Zealands 3rd Bday
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00:00 (upbeat music)
00:02 Why are you fixing your hair?
00:07 Guys, Savannah and I are going on an anniversary trip.
00:12 - We haven't done a trip.
00:14 That's more than one night.
00:16 In how long?
00:18 Three year, three and a half years.
00:21 - Guys, it's July 7th. - Four years?
00:23 - 2023.
00:25 We're gonna watch this video back in 20 years
00:27 and you're gonna look really old
00:29 'cause you're gonna be, in 20 years you're gonna be 50.
00:33 - I am gonna be 50 in 20 years, that's crazy.
00:36 - I'm only gonna be 46 and a half.
00:38 - Wow, that's so young.
00:39 - That is young.
00:40 And okay, so we just drove from Tennessee.
00:43 We just crossed the Alabama border
00:45 and we're about to go to Buc-ee's.
00:47 - I have heard so much about Buc-ee's
00:49 and I really wanna go there.
00:50 - Suppose it's like the biggest gas station in the world.
00:53 And we're pulling up to it right now, so here we go.
00:55 Guys, there's literally a line
00:57 to get into this gas station.
00:59 (sighs)
01:00 All right guys, we're filling up gas here in Alabama.
01:02 And again, haven't been to Alabama in a long time
01:04 and you just kinda forget how cheap things can be
01:05 whenever you leave California.
01:07 - Yeah.
01:07 - So gas was--
01:09 - How much was your, well you didn't have a check
01:10 in California, but how much would it be in California
01:12 would you say?
01:13 - To fill up our escalator, it was about 200 bucks.
01:16 It was about $200 for a full tank.
01:18 Now we had a big tank,
01:20 but gas was never less than five bucks in California.
01:23 Never, especially during COVID, it got to be like seven bucks.
01:26 Savannah.
01:29 - Yeah.
01:29 - $58 to fill up the truck.
01:31 - Oh my gosh.
01:33 - $58.
01:33 There we are, the world famous Buc-ee's.
01:37 Yeah, it's more like a Target than a gas station.
01:42 Guys, check this out.
01:43 Holy moly.
01:45 Wowza.
01:49 Wow, how are these, one out of 10?
01:50 They're good?
01:52 Look at that guy chopping that up.
01:54 That guy is chopping that up.
01:57 All right.
01:58 - Cheers.
01:58 - World famous.
01:59 - Would you take a shot for her?
02:00 - Yeah, I'd like a shot.
02:01 - Okay.
02:02 - Is it good?
02:03 Is that it?
02:04 - It's really good.
02:04 - Yeah?
02:05 We did it.
02:06 I got the brisket, Savannah got a turkey sandwich,
02:08 and their chips are so good.
02:11 Okay, so it's actually our first day.
02:12 Today we spent the night at this hotel right here
02:15 that you're about to see.
02:16 It's called The Lodge,
02:18 but now we're staying the two other nights
02:19 at the Watercolor Inn,
02:23 which is kind of a nicer one, so excited for that.
02:25 Oh, we're about to go get some of the yummiest
02:26 cinnamon rolls.
02:27 - The most you've ever seen in your whole life.
02:29 You're gonna freak out when you see it.
02:30 - Food review, now that it's 90% eaten.
02:33 How is it?
02:34 - Great.
02:34 - Great.
02:35 - So good.
02:36 - Guys, this right here, this is where you come.
02:38 There it is.
02:39 Black Bear Bread Co.
02:42 (gentle music)
02:56 ♪ She's just a small town girl raised in the south ♪
03:01 ♪ Heart full of dreams with no one to see ♪
03:06 ♪ What she's all about ♪
03:10 ♪ She's not the one to run around in sheep ♪
03:15 ♪ Gives her love with no one to tell ♪
03:20 ♪ How much she means ♪
03:23 ♪ And she knows ♪
03:26 ♪ Her heart's grow cold ♪
03:29 - I think we can't go back to the room
03:31 without getting our guests up.
