AMANDA DiMeo from Pennsylvania has a hard time dating as an exotic dancer. “Men judge me immediately and don't take me seriously, they sexualise me and just want to hook up." Amanda tells Truly that men feel insecure and assume she is a 'cheater' because she dances for men at work. Will her blind date be able to accept her job without judging her? Will sparks fly with musician, Vann?
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00:00 I work at a nightclub as an adult performer.
00:03 I started dancing in nightclubs when I was 20 years old.
00:06 I see dancing as just a job.
00:09 What I love about my job is I'm my own boss.
00:11 I do believe that men have a harder time trusting me
00:15 because of my job.
00:16 They just assume that exotic dancers aren't faithful.
00:18 They assume that we aren't loyal
00:21 and that we are easy to get with,
00:22 which is not the case at all.
00:23 So what I am looking for in a potential partner
00:26 is just someone who can accept me for who I am
00:29 and not look at me for what I do.
00:31 Hi.
00:34 - Hi.
00:35 What do you do for work?
00:35 - I work at a nightclub as an exotic dancer.
00:39 - Okay.
00:41 That's your (beep)
00:45 - I wanted to be a little conservative for this date,
00:48 so I just wore like a nice, classy brown dress
00:51 to match my nails so that he knows
00:53 that I'm color coordinated.
00:55 My name is Amanda.
00:56 I'm 27 years old.
00:57 This is my first blind date.
00:59 I've never been on one before.
01:01 I work at a nightclub as an adult performer.
01:03 I started dancing in nightclubs when I was 20 years old,
01:07 so about seven and a half years now.
01:10 I see dancing as just a job.
01:12 I did grow a big following on social media because of that,
01:14 so I guess it kind of became a lifestyle,
01:16 but personally, I see it as just a job.
01:18 Hey guys.
01:21 So I am about to have my first blind date.
01:24 I'll keep you guys updated.
01:25 He hasn't arrived yet, but he'll be here soon.
01:28 - My name is Vam.
01:30 I'm 27 years old, and I live in Baltimore, Maryland,
01:33 and what I do for a living
01:35 is I am a professional music artist.
01:37 I'm looking for someone I can call my wife,
01:41 someone who wants to travel the world,
01:44 someone who I can just look into her eyes
01:47 and say, you know, this next song I wrote is about you.
01:52 (phone ringing)
01:55 - Hi.
01:57 - Hi.
01:58 - How are you?
01:59 - Good.
02:00 Hi.
02:01 - My name is Amanda.
02:02 - I'm Vam.
02:02 Nice to meet you.
02:03 - Nice to meet you.
02:04 Where are you from?
02:06 - I'm from Puerto Rico, but I'm in Baltimore right now.
02:08 - So you're like full Puerto Rican?
02:10 - Yeah, I was born there, born in the island.
02:13 Moved out when I was 11.
02:14 - So you speak Spanish?
02:15 - Claro que si.
02:16 Y tú?
02:17 - Un poquito.
02:17 - Un poquito?
02:18 Okay, okay, that's cool, that's cool.
02:21 - Have you ever been?
02:22 - To Puerto Rico?
02:23 Yeah, I literally go every month.
02:25 - Really?
02:26 - Yeah.
02:26 In May I went to Puerto Rico 'cause I love Bad Bunny
02:28 and I just like love the Latin culture.
02:32 So I was like, oh, Puerto Rico's perfect.
02:34 So I went there in May and then I went again in June
02:36 and then July and then August.
02:37 And here we are, September.
02:39 (speaking in foreign language)
02:43 You said, "Te gusta eso."
02:46 - Yes, yeah, yeah.
02:48 - But yeah, so I only date to Danish guys.
02:50 (phone ringing)
02:51 Oh, wow.
02:52 - Specifically Puerto Ricans, right?
02:53 (speaking in foreign language)
02:56 They picked the right one for you.
02:57 So we have a few things in common.
02:59 We both love Puerto Rico.
03:00 That's literally up here, you're up here on my list.
03:04 I'm like, it's great.
03:05 I make music.
03:06 - Oh, okay, nice, nice.
03:07 - Yeah, that's what I do for my life.
03:10 - Producer or like singer?
03:11 - Producer, singer, rapper.
03:13 - Gotcha.
03:14 I'm sure everyone says this, but give me a sample.
03:19 - All right, you want English or Spanish?
03:20 - I'll give you--
03:21 - Spanish, 'cause that's sexy.
03:23 - All right.
03:23 (singing in foreign language)
03:27 - That was good.
03:39 - Yeah, it's a little thing I got.
03:41 - That was cute. - Unreleased, you know.
03:41 I would love for you to hear it one day.
03:43 - I can do that.
03:44 - And maybe I could play guitar for you and stuff.
03:46 - Oh, you play instruments too?
03:48 - I play guitar, yeah.
03:49 - Excuse me real quick.
03:50 I just have to use the bathroom.
03:51 - Take your time.
03:54 - The date is going really good so far.
03:56 He's really sweet and attentive,
03:59 and I love that he speaks Spanish.
