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00:00:00लाइफ इस फुल of challenges
00:00:02बत उसमें से हस कर निकलना या बोलनी निकलना
00:00:06I think is the art of life
00:00:07The moment I wore the uniform, things changed
00:00:10The fact that you are serving the Indian army
00:00:15Breast cancer था, everything turned around
00:00:18I felt this for about
00:00:20आपके आसपस ऐसी लोग होने जरूरिय है जो आपको एलिवेट करें
00:00:25It could be her father, it could be her husband
00:00:28Or it could be a son
00:00:30But the moment I had my own child
00:00:33My entire personality changed
00:00:35So being a mother, having that feeling of being a mother
00:00:40Itself is the most wonderful feeling
00:00:42Two of your pillars है जो हमेशा आपको सपोर्ट करेंगे
00:00:46That is your father and mother
00:00:47I think you can do so much for your mother
00:00:52Stay with her, love her
00:00:55And because there will be a time when it will not be in your house
00:01:00I miss you very much
00:01:02Your parents are still alive
00:01:04You can stay with them
00:01:06You can love them as much as you can
00:01:08So welcome to our show
00:01:13Thank you
00:01:14And thank you for inviting us at your place also
00:01:17It's an honor and a pleasure
00:01:19And I think I should be thanking
00:01:22Vanna Singh, Yadavji and Sukriti for being here
00:01:27And it's an honor to have you here
00:01:32To talk about myself and about the mothers
00:01:36And let's start
00:01:38So, first of all, what you have seen in my mind
00:01:42And what I have understood your background stories
00:01:45At the age of 51, how is your life?
00:01:48And I will say, are you satisfied?
00:01:52Life is super
00:01:54You know, if someone is asking today
00:01:56How are you?
00:01:57So, I always say, tanna tanna
00:01:59So, life
00:02:01See, in 51, I can tell you that
00:02:05Your life is all dependent on some spiritual power
00:02:11Some destiny
00:02:13Which has made a path
00:02:15And you are just walking that path
00:02:17So, whatever you try to do
00:02:19It will not happen from the path
00:02:21So, I am very, very grateful to the almighty
00:02:25For giving me this life
00:02:27And if I had to write my story again
00:02:30It would be the same
00:02:31So, now, whatever your journey is
00:02:36And when you look back
00:02:38You want to change something
00:02:40Any chapter that you think
00:02:42That it was a difficult part
00:02:44If it was lost
00:02:45Then it could be better
00:02:46Or when you look at your life
00:02:49And you feel like
00:02:51Wow, what a life I have led
00:02:53And somehow a proud feeling
00:02:55See, life is full of challenges, Shukriti
00:03:00And I have to say that
00:03:03Challenges are a part of life
00:03:07But having to laugh
00:03:09Or having to laugh
00:03:10Or having to laugh
00:03:11Is the part of life
00:03:13So, I will definitely change my challenges
00:03:16Because these challenges made me a stronger person
00:03:20And also, I would say that
00:03:23That we have to compare
00:03:25Sometimes we have to compare
00:03:26Sometimes we have to compare
00:03:27If I do a comparison with you
00:03:28Or if I do a comparison with you
00:03:29I think it is always you versus you
00:03:31You can only become a better version
00:03:34And how will it happen?
00:03:35When you get out of your comfort zone
00:03:37You face challenges
00:03:38You face challenges
00:03:39See, it is not that
00:03:41In my life
00:03:42Those challenges
00:03:43Oh, oh
00:03:44Those are terrible challenges
00:03:45Yeah, definitely challenges
00:03:46There were challenges
00:03:47Whether it was my son's illness
00:03:49Or the loss of my mother
00:03:51Or the cancer
00:03:52Or the challenges
00:03:53But they have always
00:03:55They have always
00:03:57Elevated me
00:03:58They helped me to grow
00:03:59So
00:04:00I will say
00:04:01That
00:04:02At the end of the day
00:04:04If you say
00:04:05One word
00:04:06That is gratitude
00:04:08I only feel
00:04:10So much of gratitude
00:04:12To the Almighty
00:04:13I feel
00:04:14God has been so kind
00:04:15To me
00:04:16That
00:04:17I am very proud
00:04:19Of the fact
00:04:20That I was born in this family
00:04:21I grew
00:04:22The way I grew
00:04:23For 51 years of my life
00:04:25But
00:04:26There was this divinity
00:04:27There was this
00:04:28Some power
00:04:29Super power
00:04:30That always
00:04:32Paved the way
00:04:33For Him
00:04:34So
00:04:35I am very grateful to God
00:04:36For this day
00:04:37You have mentioned your son
00:04:39For illness
00:04:40You have been working
00:04:41You have been working
00:04:42For a long time
00:04:43You have been working
00:04:44When I was diagnosed
00:04:45When I was diagnosed
00:04:47And
00:04:48A working mother
00:04:49Because
00:04:50Today
00:04:51There are so many women
00:04:53Who are working
00:04:54Newly
00:04:55Mother
00:04:56And
00:04:57I am also one
00:04:58How do we balance our work life
00:05:02In the upbringing
00:05:03There is no problem
00:05:04In the upbringing
00:05:05So
00:05:06What mantra
00:05:07Have you used for that?
00:05:08See Sukruti
00:05:09You will agree
00:05:10You are a child of half a year
00:05:11And
00:05:12Your parents have been the backbone
00:05:13And
00:05:14It was very amusing to hear
00:05:16Shifts
00:05:17Shifts
00:05:18Shifts
00:05:19Shifts
00:05:20So
00:05:21Three months
00:05:22A pair of parents
00:05:23And
00:05:24Three months
00:05:25So
00:05:26That was very amusing for me
00:05:27And I could relate to it
00:05:28Because
00:05:29When I was doing post graduation
00:05:31This is almost 2006
00:05:33By that time
00:05:35I was diagnosed with my son
00:05:37But
00:05:39In 2006
00:05:40I was the biggest
00:05:41The biggest
00:05:42Organization
00:05:43And
00:05:46The biggest
00:05:47And
00:05:48The biggest
00:05:49College
00:05:50From 2006
00:05:51To 2009
00:05:52So
00:05:54When I went to the hospital
00:05:55I took my son
00:05:56I was a little
00:05:57About 3 years
00:05:58And
00:05:59Within
00:06:00Six months
00:06:01I was not able to manage
00:06:02I was not able to cope up
00:06:03Because
00:06:04I was almost 48 hours
00:06:05I was in labor room
00:06:06So I couldn't really take care of him
00:06:08So
00:06:09So
00:06:10My mother flew
00:06:11My late mother
00:06:12Whom I lost
00:06:13In October
00:06:14She flew
00:06:15She was a very
00:06:16She was the strength of our family
00:06:17She was the backbone
00:06:18She was the backbone
00:06:19If I became a doctor
00:06:20Then I became a doctor
00:06:21Then I became a doctor
00:06:22She actually became a doctor
00:06:23As I told you
00:06:25And
00:06:26She flew
00:06:28And
00:06:29Rohin
00:06:30That is my son
00:06:31She told me
00:06:32He said
00:06:33I will not be able to cope
00:06:34And
00:06:35Grandparents
00:06:36Are a boon
00:06:37So
00:06:38In a similar way
00:06:39Years passed by
00:06:40I have my post-graduation
00:06:41Complete
00:06:42Then
00:06:43Rohin
00:06:44Was about 10 years old
00:06:45And
00:06:51Our army
00:06:52Every three years
00:06:53We have to move to various stations
00:06:55In a way it is very good
00:06:56You know
00:06:57I say
00:06:58Challenges
00:06:59When you come to your
00:07:01You learn from it
00:07:02And
00:07:03You become stronger
00:07:04Version
00:07:05So
00:07:06Similar way
00:07:07In a similar way
00:07:08In a similar way
00:07:09In a similar way
00:07:10In a similar way
00:07:11In a similar way
00:07:12In a similar way
00:07:13In a similar way
00:07:14In a similar way
00:07:15Like in a few years
00:07:16We reached Merit
00:07:17My son had just turned 10
00:07:18Rohin had just turned 10
00:07:19My husband was also posted there
00:07:20Colonel Punit Sarin
00:07:21And
00:07:23And
00:07:24At that time
00:07:25He started bed wetting
00:07:26So
00:07:27So
00:07:28I thought
00:07:29Maybe
00:07:30My infection
00:07:31So
00:07:32We tested
00:07:33And
00:07:34Early morning
00:07:35I went to my patients
00:07:36In the labour room
00:07:37And
00:07:38Incidentally
00:07:39I went to the lab
00:07:40To check
00:07:41What the reports
00:07:42And
