out.
19:14And I'm done.
19:15I can't take her keeping things from me.
19:17And I'm just ready to go home.
19:26What are you doing?
19:29Just packing.
19:30Why?
19:31Why?
19:49After everything we've done, I don't see this as working.
20:01It'll be over.
20:02Do you know that?
20:11I'm tired.
20:13I keep trying to be positive about everything and work these steps
20:17and do what they're telling us.
20:19But then I'm the one who just keeps getting hurt.
20:23Julia's caused me a lot of pain in the last few days.
20:26And I really feel like I need to see that she's here for our relationship,
20:30that she's here to make things work
20:32and not just rip my heart out over and over again.
20:36And if she can't, that'll be the end of our marriage
20:39and me leaving the retreat.
20:4113 DAYS TO THE MARRIAGE
20:43WOMEN WHO CAUSED THEIR MARRIAGE TO BE BROKEN
20:46PART 1
20:59If you're going to home now, I mean, this will be process not done.
21:03We can't say we try. We can't say that.
21:08It's going to be another group therapy,
21:10So can we give a last chance for this group therapy?
21:15And if after group therapy, you're not
21:17going to change your mind, I'll let you go.
21:21If I go to this therapy, there's not
21:23going to be any more secrets that are going to come out?
21:28No.
21:40I feel so scared about our future.
21:43I don't want to be selfish today,
21:45but I want to start fresh.
21:47And I want to speak up and tell everything what we feel.
21:50And I'm asking him to do the same.
21:53I love him, and I want this marriage to be working.
22:04I'll put a pause on this for now.
22:05Mm-hmm.
22:06We'll see how things go today.
22:10We'll see how things go.
22:36You done with the bathroom yet?
22:38Yeah.
22:40I was shocked last night to hear Jasmine
22:43say that she's been spending time with this guy.
22:45To me, this emotional bond that she has with him
22:49that she doesn't have with me is like a slap in my face.
22:54Yeah, it upsets me because it just makes me feel,
22:57you know, not wanted or not needed.
23:10I feel like we should be leaving as Benny and Ari did.
23:14Well, I mean, you like, you really
23:16broke my heart yesterday.
23:17I mean, we've been together for like four years.
23:19And I love you.
23:21And I never expected this from you.
23:23OK, you know, I never thought, like,
23:25I was going to propose this in my marriage, OK?
23:29It has turned around this way, but you
23:31have to understand that I do love you,
23:34that I have no intention whatsoever to hurt you.
23:37And that's the reason why I opened
23:39my heart to you yesterday.
23:41And I wanted to be honest.
23:42You broke my freaking heart.
23:47I believe Jasmine could be forcing this on me
23:51because she knows how much I love her
23:54and that it would be hard for me to walk away.
23:57But I have a lot more questions for Jasmine
24:00before I consider open marriage.
24:04I want to know more about this guy.
24:06OK, do you want to?
24:07Tell me, you know, who he is, where he's from,
24:12you know, how did you meet him?
24:14Give me more information about who this person is.
24:15OK, his name is Matt.
24:17Right.
24:18He is my same age, same age.
24:19Does he work out at the gym?
24:20Yes, he work out.
24:21That's where we met.
24:23Have you been to his house?
24:24No, I haven't.
24:25You haven't been to his house?
24:26No, I haven't.
24:27So where do you guys go, like, after the gym?
24:29Where have you been going with him?
24:31To the cafe that is in front of the gym.
24:34It's literally across the street.
24:37Sorry, are you attracted to this guy?
24:39He's not ugly.
24:41He's good looking.
24:45Well, I'm not going to lie, because you're going to see him
24:47if you let me eventually show you a picture of him.
24:50He's good looking.
24:51Am I attracted to him?
24:53But I see him as a friend.
24:54I'm not in love.
24:56I love you, baby.
24:58Jesus, I hope you're not in love.
24:59No, I'm not in love.
25:00I've trusted you.
25:01I want us to be together.
25:02I don't want to get divorced.
25:03I want us to grow older together.
25:05I want us to make things work.
25:07Baby, please.
