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00:00Have you ever felt confused in a relationship, like you're walking on eggshells, never knowing
00:07what might set the other person off? Do your decisions feel like they aren't really your
00:12own, that you've been pressured or manipulated into going along? Listen, we've all been there,
00:16it's easy to get caught in the web of manipulation without even realizing it. You know, mental
00:22manipulation in relationships is more common than you think. It's a way for someone to control you,
00:27to get what they want, and often leaves you feeling small, insignificant, and doubting
00:31your own sanity. But let me tell you something, you are not crazy, it's not your fault. In this
00:37video we're going to shine a light on these manipulative tactics, these mind games that
00:42people play. We're going to break them down, understand how they work, and most importantly,
00:47how you can start to protect yourself. Knowledge is power, and once you can spot these red flags,
00:52you can start taking back control of your life and your relationships. Let's talk about
01:00the first sign of a manipulator. They never take responsibility, they're always the victim.
01:05Ever notice how everything is always someone else's fault, how they never seem to make a mistake,
01:10or if they do, there's always a justification, a reason why it wasn't really their fault? This
01:14is classic deflection. They can't handle the idea that they might be in the wrong, so they shift the
01:19blame onto you. They might twist the facts, play the victim, or even outright deny reality. You'll
01:25hear phrases like, you made me do it, or if you hadn't done that, then I wouldn't have reacted this
01:31way. They're masters at turning the tables, making you feel responsible for their actions. And let's be
01:36clear, a healthy relationship involves two people who are accountable for their own actions. You own
01:42your behavior, and they own theirs. No excuses. But a manipulator? They thrive on shifting that
01:47responsibility, making you question your own judgment and actions. Don't fall for it. Recognize
01:52this tactic for what it is, a way to control you, to keep you off balance, and to avoid taking any
01:58responsibility for their own behavior.
02:03Now let's talk about gaslighting, one of the most insidious forms of manipulation. This is some
02:09straight-up emotional manipulation, folks, and it can really mess with your head. Here's how it works.
02:14The manipulator will deny your reality. They'll tell you that you're misremembering things, that you're
02:20being too sensitive, or that you're imagining things that never happened. They'll twist your
02:25words, deny your experiences, and make you doubt your own sanity. Let me give you an example. You
02:30remember a specific event, a conversation, something important. They'll flat-out deny it ever happened.
02:35Are you sure you have a bad memory that never happened? You must be thinking of something else. Over time,
02:40this constant questioning of your reality can make you feel like you're going crazy. You start to doubt
02:46your own memories, your perceptions, even your own sanity, and that's exactly what the manipulator wants.
02:52They want you to be dependent on them, to rely on their version of reality, even if it's twisted
02:57and distorted. Remember, your feelings are valid, your experiences are real. Don't let anyone, especially
03:03not someone who claims to care about you, make you feel like you're losing your mind.
03:11You know that saying, silence is golden? Well, not in this case. Manipulators use silence as a weapon,
03:16a way to punish and control you. Think about it, you do or say something they don't like, and suddenly
03:21you're met with the silent treatment. No communication, no explanation, just icy silence.
03:28This can be incredibly frustrating and hurtful, especially if you're someone who values open
03:32communication. It leaves you wondering what you did wrong, why they're so angry,
03:36and what you need to do to fix it. And that's the point. The manipulator wants you to feel off balance,
03:42to crave their attention and approval. They want you to come crawling back, apologizing and trying to win
03:48back their favor, even if you did nothing wrong in the first place. Remember this? Mature adults
03:54communicate. They talk things through, they express their feelings, and they work together to resolve
04:00conflicts. Silence isn't a solution. It's a tactic designed to make you feel small and insignificant.
04:07Don't reward this behavior by chasing after them or trying to force a conversation.
04:11You deserve respect and open communication, not manipulative games.
04:19Chapter 4. Playing the victim.
04:21Manipulators are masters of playing the victim. They're always the ones being wronged, misunderstood
04:26or hard done by. Even when they're clearly in the wrong, they'll find a way to twist the story,
04:31to make themselves look like the innocent party. They'll exaggerate situations, downplay their own
04:37role in conflicts and conveniently forget details that don't fit their narrative. They'll use guilt trips,
04:44emotional blackmail and any other tactic they can to make you feel sorry for them and to gain your
04:50sympathy. They might say things like, you're always so hard on me or nobody understands me like you do.
04:57They might even try to make you feel guilty for things that aren't your fault, saying things like,
05:02if you really loved me, you wouldn't do this to me. Here's the thing. Compassion is a powerful
05:07emotion and manipulators know how to exploit it. They prey on your empathy, using it as a tool to control
05:14and manipulate you. Don't fall for it. It's not your job to constantly rescue someone who refuses
05:20to take responsibility for their own actions. You deserve to be in a relationship with someone who
05:26sees you as an equal, not as a therapist or a savior. Chapter 5. Criticism and Humiliation.