00:07:43The lab assistant
00:07:44Told me
00:07:45That
00:07:46Sugars
00:07:47In a 3
00:07:48Plus
00:07:49I didn't even know
00:07:50What reason
00:07:51And
00:07:52What kind of challenge
00:07:53We face
00:07:54So
00:07:55When his sugars
00:07:56In the early morning
00:07:57Can you guess
00:07:58What could have been
00:07:59The sugars
00:08:00It was almost
00:08:01Touching 500
00:08:02Usually
00:08:03Sugar
00:08:04100
00:08:05So
00:08:06My husband had a very bad habit
00:08:09Of kissing him on the lips
00:08:10So
00:08:11He said
00:08:12His breath is very sweet
00:08:13Actually
00:08:14The kid was going into
00:08:15Diabetic ketoacidosis
00:08:16Which is
00:08:17He could have gone into
00:08:18Coma
00:08:19And
00:08:20Bhagawan
00:08:21And
00:08:22He could have been
00:08:23Diagnosed
00:08:24And
00:08:25His insulin
00:08:26Start
00:08:27And
00:08:28Through the years
00:08:29In 12 years
00:08:30Our new normal
00:08:31Is to check the sugar
00:08:32So
00:08:33It is a challenge
00:08:34It will not
00:08:35Go away
00:08:36But
00:08:37You have to find
00:08:38Coping mechanism
00:08:39To come out of
00:08:40That situation
00:08:41And get stronger
00:08:42So
00:08:43Today
00:08:44I went
00:08:45Before
00:08:46I was talking to
00:08:47Vanna ji
00:08:48And
00:08:49I went to check
00:08:50If he is asleep
00:08:51So
00:08:52So
00:08:53Challenges
00:08:54Will never end
00:08:55But
00:08:56Your attitude
00:08:57Towards the challenge
00:08:58Is very important
00:08:59That is very important
00:09:02Your inner circle
00:09:03It has to support you
00:09:04It has to support you
00:09:05And
00:09:06As I said before
00:09:07As I said
00:09:08There are two pillars
00:09:09That will always support you
00:09:11That is your father and mother
00:09:13And
00:09:14For me
00:09:15They were the ones
00:09:16Who actually
00:09:17Helped me
00:09:19To grow
00:09:20To become
00:09:21Modern
00:09:22So
00:09:23Now
00:09:24He is 22
00:09:25And
00:09:26At that time
00:09:27It was very good
00:09:28On the 13th
00:09:29July
00:09:302013
00:09:31At that time
00:09:32I had almost
00:09:3310 or 12 cases
00:09:34Lined up
00:09:35At that time
00:09:36I didn't know
00:09:37How I was finished
00:09:38I will say
00:09:39Now
00:09:40I will say
00:09:41Now
00:09:42I have seen
00:09:43My patients
00:09:44Everything
00:09:45Until
00:09:46My husband
00:09:47went to
00:09:48Pediatric
00:09:49Endocrinologist
00:09:50To start
00:09:51Insulin
00:09:52And
00:09:53By the time
00:09:54I reached there
00:09:55From
00:09:56On the next 3-4 days
00:09:57We had done
00:09:58We had done
00:09:59How to change
00:10:00Our diet
00:10:01And
00:10:02How to improve
00:10:03The lifestyle
00:10:04And
00:10:05How to improve
00:10:06But
00:10:075-4 days
00:10:08After
00:10:09Friends
00:10:10Just in concern
00:10:11Started talking to me
00:10:12That
00:10:13You are shattered
00:10:14Now
00:10:15You can't do anything
00:10:16Now
00:10:17Until
00:10:18My mind
00:10:19Was not
00:10:20I will get him on track
00:10:22आप तो मेरे लाइस इस बूग बूग नहीं को बूग रहे हैं तो इसलिए आपके असपस ऐसी लोग उना ज़रूरी है जो आपको अपको एलिवेट करें चाहिए
00:10:32तो, I always got that kind of environment, चाहे वो मेरे पेरंट्स रहे, मेरे हस्बन रहे, मेरे अपना बच्चा जोगी बहुत स्ट्रोंग लड़का है, तो
00:10:43कि आपके लिए मैं समझ सकते हूं कि एक मा कहूं या एक पेरेंट के लिए यह समझना कि बेटा या बच्चा मुश्किल में है या वो किसी हेल्थ इशूस की वज़ सो उसकी लाइफ डिफिकल होने वाली है, वो अपने आप में समझ पाना और उसको अपने हैबट में लाकर उ
00:11:13बासिक ही वो होती है, उनकी लगषिरी होती है लाइफ तो उत्ते छोटे बच्चे को यह समझा पाना आपके लिए कितना इशुकल था, कैसे किया अपने हो हुआ
00:11:21तो तुझी मैंने अपने मदर से हर रोज, every day till the class 9th,
00:11:29हर रोज, every day, without fail, एक थपड़ थारें
00:11:33तो मैंने हमेशा सोचा था कि मैं अपने बच्चे को कभी थपड़ने मारें
00:11:38I will never be harsh on him, I will never be mean on him
00:11:46मैं नहीं कह रहे है कि मेरी मदर मेन थी
00:11:48तो मैं आज ऐसी नहीं होती तो मैं आज ऐसी नहीं होती
00:11:51I won't have done what I have done
00:11:53But, मैंने हमेशा सुचा था कि मैं वह नहीं करोगी
00:11:56But, उसको अपन्चाट करने के लिए
00:11:58My husband was there, he is a typical Punjabi
00:12:01तो वह सारी जो भी श्लोक बोलने है, he would say
00:12:06Punjabi Shlok
00:12:07But I was never into that zone and I never did it
00:12:11But, there used to be times when he would have chocolate
00:12:15But, slowly, slowly he realized
00:12:18Himself, when we were looking at how to modify his life-style
00:12:23How was his journey
00:12:25My husband was strict
00:12:27So, he also took a little bit of it
00:12:29But, the moment that I had given love
00:12:32He also told me that you are being angry
00:12:35But, मुझे लगता है, it doesn't happen
00:12:37आप बच्चों को एक direction दे सकते हो
00:12:40You can tell them what is right for them and what is wrong for them
00:12:44Baaki, everybody has his own journey
00:12:47Ultimately, when you go, आप ही जाओगे इस जहान से
00:12:52And, मैं आज इस बारे में जादा बोल रहे हैं
00:12:54Because, recently when I lost my mother
00:12:56And, we took her to the crematorium
00:12:59She was, suddenly she was not there
00:13:02And, she was on the wall
00:13:04Hanging on the wall now
00:13:06This is the fact of life
00:13:08आप अपनी जर्नी को कैसे वोडते हो
00:13:12And, किस दरा से लेके जाते हो
00:13:14आपकी अपनी जर्नी है
00:13:16आपका अपना हाद वर्क है
00:13:18आपकी अपनी जर्नी है
00:13:20आपके पेरेंट्स, आपकी फैमली
00:13:22आपके लब बन्स
00:13:24सिरफ आपको गाइड कर सकते है
00:13:26So, मैंने अभी भी
00:13:28He is now 22, 22
00:13:30He is still thinking, कि मैं को आगे और क्या करना चाहिए
00:13:32With health issues
00:13:34With his work, with everything
00:13:36I am always there to support him
00:13:38For whatever he does
00:13:40But, वो जर्नी उसकी है
00:13:42And he understands that
00:13:44And you know what, when आप
00:13:46छोटी एज में challenges face करते है
00:13:48Especially health challenges
00:13:50आपके अंदर आपके अंदर
00:13:52वो फाइट करने के जो शमता होते है
00:13:54So, this particular aspect
00:13:58कि हमने 10 साल के उमर के
00:14:00Rohin को देखा
00:14:02और इतना सकुछ देखा
00:14:042020 जब में हो cancer हुआ
00:14:06Till that time
00:14:08I think आपके अंदर strength आते गए
00:14:10Through the years उसके hypos देखना
00:14:12उसके सारे complications
00:14:14Manage करना, all those things
00:14:16They just made you stronger
00:14:18Because you have to support
00:14:20आपकी बात से
00:14:22आपकी बात से
00:14:24जो मुझे समझ आया
00:14:26और जो आज़कल बहुत जादा
00:14:28Social Media कर डिबेट भी है
00:14:30Gentle Parenting और Indian Parenting
00:14:32यह जादना चाहते हूं कि
00:14:34आपको क्या difference नजर आए
00:14:36जैसे आपने बोला कि आपको थपड़ पड़दा था
00:14:38और उसी ने आपको शेप किया
00:14:40कहीं ने कहीं कहीं
00:14:42मैंने भी खाई होंगे
00:14:44बहुत थपड़ आपने भी खाई है
00:14:46जितने अम भी इस रूम में बैठे हमने
00:14:48सब में मार तो खाई है
00:14:50लेकिन अभी जो
00:14:52और उसमें बच्चे पर आप हार्श ने हो सते
00:14:54उनके इमोशन को समझना
00:14:56और बहुत तरीकों से उसको बहुत ही प्यार से
00:14:58नाजों से पाल कि उनको बढ़ा करना
00:15:00तो क्या डिफरेंस आपको लग रहा है
00:15:02क्या हो रहा है ऐसा कुछ
00:15:04उनके अब्रेंगिंग में उनको बढ़ा रहा है
00:15:06और कहीं अगर उनको एमोशनली वीक कर दे रहा है
00:15:08नहीं, I don't think
00:15:10it is getting emotionally weaker
00:15:12मुझे आज भी आद है
00:15:14मुझे आज भी आद है
00:15:16उनको बताया भी था
00:15:18मेरे बर्दे वाले दिन
00:15:20मेरी मदर में को बताती होती थी
00:15:22मुझे एक गिफ्ट मागो जो तुम्हे चाहिए
00:15:24और कि मैं तुम्हे दो आज के ती
00:15:26आज के दिन में को फ्लीस थपड़नी लागा
00:15:30and by the end of the day
00:15:32कुछ ना होई गा
00:15:34definitely कुछ ना कुछ ऐसा होता था
00:15:36जो में को एक दूर पढ़ जाता
00:15:38and I always disliked it
00:15:40मैं उस
00:15:42आज को शाएद एरेस करना चाहूंगी
00:15:44now it sounds funny
00:15:46but I wouldn't want to be beaten by anybody
00:15:48I don't want to be abused by anybody
00:15:50nobody really abused me
00:15:52but जो भी हमारे parents ने उस time
00:15:54पे किया हमारे को direction दिखाने के
00:15:56but
00:15:58मुझे ऐसा लगता है कि
