I'm Trans - And This Is My First Date As A Woman | LOVE DON'T JUDGE
Jessica Alves is back and ready to go on her first blind date as a woman. Transgender woman Jessica has been living as a woman for 3 years and has found dating really difficult. Her previous dates have been really awkward because men didn't want to be seen with her in public and preferred to be hidden away in the corner at restaurants. Jessica hopes to meet a man who will accept her for who she is. Will her date Shojon live up to that expectation? Will the two hit it off?
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00:00This is Jessica. Today she's going on her first blind date as a woman.
00:07It's been three years that I have been living life full time as a woman and life never felt so good.
00:16I'm feeling very nervous. I come across as being a very confident woman.
00:21I'm actually like shaky and shivering.
00:24Hello. Nice to meet you. Nice to meet you too.
00:29How should I? No, it's fine, Jessica. I have a hairdresser appointment.
00:34Okay, Jessica. Time is up.
00:38I am very excited because today I'm going on a blind date.
00:44Hi, I'm Jessica. It's been three years that I have been living life full time as a woman and life never felt so good.
00:54To me, it's just organic being a woman. My mum, my family, my sister, they say the same.
01:01My mum watches me getting ready. She says, you are meant to be a woman.
01:08I just hope that he's going to like me and that I'm going to like him too.
01:14Hi, I go by the name of Show John. I'm an all-round creative based in Hertfordshire.
01:19I haven't been informed too much about my date thus far, but I'm excited.
01:26Hello. Nice to meet you. Nice to meet you too.
01:29What's your name? I'm Show John. And you? I'm Jessica. Nice to meet you.
01:35So, Jessica, where are you from? Well, I'm originally from Brazil.
01:40Okay. But for the past 22 years, I've lived in London.
01:45It's nice to meet you. And what do you do? I'm an all-round creative actor, model, musician.
01:51Oh, cool. What about you? I do some modelling as well.
01:55I am a fashion brand ambassador to a quite large American brand.
02:02I'm 39 years old and I'm single. Throughout the years, I lived my life quite intensely.
02:11I travelled, I worked hard and I kept having surgeries.
02:17And I forgot to look after and take care of my personal life, to love someone rather than yourself.
02:27It is also very important, but I forgot about that personal side throughout the years.
02:34I don't go on dates very often.
02:36Luckily for you, you're with an experienced blind dater, so I hope you feel comfortable.
02:42Yeah, I think that I need a drink. Oh, we shall get the drinks in.
02:47I had a four-year relationship. It was an amazing experience, but it ended, we just grew apart.
02:53I wasn't what the person was expecting me to be.
02:56I kept changing year by year, month by month, having surgeries, coming back home with a different face.
03:04And it was hard for that person to cope with my changes.
03:09So it had to end, but now I'm back on the game.
03:14Thank you very much.
03:16So, Jessica, do tell me where you see your career going. Where are you going to swing the Jessica brand to?
03:25Listen, my ambition is a little bit different than yours.
03:29And at the age that I am right now, as a woman, I really want to have a family.
03:35I have a lot of love to give.
03:37I can tell, I can tell.
03:39Oh, here's the food.
03:41Do you eat red meat?
03:43I'm not at this time.
03:45What's the time now?
03:47No, no, I mean at this time when I'm working on my diet, my nutrients.
03:52My first impression was that I was meeting a nice, fun guy.
03:59And no, he's still nice, but he's just not fun.
04:03And he just keeps trying to impress me.
04:06Dating is my true self.
04:09It is not fun.
04:13I keep trying to hold myself back a bit and not disclose too much.
04:19Afraid that that will put the person off me.
04:22I don't know if he realizes that I'm a trans woman.
04:28Let's take it back a bit, because I'm really intrigued about your time in Brazil.
04:33What was it like?
04:35In Granada, it was really tough.
04:38I have always been different than other kids at school.
04:45And for that reason, I was bullied.
04:49Physically bullied, only verbally bullied.
04:52So, did you grow up in Granada itself?
04:57Yes, I'm a mental health advocate as well.
05:01So, it's one of the things that I'm known for within the Greenwich community.
05:05I put on fundraisers. I also have my own chocolate bar.
05:08I should have brought someone along to share with you.
05:10I love chocolate.
05:12Me too, me too.
05:14I do say sometimes, usually when I'm on stage, I'm the only chocolate rapper with a chocolate wrapper.
05:20Yeah.
05:22Clearly, this is a blank day.
05:25And I have been trying to get to know you.
05:28And there is a lot that you should know about me, which you don't know even half.
05:34On my social network, on my Instagram, I have nearly 7 million followers.
05:39That's like the size of a country, pretty much.
05:43I've done more than 600 television shows in 24 countries.
05:48Like I said, I'm 39 years old and I'm genuinely looking for a relationship and connection.
05:54To have a family.
05:57I mean, Jessica, I feel like you may have misunderstood me just a little piece.
06:02I just didn't try to get to know me.
06:05But I'm actually a transgender woman.
06:08And how do you feel about dating a transgender woman?
06:12I generally see a person for who they are.
06:15I don't see gender.
06:18Do you know many transgender boys have been transgender before?
06:22Did you have a relationship with one of them?
06:25But okay. And what was it like?
06:28Beautiful as many of my relationships are.
06:32You're not afraid to be judged by society?
06:35I don't care about anyone else's judgment.
06:39Well, that is you.
06:41But most of the time, they feel afraid to be in a relationship with a transgender woman.
06:45I'm afraid of being judged by family, friends, society.
06:50And a lot of them just want to have a hidden relationship.
06:53And close doors.
06:55Those men do not understand love.
06:58I am pretty sure I know or understand love.
07:02But love happens once it starts to get to know the person.
07:07Should we go?
07:09I have a hairdresser appointment.
07:12The puns.
07:14Jessica, I asked about your upbringing.
07:16And I really wanted to know about Brazil.
07:18I told you already.
07:20There's no going back now.
07:22Okay, Jessica.
07:24You know what?
07:26It's been lovely to meet you.
07:28And I really wish you all the best.
07:31Take care.
07:34Unfortunately, the date didn't go down very well.
07:37Shanzhou and I didn't have any chemistry whatsoever.
07:42Well, I believe it started off well.
07:45What did you like about Jessica?
07:47She is strong, beautiful.
07:50And when she is not having a good time, why does she let someone know?
07:55Jessica, not every man is the same.
07:59I wasn't interested in your fame.
08:02Or just your looks, which you're stunning.
08:04I'm looking for a relationship.
08:06I'm looking to get to know someone who's going to take me out and have fun with me.
08:12Hold my hand.
08:14Not for my celebrity status, but for who I am as a person.
08:19I'm still looking for love.