25:08I haven't cheated on you, and it hurts me
25:10that you're accusing me.
25:11All I did was to be honest to you.
25:14And it hurts me that you think that way, you know,
25:16because I swear to God, I haven't lied.
25:18Like, I promise.
25:19Like, this is, he's a friend.
25:27And how would you feel if I was with a gorgeous woman
25:31doing this step?
25:32This is exactly what we, if you agree on the open marriage,
25:36we both are going to negotiate how
25:39this is going to work for us.
25:41This open marriage is not just for me.
25:43It is us.
25:45Us, you know.
25:46It is us.
25:47We are the bond.
25:48We are the nucleus.
25:49And I hate to talk of people about that,
25:52but they are an accessory.
25:53They come and go.
25:54It's us.
25:55It's always going to be us.
25:56You don't think you're going to build a bond with someone
25:58you're having sex with all the time
26:00and going to the little coffee shop and all that stuff
26:04and everywhere else that you guys go?
26:09Do I have a bond with him?
26:11Absolutely.
26:12He's my friend, you know?
26:15I like the guy.
26:16He's cool.
26:18He's a good person.
26:20Am I in love with him?
26:21No.
26:24I don't think it's fair for Jasmine
26:26to give me an ultimatum of either,
26:29let's have an open marriage or have sex with me,
26:33because she is avoiding fixing issues that we
26:37have in our relationship.
26:40But at the same time, I don't want our marriage to end.
26:43And I don't know what I'm going to do.
26:53I honestly, I need to think about all this stuff.
26:58I need to think about it, and I just need to think about it.
27:07Josh and Natalie, something's going on here.
27:09It's been three years, and I have never,
27:13ever seen where he lives.
27:16Although we're taking steps forward,
27:18I'm still, in the back of my mind,
27:20thinking about how bad I was treated
27:22for the majority of being here.
27:24Yeah, well, we've only been getting along for two hours.
27:28I can't tell you.
27:51Hi, guys.
27:52How are you?
27:53Come have a seat.
27:54Come on in.
27:56Pick a table, pick a table.
27:58Hi.
27:59How are you?
28:00Hello.
28:01Hello.
28:02Hi.
28:03What's going on?
28:10Welcome everyone.
28:11Thanks for being here.
28:12So, as you guys probably have noticed, Ari and Binny are not here with us today.
28:16This is our first session without them and, you know, this is kind of real, right?
28:20It shows you what can really happen when people aren't on the same page, aren't able or willing
28:26to get there.
28:28You know, with all of that said, we have a few more days left to the recommitment ceremony.
28:34We're getting close to the end here.
28:36I've also been thinking and hearing that we're having some complications.
28:40There's been a few issues related to several different topics.
28:43So we thought, what a great way to spend the evening talking about trust.
28:50Hearing about trust therapy, I don't know if that means we're doing like a trust fall
28:53or what.
28:54I don't trust Sophie to catch me.
28:57I will catch you.
28:58You try, but you're weak.
29:00I am strong and I would catch you because it's like adrenaline kicking because I'm going
29:04to save you.
29:05Oh, it's like a mother lifting the car off of her child.
29:07You would just somehow be like, I need to save him.
29:10Yes.
29:11She would let me fall.
29:12She'd be like, oh my God, he's so heavy, get off of me.
29:16We're going to get into a trust building icebreaker.
29:19Heidi and I are going to grab some notebooks, pens, and we're going to talk about writing
29:24down things that you trust about your partner.
29:27Now they could be small or big.
29:30The point of this is just to really see that we do have trust in our partner.
29:34We may not have trust in the big, huge things at this moment, but we have trust, which is
29:38a foundation, right?
29:44It can be big or it can be small.
29:51Okay, Rob and Sophie, Sophie, let's start with you.
30:05I put, I trust my partner will look after our son.
30:10After our son?
30:11Our dog.
30:12Oh.
30:13I was like, did I not know?
30:14I was like, I didn't know that.
30:15I love that.
30:16That's a good one.
30:17We have a dog and he became our son.
30:23The dog one is a waste of a answer because it's my dog.
30:29My dog.
30:30It's our son.