00:16:00direction दिखने के लिए
00:16:02जोड-जबरदस्ती जरूरी नहीं
00:16:04कि आज के बच्चों का
00:16:06media का exposure है
00:16:08कहीं अच्छा है
00:16:10they are much more intelligent than us
00:16:12उनका जैसे मैं अगर
00:16:14अपने आपको 10 साल का देखू
00:16:16और रोहिन को 10-12 साल का देखू
00:16:18मैं तो completely भूंदू होती थी
00:16:20I can't understand things
00:16:22but अगर आप 10-12 साल की बच्चे को आप देखोगे
00:16:24वह बहुत intelligent
00:16:26तो मुझे लगता है
00:16:28there has to be a balance of everything
00:16:30आपको उसको मारना है
00:16:32आप उसको थोड़ा सा strict हो सकते हो
00:16:34but by and large आपको उनको एक
00:16:36वो देना चाहिए
00:16:38you should give them the option
00:16:40दूसरी चीज यह strict कहा होना चाहिए
00:16:42मुझे लगता है कि
00:16:44phone देने में strict होना चाहिए
00:16:46मुझे लगता है
00:16:48the concept of
00:16:50UK है
00:16:52they have stopped की बच्चे
00:16:54I think that should be done
00:16:56as a universal thing
00:16:58कि government ऐसा कुछ करे
00:17:00कि जिसमिज़से बच्चे बच्चों का
00:17:02social media का exposure कम
00:17:04but as far as parents are concerned
00:17:06में को लगता है कि
00:17:08nahin I don't think strictness
00:17:10strictness
00:17:12to certain extent is okay
00:17:14but overall
00:17:16आपके बच्चे जैसे
00:17:18teenage में आजाते हैं
00:17:20emotional changes are
00:17:22bodily changes are
00:17:24you see so many kids dying
00:17:26I have a friend who lost her son
00:17:28at the age of 25
00:17:30because he committed suicide
00:17:32for what?
00:17:34सिरफ उस दौर में भागने के लिए
00:17:36हम इंदौर में भागने
00:17:38हमार को पने बच्चों को यह
00:17:40समझाना है
00:17:42this is always you versus you
00:17:44it's about aap ke baare
00:17:46so
00:17:48मुझे असा लगता है कि बच्चों को
00:17:50after a certain age
00:17:52we must give them options
00:17:54and let them do
00:17:56let them
00:17:58plant
00:18:00plant
00:18:02plant
00:18:04plant
00:18:06plant
00:18:08plant
00:18:10so
00:18:11अभी तक हमाई जो
00:18:12conversation चल रहे है
00:18:13उसमें आपके मा का बार बार जिक्रा रहा है
00:18:15क्या रहा है
00:18:17कैसा रहा है
00:18:18उनका personality
00:18:19आपकी लाइफ में
00:18:20कितना छाप रही है
00:18:21या
00:18:22कैसे देखती है आप उनको
00:18:24मैं बच्पन में इसा सूछती थी
00:18:29because strict
00:18:30थी
00:18:31तो कभी-कभी बुरा लगता थे किती strict है
00:18:34इनके जैसे बिलकुल ही बनुए
00:18:36but
00:18:37जब मैं अब अपने आपको देखती है
00:18:39especially after her death
00:18:42I am actually becoming a
00:18:45and I am so proud to be
00:18:49stepping into her shoes
00:18:51मुझे नही लगता कि
00:18:56मेरे well-being के लिए
00:18:58या मेरे upliftment के लिए
00:19:00मेरे अपलिपमेंट के लिए
00:19:01मेको अच्छा और अच्छा बनाने के लिए
00:19:03कोई और इससे जाद सूच सकता होगा
00:19:06and उनोंने
00:19:08ऑनोंने को कही बर ऐसा लगता था
00:19:10जिसे अभी
00:19:11about one year back
00:19:12she would come to my room
00:19:13मैं थके वी आती थी
00:19:15I was in army hospital, research and referral
00:19:18office
00:19:19hospital से थक्याती थी
00:19:21and she used to walk into my room
00:19:23and trying to talk to me
00:19:24so मैं अभी वो चीज़ को जरूर रिग्रत करते हूं
00:19:26कि मैंने
00:19:27शयद उनको time कम दिया
00:19:29मैंने को बोलती थी कोई नहीं
00:19:30में को सोने दो
00:19:31and she would go
00:19:32but
00:19:33ab when
00:19:34she is not there really
00:19:36to
00:19:37मैं बहुत मिस्करते हूं
00:19:39and
00:19:41when we took her to cremation
00:19:45it was an electric crematorium
00:19:47she had very smooth skin
00:19:51she is pre-Pakistan era
00:19:55she was born there
00:19:57very beautiful
00:19:58and she was very beautiful
00:20:00she was always groomed
00:20:02I always have that image of such a beautiful lady
00:20:05but then
00:20:06मैं कहती हूं
00:20:07मैं तो 10% भी नहीं हूं
00:20:08कि जहीस तरह से उनने
00:20:09हमेशा गूम रहती थी
00:20:10she was a doctor
00:20:12she was a doctor
00:20:14who had practiced
00:20:15for almost 50 years
00:20:16and patients की तरफ
00:20:18itna empathy
00:20:19so
00:20:20when I was in the crematorium
00:20:22I was just touching her face
00:20:26itna soft skin
00:20:28and suddenly
00:20:29the
00:20:30pundit said
00:20:31कि हटो
00:20:32she has to be taken
00:20:33and
00:20:34at that moment
00:20:35at that moment
00:20:36at that moment
00:20:37when she went into it
00:20:38I felt like
00:20:39that
00:20:40my whole life
00:20:41was lost
00:20:42and
00:20:43this is the thing
00:20:44Sukriti
00:20:45if you lose your mother
00:20:48if anybody loses their mother
00:20:50I am not saying this way
00:20:51but
00:20:52this thing
00:20:53and this emotion
00:20:54of
00:20:55missing her
00:20:56missing
00:20:58my childhood
00:20:59that
00:21:00will come
00:21:01suddenly
00:21:02there
00:21:03will be
00:21:04there
00:21:05and
00:21:06you
00:21:07know
00:21:08that
00:21:09it is not going to come back
00:21:10the fact
00:21:11that
00:21:12when you have periods
00:21:13of pain
00:21:14and
00:21:15you can't eat food
00:21:16the way your mother
00:21:17used to eat it
00:21:18I didn't eat it
00:21:19even
00:21:20and
00:21:21that
00:21:22you
00:21:23will
00:21:24love
00:21:25and
00:21:26love
00:21:27it
00:21:28will not come back
00:21:29I think
00:21:30that
00:21:31your parents
00:21:32are alive
00:21:33with them
00:21:34and
00:21:36love
00:21:37and
00:21:38love
00:21:39and
00:21:40love
00:21:41and
00:21:42give it back to them
00:21:44and
00:21:46unconditional love
00:21:47and
00:21:48give it back to them
00:21:49but
00:21:50these moments
00:21:51all
00:21:52are
00:21:53so I actually miss her a lot
00:21:54despite that she was one strict lady
00:21:57she was someone to look up to
00:21:59and I am getting that into her shows
00:22:02but I am very proud of her
00:22:04at the end of the day I am so proud
00:22:06I am so proud of being called her daughter
00:22:09and
00:22:10that's so proud
00:22:11I am so proud of being
00:22:12and
00:22:13now
00:22:14you are also a mother
00:22:16and
00:22:17what
00:22:18you are saying
00:22:19that
00:22:20you want to step in
00:22:21in her shoes
00:22:22so
00:22:23because
00:22:24you are a mother
00:22:25and
00:22:26you are taking care of your son
00:22:27he is also taking care of himself
00:22:28but
00:22:29those moments
00:22:30relive
00:22:31perhaps
00:22:32some moments
00:22:33that
00:22:34as a mother
00:22:35you think
00:22:36that
00:22:37you are doing
00:22:39like
00:22:40my mother
00:22:41yes
00:22:42a lot of times
00:22:43a lot of times
00:22:44it happens
00:22:45like
00:22:465 minutes
00:22:47I am going to check her
00:22:49if she is fine
00:22:50or not
00:22:51he would always say
00:22:52what is the problem
00:22:53I am fine
00:22:54I am sitting
00:22:55I am doing my work
00:22:56but
00:22:57I am always reminded
00:22:58that
00:22:59my mother is coming
00:23:00and
00:23:01she is fine
00:23:02and
00:23:03we used to talk
00:23:04he also talks
00:23:05but
00:23:06yes
00:23:07I always feel
00:23:08that
00:23:09look
00:23:10it is not very necessary
00:23:11that you have
00:23:12birthed a child
00:23:13it is very necessary
00:23:14that you have
00:23:15maternal instinct
00:23:16you have
00:23:17many patients
00:23:18as a gynecologist
00:23:20infertility
00:23:22who cannot be treated
00:23:23infertility
00:23:24they adopt children
00:23:25but
00:23:26that maternal instinct
00:23:27that comes in
00:23:28that comes in
00:23:29is something
00:23:30that you can experience
00:23:32it is such an abstract thing
00:23:35such a lovely thing
00:23:36that you can experience
00:23:37when you have
00:23:38one mother
00:23:39she may be a biological mother
00:23:41she may be a
00:23:42you may be an adopted kid
00:23:44or a step kid
00:23:45or a step kid
00:23:46but
00:23:47that maternal feeling
00:23:48can give
00:23:49one mother
00:23:50as a mother
00:23:51as a mother
00:23:52as a mother
00:23:53biological
00:23:54or non-biological
00:23:55having said this
00:23:58about
00:23:59a thing
00:24:00when I was doing
00:24:02PG
00:24:03my mother had flown
00:24:04and got blown back here
00:24:05so
00:24:06yesterday
00:24:07my father's birthday
00:24:08incidentally
00:24:09so