05:35Let's be real folks, everyone gets criticized sometimes. It's part of life, but in a healthy relationship,
05:41criticism is constructive. It's about helping each other grow and learn. With a manipulator though,
05:46criticism is a whole different ball game. It's constant, it's hurtful and it's designed to break
05:52you down. They'll chip away at your self-esteem, making you doubt your abilities, your intelligence
05:57and even your worth as a person. They'll put you down in public, make snide comments about your
06:03appearance or your accomplishments and constantly compare you unfavorably to others. They'll dismiss your
06:09achievements as insignificant, telling you you're lucky or that it wasn't that big of a deal.
06:13They might even try to isolate you from your friends and family, convincing you that they're
06:18the only ones who truly care about you. This is all about control. By keeping you feeling small and
06:23insecure, they ensure that you're dependent on them for validation and approval. Remember,
06:29you are worthy of love and respect. Don't let anyone, especially not a romantic partner,
06:35treat you with disrespect or make you feel bad about yourself.
06:42Chapter six, taking advantage of compassion. You know, it's a beautiful thing to be a compassionate
06:46person, to care about others, to want to help those in need. But manipulators see your kindness as a
06:52weakness, something to be exploited. They'll play on your empathy, sharing sob stories designed to
06:58elicit your sympathy and support. They might exaggerate their problems, invent crises or make promises they
07:04have no intention of keeping, all to get you to give them what they want. They'll guilt you into doing
07:09things for them, saying things like, if you really cared about me, you would do this for me. They might
07:15even try to make you feel responsible for their happiness, putting the weight of their emotional
07:19well-being squarely on your shoulders. Here's the reality check. You are not responsible for other
07:25people's happiness. You are not obligated to fix their problems or to constantly rescue them from
07:30themselves. It's one thing to be supportive, but it's another thing entirely to be manipulated.
07:35Recognize the difference and don't be afraid to set boundaries. You deserve to be in a relationship
07:41with someone who respects your limits and doesn't take advantage of your kindness.
07:49Let's talk about the roller coaster of emotions that comes with being in a relationship with a
07:53manipulator. One minute they're all lovey-dovey, charming and attentive, and the next they're distant,
08:00cold and withdrawn. This hot and cold behavior can leave you feeling confused, anxious, and constantly
08:07on edge. You're never quite sure which version of them you're going to get, and you start walking on
08:12eggshells, afraid to do or say anything that might set them off. And that's exactly what they want. This
08:18inconsistency keeps you off balance, always guessing, always trying to figure out how to please them.
08:24It keeps you focused on them and their needs while your own needs take a back seat. Here's the deal.
08:30Healthy relationships are built on consistency, trust, and emotional stability. You deserve to be
08:36with someone who is present, reliable, and emotionally available. Don't settle for a relationship that feels
08:42like a roller coaster ride. You deserve someone who shows up for you consistently, not just when it's
08:47convenient for them. Ever feel like you're talking to a brick wall, like no matter what you say it gets
08:56twisted and used against you? That's a classic sign of a manipulator. They're experts at twisting your
09:01words, taking your statements out of context, and using them to their advantage. They might accuse you
09:07of saying things you never said or misinterpret your words to make you look bad. They'll play the victim,
09:12claiming that you're the one who is misunderstanding them or that you're being too sensitive. This kind
09:17of manipulation can be incredibly frustrating, especially if you value clear and honest communication.
09:23It can make you feel like you can't express yourself freely for fear of having your words used against
09:28you. Remember, clear communication is essential in any healthy relationship. Don't be afraid to stand up
09:35for yourself, to clarify your words, and to call out any attempts to twist or distort what you're saying.
09:42Now let's talk about one of the most damaging forms of manipulation, conditional love and attention.
09:50This is where the manipulator makes it clear that their love, affection and attention are not freely
09:56given. They're conditional based on you meeting their needs and expectations. They might shower you with
10:02love and attention when you're doing what they want, only to withdraw and become distant when you assert
10:08your independence or express a different opinion. This creates a cycle of dependence where you're
10:13constantly striving to earn their love and approval. You might hear phrases like, if you really love me,
10:19you would... or I would be happier if you... They might even use guilt trips or threats to get you to
10:25comply with their wishes. Here's the truth. True love is unconditional. It's about accepting and cherishing
10:32someone for who they are, flaws and all. You deserve to be loved for who you are, not for what you can
10:38do for someone else. Don't settle for a relationship where you feel like you have to earn love and
10:43affection. You deserve to be with someone who loves you unconditionally for the unique and wonderful
10:49person you are. Look, mental manipulation is a dangerous game and it can have a serious impact
10:58on your mental and emotional health. It can erode your self-esteem, make you doubt your own judgment
11:03and keep you trapped in a cycle of control and abuse. But here's the good news. Once you recognize the
11:10signs of manipulation, you can start to protect yourself. Knowledge is power and understanding these
11:17tactics is the first step towards breaking free. Remember, you deserve to be in healthy, loving
11:23relationships where you feel respected, valued and safe. If you feel like you're in a relationship
11:28with someone who is manipulating you, it's important to reach out for help. Talk to a trusted friend,
11:34family member, therapist or any other professional who can provide support and guidance. You don't have to
11:39go through this alone.