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00:00Sir, my name is Vibhor and from past year I am working as a software engineer in Bangalore
00:10and my question is what we have been taught to run after something in this past phase
00:15life and what I feel is full of FOMO and distraction due to which I find myself lost and distracted.
00:23So, I wanted to ask how can I align my career and ambition with inner satisfaction and contentment?
00:35You said FOMO?
00:36Yes sir.
00:39Thank you, please.
00:46We are all indeed missing out but do we realise what we are missing out on?
00:53It's like one's house is on fire, that's the reason there is nothing on the TV because
01:10the entire house is ablaze and he feels that he is missing out on the cricket match, a huge
01:23FOMO.
01:28The phone is luckier, it happens to have an internal battery.
01:35So, he says you know everybody is right there, some of them are there in the stadium itself,
01:41others are enjoying the live stream. I am the only unfortunate one missing out,
01:46missing out on the cricket match and the house is on fire. Do we realise what we are missing out on?
02:01The fellow is not lying, he is actually missing out on the cricket match but there is something called
02:06perspective. Perspective, no? No?
02:17So, there is a railway platform.
02:23You have paid for the tea
02:25tea and you are waiting for him to deliver. He says five minutes more sir, the tea and the other
02:35stuff you ordered is getting ready. And from the corner of one eye, you can see the train
02:45beginning to crawl away. And you insist you are missing out on the meals. Yes, you are missing out, but on what?
03:02But on what? And not that,
03:04not that one is lying, yes, if one rushes to board the train, one would, yes, miss out on the meal,
03:15the tea and the stuff.
03:21When I know who I am, then I know what is important for me. Knowing oneself does not mean knowing anything
03:29beyond one's misery. Please know this. Because when you say, when you know yourself, you will realise that
03:35you are Shuddha Buddha Atma. No. You look within, there is nothing great you are going to observe.
03:45And that's not bad news. But if you can observe all the rubbish within, the observation itself cleans things up.
03:59Greatness does not have to be imported or cultivated. If the inner rubbish can be cleaned up,
04:11you realise that's all. You don't need an additional thing called greatness. All you need is liberation
04:18from falseness. The process is of negation, reduction.
04:29Rejection. Reject what is not needed, reject what is and what you need is there.
04:42Behind all FOMO, is the fear of missing out on what life has the potential to deliver to each of us.
04:54So, since we don't know ourselves fully enough, so we don't read the message. We don't read our insides.
05:07So, there is a general kind of anxiety, with no specific object whatsoever. A general kind of objectless anxiety.
05:16I am missing out on something. What exactly is that thing? I don't know of. And I'll never admit that I don't know what I'm missing out on.
05:28So, I start pretending that I'm missing out on that particular specific thing.
05:33That the assertion is hollow. It's proven to us every day, every night. Because what you claim to be the object of your desire, is not something that always remains unachievable.
05:55Today, as we stand here, this century, economically, technologically, we are more empowered than human beings ever have been.
06:07So, so many objects of our desire that we very easily obtained today, were things that were unavailable even to kings, just a few centuries back.
06:16Don't we succeed in getting the thing that we desire? Many times, don't we? And that proportion is only increasing.
06:28But does the hollowness go away? What does that prove? That that which you thought of as the thing that you are missing, was not the thing that you were missing.
06:41You are missing something else. You are missing something else.
06:50Hmm? But we don't want to admit what we are really missing.
06:54So, we say, you know, I'm missing new curtains in the house.
06:57The car is missing a new pair of wheels.
07:00I'm desperately missing a salary hike.
07:14And if there is nobody else to paste the missing status on,
07:21then you pick up your phone and some random number from
07:25the contacts list and say, you know, I'm missing you.
07:30Sometimes, you don't even clearly remember the name of the person you dialed.
07:34But you are missing something.
07:40The fellow might happen to be the cop who arrested you, once.
07:50Yes, we are missing something. Let's identify what we are really missing.
07:54And the process is of negation.
07:57You will never come to know the real thing that needs to be and yet is not.
08:03That in some way actually is and yet is not.
08:07You will never come to know of that thing.
08:09If you keep convincing yourself of false objects of desire.
08:15I want this, I want this, I want this, I want this and your time is limited, your energy is limited.
08:23If you rush after all these objects, 70, 80, 90 years,
08:27I want this, you will never come to know of the others.
08:29You will never come to know of the others.
08:31In the blink of an eye.
08:42Thankfully, the thing that we are really missing is not a thing at all.
08:46It is just to relieve yourself of the things that you are not missing.
09:00You see, I stand here.
09:01I stand here.
09:06And somehow,
09:10that's called Jaat Maya.
09:12Maya that occupies you just by the fact, the incident of your birth.
09:20You don't have to do anything to be in its grip.
09:23Because you are born, so it will be there.
09:26So, you take birth and you say,
09:28I'm missing this, I'm missing that, I'm missing that.
09:30The baby is all the time reaching out.
09:32Where is the mother?
09:33And the temperature is not good.
09:36Am I all lonely here?
09:39Is the stuff beneath me a little wet?
