Watch Married at First Sight Au - S12E27
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00:00:01Previously...
00:00:02I said I love you, like I really love you.
00:00:05Jamie made her romantic feelings for Dave very clear.
00:00:09So you haven't said it back?
00:00:12No.
00:00:15Oh my gosh.
00:00:17What?!
00:00:19Honey, I'm home.
00:00:20Feedback Week saw the return of partner swap.
00:00:24And some embraced the chance to get a fresh perspective.
00:00:28Rhi and Jeff, I see them as a kind of a model couple.
00:00:31Maybe there's something I can learn from this.
00:00:33I should have bought all my dresses.
00:00:36While Jackie enjoyed the service at Hotel Jeff.
00:00:40There you go!
00:00:41Thank you!
00:00:42This is my dream evening with a partner.
00:00:45Karina can come across as very judgy.
00:00:48Harsh truths were exposed.
00:00:50When I told Karina about Cleo, she said,
00:00:54oh, I didn't know you would go for that kind of calibre.
00:00:56When Paul revealed comments Karina made about Athena's twin sister.
00:01:02Wow.
00:01:03I feel like she is a bit of a snob sometimes.
00:01:05And I'll be honest with you, this is giving me the ick.
00:01:10Tonight...
00:01:11I'm gonna give you some hard truths.
00:01:13Adrian's brutal feedback.
00:01:15If I was physically and emotionally attracted to a girl,
00:01:18I would want to be all over him.
00:01:20He's just not like that with you.
00:01:24Jamie asks Dave the hard questions.
00:01:27Are we having a lack of sex because you're not in the love stage?
00:01:30I feel like...
00:01:31Yes or no?
00:01:36I missed you.
00:01:37And our couples are reunited after spending three days apart.
00:01:42Being away from Ree, it made me realise how much I really want this to work.
00:01:46You're so cute.
00:01:48However, not everyone will receive a warm welcome.
00:01:52She can come across as very judgy.
00:01:56You said to me that you were surprised that I would go for that kind of calibre.
00:02:00Wow.
00:02:01Paul faces up to what he confessed behind Karina's back.
00:02:06I didn't see any of that coming from Paul.
00:02:09Bit of a slap in the face.
00:02:21It's fast approaching the end of Australia's biggest social experiment.
00:02:26And so the experts have decided to reintroduce an important part of Feedback Week.
00:02:33The partner swap.
00:02:35And it's the second morning where participants are waking up with their new bed mates.
00:02:42The creaking sounded like...
00:02:48Adrian and I, like, just we really didn't sleep.
00:02:51Like, I swear.
00:02:52Honestly, this place is haunted.
00:02:57This wall was creaking.
00:02:59Like, hardwood floor like an old lady.
00:03:01At, like, 3am.
00:03:04That's, like, witching hour.
00:03:06Yeah, you brought the demons out here.
00:03:07Nah, nah, nah.
00:03:09I don't actually believe you.
00:03:11I don't believe you.
00:03:13And then the door's making sound.
00:03:15I'm like, Adrian, what the hell, what's going on?
00:03:17He's like, it's never happened before.
00:03:20You brought demons with you.
00:03:22Like, have you even washed this?
00:03:24I couldn't tell you the last time you washed the cigars.
00:03:26I'm like, babe, if anyone's got demons, it ain't me.
00:03:29This has probably got so many of yours and Afina's babies on here.
00:03:34I know Adrian a bit too well right now.
00:03:38I feel like now I've literally gotten a new husband.
00:03:42I mean, change-up is good.
00:03:43I mean, it's been honestly easy.
00:03:44I thought it was actually quite fun.
00:03:46I'm sure Dave's enjoying it as well.
00:03:48Hey.
00:03:54Oh.
00:03:55You're gonna be quicker than that around here boys.
00:04:05Ah.
00:04:06Waking up next day of this morning.
00:04:10How was it?
00:04:12Yeah, fine.
00:04:13Did you sleep well?
00:04:14Yeah, it's not pretty good.
00:04:17Yeah, look, we get on.
00:04:21Yeah, so it's good.
00:04:26I am having a good time.
00:04:27I'm not going to deny that.
00:04:29It's a stark contrast to my relationship with Elliot.
00:04:31I don't think there's been some uncomfortable sleeping arrangements.
00:04:39Not us.
00:04:41Not me.
00:04:42What's it like having Veronica in your apartment instead?
00:04:50Oh, it's just, yeah, it's definitely different.
00:04:54Feedback week has given the time to think.
00:04:57And prior to sort of leaving the apartment, Jamie told me she loved me.
00:05:03I did not say it back.
00:05:06Yeah, I covered his mouth.
00:05:07I said, I'm going to say something and I don't want you to say anything.
00:05:10And I said, I love you like I really love you.
00:05:13Now, good night.
00:05:14And I told him to go to bed.
00:05:17OK, so you haven't said it back?
00:05:20No.
00:05:22Jamie saying that she loves me six weeks in sort of put the pressure on me.
00:05:25But I don't move that quick.
00:05:27Yeah, I sort of had to take some time to think about that.
00:05:31So, yeah.
00:05:36How do you reckon Elliot's going over there with Ru?
00:05:39I think they're probably doing all right.
00:05:41He's on his best behaviour.
00:05:42On his best behaviour.
00:05:44It'll probably be a bit hot.
00:05:47You slept all right in there?
00:05:48Yeah, I slept good.
00:05:49Did you sleep right on the couch?
00:05:50Yeah.
00:05:51Did you miss Geoff last night?
00:05:52Yeah.
00:05:53How do you think he's handling it?
00:05:54Um, I'm sure, yeah, it'd be a bit of a shock to the system.
00:05:58We're going to do some jump jacks.
00:06:00No, what's a jump jack?
00:06:01Oh, star jumps.
00:06:03Across town, Jackie is overjoyed to finally be putting Geoff through his paces.
00:06:10Stretch!
00:06:11Stretch?
00:06:12I can touch the ground.
00:06:13Jesus.
00:06:15Being around Geoff is just so fantastic.
00:06:18Oh, you're not that flexible, are you?
00:06:19No, not really.
00:06:20Shit.
00:06:20Geoff is treating me how I'd love to be treated as a woman.
00:06:26He's cooked, he's cleaned, and he's already paid for a meal.
00:06:28Like, literally every meal he wants to make sure I'm taken care of.
00:06:31He's steamed my dress for me.
00:06:33It's what I wished for going into this experiment.
00:06:35It's what I would have hoped for.
00:06:37I would have expected my husband to show up for me in this way.
00:06:40Don't touch my toes.
00:06:42That's actually impressive for a guy.
00:06:44Yeah, I've definitely been coaching Ryan or giving him hints on how I'd like to be treated,
00:06:48and it's just difficult to get through to him.
00:06:52But Geoff's very on point.
00:06:55Well done.
00:06:57Bang.
00:06:58He's not a gym boy.
00:07:00He's like a fit boy.
00:07:01Yeah, which is what I like.
00:07:02And while Jackie seems quite content with her partner swap, back at the apartments, it's
00:07:13a different mood for Beth and Ryan.
00:07:15I think we actually had a good sleep last night.
00:07:25Mm-hmm.
00:07:26Being around Ryan has just made me miss TJ so much.
00:07:30I miss his singing.
00:07:32I miss his personality.
00:07:33He doesn't snore.
00:07:34But the most important thing, he's not Ryan.
00:07:40You buy Jackie a lot of flowers, it looks like.
00:07:42Yeah, like, it's half and half.
00:07:44Oh, is she buying flowers?
00:07:47No, she buys herself first.
00:07:51I'm going to be really honest.
00:07:54I still don't understand their relationship.
00:07:59While Ryan's been keeping a tight lid on the details of his relationship, across the
00:08:04hall, Paul has held nothing back when it comes to his.
00:08:09I definitely feel like you had stuff on your chest that you needed to get off.
00:08:12He was very open with Athena about his wife during yesterday's honesty letter task, when
00:08:17he revealed a comment Karina made to him in confidence.
00:08:20She is a bit of a snob sometimes.
00:08:23When I told Karina about Cleo, she said, oh, I didn't know you would go for that kind of
00:08:29caliber.
