Sometimes I really don't know what to do when my partner keeps explaining about something, that's already clear.
My need to understand her gets crushed by her preconception that I don't know the details yet, so I lose concentration
In this case I was so confused that I didn't want to listen anymore, to the actual story she was about to tell me.
This made her furious.
Trying to discover the source of this anger, I asked her if she might have thought from the beginning, that I wasn't interested in her actual story, rather than the details she kept explaining me about,
resulted into even more discussion without an answer.
After repeating this 2 times more, having the same result,
I didn't feel like listening to any story anymore, and avoided contact for a while.
But how do I enjoy my contact with others if I just lost contact with the person I love the most?
I decided to feel confident that I did enough in order to understand this problem,
so now I should find the patience and confidence that my partner will do her share at the moment she's ready for it.
And she did, finally confirming that she thought from the beginning, that I wasn't interested in her actual story, rather than the details she kept explaining me about.
This made us able to move to the next step, fixing the real problem:
Her tendency to feel rejected any time I don't want to listen to an explanation that is already clear to me.
So now we want to avoid this kind of situations by asking the other about what has been understood of what we just said.
Traveling the world without depending on money, enjoying free pleasures worldwide.
https://fpww.nl
My need to understand her gets crushed by her preconception that I don't know the details yet, so I lose concentration
In this case I was so confused that I didn't want to listen anymore, to the actual story she was about to tell me.
This made her furious.
Trying to discover the source of this anger, I asked her if she might have thought from the beginning, that I wasn't interested in her actual story, rather than the details she kept explaining me about,
resulted into even more discussion without an answer.
After repeating this 2 times more, having the same result,
I didn't feel like listening to any story anymore, and avoided contact for a while.
But how do I enjoy my contact with others if I just lost contact with the person I love the most?
I decided to feel confident that I did enough in order to understand this problem,
so now I should find the patience and confidence that my partner will do her share at the moment she's ready for it.
And she did, finally confirming that she thought from the beginning, that I wasn't interested in her actual story, rather than the details she kept explaining me about.
This made us able to move to the next step, fixing the real problem:
Her tendency to feel rejected any time I don't want to listen to an explanation that is already clear to me.
So now we want to avoid this kind of situations by asking the other about what has been understood of what we just said.
Traveling the world without depending on money, enjoying free pleasures worldwide.
https://fpww.nl
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