03:33 - Where are you guys going, Mama?
03:34 - Oh, hey, honey.
03:36 - I just whipped the vlog camera out.
03:37 - We are taking Posey to her very first concert.
03:42 And it just so happens to be
03:44 what Emily's first concert was, which is?
03:48 - Lady Gaga?
03:49 - No.
03:50 - Katy Perry.
03:51 - No.
03:52 - Nicki Minaj.
03:53 - I'm guessing again.
03:55 - 50 cents.
03:56 - Close, close to 50 cents.
03:58 - Okay.
03:59 - Kidz Bop.
04:00 - Kidz Bop?
04:01 - Yes.
04:01 - Kidz Bop, are you kidding me, guys?
04:03 - Kidz Bop concert.
04:04 - Are we going too?
04:05 - We're going too.
04:06 - I'm scared, I'm scared.
04:08 - You're not scared?
04:09 Why are you scared?
04:10 - Kidz Bop is very scary.
04:12 I'll be here with Zeland at Sunday,
04:14 so we'll have a lot of fun by ourselves.
04:16 But maybe Mom will go to film, document,
04:18 and deliver the night and put it in the vloggy vlog.
04:20 - Yeah, I will, I will.
04:22 - If you haven't noticed,
04:23 we're kind of like transitioning to once a month vlogs
04:26 on this family channel.
04:27 It's just more realistic.
04:29 We're posting more on the Cole and Ed channel weekly,
04:32 so be sure to check that out, right Ed?
04:34 - Yeah.
04:35 - Oh, and guys, tomorrow is Zeland's third birthday.
04:38 So check this out, I just walked out the door,
04:40 and all of his birthday stuff just showed up.
04:43 Check this out.
04:43 All these balloons, dinosaur stuff,
04:46 Savannah's the best mom in the world,
04:47 got him some stuff.
04:49 We're not doing anything too crazy, too big.
04:51 I literally think that we're just going to Chuck E. Cheese.
04:55 He has like one or two friends here,
04:57 so it's just gonna be kind of small, low key,
04:58 but he's turning three,
04:59 so he's just gonna have fun no matter what.
05:02 Also, because we are only posting on this family vlog
05:04 channel like once a month now,
05:06 be sure to keep up with us on our Instagram stories,
05:08 especially Savannah's.
05:09 We are posting a lot more on there,
05:10 just Instagram in general.
05:12 And then again, our Cole and Ed channel,
05:14 if you wanna see more of me and everybody
05:15 doing kind of challenge-based stuff.
05:17 But I am going to show you guys a yard,
05:20 just kind of what our front and backyard
05:21 is looking like right now.
05:22 We're doing a lot of renovating,
05:23 and just trying to make our house super, super fun
05:26 for the kids and all the kids that come up to our house
05:27 to play all the time.
05:28 So we get a lot of questions all the time,
05:30 so I'm gonna show you guys some of the awesome things
05:32 that's going on, and that will happen very shortly.
05:34 So this is our play set.
05:36 It's kind of like in the side yard right here
05:37 to the side of our house.
05:38 And we play on this thing every single day.
05:40 This is so much fun.
05:42 This is from Rough House Play Sets.
05:43 If you guys are interested, be sure to check it out.
05:45 I'll link it down below.
05:47 The kids play on this thing all the time.
05:49 Not right now, because it's literally,
05:51 no exaggeration, 103 degrees outside.
05:54 But guys, isn't that just the cutest play set ever?
05:56 I love the white, love the colors.
05:57 I mean, we've had this thing out here
05:58 for like four or five months since we moved.
06:01 We haven't washed it at all, and it still just looks awesome.
06:03 Right under trees, stuff falling on it,
06:04 stays in great condition.
06:06 It's got a rock wall on the back side, a rope ladder,
06:08 three different swings, two different slides,
06:10 actually three different slides.
06:12 Just got everything going on.
06:13 So then right next to it, we've got this miniature playhouse
06:16 that's more so for like Sunday,
06:17 but just kind of like a little bonus little play thing.