00:08:31Wow.
00:08:32You know?
00:08:33I didn't like the comments that were made in regards to my twin sister from Karina.
00:08:40Will it change my opinion of her?
00:08:42Yes.
00:08:43There's definitely a few things that she said I would like her to clarify.
00:08:46So I guess it's probably a right time to, you know, to bring things up and, you know, put
00:08:53things on the table, I guess.
00:08:55Paul's obviously got some things that are eating up in him, but now maybe he feels more
00:09:01like confident in voicing his concerns because he's had a little bit of reassurance that you're
00:09:06valid to feel that way.
00:09:08And hard conversations are how relationships grow.
00:09:10Yeah.
00:09:10Just ask Adrian and I.
00:09:13Yeah.
00:09:14Feedback Week will allow our couples to gain an outside perspective on their relationships
00:09:19so they can make informed decisions when deciding their future beyond the experiment.
00:09:25While this is confronting, it could also be the very thing that gives our couples some
00:09:30much-needed clarity over their relationships.
00:09:33And the next Feedback Week task that Jamie and Adrian will be tackling is the honesty letter
00:09:39task, which is an opportunity for them to write their spouse a letter detailing any concerns
00:09:45about the relationship.
00:09:47They'll then read it to their swapped partners for advice on how to tackle the situation.
00:09:53I'm Don.
00:09:54Are you Don?
00:09:55I'm Don.
00:09:56I'm Don.
00:09:56I'm Don.
00:09:56I'm Don.
00:09:56I'm Don.
00:10:00I was very apprehensive touching on this topic because it's something I know my husband
00:10:11doesn't really like to talk about, but I'm also like, this is the opportunity to talk
00:10:17about something that does kind of bite on me sometimes, and it's good to have an outsider
00:10:21perspective.
00:10:22Dear Dave, in every relationship, even the good ones, you'll always find areas to work
00:10:28on and topics you shy away from.
00:10:32When I reflect on our relationship, we are lucky to have so much good, but I'd like to
00:10:36expand on the goodness via sex.
00:10:40Sex, as you know, to me, is very important, but I have always been the one likely to initiate
00:10:45intimacy.
00:10:47When it's happening, we both really enjoy it, and that's why it makes me a little bit more
00:10:50confused as to why you don't want more of it.
00:10:52I'm going to give you some hard truths.
00:11:00Yeah, go on.
00:11:02So, me being a man, my mind goes to probably a few things.
00:11:09Him doesn't want you getting too close to him, so it keeps his distance.
00:11:12And the hardest one, he's not attracted.
00:11:14God, it's already happening.
00:11:18Yeah.
00:11:19I just lay out the hard facts.
00:11:22If I was physically and emotionally attracted to a girl, I would want to be all over him.
00:11:27Unless his sex drive is not as high, but I find it hard to believe.
00:11:32If you're physically attracted to someone and you get along just as well as they are, it
00:11:36doesn't make sense to me why they're not having sex.
00:11:38My gut feeling is telling me Dave is not as attracted to Jamie as he makes it out to
00:11:43be.
00:11:44You've got to ask yourself, do you want that in a relationship?
00:11:46Like, is that actually okay?
00:11:48Do you want to settle?
00:11:49These are things that you need to ask yourself.
00:11:50Sometimes it's good to get a perspective from someone that's open to telling you the hard
00:11:55truths, something that you might not want to hear.
00:11:57If he doesn't initiate it ever, it's going to make you start to feel a type of way.
00:12:03Adrian doesn't hold back, and I kind of respect that about him.
00:12:06But I honestly, I never considered the potential of, like, Dave maybe not being as attracted.
00:12:16Because I think to myself, I've been as...
00:12:17Damn it, it's my skin that's been breaking out.
00:12:20He's realised I'm actually a lot more paler than our wedding day.
00:12:23He wants that tan again.
00:12:25He's like, get that tan off.
00:12:27I mean, God, I have let myself go in this marriage.
00:12:30I get where he's coming from, but, like, that's essentially a conspiracy theory right
00:12:36now.
00:12:36So until Dave kind of confirms that or insinuates that is the case, I'm just not seeing him
00:12:42not being attracted to me.
00:12:44Um, I don't know.
00:12:47It's like he's not that sexual of a person.
00:12:50I can argue the point, he's just not like that with you.
00:12:57Now, I'm just a guy, I'm just going to reword this right now.
00:13:02Imagine he got this 10 out of 10 supermodel in his mind.
00:13:06You know, this beautiful actress or whatever.
00:13:10Would he be having a sex the same amount?
00:13:12It's feedback week.
00:13:30And while Jamie has received some brutal honesty from Adrian, across town, Veronica is making
00:13:37the most of her partner swap with Dave by taking him out for some quality time.
00:13:43Cheers.
00:13:44Cheers.
00:13:45To leaving the apartment.
00:13:49It is nice to get out of those apartments.
00:13:53Yeah, it's been good having, like, a little break from it all.
00:13:57It's nice to chat about it to someone who gets it, because it can get very, like, intense
00:14:01and you can start to overthink and, you know, it's not easy.
00:14:05With Elliot, you know, maybe I'm not chill enough for him.
00:14:10Um, I mean, I've only got a little, obviously a little period of time with you, but maybe
00:14:17after four weeks I'd be sick of you too.
00:14:19But, I mean...
00:14:20I don't think that's true at all.
00:14:24I think you're pretty easygoing.
00:14:27Thanks.
00:14:29I think I do.
00:14:30I think I'm pretty chill.
00:14:33You're very giggly.
00:14:35I am.
00:14:36I'm a giggly person.
00:14:38Shocking.
00:14:39Haven't seen that side of me for a while.
00:14:41We're back.
00:14:44The last few days.
00:14:45It's been really, really great.
00:14:46And, yeah, I'm having a great time.
00:14:49Dave's an attractive person.
00:14:51Dave and I have a very similar sense of humour.
00:14:54He's ticking a lot of boxes, but, you know, like, I'm obviously not matched with him, but in
00:15:01terms of, like, thinking about what I really want and, you know, if I had to model someone
00:15:07that I wanted on another person, it probably would be Dave.
00:15:09I think that we have, like, similar personalities, though.
00:15:15Yeah.
00:15:16Like, we get each other's banter.
00:15:18The jokes are there.
00:15:20It's very important.
00:15:20Oh, we definitely get along well, I think, because we sort of see eye to eye on a lot
00:15:24of things and can have a laugh.
00:15:26No, I don't think anyone else is, like, having this much fun.
00:15:30Sorry, guys.
00:15:32Sorry, not sorry.
00:15:36Elliot seemed to struggle to get along with Veronica, so, you know, it was sort of a bit
00:15:40wary of it at the start, but, yeah, she's actually pretty cool.
00:15:44I think Veronica and I are very similar.
00:15:47She's a good person.
00:15:48We have good banter.
00:15:51Getting your tyres pumped up is good.
00:15:54You're easy to get along with.
00:16:04Oh, boy.
00:16:06Yeah, I've had a great time with Veronica.
00:16:08I think you needed someone that can sort of go, this person doesn't hear me and, you know,
00:16:12you're not going crazy in that apartment with Elliot.
00:16:16Like, it's very easy spending time with Dave.
00:16:19He's attentive.
00:16:21He looks at me when I come into the room.
00:16:23And then we laugh.
00:16:25Now, I'm happy that I have the lols back.
00:16:30For a short time.
00:16:32Then we go back to Mr. Serious.
00:16:33Back at the apartments, Jamie and Adrian are ready to be challenged by Feedback Week once
00:16:45again with the hard-hitting questions task.
00:16:49You'll each be required to write tough questions, seeking your new parents' opinions about your
00:16:54relationship.
00:16:55These questions must be well-considered and hard-hitting.
00:16:59Be brutally honest and don't waste this opportunity to face the hard truths head-on.
00:17:04The hard-hitting questions task will allow our participants to learn how others view their
00:17:10relationship, the good and the bad.
00:17:14Adrian's harsh words from earlier today have already highlighted one issue in Jamie's relationship
00:17:20with Dave, so she's using this task as an opportunity to delve deeper.