00:24:10at night
00:24:11we were discussing
00:24:12this
00:24:13my mother used to tell him
00:24:14when he was
00:24:153 years old
00:24:16so
00:24:17this 3 years old
00:24:18incident
00:24:20my mother used to tell
00:24:22that
00:24:23he was your mother
00:24:24and I was your mother
00:24:26so
00:24:27that maternal instinct
00:24:28flowed
00:24:29from her
00:24:30to him
00:24:31also
00:24:32so
00:24:33I am not strict
00:24:35and assertive
00:24:37but
00:24:40like all mothers
00:24:41I am a concerned mother
00:24:42I love my son
00:24:43and
00:24:44whatever I can do
00:24:45for him
00:24:46I will do for him
00:24:47through my life
00:24:48and I think
00:24:49each and every mother
00:24:50believes that
00:24:51does that
00:24:52I think mothers are warriors
00:24:54warriors
00:24:55absolutely
00:24:56and
00:24:57I think
00:24:58that
00:24:59you can do
00:25:00what you can do
00:25:01for your mother
00:25:02this is not
00:25:03that
00:25:04you have to give it back
00:25:05to her
00:25:06but
00:25:07it is one
00:25:08unconditional love
00:25:09it is the true example
00:25:10of what is love
00:25:12so
00:25:13and
00:25:15love
00:25:16and
00:25:17love
00:25:18and
00:25:19love
00:25:20and
00:25:21then
00:25:22you will
00:25:23miss
00:25:24and
00:25:26you are
00:25:27working
00:25:28and
00:25:29you are
00:25:30working
00:25:31and
00:25:32you are
00:25:33working
00:25:34and
00:25:35you are
00:25:36working
00:25:37in this generation
00:25:38and
00:25:39generation by generation
00:25:40changes
00:25:41and
00:25:42we are
00:25:43growing
00:25:44and
00:25:45sometimes
00:25:46mothers
00:25:47have guilt
00:25:48always
00:25:49on a guilt trip
00:25:50that
00:25:51I have left my child
00:25:52and
00:25:53I am still here
00:25:54and
00:25:55half of the mind
00:25:56is
00:25:57that
00:25:58that
00:25:59will miss me
00:26:00so
00:26:01it keeps going
00:26:02and
00:26:03what
00:26:04message
00:26:05is
00:26:06because
00:26:07you have served
00:26:08Indian Army
00:26:09and
00:26:10lead a straight
00:26:11and disciplined
00:26:12life
00:26:13and
00:26:14I have seen my child
00:26:15and explained
00:26:16and my mother
00:26:17also has enough time
00:26:18to give us
00:26:19so
00:26:20if you can give us
00:26:21a parenting tip
00:26:22as well
00:26:23I feel
00:26:24that
00:26:25when
00:26:26you are a mother
00:26:31firstly
00:26:32not even
00:26:33a mother
00:26:34a person
00:26:35you have to be
00:26:36very authentic
00:26:37in your dealing
00:26:38not just
00:26:39with
00:26:40who
00:26:41is
00:26:42your child
00:26:43you have
00:26:44authenticity
00:26:46or honesty
00:26:47or sincerity
00:26:48you know
00:26:49you live by example
00:26:50if
00:26:51you set that example
00:26:52in your children
00:26:53that
00:26:54you are
00:26:55a working mother
00:26:57you are
00:26:58going out
00:26:59and working
00:27:00you are taking care
00:27:01of the house
00:27:02you are taking care of
00:27:03the kid
00:27:04you will see
00:27:05your children
00:27:06mostly
00:27:07it doesn't happen
00:27:08that you are talking
00:27:09to the children
00:27:10but what you do
00:27:11you will learn from
00:27:12that
00:27:13you will learn from
00:27:14that
00:27:15you will learn from
00:27:16your work
00:27:17and
00:27:18your children
00:27:19will imbibe it
00:27:20okay
00:27:21every
00:27:22person
00:27:23has his journey
00:27:24he may not be successful
00:27:25today
00:27:26or
00:27:27he may
00:27:28travel
00:27:30but
00:27:31like
00:27:32i am
00:27:33odd
00:27:34by my mother
00:27:36i feel
00:27:37she was like a god
00:27:38to me
00:27:39i feel like a god
00:27:40i feel like a god
00:27:41your children
00:27:42will come
00:27:43but
00:27:44the fact is
00:27:45that
00:27:46that
00:27:47you are
00:27:48authentic
00:27:49strong
00:27:50and loving
00:27:51strong
00:27:52and loving
00:27:53can be
00:27:54strong
00:27:55and loving
00:27:56as well
00:27:57as well
00:27:58as well
00:27:59as well
00:28:00that is important
00:28:01that
00:28:02other
00:28:03mobile phone
00:28:04or
00:28:05social media
00:28:06and all that
00:28:07i think
00:28:08that is a bigger problem
00:28:09which has to be addressed
00:28:10by the government
00:28:11that
00:28:12we restrict those things
00:28:13to the children
00:28:14and
00:28:15always
00:28:16give the right advice
00:28:17to the children
00:28:18follow
00:28:19or not
00:28:20it is their path
00:28:21their journey
00:28:22and
00:28:23we don't know what will happen
00:28:24next moment
00:28:25so
00:28:26let the journey
00:28:27unfold
00:28:28there will be anxiety
00:28:30that
00:28:31it is not going to be hyper
00:28:32or
00:28:33it is not going to be in the gym
00:28:34or
00:28:35it is not going to be a mother
00:28:37this is a mother
00:28:39she will always be like that
00:28:40but
00:28:41enjoy this feeling also
00:28:43lucky are the people who are able to
00:28:46be a mother to anyone
00:28:48whether it is an adopted child
00:28:50if it is a biological mother
00:28:52i think
00:28:53it is such a lovely feeling
00:28:54me
00:28:55and
00:28:56a few years ago
00:28:57that i was a mother
00:28:58i never used to like children
00:28:59i used to have gynecologist
00:29:00i never used to like children
00:29:01i used to have like children
00:29:02i used to have fun
00:29:03i used to be hanging out
00:29:04but the moment i had my own child
00:29:05everything turned around
00:29:07everything turned around
00:29:08my entire personality changed
00:29:10तो और ऐसा भी नहीं कहूंगी कि जस्ट बिकॉज आम बिलोजिकल मदर ऐसा होता है
00:29:17जो लूग अडॉप्ट करते हैं, मैंने इतनी सारी जगह देखा है जहां पर पहला बच्चा अडॉप्ट किया
00:29:23और विदिन तू यह देलीडी डिलिवर्ड हरों कि युकि वो जो
00:29:29कि अच्छु मेटनल फिलिंग है यह जिस एमोशन से उस बच्चे को पाला
00:29:34तथ इसल्फ इसल्फ स्टेबलाइज ओनर ह्मोट उसके कॉर्टसौल लेज जीरो हो गये
00:29:39यह बिलकुल कम हो गये और शी में अपल की बच्छिव गया
00:29:42So being a mother, having that feeling of being a mother itself is the most wonderful feeling
00:29:48आपकी कॉन्वसेशन से ये तुम जानगे कि अरन गाने कॉलेजिस
00:29:54यो मुझे तो पता है, हमारे व्यूवर्स को भी पता चल गया
00:29:56आपको सिर्फ मा नहीं है, आप मा बना भी रही है
00:30:01लोगों को, मालब दियार इन शॉट की आप उनकी हलप करें उस पूरी जर्णीम की प्रेगनेंसी में उनकी डिलीवरी में
00:30:08अगर मैं इसकी ही बात करूँ तो आजकल प्रेगनेंसी को लेकर भी काफी कॉम्टिकेशन सा जाते हैं
00:30:17काफी आई-विए यह बहुत सारे और भी प्रोसेस के थ्रू लोग बहुत ही कहते हैं उसको टॉर्चरिस वो प्रोसेस रहता है
00:30:26बहुत डिले भी करती हैं लड़किया प्रेगनेंसी को शादी प्रेगनेंसी एवरीधिंग
00:30:32आपको यह,ि हेल्थ प्रोस्पेक्टिव से यह, यह, बायोजिकल प्रोस्पेक्टिव से वो कितना ठीक है
00:30:41यह जो कि घ्नरेशन चीजरे चीज़े होती रहती है तो अजो मैंपनी है
00:30:45पिए व मधे इन हो सकर्पेल कि ए यह झालता जही गईगा हैं
00:30:48As a gynecologist, I would say that it is always better to conceive early
00:30:5330 years old, इस तक आपका पहला बच्चा तो ही जाना चाहिए
00:30:57As a gynecologist
00:30:59But if you talk to me personally, I think women are now growing
00:31:06They have their ambitions, they are fulfilling them, they are much stronger
00:31:10वो गर काम भी करें हैं, भार का भी करें हैं
00:31:13इसा नहीं कहूंग, boys नहीं करते हैं
00:31:16So we are talking of gender equality, we are talking of inclusion
00:31:20We are talking of taking an action, जो कि इस बार का women's day का थीम था
00:31:25So accelerate action
00:31:27So if that process happens, तो उसकी साथ थोड़ा बहुत हमारे को payback तो करना ही पड़ेगा
00:31:34So if you are a child in 35, तो chances हैं कि problems बढ़ेंगी
00:31:40आपकी pregnancy हो रही है, तो complications की chances बढ़ेंगी
00:31:44It is a very personal thing if someone wants to deliver at 35, 40 or IVF से और भी आगे
00:31:52It is a very personal thing
00:31:54But as a gynecologist, I would want people to deliver by 30, 30 तो तक पाला बच्चा तो होना ही जाए
00:32:02बाकी, lot of things are available and I am a gynecologist
00:32:06I have a clinic at Anandiketan, इसुनास गायनाइका, you are most welcome to come
00:32:10I have a clinic at Anandiketan, इसुनास गयनाइका, you are most welcome to come