30:31He'll always take care of our, of my dog.
30:33What are you talking about?
30:34I was taking care of him for eight years before you came along.
30:38Our son.
30:40We share a son.
30:43Brandon, what did you write down?
30:45I trust that Julia will do what it takes to see our family prosper.
30:51You trust that she wants the best for your family?
30:53Is best for our family.
30:54That's a big one.
30:55She's always going to do that.
30:56That's a big one.
30:57I see it every day.
30:58I love that.
30:59What did you write down, Julia?
31:00I don't know.
31:01It's probably not so big, but I really trust him driving car because I can relax and I
31:08can go to sleep and I can, I can do work.
31:10That's actually huge.
31:11Yes.
31:12Safety.
31:13Safety, yes.
31:14Yeah, I feel safe with him.
31:15Absolutely.
31:16But he doesn't feel safe with me when I drive.
31:17Florian, what did you put?
31:22Everything to be honest.
31:23I don't have one.
31:24You wrote everything on there?
31:25Yeah.
31:26I trust her with everything.
31:27Listen, not many people can say it.
31:29You're saying, I trust her with all my heart, but if you could give us just one specific,
31:34give us one detail.
31:35I don't know.
31:36It's not come to my mind right now, you know?
31:39One thing?
31:40You can think of one thing?
31:41It's everything.
31:42Like, we suggest you something, I trust her, you know?
31:46I'm going to take that and go with it because I think that puts Stacey in a place.
31:49I'm serious.
31:50I'm not joking.
31:51I'm serious.
31:52Like, I trust her with everything.
31:53I love that.
31:54Stacey, what did you put?
31:56I trust Florian because he's a protector at heart, and I really feel like he would
32:05always protect me and my family.
32:08I love that.
32:09Gino, what did you put?
32:12I trust that Jasmine loves me.
32:19I also can trust that Jasmine will brighten a room when she walks into it.
32:23Oh, I love that.
32:25I like that.
32:27Those are big ones, Gino.
32:30Yeah.
32:31Natalie?
32:32Well, I trust that Josh is genius in some sort of way, some sort of way.
32:42Okay.
32:43And I admire him for his hard work, he's a self-made man, which is like, for me, a big
32:49thing.
32:50I'm hearing you say, I trust his decisions.
32:52I do.
32:53I know that Natalie was nuts, but really, girl, believing that Josh is a genius, Josh
33:03is not a genius.
33:04He's not.
33:05He's a dumbass.
33:06If Josh is a genius, then I'm Albert Einstein, Marie Curie, you know, I'm on top of the world,
33:18Nobel Prize Jasmine.
33:22So I want to talk a little bit about bandages.
33:26What are bandages?
33:27They cover up wounds, they help us heal, and that's what this is about.
33:32It's a way to establish trust within your relationship and to understand each other
33:37more clearly.
33:38So I would like all you couples to discuss amongst yourselves and write down what that
33:45looks like, picking one of your big issues.
33:47If your issue is trust, what's a bandage that we can do to work on trust?
33:52Don't shy away from this.
33:53Let's dive right in.
33:54Why are you looking at what everybody else is writing?
34:02Focus, focus.
34:03We're trying to solve all of our problems, but I need an entire box of bandages.
34:09Because it's too many issues just for one, and I feel all our issues just getting bigger
34:14and bigger.
34:16I'm in a hurt place right now.
34:19I need a bandage because my heart is bleeding.
34:27So does everybody have their issue and their bandage figured out for this exercise?
34:33We do.
34:34You do.
34:35Stacy and Florian, what did you guys put down?
34:40What was your big issue?
34:41Yeah, what'd you put?
34:42Do you want to start?
34:43Yeah.
34:45Like, listen.
34:46Listening.
34:47Or something like, no one likes to stop.
34:48I keep talking.
34:49I need to finish the full talk.
34:53We don't listen because I think a lot of it has to stem from our resentment, our anger
34:59towards each other.
35:00He talks with aggression.
35:02So what is the bandage here?
35:06I feel like it needs to start with baby steps like tone, simple things like, let's have
35:12eye contact.