00:17:26Adrian doesn't hold back.
00:17:29He calls out, he pretty much is telling me I'm too ugly to root.
00:17:35This is not a nice, not a nice thought to ponder.
00:17:40But like at the same time, I appreciate his being honest.
00:17:43And now I've got all these questions about Dave and I, but oh my God, do I want to know?
00:17:51Probably not.
00:17:56Oh my God.
00:17:59I'm like genuinely curious as to what you're going to say.
00:18:03Never find out.
00:18:05Not sure you'd like to hear it, but.
00:18:07Say it, give it to me straight.
00:18:08All right, do you honestly think Dave and I will last beyond this experiment?
00:18:18No.
00:18:21I do generally think that you and Dave have a real connection, 100%.
00:18:26But, um, honestly, outside in the real world, what I've heard is just completely different.
00:18:38The thing is, for me, like, I see Dave, and I think Dave holds back a little bit.
00:18:43Like, I think, like, that's where I'm getting conflicted, like, uh.
00:18:48Like, would he really tell you at times how he really feels?
00:18:51I think we're pretty straight with each other.
00:18:53Like, he genuinely agrees with, like, we share the same viewpoints.
00:18:58Maybe there are things he doesn't want to rock the boat with, potentially, I don't know.
00:19:03But, like, I personally don't think he just tells me what I want to hear.
00:19:07If it's 100% real, you guys will last.
00:19:11But if he was holding back, like, making it perfect in here, you were going to say real quick.
00:19:18I'm hoping for the best, because right now, like, the feelings are real.
00:19:23But is it, like, one of those things where people look at us and they can see I'm more into him?
00:19:27Well, I mean, you drop, you love him, Tim.
00:19:31And I was like, well, why didn't Dave say it?
00:19:36I obviously have stronger feelings for Dave.
00:19:39If I've said I loved him and he hasn't.
00:19:42But I don't know what Dave's pace is.
00:19:45Like, I don't know.
00:19:46And after talking with Adrian, I'm so in my head and I'm questioning, like, everything.
00:19:56Do you think Dave will tell me that he loves me?
00:19:58No, he won't tell you.
00:20:09I believe he cares for you.
00:20:10I just don't think you're saying this experiment.
00:20:13Because for me, I'm like, if you say that, you're only, like, you're on the world sees that.
00:20:18And is he willing to do that in front of the world?
00:20:19Yeah, I thought that was the task, to be brutally honest.
00:20:30Brutally honest?
00:20:31You, uh...
00:20:33But anyways, that's that.
00:20:37Yeah, I get that.
00:20:41Still to come...
00:20:42We've had another task.
00:20:44I thought we were done.
00:20:46The final task.
00:20:47Take the letter you wrote and read it to your partner.
00:20:51You seem nervous.
00:20:52Was it that bad?
00:20:55With huge ramifications.
00:20:58Oh, my God.
00:21:00What?
00:21:01Paul's letter.
00:21:03Did you read that part to Afina?
00:21:08And Jamie demands answers.
00:21:12Are we having a lack of sex because you're not in the love stage?
00:21:15I feel like...
00:21:17Yes or no?
00:21:23It's the third and final day of Feedback Week, which also marks the end of the partner swap phase.
00:21:30And after three days apart, our brides and grooms are itching to return to their spouses.
00:21:36Right, well, I'm going to go and get packing.
00:21:38All right, ASAP, get on it.
00:21:39I'm timing you.
00:21:40Yeah, I'm going to run.
00:21:42Thank God.
00:21:43I couldn't get Beth to pack quick enough.
00:21:47Oh, my God.
00:21:48Get me out of here.
00:21:50What have I learned from Ryan?
00:21:51Um...
00:21:52While Beth's ending her stay at Ryan's with a lack of progress, Elliot's time with Rhi has
00:22:05made a huge difference.
00:22:07I feel like I have some, like, actionable strategies.
00:22:11Yeah.
00:22:11I feel a lot more optimistic.
00:22:16I'm glad.
00:22:18I really do hope that you and V can find that middle ground.
00:22:23Despite being the most reluctant to participate, even Karina has come to appreciate her time
00:22:29with TJ.
00:22:30Have you enjoyed your time here?
00:22:32I have.
00:22:33I have.
00:22:33Yeah.
00:22:33I feel like I've just received, like, more reassurance from you.
00:22:37Yeah.
00:22:38Um, you know, really easy to talk to and you give really good advice.
00:22:44TJ's made my time here very comfortable and he's so funny and it's nothing to do with him
00:22:50at all.
00:22:52But I love routine, so I'm ready to get back to my routine with my husband.
00:22:57Bye!
00:22:58Bye!
00:22:58Bye!
00:23:00Shoes!
00:23:01But it's safe to say that not all of the wives are in a hurry to return home.
00:23:07Oh, my dress.
00:23:09Thank you for steaming this.
00:23:10Oh, good.
00:23:11Jackie is hoping for a late checkout from her stay at Hotel Jeff.
00:23:15Hotel Jeff has really been amazing, by the way.
00:23:18What's my hotel rating?
00:23:19Ah, definitely five stars.
00:23:21Jeff is just so hospitable.
00:23:25You excited to go home?
00:23:26Ah, yeah, we're nice.
00:23:28Yeah?
00:23:28Yeah.
00:23:28Looking forward to seeing Ryan?
00:23:29Yeah.
00:23:30You look nervous.
00:23:32I know deep down I have to have some really tough conversations with Ryan, but I really
00:23:38want to lay out all my concerns on the table in order to figure out whether we are compatible
00:23:42in the real world.
00:23:43And over in Dave's apartment, Veronica is also stalling her departure.
00:23:57You behave.
00:23:58Don't point that thing at me.
00:23:59Spending these three days with Dave has made me realise that actually chatting with someone
00:24:11and being able to have a joke and a laugh should come easy.
00:24:14I've just put things in random through my mouthwash.
00:24:19I'm going to need that.
00:24:21Yeah, Varnie's been great.
00:24:22It's been fun.
00:24:25It's been really easy going and just conversations flow and we've had a ball.
00:24:30Um, I'm just going to do a shweep.
00:24:36This is the slowest packing ever.
00:24:38As each of the wives begin reuniting with their husbands.
00:24:50Wifey!
00:24:51You look so nice.
00:24:53I missed you.
00:24:57Missed you too.
00:24:57The second phase of feedback week begins.
00:25:01Come in.
00:25:02What's going on?
00:25:03Hello.
00:25:04Hi, darling.
00:25:04With the chance for our couples to debrief each other on their time apart.
00:25:09How was it?
00:25:10She comes in day one.
00:25:12She brings a dress in.
00:25:13She goes, I was wondering if you could steam this for me.
00:25:17Did you?
00:25:18And I steamed it.
00:25:20How was your time, Paul?
00:25:23It was a lot of fun.
00:25:24Was it?
00:25:27Sounds like you had a good time.
00:25:28Yeah, I didn't want to come back.
00:25:30You didn't want you to come back?
00:25:31No.
00:25:32Well, I can go back if you like.
00:25:34You want coffee?
00:25:35Yeah, I haven't had one.
00:25:37Thanks.
00:25:39Where's the...
00:25:40Where's our...
00:25:40Why is that over here?
00:25:45It's...
00:25:46I think we're both happy to see each other, but it's also, like, so weird.
00:25:50Where's this...
00:25:51What is going on today?
00:25:53Are they clean in here?
00:25:55No.
00:25:56I'm like, there's obviously all these things we have to actually talk about that we haven't
00:26:01talked about yet.
00:26:03So I feel like I can't relax just yet.
00:26:06Dave, two nights and my whole kitchen is a mess.
00:26:09God, I've missed you.
00:26:10I'm back home with Paul.
00:26:33Yay!
00:26:34I am.
00:26:35I want to soak him all up.
00:26:40I'm really excited to just enjoy my time with Paul, my husband.
00:26:47Wow.
00:26:48Tell me, how was it?
00:26:49How were you feeling?
00:26:50It was good.
00:26:52Good.
00:26:52Like, TJ?
00:26:53Because I know it was so...
00:26:54Like, I just honestly, when you left, I felt so bad.