00:32:12And it is actually my mother's clinic, 50 years की clinic है, which the legacy I have taken forward
00:32:20And I am a lot into women wellness and cancer awareness because I myself am a cancer survivor
00:32:28And I feel like I can give a good opinion and consultation about various diseases, women's diseases, women's problems
00:32:39I think that's my goal
00:32:42So, I have heard your stories that you have to kill every day
00:32:46With that girl, with that little child, you are now a gynecologist, a renowned gynecologist
00:32:51You have served in Indianamico
00:32:53So, this journey, the professional journey you have to inspire you
00:32:58Because your mother is also a doctor
00:33:00So, you will also add your legacy
00:33:02So, how did this journey happen?
00:33:04I mean, this is such a badmarsh girl, a small girl
00:33:07Now she is serving as a gynecologist in Indian Army as well
00:33:11So, I am the 16th doctor in my family
00:33:14I have all doctors in my house
00:33:16So, if you are sitting on the table, there is a whole case discussion
00:33:19It's like that
00:33:21So, thankfully, it doesn't happen
00:33:23And when I was much younger, I wanted to become a Kathak dancer
00:33:29And I learnt Kathak for almost 12 years
00:33:32And when I reached 9th, 10th, my mother said
00:33:38Now you have to study Kathak, you have to be a doctor
00:33:40And you have to be a doctor
00:33:42In our time, it didn't happen
00:33:43Today, if I tell my son that you will be a doctor
00:33:46Then she said, please keep quiet
00:33:48So, at that time, either you would be a doctor, engineer or teacher
00:33:52These were the three options you had
00:33:54So, till about 9th, I was a very average student
00:33:58Because I didn't study
00:33:59I mean, as much as I was afraid of my mother
00:34:01So, I was not interested in playing field
00:34:05I was interested in playing field
00:34:06I was interested in dance
00:34:07I was interested in extracurricular activities
00:34:09But for studies, I didn't study
00:34:11But for 10th, somehow, I got a warning
00:34:15That if you didn't pass with a good mark
00:34:19Then you will repeat class
00:34:21And with that fear, that my friends will go next year
00:34:25And I will be a junior
00:34:27So, because of that fear, I studied the last team
00:34:31And somehow, I got up to 80%
00:34:33Which nobody believed
00:34:35You don't believe me
00:34:36If you don't believe me
00:34:37My brother has received results
00:34:39So, outside school, I didn't go
00:34:41I was hiding in the car
00:34:42And my brother went and saw
00:34:44And when he came back
00:34:45Like brothers, he said, 80% of his
00:34:48So, I knew you were joking
00:34:50But then we came to know
00:34:52And that impetus I got
00:34:55That I was able to do this
00:34:59So, let me try
00:35:00If it is possible
00:35:01And I will be able to do
00:35:02And believe me
00:35:03If you look at any other thing
00:35:05Unless you don't work consistently in that thing
00:35:09You don't keep discipline
00:35:11Which I eventually learned
00:35:13Then you cannot achieve things
00:35:16You have to be consistent
00:35:18You have to be hard working
00:35:19People say, smart hard work
00:35:21No
00:35:32You have to be 100%
00:35:34Or maybe 120%
00:35:36So, this attitude of 120% came from definitely my mother
00:35:41Then, of course, when I got married
00:35:43My mother-in-law was also like that
00:35:45She is again a renowned doctor
00:35:49इन फार्ट उनों ने मेरी मदर की क्लिनिक दाट कराय थी
00:35:53वोओ वाँ
00:35:54डॉक्तर सरी and she was also very inspiring
00:35:57तो
00:35:59अवेंचली मेरे को मेरे जरुनी में हमेशा ऐसे लोग मिले
00:36:02जोनों हमेशा मेरे को ये बोला कि
00:36:04तो यू यू कैन दो बेटर
00:36:06जाये तुम अपना
00:36:07मेरे मेरा बच्छा थोटा था मैं सुचती थी छाँ कि वाज्टी करोगे
00:36:18यह दूद आपकी जोर्णी में रदूड़ निवी निवल परस gözांग है
00:36:24वल्र से दूद बच्छा थे लिए घृटी को पीजिग पर सब्सक्राइब
00:36:27So in your journey, there will never be one person who will inspire you or take you to another level of thinking process
00:36:36It is all in the mind
00:36:37So thinking process, there will be so many people who will help and I am really thankful to all of them
00:36:43But most of all, as I will always say, I am so thankful to the Almighty
00:36:48I can only say God has been so kind in my journey
00:36:52That whatever blessings are and all blessings are
00:36:56Thank you, thanks to all
00:36:58After my birthday
00:37:00So how Indian Army came into picture?
00:37:03Okay, this is very interesting
00:37:05We didn't join each other
00:37:08And because both families are doctors, they open the nursing homes
00:37:13It was such a thing
00:37:15But my husband and I have given the UPSC exam that we did not clear
00:37:20So we had exams of short service commission
00:37:23Which we incidentally cleared together
00:37:25So we were able to live together
00:37:27So we were able to live together
00:37:28And that was the reason why we joined Army
00:37:31That we have to live together
00:37:32And our first posting was in Kasauly
00:37:35It was like a honeymoon posting
00:37:37And when we were wearing Forge's uniform
00:37:40The fact that I joined Army was that
00:37:43Yes, you will get a lot of pride in Forge
00:37:46And as a lady officer, I had seen my sister-in-law who had joined me before
00:37:50My husband's sister
00:37:53So she had joined at Kroetki
00:37:55So we had to meet her
00:37:56And I had seen her in her uniform
00:37:58And in her saddle
00:37:59Oh, it was
00:38:00She looked so elegant
00:38:02And when we were crying
00:38:03And she said
00:38:04And she said
00:38:05And she said
00:38:06And she said
00:38:07Yes, madam
00:38:08And I said
00:38:09Yeah, this is it
00:38:10We have to do this
00:38:11Without realizing
00:38:12What I was getting into
00:38:14I was getting into something much bigger
00:38:17Just that uniform
00:38:18I will wear the uniform
00:38:19It's glamour
00:38:20Like Lakshmay
00:38:21Like Hrithik Roshan
00:38:22He didn't even know
00:38:23What he was doing
00:38:24But the moment I wore the uniform
00:38:26Things changed
00:38:27The fact that you are serving the Indian Army
00:38:32You will post it in such a place
00:38:34Like in Tanga
00:38:35Where there are doctors
00:38:37There is something like
00:38:39Something like
00:38:40A patient who has bleed
00:38:41Who has a ectopic pregnancy
00:38:43Who is going to die
00:38:44Who is a 19-year-old
00:38:45We have to save her
00:38:47And I am not just talking about myself
00:38:49I am not just talking about myself
00:38:50All doctors
00:38:51Who are in the periphery
00:38:52Or in the Fog
00:38:53Who are in the
00:38:54Where there are
00:38:55Government facilities
00:38:56There is no
00:38:57There is Fog
00:38:58There is Fog
00:38:59And they are saving
00:39:00And they are saving
00:39:01Day in
00:39:02Day out
00:39:03So I think
00:39:04That is the most important service
00:39:05To the humankind
00:39:06Mankind
00:39:07Is not going to happen
00:39:08So
00:39:09To start with
00:39:10I started with
00:39:11The intention
00:39:12To wear uniform
00:39:13And to walk
00:39:14And all that
00:39:15But
00:39:16Forge
00:39:17The
00:39:18Who has made
00:39:19And made
00:39:20I am
00:39:21At the time
00:39:22When I was at
00:39:23School
00:39:24So
00:39:25When teachers
00:39:26Will recite
00:39:27And read
00:39:28So I pray
00:39:29That do not
00:39:30Because I was to stumble
00:39:31आँने को शिर्ट आदिता है।
00:39:34मुझे इतना डर लगता थै कि चार पीरियद की बढ़ बच घा हो ड़ा है।
00:39:38बट वर्ट ने इतना सिखाया है
00:39:41हर चीज में आपको कभी जाना पर रहा है आपको ऑसे अधर जाना पर रहा है।
00:39:46और छोन बर आपड़ी मिरंग साहएं अभान आपको जा के सीच देनी पड़ने तेनी पड़ी है, हम को पाटेज में आपको पाटेज में आपको सुछली कोतने होच होचली
00:39:55जा वस्तर सकत सी को करेशा है। जा के ऑनक पड़य।
00:39:59थेस अपको आपकर सूजिए
00:40:01आपकोस, there is no doubt on that, there is no doubt, I miss my uniform terribly, and अभी हम हमारी हर साल एंसी कोड़े पे हम लोग जाते हैं, as ex-servicemen, I love to go there and meet everybody.