06:20 Obviously much, much smaller than that one.
06:22 And then right down from it is our double trampoline,
06:26 which I probably should clean off,
06:27 'cause there's chairs and bug spray and Barbie dolls,
06:29 and that's real life, which we are on all the time.
06:32 I can't stress this enough, we are outside all the time,
06:35 except for whenever it's 103 degrees,
06:37 which is exceptionally hot for here.
06:39 And back here, we have like a little boy and girl playhouse.
06:42 Right here is actually like a little creek bed
06:44 that kind of flows through our house, which is cool,
06:47 but also so many mosquitoes, so many mosquitoes.
06:50 It is insane.
06:52 We are gonna get a pool here eventually, it just takes time.
06:55 But as you guys can see back there,
06:57 we got some construction going on, right?
06:59 We're getting a tree house,
07:01 an epic, epic, epic tree house put in.
07:04 We'll be sure to show you guys the final product
07:05 whenever it's all done,
07:06 'cause this is gonna be so much fun.
07:09 We got some soccer goals on the other side of the house.
07:11 My other truck, my old truck, I'm selling it.
07:13 If you wanna buy this truck, reach out to me,
07:15 super sick, good deal, selling it, let's go.
07:17 Snap, snap, snap, cute, cute.
07:21 - Kick off, kick off, kick off.
07:23 (gentle music)
07:28 (gentle music)
07:31 - Sunday, good morning.
07:47 Cindy just woke up from her afternoon nap.
07:51 I literally just woke up.
07:52 You say good morning?
07:55 Who's that?
07:58 Who's that?
08:00 Cindy's not used to this,
08:01 'cause we haven't been filming so much.
08:03 You say hi, camera?
08:05 I like that hair, I like that hair.
08:08 What I love about Sunday is that she likes her binky,
08:11 it calms her, but she doesn't freak out
08:13 whenever I take it away.
08:14 So I feel like kids are kinda in between,
08:16 where they either don't like the binky
08:17 or they are obsessed with the binky.
08:19 We've had both.
08:20 Zeal and I don't like it, Posey was obsessed.
08:21 But if and when I gotta take it away,
08:23 she's totally good, she's totally good.
08:26 She only hides it when she naps.
08:28 Cindy, say hi.
08:29 We gotta show them some of your tricks
08:30 our mommy and sissies are at.
08:32 Kids walk.
08:34 Come here, buddy, come here with me.
08:36 - Hi, hi, hi, hi, hi, camera.
08:40 - Say hi, camera.
08:40 - Hi, camera.
08:42 - Zealand, how old are you gonna be tomorrow?
08:44 - Three.
08:45 - Three.
08:46 Zealand, what's your favorite color?
08:47 - Blue.
08:49 - Blue.
08:50 What's your favorite food?
08:51 - Baby chocolate waffles.
08:53 - Baby chocolate waffles.
08:55 Who's your best friend in the whole wide world?
08:57 - Daddy.
08:58 - Daddy.
08:59 Anybody else?
09:00 - Baby Sunday.
09:02 - Baby Sunday.
09:03 Try your best to have fun.
09:04 We just ordered dinner, so dinner's on the way.
09:06 And after dinner, we'll probably watch some kind of movie.
09:09 Dinner's on the way.
09:10 And then it's Zealand's birthday tomorrow.
09:12 Woo-hoo, so excited, we can't wait.
09:15 We're going to Chuck E. Cheese tomorrow, yeah.
09:18 Look at my cute wife.
09:20 Just got back from Kids Mop Up with the kids.
09:23 It's 10 p.m.
09:25 - Mom, I'm just taking,
09:27 cozy.
09:28 - Okay.
09:30 - Um.
09:31 - Good night.
09:32 - Okay.
09:33 - Okay, love you.
09:34 - Who's the birthday boy?
09:39 Who's the birthday boy?
09:42 Wait, wait, whose birthday is it?