00:26:56Because, like, when I saw you crying and I felt how uncomfortable you were and how overwhelmed
00:27:00like this whole thing was for you.
00:27:02It was like, oh, God.
00:27:02Yeah.
00:27:03Was it my favourite...
00:27:04Yeah.
00:27:05...tasked by the experts?
00:27:07How was it being a definer?
00:27:09It's been...
00:27:09It's been weird not having you around.
00:27:11It was, yeah, it's strange.
00:27:13Every night going to bed and not just...
00:27:15Not feeling you, not having you there.
00:27:17I was like, this is weird.
00:27:18And, you know, like you said, you know, before you left, you know, it's like,
00:27:21this has been your little safe zone.
00:27:23It's been your little bubble.
00:27:24It's your little nest, so...
00:27:27Well, never doing that again.
00:27:29Yeah.
00:27:29Never doing that again, ever.
00:27:31I don't think it's going to happen.
00:27:32I'm not going anywhere.
00:27:33Neither are you.
00:27:36How did you go to asking that?
00:27:38Uh, Paul asked me a lot of questions in regards to whether or not I think Karina is being real
00:27:44and, like, her true self, because he said sometimes she can be quite judgmental.
00:27:48You know, she said stuff about my twin sister.
00:27:50Karina, like, judging her because she's covered in tattoos and she doesn't know her.
00:27:54Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:27:54She looked at a photo of her and said, I can't believe you went for that kind of calibre.
00:27:58What gorgeous, beautiful, doesn't live at home.
00:28:00Yeah.
00:28:01Karina.
00:28:01It shows the level of maturity someone has if they go and talk about someone else.
00:28:07That comment Karina made about Claire sort of surprised me a little bit, I'm not going
00:28:12to lie.
00:28:13Their cracks are starting to show now.
00:28:15We'll see where it goes from here, I guess.
00:28:16What do you feel like you've learned?
00:28:20Is there anything that you've taken from this whole...
00:28:23Um, I think that we have a really strong, like, relationship.
00:28:29It made me miss you so much.
00:28:31Oh.
00:28:31That, like...
00:28:32That's nice.
00:28:32Yeah, I'm grateful for you.
00:28:35Oh.
00:28:35So that I really like you more than I thought I would.
00:28:38Really?
00:28:39Oh.
00:28:40Oh.
00:28:41Oh, that's actually cute.
00:28:42I missed him a lot.
00:28:47Mm-hmm.
00:28:48It was a bit of a challenge.
00:28:51At first, I felt insecure.
00:28:53Just the concoction of knowing that Paul had a fling with Athena's sister, twin sister.
00:29:02But it's all done.
00:29:04The tasks are complete.
00:29:05And hopefully, no other tasks come our way.
00:29:09Oh.
00:29:10Oh, what the hell?
00:29:11Another one.
00:29:12Oh, my God.
00:29:13It never stops.
00:29:16Stars.
00:29:17Oh, we're done.
00:29:19Do you know what's lovely?
00:29:20What?
00:29:21Seeing your name on a letter next to mine again.
00:29:24Hi, Beth and TJ.
00:29:26We hope you're able to gain a fresh perspective on your relationship during feedback week.
00:29:31We ask you to share something you haven't said to your partner yet because you may have
00:29:34been worried about how they're going to take it.
00:29:37For this task, take the letter you wrote whilst in your new pairing and read it to your partner.
00:29:42We trust you will take this task seriously and be open and honest.
00:29:45This will be hard, but it's important you take the feedback on board.
00:29:49The experts.
00:29:50What?
00:29:51Oh, my God.
00:29:52Oh, my God.
00:29:53What?
00:29:55Paul's letter.
00:29:59Hi, Karina and Paul.
00:30:01Oh.
00:30:01In your new pairing, we ask you to be truly honest about your partner and discuss something
00:30:09that's been weighing on your mind.
00:30:12For this task, take the letter you wrote while in your new pairing and read it to your partner,
00:30:18the experts.
00:30:20The experts.
00:30:21The experts.
00:30:28How are you feeling about it?
00:30:32You seem nervous and you giggled.
00:30:35Was it that bad?
00:30:37She's a bit of a snob sometimes.
00:30:40Certainly got to be confronty.
00:30:42Do you have a worry?
00:30:43No, I mean, not really.
00:30:46You can come across as very judgy.
00:30:49Is there something I don't know?
00:30:54She made a comment about Cleo.
00:30:57She said, I didn't know you would go for that kind of caliber.
00:31:00Yeah, you'll...
00:31:03I knew that was going to happen.
00:31:13It's feedback week and with the partner swap stage now over, the couples are tasked with
00:31:20reading their honesty letters again, but this time to their spouse.
00:31:24I feel like the experts truly listened when they asked me what I needed in a partner.
00:31:28You're fun, outgoing and as goofy and as crazy as I am.
00:31:32As soon as I met you, I instantly felt comfortable and our time during the experiment, you've
00:31:36become my safe space.
00:31:38Yeah, it feels like we've written the same things.
00:31:41During the time we've spent together getting to know each other, we've established a really
00:31:44strong friendship foundation of which I'm super grateful for.
00:31:48I wholeheartedly believe that there is no one else in this experiment I could have built
00:31:51this with.
00:31:52Sincerely, your husband.
00:31:54I love that.
00:31:57We feel like we wrote about the same thing in just our own ways.
00:32:00We did.
00:32:01I actually love that nothing surprised me in them.
00:32:03Yeah, because if you came here and you're like, you're a piece of shit, blah, blah, blah.
00:32:05I would never do that.
00:32:08But reading their honesty letters won't be quite so easy for everyone.
00:32:15Paul's actually my friend.
00:32:16I feel kind of bad for him.
00:32:18Paul dug deep.
00:32:21No, he did.
00:32:22He dug deep, hoping Karina wouldn't read it.
00:32:24They're in a healthy place.
00:32:25He was going to address...
00:32:25Well, clearly they're not, though, if he's got to write these things.
00:32:30Oof.
00:32:31Okay.
00:32:33Huh?
00:32:34God, it's long.
00:32:37Uh, yeah, two pages.
00:32:39Oh, man.
00:32:40Oh, well, this will be interesting.
00:32:49Oh, my God.
00:32:52Oh, well.
00:32:56This whole feedback week has probably been, like, the most challenging one out of every
00:33:01single task that we've had to do so far, you know what I mean?
00:33:05Yeah, it's not easy, because we're so deep into the experiment now.
00:33:09It's all, like, I feel like it's even harder to, like, bring things up or whatever, you know what I mean?
00:33:15Conflict.
00:33:17Oh, well.
00:33:18Let's do it.
00:33:24A lot of the things that I had in my letter, obviously, were things that were heavily bothering me,
00:33:29and they are things that have been, that I've been caring for a little bit, and, you know,
00:33:35and, yeah, they've been real concerns of mine, I guess, but it is going to be certainly very confronting.
00:33:42Yeah.
00:33:45Okay.
00:33:48Before coming into this experiment, I told myself I wasn't going to make the same mistakes
00:33:52I've made in my previous relationship, which was ignoring the red flags because of the
00:33:57fear of the relationship failing.
00:34:01The reason why I'm referring to this is because I'm having a gut feeling that Karina is in her
00:34:05full self with me sometimes.
00:34:08I worry that sometimes Karina puts on a happy mask because she really cares and worries about
00:34:14how she's being perceived.
00:34:15I feel like she wants to be perceived as, like, the perfect, rude, conservative girl.
00:34:24There's been multiple times where I've noticed some contradiction between the way she portrays
00:34:29herself and some of her behaviours or actions.
00:34:33Like, the comment that she's not into tattoos, but has some, and her celebrity crush is almost
00:34:38covered from head to toe.
00:34:39I feel like she is just playing it safe with me and wants it to be smooth sailing to avoid
00:34:45drama or confrontation.
00:34:49I didn't see any of that coming from Paul, and if anyone's sweeping things under the rug,
00:34:57he clearly is because he hasn't brought any of those things up to me.
00:35:00I've got a few examples of things that have sort of, you know, made me feel a bit weird.