00:40:14Mother's की तो बात होती है, Mother's पेटे poems लिखे जाते हैं, गाने बनते हैं, Supermoms कह जाते हैं, Mother's दे इसलिप्रेट भी बात गाने बनते हैं, लेकिन आपको लगते है कि एक Supermom को बनाने के पीछे, एक Fatherly figure जो होता है, एक Husband का figure भी होतना है इतना है, या Maa कुद में complete होती है?
00:40:33या Maa It is not just about one person, as I said, कोई भी चीज़ होता है तो इस नो बनाने बनाने परसों, इस इस इनाहिकीट कि आपको जो होते हैं, तो इस नहीं परसों अधिनदेने है कि एक समय को बनाने है, तो इस दिनाओ समय को जो है कर दो किसा समय को जानेहिकर आपको एकी हैं, तो टीलापकर
00:41:03our marriage, so it is bound to happen. But yes, to give you that insight that you can improve
00:41:11something, my husband has always been there. He has always given me that impetus in me
00:41:16that I can think that I have a chance to improve further. So, he has a role in it.
00:41:23One good thing, behind every woman, every man, there is a successful woman. Behind an unsuccessful
00:41:33man, there are two women. But behind a successful woman, there is a man. It could be her father,
00:41:45it could be her husband, it could be a friend or it could be a son. In my case, I have been
00:41:50very lucky that I had all four. And I want to tell you that when I won this pageant,
00:41:58Mrs. India Subcontinent in 2024, that was an India-Pakistan match on the 12th of October
00:42:0723. And I took Rohin with me that let's go and see in Shangri-La. It was a whole road
00:42:15sunsaan because it was a India-Pakistan match. And I asked that lady that they had called
00:42:20me. He said, what time will it take? It will take 2 hours. I looked at him and I said,
00:42:25let's go back and drink coffee. Because I was very, I had a fear that when I was 15 years old,
00:42:30I will do it or not, I will all laugh and all that, whatever. So, he said, no, you go inside,
00:42:36face your fear. So, in my life, I got all these men, be it my father, be it my husband, be it
00:42:45with my son. They have always pushed me to the next level. So, I really owe it to them.
00:42:49I mean, thank you. So, you are a gynecologist, you have served your Indian name, you are a super
00:42:59mom, breast cancer survivor. We all are super moms. You are also a super mom. And now comes
00:43:05the page. Now comes the page. I had done everything. How did it come and why did it come?
00:43:13I think that my mother was the desire of becoming a Kathak dancer and being on stage. It was
00:43:21coming from somewhere. So, it just happened. When I was coming out of thought, I thought, what
00:43:29should I do? So, I was searching for Nauki.com. Let's see. I was to go into teaching at the ACMS Delhi.
00:43:39But, I got a job there. But somehow, I was going through and I saw that senior gynecologist
00:43:46were paying very less in civil. So, the next ad which I saw was of Mrs. India's subcontinent.
00:43:51And that is how I actually started. Okay. But, you know what? There are so many people
00:44:04around you. As I said, your inner circle has to be the one who is your team and who is
00:44:11cheering you to do your best and become the 2.0 version. So, when I selected this audition
00:44:18and went back to the audition, this very good friend of mine, Rakhi ma'am, she said,
00:44:24look, I was fat. So, she said, look, because of your dimples, there will be no title for you.
00:44:30But, you will not get the crown. Very straight off on face, that if you have food, you will not
00:44:36get the crown. And for the next three months, during my dinner, I used to have only
00:44:43lockage use. Please don't do that. And I lost about 8 kgs. Next, which was our grooming,
00:44:50that was at MAC, teaching us how to do our makeup, which I never knew how to do. And
00:44:56there, I could see the envious eyes of the other contestants because they knew that she is
00:45:00back in the game. And from there, see, you have to manifest. When my child was 10 years old,
00:45:08when I was putting injections in the morning, when I woke up, I would puncture him a little bit,
00:45:14and I would say, hey Bhawan, let me get the disease. I literally manifested my cancer.
00:45:21And now, when I lost so much of weight, I worked towards it, I did not say that because I won the
00:45:28crown, I started manifesting my crown. So, this is your choice completely. You manifest the crown
00:45:35or cancel the crown. This is your choice. This is your journey. This is your life. This is a single
00:45:41life. Do whatever you can have. Have the biggest bucket list. Whether you are a mom, whether you are
00:45:48a sister, whether you are a daughter, just go get whatever you want in your life and get it complete.
00:45:54If I am talking about myself, I am very close to my mom. And it is a code that daughters are the best
00:46:02friends of their mother. But we both are mother of a son. How is this bond? Because I am still
00:46:10figuring out. And I want to know about yours. I think it is the most wonderful bond. I wish I also had a
00:46:18daughter. There is no doubt on that. But the kind of fun which I have with Rohin is another level.
00:46:26You know, I am not a very good cook. I would love to cook but I make a lot of food. So,
00:46:32it is when I come back home tired and he comes back from his gym, I tell him,
00:46:39he is the one who actually cooks for me. And he cooks wonderfully when. He is the one who cooks for me.
00:46:46It is amazing. And yesterday only, he was telling me, I remember that one day, I remember
00:46:54that one day, I had made a girl of suji and she didn't get out of it. But he does not even remember
00:47:01that one day. So, I really love the way he cooks. The way he takes care. It was my birthday.
00:47:10So, this ring which I am wearing is his. I couldn't have even thought that I would
00:47:15even buy something so thoughtfully. I would buy a book or a ring. And he got me a bracelet also.
00:47:21It is a lot of emotional questions. Especially for the mother's sons. So, I am just enjoying it all.
00:47:30Whatever tampering I get from my father or my son is amazing. Amazing. I definitely miss my mom.
00:47:39But yeah, life has to move on. The show must go on. So, that's how it is.
00:47:45How did your father live in the upbringing? What was his role in the upbringing? Or what was your
00:47:53bond in the upbringing?
00:47:54In the upbringing of my father's father, he would save me from killing me. That was the first role.
00:48:00Secondly, I have, you know, you were saying that you should kill me or not.
00:48:06I probably took my father seriously. Because my father never killed me.
00:48:12So, when I started going around with my husband, although we were family friends and all,
00:48:17I felt the most fear of my dad's father. That if you know how to do it, you know how to do it.
00:48:23Only because of the fact that he never killed.
00:48:26He never killed me.
00:48:27He never killed me.
00:48:28He never killed me.
00:48:28So, I respect him immensely and I love him immensely.
00:48:35He is one person. I won't compare with anyone. But no one compares to him.
00:48:42Any man in my life cannot compare to my father. He is such a cushion.
00:48:48If I sweat for things or that, he is there.
00:48:52No, everything is fine. So, he will always tell mommy, when I was not very good in studies,
00:48:58Bindu ki maa jab jab jo jo ho na hai, tab tab so so ho ta hai.
00:49:02And, he would make the environment so light. So, when the environment is so light,
00:49:07you are able to go at your pace and achieve things. So, my father had a great role then and now.
00:49:14Now, as he is getting old, he is losing his muscle mass and all that. So, we started exercising together.
00:49:20Oh wow.
00:49:21And, we are getting back to the grid. The loss of my mother because he was really in love with her.