09:44 Is it Posey's birthday?
09:45 - No, it's mine.
09:46 - Is it Evelyn's birthday?
09:47 - No, it's my birthday.
09:48 - Wait, whose birthday is it?
09:49 - No, it's Zealand's birthday.
09:50 - Is it your birthday?
09:52 It's Zealand's birthday.
09:54 And you can say, "Happy birthday, Zealand."
09:57 - It is my birthday.
09:59 - It's my birthday.
10:00 - Hey, Zealand, are you ready to see your surprise?
10:05 Are you ready?
10:06 Yeah, okay, here we go.
10:08 Let's go see what it is.
10:10 What's over there?
10:14 - Oh my gosh.
10:15 - Zealand, what's over there?
10:16 What is it?
10:17 - Yeah.
10:20 - You're so shy.
10:24 Zealand, this is all for you.
10:26 - What is it?
10:27 - Whoa, that's actually so cool.
10:33 There's so many cars.
10:35 - Zealand, are you kidding me?
10:37 - Oh my gosh, that's actually so many.
10:39 - Zealand's favorite toy was dinosaurs
10:41 up until like two or three weeks ago.
10:43 Now it's cars.
10:44 He doesn't go anywhere without his cars.
10:47 - Did you see the lights?
10:49 - Hey, Zealand, can I have some donuts?
10:52 - I bet you'll say yes.
10:54 - Sunny is just amazed at all these balloons up here.
10:58 - Oh my gosh, look at that big guy truck.
11:01 - Look at that big guy truck.
11:05 Say that again.
11:06 - Oh my gosh, look at that big guy truck.
11:10 - That big guy truck.
11:12 Oh, Zealand, that is awesome.
11:16 - You're welcome, buddy.
11:19 - I love you, boy.
11:22 - I love you.
11:23 - Yes, the balloons are staying here
11:24 for a little bit, Sunday.
11:25 Isn't that exciting?
11:26 Does Sunday want a balloon?
11:27 Do you want a balloon?
11:28 - Yeah.
11:29 - Yeah, Sunday, I'll get one for you.
11:31 Here.
11:31 Sunday, you want a balloon?
11:35 Oh, that was very nice, Posey.
11:39 - He's done it, that way.
11:46 - Yeah.
11:47 Fly it, fly it, buddy.
11:49 Good job, Posey.
11:50 Where you guys going?
11:53 Go, go, go.
11:54 Whoa.
11:57 Do it, oh, come on, come on.
12:05 See, Sunday, get a ball and do it.
12:06 Here, Sunday.
12:07 Do it, Sunday, do it.
12:10 Do it, do it.
12:11 Yeah.
12:14 Guys, guys, what's about to happen?
12:15 Who's coming?
12:16 Who's coming?
12:17 Who's coming?
12:18 Oh my gosh, are you guys scared or excited?
12:20 - Excited.
12:21 - Excited?
12:22 I am honestly a little scared to get cheese,
12:24 I'm being honest.
12:25 I got pizza sauce in my hand.
12:26 - He made the pizza.
12:28 - Is that the guy who made our pizzas?
12:30 See, I'm scared.
12:31 Cheese, Chuck E. Cheese, Chuck E. Cheese,
12:36 Chuck E. Cheese, Chuck E. Cheese, Chuck E. Cheese.
12:41 No way.
12:42 No way.
12:47 ♪ Happy birthday to you ♪
12:52 ♪ Happy birthday, dear Z-Wayne ♪
12:56 ♪ Happy birthday to you ♪
13:00 - Hey, Z-Wayne, blow the candles out.
13:01 Harder.
13:02 - Harder, harder.
13:03 - Yeah.
13:04 - Two, three, four.
13:08 Okay, hello.
13:11 - Hello.
13:12 - For our monthly catch up and chat.
13:15 So I don't even know what we filmed or vlogged
13:19 or what this video is about because I haven't edited yet.
13:22 So I will randomly, not much,
13:24 not as much as I should, pull the camera out.