35:13I think we need to go back to how we were when we first met.
35:19I'm working on the trust with him.
35:22You know, he's cheated in the past, and now I have new information, and I just feel like
35:26the band-aid just got ripped off me again.
35:28So it's not easy.
35:31Yeah, well, and I'm hearing you came up with several bandages, right?
35:34Yeah.
35:35With the listening, with the watching the tone, with the eye contact.
35:38So that was amazing.
35:39Yeah.
35:41If we both implement that, I feel like we'll get a lot further.
35:44It's a good start.
35:45Yeah.
35:46Definitely a good start.
35:47I like that.
35:48Okay.
35:49So Josh and Natalie, how about you guys?
35:51What'd you write down?
35:54Don't disrespect each other.
35:56Okay.
35:58So what's the bandage to that?
36:02Coming up with like a stopping point, like a word where, you know, both of us kind of
36:08take a moment and for ourselves, and like gather our thoughts, like where are we going
36:13with this?
36:14Am I hurting her?
36:16Is she hurting me?
36:17So.
36:18What's the word?
36:21That's infinity.
36:22Infinity.
36:23I know that she likes the word infinity.
36:29So if she likes it, she's more inclined to use it.
36:33So I come up with the word infinity.
36:35I believe that Josh and I, we share more than physical connection.
36:41We have spiritual connection.
36:44Infinity it's a sign of death and reborn.
36:48It's a rebirth actually, it's naked in itself.
36:52It's a very ancient sign and wizards use the sign in their magic books.
36:59We need a safe word because things can get very intense to a point that like we won't
37:06be able to recover from.
37:08That's why we need a safe word.
37:13Is that what you both wrote down?
37:15Yes.
37:16Oh, what's that face?
37:20What did you write down?
37:22I am totally into our statement right now.
37:26We never disrespect each other.
37:33What's going through your mind?
37:34Something's going on here.
37:35For me to build the trust and respect to him would be just to see how he lives.
37:43It's been three years and I have never ever seen where he lives.
37:50So for me it's disrespect.
37:52It's keeping us from just saying, Natalie, come on over and see my place.
37:57Yeah, well, we've only been getting along for two hours.
38:08Gino, Jasmine, where are you guys with things?
38:11Most recently, she's spending nights out and I don't know where she's at.
38:16Gino, if she was to share location services, would it be more likely that you would be
38:21in this open relationship if she was to give you that?
38:24Uh, yes or no.
38:44What's keeping us from just saying, Natalie, come on over and see my place.
38:49Yeah, well, we've only been getting along for two hours.
38:52Before that, like, it was tough.
38:54Mm-hmm.
38:56I made a commitment to Natalie if we make it through this, you know, retreat,
39:03that I would take her to my house and I stand by that.
39:06But although we're taking steps forward, you know, I'm still in the back of my mind
39:11thinking about, you know, how bad I was treated for the majority of being here.
39:15You know, I still have that worry that, you know, tomorrow could be a bad day
39:19and all of this progress could be lost.
39:23They're saying, I need a little more time.
39:25I need to kind of trust in the process.
39:27Maybe four hours.
39:29Yeah.
39:32I wonder, Josh, and I don't want to speak for you, but I'm wondering,
39:37if she's more respectful and you guys feel like you're respecting each other better,
39:41that that would open the door to access.
39:44Absolutely.
39:45Okay.
39:46Yeah.
39:47So one leads into the other.
39:48For sure.
39:49Okay.
39:50So we can revisit this one.
39:52Brandon and Julia, how about you guys?
39:54What did you come up with as your big issue,
39:56and what's the bandage for you to help, you know, soothe that wound?
40:04I feel lied to.
40:06And I feel like that's where we're at a loss because I feel like I need to see something,
40:11but I don't know.
40:14Something that shows me that she's going to do something to make me feel better.
40:21I want Julia to get a second opinion on her fertility issue.
40:28I've been blindsided by all the secrets and truths that are coming forward,
40:35and it's been way too much.
40:39And since I've got here, I've said, I want a family.
40:43And this is the step that we need to take in order to start that family.