04:01 I am attracted to my blind date,
04:03 which is surprising because I am super picky with guys,
04:08 but he's so cute, he's handsome, he's my age,
04:11 and I just love everything so far.
04:13 Back from the bathroom.
04:15 - Okay, good.
04:16 Just making sure the chair was good for you.
04:18 - Oh, thank you.
04:20 - Thank you. - Thank you so much.
04:21 Salud.
04:22 - Cheers.
04:23 - Salud to you.
04:24 Arriba. - Arriba.
04:24 - Pavajo. - Pavajo.
04:26 - Paracentro. - Paracentro.
04:27 - Adentro. - Adentro.
04:29 - Wow.
04:31 Are you lactose intolerant?
04:35 - No. - Okay.
04:36 So you like milk?
04:38 - No, I don't drink milk.
04:39 - Okay.
04:40 - Me and my daughter, we do soy milk.
04:42 - You have a daughter?
04:44 - Oh, yeah.
04:45 I face troubles dating now
04:47 because one, I'm a single mother,
04:49 so a lot of men already judge me for that
04:53 or they back away because a lot of single men
04:55 are scared to date a single mother
04:57 'cause they're always afraid
04:58 that we're gonna get back with our baby fathers.
05:00 - Okay, that's awesome.
05:01 - Yes.
05:02 - How old is your daughter?
05:03 - She's two and a half.
05:04 She'll be three in December, just like me.
05:06 Our birthdays are four days apart.
05:10 Do you have any kids?
05:11 - Mm-mm.
05:11 No, I don't.
05:13 I'm a family man.
05:14 I love family.
05:16 - Oh, really?
05:17 - I'm like that, too.
05:18 Family first.
05:19 I take my family on two trips a year.
05:21 - That makes me happy to hear you have a daughter
05:23 and you're taking care of her
05:25 and you're taking her out to see the world and stuff.
05:27 That's beautiful.
05:28 - Yes, exploring.
05:28 - Makes me happy to hear from you.
05:29 - Like you said, you paid attention.
05:30 I love to explore the world.
05:32 That's why we're here, you know?
05:34 We have to enjoy our life while we're here.
05:35 - What do you do for work?
05:37 - I usually bring up my job right away
05:40 when I am going on a date with someone
05:42 just because I like to get it out of the way,
05:44 but sometimes, I guess, it's not a good idea
05:47 because then they immediately judge me
05:48 and they just think that I'll just be like
05:49 a quick, easy hookup.
05:51 I work at a nightclub as an exotic dancer.
05:55 I do believe that men have a harder time trusting me
06:01 because of my job, just because of the stigma
06:03 that comes with dancing.
06:05 And the media portrays us exotic dancers
06:09 to be very bad individuals that lie, steal, cheat.
06:13 So everybody has this biased opinion on dancers already
06:18 before they even get to know me.
06:20 I was just gonna dance to pay off college,
06:23 which I did graduate college debt-free,
06:26 but then I realized how much money I could--
06:27 - Good stuff.
06:28 - Huh?
06:29 - Good stuff.
06:30 - Thank you.
06:31 But I graduated college and then I saw
06:33 the potential I could make in the industry,
06:35 so I just kept dancing.
06:37 And I just bought my first house in June.
06:39 - Straight off the bat, yeah.
06:41 - Yeah.
06:43 That's what I'm talking about.
06:44 That's dope, that's dope.
06:47 - It's a really beautiful house.
06:48 Maybe you can see it one day.
06:50 - I ain't, listen, I'm for it.
06:52 And I ain't hating either.
06:53 Whoever hates on a woman getting her bread like that,
06:56 especially on the exotic dancer vibes,
06:59 they're just, they're just wussies.
07:02 - What are your opinions on being a father
07:05 or being a stepfather?
07:07 What?
07:11 - Becoming a stepfather means you have to be able
07:12 to love the woman enough to love the children.
07:17 And if I love you enough to love your child,
07:19 then the answer is gonna answer itself.
07:21 You know what I mean?
07:22 - That's good, that's your shit.
07:24 - Yeah, yeah, yeah.
07:25 - Salud.
07:26 - Salud, Adi.
07:27 Well, Amanda, I had a great time with you.
07:30 - I had a great time with you too.
07:32 - You're very gorgeous, like I said.
07:34 I'm glad I got to know you today.
07:35 Just definitely gonna--
07:36 - Thank you.
07:37 - I'm definitely gonna reach out.
07:40 A thousand percent.
07:42 It was nice meeting you.
07:43 - I feel like it went great.
07:47 How do you feel about it?
07:48 - I think it went great.
07:50 We definitely have chemistry together
07:52 and the conversations were just flowing.
07:55 This dating experience just taught me
07:57 to never immediately turn anything down.
08:01 I've been offered to go on blind dates in the past
08:04 with my friends' friends and I've always turned them down
08:07 because they're like,
08:08 "No, I never really got to know the person
08:10 "before I met them.
08:11 "I don't want it to be awkward."
08:12 But honestly, this experience was great
08:15 and I really do wanna see my blind date again.
08:17 So in the future,
08:19 I'm definitely gonna be more open-minded.
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