13:26 And unfortunately, I also noticed
13:27 that our camera is flickering.
13:29 You see that?
13:30 So our camera is probably on its last leg.
13:33 So we will get a new camera for next month's vlog
13:36 that is not flickering.
13:37 But I say this in every video,
13:39 we are posting weekly on the Colin F channel.
13:41 So if you miss the rest of the fam,
13:45 sorry, you're gonna see him once a month here,
13:46 or on Savannah's Instagram story.
13:47 - Yes.
13:48 - But we are posting a lot more on the Colin F channel.
13:49 So we'll link that below.
13:50 Be sure to check it out if you haven't.
13:52 - Those videos are awesome.
13:53 A lot of fun.
13:54 - But we are going to just do a catch up
13:56 and kind of like a little Q and A.
13:58 What life's been like recently,
13:59 just questions that you guys ask us.
14:01 So just kind of chat with you guys
14:02 because obviously if we're only doing this once a month,
14:04 then here we are.
14:05 And wanna answer some questions.
14:06 So I think I must have posted something like,
14:09 give me like serious questions.
14:11 - Oh, okay.
14:12 - Or maybe I only screen chart serious ones.
14:14 'Cause these aren't as lighthearted.
14:15 I feel like a lot of the times
14:16 it's more lighthearted questions.
14:18 A lot of those that I screen charted are like,
14:20 pretty real.
14:21 We were gonna have Posie in this with us.
14:24 'Cause she's staying up late.
14:25 She's not gonna sleep in our bed with us tonight.
14:27 But we're like, Posie, maybe just like,
14:29 go play in our bed while we answer these questions.
14:31 'Cause some of them are a little more just adultish.
14:34 So not inappropriate, just kind of setting the tone here.
14:37 - Yeah.
14:38 - If you're like a young kid, eh, might be boring.
14:40 If you're like, teening up,
14:42 then maybe this is gonna be more interesting for you.
14:44 All right, here we go.
14:44 Baby number three.
14:45 (laughing)
14:49 - We've already had baby number four.
14:52 (laughing)
14:53 So confused by that.
14:54 - I'm all right, I said baby number three.
14:56 - Baby number three.
14:57 - Being a Christian in today's world.
14:59 - Mm.
15:00 - From Kaya.
15:01 - Yeah.
15:02 - I don't wanna say the number one thing,
15:03 but maybe the number one thing that we get
15:05 whenever people come up to us and recognize us is,
15:06 hey, we love that you guys are outspoken about your faith.
15:10 And it's usually like a mom, like a parent.
15:11 - The first thing I think I was gonna say is like,
15:13 I don't feel like we, like everybody knows,
15:16 if they know us, they know we're Christians.
15:18 I feel like we've kind of, we've never really hid that.
15:22 It's very, if you know us, you know we're Christians.
15:25 - Yeah.
15:26 - So, which is a good thing.
15:28 - Yeah.
15:29 - Which I love.
15:30 But also we're not perfect and we should be doing it more.
15:34 - Yeah.
15:35 - I don't nearly share as much about my faith.
15:38 You share a good bit about your faith,
15:39 also should we do.
15:40 - Being a Christian in today's world,
15:42 specifically today's world,
15:43 I think maybe it is getting harder to be a Christian,
15:45 which is almost a good thing.
15:47 Because the Bible calls us not to be lukewarm.
15:49 So I think that maybe prior to even like 10 years ago,
15:52 it was easier to just be like, hey, everyone's a Christian.
15:54 Hey, yeah, I believe in God, sure, I'm Christian.
15:56 You know what I mean?
15:57 In fact, everyone threw that term around lightly.
15:58 But now it's almost like a little more serious.
16:01 - Yeah.
16:02 - Like if you're a Christian, then like,
16:02 walk the walk, talk the talk.
16:04 - Yeah.
16:04 - That's what you believe, you know?
16:06 - Don't be afraid to offend other people.
16:09 - Yeah.