00:49:27I have not seen a man being in love with some woman like this. So, I am sure he misses her a lot.
00:49:32But, we all are together. We all are a family. We all are a team. So, we will cross this hurdle.
00:49:40We will miss her. But, we will cross this challenge.
00:49:45Now, she is an angel. So, definitely.
00:49:47She will never be an angel. Believe me on that. Sorry, mom.
00:49:54I am sorry. But, she may be a guiding star.
00:49:58She is a, she is my heart beat. I will. She will always be. You know,
00:50:04in this whole conversation, the maximum thing is happening in this whole conversation.
00:50:08So, she is still alive. She is there. Always.
00:50:12So, how did you have a phase in life when you were detected with breast cancer?
00:50:17How did that happen? How did that happen? How did that happen? How did that happen?
00:50:21And, those people who are surviving, or are you seeing them? What did that happen to them?
00:50:26What did that happen to them?
00:50:28Now, it's a life journey.
00:50:30You know, this is one of my favorite questions.
00:50:32And, as we were saying, that we are talking about popcorn.
00:50:38Actually, this is one topic that we are talking about popcorn.
00:50:42Because, when we listen to cancer names,
00:50:45we can only see that at the end of the tunnel, there is death.
00:50:50That is what.
00:50:52Now, we cannot deny that cancer is so rampant in our society.
00:50:59There are so many people. Every third or fourth person has cancer.
00:51:04We do not know what it is happening.
00:51:06That is even more scary.
00:51:08So, in my journey, cancer has been...
00:51:12I am a Punjabi.
00:51:13And, in Punjabi's life, there is a little bit of emotional drama.
00:51:18So, going by that journey,
00:51:22in COVID, I was diagnosed as a case of breast cancer.
00:51:25I actually, as a doctor, I will tell you,
00:51:28a little lump in my right axilla.
00:51:33And, in 15-20 days, I felt that lump in my breast.
00:51:37And, even though I am a doctor,
00:51:39I tried to ignore this thing.
00:51:44I did not have antibiotics.
00:51:46If I have pain, I will take it.
00:51:47I will not go to the doctor.
00:51:49I will not go to the doctor.
00:51:49I mean, I have doubts about oncologists.
00:51:52So, I will not go to the doctor.
00:51:53So, as a doctor, I have thought about it.
00:51:55If I had breast cancer,
00:51:57then I will tell you,
00:51:57if I had breast cancer,
00:51:59then I will tell you,
00:51:59if I will go to my colleagues,
00:52:02if I will tell you that this is my breast.
00:52:04So, being a doctor, I felt this for about two weeks or three weeks.
00:52:08I have dodged this thing.
00:52:10So, the normal public, the normal ladies,
00:52:13they will dodge that much.
00:52:15I mean, as it is, ladies' habit is to eat it,
00:52:18but when it comes to their own self,
00:52:21they don't take care.
00:52:22They don't take care of their bodies.
00:52:24They don't take care of their mind.
00:52:26They don't take care of anything about themselves.
00:52:28But it should be the other way round.
00:52:30You know, if you take care of your body,
00:52:33and you take care of your mind,
00:52:34especially mind and mental state,
00:52:37you can take care of your whole family.
00:52:40So, this happened to me,
00:52:42that eventually,
00:52:43when I thought that
00:52:44after taking antibiotics,
00:52:46the swelling is not going,
00:52:48I went to the hospital.
00:52:50At that time, my husband,
00:52:51Army Hospital Researching Referral,
00:52:53which is our apex hospital in Delhi,
00:52:57was posted there, luckily for me.
00:52:59And this also, my son told me.
00:53:01Rohin told me,
00:53:02if you don't go,
00:53:03I will tell my father.
00:53:04And then, he told me.
00:53:06So, I then went
00:53:07and got myself examined.
00:53:09Within a day or two,
00:53:11he diagnosed me.
00:53:13And the next five days,
00:53:15my lumpectomy,
00:53:16which was my tissue,
00:53:18the breast,
00:53:18I removed it.
00:53:20Along with that,
00:53:20after six months,
00:53:22I took chemotherapy
00:53:23and then I took radiotherapy.
00:53:25So, about eight months of treatment,
00:53:26and then I was full of ganji.
00:53:28I had different looks.
00:53:29Yeah, now when you think of it,
00:53:31it seems like a very interesting journey.
00:53:35But when I was going through it,
00:53:37definitely, I was very scared.
00:53:40Covid times,
00:53:42and sometimes 20,000 people are dying,
00:53:45sometimes 30,000 people.
00:53:46So, at one time,
00:53:47sometimes,
00:53:48I felt like I will die from Covid
00:53:52or cancer.
00:53:53But the next day,
00:53:55when I woke up,
00:53:56and I saw the sun,
00:53:57and I started doing yoga,
00:53:58and also doing yoga.
00:54:00Believe me,
00:54:01they cannot be anyone more thankful than me.
00:54:04And it is so important to have that attitude of gratitude.
00:54:08I have manifested cancer in one time.
00:54:12I manifested my healing.
00:54:15And along with that,
00:54:18being grateful for seeing this moment
00:54:21and the next moment,
00:54:22I think, is very important.
00:54:24So, cancer can happen to anybody.
00:54:27I know.
00:54:28And the journey is long.
00:54:29It's not like it takes a long time.
00:54:33But, you'll have to keep moving.
00:54:36No one wants.
00:54:37If you want to get out of it,
00:54:38then you have to fight it.
00:54:40You have to become a warrior.
00:54:41One warrior mindset is very important in life.
00:54:44Whether he is a man or a man,
00:54:46everybody has to fight the journey.
00:54:48And,
00:54:48by taking the word of cancer,
00:54:50don't be worried.
00:54:52As a doctor,
00:54:52I feel,
00:54:54one needs to just modify your lifestyle.
00:54:56You are a normal person.
00:54:58If you keep your weight check,
00:55:00you don't drink alcohol,
00:55:02and you don't smoke cigarettes.
00:55:04So, these are some risk factors
00:55:06that you are not doing.
00:55:08So, you can change from cancer.
00:55:10So, you keep yourself physically fit.
00:55:15Mentally sane.
00:55:16Your mental health is the most important.
00:55:19And, at the same time,
00:55:20spiritually also keep yourself perfect.
00:55:24So, in that thing,
00:55:25I would like to mention that
00:55:27I started doing a meditation.
00:55:29which is a deep mind sound resonance technique,
00:55:33which we call Brahmari,
00:55:35which many of us do,
00:55:37and breathing techniques,
00:55:39which has no side effects in my chemo time.
00:55:44So, I would urge,
00:55:45that our children,
00:55:47that at that stage,
00:55:48yoga, meditation,
00:55:50any form of physical exercise,
00:55:52they should start to do.
00:55:54That you should keep your medical history
00:55:57for 20 years of your medical history.
00:56:00So, I got this out of this.
00:56:02Another thing which I actually faced,
00:56:03there were two challenges
00:56:05that I actually faced during my cancer.
00:56:08One was,
00:56:09while I started my chemo.
00:56:12In my mind,
00:56:13it was that I have to fight it
00:56:15and I have to get out of this situation.
00:56:17Because,
00:56:18once again, Rohin was in class 11-12,
00:56:20so, I didn't want to die.
00:56:22Definitely.
00:56:22So, I was in that mindset
00:56:24that I have to win.
00:56:26But,
00:56:26when my chemo started,
00:56:28I realized that
00:56:29I have to modify something in my lifestyle
00:56:32so that I can heal it.
00:56:33And, that is when yoga came in.
00:56:36Yoga and meditation helped me immensely.
00:56:39And,
00:56:40as my third, second chemo happened,
00:56:42I cut my hair short.
00:56:44I had very beautiful hair.
00:56:45And, I thought,
00:56:46I will get my hair off.
00:56:48By third chemo,
00:56:49I started losing my hair.
00:56:51And,
00:56:51I cut a very small hair.
00:56:53After that,
00:56:54I actually went into depression
00:56:56for about 2-3 days.
00:56:58People go into depression.
00:57:00Depression is something
00:57:01that needs to be treated.
00:57:03Guys,
00:57:03go to a doctor.
00:57:04Go to a psychiatrist.
00:57:06There is nothing wrong.
00:57:07You can come to a gynecologist.
00:57:09You can go to a neurologist.
00:57:10You can go to a eye specialist.
00:57:12Go to a psychiatrist.
00:57:13If you have some mental issues,
00:57:15some depression.
00:57:17Don't let it go to that far
00:57:19that someone commits suicide.
00:57:20Correct.
00:57:21So, those 2-3 days,
00:57:23when I was in depression,
00:57:25my son noticed it.
00:57:26He knew that she is having a problem.
00:57:29And, it is a big thing for women.
00:57:31Not women,
00:57:32even men.
00:57:34And,
00:57:35he just took me to the washroom.
00:57:36We were able to go to the covid times.
00:57:39He took me to the washroom.
00:57:40He just shaved off my head.
00:57:42He said,
00:57:42Now you have to do what to do.
00:57:45This is it.
00:57:45Now you have to start healing.
