For years, psychologists have been trying their best to understand the mystery of love and unpack all the complex processes that govern attraction and romantic relationships. And even after decades of countless studies on why we fall in love, fall out of love, stay in relationships, and crave romantic attachments, there’s still a lot left for us to learn, especially when it comes to the earliest stage of love — having a crush. So, here are 6 Stages of Having a Crush!
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00:02 Hey, Psych2Goers.
00:07 Are you crushing on someone right now?
00:09 Liking someone can be incredibly confusing and frustrating
00:13 because it can either end in love or heartbreak.
00:17 But it's also one of the most fun and exciting things
00:19 you could ever experience.
00:22 So while there is no definitive theory yet
00:24 about how we develop crushes
00:25 and what we go through when we do,
00:28 here at Psych2Go, we've done our best
00:30 to come up with these six stages
00:31 we believe everyone with a crush goes through.
00:34 Stage one, interest.
00:37 So the story begins when you meet someone new
00:39 for the first time and you feel intrigued by them.
00:42 This stage can happen at any given moment.
00:45 Sometimes it can be as quick
00:46 as when you first lay your eyes on them.
00:48 And other times it can take a while before you feel a spark.
00:52 When you develop a crush on someone you've known
00:54 for a long time, like a close friend,
00:56 a lot of people tend to deny
00:58 and debate with their feelings first
01:00 before they can accept them.
01:02 But the moment you do,
01:04 you'll suddenly feel the pull
01:06 of romantic attraction taking a hold of you,
01:08 that there's something special about this person.
01:11 That's when you move onto stage two, curiosity.
01:15 Did you look up your crush's Facebook profile,
01:18 browse through all their posts and tweets,
01:20 and view their Instagram stories?
01:22 Maybe you even added them on one of their handles
01:24 if you were feeling brave enough.
01:26 You did all of this so that you could get a better idea
01:29 about what kind of person they are,
01:31 how much they have in common with you,
01:33 and how compatible you'd be together.
01:35 Once someone catches your eye,
01:37 it's only natural to feel curious about them.
01:39 You wanna get to know them better,
01:41 all their likes and dislikes, their hobbies,
01:43 their dreams, their favorite things.
01:46 Some people do this by simply going up to their crush
01:48 and asking them about it.
01:50 But others feel too flustered and nervous
01:52 to even strike up a casual conversation.
01:54 So that's where social media enters the story,
01:57 like a knight in shining armor.
02:00 Stage three, infatuation.
02:03 Now that you know for sure you have a crush on this person,
02:06 next comes infatuation.
02:08 And for many of us,
02:09 this is the best part about having a crush,
02:11 because when you're infatuated with someone,
02:13 your whole world starts to change.
02:16 Everything seems so much brighter,
02:18 more vibrant and more beautiful to you
02:20 now that you've found someone
02:21 who makes you giddy with excitement
02:23 every time you think about them.
02:25 There's this never ending flurry of butterflies
02:29 fluttering in your stomach,
02:30 and you always feel like you're floating on cloud nine
02:33 with each glance or each word of conversation
02:35 you share with your crush.
02:37 They send you a text message
02:39 and you feel like your whole day is made.
02:41 They make you laugh
02:42 and the memory doesn't leave your mind for days.
02:45 Even the mere mention of their name
02:46 is enough to make you blush and swoon.
02:49 At this stage, everything seems perfect.
02:53 Your crush is everything you ever wanted,
02:56 and you just want this feeling to last forever.
02:59 Then comes stage four, sharing.
03:02 You know you're really starting to get serious feelings
03:05 about someone when you tell your friends about them.
03:08 Of course, sometimes your friends can figure it out
03:10 for themselves when you have a crush.
03:12 But what matters most isn't that your friends already know,
03:16 it's that you wanted to tell them about it regardless.
03:19 You wanna talk to your friends
03:20 about how your crush makes you feel
03:22 and tell them all the things you like about them.
03:24 You want their advice
03:25 about what to reply to your crush's text
03:27 or what to say next time you see them.
03:30 And you ask them what they think your crush meant
03:32 when they told you this or that.
03:34 You want their support and their encouragement,
03:36 but also their honest opinion.
03:38 And it's usually because of your friends
03:40 that you slowly start to realize
03:42 the flaws your crushes have
03:44 or where your relationship with them is going,
03:46 which can end with you either heading to stage five
03:50 or straight to stage six.
03:52 More on that later.
03:53 Stage five, falling in love.
03:57 To like and to love are two very different things.
04:01 But sometimes your crush turns into something more
04:04 and you find yourself falling in love with them.
04:06 At this stage, your feelings for them
04:08 are no longer clouding your judgment about them.
04:11 You've stopped putting them on a pedestal
04:12 and thinking of them as perfect.
04:14 And instead, get to know them well
04:16 and grow closer to them in a way
04:18 that allowed you to see them for who they really are.
04:21 And if you're lucky enough
04:22 that they feel the same way about you too,
04:25 then you're on your way to starting
04:26 a romantic relationship with your crush.
04:29 Congratulations.
04:30 Stage six, falling out of love.
04:34 On the other hand, however,
04:36 you may find yourself falling out of love with your crush
04:38 after having seriously thought everything out
04:40 between the two of you.
04:42 Maybe you realize they aren't as great as you used to think
04:45 and it's made you lose interest in them.
04:47 Or perhaps you feel that there's very little chance
04:50 of them ever liking you back
04:51 or seeing you as more than just a friend.
04:54 Whatever the reason may be,
04:55 it's made you reconsider your feelings
04:57 and snap out of your crush.
04:59 It may take some time before you can accept it.
05:02 And depending on how strongly you once felt about them,
05:05 it can be a painfully devastating thing to go through.
05:08 But once it's all over and you finally moved on,
05:11 you'll thank yourself for ending it
05:13 because deep down inside,
05:15 you knew that this person wasn't right for you
05:17 and that it just wasn't meant to be.
05:19 Oh well, maybe the next one to come along will be better.
05:22 Do you relate to any of the things mentioned here?
05:25 How does having a crush feel like for you?
05:28 Can you identify the stage you're in right now?
05:31 Do let us know in the comments below.
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05:39 and thanks for watching.
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