16:10 - Because of it.
16:11 - Yeah, and that's like your intentions,
16:12 but I am sticking to like what the Bible says.
16:14 Kind of like that is, you know,
16:16 the Bible is either 100% truth or 100% not true.
16:19 You know, there's not like,
16:20 it's not like Jesus is like kind of God.
16:22 He's either fully God or he's fully not.
16:24 So like, you just gotta find what you believe.
16:26 And for us and our family, that's what we believe.
16:27 And that's how we are going to raise our kids.
16:30 In fact, most people watching that know that,
16:32 and at this point support that.
16:34 And if you don't, that's okay too.
16:35 You know, we're not saying like,
16:36 that's what you have to believe.
16:37 That's what we believe,
16:37 and that's what we will raise our kids
16:39 to hopefully believe.
16:40 Tangent here, getting way too long.
16:41 We believe that Jesus is like the only answer,
16:43 that Jesus is the only way to heaven,
16:45 'cause that's what the Bible says.
16:46 That's what Jesus said.
16:47 So if we didn't raise our kids to believe that,
16:51 then either we didn't believe it ourselves,
16:53 or we would be doing them the greatest disservice
16:56 that we could ever do as parents.
16:57 - Yeah.
16:58 - So because we love our kids so much and love you guys,
17:00 that's what we're gonna tell you that we believe.
17:02 - Yeah.
17:03 - So.
17:04 - Yeah.
17:05 - That was question number one.
17:06 All right.
17:07 Cancel culture.
17:09 Courtney, Kateway?
17:12 Katewa?
17:13 - Just like talk about it?
17:14 - Yeah, I don't know.
17:15 It was kinda like, I just screenshotted it, you know?
17:17 - Yeah, I think it's so awful.
17:17 - It's like, first thing that comes to your head,
17:19 just in general.
17:20 - I think as Christians too,
17:21 you should never just cancel someone.
17:22 You know, you're there to like,
17:25 if someone does something wrong,
17:26 I'm not gonna be like, hey, I don't like you, you're out.
17:28 I'm gonna go talk to them about it.
17:30 - Yeah. - You know?
17:31 - Yeah, it's just toxic.
17:32 It's just not okay.
17:33 - Yeah, I think that we all make mistakes.
17:35 Every single human on earth makes mistakes.
17:36 Obviously, there's gonna be people
17:37 who make recurring mistakes.
17:39 - Yeah. - And maybe certain people
17:40 you can distance yourself from.
17:41 - Yeah, totally.
17:42 - But as far as like, cancel culture.
17:44 - But to go out of your way to literally cancel someone
17:46 is like, so beyond me.
17:47 - Yeah.
17:48 - I just think it's so rude and sad.
17:49 - Yeah, yeah, what we have found
17:51 is that people who are canceling,
17:53 people who are constantly canceling others,
17:55 they had nothing good to do with their life.
17:57 And I find that in my own life.
17:58 If I have, you know, if there's ever moments in my life
18:00 where I see myself pointing the finger,
18:02 I'm like, whoa. - Yeah.
18:03 - I'm not doing enough good in my life.
18:04 - Yeah. - You know, if I start
18:05 like pointing at other people's flaws,
18:08 it's because I'm not doing good stuff.
18:09 And whenever I am like, satisfied doing good things
18:11 for others or good things for my family, my marriage,
18:13 whatever it is, - Yeah.
18:14 - I'm so much less likely to like, cancel.
18:17 - Just be nice to people.
18:18 - Be nice.
18:19 Opinions on divorce. - Oh.
18:21 - From Rachel Ramos.
18:23 I mean. - Yeah, that's tricky.
18:25 - I mean, both of our parents are divorced.
18:27 - Mm-hmm.
18:28 Yeah. - So.
18:29 - I mean, opinions. - Yeah.
18:32 - I think, this is maybe getting way too Christian
18:35 or Bible study, but again, it just goes back to like,
18:38 what our faith is, is that, you know,
18:40 and I think that even people who aren't of our faith
18:42 can agree that divorce isn't a good thing.