00:57:47And, believe me,
00:57:48it was nirvana for me.
00:57:49It was a challenge.
00:57:50It was a nirvana.
00:57:52We talk about glamour.
00:57:54Mrs. India's Subcontinent.
00:57:56It was great.
00:57:57Boss,
00:57:58he needs to be a life.
00:57:59The next moment is to be a life.
00:58:02So, you have to use the moment
00:58:04to best use it.
00:58:06Be safe,
00:58:08best achieve things.
00:58:10And, also,
00:58:11do service to a human life.
00:58:16It will always be.
00:58:18This expression of,
00:58:20I am giving venus this.
00:58:21This is my contribution to the society.
00:58:24कि cancer हो सकता है, diseases हो सकती है, challenges आ सकते हैं,
00:58:29but just have a warrior mindset and face them just outrightly and briefly, that is important.
00:58:35In short, that if you are alive, then you should feel that you are alive, that you are alive.
00:58:40And in cancer time, soon after this 8 months, I was very happy that everything was done,
00:58:46and all the chemo, wemo, everything was done, but I had a lot of anxiety in my mind,
00:58:52कि पिषले 10 महीने में, मैंने कोई पेशेंट ने किया, कोई पेशेंट ने देखा,
00:58:57विल आ बेएब तो करी ओन? And by this time, I was posted at Army Hospital.
00:59:00देखें, कैंसर की वज़े से, I came back to Delhi, and I was posted at the Apex Hospital.
00:59:06What more can I ask for? And I was having this anxiety, कि मैं आगे काम करूँए या ने करूँए या ने करूँए,
00:59:12मुझे, विल आ बेएब तो अपरेट हो सब्सक्राइब? That's the time when मेरे जो गुरू है, Dr. Tangri,
00:59:19Kalal Tangri, he's the gynec oncologist, मैं हमेशा उनका अनाम नेती हो,
00:59:23and I'm so thankful to him. He sat me down and he told me,
00:59:27मैं तुमारा गांसर नेती हो चुका है, कि तुमारी की पुरिष्ट्रीमें नाव यो गिन तुफित वर्क,
00:59:34and believe me Sukriti, I started working.
00:59:37चार गंठी मैं काम कर्थी थी, तुम्हारा कैन्सरा ने चार गंटी मैं काम कर्थी,
00:59:39And...
00:59:40We had always been piel of the time, I had never done such a lot that time, I had to go up the whole time, I had to be damaged
00:59:44My leg became glimps of my leg
00:59:47And thankfully I had no head injury
00:59:49But I kept working, you know, consistently working
00:59:53And by the time I got out of the army in November 23, I was working almost 15 hours a day
01:00:0015 hours in the OT, 14-15 hours
01:00:03And what happened through this challenge was, I developed my skills also
01:00:09मेरी तेखनिकल स्किल्स है वो भी इंप्रूवब ही
01:00:11मेरा कहने का यह मेनिंग है कि आपके चैलेंगे हमेशा है
01:00:15आपको अपरचुनिटीज हमेशा मिलेंगे
01:00:18जस्ट नो वेन तो पिक, वाट तो पिक
01:00:21और वाट तो आद तो यॉर अद्वांटेज
01:00:23दें तो भी और यह आदेखने के दो कि अडिए जिता करें।
01:00:29यह कि लाइफ लेगे जिन्दगी नाम मिलेगी दुबारा इसको जी रो
01:00:33वेलकॉब वेलकॉब
01:00:34आपके जो पूरे कॉन्वरे सेशन्स में ना कही आरे एक टर्म यूज़ है
01:00:38मैनिफेस्ट बार बार आपने उसको बोला उसको एंफसाइज करते हूए बोला है मैनिफेस्ट जो आजकल सोचल मीडिया पर बहुत जाद है वाइरल गोईड है
01:00:46क्वेशन यह है कि जब किसी की सिचुएशन बहुत ही बुरे हो यह बहुत ही बोलब टफ सिचुएशन में है वो उस टाइम मैनिफेस्ट करना कि सब ठीक हो जाएगा वो एक बहुत ही डिफिकल्ट प्रोसेस है मुझे लगता है कि उस दौरान यह सोचना कि नहीं अभी पैसे �
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01:01:46इस विलबार है, अगर आपका विलबार is strong तो आप कुछ भी मनिफेस्ट कर साथ तो
01:01:52You can manifest and get anything in your life
01:01:55But you'll have to have that mind space
01:01:59और वों किन चीजों से होगा?
01:02:01वो इन चीजों से होगा कि आप नोगा नोगा कर रहे हो,
01:02:03क्मेडिशन कर रहे हो, आपनी बोड़ी का धियन एदफ रहे हो
01:02:06ये लवल रहे लवक भी खेलिए ना के जी कहते जा नहीं की तंनकी।
01:02:13धेलिए को ये चीज चीज अचीज बगा रहत चीज और में पैसे लेने बाता रहे हैं केला में गाल किसलों रहे हैं
01:02:17और मैंनिस्टफेश्ट कर रहे हुग और ये करें एन आफ ले खेल टाहते हैं
01:02:20work for it.
01:02:21You have to have a timeline
01:02:23कि मैं इन शे महिने में यह अचीव करना चाते हूं
01:02:26या इन शे महिने में यह तुपक्का करना ही है
01:02:29Have a timeline, have an audit
01:02:31and just keep moving
01:02:32Keep consistently, जैसे विरात को ली कहते है
01:02:35Keep moving towards your goal
01:02:37Be consistent
01:02:38आसपास लोग होंगे बोलने के
01:02:40क्रितिसाइस करने के यह करने के
01:02:42Thank them for that also
01:02:44But your manifestations
01:02:46will only come through when you work for it
01:02:50Correct
01:02:51So last but not the least
01:02:53My question is
01:02:54I look at a lot of tattoos
01:02:56Do they signify anything?
01:02:58Do they mean anything?
01:03:00And when did you make it?
01:03:02Why did you make it?
01:03:04I have been a very free soul
01:03:07I believe that being an aquarium
01:03:10most of the aquariums are very free and free minded
01:03:14So their expression is very different
01:03:17A lot of people do tattoos
01:03:19But I have about 14 tattoos
01:03:22And each of the tattoos
01:03:25has something to do with my journey of life
01:03:28I will give you only a few
01:03:29because I can't show the address
01:03:31So there is this tattoo on my right side of my chest
01:03:37This is when I just got out of my cancer
01:03:41So this is actually a breast cancer
01:03:44Insignia
01:03:45It's that
01:03:46So similarly
01:03:48There are other tattoos also
01:03:50There is an analome
01:03:52So analome is basically
01:03:53I am a very spiritual person
01:03:55In the beginning you said
01:03:56I got spiritual
01:03:57I have not read many books
01:03:58I have not read many books
01:03:59But I am into that spirituality mode
01:04:01And so this is something to do with a spiritual calling
01:04:07So previously I thought that everything will happen
01:04:11We will do it
01:04:12No no no no
01:04:13There is a destiny
01:04:15There is someone
01:04:16Who is your boss
01:04:18Who are watching
01:04:19Your hands
01:04:20Who manage
01:04:21And hands
01:04:22Don't break
01:04:23So you need to be in that spiritual
01:04:25If you are spiritual
01:04:27If you are mentally sane
01:04:29And you are bodily sane
01:04:31Absolutely
01:04:32All will happen in the end
01:04:36You can walk the dialogue from Shah Rukh Khan
01:04:37कैनात अपके लीस छचेड कर रही है और अंत में सब अन्त हुए जाता है
01:04:43प्रेजा अगर नहीं होता है तो अन्त अन्तjis कर अख यंद आ करता है
01:04:46थे एम अंत होत अच्छान के विह गाती कि लिए सफ़लarin से वार ं�न डाज भर सेघिक मैं आपक ऐस
01:04:54वको बहुत है। अज़ को अगो वो प१िछ ओस जा प्लाव सिर ना को
01:05:01तो विंस और मेप ऐख आङ अगा इंजल फिल न विविंग्स और फिल्स दो बाइस का को
01:05:07so basically a free soul so most of the tattoos are either spiritual or free soul and I tend to
01:05:14I'll get two three or made one dedicated to my mother I've been thinking of it
01:05:22hahaha
01:05:24thank you so much yeah conversation were that one that you think we're anticipating
01:05:29it was a lot of fun
01:05:32but all the best to your life
01:05:34मेश वेगत मुझा उणोग प्रेजा को सब्टेट। और थे किसे अटवाले से लिए वहाई को जब स्रुटिट।
01:05:37मैश तेख मुझा प्रेश तेजा टॉटीट।
01:05:40अज्वरेगट अब टॉटीट।
01:05:40It is great talking to you. You are a very comfortable person
01:05:44and I also wish you a lot more tattoos in life.
01:05:48Absolutely.
01:05:49I would like to thank questa to Bandhina, Imran, Banti, the entire team.
01:05:55Thank you for having me here and giving me this opportunity to talk to you.
01:06:02Now if I am able to spread some awareness
01:06:05be it health, be my journey
01:06:07or something like that, I think
01:06:09I've done my job then. Thank you so much
01:06:11and Jai Hind!