00:35:07So there was an example when, you know, like, I wanted to take you for lunch.
00:35:12You check out the place, and the place looked to be dated, and you seemed to be put up by it.
00:35:17And I remember thinking, like, why does it matter?
00:35:20Or even that comment that you made when I told you the reason why I knew Afina.
00:35:24I told you about Cleo, and then you said to me that you, you said to me that you were surprised
00:35:30that I would go for that kind of calibre.
00:35:34Yeah, so I feel like she's a bit of a...
00:35:39Sorry, where am I?
00:35:40Yeah, I feel like she...
00:35:41I feel like she's sometimes...
00:35:52Yes, I feel like she is, and she can come across as very judgy.
00:35:59Now, on the positive side, I've seen that beautiful side of Karina,
00:36:03the last commemorative ceremony, when she is vulnerable and sincere about how...
00:36:07Bit of a slap in the face.
00:36:12Bit, um, shock.
00:36:14Bit of shock.
00:36:16Yeah.
00:36:17I'm just like, wow, can't believe this is what he thinks of me.
00:36:22You all right?
00:36:36You sure?
00:36:36Mm-hmm.
00:36:38Promise?
00:36:38Just digesting her.
00:36:42Just don't take her personally.
00:36:43Just...
00:36:44Yeah.
00:36:45The exercise was to, you know, to express concerns, and I'm not someone who's going
00:36:51to judge someone by the way they look or where they're from, where they live.
00:36:56Yeah, that just completely goes against what I believe and who I am, so...
00:36:59Which is why I wanted to raise that concern.
00:37:03It wasn't easy, uh, but I guess it had to be done, so...
00:37:07Okay.
00:37:09Yeah.
00:37:10When do you want me to start?
00:37:13It was just that comment that you made about, um, Fina's sister, when you said, like, oh,
00:37:18I didn't think you would go for that kind of calibre.
00:37:20Yeah, there's also...
00:37:20It was like, well, what do you mean by that kind of calibre?
00:37:22No, I think I told, like, when we were married, because we got married, and...
00:37:29But that's...
00:37:30You're deflecting.
00:37:31That's not the question.
00:37:31No, I'm not deflecting.
00:37:32That's not the question.
00:37:33I'm getting there.
00:37:33I'm getting there.
00:37:34Yeah, so the whole Cleo thing, obviously, it's going to make me feel a certain way when
00:37:40my husband has been with a girl that's in the experiment and has been, had a thing with
00:37:46her sister.
00:37:47So that, obviously, that's going to put my little guard up.
00:37:50I'm going to, I'm going to be a bit defensive, because it's awkward, like, yeah, that just...
00:37:55Her sister isn't even there.
00:37:57Yeah, but...
00:37:57She's not even here, and that was two years ago.
00:37:59I know, but it's still, like, I'm sorry, but, like, it's just not...
00:38:04It's not me.
00:38:06There's, obviously, context behind the things that I said, and the things that I said to
00:38:13him, I felt I could... I said it in confidence to him.
00:38:21You're okay.
00:38:22Yeah.
00:38:23I wasn't really expecting that.
00:38:26I can see it in your eyes.
00:38:27You're pissed off.
00:38:30Are you putting on the happy mask?
00:38:32Huh?
00:38:34Are you...
00:38:34No, fine.
00:38:36No happy mask, no mask.
00:38:37Just...
00:38:37Okay.
00:38:39Being myself.
00:38:41Yeah.
00:38:46I feel like he judged me.
00:38:48He said, I judge, and I feel like he judged me.
00:38:51Yeah.
00:38:52Bye.
00:38:53I didn't mean to offend you, anything.
00:38:55It's okay.
00:38:55It's on you.
00:38:56Yeah.
00:38:57I just need to read this one more, so I know I'm going to get asked questions.
00:39:07Um, Paul.
00:39:09Yeah.
00:39:09As you read your letter, were there any parts that you left out?
00:39:15That of what?
00:39:16That you left out.
00:39:18Huh?
00:39:20There were no words of your letter that you left out?
00:39:24No.
00:39:25Not genuinely.
00:39:26What?
00:39:26Did I miss anything?
00:39:27No.
00:39:31No.
00:39:38No.
00:39:38No.
00:39:39No.
00:39:44No.
00:39:49No.
00:39:54No.
00:39:55After a long three days with Jackie during Partner Swap,
00:40:04Geoff is excited to be reunited with wife Rhi.
00:40:08It's nice to be home and back doing chores.
00:40:11Yeah, it's nice to be back, definitely.
00:40:13Yeah.
00:40:14I did miss it.
00:40:15This actually feels like home now.
00:40:17Yeah, it does, doesn't it?
00:40:18Rhi is home, Rhi is home, I'm so happy Rhi is home.
00:40:23I'm not filming, are we?
00:40:25Oh, wow.
00:40:28Perfect.
00:40:29Are you nervous about reading your letter?
00:40:32I am, yeah.
00:40:34I opened up a little bit, you know, so, yeah.
00:40:40Okay.
00:40:41Being away from Rhi, it made me realise how much effort and time
00:40:45and everything I've put into this relationship in this experiment,
00:40:49like, it's a lot.
00:40:51I'm at the age now where I do need to think about having kids
00:40:53and I want to settle down.
00:40:54I don't want to really date again if I don't have to.
00:40:57Like, hopefully this is it.
00:40:58So, if this relationship falls over,
00:41:01then it's a very scary prospect for me
00:41:03to sort of pick myself back up again.
00:41:05All right, here we go.
00:41:08Um, Rhi, I really want our relationship to work,
00:41:15but not knowing how it will translate into the real world
00:41:17after this experiment does worry me.
00:41:20Rhi, you, has never been head over heels in love with someone,
00:41:25so sometimes I wonder if I am going to be that guy for her.
00:41:28I've put so much into this relationship, especially emotionally,
00:41:32so if it fails at my age, I'm not sure I can come back from it.
00:41:37I'm at the stage of my life where I'm ready to be with someone forever.
00:41:42Hopefully I'm not alone with how I feel
00:41:44and that all the effort and emotion I've invested isn't one-sided
00:41:48and that I am truly building something meaningful.
00:41:50I can see how that can be a concern for you.
00:42:01And, yeah, like, I can't say that I've been fully, like, in love before
00:42:07and in a relationship that I haven't had a doubt about.
00:42:10But, like, yeah, I'm telling the truth when I do say that,
00:42:14like, right now I don't have any.
00:42:16I am at a point in my life, too, where I want to settle down.
00:42:20I don't want to date any more.
00:42:21I want to, you know, have kids, like, in a couple of years.
00:42:26I feel like Geoff and I have both given this experiment our all
00:42:29and, you know, I'm really proud of where we are
00:42:32and how we are feeling about each other.
00:42:34Like, we're both happy.
00:42:35We both are at that point of, like, wanting to settle down.
00:42:39What's to say it's not going to work on the outside?
00:42:42Just hearing you saying you've got no doubts now,
00:42:44that's, like, amazing for me
00:42:47because, like, I don't have any doubts at the moment either.
00:42:50And I'm actually extremely confident that...
00:42:53It'll work on you.
00:42:53..it'll work out.
00:42:54I really want this to work
00:42:56and I want to be with someone forever.
00:42:58You know, that's really scary
00:42:59and for me to voice that to Rhi was probably even scarier.
00:43:02But for her to give me great reassurance
00:43:04that she sort of views our relationship the same as me,
00:43:07we can both see a life outside of this experiment together.
00:43:11You're so cute.
00:43:11Yeah, that was, uh, it was nice.
00:43:17That's good.
00:43:17I think we're on a... I think we're on a good road.
00:43:19Yeah, me too. I do too.
00:43:23Yeah.
00:43:24Yeah, this week has made me really appreciate Rhi.
00:43:31Hearing Jackie and her relationship
00:43:32and all the issues she has, like,
00:43:34makes me really appreciate Rhi, to be honest.
00:43:38Jackie's letter was absolutely cooked.
00:43:40Did she say lots of things?
00:43:41She said heaps.
00:43:43The things she wrote in the letter
00:43:44has given me a great insight now into the relationship.
00:43:48I feel bad for Rhi.