18:44 - Yeah. - You know,
18:44 I think that it's very situational.
18:47 - Yeah.
18:48 - I would never tell somebody who's like,
18:49 in an abusive marriage to like, - Totally.
18:51 - Like, not get out.
18:53 So I think surround yourself with a good community
18:56 and take care of yourself, protect yourself.
18:58 But I think in a perfect world,
19:00 you fall in love with somebody who loves you tremendously
19:04 and you guys work together and marriage is very hard.
19:07 But in a perfect world where there's no abuse,
19:10 there's no cheating or there's obviously sin and bad things.
19:15 I mean, our marriage is far from perfect.
19:17 But in a perfect world, you work things out.
19:19 You know?
19:20 But we live in an imperfect world
19:23 where there is cheating and abuse and--
19:25 - And we also haven't been married a crazy amount.
19:28 So I feel like we're still going through,
19:31 even though you're not supposed to be,
19:32 I feel like we're still in that kind of good phase where--
19:35 - Our perspective hasn't changed so much.
19:37 - It could change and we could have, you know.
19:38 - But words to my self who's been married 20 or 30 years
19:43 and maybe I don't feel the same way about my wife.
19:46 - Yeah.
19:47 - Please choose Savannah even in less than fortunate--
19:51 - Ditto.
19:52 - In less than loving circumstances.
19:54 Easier to say now.
19:56 Because we love each other.
19:58 - We do.
19:58 - How does your marriage change after kids?
20:02 - Well, that's interesting because we never had a marriage.
20:06 - Before kids.
20:07 - So I don't know.
20:09 I think I've talked about this one before actually though,
20:11 is like, I feel like we kind of got like a little bonus
20:13 there because I feel like a lot of fighting happens
20:17 after you start having kids and you're married
20:18 because you were just, you two for so long
20:20 and then something, someone else comes along
20:21 and you both have totally different opinions
20:23 on what to do, how to parent.
20:25 So you just start butting heads all the time.
20:26 - Yeah.
20:27 - So I feel like for us, we had,
20:29 we just had it a little bit easier
20:32 and we figured that out even before we got married.
20:35 We figured that out while we were dating, yeah.
20:37 So--
20:37 - It might be harder for us whenever we got kids.
20:40 - One of us probably wouldn't have been so in love
20:43 or gotten married if we had did things totally differently,
20:47 parenting wise.
20:48 - For sure.
20:49 - But we both saw pretty much eye to eye on a lot of things.
20:52 - Discipline's huge.
20:52 - And that just kind of helped.
20:54 We're like, okay, this is serious.
20:56 As silly as it sounds, how Savannah healthily disciplined
21:01 three-year-old Everly who was pretty energetic
21:04 and a lot of times, Savannah did a good job
21:09 and I was like, that is a very attractive thing.
21:12 I saw, I'm like, wow, that's something
21:14 that I'm very fortunate that I get to see you do
21:15 before we even get married
21:16 'cause you can fall in love with somebody
21:17 but have no idea how they're gonna parent.
21:19 - Yeah, so I feel like we kind of got--
21:20 - But I would say that 90 to 99% of our arguments,
21:23 fights, disagreements are--
21:25 - Kid-based, yeah.
21:25 - 99% for sure.
21:27 And every one of our friends who have kids as well.
21:30 So, I mean, I would argue that everything
21:33 changes after kids.
21:35 Hopefully for the better.
21:36 - I would say if you're not married yet,
21:40 I would start talking about kids and goals
21:43 and how you're gonna raise them,
21:45 those kind of things before you even get married
21:46 to just--
21:48 - Yeah, and again, I could still be in the wrong here
21:50 because I don't know a relationship
21:52 or a marriage before kids
21:53 but I do know that because our marriage
21:56 and every other marriage that we're in a community with,
21:59 the fights, the arguments, the disagreements
22:01 are kid-related.