40:47So that's what I want for my band-aid.
41:13You're tearing up.
41:14What's going through your brain?
41:16What are you feeling?
41:18That's the bandage I needed.
41:21Just something I really dearly want, you know?
41:24So yeah, it's...
41:26Is this a good step?
41:27That's a fantastic step.
41:29Can you look at her and share that?
41:32What do you say to her?
41:33She's going to make me cry.
41:34I don't care. Look at her.
41:39Oh, you're so cute, guys.
41:41You guys, this is a major moment.
41:43This is a huge breakthrough for you guys.
41:45So happy for you.
41:47Yay!
41:49Wow.
41:53I was extremely close to leaving the resort.
41:56I thought I was leaving the resort.
41:57So the fact that Julia could agree and get the second opinion
42:02and give me something that I've been fighting for,
42:04that I really, really wanted,
42:05it just absolutely meant the world to me
42:08and shows me that Julia is willing to do what it takes,
42:11you know, maybe to make this relationship work.
42:14I'm going to the middle
42:15for trying to do everything within my power
42:18to save this relationship.
42:19We both have to know we are working hard
42:22and trying to save that marriage.
42:25You guys, this is huge.
42:27Good job.
42:28I hope you will be with me this time
42:30because I'm trying to do this two years and I can't.
42:35All the way.
42:36Yeah.
42:37This is exactly what the bandage tools are for.
42:42This is how you mend things that feel broken or are chaotic.
42:47Whatever the case may be,
42:49it's giving in to the vulnerability of the situation
42:53and that's what you just did.
42:54I'm so proud of you guys.
42:58Sophie and Rob, what was your issue and what's your bandage?
43:03I think our biggest issue
43:05that has been our biggest issue
43:07and has stayed our biggest issue
43:09is communication,
43:11talking to each other in a healthy way
43:13and addressing things in a healthy way.
43:16So the bandage is time and dated regular sit-down talks
43:23basically to create a calm situation of communication
43:26before issues grow.
43:27Allowing us to have check-ins every three days, once a week,
43:31I think that's beautiful in general.
43:32Where are we? Where's this relationship?
43:34Let's check in, right?
43:36I think that's amazing for building trust.
43:40Gino, Jasmine, where are you guys with things?
43:44Well, for me, it's like right now and recently, most recently,
43:49she's spending nights out and I don't know where she's at.
43:53And, you know, she's at the gym for many more hours than I expect.
43:59And so the band-aid would be I'd like to know Jasmine's location
44:03because I didn't agree to the open marriage yet.
44:08It's something I'm considering right now.
44:16It's so crazy that Gino's even considering this.
44:20The concept of an open marriage could work for some people.
44:24It bothers me, though, with these two
44:26because they're not those people.
44:28Jasmine is so jealous and Gino is very insecure
44:32because of Jasmine, but Gino is insecure.
44:36Gino's not going to be okay with other guys sleeping with his wife.
44:40Gino, if you're saying, I'm getting where you are,
44:43that I'm just thinking about this.
44:45If she was to share location services,
44:48would it be more likely that you would be in this open relationship
44:51if she was to give you that?
44:53Yes or no?
44:59Hello, hello.
45:00You want a private bed?
45:02Oh!
45:05Next time on 90 Day The Last Resort.
45:08Don't do it!
45:11Hey, guys.
45:12Hey.
45:13Hi.
45:14Well, hello.
45:15Looking amazing.
45:16How are you?
45:17I'm good.
45:18How are you?
45:19I'm good.
45:20Hey.
45:21Well, hello.
45:22Looking amazing.
45:23This is our final group therapy session.
45:26If you guys could, each of you come up with one word
45:29to describe kind of where you're at at this moment
45:32in your relationship and in your marriage.
45:34I think my word is confusion.
45:36It doesn't make me feel very good
45:38that Sophie's this confused at this point.
45:40I'm only confused about what the hell does she want?
45:45Josh, where are you with things?
45:48I'm scared of commitment with her.
45:51Why?
45:52Why am I not enough for him if he loves me?
45:56Natalie.
45:57You okay?
45:58Do you have something to say?