00:43:49That letter was, like, two and a half pages of negative stuff
00:43:52about the relationship.
00:43:53Was the stuff really bad?
00:43:55There was some stuff that was bad,
00:43:56but there was some stuff that was just bizarre.
00:44:02Welcome back to your rightful place.
00:44:05Uh, you know what?
00:44:06We're going to have to probably sage this place
00:44:08to get rid of some of the negative energy.
00:44:09Oh, really?
00:44:12It does feel pretty amazing to know that, best out,
00:44:15my wife's back in, going to restore the balance,
00:44:18restore the, like, the happiness.
00:44:20Because when Jackie and I are good, we're spectacular.
00:44:24Now, you know what, like...
00:44:25Yeah.
00:44:26She didn't swear at me once.
00:44:28Really?
00:44:29Yeah, not even once, you know?
00:44:31Yeah, interesting.
00:44:33Jeff was just, like, absolutely kind and considerate,
00:44:36and he literally cooked for me.
00:44:39He cleaned the kitchen.
00:44:40He, like, steamed my dress.
00:44:42He took me out for dinner.
00:44:43He insisted that I take the bed.
00:44:45Hotel Jeff was so fantastic.
00:44:48Jeff showed up better than the way that Ryan shows up for me.
00:44:52I think he just needs to understand what I need from him
00:44:55in order to make that happen.
00:44:58I got a lot of advice from Jeff as well.
00:45:00I imagine.
00:45:01Yeah.
00:45:01I imagine you would have.
00:45:02Yeah, yeah.
00:45:03And I'd love to know what was discussed.
00:45:05Yeah.
00:45:06Let's do it.
00:45:07I'm ready.
00:45:08Dear Ryan,
00:45:11My biggest fear is marrying a man
00:45:15that ends up stubborn and stuck in his own ways and beliefs
00:45:18as the world moves on.
00:45:19I'm concerned you've built your sense of self
00:45:24on top of outdated beliefs about power and masculinity.
00:45:28Your extreme sense of masculine pride and fragile ego
00:45:31are difficult to deal with and come at my expense.
00:45:36Fragile.
00:45:36I'm concerned you need a submissive partner
00:45:41and will only work in a relationship with a trad wife,
00:45:44which is a term for traditional wife who submits on everything.
00:45:48Who brought that term into it?
00:45:49Oh, my God.
00:45:49I'm concerned that you financially contribute less than I will
00:45:54because I'm not convinced that you have enough financial skills.
00:45:58And I'm concerned that I will be the primary breadwinner,
00:46:03putting you in a place where you don't want to be,
00:46:05which might be the primary caregiver.
00:46:09OK.
00:46:09All right, well, I'm glad you got all that out.
00:46:11Mm-hmm.
00:46:12And I'm so glad you went to Jeff and said all that.
00:46:15Like, what the hell?
00:46:17As soon as I think we're in a good place
00:46:18or as soon as I think we've made progress,
00:46:20she says or does something which cuts the legs out.
00:46:25She's bringing in, like,
00:46:26oh, I just...
00:46:27I want us to be, like, financially stable.
00:46:30You know?
00:46:31I just won't stand for that shit.
00:46:32I just won't.
00:46:34Come on, like, did she buy her first house before 30?
00:46:37No.
00:46:38No, she didn't.
00:46:39So, concerning the whole primary breadwinner,
00:46:45primary caregiver thing, right?
00:46:47Yeah.
00:46:48I don't understand where you're coming from in that regard.
00:46:52I feel like you've got a very sensitive sense of pride and ego.
00:46:58And when...
00:46:59What's the problem, exactly?
00:47:02I guess one of my questions is, like,
00:47:04theoretically, if it came to it,
00:47:05would you be happy being a stay-at-home dad?
00:47:10No.
00:47:11Why?
00:47:13Being a stay-at-home dad is not what I'm going to do with my life.
00:47:18If you know very well what I want to do with my life,
00:47:21and you know that a stay-at-home dad is the most ridiculous thing...
00:47:24I can't believe we weren't having this conversation.
00:47:29Since the age of 18, I have worked full-time...
00:47:34Yeah.
00:47:34..in operations, in sales...
00:47:36Yeah.
00:47:36..in management...
00:47:37Yeah.
00:47:38..in stormwater.
00:47:39I want to leave a legacy.
00:47:41What kind of legacy?
00:47:43About masculine power?
00:47:45No.
00:47:46What if I ended up in a coma?
00:47:49Who's going to look after our kids?
00:47:52Would you leave your job to look after our children?
00:47:57I will never be a stay-at-home dad.
00:47:59It's insulting to think that you would even...
00:48:02..that I would even consider that.
00:48:05Like, my God.
00:48:06Would you be a stay-at-home dad?
00:48:09What's next?
00:48:10Oh, Ryan, how would you feel about being a trophy husband?
00:48:15Jesus.
00:48:16Oh, my God.
00:48:24After a constructive three days living with Rhi,
00:48:28Elliot is now optimistic about how he and wife Veronica
00:48:32can move forward together.
00:48:35I feel like Rhi gave me some really good advice.
00:48:39Like, she was very...
00:48:41Diplomatic?
00:48:42Yeah, very diplomatic.
00:48:43Very diplomatic.
00:48:44I knew she would be.
00:48:46And I think it was refreshing.
00:48:49Yeah, when Rhi mentioned that we need to kind of come together
00:48:53in a softer way, that really resonated with me.
00:48:56It's really interesting when you kind of see it
00:48:58from an outside perspective,
00:48:59because I think there's definitely things I can do better as well
00:49:01with me and V to be able to move forward.
00:49:03She did mention, like, she wished that you were a little bit more open.
00:49:08I feel like there's the smallest things that you would need to do to help that.
00:49:13Yeah.
00:49:13Just, yeah, upping your game a little bit there.
00:49:15Yeah.
00:49:15Seeing how you go.
00:49:16That's really constructive.
00:49:17Yeah.
00:49:19I kind of woke up this morning a bit more optimistic,
00:49:22and I think the biggest thing that's changed for me is that, like, I want to try to work on this.
00:49:27So do you want a cup of bone broth or something?
00:49:31Oh, no, I'm all right.
00:49:32I had, um, I just had a coffee, so I feel a bit caffeinated.
00:49:36I want to get things back on track with V.
00:49:41And with Elliot's hope for his marriage restored,
00:49:44it's time for the couple to tackle the honesty letter task.
00:49:49Honesty letters?
00:49:51Shall we do it then?
00:49:52Dear Elliot, since coming into the experiment, you and I have faced many challenges.
00:50:04One thing I can't deny is the difference in openness I notice between you and I.
00:50:10In only 24 hours, Dave and I have shared more with each other in effortless communication,
00:50:15and I personally feel that I have learned more about him in this short time than I have about you in four weeks.
00:50:19I'm not trying to draw a comparison or anything, but, like, Dave has made me realise it should come easy
00:50:26and it shouldn't be as hard as it is with Elliot and I.
00:50:30I don't have to prompt Dave to open up.
00:50:32He tells me things because he wants to talk to me.
00:50:35When Dave and I have conversed, it's effortless, and the communication flows easily
00:50:38because he is present and not planning his next statements.
00:50:41And he opens up along the way, which, again, invites further conversation.
00:50:46There are some basic things, too, like making eye contact with me.
00:50:49And being attentive, Dave, makes me feel connected and seen.
00:50:54But unfortunately, I don't feel the same way with you.
00:50:57Yeah, Veronica wrote a lot about Dave in her letter,
00:51:01which is, you know, interesting when you're writing a letter about the concerns about our relationship.
00:51:08This makes me wonder if our relationship has legs
00:51:10and if we will be able to overcome this communication and connection barrier.
00:51:14I was waiting for the good part.
00:51:26So you didn't do the good?
00:51:29What do you mean, the good?
00:51:30Well, the letter was, like, concerns and then good things as well.
00:51:33I don't know what to say.
00:51:38Like, it sucks that you feel that way.
00:51:41Obviously, you know, the past couple of weeks,
00:51:44I felt like there were a lot of moments where we were connecting.
00:51:50But, you know, obviously that's not the case from your perspective.