22:02 Try to figure out as much as you can out
22:05 and get along as best you can before kids
22:07 because if you're bickering and fighting
22:08 and disagreeing and all that without kids,
22:11 it's like with kids,
22:12 it's just gonna be like fuel to the fire, you know?
22:15 Your parenting style, so it kind of goes a little back
22:19 but someone's kind of wondering our parenting style.
22:21 How would you describe our parenting style?
22:22 - We follow through with discipline.
22:24 (laughs)
22:25 - Yeah.
22:25 - I feel like we have really good listeners.
22:27 We have good kids.
22:28 So I don't know, I feel like we love them tremendously
22:31 and we're always telling them,
22:33 "We're so proud of you.
22:34 "We love you so much."
22:35 We're always telling them the good things
22:36 that they're always doing all day
22:37 but then when they don't do a good thing,
22:39 I'm not gonna be like, "Hey, you do that again."
22:41 And six times later, I'm still saying,
22:42 "Hey, if you do that again."
22:44 So we're just good at following through
22:47 with, "Hey, if you do that again, this is gonna happen."
22:49 And we actually follow through with it.
22:51 So I feel like that's big 'cause the kids trust you.
22:55 So if they know mom's not gonna follow through
22:57 with the punishment, it's not gonna keep doing it.
22:59 - Yeah.
23:00 And we both have our flaws.
23:01 We both have things, especially 'cause we say like,
23:04 "Man, I didn't do that."
23:05 - Well, kids are kids.
23:06 All kids do that.
23:07 - Yeah, kids are always into bad things.
23:08 - No matter how good of a kid you have,
23:09 they're still gonna do it.
23:10 - I feel like I, you guys might get tired of us saying it
23:12 but I feel like I always gotta say it
23:13 'cause otherwise people would have been mad at me.
23:14 But we're imperfect.
23:15 Our kids are imperfect.
23:16 But I do feel like disciplining your kids well
23:19 and lovingly.
23:20 It's not like we're just being mean.
23:23 - After the time out or after whatever discipline,
23:26 how do I say that?
23:27 Discipline.
23:28 - Disciplinary action.
23:29 - Yeah.
23:30 After whatever disciplinary action that happens,
23:34 we're always about talking them after very sweet
23:37 and calming and telling them, "I love you so much."
23:39 Giving hugs.
23:40 So it always ends well.
23:42 - Yeah, I would say just like a fine balance of love
23:46 and fun and enjoyment and also discipline.
23:51 And these are rules on how we're gonna behave.
23:55 Especially just having four kids,
23:56 we just can't have chaos.
23:57 - Yeah.
23:58 - You know?
23:59 But sometimes we do.
24:00 Sometimes it is just utter chaos and that's okay.
24:03 Okay, we're gonna wrap this up
24:04 because Posy is waiting for us to go and snuggle her
24:08 because we like to take special nights for all of our kids.
24:11 They all kinda have their own special moments
24:12 but tonight's Posy's.
24:13 Okay, well that's a wrap.
24:16 We are going on a family vacation tomorrow for seven days.
24:20 - I know, so we're gonna have to film some of it
24:21 because--
24:22 - We'll probably film a little bit of it.
24:23 - We're gonna have a lot of fun.
24:24 And then maybe the next video that we do
24:25 could be the girls' first day of school
24:27 because Posy is gonna go to school.
24:29 - It breaks my heart.
24:31 - He's so sad.
24:32 - It breaks my heart.
24:32 - But I homeschool.
24:34 I know, I get that question a lot.
24:35 Like, "Wait, you said they're going to school
24:36 "but you said you homeschool."
24:38 I homeschool but--
24:38 - It's cool.
24:39 - They go twice a week to school.
24:41 It's like a program where we do it like that.
24:44 - Okay, that's a wrap.
24:45 Okay guys, we'll see you next month.
24:48 Maybe sooner.
24:49 - Maybe sooner.
24:50 - Peace out.
24:51 - Peace out.