09:42No, things are not right.
09:43Things are not right.
09:45And then that continues.
09:50As you grow, you are educated.
09:53This is to be obtained, that is to be obtained, that is to be obtained.
09:58You are missing freedom from that, which you do not need, but still desire.
10:11That's what we are missing out on.
10:13We are missing out on freedom from that, which is not needed, but is still desired.
10:20And if that freedom can be there, then you do not require anything else.
10:32I do not mean to say that we are rushing after small things, while we are missing out on something immense.
10:39No, no, that too would be a misleading imagery.
10:48A human being rushing after toys and this and that.
10:52Let me bring some spices to the kitchen.
10:54Let me watch that new movie.
10:56Let me plan that fancy vacation.
10:59That's the tone usually in spirituality.
11:04You are rushing after all these worldly, mortal, carnal things and you are missing out on Bhagawan.
11:14It's not that you are rushing after small things and missing out on something vast, virat, immense.
11:19No.
11:24That too is a thing of your desire.
11:26That too is a thing of your imagination.
11:28That too is a thing of your lack of consciousness.
11:34Immensity that you can think of is a very petty thing, no?
11:40If I can call something as immense,
11:50a little jaggery.
11:55This big a lump.
11:58And for the aunt, it is, it is immense.
12:04That's how petty we are.
12:06And so, anything that we call as immense is bound to be something very small.
12:15Don't think that there is a great immensity.
12:17You know, some great power beyond Brahman.
12:23And you are missing out on that and your heart is yearning
12:28for one little glimpse of that Virat Rup.
12:34Nice stories, but useless.
12:36They won't help your life.
12:39And your business, your concern is your life, not stories.
12:43You know, we have to bring Adhyatna to where we are, because that's our concern.
12:55When there are these things that we hold as important, as dear, sometimes as sacred,
13:02then we ask ourselves, from where does this value come?
13:07How do I know that this thing is valuable?
13:09Or how do I know that that thing is sacred?
13:12How do I know?
13:16One of contributing to the steep downfall of Pop Spirituality has been the total absence
13:26of epistemology?
13:28Simply put, the question, how do I know?
13:32How do I know?
13:35When you say, but that is important, the question must be, how do I know?
13:39That which you are calling as important has not always been called important.
13:44In fact, today you are calling it important.
13:46You aren't finding the same thing equally important 10 years back.
13:55What's taken as important in one culture, one country, at one time, isn't taken as important,
14:00or valuable, or sacred in another culture, another country, another era.
14:05How do you know something really is?
14:14Then all desires are based on assumptions, because all desires involve an object.
14:22You will desire the object only when first of all, you assume that the object has some value.
14:29We never know that the object has value.
14:31We attribute a value, we project a value.
14:39The label, the price stack comes from us.
14:46We go and put it on the object and then we say, my God, such a valuable object.
14:54Just that we are unconscious when we are attributing that value.
14:58Or, we do not realize that somebody put that tag on that object and we never questioned,
15:08how is that object really so valuable?
15:12And in the field of religion, how is that object sacred?
15:16What is the definition of sacredness?
15:18Kindly convince me that the thing or whatever method or this, that is sacred.
15:25Sacredness is not so cheap.
15:27Sacredness is something that you have to discover in your own heart.
15:32Through your own inquiry, through your own life and then you come to that which can be called as sacred.
15:38It is not that particular place is sacred. That particular stone is sacred.
15:44That particular direction is sacred. Pray facing that direction. What is this?
15:57Am I clarifying or complicating? I am not sure. I never am.
16:01So, can you be aware of that?
16:10You are talking about missing out, fear of missing out. Missing out on what? On something, right?
16:14You already know that something. At least, you have some idea, some if, ask yourself,
16:17How do I know that this thing is worth pursuing? How do I know?
16:20Don't attribute or leave it to common sense.
16:25Well, everybody pursues it, it's commonsensical.
16:27Isn't it obvious?
16:28Everybody goes after it, so this thing must be valuable.
16:32We won't take such answers.
16:35We want honest, independent, individual inquiries.
16:38How do I know that this institution, this action, this belief, this that, this whatever,
16:44this is indeed something I cannot do without?
16:50And in that, facts come handy.
16:59In fact, the emergence of first of all search engines and now AI bots that converse with us,
17:09they are a blessing because you can know the facts.
17:20You can know the facts and when there are facts, then imaginations are dispelled.
17:26Why are we so much against imaginations?
17:29Yeah, because we are suffering.
17:35And to us, at least the suffering is real.
17:38And that which is real, at least for us, cannot be healed with imaginations.
17:45You go to a doctor.
17:46You say, you know, I'm really suffering.
17:48There's a kidney stone.
17:49And he says, imagine there is no stone.
17:54Will that help?
17:56We need to know facts.
17:57We need to know facts.
17:58We need to know facts.
17:59You mean any��una, Satan.
18:01We are suffering for eternity.
18:02You know, hundreds of people will survive.
18:03We have to know facts.
18:04If anything on earth is alive, you have to know facts.
18:10How reestablish magic?