00:51:55No, that's not what I'm saying.
00:51:57Attentiveness is, like, just an awareness of me in the house.
00:52:01Just an awareness of me in general.
00:52:04Like, I exist.
00:52:07Hmm.
00:52:10Okay, attentiveness.
00:52:12So...
00:52:13I don't have the dictionary definition of attentiveness, Elliot.
00:52:15No, I don't want that.
00:52:16I want your definition.
00:52:17Well, like, I'll give you an example from Dave.
00:52:19Hmm.
00:52:20I was eating, and he was like,
00:52:23do you want some hot sauce?
00:52:24And I was like, yeah, I'll have some hot sauce.
00:52:26Great.
00:52:26He's like, do you want some cheese?
00:52:27I'm going to have some cheese.
00:52:28Do you want some cheese?
00:52:29Do you want me to make it for you?
00:52:30Do you want me to heat it up?
00:52:31Do you want me to, like...
00:52:33And then when I finished eating,
00:52:35he came over and took the plate to the sink.
00:52:37And then I went to wash up, and he's like,
00:52:38no, don't wash up.
00:52:39You leave that.
00:52:41Right.
00:52:42Do you know what I mean?
00:52:45Like a restaurant experience.
00:52:47Okay, Elliot.
00:52:51It's so interesting that you would say that.
00:52:53What an interesting choice of words from you, Elliot.
00:52:55Let's just bring the intensity down.
00:52:57Like, we can chat.
00:52:58I tried to connect with your letter, and I tried to...
00:53:00Do you think that that's appropriate,
00:53:01that you're patronising me, Elliot?
00:53:03When you do that...
00:53:03Do you think that that's appropriate,
00:53:05that you're patronising me, Elliot?
00:53:06Sounds like you're learning lines from your movie.
00:53:10Yeah, so it turns out we still can't be
00:53:12in the same room together.
00:53:14You are honestly, like...
00:53:16You're the past tense, though.
00:53:17No, we're done here.
00:53:17Honestly, like, your level of disrespect
00:53:19is unlike anything I've ever experienced in my life.
00:53:21I want nothing to do with you.
00:53:23You have no respect,
00:53:24and I'm not interested in pursuing anything with you.
00:53:27You're beneath me.
00:53:28And the Oscar goes to...
00:53:30Veronica.
00:53:33Amazing.
00:53:35No, that was the perfect ending.
00:53:36Like, you really, like, went the absolute opposite direction
00:53:40of what the experts are trying to go.
00:53:43Elliot.
00:53:44Elliot.
00:53:44I've just had spent three days
00:53:47with a normal person
00:53:47who's interested in connecting with me.
00:53:50And you are like talking to a brick wall.
00:53:52As Feedback Week comes to a close,
00:54:09Jamie still has Adrian's brutal words ringing in her ears.
00:54:15I'm, like, a little bit in my head right now.
00:54:17Like, I've essentially had days
00:54:19to, like, stew on potential conversations.
00:54:25Having that perspective on what's going on,
00:54:28it really did make me think about my relationship with Dave
00:54:31and where we were at.
00:54:33When I told Dave I loved him,
00:54:35he didn't say I love you back.
00:54:36And Dave just doesn't initiate any intimacy.
00:54:42I'm constantly pursuing my husband.
00:54:47Adrian said this to me.
00:54:48Adrian said, you know,
00:54:49I think Dave is not that into me
00:54:52or he doesn't have progressing feelings.
00:54:54So I'm...
00:54:56I am very anxious to have this conversation about the letter
00:54:59because now I've got so many questions
00:55:01and I want the answers.
00:55:02I'm curious to see what you put in your letter.
00:55:07I don't...
00:55:08You seem very worried.
00:55:09Why are you worried?
00:55:10Because I've got a lot of questions.
00:55:11It's like...
00:55:12Like, I've done, like, a lot of thinking.
00:55:14So, yeah.
00:55:17Different perspectives.
00:55:18I'm sure you've got different perspectives too.
00:55:20I'm sure it made you, like, think as well.
00:55:25Do you have any idea
00:55:26what I maybe would have spoken about?
00:55:28No, not really.
00:55:30OK.
00:55:32Dear Dave,
00:55:35When I reflect on our relationship,
00:55:36we are lucky to have so much good,
00:55:38but in that,
00:55:39I'd like to expand on the goodness via sex.
00:55:44Sex, as you know, to me is very important.
00:55:47It's how I connect with my partner
00:55:48and is an act that is only for my relationship.
00:55:52I've always been the one likely to initiate intimacy,
00:55:56which I don't mind initiating,
00:55:57but when it is constantly me,
00:55:59it starts to make me feel an imbalance.
00:56:02I want to know that we both want to be with each other in that way.
00:56:06It makes me confused as to why you don't want more of it.
00:56:10Do you maybe have doubts?
00:56:12I guess this is what Feedback Week is about,
00:56:18a time to bring up issues.
00:56:20But I feel like there's certain ones that you should keep between us.
00:56:25It's not something for another husband to sort of hear.
00:56:28You know, obviously, it's a huge, huge thing
00:56:31in that you've brought it up into here.
00:56:32Being brought up like this,
00:56:36I have, like, my heart hurts a little bit.
00:56:40Yeah, it hurts to be questioned like that.
00:56:44Yeah, I mean, I think it's like...
00:56:47Like I expressed from the start,
00:56:50it's not a massive part of my, like,
00:56:54who I am as a sex life sort of thing.
00:56:55Like, that doesn't mean I haven't tried to initiate it.
00:56:59I feel like...
00:57:00You don't.
00:57:00I haven't.
00:57:02You've, like, two occasions.
00:57:04You want to let me finish or not?
00:57:06It's just so frustrating.
00:57:07Like, I'm trying to talk to you on a level.
00:57:10Don't get so worked up.
00:57:14You are a very confident person
00:57:15when it comes to sex and all that.
00:57:17And I'm not.
00:57:18Do you think I am?
00:57:19Yeah, I know, but like...
00:57:20But, like, answer that.
00:57:21Like, you are very confident and expressive.
00:57:23It's not like we're in the beginning of this, Dave.
00:57:27I have not been a fully sexually expressive person
00:57:31throughout my life.
00:57:32And I think you need to understand
00:57:33that people's sex drives are different
00:57:35and people will get in their heads
00:57:36and it's not easy for some people
00:57:38to express it like it is for you.
00:57:40I'm questioning the feelings part.
00:57:43Yeah, I think that's...
00:57:44Which I think I'm fair to question it.
00:57:44I think that's really confronting for me to hear.
00:57:46That's all.
00:57:47I'm questioning it.
00:57:49Like, I need to know.
00:57:51Maybe, like, that's something...
00:57:53Maybe it is because you're not feeling
00:57:55and that's why, you know, the sex thing's an issue
00:57:57or, you know, like, in your vows,
00:57:59you're like, I'm going to buy flowers, blah, blah, blah.
00:58:01Like, maybe that's why you don't do those stuff
00:58:03because you don't have those feelings for me.
00:58:05And that's OK.
00:58:05You just need to tell me.
00:58:11I do.
00:58:12I really do care about you.
00:58:14I really am into you.
00:58:15You can care about me all you want,
00:58:17but those feelings...
00:58:19Those feelings...
00:58:20I'm not saying it has to be love,
00:58:21but that desire to be with me in that way.
00:58:26And that's why I'm like,
00:58:27is that why we're not having sex?
00:58:29Like, those feelings just aren't there.
00:58:30I think that's a really, really terrible thing to say to me.
00:58:37Like, I think that...
00:58:39I'm asking you.
00:58:41Yeah, but I think that's a terrible thing to say.
00:58:43I don't know, does that just hurt a little bit
00:58:47that you're questioning the whole thing?
00:58:48I wasn't satisfied with the answers I received.
00:59:00I don't know if I'd buy it.
00:59:01Like, I just don't know if I'd buy it.
00:59:03If those real feelings aren't moving forward,
00:59:07like, I need to know.
00:59:10If they're not, I need to know.
00:59:13I need reassurance.
00:59:14I feel like that conversation
00:59:16didn't really give me that reassurance.
