Credit: SWNS / Hadley Vlahos
An end-of-life carer has shared their patients' biggest regrets - including not doing things for themselves and waiting for the "perfect time".
Hadley Vlahos, 30, has worked as an at home end-of-life carer for eight years and opened up about the "deathbed regrets" patients have disclosed.
Hadley claims one patient told her "you can't take it with you when you go" - referencing material objects, while another said "stop waiting for that perfect time, start now".
An end-of-life carer has shared their patients' biggest regrets - including not doing things for themselves and waiting for the "perfect time".
Hadley Vlahos, 30, has worked as an at home end-of-life carer for eight years and opened up about the "deathbed regrets" patients have disclosed.
Hadley claims one patient told her "you can't take it with you when you go" - referencing material objects, while another said "stop waiting for that perfect time, start now".
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00:00 at the bedside of hundreds of people before they die. I'm the happiest person I know.
00:03 Here's the top three things they taught me not to do. Don't chase material things. Chase happy
00:08 memories. They wish they would have spent more time with family. Not pursuing a task because of
00:11 the amount of time it would take to complete it. But someone once told me that they wish they would
00:14 have understood that the time passes anyway. So at the beginning of a task, five to ten years might
00:18 seem like a long time, but five to ten years is going to pass regardless and you can either have
00:23 accomplished the dream or not. I remember one lady saying, "I didn't do what I wanted to do
00:27 because I was so afraid of what Betty down the street thought of me." And you know what? Betty
00:31 down the street's dead. She can't think anything and I didn't get to do what I wanted to do.
00:35 So she wishes she wouldn't have let her pride and ego make decisions for her.
00:38 I can't get past what this patient shared with me because I'm always so intrigued when patients
00:50 share with me their regrets before they die, but this one just has me thinking so much. So while
00:55 on the topic of regrets, he told me this, "If I hadn't been busted for weed at 20 and lost my job,
01:01 I would have never been in a store on a weekday, which is where I met my wife. And if I hadn't
01:06 have spilled coffee on myself that one day, which caused me to have to turn around, I would have
01:10 never seen that little dog on the side of the road that became my reason for living when my wife died.
01:16 And there's a million other little things that I was stressed over at the time and every single
01:20 one of those things led me to where I am today. And I led a pretty good life. So I have no regrets."
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