00:59:20Yeah, well...
00:59:21Like I've said all along, the sex,
00:59:25it's not a 10 out of 10 for me.
00:59:26That's not that important to me.
00:59:30Because I'm not talking about my feelings on sex.
00:59:32I'm talking about your feelings on me.
00:59:34Yeah, but you're questioning it because of that.
00:59:37Correct?
00:59:39100% how you show up there
00:59:41is a reflection of, generally speaking, your feelings.
00:59:45But I'm more deeper and I like to...
00:59:47Yeah, but I'm deep.
00:59:49This is who I am.
00:59:50I'm not all about the sex every day.
00:59:54I just don't understand it.
00:59:57You're telling me that, like,
00:59:59this is the best it gets with you.
01:00:01Like, you're just never going to have that desire.
01:00:04Pretty much.
01:00:07I feel like it'd make more sense to me
01:00:12if there was a feeling disconnect.
01:00:17The fact that you questioned,
01:00:20come from Adrian,
01:00:21and then you're questioning our whole relationship.
01:00:23It's not...
01:00:24Don't...
01:00:24It's not Adrian.
01:00:25And this is...
01:00:26Okay.
01:00:26It's not Adrian.
01:00:28I asked for his perspective on things
01:00:31because these are things I've been struggling with.
01:00:33And he gave perspective on it.
01:00:37I looked at Adrian and I'm like,
01:00:39I don't understand.
01:00:40It doesn't make sense to me.
01:00:42Can you help it make sense?
01:00:43Because I'm so much more deeper,
01:00:45I feel like sex and all those things
01:00:46are connected to all those feelings as well.
01:00:48So then you're saying
01:00:50we don't have that much sex
01:00:52because you're not right in your feels.
01:00:55I'm not there yet.
01:00:56You're in a different spot to who I am.
01:00:58So you said you loved me six weeks into this.
01:01:01I'm not there.
01:01:02I'm not there.
01:01:03I'm not there.
01:01:03So are we having a lack of sex
01:01:05because you're not in the love stage?
01:01:06I feel like...
01:01:08Yes or no?
01:01:09Yes.
01:01:09That makes more sense to me.
01:01:20And that's what I said when I came in.
01:01:25Yeah, well...
01:01:31What the f**k?
01:01:34This is the first time in this experiment
01:01:36I've questioned whether Dave and I will work.
01:01:39OK.
01:01:46Excellent.
01:01:47At least we got there.
01:01:49We might not be able to come back from that.
01:02:04As Feedback Week ends,
01:02:06the ramifications continue.
01:02:08Karina is finally ready to confront Paul
01:02:12about the parts of his honesty letter
01:02:14that he didn't read out to her.
01:02:16That wasn't...
01:02:21I'm sure that wasn't...
01:02:23It wasn't easy, right?
01:02:25Huh?
01:02:26For me or for you?
01:02:27The snob word he used.
01:02:31He said, I can be a snob.
01:02:35Yeah, that's a pretty powerful word
01:02:37and I feel like he should have just said it as it is.
01:02:41You know, he's obviously feeling some sort of way
01:02:44while he was writing the letter,
01:02:46so he should have just said it out loud.
01:02:51Well, I re-read your letter.
01:02:54Yeah.
01:02:54And why did you miss out the part of saying I was a snob?
01:02:58You didn't mention that.
01:02:59Because when I...
01:03:00Yeah, OK.
01:03:01Yeah.
01:03:02When I...
01:03:03Yeah, when I wrote the word...
01:03:06..and then when I re-read...
01:03:08..when I re-read the letter,
01:03:09I was literally thinking,
01:03:11OK, that's probably a bit, like, excessive.
01:03:13That's probably a bit too much,
01:03:14which is why I didn't read it,
01:03:15because I was like, that's actually unnecessary.
01:03:18Yeah.
01:03:18Did you read that part to Afina
01:03:20or did you word it differently?
01:03:25Yeah, I read it like that.
01:03:28Yeah.
01:03:28So...
01:03:29Yeah.
01:03:32I'm sorry.
01:03:36Mm-mm.
01:03:37Yeah.
01:03:38Yeah.
01:03:39OK.
01:03:44When I asked you in interview earlier
01:03:47if there were any words you left out of your letter,
01:03:50you said no.
01:03:54Why was that?
01:03:59Um...
01:03:59I didn't want to read it out to her,
01:04:02because, you know, to be fair,
01:04:04I wasn't, like, 100% sure of the exact meaning of snob,
01:04:07but I just knew it was a bit of a strong word.
01:04:10What do you mean you don't know the meaning of snob?
01:04:13Well, like, I do know the meaning of snob,
01:04:15but it's, it's, like,
01:04:17a part of me was like,
01:04:18oh, is snob, like, is it an insult?
01:04:20Is it not an insult?
01:04:21When I wrote the word snob,
01:04:22I, like, I...
01:04:25The meaning of it,
01:04:26I was thinking maybe,
01:04:27maybe that's probably a bit too strong of a word,
01:04:29so that's why I didn't want it to read it out again.
01:04:30I was like, mm.
01:04:32Because, yeah, just in my head was like,
01:04:34that's probably a bit too much.
01:04:37But I...
01:04:38Yeah.
01:04:38But where does, like,
01:04:42the idea of a snob come from?
01:04:44Like, where?
01:04:44Because judging,
01:04:45because judging a finna sister
01:04:46as being that kind of calibre,
01:04:48that's, that's a bit of a snob comment.
01:04:49But, but in my, like, in my mind...
01:04:52So you don't think it's a snob comment today?
01:04:54I tell you, I, I came from a place
01:04:55where I was, like, insecure about that.
01:05:00But I shouldn't have said that.
01:05:02I shouldn't have said that.
01:05:03It wasn't the right thing to say,
01:05:04but there was a lead-up of different things
01:05:07that made me, like, be a little bit defensive, like...
01:05:11If you genuinely meant that,
01:05:12then I appreciate that,
01:05:13and that makes me feel better.
01:05:16Yeah.
01:05:18OK, well, great constructive criticism and feedback.
01:05:26I feel like I'm brutally embarrassed
01:05:28because the comment I'd made about Athena's sister,
01:05:32it was heat of the moment.
01:05:34It wasn't, obviously, like...
01:05:46This experiment just keeps throwing some insane challenges.
01:05:49I know, so I'm just...
01:05:51It's...
01:05:52That was probably, like, the toughest one, I feel.
01:05:55My fault.
01:05:56Yeah.
01:05:57It was hard.
01:05:59It was really hard.
01:06:00It was just...
01:06:01..confronting.
01:06:05In the future, if there's any...
01:06:08If there's any other concerns as well,
01:06:11then you just tell me, OK?
01:06:14Whatever there may be.
01:06:16Hmm?
01:06:16Tomorrow night.
01:06:27It's a sombre mood at the dinner party.
01:06:30This is killing me.
01:06:33I got really sad by seeing Jamie was by herself.
01:06:37They've been so solid.
01:06:39This is just shocking, to be quite honest.
01:06:40Do you know it, sir?
01:06:43Before...
01:06:44You threw me under the bus with Athena.
01:06:46Are you going to take accountability for that, Paul?
01:06:49Karina calls out Paul.
01:06:51Yeah, but that's not on me.
01:06:52That's on you.
01:06:53It's made me feel like I cannot trust you right now.
01:06:56Then...
01:06:59Gosh, Dave's so different.
01:07:01I've never heard this side of Dave before.
01:07:05He's got a wall up.
01:07:06He's detached.
01:07:08Who is that man?
01:07:09That's not the Dave I've met.
01:07:12Dave under the microscope.
01:07:14I've had a future with you,
01:07:15and you're telling me today,
01:07:16you're like, I don't have...
01:07:17Those feelings haven't progressed for you.
01:07:19When did you ever tell me that?
01:07:20Jamie bears her soul
01:07:22as she fights for her marriage.
01:07:25It's just a struggle at the moment, so...
01:07:28So I didn't cover you.
01:07:29Really?
01:07:32He's hurt me so much.
01:07:34Who am I trusting with my heart?
01:07:36That's not okay.
01:07:37Okay.
01:07:38Okay.